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									Dads and Children
Research shows that when father‟s can help a child to feel secure, competent and lovable, it can help
children develop:
      Better friendships
      Fewer behaviour problems.
      Better education outcomes
      Capacity for empathy
      Higher self-esteem and life-satisfaction

So what do children need from their father? And what difference can the church make in helping
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father‟s achieve this?

         „‟Fathers generally appreciate groups which are designed specifically for men. These are
        often services for fathers with their children, but may also include services where they can
        meet other dads, engage in activities together, and talk about their lives as fathers. Many
        fathers do not feel they are expert parents and an all-male environment can enable them to
        feel more confident about interacting with their child and seeking advice‟.
                                                               Every Parent Matters – Government 2007

So what is the church doing to help men feel confident in who they are and their role as fathers?

I think the church has a real opportunity to creatively connect with families by providing spaces for
Dad‟s to come with their children. These will almost certainly attract men that would not otherwise
engage with any established church. We can serve our communities and be Good News at the same
time.

Churches are rediscovering that there are opportunities to engage with men. The surprise is that men
aren‟t as closed to spiritual things as we may have assumed. But what we need to discover as
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churches is an approach that works for them and us



Five key needs
Research shows there are five key needs when it comes to being a Dad. I wonder which ones your
church is best able to meet?

           Child-related: because many dads need and want opportunities and encouragement to
            care directly for their children
           Therapeutic: because some fathers need help with partnering and parenthood
           Social: because relatively few fathers have personal support networks as parents.
           Recreational: because some fathers feel isolated, stressed or depressed
        
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            Educational: because many fathers lack basic information about children and parenting.

As more and more men are caring for small children during the daytime (whether these are shift-
working dads or retired granddads) it‟s important that we encourage and welcome them all into our
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groups and support them in their role as carers.


So are dads different to mums?
    It‟s dangerous to generalise. There are many different types of fathers with many different kinds
    of needs. Though fathers are, for instance, more likely to engage in rough play and to joke
    around, there‟s huge variation there too, and many couples develop similar parenting styles to
    one another.
    In general, fathers tend to:
         See mum as the expert
         Spend less time with their children
         Have less information on child development
         Be more socially isolated as parents
         Feel uncomfortable being „the only bloke at the toddler group‟
         Assume they will be judges as inadequate as a parent
         Be more vary of showing vulnerability or uncertainty and think others will be
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            uncomfortable if they do.



Where do we start?
Why not ask local fathers about their experiences, aspirations and needs, and involve them in
planning your group.

Do a „male involvement audit‟ by spending time where the dads are e.g. antenatal services, schools,
sports, churches, pubs, local burger bars, bookies and barbers, toy shops, work places, supermarkets
or fetes.

Alternatively hold a one-off event for dads and their children. Hook dads with free food, children‟s
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activities, local celebrities and workshops with male-friendly themes. As part of the event ask the
Dad‟s to fill in a survey to find out what would help them, when is a good time to put on a group/event
and what activities would they enjoy coming to.

Use this information to plan a group or series of events that best matches the needs of Dad‟s in your
community.




Planning
Here are 8 things to consider in the planning stage so that you attract Dads straight a way.

TEAM
   Get together a group of people that care about the children and Dads in your area. And start
   forming a team by praying together and planning ideas.

    Do workers with Dads have to be male?
    No, women can work very successfully with fathers. Most dads say skills and attitudes matter
    most, and some even prefer a female worker. But male helpers can:
         Model caring for children as a male activity
         Bring a male perspective to what is being offered
         Help males that come feel „at home‟


NAME
Few groups now call themselves „mother and toddler‟ but did you know that the term „parent and
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toddler‟ has also been found to be discoursing to men who immediately associate it with mums?

So avoid the word „parents‟ and try to use „dads and mums‟ or „mothers and fathers‟.
Use the term „toddler group‟ and choose a name like „tots and toys‟ to help men feel the group is for
them.
SETTING
Look at the setting – get local dads, mums and children to help you adapt your setting Get local dads
and other men engaged in designing and building/adapting the physical spaces and you will find they
are more likely to be involved and promote the group from the word go.

