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The Ultimate Soulmate Summit Kick-Off Event with Marianne Willamson February 14th, 2011 Welcome to The Ultimate Soulmate Summit brought to you by The Soulmate Secret and The Calling In The One online course, with your hosts, Arielle Ford and Claire Zammit. We are so glad you could join us for our special live Valentine’s Day event with honored guest Marianne Williamson. Marianne Williamson is an internationally acclaimed spiritual teacher. 6 of her 10 published books have been best sellers, 4 of these have been #1 New York Times bestsellers. A Return To Love is considered a must read of the new spirituality. Arielle Ford is bestselling author of The Soulmate Secret and Claire Zammit is the co- creator of The Calling In The One online course. On tonight’s call, Arielle and Claire will also be giving you an overview of what you will experience over the next 11 days and how to prepare yourself to get the most out of it. They will also share their stories about how they applied many of the tools you are going to learn in the Summit to manifest their own soulmates and the essence of what they’ve discovered in the years of helping thousands of people find true love. On tonight’s call, they are also going to teach you how to cultivate the love manifestation mindset and set a magnetic intention to calling your soulmate in 2011. There’s no more powerful place to be to manifest love this Valentine’s Day. We are so glad you could join us, and once again, welcome to The Ultimate Soulmate Summit. Arielle: Good evening everybody, my name is Arielle Ford. Claire: And I’m Claire Zammit. Arielle: And we are so excited to be welcoming more than 50,000 of you to Day One of The Ultimate Soulmate Summit. As we begin this journey together, Claire and I want you to know that we are holding the space for you to use the next 11 days as a springboard to creating the love of your life. We have gathered the world’s greatest authorities and greatest experts on love to assist you in healing your hearts from past disappointments in love, while sharing with you the best and latest techniques for manifesting the relationship of your dreams. It’s our intention that this summit provides you with the healing, inspiration, clarity and action plan that will lead you to a deep, nurturing, and fulfilling soulmate relationship. 6 months ago, Claire and I were talking about how fortunate we both felt to be married to our soulmates. We were talking about how loved and cherished we felt, and what it was like to be able to live with your best friend, lover, partner and playmate. We started wondering what it would be like if everyone had the possibility to experience love this way. What kind of world would it be if lots of people had their soulmates? And how much better would the world be with that kind of love in it. And that’s when we came up with this idea for The Ultimate Soulmate Summit, an event where the brightest and best love experts gather to share their wisdom and knowledge so that everyone who truly desires soulmate love will have access to the necessary steps to manifesting and achieving it. Claire: Given that the response to the summit has been so extraordinary, we have over 50,000 people coming together in our circle of love. We thought, who better to officially open our event this evening with a love invocation and blessing than our dear friend and spiritual leader, Marianne Williamson. In 2001, Marianne wrote one of our all-time favorite books on all aspects of creating and sustaining spiritual partnerships, called Enchanted Love: The Mystical Powers of Intimate Relationships, in it she writes, “Men and women need each other, at least now as much as we ever did, but for a deeper experience than mere procreation or protection. We need each other now to conceive of the miraculous things of the spirit.” Marianne’s latest New York Times best-seller is A Course In Weight Loss: 21 Spiritual Lessons for Surrendering Your Weight Forever, her other books include: The Age of Miracles, Everyday Grace, A Woman's Worth, Illuminata, Healing the Soul of America, and The Gift of Change. So we couldn't imagine anyone we'd rather be here today with to welcome us to the series and give us a blessing than Marianne. Welcome, we appreciate you so much for joining us tonight! Marianne: Well thank you so much, it’s an honor to be here at the beginning of such a wonderful convocation. You know, in A Course In Miracles there is a line that says “An idea is stronger when it is shared.” So you have two things going on, first of all the sharing, the field that is created by this summit, and the time that you will all spend together thinking the same ideas, feeling the same feelings, thinking the same kinds of thoughts, and also you have the larger field, which is that this begins on Valentine’s Day, so you have millions of people that are thinking of this very subject today. This makes it a pregnant ground, the very fact that each of us has been brought to the summit for our own reasons with our own history, with all of these issues in the days to come and all the work on the summit, working on the fact that many times it’s the barriers that we have against love coming have to do with pain and trauma we have had in the past. We all know intellectually you can be bitter or you can be better, but sometimes it takes more than an intellectual shift actually let go of the hurt and the layers of hurt and mistrust and fear that we have when it comes to letting love in. So I think that Arielle and Claire, all of the work done here, has a tender and a gentle approach to looking at those places in our minds and hearts, where we know, we don’t express in the ways that make it easiest for someone to get close to us. The energy that surrounds us sometimes does not make it easy for true love to get close to us. And I think the fact if you are even on the summit, it’s because you know that you are ready. You know that you are ready to let go of the walls that surround your heart. You know that you are ready to find that deep haven within yourself. Whatever the love is, whatever form that that soulmate experience takes for you, whatever form that that intimacy takes for you, I know that at on some level, everybody here is aware that we are swimming in an ocean of love. We are swimming in a universe, that is love, but at the same time we often feel like in that poem, “Water, water, everywhere, but not a sip to drink.” We know that love is everywhere, but we feel we can’t make conscious contact with it. So I think the first thing we should do tonight is to take a moment, to honor the process that has brought us to this point. We take this moment to think of every love experience that we have had before this very moment. And we want to think of all the people who have been in our lives who we have thought of, for however long a period of time, whether it was a night or a decade or 50 years, who we might have thought in our lives, “This is my safe haven;” to remember that moment when we thought that, and to simply bless them, and to release them. To release every relationship that we have ever been in up to this point, to remember that in a very fundamental way, all that’s real, all that we can retain if we choose too, is the love that was given us, and the love that we gave. Everything else exists only in our minds. There is a line in The Course in Miracles that says the past is over, it can touch you not. The love in your past was real, and nothing else exists. Sometimes we have in our past some very painful situations, very traumatic situations, and in some people’s lives, some very heinous situations. But the miracle occurs in the present. As we are willing to let go of the pain of our past, and to be open as I know that in some way you are open, or you wouldn’t be here, to let the work that is provided here by Arielle, by Claire, to take this present moment this eternal now, and once you’ve given up, the pain and the trauma, and the