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    What Is Dual Diagnosis?

      Choosing                                         W a n t i n g To
      Happiness                                          Belong
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  Did you know that happiness is up to          Many times, our childhood experi-
you?                                        ences and life learning gear us away
   It’s actually your choice.               from our power. We learned to give it
   You can choose to be happy instead       all away, to quietly accept whatever
of waiting around for it to suddenly        happens to us, without question, with-
appear out of nowhere one day and           out standing up and saying ‘No!’ We
land in your lap. Happiness is called
                                            have become a passive society of pow-
upon and cultivated.
                                            erless and uninspired automatons,
                                            going along with the crowd. It’s a sad
         I Am The Creator of
                                            state of affairs that we have been raised
          My Own Thoughts
                                            in. Somewhere along the line, a stan-
    Now keep in mind, this is my per-       dard was laid out and we are ‘expected’
sonal perspective of happiness. You         to magically meet this invisible ‘stan-
might have a different view. Everyone       dard’ by compromising and living
has a unique view point, especially         according to someone else’s perspec-
where emotion is concerned. But,            tives. Where is the happiness in that?
nonetheless, I like my outlook on hap-      I guess that leads me back to my origi-
piness. It helps me to see that I am the    nal statement.
creator of my own thoughts and state
of mind. It is my choice what feeling I        Choosing Happiness is a Choice.
choose to have on any given day. This          Anytime you choose, you are making
does not mean I don’t go with the flow      a decision. You are engaging your power.
of feelings, but that I can choose at any   Think about how you are feeling right
                                            now. How long has it been since you
given moment to change what it is I
   For example, if I am having a hectic
                                            chose what you wanted to feel?
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day, and I do have my share, I can
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                                            a state of denial if you are in trauma,
                                            but I am suggesting that you insert a
                                            new option for yourself. Instead of sit-
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I can remind myself to stop and choose      ting in pain, decide for 10 minutes that               provides acute and sub-acute detoxification,
to be calm. I can go out for a walk and     you will focus on happiness.
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                                            lighter? Was a burden lifted? Even if it
and choose to experience that aesthetic
                                            was a mere 10 minutes, it was a start-
                                                                                                        for individuals with dependencies.
as appreciation, gratitude, joy or numb-    ing point. It was a choice. Would you
ness. I can choose to vacate and dis-       rather go through life choosing happi-
connect from my feelings, I can space       ness and drawing happy experiences to
out and be oblivious, or I can call upon    you, or by sitting in pain and expecting
the grace of the moment and be one          the worst, thereby feeling the worst?
with the beauty.                               It is still a choice.
These are all options.                         It is your choice.
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                                                       Why Not Choose to
    We Have the Power to Choose
                                                     Experience Happiness?
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lose sight of how power-full we really      in you. It is my hope that you will look                therapy, couples counseling and codependency group.
are. I mean really full of power. We        at the power you possess and carpe
have the power to choose. It is some-       diem – seize the day! Make a choice!
thing we are born with. No one has the      Choose to experience happiness in                                 We are state licensed/certified and
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to you. It is all choice.                                                                                                  www.glendaleadventist.com

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                                                                                                                                                                     My sponsor
                                                                                                                             When I think                         told me to take it
                                                                                                                          about moving                             a row at a time.
                Spiritual Situations                                                                                     up to the front
                                                                                                                        row, I get really
                           BY REVEREND LEO BOOTH

     n many recovery programs, we often                The following story helped me remem-

I    hear the phrase, “Act as if.” This saying
     is compatible with the philosophy of
C.S. Lewis, who in “Mere Christianity”
                                                   ber how accepting Jesus is:
                                                        There were really four kings- the “Four
                                                   Magi” visiting the baby Jesus. One was a
wrote, “Do not waste time bothering                little dizzy and got lost for 33 years. We all
whether you love your neighbor; act as if          get lost at times. Some of us are lost for
you did.”                                          months, years or even longer. The tragic
  I know this works. On one of our journeys        cases are those who never find themselves.
to Vietnam, a decidedly awkward woman                The lost King in question faced many
who joined me on the trip and whose atti-          problems and challenges. As such, he sold
                                                   the precious gifts originally intended to
tude reflected the familiar “glass is half
                                                   place at the feet of the “babe in the
empty” perspective, remarked, “Vietnam is          manger.” Life can be expensive!
not what I expected. It’s so old and full of              After 33 years this king, arrived in
ruins and rundown temples. And the people          Jerusalem, which was crammed with peo-
seem to have a hard time understanding             ple rushing to and fro. “What is going on?”
English and the weather here is so hot!”           He inquired.
    “Katherine (her name has been changed)             “An execution. A good man is being cru-
but would you really want it to look and           cified. Come and see!”
feel like Seattle?”                                     Our “lost King”, was a foreigner with
    “And they eat rice every day.” She con-        dark skin, unusual clothes, and a different
tinued.                                            accent obviously a stranger to the Romans
    “But we’ve had a variety of foods, even        and Jews. Being tall and strong, he pushed
continental breakfasts with American               his way to the front of the pack as the pris-
food.” I told her.                                 oner was led to Golgotha, Place of the
    “Well, that’s true,” she sighed.               Skull, where criminals were crucified.
    “And you seem to enjoy meeting all the             Jesus fell for the third time.
children playing on the streets. You took so           A caring soldier looked around to find
many photographs of those you children             help. He saw the stranger. “You. Come
                                                   forward, help him.”
playing. You even wanted to bring one

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Vietnam Rev. Leo?” She asked me.                   recovery towards strangers we meet along
    I thought to myself, “Katherine, you are       the way, accepting them in all their creative
                                                   and delightful differences..
                                                         Spirituality is about the gift of service,
     At first she wanted to criticize Vietnam,
now she wants to arrange the itinerary for         gratitude and an “act as if” philosophy.
                                                   Reverend Leo Booth is a Unity minister, a published
                                                   author, conference and workshop presenter in all
next year! Go figure! People are strange. I
                                                   aspects of addiction. He is a Spiritual Advisor to
am strange. I suspect you, the reader, are a
                                                   Casa de las Amigas & Renaissance Malibu in CA.
little strange. Yes, we are all a little strange
but then again we are all spiritual too.
      Spiritual people need to feed their atti-
tude of gratitude. I encourage people to
leave a daily meditation book in the bath-
                                                   He is also the author of Say Yes to Your Spirit and
                                                   Say Yes to Your Life published by Health
                                                   Communications Inc. For more info please visit his
                                                   w e b s i t e : w w w. f a t h e r l e o . c o m o r e m a i l :
                                                   fatherleo@fatherleo.com or call us at (800) 284-2804.
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room or by the side of their bed to read each
day. I have my own daily meditation book
and I make an effort to read it each day and
I am pleasantly surprised at what I read.
   At an early age, I was first attracted to the
teachings of Jesus because he seemed so
nonjudgmental, although I must confess I
also loved the incense, vestments and bell-
ringing at my English church.
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                 Sobriety And Beyond

                   THE IMPORTANCE OF
                   SLEEP IN RECOVERY

                                BY JENNI SCHAEFER

       oday each email, phone call, and          In early recovery, I frequently relapsed

T      text message annoys me. I feel like
       everyone is out to get me. I am
       overwhelmed about nothing particu-
larly overwhelming and stressed out
about nothing particularly stressful. I am
                                             after experiencing sleepless nights. Lack
                                             of sleep caused me to lose touch with my
                                             hunger and fullness cues, which led to
                                             binging. This would often push me into a
                                             depression where I would sometimes
moody, anxious, irritable, impatient,        sleep for days in a coma-like state. My
short-tempered, emotional, and grouchy.      body needed sleep and --- just like food -
Coffee anyone?                               -- it was going to get it one way or anoth-
        Just kidding. I wouldn’t be the      er. I finally began giving myself sleep in
most fun person to share a cup of cof-       a healthy way. I made sleep a priority. I
fee with right now, and I know exact-        had to schedule it and catch some z’s no
ly why. I am sleep-deprived. I am only       matter what, whether I thought I needed
a little sleep deprived for only two         it or not. As I began to focus more on
nights, and I already feel really bad.       getting the right amount of rest, I was
     I have learned that I personally need   more easily able to stay on track with
around 8 hours of sleep per night to be at   food.
my most productive and happy. This                Today I try to do whatever it takes to
amount of sleep seems like a lot to me,      get enough sleep each night. In my trav-
because it is significantly more that what   els, I tell people that I don’t take 6 am
I used to get not that many years ago.       flights, because I don’t function well
Interestingly enough, I now know that I      when I wake up at 3 am. (Does anyone?)
should have been getting even more           If I am trying to meet a writing deadline
sleep as a younger person than I do now.     in the evening, I give myself a specific

age, lifestyle, and even genet- Looking back, I on when I need to go to bed.
We all need different amounts                                time when I have to be fin-
of sleep depending on our                                    ished. I set this time based

                                     can see that
                                  poor sleep habits not finishingeven if it means
ics.                                                         I will finish the project by
      Looking back, I can see                                that set time
                                     went hand in
that poor sleep habits went                                                    perfectly. It is