               Avoid a feminine décor e.g. paint and wallpaper not pink and borders not flowery
               Make sure Baby-changing facilities are ones that dads can get too easily and
                signposted in such a way that they know they‟re allowed to use them.
               Display positive posters and leaflets of images of fathers and children clearly
                displayed. Why not ask local dads to provide a photo of them and their children and
                display these? Do your notice boards/leaflets have any items that specially relate to
                fathers?
               Reading materials and magazines that take male needs and interests into account
               Leaflets and notices which address dads directly
               Children‟s books about dads and children
               Books about dads among the parenting books
               Male icon toys – constructions, mini football table, cars, trains
               Outdoor spaces

If a church hall can‟t be decorated out of a feminine décor, consider running your group in more male
familiar places such as local colleges, sports facilities, swimming pools, playgrounds, parks,
community centres, pubs.

Consider outdoor events and trips away as these can also get round the issue of creating male
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friendly settings and be a great source of fun and togetherness.


TIMING
Rethink WHEN you offer services to dads. Many dads will work between 8-6 week days. Most dads
can make events/weekends but this will vary in different communities so do your research before
starting a group.


ADVERTISING
Make sure the advertising appeals to men
    Use pictures on your posters and flyers showing an males in the group
    Choose colours and style of posters that are masculine.
    Advertise in places where men gather.
    Use Web-based advertising and then group texts, emails, Face book and twitter to send out a
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       reminder a few days before.
    Think carefully about the Language that appeals to men
       For example:
        A course entitled Child Development is likely to attract women whereas the same course,
           entitled The Nuts and Bolts of Kids may attract men.
        More men may come along if your toddler group is billed as an activity session – try „a
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           messy morning‟ a „glitter and glue session‟ or a „toddler music time‟

       Few parents, mothers or fathers, can resist invitations from their children to attend an event.
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        Use children's 'pulling power' to attract their fathers.


WELCOME
Are the mums confident that if they encourage others carers, including men, to bring their children
along, the newcomers will receive the same warm welcome? Is this policy stated in your welcome
pack and newsletter?

How do you welcome men? It can be much more difficult for women to start up a conversation with a
male newcomer than with another woman. In particular, they may feel their actions will be
misconstrued, either by the man or by the rest of the group. It‟s important therefore that the group
leaders take an active role in welcoming and chatting to any men who come along. Are all your
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leaders aware of this issue?

ACTIVITIES
Men are generally more task focussed and like structured activities. Use traditional men's interests
such as barbecues, dads‟ breakfast, open day, free trip, sports event, DIY afternoon, Cycling, music,
photography, computers and gardening as a bridge for them to get involved in other activities in the
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setting. However, remember that these areas will only appeal to some men.

Provide information-sessions on topics such as first aid, raising boys, legal advice, improve your
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child‟s brainpower or activities linked to parenting skills training and support.

Provide regular opportunities for fathers and children to do things together. They will often appreciate
activities that they can engage in with their children such as building elaborate train sets or mammoth
duplo structures.

More men may come along if your toddler group is billed as an activity session – try „a messy
morning‟ a „glitter and glue session‟ or a „toddler music time‟

Conversely be aware that some activities may make them feel uncomfortable. You might want to
adapt these (e.g. tapping a drum in song time for instance, may appeal more to some men than
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singing!) Make them optional or even cut them out altogether if dads attend on a regular basis.

Remember that the biggest hurdle for a father is usually coming to your setting in the first place. Once
he has come a few times, there is a good chance he will stay.


INVOLVEMENT
Asking parents to stay and help out may get a positive response from mothers but asking for
'volunteers' or 'helping hands' may get more response from fathers

Many men will respond positive to a plea for assistance particularly if the request is personal and
specific e.g. could you come in and help with painting? Could you come in and help with outdoor
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games? Could you help put away the toys? Father‟s will feel needed and you will have less to do!