barriers from the past, to let them enter with you into a moment, right here, right now, where new ideas, ideas that you might have known before, but couldn’t really allow to penetrate your heart before… Tonight begins something new, and ideas you would not really have allowed to enter into your heart before tonight, its time. You will allow new principles to enter your heart, which you might have known before, but you haven’t really let them in before. New kinds of looking at things, new perspectives, new commitments, new attitudes, new energies, that you might have known before, but you didn’t really allow in before. That’s what will happen in this summit, and if that happens, new people, some of whom you might have even know before, you will be able to let in, as you have never let them in before. When things like that happen, that’s when we understand the real meaning of “hallelujah.” That is my wish for you, and I join all the people who are entering this night’s work with hope and I enter this night with deep conviction between all the people; Arielle and Claire, who enter here with expertise and ideas and guidance and illumination that they are going to give to you. So let’s all join together and let’s just take this moment, as I said we are honoring the past that brought us here at this moment. Every path, and we are willing and open to be graced and to be blessed by a wisdom and understanding that comes from beyond the mortal mind, and for this we pray: Dear God, as we join here tonight at the beginning of this summit, we dedicate it to you, we ask that it truly, dear God, be all that it can be, that it be lifted to its highest level of creative possibility. May all people involved here in any way have their hearts and minds opened as never before to receive just the insight, just the gift, just a nugget of wisdom or a piece of information that truly will make all the difference. We know that you know dear God, what each and every person gathered here most needs. What window needs to be opened, dear God, open it. What door needs to be opened, dear God, please open it. What space in mind or heart needs to be opened, dear God, please open it. It is for this miracle, and these openings that we pray. We rejoice in advance, for we know that our prayers are heard, and we consider it done. Thank you God, and so it is, we all say, amen. Arielle: Amen. Marianne, Claire and I thank you so much for making time for us. Marianne: Well you are so welcome and I’m excited for every single person who is going to be involved in what I know is going to be a very exciting and significant journey. God bless you. Arielle: Thank you so much, goodbye! Claire: We want to remind everyone to visit Marianne.com to sign up to get Marianne’s updates and visit Amazon to find out more about her wonderful book, Enchanted Love. Arielle: So who is this summit for? Whether you are feeling you are so ready for love, you are about to burst, or you are so disappointed with love that you are not sure you will ever open your heart again, we want to assure you, this summit is for you. During the next 11 days, our experts will prepare and inspire you manifest the love of your life, while you willingly let go of the old, outdated, negative, and untrue beliefs about yourself. For those of you who are hanging onto the myth that you are either too old, too fat, too broke, too damaged, too unlovable for love, I want you to know that Claire and I are here to love you, guide you and support you, and take you by the hand, step by step into the love relationship of your dreams. And if part of your story about love is that all the good ones are taken, we’ve got some really good news for you, it’s not true. There are nearly 7 billion people alive on the planet right now, and half of them are single. Statistically, there are more than 1.4 million possible soulmates for you. As my grandmother always said, “There is a little bit for every pot, even yours.” Claire: So whether you’re young or old, or straight, or bisexual, or gay, or if you’re not sure what you are, whether you are a man or you are a woman, there is more than enough love on the planet for you. We are going to take you by the hand and show you how to magnetize it into your life. We’ve designed the summit to offer a variety of approaches so that one or more will hold the key to opening your heart, to transforming your limited beliefs, to understanding men or women in a way that will help you to create a lasting bond, and give you the practical strategies you have been missing to make yourself known and available to love. Arielle: That sounds so yummy Claire. So we wanted to tell you a little bit about who we are, and how we came to be with you on this evening. So 25 years ago, I had the great good fortune to learn about manifesting, and I decided to take all the prayers and rituals and processes that I learned about manifesting and apply them to my career. I was a book publicist for many, many years. I worked with Deepak Chopra for 12 years, I worked with Wayne Dyer, Marianne Williamson, Louise Hague, Don Miguel Ruiz, Neale Donald Walsch, Dean Ornish, Gary Zukov, Mark Victor Hanson, Jack Canfield, and my sister, Debbie Ford. And I never really thought about applying them to my love life until I got to be 44. But along the way, I learned a few things from some of the experts you are going to be learning from in the next 11 days. Some people think of me as a bottom line person, I speak my mind, I don’t sugar coat things, I kind of call things as I see it. While this communication style worked really well in my career, I found out it’s not a quality most men don’t find endearing or attractive. I want to share with you a kind of embarrassing story. One evening when I was in my early 30s I went out on a date with a man who was pretty superficial and obnoxious, but he completely and unintentionally said something that really changed my life. He said to me “You know Arielle, you are one tough and powerful woman, and I’ll bet you scare the shit out of most men.” Then he tried to kiss me good night, but I dodged him and got out of the car. But his final words to me were like a negative audio loop that kept playing over and over in my head again. All I kept hearing in my head was “You know Arielle, you are one tough and powerful woman, and I’ll bet you scare the shit out of most men.” And up until that moment, I had never ever thought of myself as either tough or powerful, but the thought just wouldn’t leave my mind. What if he was right, what if that was how I kept showing up to men? I was just incredibly embarrassed about the whole thing and I didn’t talk about it for years to anybody. Then one day, my friend, Marianne Williamson, invited me to a lecture by Dr. Pat Allen, and Dr. Pat Allen is a psychologist with a reputation for providing women with strict dating rules that if you follow them precisely will lead to marriage. That was the promise that got me in the front door of the first time I ever heard her speak in Westwood, California. But what kept me coming back were her wise and wonderful insights about masculine and feminine energy. As it turned out, my practical assertive and result oriented approach to work meant that I was living almost exclusively in my masculine side, while I had managed to sort of suppress and hide my receptive, creative and feminine energies, they were actually locked away. And during these talks, Dr. Pat would explain that both men and women equally possess male and female energies. It’s actually okay for a woman when she is working to tap into her masculine side, however, if you want to date and end up with a masculine man, I would need to learn how to access my feminine energy. Because it’s actually the polarity between masculine and feminine that really generates harmony and desire. So for the next several months, Tuesday nights, Dr. Pat became my newfound religion. I began to hear her talks over and over again. And the reason I needed to do this, was because it was