                                     hand with an
hand in hand with an eating                                  more important to get a good
disorder I struggled with for                                nights rest than to turn in a
attitude toward both sleep and eating disorder I such thing as a perfect paper
many years. I had the same                                   perfect paper. There’s no
food. I didn’t need sleep just struggled with anyway, so why should I lose
felt guilty for both sleeping for many years.
like I didn’t need food, and I                               sleep over it?
                                                                 After all of this talk, you
and eating. Sleep deprivation                                are probably wondering why
more often than not led directly to eating   I am sleep-deprived right now. I am not
disordered behaviors.                        sleep deprived from overwork but from
       In college, if I got more than a cer- over-fun. I did not stay up late in order to
tain (very small) amount of sleep per
night, I felt unbearably guilty. To avoid    meet a work deadline. I stayed up late
this guilt, I chose to live in a constant    because I was watching late-night televi-
state of sleep deprivation. I now under-     sion with friends two nights ago. Then,
stand why I had such a difficult time con-   last night, I stayed up too late having fun
centrating in class, why I dozed off and     helping a friend put a desk together for
drooled on top of my books in the            another friend. Nothing says fun like
library, and why I never seemed to retain    assembling office furniture! For me, los-
information from semester to semester. I     ing sleep in order to have more fun is
understand how lack of sleep contributed     actually progress in some ways. (I am
to my being stressed out and unhappy
much of the time. If I had gotten more       having more fun these days, which is
sleep, I now know that I could have stud-    something I used to feel horribly guilty
ied a lot less and actually been much        for as well.) But even more progress
more productive in school. I would have      would mean not losing sleep and still hav-
enjoyed myself more too.                     ing fun. So tonight, I already moved my
   My various roommates in college all       fun up to earlier in the evening, so that I
seemed to understand this idea; they         can get a good night’s rest. I know that
slept well. I actually remember think-       sleep must be a priority. Day by day, night
ing they were lazy for getting the           by night, I am learning how to better bal-
appropriate amount of sleep each             ance my life.
night. I remember feeling superior to
them. This feeling of superiority is              Speaking of that, I think I’m going to
similar to how I felt when I ate less        go take a nap right now. When I wake up,
                                             maybe we could go get that coffee.
                                                                   Appointed to the Ambassador
than they did. I felt special, because I
didn’t seem to have needs. I actually
                                                                   Council of the National Eating
felt super human much of the time:
                                                                   Disorders Association, Jenni
“They have needs, but I don’t.” It
                                                                   Schaefer is a singer/songwriter,
turns out that I was not super human. I
                                                                   speaker, and the author of Life
was super sick.
                                                                   Without Ed: How One Woman
     My work in eating disorder recovery
                                                                   Declared Independence from
taught me that I do have needs just like
                                                                   Her Eating Disorder and How
everyone else. I actually began to under-
                                                                   You Can Too (McGraw-Hill)
stand why I needed proper nutrition prior
                                                                   and Goodbye Ed, Hello Me:
to my ever accepting that I actually need-
                                             Recover from Your Eating Disorder and Fall in Love
ed sleep. So I was eating relatively well

                                             with Life (McGraw-Hill, September 2009). She is a
far before I was sleeping right. I finally

                                             consultant with the Center For Change in Orem, UT.
realized that my eating only “relatively

                                             For more information, visit www.jennischaefer.com.
well” had something to do with the fact
that I was not sleeping well.

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                                                   sometimes stayed out all night telling me that he
                                                   fell asleep at a friend’s house. Or he gets strange

                                                   phone calls from people he tells me are cus-
      Dear Sharon: I'm 52 and should               tomers for his import-export business. Fine, but

                                                                                                                                          STOP RUNNING!
      probably know better, but here goes.         at 11 pm? Who gets business calls that late?
      Last year I met this very attractive         Elliot will say that the person is calling from
man from Venezuela who has been living             another time zone,20or whatever—he always
in Southern California for the last 25 years.

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                                                   has a logical reason. But he always goes off into
He is maybe 8 years younger than I am,             another room to take these phone calls. Elliot               Financial Recovery requires L o w C o s t Tax Help
very smart, funny, and interested in the           thinks that I’m too suspicious, and he recently
spiritual practice of tantric yoga, which has      insisted that if I’m “so unhealthy that I’m ques-
resulted in the most amazing lovemaking            tioning him all the time, that I should be in ther-
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                                                          good idea to go into therapy, but
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for about 15 years. Miguel has told me

                                                          perhaps not for the reason that
that he doesn't believe in sneaking around,

                                                          Elliot suggests. He is evidently hop-
and he also thinks that jealousy is very,

                                                   ing that therapy would cause you to be
shall we say, last century, certainly not

                                                   more self-confident and to rely less on him
very evolved spiritually. He thinks that

                                                   for reassurance. What might actually hap-
our relationship is likely to last longer if
                                                   pen in therapy is that you could grow to be
                                                   more self-confident and start to wonder
we get these 6 months every year to miss
one another. My problem is that a) I'm
                                                   why you need to be dating someone so glib
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                                                   with the excuses while seemingly uncon-
really hooked on this guy sexually; b) I

                                                   cerned with your emotional welfare. So I
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don't have anyone to date when he is in

                                                   suggest that you take Elliot up on his sug-
Venezuela, and no matter how much I

                                                   gestion for therapy—in fact, you might
meditate I'm still more than a little jealous;
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                                                   even suggest a couples session or two, so
and c) I'm not sure if Miguel is a sex addict

                                                   as to get feedback from the therapist after
or someone very spiritually advanced.

                                                   he/she experiences the energy between the
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 A.      where other than between Miguel's        Q. woman who is romantically obsessed
                                                           Dear Sharon:        I’m a Los Angeles                                          1-Year (12 issues)
         legs. Of course, I could be wrong.
Miguel doesn't have to be a sex addict for
                                                        with another woman I met in AA, and                                               U.S. Rate: $29.00
you to ask yourself simply, "Does this si
                                                   I just don’t feel comfortable going to Sex

tuation really work for me?" If you are
                                                   and Love Addicts Anonymous meetings,

spending 6 months of the year obsessing
                                                   or any of the other “S” meetings, because

about Miguel and this, uh, woman friend,
                                                   there are so many guys there talking about

that sounds like 6 months of your life wast-
                                                   Internet porn and such. Any suggestions?

ed to me. Remember that the cost of a
                                                   Romance Addict

thing, anything, is how much of your life it             Dear Romance Addict: I under-
eats up. Miguel sounds a little expensive in       A.    stand that there is a new Love

that regard. I would suggest that you                    Addicts Anonymous meeting in
attend some tantric yoga workshops and                   Santa Monica on Friday nights for
                                                   women only. Go to: www.loveaddicts.org

see if you can't meet someone else with a
little more free time and less, shall we say,      and check it out.

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      Dear Sharon: My boyfriend Elliot is
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stand this, but I’m wondering about how

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                                                  DUAL DIAGNOSIS
                                                                 problem, but two. In adolescents, however, drug or             in determining the appropriate level of care. There are