One off events
Football
Get the dads together once a week to play football and afterwards meet somewhere to enjoy a drink
and a chat. Organise occasional friendly matches against other teams. If the results don‟t go your
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way, just try to enjoy the chance to have a run around while you still can!!

Family outings
Organising trips for all the family can be a good way of initially getting fathers involved. Use the
opportunity to get to know the fathers and find out what other activities would interest them

Irregular events
Fathers often seem to prefer attending one off, irregular events - such as children's performances and
sports days - rather than making regular commitments.

Some settings publicise a particular session (say, a Friday morning) as 'fathers particularly welcome' -
fathers may welcome attending a setting when they are in the company of other men, rather than just
being the only man.



Annual Days
Some settings run successful annual dad‟s days which attract a range of male carers who come into
the setting to help out. There are hundreds of church halls with locked cupboards full of toys for
toddlers that are empty early on a Saturday morning. Would your setting like to set up a father and
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toddler group (or a working-parent and toddler group)?

Challenge Weekends for dads
Dads take their children away to an outward bound centre with a group and to do adventure type
things. This will help them build stronger bonds with their kids, and forge memories which will last a
lifetime. And dads can also develop friendships with each other too.

There are outward bound centres across the UK. Christian Camping International(CCI) can help
you plan your ideal trip. On their website, www.cci.org.uk, you can use a venue-finder to help you
arrange where to go, and there is a host of valuable material covering legal requirements and other
important things you need to know.

Before you start planning, check out CCI‟s downloadable PDF - Top 10 things to remember
when organising your group getaway

Care for the Family also runs The 1-2-1 Challenge weekends for parents to take one child to in order
to forge a stronger relationship. Some of the challenges are specifically for dads-and-lads. More
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details can be found atwww.careforthefamily.org.uk/1-2-1

Father’s Day Ideas

Before or after your service

        Feed the fathers! Food is always a hit, and gives plenty of time for newcomers to get to
        know your congregation. Many churches put on buffets or barbecues (particularly popular
        on a warm summer's day). How about a barbecue where the men don't cook?

        Football fever Churches have successfully held rounders matches, and five-a-side
        football matches involving dads and their children.

        Support network One church has organised support sessions for fathers in their parish -
        a safe place where they can discuss issues that are relevant to them. These take place in
        the days leading up to Fathers' Day, with a special service for all those that have taken
        part on the Sunday itself.

Ideas for your Fathers' Day service

        Give a gift On Mothering Sunday churches traditionally give out posies of flowers to all
        the women in church. So why not give all the men in the church a gift? One church gave
        out Mars bars- what can you think of?

        Bring a memory Why not make your worship interactive? One church is inviting people to
        bring something that reminds them of their father, which will be placed in a large cut-out of
        a father as an act of thanksgiving.

        Shake up the seating If you want to make your service more informal or more formal,
        how about arranging the seating differently? This might help visitors feel more at ease if
        they don't usually attend church.

        Fathers up front! One church makes a point of involving as many fathers as possible in
        the service, doing readings, leading the intercessions, etc. You might also want to involve
        the children; one of the prayers on our website is suitable for children to read out in a
        family service.

        Light a candle Some churches invite all those at the service to light a candle in memory
        of fathers who've passed on.
        Invite back the baptized Invite the fathers of all children baptized in the last year or
        couple of years, along with the rest of the family, for a special service.

Ideas for promoting your service/event

        Invitation from the kids Encourage the children in your congregation to invite their Dads
        to church on Fathers' Day. Your Sunday School classes might want to make special
        invitations in the weeks leading up to Fathers' Day.

        Involve local schools If you are visiting your local primary schools in the weeks leading
        up to Fathers' Day, make sure you let them know about your service/event.

        Tell the papers Some churches have put posters up around the parish, and placed
        adverts in their local paper. It's also worth letting the news desk of your local paper know
        about your event in case they want to publicize it, or they may want to send a reporter.
        Even though the story will be published after the event it will highlight what's going on at
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        your church.




Toddler Groups
Parent and toddler work can transform relationships and strengthen families. Yet we also know that
mostly mothers have populated the parent and toddler world.