hard for me to embrace what I was hearing, it was so different. But after I went enough times, I started to understand that a big piece to the key of my ultimate happiness and having a relationship that I really dreamed about meant I needed to surrender to my feminine energy when I was with a masculine man. I needed to find ways to let go of what I would call “work mode” and shift into “feminine dating mode.” One of the funny things I did to help me access my feminine energy was I took up belly dancing. The more I could sort of move and slide my hips side to side, I ended up unleashing this part of myself that actually wanted an audience. It was a really good way for me to start to get into the feminine. Then the more time I spent with Dr. Pat, the more I started to understand that after working all day, I couldn’t just go from the office to a date. I needed to go home, I needed to dance, I needed to take a bubble bath with lavender oils in it, put on some makeup, and change my clothes. Eventually I learned how to embrace my feminine. Then one day, I can’t tell you the whole story tonight, but we will kind of cut to the chase, one day I woke up, I was 44 years old and I had never been married. I decided my deepest heart desire was to manifest a soulmate. So I took all the prayers and processes and rituals I used to manifest this great career and I began to apply them to my love life. Within 6 months, I met Brian, within 3 weeks, we got engaged, and a year later we had 3 weddings. This June we’ll be celebrating our 13th wedding anniversary. I just want to end by sharing with you, that being with my soulmate has improved my life on every conceivable level. Not only am I happier, I’m actually healthier and I’m more successful, and I feel so incredibly blessed that I get to spend every day I get to spend my life with my best friend, my playmate, my lover, and my biggest supporter. Claire: You guys are such an inspiration Arielle; I just can’t imagine a man who is more perfect for you on this whole planet than Brian. Arielle: Thank you, I couldn’t either. Claire: So I want to share with you how I came to create this series with Arielle. Really, I never would have imagined that I would ever be teaching about how to attract love. It was such a source of pain in my own life. Now I had a very powerful spiritual experience when I was 16 years old. I really knew that I was here to make a contribution, make a difference in the world. That my own personal and spiritual growth is what was most important, so I had this repeated experience of getting into relationships and feeling somewhat stuck and somewhat trapped and having disappointment after disappointment. I also had this dynamic where I would end up becoming their mother in some way. I would feel alone and exhausted and depleted and somehow, my own mission was suffering as a result of being in the relationship. So I really thought I had to choose, either it was my mission, or it was love. So I chose my mission. So I spent years by myself, and I achieved great things. I nearly completed my Ph.D. in transformative learning and have had the opportunity to teach thousands of people and work with some of today’s leading teachers and thinkers, creating extraordinary things. I would come home at the end of contributing so much to other people and I would just feel sad. One night I woke up at about 4 o’clock in the morning, just filled with an overwhelming anxiety and knowing that I was on a path of leaving this world without experiencing the love that deep down I yearned for. I yearned for a partner who was a true equal, who I could really grow with, who I could share all aspects of life; and something inside of me, in that moment, just knew there something was off. I was fortunate because my new best friend at the time, who is now my teaching partner in Calling in The One, Katherine Woodward Thomas (she just published her national bestselling book, Calling In The One: 7 Weeks to Attracting The Love of Your Life that was all about identifying your hidden barriers to love). Now I never thought I had any hidden barriers for love, because I had yearned for this kind of love since I was probably 7 years old. But at this point, because I had that experience, I was coachable. I surrendered to the process, and I began to see there were core beliefs that I had about men lacking capacity. I had a core belief about my own value, that I wasn’t really worthy of receiving love. As a result of engaging the processes in the course, I really began to learn how to be much more vulnerable and transparent. I recognized that if I had manifested a strong, capable powerful man, that I wouldn’t have been able to receive it, because I was deep down actually feeling somewhat insecure. So I had a really profound transformation working on these areas. We are going to teach you how to do many of the process in this series itself. Katherine is going to be on, I’m going to be teaching, and we have many wonderful teachers who also go into this area of transforming core beliefs. I found immediately that what happened was the kind of men that I was attracted to completely changed. One of what we call “power statements,” the men in my life were more powerful, advanced, and successful than me in ways that gave me a space to rise into the fullness of my greatness, because I never had that experience. I never had an experience of having a man that was up underneath me in a way that I was growing and developing, that I had to kind of run to keep up with. It was amazing, completely different men began to show up. I did a visioning process that we also teach in our course. I began to have a vision of this extraordinary man, and through a series of incredible synchronicities that we are going to share in our interview in this series, Craig and I will be speaking together about what happened, the specifics of it. Amazing experience of synchronicities, we both had premonitions of meeting each other, and it was pretty much love at first sight. Really, if I had gone into a laboratory to design the perfect partner, my now husband is more extraordinary than I could have ever imagined. He truly challenges me and holds a space for me to grow. We are going to be celebrating our 4th wedding anniversary this year. It’s amazing because I look at what has happened in my life as a result of meeting my soulmate. And that is because the potential of my contribution, who I am as a person, everything that I could have dreamed of in terms of my own life, and work and passions, really come into manifestation, and I look back at that old idea, that I could either have my mission, or I could have a partnership, I just kind of see the craziness of it. The truth is we need partnership; we need relationships, deeply bonded intimate connections to really thrive. To become ourselves, to realize our gifts, to make our biggest contributions to the world, and there is absolutely no external reason that anybody can’t have this kind of love. That’s really what we have seen, Arielle and I, in working with thousands of people now, from all parts of the world. That you can have a deep and profound love in your life, we need each other to realize the potentials of who we are, regardless of your age, your history, your body type, or your financial status. You deserve to have love and partnership. It is not easy to know where to get started in overcoming these barriers and obstacles that most of us who’ve had to support men in the past, or have conflicts such as your career, for women particularly, you know we have to go into our masculine to achieve things, and that’s very hard to shift back like Arielle was sharing. And you know for men as well, it’s a very challenging time as far as the expectations between men and women in relationships to be able to create a relationship that is truly satisfying and fulfilling. There are so many different approaches out there that address all of these issues and all of these areas. Which one will work best for you is