             person who has both an alcohol or drug prob-
             lem and an emotional/psychiatric problem is         alcohol abuse may merge and continue into adulthood,           several different levels or intensities of care including
             said to have a dual diagnosis. To recover           which may contribute to the development of emotional           full hospitalization or inpatient treatment, partial hospi-
             fully, the person needs treatment for both          difficulties or psychiatric disorders.                         talization, and outpatient treatment.
 problems.                                                          In other cases, alcohol or drug dependency is the pri-
            How Common Is Dual Diagnosis?                        mary condition. A person whose substance abuse prob-                     What is the Role of the Patient’s
    Dual diagnosis is more common than you might imag-           lem has become severe may develop symptoms of a psy-                           Family in Treatment?
 ine. According to a report published by the Journal of          chiatric disorder: perhaps episodes of depression, fits of        With both rehabilitation for subse abuse and treat-
 the American Medical Association*:Thirty-seven per-             rage, hallucinations, or suicide attempts.                     ment for a psychiatric problem, education, counseling
 cent of alcohol abusers and fifty-three percent of drug                                                                        sessions, and support groups for the patient’s family
 abusers also have at least one serious mental illness. Of       How Can a Physician Tell W hether the Person’s                 are important aspects of overall care. The greater the
 all people diagnosed as mentally ill, 29 percent abuse             Primary Problem is Substance Abuse or an                    family’s understanding of the problems, the higher the
 either alcohol or drugs.                                                         E mo tiona l Disorder?                        chances the patient will have a lasting recovery.
                                                                    At the initial examination, it may be difficult to tell.
         What Kind of Mental or Emotional Problems               Since many symptoms of severe substance abuse mimic             How Can Family and Friends Help with Recovery
            are Seen in People with Dual Diagnosis?              other psychiatric conditions, the person must go through                    from the Substance Abuse?
    The following psychiatric problems are common to             a withdrawal from alcohol and/or drugs before the                They need to learn to stop enabling. Enabling is act-
 occur in dual diagnosis - i.e., in tandem with alcohol or       physician can accurately assess whether there’s an             ing in ways that essentially help or encourage the per-
 drug dependency.                                                underlying psychiatric problem also.                           son to maintain their habit of drinking or getting high.
                                                                                                                                For instance, a woman whose husband routinely drinks
 •Depressive disorders, such as depression and bipolar                 If a Person Does Have Both an Alcohol/Drug               too much, might call in sick for him when he is too
 disorder.                                                        Problem and an Emotional Problem, Which Should                drunk to go to work. That’s enabling. Likewise, fami-
                                                                                     Be Treated First?                          ly members or friends might give an addict money
 • Anxiety disorders, including generalized anxiety disor-        Ideally, both problems should be treated simultaneously.      which is used to buy drugs, because they’re either
 der, panic disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and         For any substance abuser, however, the first step in treat-    sorry for him or afraid of him. That’s enabling also.
 phobias.                                                        ment must be detoxification - a period of time during             When family and friends participate in the recovery
                                                                 which the body is allowed to cleanse itself of alcohol or      program, they learn how to stop enabling. If they act
 •Other psychiatric disorders, such as schizophrenia and         drugs. Ideally, detoxification should take place under         on what they’ve learned, the recovering substance
 personality disorders.                                          medical supervision. It can take a few days to a week or       abuser is much less likely to relapse into drinking or
                                                                 more, depending on what substances the person abused           taking drugs.
     The following table based on a National Institute of        and for how long.
 Mental Health study, lists seven major psychiatric disor-            Until recently, alcoholics and drug addicts dreaded              How Can Family and Friends Help with
 ders and shows how much each one increases an indi              detoxification because it meant a painful and sometimes               Recovery from a Psychiatric Condition?
 vidual’s risk for substance abuse                               life-threatening “cold turkey” withdrawal. Now, doctors        They should be calm and understanding, rather than
                 Psy chiatric Disorder:                          are able to give hospitalized substance abusers carefully      frightened or critical. They should be warm and open,
                                                                 chosen medications which can substantially ease withdraw-      rather than cool or cautious. Although it is fine to ask
       Increa sed Ris k For Substance Abuse                      al symptoms. Thus, when detoxification is done under           the person matter-of-factly about the psychiatric treat-
         Antis ocial pers onality disorder                       medical supervision, it’s safer and less traumatic.            ment, that shouldn’t be the only focus of conversation.
                  M anic episode                                           What Is Next After Detoxification?                      Someone I Know Appears To Have A Substance
                           14 .5                                  Once detoxification is completed, it’s time for dual treat-         Abuse Problem And The Symptoms Of A
                     Schizophrenia                               ment; rehabilitation for the alcohol or drug problem and              Psychiatric Disorder, How Can I Help?
                        10.1                                     treatment for the psychiatric problem.                            Encourage the person to acknowledge the problems
                 Pa nic disorder                                     Rehabilitation for a substance abuse problem usually       and seek help for themselves. Suggest a professional
                         4.3                                     involves individual and group psychotherapy, education         evaluation with a licensed physician, preferably at a
            Major depress ive episode                            about alcohol and drugs, exercise, proper nutrition, and       medical center that’s equipped to treat addiction prob-
                         4.1                                     participation in a 12-step recovery program such as            lems and psychiatric conditions. If the person is reluc-
          Obsessive -c ompulsive disorder                        Alcoholics Anonymous. The idea is not just to stay off         tant, do the legwork yourself - find the facility, make
                         3.4                                     booze and drugs, but to learn to enjoy life without these      the appointment, offer to go with the person. A little
                      Phobias                                    “crutches.”                                                    encouragement may be all it takes. If you talk to the
                         2.4                                        Treatment for a psychiatric problem depends upon the        physician first, be honest and candid about the trou-
 Thus, someone suffering from schizophrenia is at a 10.1         diagnosis. For most disorders, individual and group            bling behavior. Your input may give the doctor valu-
 percent higher-than-average risk of being an alcoholic or       therapy as well as medications are recommended.                able diagnostic clues.
 drug abuser. Someone who is having an episode of                Expressive therapies and education about the particular           There Is Hope.
 major depression is at a 4.1 percent higher-than-               psychiatric condition are often useful adjuncts. A sup-           A s a r e l a t i v e o r f r i e n d , y o u c a n p l a y a n i m p o r-
 average risk of being an alcohol or drug abuser…and so          port group of other people who are recovering from the         tant role in encouraging a person to seek profes-
 on.                                                             same condition may also prove highly beneficial.               sional diagnosis and treatment. By learning about
                                                                 Adjunct treatment, such as occupational or expressive          dual diagnosis, you can help this person find and
         Which Develops First - Substance Abuse                  therapy, can help individuals better understand and com-       stick with an effective recovery program.The
                or the Emotional Problem?                        municate their feelings or develop better problem-solv-        more you know about dual diagnosis, the more
     It depends. Often the psychiatric problem develops          ing or decision-making skills.                                 you will see how substance abuse can go hand-in-
 first. In an attempt to feel calmer, more peppy, or more                                                                       hand with another psychiatric condition. As with
 cheerful, a person with emotional symptoms may drink                        Must a Dual Diagnosis Patient                      any illness, a person with dual diagnosis can
 or use drugs; doctors call this “self-medication.”                             Be Treated in a Hospital?                       improve once proper care is given. By seeking
 Frequent self-medication may eventually lead to physi-             Not necessarily. The nature and severity of the ill-        out information, you can learn to recognize the
 cal or psychological dependency on alcohol or drugs.            ness, the associated risks or complications, and the per-      signs and symptoms of dual diagnosis - and help

  If it does, the person then suffers from not just one          son’s treatment history are some of the facts considered       someone live a healthier or more fulfilling life.

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                                 OTHER RESOURCES
National Clearinghouse on Alcohol
 and Drug Information
Phone: 800-729-6686                                     Narcotics Anonymous World
website: findtreatment.samhsa.gov/                      Service Office in Los Angeles
facilitylocatordoc.gov                                  P.O. Box 9999
                                                        Van Nuys, CA 91409
                                                        Phone Number: (818) 773-9999
Alcoholics Anonymous                                    Fax Number: (818) 700-0700
P.O. Box 549                                            Website: www.na.org
New York, NY 10163
Phone Number: (212) 870-3400                            Alanon and Alateen Family
Website:www.alcoholics-anonymous.org                    Group Headquarters Inc.
                                                        1600 Corporate Landing Parkway
                                                        Virginia Beach, VA 23454-5617
Dual Recovery Anonymous *
World Services Central Office                           Phone Number: (757) 563-1600
P.O. Box 8107                                           Fax Number: (757) 563-1655
Prairie Village, KS 66208                               Email address: wso@al-anon.org
Toll-Free Number: (913) 991-2703                        Website : www.al-anon.alateen.org
Website: draonline.org

* Dual Reco very Ano nymo us i s a n i n d e p e n d e n t , n o n - p r o f i t , n o n - p r o f e s -
sional self-help organization. DRA was established to help men and
w o m e n w h o e x p e r i e n c e a d u a l d i s o r d e r. A d u a l d i s o r d e r o c c u r s w h e n a n
individual is affected by both chemical dependency and an emotional or
psychiatric illness.

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                                                                                                                                                                  month 4pm-6pm at Cri-Help, 11027 Burbank
                                                                                                             Beverlywood, 2364 S. Robertson Blvd. (Corner of      Blvd., N. Hollywood. Call (818) 985-8323 ext.
                                                W h a t ’s                                                   24th Street). For more info. (310) 505-0439.         141.

                                               Happening                                                                       Y–
                                                                                                             EVERYWEDNESDA A12-Step writing meeting for all
                                                                                                             12-Step programs or anyone with a
                                                                                                                                                                                 Ora n g e C ou n ty
                                                                                                                                                                  MARIPOSA WOMEN'S & FAMILY COUN-

    April 26 –San Fernando Valley, Ca
                                                                                                             habitual problem or illness, 7:00 – 8:00 p.m., in    SELING CENTER, 812 Town & Country Rd,
                                                                                                             Pacific Palisades. Every 3rd Saturday, 3:00 – 4:00   Orange. Ongoing workshops. Call (714) 547-
                                                                                                             p.m., at SHARE in Mar Vista. Every 3rd Saturday(
                                                                          ONG OING
SOBER DAY L.A. WALKATHON.Sober Day                                                                           Dec. 20th), 3-hour 12-Step writing workshop, 9:00    HER PLACE: Paths to Recovery for Women:

                                                                       Scottsdale, AZ
LA is an outreach program, to create aware-                               A RIZ ONA                          a.m.–12:00 noon , in Pacific Palisades. Call: 310-   Non-Profit Counseling and Groups, Laguna
ness about the issues of substance abuse
                                                                                                             428-0904 or e-mail f.loweree@verizon.net.            Hills. (949) 707-5111.
and violence in our communities. This year,
we will celebrate "Sober Day LA" on Sunday,             SIERRA TUCSON ALUMNI SUPPORT GROUP.
                                                        2nd and 4th Tuesday each month, 6-7 p.m., Valley     LIFE RECOVERY GROUP: 12-Step Christ-cen-                             P a s ad e n a
April 26, 2009 11:00 a.m. with the 4th Annual
                                                        Presbyterian Church, 6947 E. McDonald Drive ,        tered recovery ministry. Thursday 7:00pm. Venice     AIDS SERVICE CENTER Monthly presenta-
Panorama-Van Nuys Spring Parade. Our
                                                        Paradise Valley, AZ. For information , visit         Church 2241 Walgrove Ave., Los Angeles, 90066.       tions various free educational & support
Grand Marshal to represent the 2007 parade
                                                        www.SierraTucson.com (Alumni Resources) or call      Call (310)463-4945.                                  groups. Call (626) 441-8495. AIDS Service
will be announced forthcoming. Please keep
                                                        Tim McLeod at 866-638-1650.                          www.12Steppin2Jesus.com                              Center, 1030 S. Arroyo Parkway.
checking this website for more
                                                                                                             RAGEAHOLICS ANONYMOUS                  meetings               Ra n c h o P a lo s Ver d es
        May 1-3 – Oxnard, California
                                                                        An a he im
                                                                                                             Monday, 7:30pm. 5750 W. Olympic Blvd. Bethel         POSTPARTUM                    DEPRESSION
                                                        WOMEN IN SEXUAL HEALING (W.I.S.H)                    Lutheran Church (310) 877-9899. Ask for Tom.         SUPPORT GROUP: First Sunday of the
24th ANNUAL, SERENITY BY THE SEA                        Sunday 6:30pm to 8:pm, The Alcohol
ROUNDUP AA/Al-Anon/Alateen participation.                                                                                                                         month 10-11 am; $10 per Adult At Fred
                                                        Recovery Information Building, 318 W. Ball           SHARE! 5521 Grosvenor Blvd Los Angeles CA            Hesse     Community           Park,    29301
Marathon, speaker meetings, banquet, dance,
                                                        Road. Denese (714) 879-2205.                         90066. For more info (310) 305-8878 Alltypes of      Hawthorne Blvd. Alicia MacGowan,
Al-Anon luncheon and much more.
OXNARD PERFORMING ARTS CENTER                                                                                meetings held here. www.SHARESelfHelp.org.           LCSW,      MAC,         (310)       508-9531.
800 Hobson Way.                                                         Bi g Be ar                           A.A.Anger Release Group, Anxiety Support             Specializing in Psychotherapy for Mental
Registration $15, mailed to: Ventura Roundup,           BON-FIRE MEETING: Open to Any “A”. 1st &             Group.Cleptomaniacs and Shoplifters                  Illness & Substance Abuse.
PO Box 2884, Ventura, CA 93002                          3rd Sunday of every month. Come up to the            Anonymous (CASA), Co-Dependents Anon.
For more information, please call Tom C. (805)          Mountains for an Outdoor meeting! 7pm-               Depression Anon. Dual Diagnosis Recovery, .                          S an t a An a
990-2369 or visit:                                      8:30pm at the Big Bear Discovery Center              Emotional Anon. Gamblers Anon. in English &          PALM: Earn 2-1/2 CEU's at our PALM work-
www.venturacountyaaroundup.org                          North Shore Drive. Join us for Roasted               Spanish, Living with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome,       shops held in Santa Ana, California on the 3rd

         May 16 - Los Angeles, CA
                                                                                                             Male Survivors of Abuse, N.A., Nar-Anon. Nicotine    Tuesday of each month. Fee $10. Please see
                                                        marshmallows and fellowship after the meet-
                                                                                                             Anon. Recovery, International S.O.S. (Sanity and     our webpage for topic, time & location.
                                                        ing. Everyone Welcome! call: (909) 585-3024.
THE 12 STEPS FOR EVERYBODY will hold a 3-                                                                    Sobriety) Serenity Sisters, Sexual Compulsives       www.palmworkshops.org
hour 12-step Writing Workshop for all those who wish                                                         Anon. Sex and Love Addicts Anon. Call for
to work the 12 Steps on anything & everything. 9:00                      Bu rba n k                           complete listing.                                   METHADONE ANONYMOUS. Recovery
a.m. - 12:00 noon in Pacific Palisades. Basket dona-    FRIDAY     NIGHTS        @      CELEBRATE                                                                 without conflict – every Friday 9am, The Pit
tions only. Call 310.428.0904 or e-mail info@12steps-   RECOVERY: 6pm FREE. The purpose of                   SIERRA TUCSON ALUMNI SUPPORT                         Stop, 1941-A N. Tustin Ave., (714) 564-9932.
foreverybody.org fo more information.                   Celebrate Recovery (CR) is to fellowship &           GROUP: 2nd & 4th Wednesday each month, 6-
                                                        celebrate God’s healing power in our lives           7:30pm, Sha’arei AM: The Santa Monica                         S a n F e r n a n d o Va l l e y

         May 14- 17– Laughlin, Nevada
                                                        through Christ-centered 12 Steps. CR is for          Synagogue, 1448 18th St., Santa Monica, CA.          S TA R T I N G 1 2 - W E E K G R O U P
                                                        anyone with a hurt, habit, or hang-up. Starts        For info visit www.SierraTucson.com or call Tim      F O R S U R V I V O R S of Incest begin-
                                                                                                             McLeod at (866) 638-1650.                            ning Jan. 16 2009 at 7:30 pm.
 25th ANNUAL, TRI-STATE ROUNDUP                         with dinner at 6pm. Childcare available.                                                                  Membership is open to either sex. NO
 AA/Al-Anon/Alateen participation. 24 Hour              Burbank Seventh-day Adventist Church 710                                                                  Perpetrators, No Fragrances, No
Hospitality Room , 24 Hour Marathon Meetings            S. Glenoaks Blvd., (818) 848-7051.                   W.A.A.T. (WOMEN”S ASSOCIATION FOR                    Smoking. Participants need to be able to
, Archives - historical interest, Free Ice Cream        www.burbankCR.blogspot.com                           ADDICTION TREATMENT) We are a unique                 commit to regular attendance. Group
Social Thursday Night, Banquet & Speaker                                                                     fellowship of women in the addiction field,          limited to 10 participants. Participants
Meetings Friday & Saturday Nights, Al-Anon                                                                   devoted to providing networking opportunities,       should have an on-going relationship
Luncheon/Speaker Meetings, Alateen Speaker                             Co sta M e s a                                                                             with a therapist in place. Group will be
                                                                                                             professional development and support to our
Meeting , Native American and Hispanic
                                                        INTERVENTION WORKSHOPS COMES TO                                                                           held in SFV. Call Barbara (818) 269-
                                                        NEW DIRECTIONS FOR WOMEN Host of                     members. We currently have monthly meetings
Meetings, Golf Tournament Friday , Bowling                                                                   in Los Angeles, Van Nuys (San Fernando               1685.
                                                        A&E's top-rated show Intervention, Ken
Tournament Friday night , Poker Run Saturday            Seeley, will visit the New Directions for            Valley), Orange County and San Diego. Free
morning, Dance Saturday night, Family                   Women campus for a series of free interven-          for your first time. $125 per year to become a                          Syl ma r
Breakfast and AA Countdown Sunday morning ,             tion community on the fourth Saturday of             paid member of WAAT. Members can go to any           OASIS WOMEN'S RECOVERY COMMUNI-
Literature, mugs and T-shirt sales.                     each month.The free workshops will be held           chapter meeting at no additional cost. Visit our     TY AA MEETINGS 7:30pm Sundays. 13832
RIVERSIDE RESORT HOTEL & CASINO                         on the New Directions for Women campus               Website for more info. www.waat.us                   Polk St., Sylmar. Need oldtimers & newcom-
Registration $18, mailed to:                            at 2607 Willo Ave in Costa Mesa . For more                                                                ers.
Tri-State Roundup, P.O. Box 2850 Lake Havasu            information regarding the free community                       La C re sent a – C al i f orni a
City, AZ 86405. For more information, please            workshops or New Directions for Women,                                                                                   Te m p l e C i t y
                                                                                                             NEW ALANON MEETING! Tues. Night Sharing
visit: www.tristate-roundup.com.                        call (949) 548-5546 or visit the web site at                                                              CHEERS ALANO CLUB: AA, NA, CMA and
                                                                                                             and Newcomers Group meeting. 8-9pm 4845
         Sunday, May 17th. L.A., CA
                                                                                                             Dunsmore Ave. La Crescenta Center for                Al-Anon Meetings Daily at 5934 Temple City
                                                                                                             Spiritual living. Call Stacey (818) 421-0006.        Blvd. Call for complete listing and times.
MENTAL HEALTH EDUCATION PROJECT                                      Ga rde n Gro v e
                                                                                                                                                                  (626) 286-9975.
LOS ANGELES. A Collaborative Program of                 SERENITY HALL: 7212 Chapman Ave.,                             M i s s i o n H i l ls – C a l if .
Sinai Temple, NAMI-Westside LA,Jewish                   Garden Grove, CA 92845 (714) 893-2938.               BEREAVEMENT GROUP: Wednesday 10-
                                                                                                                                                                                    Ve ni c e
Family Service LA, NAMI Los Angeles                     Meetings All week @ 7:30pm. RULE 62                  11:30am. At Procare Hospice Office, 10200
                                                                                                             Sepulveda Blvd. #145, Mission Hills.                 SOBER & SILENT: 11th Step AA Meeting M-
County Presents: THE ANNUAL JEWISH                      NIGHTS-Stand up Comedy for the sober set.                                                                 F @ 9:00 am. Group discussion followed by a
                                                                                                             Everybody is welcome. Call to confirm: Sara
COMMUNITY CONFERENCE ON MENTAL                          Admission is free. Serenity HallFridays @            Berman (818) 895-8000.                               20 minute meditation. Refreshments provid-
HEALTH. At: Sinai Temple 10400 Wilshire                 10pm.                                                                                                     ed. 414 N. Lincoln. Jim (310) 305-9567.
Blvd. Los Angeles, CA 90024.Free and open                                                                            N ort h H ol l yw ood – C al i f .
to everyone Keynote Speaker: Melody                                     Hollywood                            ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS Meetings Daily                                    W h i tti er
Beattie. 2CEU Credits Avail. Register as an                                                                  at Unit A, 10641 Burbank Blvd. North                 A NEW DUAL DISORDERS ANONYMOUS:
                                                        LIFERING MEETING: Sat. 10:15-11:15am,
attendee or an exhibitor at: www.NAMLA.org                                                                   Hollywood. Call for complete listing and times.      Meeting is starting on Thursday nights at
                                                        1125 N. McCadden Place. More info contact            (818) 505-1905 or go to
or call 310-889-7200, ext. 5 w/questions.                                                                                                                         7:30pm at First Friends Church in Whittier.
                                                        Tim M. (818) 762-5987, www.unhooked.com              www.myspace.com/UnitAye.
                                                                                                                                                                  For more information call Armando at