Although many toddler groups are seeing a welcome rise in the number of men attending, most
remain a predominantly female domain. Making a room full of women and babies „father-friendly‟ can
be a major challenge. Instead, many churches are taking a different approach by starting separate
groups especially for dads.

These groups are essentially similar to traditional mother and toddler groups, but are generally run on
a Saturday morning and involve providing breakfast and newspapers for the dads in addition to the
usual toys, squash and biscuits for the children. Many are run monthly rather than weekly, and use
group texts, emails, Face book and twitter to send out a reminder a few days before.
The benefits are also similar to mother and toddler groups in providing a safe environment for the
children to play, a chance for the adults to chat and support each other, and an opportunity for the
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church to engage with parents from the local community.




Who let the Dad‟s out?
This is a National initiative, (started in Hoole Baptist Church in March 2003) is all about creating
space where dads and their young children can have fun together and is founded on the Christian
principle of wanting to demonstrate God‟s love to communities.

It is designed for toddlers and their dads, stepdads, granddads and male carers. They follow the
same traditional format as normal parent and toddler sessions. There are toys, craft activities, stories
and if you‟re brave, even song time, but with a few masculine touches, such as bacon butties and
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newspapers. Saturday mornings.
One of their dads said, „I was terrified at the thought of spending two hours with my boys on my own
but the „Who Let The Dads Out?‟ session has helped me to really enjoy spending time with them.‟
Eddie, who attends a group in Chester with his daughter, explains, „It‟s a great way for me to spend a
couple of hours with Tallula. It‟s filled with children and dads having a really fun time – dads who want
to spend time with their kids. I hadn‟t really observed Tallula interact with anyone other than family,
friends or neighbours. Seeing her play, fight, laugh, get excited and shout with other children was
fascinating.’ Since attending the group he says, „I am more confident with Tallula; there is more trust
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between us. Our relationship has improved and we enjoy giving Mum a break.‟

If you’d like to visit one, there are already 3 running in Devon:

Exeter - St. Thomas Baptist Church, Dorset Avenue, Exeter EX4 1LY

Times: Second Saturday of the month, 10am - 12 noon.
Contact: Visit the website. Name: Peter Fowler Tel: 01392 834988

Dawlish Christian Fellowship, The Old School, Old Town Street, Dawlish, EX7 9AL
Times: First Saturday in the month - 10am to 11.30am.
Contact: Visit the website. Name: Mark Jones

Plymouth, The Abbey Hall, Minster Church of St. Andrew, Plymouth, PL1 2AD

Times: 1st Saturday of the month. 10.30am until 12 noon.
Contact: Visit the website. Name: Stephen Nicholls Tel: 01752 267025


This is their guide to setting up a group:
 1.      Convince your church leaders to share your vision for a dads and toddlers group.
 2.      Gather a team of volunteers to run a session. You could even use people from other
       churches or charities.
 3.      Order some Who Let The Dads Out? flyers and print details of your session on the reverse.
 4.        Mobilize the parent and toddler group leaders to promote the session to their families – often,
       if the mums are convinced they could have some time off, they will ensure the dads come along!
 5.      Buy as large a grilling machine as you can afford – making bacon butties will be much easier!
 6.       Design a good craft activity the families can take away with them; it‟s a dad‟s certificate of
       attendance!
 7.       Put someone friendly on the door to shake hands and welcome each family. Get them to sign
       in with their child, including their mobile number so you can text them a reminder for the next
       session.
 8.      Have a range of books, magazines and leaflets about fatherhood available and encourage
       borrowing.
 9.      Consider follow-on activities, such as mid-week football, the five-session „Daddy Cool!‟
       parenting programme, „Soul Man?‟ Alpha or „SODA‟ (School‟s Out, Dad‟s About) group.
 10.     Finally, make the most of special events such as Father‟s Day or the World Cup.