really going to be the key that unlocks where you have been stuck up until now, and isn’t always clear. You may have tried many of these approaches and had difficulties in having a breakthrough in attracting and sustaining great love in your life, and most likely it’s because you haven’t been applying the right approach. You might think it’s a belief issue, when actually you might have a good online profile. Or you might be doing all these things right to go out and market yourself, but really you have core beliefs that are in your way. So we really found that you need the right tools at the right moment wherever you are on your journey to creating love. These obstacles really have to do with four key areas that we have created a specific program in the summit to address each of these areas. So you may find it’s actually this area of being able to let go of an attachment to someone in your past, this was one of my core ones as well. There was someone I had an attachment with, I had done all the processes, the rituals, like cutting the cord, but I still couldn’t let go of that person in my past. I thought that I did, but I really hadn’t. There were a couple of techniques that really did end up helping in being one of the things that made the difference. The other area is, like in my story I just shared, you may have limiting beliefs about men, about women, about relationships being a trap in ways that are unconsciously keeping love at bay. Or like Arielle was sharing, you may be out of sync with the opposite sex or whatever sex you fancy. Especially this is true if you are a conscious, successful woman. It’s very difficult to embrace the feminine without feeling vulnerable, without feeling like it’s a loss of power. This is something that is important to do and cultivate, to be able to attract the kind of partner that would be satisfying and fulfilling. The final area is just these practical skills about understanding how to navigate the dating process. For me, I hadn’t dated for years, and lots of people really struggle with when to open up, when to be intimate, when to hold back, and there’s so much conflicting advice out there. Or getting online and getting 500 peoples responses! And how to navigate that. There are lots of places that we get stopped. Arielle: Claire you did a great job of outlining all the reasons we created this series. Because even though we both run our own courses in the area of manifesting love, there’s just so much more to know. We want you to know we carefully selected the best of the best of the world’s leading experts in the four approaches to manifesting love. We did this so we could save you time and the headache of having to sort through all the information yourself. Each expert in the summit is going to give you the essence of their unique approach, step by step, in our special soulmate seminars that they’ve created for this event. Most of them have been teaching for many years, their books and other materials have been out there and they’re published. But what we are really thrilled about is that, with the summit, we are able to get their very latest thinking. The exercises and tools that can fast track you to having a breakthrough with each approach. Now you may decide in the future that you want to go even deeper with one of these approaches, and that’s just great, but we want you to know that we want you to connect in the next 11 days with the path that will most empower you to attract the love in your life. That’s what we truly care about. Claire: Want to hear a few highlights about who you are going to meet in the summit. How it’s going to work. How you are going to be able to access the seminars online. What you are able to do if you can’t make the live broadcast. Then we are going to end tonight teaching you how to get what we call the love manifestation mindset. We have discovered in working with so many people, it’s really the foundation for being successful at manifesting love with whichever approach you apply. We are going to end by teaching you how to set a powerful intention for love. We want to encourage you to write it down, so you can repeat it, go over it all the way through the series. If you have a pen and paper standing by, you are going to need that a little later on. Arielle: One of the main areas, one of the key four areas we are going to be talking about, is “letting go of the past.” There’s a couple of pieces to this, the first part is, we know, like Claire and I have dealt with in the past, some of you are still in love with someone who is not your soulmate. It’s okay to still love somebody who is not going to be your soulmate, but it’s really not ok to keep obsessing about them. So the first thing we want to let you know is: stop trying not to love them. It’s ok to love them. In fact find a little corner of your heart to tuck them away and continue to love them. Let go of the obsession, and if you don’t know how; we have amazing experts to help you with this. It’s about emotional freedom techniques, it’s about emotional maturity, having a toolkit of things you can do to quickly and easily let go when your mind takes hold and you’re spinning out of control obsessing about someone. We have Debbie Rozman, from the Institute of Heart Math, which is one of the leading think tanks and research facilities on the intelligence of the heart. She will be teaching us the heart-lock in technique. We have Hale Dwoskan, from the Sedona Method, another EFT technique that is remarkable; I use it every day. We have Nick Ortner, from the tapping solution, who is going to tap us into emotional freedom. Tapping into the letting go of the emotions and thoughts that are getting in the way. We are also talking with Dr. Helen Fisher, who is the world’s leading scientist on the science of love and attraction. She is going to share with us the brain chemistry that takes over when you have been dumped in a relationship. Dr. Fisher has proven that when you have been dumped, getting over it is harder than breaking a cocaine addiction. I know that sounds crazy, but she is going to explain the science of why that is, and how to let go. When I spoke earlier, I talked about Dr. Pat Allen, and she will be sharing with us her 60 day detox program for getting over and letting go of a past love that’s got you hooked. We will also be talking with Neale Donald Walsch, who will talk us through the guilt and regret we feel when we are the one who has dumped someone else. Claire: So many things I have no idea about. [Laughter] Arielle: It would have been useful if we knew it 10 years ago. Claire: I wish I had known when I was in the throes of heartbreak, how to actually work with that. Arielle: I could have used that 60 day detox program many times Claire: I know, and Nicks EFT tapping is amazing. He is going to actually take us through the tapping process to let go of past emotional blocks or holding on to something. And EFT, I had such a powerful experience recently, it’s not something you have to consciously try to focus on. It’s not like when someone tells you “let go of the past” “Great, how do I actually do that?”, it’s an amazing technique, it’s just going to unblock your meridians and free that emotional energy in a way that’s going to just open you up if that’s an area that you really struggle with. The next area that our experts are really going to be going into is the area of transforming core beliefs and inner obstacles. New York Times bestselling author, Debbie Ford, who is really the queen of these inner obstacles and the shadow process, is going to be talking about the shadow single life, how to unblock these inner barriers to open up to love. She has a wonderful process that she’s going to guide you through about identifying and releasing your on the line commitments. These are your decisions you may have made without even knowing it, that are keeping you blocked in the process of attracting a soulmate. Decisions like, “I’m never going to take the risk to love again.” Or “it’s not