         June 20 - Los Angeles, CA
                     UP COMING                                                                               CHANDLER LODGE: Alcoholics Anonymous                 (562) 405-2732.
                                                                         W es t H ol ly woo d
                                                                                                             Meetings Daily at 11455 W. Chandler Blvd. N.           F a x o r e ma i l y o u r u p co m i n g e v e nt
                                                        RECOVERY” Every Thursday night at 8PM (1 hour -                                                                                         to
hour 12-step Writing Workshop for all those who wish
                                                        open, speaker, sharing and cross talk) across from   LOS ANGELES OVERDOSE Prevention Task                         f a x : ( 8 1 8 ) 9 0 5 -3 3 0 5 . E m a il :
to work the 12 Steps on anything & everything. 9:00
                                                        Log Cabin - 626 N. Robertson Blvd , West             Force (www.odptf.org). Meets 2nd Thursday of          m a i l @ s t e p s 4 r e c o v e r y. o r g . D e ad l i ne
a.m. - 12:00 noon in Pacific Palisades. Basket dona-
                                                        Hollywood , CA 90069 at the West Hollywood Drug      each month 1pm-3pm at Cri-Help, 11027
tions only. Call 310.428.0904 or e-mail info@12steps-                                                                                                             fo r a dd i t io n s & c h a ng e s a r e th e 1 5t h o f
                                                        and Alcohol Center - Small Room on the South side    Burbank Blvd., N. Hollywood, CA 91601. Call
foreverybody.org fo more information.

                                                        of the building.                                     (818) 985-8323 ext. 141.                                   t h e m o nt h p ri o r to p u bl i c at i o n.

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       STEPS for recovery -              A Non-Profit Organization    • phone (818) 905-STEP • fax (818) 905-3305                    May 2009
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Required, No Contracts to Sign, Free Phone & Laundry, Big                                                                                          tion for men in North Hollywood (Cri-Help neighborhood). Close
Screen TV w/cable, Pool, Jacuzzi, B.B.Q.’s, $490 Per Month,                 GRAMERCY GUESTHOUSE - SINCE 1978: Quiet Sober Living Home              to meetings and transportation (orange and red lines). Clean,
$130 Per Week. (818) 993-5115 ask for Bird or Mike.                         for mature employed gentlemen in 12-Step Recovery. Premium cable,      cozy, and well maintained. Come visit us! (818) 612-1439
                                                                            laundry, kitchen, A/C, Gay friendly. $600 per month. (323) 732-7848.   Website:www.primarypurposehomes.com.
BONNIE’S HOUSE provides co-ed sober living at an affordable price,
                                                                            HOLLYCREST PLACE: SOBER LIVING IN HOLLYWOOD                            RECOVERY ZONE (North Hills & Van Nuys) Quality Sober
only $450 a month. A comfortable and safe environment located near                                                                                 Living For Men. Cable TV, online computers, gym, food, legal
                                                                            HILLS Certified, upscale, secluded house & gardens w/full
shopping and transportation in the North Hills/ Granada Hills area. Cable                                                                          help and more. Call toll free 1-866-RU ZONED.
                                                                            kitchen and laundry. Near bus lines & Studios. Only 6-beds for
TV, air conditioning and much more. Joe B (818) 903-2484 or Call man-       mature men in 12-step program $500/mo.plus $150 deposit. Call
ager (818) 497-0970.                                                        James @ (323) 876-5485 or (323) 449-3126.                              ROAD TO RECOVERY: Pasadena Freedom House.A serene
                                                                                                                                                   environment geared for dual diagnosis clients. Spacious rooms,
BURBANK MEN'S SOBER LIVING 2 MAN ROOMS. No deposit.                         H.O.W. HOUSE: A structured sober living home for men in a              full kitchen, cable and other amenities. On-Site testing, counsel-
Clean house/Nice neighborhood near Burbank Group. Laundry                   quiet residential Whittier neighborhood. Comfortable 2 man             ing and therapy sessions available. For Information contact
                                                                            rooms. Close to public transportation and two shopping malls.          David S. at (626) 755-3332.
facilities, utilities and cable included.
                                                                            $550 per month.www.howhouse.org. Call (562) 777-1222.
$200.00 weekly. Call today 818-445-9901.
                                                                                                                                                   RUTH'S HOUSE SAFE SOBER ENVIRONMENT: Supports
                                                                            IF YOU ARE SERIOUS ABOUT YOUR RECOVERY SO
                                                                            ARE WE: Progress House management cares about your                     eight residents. House is clean and ready for move in with new
BURBANK: THE VALLEY LODGE. Southern California’s oldest men’s
                                                                            road in recovery. Flexible payment schedules are avail-                beds. Serious inquiries contact Lisa at (818) 317-8417 or Tamar
Sober Living Home. Conveniently located in a safe neighborhood.
                                                                            able. www.progresshouse.com or Call (310) 543-1212.                    (310) 936-8172.
Bed and Meals $110. per week. (818) 843-9270.
                                                                            LIVE IN A BEAUTIFUL STATE OF THE ART: Victorian style                  SAN DIEGO, SAFE HOUSE TOWNHOUSES AND APART-
BYRAM HOUSE, Men’s Sober Independent Living Located in North                house minutes from Downtown LA. 100% drug/alcohol free envi-           MENTS (City Heights District). Sober, gated, lowest den-
Glendale. We accept Dually-Diagnosed Clients. Low Rates, Large              ronment. Fees start at $425 a month and include a fully stocked        sity population, most affordable. Call (858) 483-5866 for
Rooms, Close to Meetings, One Blk from shopping & major buses. Call:        kitchen, cable TV, laundry room, and basic utilities. Close to         details. Or visit soberlivingsd.com.
(818) 265-1262 - Leave message with best time to call.                      Metro/MTA. Phone/cable ready rooms. Computer lab,
                                                                            Wheelchair Accessible, Supportive services-24 hr staff, 12 step        SERENE CENTER LONG BEACH–TRANSITIONAL SOBER
                                                                            house meetings. Letters for court and probation officers, etc.         LIVING: 38 bed transitional sober living community for adult
                                                                            provided. Call the number below and ask for the manager.               males located 1/2 mile for the beach and 1 mile south of down-
since 1960. North Hollywood, CA 91601. 818-766-4534                         Phone: (213) 383-8890, Fax: (213) 383-8808, Email:                     town Long Beach. A new facility with first class accommodations
w w w. c h a n d l e r l o d g e . o r g .                                  thathouse@peopleinprogress.org                                         and amenities including a gymnasium, learning center, comput-
                                                                                                                                                   er lab, high-speed internet access, meditation garden, commu-
CLUB 12 MEN’S SOBER LIVING: New home near all, bus stop, shop-              MAGNOLIA PLACE SOBER LIVING: Safe and Structured Sober                 nity center and more. Only two men per shared bathroom. Sober
ping, meetings, cable tv all rooms, bed/bath linens included, community     Living for Women, Beautiful & Serene. 12 Step Meetings,                living is adjacent to outpatient counseling office.Facility is staffed
                                                                            Meditation, Family Night, Peer & House Meetings, All Amenities,        24 hours a day. Must be referred by an addiction professional or
internet and phone. $125 per week. Call Mark (818) 674-2575.
                                                                            Wholesome & Nutritious Meals Included, Management on                   sponsor. $700/month sober living, $1350/month transitional liv-
                                                                            Premises, Qualified & Caring Staff, Random Alcohol/Drug                ing with counseling. www.serenecenter.com. Telephone
COME HOME TO CROSSROADS: 12-Step Recovery Home Clean &                      Testing, Centrally Located, A/C, Satellite TV, Internet, Phone &       (866)973-7364.
Safe , Freshly Painted, Near all Major Transportation, Central Air/Heat,    Voice Mail, Laundry Facilities. $1650. per month. Call: Jamie A.
Brand new beds, Fresh new linens & pillows, Computer,Access, hdTV &         Foley, CADC II (310) 903-3630, Los Angeles, CA. www.magno-
                                                                            liaplacesoberliving.com.                                               SOBER LIVING FOR WOMEN BEDS AVAILABLE. $110/week.
DVD Begin your new life at Crossroads. Call Renato (818) 429-9467 or                                                                               Provide own food. Vesper House, 6301 Cahuenga Blvd. North
(818) 708-7565 Winnetka, California 91306.                                                                                                         Hollywood, CA. Call Charlotte at (818) 769-3057.
                                                                            MEN’S SOBER LIVING: Progress House: Highgrove Facility, 2
                                                                            men to a room. Torrance Hollywood Riviera area. Minutes to the
COMMUNITY SOBER LIVING UPSCALE SAN FERNANDO                                 beach. www.progresshouse.com or Call (310) 543-1212.                   SOLUTIONS FOR WOMEN. Beautiful home in North Hills. Free
Valley Resource and Referral Service Sober Family Housing.                                                                                         cable, w/d & phone (long distance). $600/month.
Co-Ed, Children & Couples Welcome, $500-900/Monthly.                        NELROSE HOUSE: Gorgeous brand-new sober living house                   Call Eddie Jones (818) 317-6947.
Heated Pool, Steam Room/Sauna Basketball & Tennis Courts,                   just blocks away from Venice beach, 8 women capacity.
Semi-Private Rooms, Single Beds, Quality Fresh Meals,                       Supportive staff on site daily. Contact Mary (310) 313-6448.           THE HOPE HOUSE FOR WOMEN, a clean and sober live-in
Wireless Hi-Speed Internet, State of the Art Computers, Free
                                                                            NEW WAY FOUNDATION, INC., VICTORY HOUSE                                facility in Reseda since 1989, will help you build a 12 step sup-
Long Distance, Cable in Every Room with All Movies,Court
                                                                            “AWARE” PROGRAM: Drug & Alcohol Treatment. State                       port system you can use your entire life. Call (818)-882-6923.
Appearances Included. Free Attorney Consultation, DCFS, All
Courts, Prop 36. Parole Approved Musicians/Lawyers                          Licensed & Certified 180 day Residential Facility for men
Assistance Funding Authorized. Probation, 12 Step AA/NA/CA                  18-64 years of age without insurance NO money out of                   TURNING POINT SOBER LIVING HOME FOR MEN
Meetings On Site Fun Sober A c t i v i t i e s . Helpline(818) 893-         pocket or sliding scale fee. Outpatient Program for                    in Van Nuys. Near Shopping and Bus lines,Central Air & Heat
4365. www.CommunitySoberLiving.org.                                         Women, Men, Children & Families.Sober Living for Men.                  Cable T.V. Internet & more. Call (818) 387-6482.
                                                                            Call:(818) 842-9416 or(818) 845-2702.
                                                                            www.new-wayfoundation.com                                              WOMEN’S SOBER LIVING PROGRESS HOUSE: Lilly House
                                                                                                                                                   Facility, female sober living. Very spacious with large bedrooms
Phone, Cable & Internet, near stores & 12-Step Mtgs. Located                OXFORD HOUSE SOBER LIVING FOR MEN & WOMEN:                             and baths. www.progresshouse.com or Call (310) 543-1212.
in the City of Winnetka . $550.00 or Weekly rates. Contact Lisa             Single or double occupancy, full kitchen, on site free laundry,
(818) 300 -1002                                                             phone, cable TV. Near stores, shopping, public transportation &
                                                                            12-step meetings. Located in Private Pasadena neighborhood.            WOMEN FOR SOBRIETY CENTER INC: Is a centrally located
                                                                            Single occupancy $700, Double $650 per month. Call (626) 216-          Sober Living House providing a safe & supportive environment
GLENDALE ADVENTIST ALCOHOL & DRUG SERVICES: p ro-                                                                                                  for women and women with children at affordable prices. 12-
vides acute and sub-acute detoxification, residential                                                                                              steps of recovery, some single rooms available. Call us at (323)
treatment and outpatient services for individuals w i t h                   PAMPERED LADIES SOBER LIVING HOUSE. Visit our website                  733-4481 or (323) 842-9966.
dependencies. Outpatient group therapy, multi-family                        at godsendnetwork.com. or call Peggy 310-991-5711. We have
therapy, couples counseling & codependency group.                           fun! $750.00 per month.                                                WOMEN HATTERAS HOUSE - WOMEN-Shared accom-
State licensed/certified & accredited by the Joint                                                                                                 modations in private home. Laundry. Meals. Cable TV.
Commission on Accreditation of Healthcare O r g a n i z a t i o n s .       PRIMARY PURPOSE SUBSTANCE-FREE LIVING: Separate                        Phone. Pool.Serious Program Only. No Courts. No
Call (818)242-3116. w w w . g l e n d a l e a d v e n t i s t . c o m       men and women's homes. Van Nuys, Valley Glen and new loca-

