Getting to know your residents
What is networking?
• Networking is far more than shaking
hands, introducing yourself and being
• It's about presence, integrity and having a
vision that transcends individuals' goals;
• In the residence halls,
– it’s about bringing people and ideas together
in the first month of school.
– It’s about creating a community
Meeting & Greeting
• Name tags
• How do you shake someone’s hand?
• Conversation Topics
• Print neatly
• Print first name larger than last
• Place on the right side
• Remembering their name
• Make your name tag
Handshakes - What not to do
• The Wet One
• The Softie
A soft handshake demonstrates weakness, lack of confidence, lack of interest, and lack of
masculinity. These are obviously the opposites of power and strength, important attributes in
respected and successful people. I would suggest that if you do have a weak handshake, firm it
up. This will definitely leave a better impression every time you shake hands. Pay attention to how
much pressure is applied by the receiver and notice if your handshake is firm enough, then adjust
• The Tipsy Finger
I am sure this happened to you before. Someone takes your four fingers, not allowing you to really
lock your hand with theirs, and then squeezes your hand hard. That is really frustrating and should
be avoided. This can happen easily when rushed or simply by accident. My advice to you is to
apologize and ask the person for a second handshake. It might sound awkward, but people
actually remember this and will appreciate the respect derived from a real quality handshake.
• The Squeeze
This type of handshake is classic. You know how guys and their egos are; they have to be the
strongest male around. Some guys really like to squeeze your hand as if it was a lemon. Don't get
me wrong, I like a sturdy handshake, but it has to be comfortable to the receiver to some degree.
Just save your testosterone for the gym and moderate your grip.
• The Homey
These days, people need a manual to decode some of those weird handshakes. I see kids
twiddling, slapping, clicking, and dancing with their fingers, and they actually consider these
handshakes. Please grow up and be men (or women). No more hocus pocus; a simple, firm
Handshakes - What to do
• Here are two tips in order to keep your hands dry.
– Wash your hands before going to the interview or meet people
and keep your palms open until the time comes to shake hands
with the employer. Make sure not to close your fists, because
that's what generates the heat and sweat.
– Wipe your hands before the handshake. Carry a Kleenex to wipe
your hands, as this will help you absorb the excess moisture and
allow you to give a dry handshake.
• A handshake is a very simple gesture, but can be a
determining factor in interviews and social gatherings.
• Just make sure you firmly shake the person's hand and
look at them straight in the eye.
– Web to web
– Fingertips to side of palm
– Always use your right hand
• This is a simple, yet effective tip which will hopefully
allow you to make a great first impression.
• As a group, let’s decide on what topics are
good for starting conversations.
• As a group, let’s decide on what topics are
bad for starting conversations.
• How do you introduce two people?
– Hello X, I would like you to meet Y.
• Inviting others in
– Wait for a natural pause in the conversation.
– X, have you met Y?
– X, this is Y.
– Ask Y a question about topic.
How to Network
• Don't be eager, be honest
The last thing people want is to feel harassed and used. When you acquaint yourself
with others, don't be pushy and arrogant, but rather straightforward and sincere.
• Be confident
People like to be associated with others who can hold their head up high with
confidence. If you don't have a spine, they won't take the time.
• Always have an opinion
For people to trust you, they must first respect you. Hence, it's a smart thing to keep
yourself informed and always know what you're talking about, rather than look like
you know what you're talking about. Your point of view might not coincide with
others', but at least they'll respect you for voicing it.
• Don't kill the conversation
There is such a thing as overdoing it in a conversation. When you have been
speaking for a little while and there isn't much left to say, exit the conversation
smoothly and move on to others. You don't want to be caught in a silent gaze with
someone you just met.
• Leave on a good note
Following the same path of not talking for too long, make sure you end a
conversation on a good note. If you crack a couple of jokes -- à la Jay Leno during his
opening monologue -- and the person seems to like you, there is no need to go for
encores . Simply get the contact info because the show, as they say in Hollywood,
must go on.
• Make like a chameleon and blend in
During social gatherings, you must learn to blend in with your surroundings and adapt. A
chameleon alters its appearance in order to go unnoticed. You don't want to create a ruckus, but
you don't want to be a fly on the wall either. Learn to associate with others while maintaining your
personality and you'll be fine.
• Don't ask for favors
The common mistake people make is coming off as too eager and in dire need of help in the
professional field. But think about it; people don't gain anything from assisting helpless souls that
reduce themselves to begging. What they bet on are confident characters that pull their own
weight and simply request information and guidance.
• Asking for information and tips will get you much further than asking for something to be handed
to you on a silver platter. Work for what you want to achieve, but ask for some help on the way.
• ...Search for a mentor
Developing a mentor/student relationship can be very healthy and beneficial, as the mentor looks
after his protégé and takes pleasure in guiding him. Remember that people recognize and
appreciate what they see in themselves. So if you ask to be set on the right track, individuals
usually enjoy undertaking the position.
• Always return the call
Asking for information and help works on a two-way basis and should be reciprocated. People like
helping others, but they also enjoy -- and expect -- the favor to be returned. If you don't return the
call, don't expect them to pick up the phone next time!
• The Fine Art of Conversation (workshop with Fred Pryor Seminars)
• Patrick and Reeny’s life experiences