possible for me to have love.” Or “I’m not worthy, I’m not good enough.” All of those decisions that you made about yourself, about men, about women, about love, the experiences of your life without even realizing it, are these unconscious barriers in ways that influence how we show up, how we relate to other people, communicate to other people without even knowing it, that we are not really available. So Debbie is going to take you through a very deep and transformative process to help you become conscious of what they are and let them go. Katherine Woodward Thomas, my dear beloved, one of my soulmates in this world and teaching partner, is going to teach you about the Calling In The One approach. Why preparing for love is more powerful than running out there and trying to find it. She is going to really teach the essence of how you can identify and release these hidden barriers. Really notice and become conscious of the specific behaviors that keep these locked into place. So if you have a pattern of not being good enough, or feeling unworthy, if that’s a core belief of yours, there are specific behaviors that you are going to do when you are out meeting people. Or in some cases if you have a core pattern or experience of being alone and never go out and meeting people. That’s the behavior, to learn to say “yes” to invitations and opportunities, and learn to extend your energy out to people. So she’s going to teach where the rubber meets the road in transforming these core inner barriers in ways that will have you break free from patterns you may have been processing for decades. This is the core process that worked for me and for her and for so many thousands of our students. I’m going to share a little more about that during the summit. We are really excited to have the opportunity to introduce you to that approach. Arielle: I’m looking forward to that section; that is such important work. The third area we are going to be tackling is understanding the masculine/feminine dynamics. Allison Armstrong, one of our experts, will be explaining the things that women do that drive men crazy – but not crazy in a good way. And the things men do to sabotage relationships with women. We also gave Dr. Pat Allen who is going to be explaining that relationships are most successful when there is an exchange of complementary energies, meaning one female energy and one male energy, or you might call it yin and yang. She knows that one type of each energy in the partnership works best, but she doesn’t define it based on your genitals, she says there are yin men and yin women and yang men and yang women. It doesn’t matter if you are straight or gay or lesbian, if you are going to be in a committed loving relationship, you have to decide which side of you, the yin or the yang is going to mate. So how do you know what energy you are? She’s going to go into this in more detail, but here’s a little snapshot of it. If you are the yang, or the male energy, you like giving, protecting, cherishing. If you are the yin, or the female energy, you prefer being receptive, available, respecting. Another way to look at it is, if you are the male energy, you want your thinking respected first. You feel comfortable saying things like “I think, I want.” If you are the female energy, you are more comfortable saying things like “I feel, I don’t want.” So we are going to go through this in depth with both Allison Armstrong and Dr. Pat Allen, as I mentioned in my life, it made all the difference in the world. Claire: Again, where were they all those years ago? I realized in learning all these core insights in this area. I really realized how I was very scary I was to men, and I had a story going on how there were no good men out there, no good conscious men out there. I’m glad I didn’t meet my husband at that time of my life; I would have scared him away for sure. Arielle: Yeah, Brian and I always talk about how even though we were older when we got together – I was 44, I was a first time bride at 44; we knew it was great we didn’t meet a minute earlier. I wouldn’t have been ready, and he wouldn’t have been ready. So the divine timing of it was just perfect. Claire: So that’s something to remember if you haven’t met your soulmate yet, it is grace. You may not have been ready to receive him or her into your life and we are going to really work with you in the summit to support the intention that you’re going to set tonight to make that happen now and really be the person you need to be to receive them and really manifest the fulfillment of your vision of love. Arielle: Tell them about the dating section. Claire: Yeah the final section here is this area that we are going to be bringing you on dating strategies and navigating the stages of dating. One of the things that I have really found in the people that we work with is, you can do a lot of emotional processing, you can do these exercise around letting go of the past, you can transform your core beliefs, get in sync with the opposite sex, but if you don’t have dating skills and strategies, it’s very difficult to know where to start. I’ve seen so many people get stopped on knowing what to say, when you are out on a date the person wants to get physical and you’re not ready. What specifically do you say? How do you handle that? How do you navigate the different stages of intimacy? You feel an amazing connection. How soon is too soon to be really emotionally intimate? A lot of our experts go into this area with specific strategies and advice. Specifically John Gray, Dr. John Gray, author of the Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, I think his series has sold something like 40 million books. It’s amazing his level of expertise having worked with so many people. He is speaking specifically on how to navigate what he calls the “5 Stages of Dating” to create a lasting loving relationship with your soulmate. He talks about the attraction phase of the relationship. In this first stage there is an initial attraction. You know men and women do this in different ways, and need to do this in different ways to attract each other in a way that is going to create interest. What follows that is what he calls stage 2, which he calls “uncertainty.” He really shares about the biggest mistake many people make is when there is the uncertainty period, stage 2. You will anticipate this is going to happen, you meet, there’s an amazing connection, chemistry is firing off, and then there is a pulling back. The biggest mistake we make is to put the pressure on to talk about where we are going with the relationship. John shares with us this is the worst thing we can do in this stage of the relationship, in uncertainty. Where we need to go is back to our own center, create a space for the other person to come towards you. It’s not the moment to be having the conversation, “Where is this going?” It really teaches you how to navigate that particular stage. Stage 3, which is “exclusivity,” and how to have the conversation with your potential life partner, about “Are we getting exclusive?” And when to do that, and when not to do that. He is really going to go into detail about how to navigate this conversation and the danger that can also happen in this stage is that we can get too comfortable and stop doing the little things that make our partners feel special. That leads to the next stage, stage 4, “intimacy.” He shares that you can’t really begin to fully open up and share your innermost feelings until you get to stage 4. This is a mistake many people make in stage 1, during the attraction phase of the relationship. There is chemistry flying, so we reveal. John really gives us the insight that we shouldn’t do that until stage 4 until there is a container. We have been through stage 2, uncertainty, we are in exclusivity, and now we are at stage 4, which is the time to really be vulnerable, transparent, to share, let your guard down, let who you are fully, the wholeness of you, become fully visible, seen and known