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                                 RECOVERY RESOURCE GUIDE
         Steps For Recovery Newspaper publishes Recovery Resource Guide monthly as a community service to assist those in need
             of help or information. You are welcome to submit listings and volunteer needs. Submit your listing by mail, Email or fax.

                                                                                                                             Eternal Grace: Christian Recovery Ministry (818) 769-7627.
                                                                                                                             Fear of Success Anonymous: FOSA. (818) 628-6873.
        N AT I O N A L I N F O R M AT I O N                          L.A . & SURRO UNDING COUNTY

Adult Children of Alcoholics World Service                        12 Steps for Everybody (310) 428-0904 or visit             Food Addicts Anonymous www.foodaddictsanonymous.org
        AND HELP RE SOURCES                                                  RESO URCE G UI DE
Organization: (310) 534-1815, www.adultchildren.org.                                                                         Food Addicts in Recovery Anonymous (FA) (800)
ADP California Dept. of Alcohol and Drug Programs                 AA Los Angeles (323) 936-4343.

                                                                  AA Los Angeles (Spanish) (323) 735-2089.                   Friends helping Friends Inc: Homeless, No Money,
                                                                                                                             600-6028. Meeting info at www.foodaddicts.org

Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, 475                          AA Meetings: Temple City (626) 286-9975.
(800) 879-2772. www.adp.ca.gov

                                                                  Alcoholics Anonymous (SGV) Central Office (626)            Homeless Shelter for women Sunshine Mission, (213)
                                                                                                                             We can help - Sober Living. (323) 293-9778.
Riverside Dr, New York, NY 10115, (212) 870-3400.

American Council for Drug Education www.acde.org                  Adult Children of Alcoholics South Bay (310) 320-          Gay & Lesbian Alcoholics Alcoholism Recovery
www.aa.org                                                        914-1861.                                                  747-7419 www.sunshinemission.org

Bilingual Shelter for Victims of Domestic Violence,               Addicts for Christ Los Angeles (310) 452-4328.             Gay Treatment of drug alcohol abuse depression mental ill-
(800) 488-DRUG                                                    3931. www.adultchildren.org                                Support www.gayalcoholics.com

                                                                                                                             Homeless Health Care Los Angeles www.hhcla.org,
                                                                  www.AddictionSearch.com: Resources & Information.
(800) 548-2722 (24 Hour).                                                                                                    ness or anxiety. (323) 671-1600. www.AlternativesInc.com

California Rehab Guide: Free On-Line Rehab

                                                                  Al-Anon/Alateen LA County (818) 760-7122.
                                                                                                                             INFO LINE community service referrals, shelter, food,
                                                                                                                             (213) 381-0515

Child Protection Helpline, (800) 540-4000 (24 Hour).              Al-Anon/Alateen Spanish, LA County, (562) 948-2190.
Directory - www.calrehabguide.com

National Substance Abuse Treatment Referral                       Al-Anon meeting, Temple City (626) 286-9975                Latino Family Alcohol & Drug Abuse (323) 722-4529.
                                                                                                                             medical, (800) 339-6993 or simply dial 211.

Hotline (800) 662-HELP.                                           Ala-Pets Sliding scale fees. Pet care when you are in
Cocaine Anonymous World Service Offices, (800) 347-                                                                          Life Recovery: 12 Step-Christian Ministry, (310) 463-
                                                                  treatment or medically unable to care for your pet. We

                                                                  Alcoholics Anonymous Central Office (818) 988-3001.
                                                                                                                             MADD Mother Against Drunk Drivers, (916) 921-6233.
                                                                  Care When you Can’t www.alapets.org, 800-400-8724
Codependents for friends and family of Sex Addicts,
8998. www.ca.org                                                                                                             4945. www.12steppin2jesus.com.

                                                                  Alcoholics Anonymous Santa Clarita Valley Central
                                                                                                                             Marijuana Anonymous Los Angeles (323) 964-2370.
                                                                  Office: (661) 250-9922, www.scv-aa.org.
County of Los Angeles Department of Mental Health                                                                            Marijuana Anonymous Van Nuys (818) 759-9194.
(COSA) (763) 537-6904, www.cosa-recovery.org

                                                                  Anorexia & Bulimia - Overeaters Anonymous: (626)
                                                                                                                             Marijuana Anonymous Inland Empire (626) 583-9582.
                                                                                                                             National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) San
(800) 854-7771, has complete listing of mental health

Domestic Violence (SAFE): (800) 799-7233 Crisis Hotline.          Artists    Meeting         of   Debtors    Anonymous
providers at www.dmh.co.la.ca.us/providers/allprov.htm            335-3355. Inland Empire

Families Anonymous (800) 736-9805.                                                                                           Narcotics Anonymous Southern California Regional
                                                                                                                             Fernando Valley Chapter, Free Meetings (818) 994-6747
                                                                  AVYFS, Antelope Valley Youth And Family Services
                                                                  www.SoCalDA.org 310-822-7250.

Food Addicts in Recovery Anonymous (FA) National
Office (781) 932-6300. www.foodaddicts.org                                                                                   Narcotics Anonymous (818) 773-9999.
                                                                                                                             Office (626) 359-0084.
                                                                  CCBCDC: California Certification Board of Chemical
                                                                  (661) 949-1069.
                                                                                                                             Narcotics Anonymous of the SFV (818) 997-3822.
HHS The U.S. Dept. of Health & Human Services, (877)
                                                                                                                             Narcotics Anonymous (West Valley) (818) 787-9706.
                                                                  Dependency          Counselors       (562)     624-1111.

