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The Newsletter of the Children’s Aid Society of Toronto, Summer 2009

                             We BELIEVE in...
                              Adoption Awareness
                                             Kinship Care
                                         Caring Dads
           Recognizing Our Youth, Volunteers &
                               Foster Parents
                                    Celebrating PRIDE
       Communicate Online:
The Children’s Aid Society of Toronto
is committed to developing a work
                                          In This Issue...
environment and a service delivery        Celebrating our Youth Leaving Care             pg1
system, free from all forms of
oppression, including racism.             News from the Chief Executive Officer
                                          Report from the Annual General Meeting         pg 2-3
Leading with excellence and working       Caring Dads Program                            pg 4
in partnership, we will
create a city where children are safe,    Engaging Fathers Too                           pg 5
families are strong and communities
are supported.                            Celebrating our Volunteers                     pg 6

Our MISSION                               Adoption Needed for Older Children             pg 6
• Prevent situations that lead to child   A Forever Family is for Every Child            pg 7
abuse and neglect by embracing,
strengthening and supporting              News from Adoption Disclosure Services         pg 8
families and communities
• Protect children and youth from         Celebrating our Foster Parents                 pg 9
abuse and neglect
• Provide safe and nurturing care for     Personal Story from Former Client              pg 10
children and youth
• Advocate to meet the needs of           Congratulations to Heidi Kiang                 pg 11
children, youth, families and
communities                               Kinship Families Need Support Too              pg 12

Our VALUES                                Saying Goodbye and Thanks to Anthony Eastman   pg 12
We believe in:
• Placing the needs of children and       Children’s Aid Foundation Corner               pg 13
youth first
• Creating an environment that            Celebrating PRIDE                              back
promotes trust, equality, respect,
diversity, openness and honesty
• Affirming and valuing our staff, care
providers, clients and volunteers
• Promoting enduring relationships
for children and youth
• Being accountable and transparent
• Demonstrating excellence,
leadership, teamwork and innovation

Youth Recognition Night...
Celebrating Our Youth
Leaving Care
By Catherine Snoddon, Communications Coordinator
“The keys to positive change rest in three areas: The power of awareness,
the power of focus, and the ability to take on new challenges gradually
– don’t beat yourself up so much.”

          hese words shared by Da-              The Honourable Deb Matthews,              Vice Chair, Children’s Aid Founda-
          vid Rivard, Chief Execu-              Minister of Children and Youth            tion. Special achievement awards
          tive Officer, at our annual            Services joined in the celebration        were handed out to three individuals
          Youth Recognition Night-              and congratulated our youth by            for overcoming obstacles in their
came from Dr. John Izzo, a best-sell-           recognizing the important role their      lives to achieve either a personal or
ing author, who has made it his life            relationships have had by saying, “I      academic best.
work to foster workplaces of pur-               would like to thank all those support-
pose, learning and renewal. These               ive adults who have brought out the       The most powerful part of the eve-
words were shared with our youth as             best in you.” Peter Lee, Vice Chair,      ning was when youth took the stage
a blueprint for                                                         Children’s        and shared their thoughts about be-
success.                                                                Aid Founda-       ing in care. All of the youth took the
                                                                        tion, presented   opportunity to thank their workers,
This year’s                                                             youth cur-        some of whom joined the youth on
Youth Recogni-                                                          rently pursuing   stage.
                        Go confidently in the direction of your dreams.
tion Night at the              Live the life you have imagined!         post-second-
Delta Chelsea                                                           ary education     Those youth that spoke were honest,
Hotel was a                                                             with awards       passionate and heart-warming:

special celebra-                                                        to recognize
tion, a chance                                                          this special             “I would like to thank
to recognize                                                            achievement.      my foster family for treating
our youth leaving care and all that             “I want you to know that mistakes         me like their own, never giv-
they have accomplished. A record                are an inevitable part of learning        ing up on me and making me
71 youth attended, and all of them              and growing independent, but The          feel part of their family. I know
had the opportunity to say thanks to Children’s Aid Foundation is there                   now that people do change; it
their support system, which for many for you and we will do everything                    just takes time.”
includes their foster family and their we can to help support you in your
CAS of Toronto worker.                          new lives.”                               “I know that negativity follows
                                                                                          us; but positivity guides us and
Saying goodbye is never easy and            “Every youth graduating tonight is            CAS provided me with this
for most youth, we have been their          special and has overcome a great              structure.”
family. Lisa Lifshitz, Board Chair,         deal to achieve success,” said Dar-
shared some advice, “What you               lene Zambri, Children’s Service               “I would like to thank myself
make of your life is up to you. Life        Worker and host for the evening. As           for being so strong and thanks
provides the canvas; you do the             their names were called out, youth            to everyone at CAS from the
painting. Remember that through             walked on stage to receive a watch,           bottom of my heart. You have
desire, goal setting and unflagging          a gift bag and congratulations from           stuck by me through thick and

effort you can have anything you            Sherry Mosko, Director, Children              thin.”
want. Persistence is the key to             and Youth Services and Peter Lee,
A Message from the Chief Executive Officer...
Report from the Annual
General Meeting
By David Rivard
Our Board of Directors elected a new Board Chair at the Annual General
Meeting on June 18. Dr. Janet Morrison, a senior administrator at York
University and CAS of Toronto Board member since 1999, takes over Board
Chair duties.