to your partner. And if you are able to navigate that stage of your relationship, it leads to “engagement.” Whether that leads to marriage, it leads to commitment, a long-term committed relationship. He also shares that is a very, very important stage of the process of bonding to a partner before you have the responsibility of marriage, and having a house together and paying bills. Very important in the engagement stage of the relationship to be making lots memories; happy memories that will really be the anchor points for your relationships as you weather the storms of love and partnership. So it’s just so helpful – this map he’s going to give you, about the attraction stage, navigating uncertainty, to exclusivity, to intimacy, all the way to long-term commitment. Again, I wish I had this information. I did the wrong thing, I would have a connection with someone, we would meet and I would just pour my heart out, then they would pull back, I would say “Where is this relationship going?” And it wouldn’t end up going well. Arielle: I used to drag them into therapy. “What’s the matter with you, why can’t you see I’m the right one for you?” [Laughter] Claire: Worst timing in the world. So these are great practices about what to do. We are so excited to be giving you that information. Evan Marc Katz, one of our other favorite soulmate experts, is going to be talking about finding “the one” online. How to attract quality people in the online environment. He is an absolute master at teaching you a couple of simple shifts that you can make in how you can go online. Things like, “Which sites do I go on? How do I set up my profile?” A lot of these things that get us really overwhelmed in the process of making ourselves visible and known. He’s going to teach you how navigate that with ease and grace, in a way that will reduce the number of responses that you get, but will elevate the quality of the people that are responding to you. He also has amazing advice about how to avoid the chemistry trap, and how to get a really accurate, clear picture about the difference between settling and being open to the possibility. You know, the mistake most people make when they are assessing whether someone is the right person when they are out online, or they are out dating. So many people will often make the mistake of eliminating somebody who actually is their soulmate, because they many not necessarily be your “type” or what you are looking for. He recently wrote a great article about how he didn’t know his wife was his soulmate until 6 months after they were married. So he’s going to share his story about that and insight to ensure you don’t make a mistake when you are dating so you don’t eliminate your soulmate. That you are able to be open without settling in a way that ensures that you attract someone and create a realationshp with someone who is in line with your values and has a very high character and is going in the same direction as you, that you can create a deep and fulfilling lasting bond with. Arielle: Evan is just amazing, if I had to do online dating, I wouldn’t make a move without talking to him first. So here is the really great news, you don’t have to wait to meet that special someone to begin experiencing the heart-opening, soul-stirring feelings of love. By being here tonight and jumping in and listening to our experts over the next 11 days. You are going to being living in a constant conversation of love. Guess what? That awareness creates more love, it makes you a magnet for love. I know you have heard the old adage, “What you put your attention on grows.” When it comes to love, this is 100% true. So with each love expert, new paths to love will be revealed, and you are simultaneously going to pick up their proven tips and techniques. So even those of you that are nursing a broken heart, or if you are feeling resigned, because of multiple disappointing relationships. Trust me, Claire and I feel your pain, we have been there, we know what that feels like. We want you to know that our experts are here to offer solid advice for healing and resolution and completion. Good for you for taking this first step to manifesting love by being here and registering for the event. We are going to teach you all kinds of new love skills, and even though they may not happen instantly, we know that if you dedicate the time each day for focusing on love and prioritizing love in your life, you will get there. Claire: So we want to give you an overview of how it’s going to work, and how you are going to access all of these soulmate seminars and interviews with our inspiring soulmate couples. So every day for the next 11 days, we are going to email you a direct link that will give you all the information that you need to participate in that day’s event. Including a website path to our virtual event room. For the next 11 days, from today February 14th, through the following Thursday, February 24th, each day there are going to be 2 soulmate seminars. These are going to be with our experts on a specific topic, where they will take you on a step-by-step approach to manifesting love. Plus there is going to be a bonus interview with an inspiring soulmate couple. We have amazing soulmate couples like Dr. Joan Borysenko and her husband Gordon Dverin, and Neale Donald Walsch, and his wife Em, Arielle and Brian, my husband Craig and I are going to be sharing as well as a lot of other amazing soulmate couples. They are going to share about how they attracted each other, what their manifestation process is. We find that these stories really help to anchor us to a consciousness of possibility, which really helps us in our journey to manifesting love in our lives. If you are online, you can see the full program schedule, complete with a calendar of the event days and the titles and the speakers at soulmateaudios.com. The sessions are going to broadcast at 12 noon Pacific Time every day. If you can’t make the live broadcast don’t worry, the recordings of the soulmate seminars each day and the soulmate interview are going to be available for free for 24 hours after the initial broadcast. We structured the event this way to make sure it’s possible for everyone to access the information regardless of your time zone or financial resources. However, we want to encourage you to consider investing in one of our upgrade options. If you think you might miss one of the seminars, as they all build on each other, it’s important to be working on all these areas that we shared to discover where your particular barrier to love might be. Or if you think you might like to listen more than once, or you’d like to get a written transcript, as opposed to taking notes to deepen your engagement with the material. Or if you would rather listen to the audios on your iPod or mp3 player or get the CDs to listen to in your car on the way to and from work, as opposed to at your computer. If you would like to refer back to the teachings and put the lessons into practice, and anchor yourself into the consciousness of love through repetition, listening again and again. Or if you would like to share the highlights with your family and friends. So often I will hear tele-seminars and they will say something amazing and I will want to write it down or go back and share it with someone I know that could really benefit from it. So if this sounds like you, we want to encourage you to invest in either our Platinum Plus or Gold upgrade options. So by choosing one of these upgrade options, you can listen anytime, anywhere, and have access to a ton of fantastic bonuses, to be able to really embed the information in your subconscious for maximum results. We are also more than happy for you to share the materials with your family and friends. Arielle: I know for me, especially when I was going to Dr. Pat’s seminars in Westwood, I wish I had them on CD to listen to in the car 24/7. For me that helps, hearing it over and over again, each time I hear something, I find something I missed. As someone