                                                                                                                             Narcotics Anonymous Westside (310) 390-0279.
IVDARS Recovery Centers, (free referrals) 800-870-2281.           CAARR California Association of Addiction Recovery
696-6775, www.dhhs.gov                                            www.CaliforniaCertificationBoard.org

                                                                                                                             Narcotics Anonymous, Temple City, (626) 286-9975.
                                                                  CADCA Community Anti-Drug Coalitions of American           Nicotine Anonymous (800) 642-0666
Jason Foundation A Youth Suicide Prevention Program
www.inlandrecovery.org                                            Resources (916) 338-9460, www.caarr.org

                                                                                                                             Obsessive Compulsive Support Group (SHARE)
                                                                  CCPG California Council on Problem Gambling
Literacy Hotline (800) 707-7323 (or call your local library).
                                                                  (800) 54-CADCA.
                                                                                                                             Overeaters Anonymous-Beach Cities (310) 374-
(888) 881-2323, www.jasonfoundation.com                                                                                      (310) 305-8878.

Love Addicts Anonymous www.Loveaddicts.org                        Center for Living and Learning Job Search                  Overeaters Anonymous LA Intergroup (323) 653-7652.
                                                                  www.calproblemgambling.org (800) 522-4700.                 8533.

Marijuana Anonymous (800) 766-6779.
Nar-Anon Family Groups (800) 477-6291.                                                                                       Overeaters Anonymous 24 Hour (323) 653-7499.
                                                                  Preparation Program (888) 266-1919. Van Nuys.              www.oalaig.org

National Runaway Switchboard (800) Runaway.                       Cocaine Anonymous World Service Office (310) 559-          Overeaters Anonymous - SFV Intergroup (818) 342-2222.

National Council on Alcoholism and Drug                                                                                      Overeaters Anonymous San Gabriel Valley Intergroup
                                                                  Clutterers Anonymous (310) 281-6064.
                                                                  5833. www.ca.org.

                                                                  Cocaine Anonymous of the SFV, (818) 760-8402               Overeaters Anonymous South Bay (562) 493-9030.
Dependence Headquarters, (All NCADDs provide help                                                                            (626) 335-3355.

                                                                  Co-Dependents Anonymous (CoDA) Los Angeles                 Pasadena Mental Health Center-Low fee counseling
& info and other alcohol/drug related services).

NCADI National Clearinghouse for Alcohol & Drug

                                                                  Compulsive Eaters Anonymous: (562) 942-8161.               Pills Anonymous www.pillsanonymous.com
                                                                  (323) 969-4995.                                            www.pmhc.org, (626) 798-0907 1495 Lake Ave. Pasadena

NCH National Coalition for the Homeless (202) 462-                Compulsive Eaters Anonymous: (818) 503-7484.               Parenting and Anger Management classes offered in
Information, (800) 729-6686. www.ncadi.samhsa.gov

                                                                  Crystal Meth-Anonymous (213) 488-4455.
Nicotine Anonymous (877) TRY-NICA.
4822, www.nationalhomeless.org                                    www.valleyhow.org                                          Long Beach and Rosemead. Individual,Family, group,

                                                                  Crystal Meth-Anonymous Temple City (626) 286-9975.
                                                                                                                             couples counseling. Court mandates accepted. Call Dr.

Problem Gambling 24-Hour Help Line (Calif.) (800)                 Divorce Anonymous (SHARE) (310) 305-8878.                  Problem Gambling 24-hour Help (800) 322-8748 (CA
                                                                                                                             Williams (562) 290-7331.

                                                                  Double Trouble in Recovery (SHARE) (310) 305-8878.
RAINN Hotline (victims of sexual assault) 800-656-HOPE.                                                                      Rageaholics Anonymous (310) 877-9899. Ask for Tom
Gambler or (800) 522-4700.
                                                                  Dual Diagnosis 12-Step Study Thursdays, (310) 305-8878.
                                                                                                                             only) (760) 320-0234.

Rape Hotline (24 Hours) (800) 585-6231.                           Emotional Health Anonymous (SGV) (626) 287-6260.           Recording for the Blind & Dyslexic Los Angeles (323)
                                                                  Emotions Anonymous Info Line (323) 589-3768.
Sex Addicts Anonymous (800) 477-8191.                                                                                        Recovery, Inc. Nervous Symptoms, Fears, Anger
                                                                  Emotions Anonymous (SFV) (818) 377-4341.
                                                                                                                             664-5525 or www.rfbdla.org

                                                                                                                             Management, Anxiety, Depression, OCD (323) 651-2170.

16   STEPS for recovery -      A Non-Profit Organization   • phone (818) 905-STEP • fax (818) 905-3305         May 2009
Recovering Couples Anon. www.Recovering-Couples.org             Narcotics Anonymous Lower Desert (760) 346-5800.           Fetal Alcohol Syndrome Information (626) 793-7350.
The Salvation Army Adult Rehab Center, 21375                    Narcotics Anonymous Southwest (951) 652-5326.              San Fernando Valley Counseling Center, affordable
                                                                Salvation Army Adult Rehab (909) 889-9605.
Secular Organization For Sobriety (323) 666-4295.                                                                          Jason Foundation A Youth Suicide Prevention Program
Roscoe Blvd., Canoga Park, (818) 883-6321.                                                                                 mental health services (818) 341-1111.

www.SerenityQuest.org promoting healing & growth.
                                                                Access Line for mental health & alcohol/drug emergen-
                                                                           SAN DIE GO COUNTY
Sex Addicts Anonymous (213) 896-2964.                                                                                      Suicide Prevention 24Hour Assessment Center (800)
                                                                                                                           (888) 881-2323, www.jasonfoundation.com

Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous (323) 957-4881.
Sexaholics Anonymous (SA) (213) 480-1096.                       Adult Children of Alcoholics (619) 287-7782.
                                                                cies (800) 479-3339.

                                                                                                                           Suicide Prevention Center (877) 727-4747
                                                                                                                           SUICIDE (784-2433).

Sexual Compulsive Anonymous (310) 859-5585.                     Alcoholics Anonymous Central Office (619) 265-8762.
                                                                                                                           The Council of Alcoholism and Drug Abuse (CADA)
Sexual Recovery Anonymous (323) 850-8565.                       Al-Anon (619) 296-2666.
S-Anon (Friends and Families of Sex Addicts) (818)              Children of the Night (800) 551-1300.
                                                                                                                           Drop-In Center (805) 962-6195, www.cadasb.org

                                                                Co-Dependents Anonymous, meetings (619) 222-1244.
                                                                                                                           Job Accommodation Centers, Toll Free 1-800-526-
                                                                                                                                      DI SABI LIT Y SERV ICES
SHARE For all other self-help groups (310) 305-8878.            Compulsive Eaters Anonymous HOW (619) 543-8961.
973-2235 or http://sanonsocal.org

Sober Living Network (310) 396-5270.                            Gamblers Anonymous (GA) Hotline (619) 239-2911.
                                                                                                                           RIDE INFO Paratransit Referral Service, transportation
                                                                                                                           7234 (voice & TDD).

Survivors of Incest Anonymous (562) 630-6844.                   Narcotics Anonymous Central Office (619) 584-1007.
                                                                Nicotine Anonymous (619) 682-7092.                         Social Security & Medicare Eligibility, Info (800) 772-
                                                                                                                           voucher program, (800) 431-7882.

The Other Bar: free. 12 step based peer recovery net-
                                                                Rape Crisis (858) 272-1767.
                                                                San Diego City Help, non-profit support group for per-
                                                                                                                           1213, TDD (800) 288-7185.
work for lawyers and law students with substance abuse
                                                                                                                                      FOOD AND FINANCIAL
The Sober Living Network referral service (800) 799-2084.
problems 800-222-0767; otherbar.org

                                                                Salvation Army Rehab Center, (619) 239-4037.               Los Angeles County Department of Public Social
                                                                sons with herpes. (619) 491-1194.                                        A S S I S TA N C E
The San Diego Sober Living Homes Association:
                                                                Sex Addicts Anonymous (760) 736-0644.                      Services, Info on General Relief, Aid to Families
Workaholics Anonymous (310) 358-6587.                           Sexaholics Anonymous (858) 495-2446.
(858) 483-5866.

                                                                Suicide/Crisis Intervention (800) 479-3339.
                                                                                                                           w/Dependent Children (AFDC), Food Stamps, MediCal

Young People in Alcoholics Anonymous Los Angeles                                                                           INFO LINE of Los Angeles, referrals to emergency food
                                                                                                                           and other forms for financial assistance, (213) 744-6623.

                                                                Alcoholics Anonymous, (602) 264-1341; East (480)
County. www.LACYPAA.org                                                             ARIZ O NA                              programs and emergency housing. (800) 339-6993 Also

2-1-1- Orange County, referrals for alcohol/drug,shelters for
     O RANGE /VE NT URA CO UNTY                                                                                            211 (24 Hour). TDD (800) 660-4026.

                                                                Al-Anon, (602) 249-1257.
                                                                834-9033; West (623) 937-7770.

                                                                                                                           24 Hour INFO Line Burbank/Glendale (818) 956-1100,
                                                                                                                                     COMM UNI TY SERVI CES
                                                                Alateen (602) 249-1257.                                    San Fernando Valley (818) 501-4447.
homeless, food, domestic violence, child abuse. Call 211 or

Adult Children of Alcoholics (714) 549-5733.                    Cocaine Anonymous, (602) 279-3838.                         No-Cost or Low Cost Medical Care County of LA
888-600-4357. www.211oc.org

Alcohol/Drug Education Prevention Team (ADEPT),                 Community Info. & Referral, 24-hour Helpline (602)         Depart. of Health Services (800) 378-9919.