You can contact them for help and advice, as well as registering your group
atwww.wholetthedadsout.org Once you‟ve done that you‟ll be able to use the name, logo,
materials, publicity, log on to the forum and download the Daddy Cool!‟ parenting programme.
SODA - school‟s out, Dad‟s about
This is a special club for dads, stepdads, granddads, male cares and their infact school children. The
fun involves a mix of arts, crafts, toys, games and sports. Select games and toys that appeal to 4-7,
organise team activities, such as uni-hockey and indoor football. Hold monthly session say from 5.30
to 7, provide tea, coffee, juice, biscuits and toast (with real butter!)


Daddy Cool! Parenting course
This is a 5 session parenting programme specifically for dad‟s male carers. For men who are
courageous, risk-takers and survivors. It‟s not touchy, feely, pink and fluffy. It‟s about food, activity,
competition and facing up to the challenges of being a dad. Working through crunchy subjects like
making memories and inspiring respect is made easier by a relaxed take=away meal at the heart of
each session. At the end of a Daddy Cool! Programme takes the group of dads with their children by
train to the seaside for a day out.


Soul Man? Discussion group for dads and football for dads
This is a format through which men can explore basic questions of faith and spirituality.
Last session of Daddy Cool! Is passing on our values and beliefs to our children. The dads often love
this session because, they say, they have no other opportunity to talk about spiritual beliefs. Offer
them Soul Man? To give them a chance to consider subjects like
Do we have souls and, if so, what are they for?
What is the point of prayer?
Were we designed to be happy?
Don‟t focus on arguing over or debating topics. Instead lead the men in exploring their own views by
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listening to and trying to understand the beliefs of others.




Examples of groups around the UK

Dad‟s and Littl‟uns‟ - Exeter
For stay-at-home dads. Worried about feeling like a wallflower at the local mother and toddler
playgroup? Tired of having to explain why you're caring for your child? Come to Dads and Littluns
playgroups in London and Exeter - where you can be proud of being a dad and a bloke, where the
conversation flows as easily as the coffee and where there are more toys than noise!

The Exeter group usually meets on Friday mornings between 10:00 am and 12:00 pm in the Palace
Gate Centre, 3 Palace Gate, Exeter, EX1 1JA. http://www.dadsandlittluns.co.uk/index.php



Just4dads - Birmingham
What
Just4dads is a stay & play event for dads and children at pre-school stage. We aim to provide an
environment in which everyone can have fun, but at the same time are relaxed and comfortable in the
knowledge that the children are safe - whilst the dads are chatting over a bacon roll and coffee!
There is always lots going on, including:
• Toys and games
• Drinks and food for everyone (including vegetarians)
• Story
• Singing
Why
At Monyhull Church, we believe that every dad is special and should play a vital role in a child‟s
upbringing. Given the hectic pace of life we have become accustomed to in our culture, Just4dads
gives dads an ideal opportunity to take time out with children, spend quality time together and also
allow the mums to take a rest!
When
We normally meet on a Saturday and currently meet 5 times a year. Look out for details of the next
event on the „Latest news‟ page.
Doors open at 10am and we are normally cleared and ready to go by around 11.30am.
http://www.monyhullchurch.org/just4dads.html




Dads & Kids (Wide Awake Club) -                                        Aldridge
What
Well, it's a meeting place for dads or granddads and children (0-6yrs), it's a place to play, chat and
build friendships. Fun, laughter, banter with loads of noise is the order of the day! Tables, seating and
a wide variety of childrens toys & activity games are supplied. Everyone can expect to be pandered to
by the team - supplied with copious amounts of percolated coffee (or tea) and squash. Loads of good
thick toast and best buy bacon, sausage, egg sandwiches (and to any combination of their choosing)
topped with either tomato or brown sauce.
The cost per session - representing excellent value for all.
£1.50 with all drinks and toast included.
£2.50 with all the above plus our best buy sandwich.

Where and when is WAC held?
St. Thomas' Church Annexe every last Saturday of the month unless subject to change (Christmas,
Easter and Summer holidays) - 10.00am to 11.30am-'ish'.