who has been a seeker for a long time, I learned that in order for me to get long-term results and transformation, repetition is key, because I learned that repetition creates habit, and habit creates lifestyle. So when you do have unlimited access to these lessons; you will have the resources to do exactly what you want to do. To listen over and over again, to put it away for a while and then come back to it, and really go deep with the information. Claire: Again you can get all the information about the schedule and the upgrade options if you want to own the recordings. Either download the digital recordings or invest in the physical CDs by going to soulmateaudios.com, you can see the whole program and calendar of events there as well. Our most popular upgrade option is what we call the Platinum Plus, VIP All-Access Pass. This gives you 21 CDs, the complete soulmate seminar audio library, where our experts are guiding you step by step through their unique love manifestation process in each audio. You will get the 10 soulmate couple interviews so you can anchor your consciousness through that mindset of possibility. You also when you upgrade to VIP Platinum Plus, get the complete companion workbook, at the end of the summit, that has an action plan and exercises that have been especially designed to take what you learned and to fast track your journey to love. You will also get the printed transcripts of each session, so you don’t have to take notes, or you can highlight the text while listening back to each of the sessions. You are also going to get, one of the things we thought, we wanted to give a couple of bonuses in the 2 areas people most often experience challenges once they meet their soulmate. So we put together 2 bonus packages, called the Relationship Communication Secrets package, and the Love And Sex Secrets package, so you can avoid these mistakes many people make when they first get into new relationships. There is a whole new set of problems, once you actually find the one about what to do. So our bonus packages really address these issues in the Relationship Communication Secrets and the Love And Sex Secrets, we want you to check those out as well. You can see all the details again on our product information page. So the total value of the whole platinum package is over $735, when you add up all those bits and pieces, the value when you add it all together, and we want to make it available to all the people, so we have limited time investment of $197, plus shipping if you are in the US (there are overseas shipping details online, as well). The other option is the Gold Package, where you get pretty much the same package, you get the audios, the Ultimate Soulmate Summit audios, the soulmate couples interviews, the companion workbook, the transcripts, and the Relationship Communication Secrets bonus package. You can download all those and have complete access to the whole series for just $97, again that’s a $465 value for the whole series. We really want you to get the benefit and the transformation, and we have a 6 month better than money back guarantee. If you’re not completely satisfied with your investment, in making a purchase, you can even keep the bonuses, and we are happy to give you a refund for the next 6 months. We feel this is “even better than money back”. We really want to support you, to honor your knowing if you are feeling called to make sure you have long term access to the audios from the summit. Arielle: Thank you Claire. Claire: And again, soulmateaudios.com, you can go right now and visit and find the full program details of the live broadcast and the Gold and Platinum upgrade options. Arielle: One of the things we promised to give you tonight, is how to create the “love manifestation mindset,” so Claire is this a good time to do that? Claire: Absolutely, this is absolutely the difference that makes the difference, regardless of whichever approach you use. Arielle: So for those of you who have not been living around here for a while and don’t know what the law of attraction is, let’s start with that definition, because that’s what made the difference for me, the law of attraction in manifesting my soulmate. The law of attraction. The law of attraction states that we draw to us the people, places, and experiences that match our state of being. The good news for most of you is that you already know how to manifest. You’ve done it many, many times. Maybe you didn’t think of it as manifestation, but you’ve done it. Whether its creating a new job or new place to live, or parking place, or finding a little black dress at the mall. So you have used your manifestation muscles before in the past, so what I want to do is teach how to do is how toy strengthen them in the area of romance. One of the first things to understand, when you are manifesting, is to understand the difference between wanting versus knowing. When we are in a state of wanting, or needing, or hoping, or dreaming, or wishing, all we are going to draw to us is more of that same feeling, wanting, hoping, dreaming, wishing, yearning, which doesn’t get you close to that relationship that you truly desire. So we need to make a shift, and the shift is to knowing, to knowing and trusting that the one we asked for is already ours. Our perfect right partner is out there, right now, just waiting for us to put out the cosmic welcome mat. I shared with you earlier, that statistically there is more than enough love in the world, and the soulmate possibilities are truly out there. So it’s time for you to choose to believe and own and embrace and live in the knowingness that your perfect right partner already exists, to get out of the wanting. If you can’t make that shift on your own, then when you’re listening to Hale Dwoskin about the Sedona Method, work with him on that, when you are listening to Nick Ortner on tapping, work with him on that. We have so many experts who can help you move from the space of wanting to knowing and believing. Tonight I want to give you a little bit of homework which we will use later on in the conference. The first piece of homework is, I want you to make a list of all the things you don’t want your soulmate to be. You can look at your past relationships to come up with that. You can say “I don’t want my soulmate to be a liar. I don’t want my soulmate to be a cheater.” Those kinds of things. Write it all down, whatever the “don’t wants” are. The reason we do this is because we look to the past to create the future. The reason we do this is because you make a second list and you turn them into powerful positive statements, so if betrayal has been your issue in past relationships and you’ve written “I don’t want a cheater,” then you write on your new list, my soulmate is loyal and monogamous. You start looking inside and ask yourself, what is the heart traits and qualities that I truly desire in a soulmate. You may end up with things like my soulmate is loving, kind, affectionate, generous, and compassionate. Start to prioritize, what are those heart traits and qualities that are really going to make your heart sing. Finally a third part of this is to start writing a paragraph that is about your lifestyle together. I mean I really want you to go for it, and see your days and your nights, your weekends, and your holidays and your vacations. Begin to marinate in the juiciness of this life that you are creating with your beloved, put it on paper. Then on day 10 when I am taking you through the soulmate secrets, we are going to use these lists to help you create and manifest the relationship of your dreams. Claire: Thank you so much Arielle, just beautiful, I really want to encourage everybody to take the time to do that. It’s wonderful preparation, it’s actually the most important piece of preparation that you can do, just anchor into your consciousness of possibility. I’d like to share with you a process we teach in Calling In The One, about how to set a powerful intention. It’s really about a shift from