AA Central Office (714) 556-4555. www.oc-aa.org                 Domestic Violence Shelter: (800) 799-7739 or (602)         California HIV/AIDS Hotline (800) 367-2437.Spanish
(714) 834-4058.                                                 263-8856 & (800) 352-3792 outside metro Phoenix.            H E P C / H I V / A I D S I N F O R M AT I O N

AA Central Office of North OC Fullerton, (714) 773-4357.
                                                                E.D.A.(Eating Disorders Anonymous) www.eatingdisor-        Clean Needles Now/Harm Reduction Central L.A. (323)

AA Satalite Office Mission Viejo, (949) 582-2697.
                                                                                                                           (800) 400-7432.

AA Central Office of Camarillo, (805) 495-1111.
                                                                Gamblers Anonymous (602) 266-9784.                         Friends of AIDS Foundation (310) 401-4755. Referrals to
                                                                dersanonymous.org                                          857-5366.

Al-Anon (714)748-1113.
                                                                Gam-anon (480) 893-2729 or (480) 598-1226
ASH (Alcoholic Services for Homosexuals) (714)                  Narcotics Anonymous, Meeting info. (480) 897-4636,         Hepatitis C Task Force For LA County: 2330 Beverly
                                                                                                                           HIV/AIDS programs and services in Los Angeles County.

Battered Women's Helpline (714) 891-8121.                       National Council on Alcoholism and Drug
534-5820 (24 Hour).                                             www.arizona-na.org                                         Blvd. Los Angeles, CA 90057 (213) 381-0515,

CODA (Co-dependents Anonymous), (714) 573-0174.                 Dependence, 4201 N. 16th St., Suite 140, Phoenix           National AIDS Hotline, (800) CDCINFO. (800) 344-

Family Alcohol/Drug Counseling Center, (805) 988-1031.                                                                     SIDA (Spanish), (800) AIDS-TTY (TTD/TTY for deaf)
HER PLACE: Paths to Recovery for Women: Non-Profit              Overeaters Anonymous (602) 234-1195.                       REACH (risk reduction education and community health)
                                                                85016, (602) 264-6214.

                                                                                                                           FREE HIV Prevention education and testing for HIV, HEP
Hispanic Alcoholism Services, (714) 531-4624.
Counseling and Groups, Laguna Hills (949) 707-5111.                     N AT I O N A L C O U N C I L O N
                                                                         ALCOHO LISM & DRUG                                B&C and Syphilis. Referrals for substance abuse-etc., HIV+

Marijuana Anonymous, (714) 999-9409.                                                                                       On-Line Resources for Hep C: www.hepcsource.com
                                                                                                                           or HIV- people in need. (866) 33-REACH, (714) 834-7926.
                                                                NCADD San Gabriel &Pomona Valleys, (626) 331-5316.
                                                                 D E P E N D E N C E W W W. N C A D D . O R G
Narcotics Anonymous Hotline, (805) 641-0451.
                                                                NCAAD of Pasadena, (626) 795-9127.
New Beginnings Fellowship Center Sober Club- 12-
                                                                                                                           www.hepcstraightup.com • www.hepatitusc.org•

                                                                NCAAD of Sacramento, (916) 922-9217
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                                                                NCADD of South Bay Area, (310) 328-1460.                   12 Step & Big Book Study (Hep C): www.hcvanony-
Overcomers Outreach (Christian 12-Step Support
Step (714) 839-5501.

                                                                NCADD of Long Beach, (562) 426-8262.                       mous.org
                                                                NCADD of Santa Clarita Valley (6661.253.9400 .
Overeaters Anonymous (714) 953-0900.
group) (800) 310-3001.
                                                                                                                           12 STEPS FOR EVERYBODY is seeking volunteers to help
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                                                                NCADD of the San Fernando Valley, (818) 997-0414
Rape Crisis Hotline, (714) 957-2737.
                                                                NCADD of Orange County (949) 770-0847.
Recovery Solutions: (714) 542-3581.
                                                                                                                           provide 12-Step writing meetings in their home or local church.

                                                                NCADD of San Diego (619) 553-8173.
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SPIN: Serving People In Need, Non-profit. Assists homeless                                                                 BURBANK SEVENTH-DAY ADVENTIST CHURCH:
                                                                NCAAD of San Francisco, (415) 296-9900.

                                                                NCAAD of San Jose (408) 292-7292.
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                                                                NCAAD of Santa Barbara, (805) 963-1433
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Alcoholics Anonymous, Temecula (951) 695-1535.                                                                             SHARE! the Self-Help And Recovery Exchange, a project of
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Narcotics Anonymous Southern California Regional
                                                                Armenian Relief Center, Prevention of drug/alcohol
                                                                of those who work in adult entertainment (818) 981-5681.
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Narcotics Anonymous Helpline (800) 397-2333.
Office (626) 359-0084.                                                                                                     looking for volunteers. Bi-lingual English/Spanish helpful. Call

                                                                Battered Women/Children Hotline, (818) 887-6589.
                                                                abuse (818) 242-2390.
                                                                                                                                The Steps For Recovery Recovery Resource Guide is a
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Narcotics Anonymous Helpline (909) 370-3568.
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Narcotics Anonymous 24 hr. Helpline (909) 584-7115.                                                                                    or information. If you want to add, upail:
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Narcotics Anonymous Desert Empire (760) 255-2045.                                                                                   mail@steps4recovery.org or call: 818-905-3305.

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                   Quote Of The Month

                                   of the
                                   BY MICHEAL Z.
          s 2009 grinds on, I’m finding that I    ego. I had hurt a lot of people, including

A         have to continue to surrender more
          and more of my life. I don’t have to
          tell you how the economy has made
even the most basic things challenging – like
earning a living – but personally I’ve been
                                                  myself, and I was forced to admit that my
                                                  way wasn't the right way after all. Once I
                                                  surrendered to this, I became right-sized,
                                                  and I began to let God assume His proper
                                                  role in my life. Today, it's a relief not to
struggling with a lot of health issues as well.   have to play God. It's so much easier to
Nothing life threatening, thank God, but          suit up and show up, and to let God deter-
potentially painful, costly, and very incon-      mine what results are the best for all con-
venient. As more and more things escape my        cerned. Today I pray to be relieved of the
grip of imagined control, surrender once          bondage of self, and I know the more I can
again is the way out. Thankfully, this is easi-   get out of the way, the more good God can
er and easier to do the more practice I have      do in and through my life. Today the dif-
with it. Whereas before I wanted and even         ference between me and God is real clear.
needed to play God, nowadays I’m rewarded
by peace and serenity when I let go and let
God. I have resumed the practice of reading              Re f l e c t i o n Q u e s t i o n s :
pages 86 to 88 in the Big Book each morn-
ing, and I find that my day not only goes bet-     How often have I tried to play God?
ter when I do, but at the end of the day I’m
not exhausted like before. Turning my              Why did I think I knew what was best
thoughts and actions over to God truly is the        for myself and everyone else?
easier, softer way. I was at a meeting a few
weeks ago when I heard this month’s quote,         What did I discover when I looked at
and I immediately understood the wisdom in                     my behavior?
it. Once again I was filled with gratitude that
I had a program and a way of dealing with
                                                  What did it take for me to surrender?
life on life’s terms, and it reminded me that I
can handle anything as long as I remember
that I am not in charge. My role is to suit up     How often do I truly just suit up and
and show up and then surrender the results to                  show up?
my Higher Power. Now there’s a philosophy
for life in 2009 – and beyond!.                    What is my experience like when I do

     THIS MONTH'S WISDOM QUOTE:                       If you liked this month's Wisdom Quote,
"The difference between me and God is             please note that you can receive a FREE
                                                  Wisdom Quote each Monday morning by sign-
     that God doesn't want to be me."             ing up on my website:
                                                      I have also published two books of
I can't tell you how many times I've tried        Wisdom Quotes called "The Wisdom of the
to arrange all of life to suit my needs. I've
                                                  Rooms, A Year of Weekly Reflections." This
planned and schemed, worked and manip-
ulated, hoped and dreamed, and then               month's quote is from the newly released
manipulated some more all in an attempt           Volume Two. You can get them through my
                                                  website or on A m a z o n . c o m
                                                  Michael Z lives and writes in Los Angeles , CA . A
to get the world to behave the way I want-

                                                  registered MFT therapist intern and spiritual coun-
ed it to. When my sponsor told me I was

                                                  selor, he uses the 12 Steps as a guide for spiritual,
trying to play God, I took it as a compli-
                                                  emotional and physical recovery. He shares his expe-
ment and secretly thought I was doing a
                                                  rience, strength and hope in meetings around the
pretty good job at it. When I started work-
                                                  world, and conducts workshops and retreats on the
                                                  12 Step journey. For more information,visit:
ing the program, I began looking more

closely at my behavior and at the conse-
quences of my unchecked ambition and
    ...as we trudge the road of happy destiny."
         From Alcoholics Anonymous Page 64

                         Dictionary Defintions of the word trudge"
    * slog: walk heavily and firmly, as when weary, or through mud.
    * a long difficult walk. wordnet.princeton.edu/perl/webwn
    * A tramp, i.e. a long and tiring walk; To walk wearily with heavy, slow steps;
      To trudge along or over a route etc. en.wiktionary.org/wiki/trudge
    * trudged - is to walk wearily with effort. A trudge is a hard or weary walk.
      Merriam-Webster (1913)
    * trudger - someone who walks in a laborious heavy-footed manner


www.Steps4Recovery.org • email: mail@steps4recovery.org                                                   May 2009

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