The aim was & is fourfold:
1) To give mums a break from the kids for a couple hours or so, allowing them time to do what they
want to do, in peace.
2) To give the opportunity for dads and/or granddads to spend premium time with the children.
Allowing them to focus their attention on the kids, without other distractions keeping them away. A
time window when dads can have and enjoy the kids company to themselves.
3) The children (coming from different families) meet and play together, whilst the dads 'n granddads
can find time to make new friends and have a 'chinwag' together.
4) The main criteria is for WAC to be an evangelistic tool in a very relaxed 'non threatening' way. The
team too, as well as pandering to the needs of all and sundry, take the opportunity to engage the
adults in befriending conversation - showing interest in them as individuals and that of their families.
Invitations (via leaflets) to the Hub, special events, appropriate services and the following month's
WAC are given regularly. Also a monthly reminder via e-mail is sent to all the dads.
http://www.stthomasaldridge.co.uk/young-people-a-families/dads-a-kids-442541504.html
                                    Dad and me - Pembury, Kent
Dad and Me is designed to enable Dads, Granddads and male carers to spend quality time with their
0-5 year olds and other Dads whilst Mums have a morning off!

One Dad comments, 'Dad and Me is a rare and precious opportunity in my busy month to be with my
daughter and to meet other Dads in the area. Watching her play is fun, meeting with other Dads is
great and the bacon sarnies are fantastic!'




Dad and Me is equipped with excellent toys and crafts for the children to enjoy. It happens on the first
Saturday in term time of every month (except August) from 10am until 11.30am at Pembury Baptist
Church. All Dads are welcome and the cost is £1 per family.

The Dads also meet up outside of Dad and Me. There are social pub nights and other events.

For more information, please call the church office on 01892 825590.
http://www.pemburybaptistchurch.org/what-were-doing/community-projects/dad-and-me/




Who Let the Dads Out?! - Colchester
“We‟re Dad‟s and we love it! Especially on the last Saturday morning of the month … bacon butties,
newspapers, hanging out with the guys and the added bonus of having our pre-school kids along for
the ride! After all, why should the Mum‟s get all the fun hanging out with the kids and some mates”?

Paul is a Dad and is the instigator behind this „Dad‟s playgroup‟ on a Saturday morning from 9.30am
– 11.am. The idea arose because Paul realized that there are so few opportunities and places for
Dad‟s to go and be with their children on a Saturday morning without having to sit around in some
huge „warehouse‟ while the kids run amuck. Instead there are papers to read, new friends to chat with
and plenty for the youngsters to do and for you to join in with too. Being a Dad is fun, particularly
when there are other Dads to share the fun with!

Be there – last Saturday of each month, 9.30am – 11am


Kingsland Church http://www.kingsland.org.uk/lexden/youth/wltdo
First Steps Dads Group
Hello, we are a group of Dads that meet almost every Saturday between 9am and 11.30am with our
children. We allow our children to play while we chat, eat sausage sandwiches and drink tea and
coffee. Our children also have a drink and some toast and get to mix with other children. All we ask
is that you bring yourself and a child (aged between 0 and 5) along and enjoy a chat and allow the
lady in your life a lie in and a morning off from the children. What more could you ask for?

We have a kitchen where our sandwiches, toast and drinks are prepared by one of the dads. We
also have access to one quite large and one reasonably sized room. There are toilets nearby and
most importantly, no escape routes for little ones! The children have a range of toys to play with,
form baby toys to ride on bikes; we‟ve even been known to make the odd piece of craft on special
occasions. All are welcome!

Our Aims   We has three aims in Dads group:

        1. We seek to meet friends, make friends and become better friends with the dads we meet
        each week.
        2. We seek to live our lives as dads a little better each day, with advice and encouragement
        from those who have been or are going through what it means to be a dad.
        3. We seek to encourage dads to meet with God, as he is the perfect Father. We can learn a
        lot from him! http://www.dadsgroup.co.uk/index.html




Dads and Toddlers -                         Woodgreen Evangelical Church

Dads and Toddlers meets once a term on a Saturday morning from 9:30 to 11:30 to give the Mum‟s a
rest while we spend some time with the kids and the other Dads. The usual play equipment is there
for the children and we also have a craft activity and both a regular story and a story from the Bible.