trying to get love, to moving into a consciousness of trying of being a creator of love. So we want to invite you to set an intention that is really an intention as to what you are up to creating or generating, as opposed to wishing for love, hoping for love, praying under the phases of the moon for love to happen. We have all been there, and we’ve done that. Instead we want to invite you to set a powerful intention, and you as a conscious co-creator of your love life. What I want you to do, is find some time where you can really let go of your mind and let go of everything that is on your list and your preconceived ideas about what it is that you think you may want. One of the things to want and to serve as a list of things to have, but just put them aside. Instead take the time to ask yourself these questions to close your eyes, to drop down into your body. Breathe all the way down into your hips and really align with this consciousness of possibility. After doing this exercise that Arielle just guided you through. Entering into a consciousness of possibility, really breathing into a place inside of you, where you know you were not made to live this life alone, that you were made for love, you came into this world to create, to experience, to express, to create and contribute extraordinary, exquisite love and partnership. From this deeper center, ask yourself the question, “What do I most deeply desire to experience with my beloved?” Just listen for the answer from the deepest part of yourself. “What do I most deeply desire to express with my beloved, to my beloved?” Listen for the answer from the deepest part of yourself. Taking a breath and breathing down to your hips and, “What do I most deeply desire to create with my beloved? What’s the life I desire to create?” Asking yourself the final question, what do I most deeply desire to contribute to the world through this union with my soulmate? What do I most deeply desire to contribute to desire to my community, to my friends, to my family, to the world through this partnership?” Then look at what you have, look at the answers and craft an intention for love that really captures your deeper desires of what it is that you most wish to create, “My intention for love is to create an extraordinary, fulfilling partnership with a mate that I can experience a profound mutuality of giving and receiving, where I can express the fullness of who I am without holding anything back. Where we can create a life that supports each other to give the world a gift in the biggest way. Where our relationship becomes a model of possibility and contributes a sense of hope and really empowers the vibration of love in the world, and contributes to the feeling of love and interconnectedness in our world.” That becomes your anchor, your stand, you are no longer waiting to get something from the universe, or get something from life. You are standing as a powerful co-creator with an intention to bring forth this exquisite love into your life, into our world, and in standing in that place you will discover heaven and earth will begin to move on your behalf in ways you couldn’t possibly begin to imagine. To bring forth everything you might need. To realize it in our manifest world. We want to encourage you to really take the time, you’re going to have this audio. You are going to be able to download this audio, we are going to send it out tomorrow as a recording so you can listen back to tonight’s audio, you will have that to keep. You can listen to these exercises. We really want to encourage you to take the time to really anchor into the love manifestation mindset and really set your intention for love in this series. You are going to be in an open and receptive space to be empowered by each of our experts through the 11 days of the series. So again, just a quick reminder, tomorrow you are going to receive an email with the access codes, 12 o’clock Pacific Time, our live broadcast for 24 hours. Tomorrow on the series we have Dr. John Gray and Carol Allen, who is a Vedic astrologist; you can visit soulmateaudios.com for a complete schedule of speakers. They are going to on that page, also have our program information page, there is all our information about the VIP Platinum Plus upgrade. Where you can get the physical CDs and the digital downloads and all the bonus workbooks and the Relationship Communication Secrets, the Love and Sex Secrets bonus, sign up and get unlimited access to all of our seminars with Platinum or with Gold if you just want to get the audios to download, and the schedule is there also if you are going to be listening to the live broadcast from your computer. Everything you need to know is there on that page soulmateaudios.com. So look for the email tomorrow, where you will get the downloadable recording of tonight’s call so you can go back and check out the schedule and mark which events are coming up. I think we want to close in a moment just with a closing prayer. Arielle: I just really want to thank you Claire for that really stunning and beautiful and powerful intention. That was really wonderful. And everybody know that whatever option you choose, please know that your really deserve to have great love in your life and we are standing with you. Having worked with thousands of people we know beyond a shadow of a doubt, there is no external reason why you can’t have big love in your life in 2011. So take the time to listen to these audios, we have invested a lot of time and energy and care to bring you really the very best information from the worlds most experienced experts. And we truly know that one or more of these approaches are going to provide the key that will unlock your love destiny. So Claire, if you will close us out with a prayer. Claire: Thank you Arielle. We are going to be standing with you every step of the way and holding your hand through the 11 days of the summit, we are so grateful to have the opportunity to have you in our circle, and we are standing with you to manifest an exquisite love in your life. So let’s just imagine we are coming together in our global circle of love over 48 countries represented, over 50,000 of us, in this moment, if we can just sense into and extend our awareness into the powerful collective intention of this moment. And just taking a deep breath, closing your eyes, allowing your awareness to drop down into your hips, down into your legs, down into the soles of your feet, and into the heart. Just breathing deep into the yearning for love. Expanding your awareness to anchor into a sense of possibility. You can have an extraordinary love in your life. You were made to experience, express and contribute big love. And in this moment you say “yes” together we say “yes” to the greatest possibility of love in our lives. We let go of any inner obstacles or inner barriers and we move into this next 11 days deeply connected to our own intuitive knowing, receptive and open to the power of this collective field of intention and support. Knowing that we are here together to midwife miracles for ourselves and each other, and as each one of us takes a stand for possibility and says “yes” to love, it becomes available for all of us. And for the precious gift of this opportunity to awaken to the fulfillment of love, we say together, “Yes!” And thank you and so it is, and so it shall be. Thank you so much everybody, we love you, we will stand for you. Happy Valentine’s Day! Arielle: Yes! Happy Valentine’s Day, Claire! Claire: Exquisite, extraordinary, amazing time on our planet. And it really couldn’t be more important right now for all of us in the world right now to be anchoring into a vibration of love in our world in our planet, to really midwife the world through this period of time. It’s very, very exciting. So we look forward to seeing you online and in the series, much love, and much blessings. Arielle: We will see you tomorrow, good night, everybody! Claire: Good night.
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