We like to ensure we‟re up the job of looking after the children which is difficult without bacon
sandwiches, so we always include those as well and proper coffee!

It‟s a great time for socializing and playing in a friendly and relaxed atmosphere. Are you man enough
to join us ?
Please phone the church office for further information on 01905 754 548 .

http://www.woodgreenchurch.co.uk/index.php/whats-on-for-me/toddlers/



Dads Out             - Wantage Community Church

We are a group of Dads with toddlers who get together for bouncy castle and toys (for the toddlers)
and bacon sandwiches (for the Dads) about once a month during term time. We meet between 10
and 11.30, usually in the Methodist Church Hall in Wantage, but sometimes at the Butler Centre. We
also organize social events for the Dads from time to time.


If you are a father or carer with children aged 0 - 4 years we would love to welcome you to our group.
For more details please email andyw@occ.org.uk. Alternatively, just turn up on the day.
http://occ.org.uk/wantage/dads-out
Other helpful resources
Dads Included Community www.dadsincluded.org. Here you can share your expertise, ask
questions to fellow professionals, asses how father-inclusive your services are using the online Dads
Included Test

‘Dads Included Toolkit„ Fatherhood Institute [online] Available at www.fatherhoodinstitute.org


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the answers already! DadTalk uses the technology our children are so at home with. DadTalk is
by dads for dads and is about connecting to their children's "wrap around technology" world.
DadTalk aims to increase fun and confidence for all men with a fathering role. Run by FMI a
Christian-based educational charity specializing in research and training to strengthen marriage and
family life. http://www.dadtalk.co.uk/

The Fatherhood Institute Website www.fatherhoodinstitute.org you will find a vast range of useful
FREE information to support Dads.

Father’s Plus - Set up in 1997 to improve outcomes for children and young people by working with
local government and voluntary services to ensure that fathers and male carers are supported in their
role as care givers. http://www.fathersplus.org/catalog/posters
Every Dad Matters Posters (set of 5 posters) -£15 set, Series 1: Dads in Early Years , Series 2: Dads
in Schools and Learning




Children‟s North East‟s Fathers Plus „Dad test taster‟ – quicker, simpler version with 14 questions
with which to rate your group‟s father-friendliness.

 „Think Father‟s‟ government campaign has a Dad test which provides key questions on six areas of
commitment to father inclusive practice and a downloadable self-assessment form for you to record
your evaluations and action plans.
http://www.thinkfathers.org/
.

Fathers’ story week 13-19 June 2011 timed to coincide with Father‟s Day; Fathers‟ Story Week is a
fantastic opportunity to get dads and children working and spending time together. Lots of FREE
resources are mapped out on the website www.fatherstoryweek.org
Notes:
Challenge weekend for dads Engage Care for the Family [online] Available
http://www.engagetoday.org.uk/engaging-parents/could-your-church-organise-a-challenge-weekend-
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for-dads [5 Aug 2011]

Dads Included Toolkit Fathers Institute [online] Available to buy
 http://www.fatherhoodinstitute.org/products-page/resources/dads-included-toolkit-for-developing-
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father-inclusive-services/ [5 Aug 2011]

Dad‟s Toddler Groups (06 December 2010) Engage Care for the Family [online] Available
http://www.engagetoday.org.uk/playtime/engaging-with-men/dads-toddler-groups
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[5 Aug 2011]

Father‟s Matter Pre-school Learning Alliance [on line] Available
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http://www.pre-school.org.uk/document/238[5 Aug 2011]

Making your toddler group father-friendly (06 December 2010) Engage Care for the Family [online]
Available http://www.engagetoday.org.uk/playtime/engaging-with-men/making-your-toddler-group-
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father-friendly [5 Aug 2011]

Suggestions from around the Church Church of England [on line] Available
http://www.churchofengland.org/clergy-office-holders/themed-services-and-
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events/fathersday/suggestions.aspx [5 Aug 2011]

Who let the dad‟s out? Hoole Baptist Church [Online] Available
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http://www.wholetthedadsout.org/index.php[5 Aug 2011]

								
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