         irstly let me thank Lisa for    and work in our city.                 been Vice-President and Chief
         her 9 years of service on the                                         Financial Officer with the Sherson
         Board. Her dedicatcation      With that in mind our new Board         Group, an importer, wholesaler and
         and commitment to chil-       members are:                            retailer of family apparel and prod-
dren, youth, families and the com-     • Geraldine Connelly, holds an          ucts. Her Board experience includes
munity are very much appreciated.      M.A. from the University of Chica-      Big Sisters of Ontario and A Capella
                                       go, and a Bachelor of Education De-     Services for Young Women. Barbara
Dr. Morrison grew up in a home that gree from the University of Alberta.       remains committed and sensitive
fostered children, has an adopted      She recently retired as the Director    to issues impacting on children and
brother, and has served as a volun-    of Education for the largest School     their families.
teer with various service agencies for Board in Canada – The Toronto
over twenty years. Her professional    District School Board, a post she has   • Victoria Kondo, holds a Bach-
and personal experience has taught     held since 2005. Gerry is looking       elors of Law and Education Degrees
her about the impact of poverty and forward to offering her time, energy       from the University of Toronto. Cur-
the importance of providing stable     and experience to serve on the Board    rently, she is Deputy Director, Legal
and nurturing relationships and        of the CAS of Toronto.                  Services Branch, Ministry of the
environments free of violence for all                                          Environment. Her past Board experi-
children and youth.                    • Anthony Fralick, brings a strong      ence includes the Japanese Canadian
                                       background in IT Governance and         Cultural Centre and the John Ross
The AGM also provided an oppor-        Internal controls to the Board table.   Robertson Child Care Centre. In her
tunity for the Board to fill vacancies Currently, he is Director of Strategy    current position, Victoria Chairs the
left by departing Board members.       and Architecture for AstraZeneca        Diversity Committee for the Legal
Knowing that there would be sev-       Canada, a large pharmaceutical com-     Services Branch.
eral vacancies to fill in at the AGM, pany. In addition, he was the Chief
earlier this year the Board ran a very Privacy Officer for Union Energy         • Niru Kumar, possesses a Bach-
public recruitment campaign to at-     and held a variety a progressively      elors Degrees in Civil and Common
tract new potential Board candidates responsible IT positions in the Bank-     Law and a B. Comm. from McGill
that reflect the diversity of Toronto   ing/Investment industry. Anthony        University. In addition, she holds
including ethnicity, culture, disabil- holds a B.Sc. in Chemical Engineer-     a Certificate from the International
ity, economic, sexual orientation and ing from Queen’s University and is       Institute of Human Rights, Stras-
gender identity. From a pool of over working towards a M.Sc. Degree in         bourg, France. Since 2006, she has
50 applicants, seven new members       Information Technology from the         been a Director on the Board of the
were selected and will begin their     University of Liverpool.                Canadian Lawyers for International
terms with the Board in September.                                             Human Rights and in 2008 became
Our Agency believes diversity of       • Barbara Hopper, holds an              a Director on the Board of Manor
perspectives is extremely impor-       M.B.A. degree from Hawthorne Uni-       Road Nursery School. Over the past
tant because it allows us to be more   versity and is a Chartered              several years, Niru has provided
reflective of the individuals who live Accountant. Since 2005, she has          legal services to the Walkerton In-

A Message from the Chief Executive Officer...
We Believe in Helping Children Believe
in Themselves
quiry, the Ministry of Consumer and       organizations in North America, is definitely a better governed organization,
Business Services, and the Electrical     as a result of these individuals giving selflessly of their time.
Safety Authority.                         Thank you all and we wish you the very best.

• Haroldene (Deany) Peters,
brings twenty years of experience         Annual Report 2008 to 2009
serving on Boards of not-for profit        The theme of this year’s annual report, “CAS of Toronto Believes In...” is a
organizations, primarily in the down-     celebration of our core values that have helped make better beginnings for
town East end of the City of Toronto.     children, youth and families for over 100 years.
She has served on the Regent Park
Residents Association, Regent Park        The following is a selection of some of these core values. To read our annual
Community Health Centre, Regent           report, please visit
Park Focus Youth Media Arts Cen-
tre and Dixon Hall, to name a few.
For the past seventeen years, Deany
has been employed as a Community
Development Worker in Regent Park
and brings forth a wealth of front-
line and Board experience.

• Aqeel Saeid, holds a Ph.D. from
the University of Putra Malaysia, an
M.A. from the University of Bagh-
dad, and is currently working on an
M.A. in Criminology at U of T. At
the present time, he is a Counsellor
with the Toronto Catholic District
School Board. He also facilitates
group sessions for Arab children
traumatized by war and immigration
(Playing with Rainbows) and has
worked as a Settlement Counsellor
for the Arab Community Centre of

To our departing Board members,
Kerry Bowser, Marguerite Jackson,
Stephen Lewis, Susan Makin, Liz
Rykert, and Susan Silva-Wayne, goes
our heartfelt thanks for your excep-
tional service to the Agency over the

The Children’s Aid Society of To-
ronto, one of the largest child welfare

Innovative Programs...
Caring Dads Program
A Growing Success
By Terry Smith, Family Service Worker
“Caring Dads is for Kids, every dad wants the best for their children and this program will
definitely help toward that.”
                                        completed the program have pro-          referrals have been sent to Family
                                        vided invaluable feedback in describ- Service Toronto, and 40 men have
                                        ing the need for such programs and       completed the program. I continue
                                        services for men. One group member to work closely with Family Service
                                        explained that the Children’s Aid        Toronto, meet and present to staff at
                                        Society Social Worker told him that      the Children’s Aid Society of Toron-
                                        he needed to be a better father. He      to about the program. It has proven
                                        stated that he didn’t know how to        to be very rewarding for the fathers
                                        be a better father and that he does      we are supporting.

                                        what he knows how to do,
                                        what he was taught. He             “It help[ed] me realize that I’m not
             ur Agency has started                                   the only person going through this”.
             several projects that sup- said that he learned things
             port our ongoing focus     in this group that other
                                                                     “Group sessions and support are helpful“.
             of working with men        fathers may have learned
more effectively than we have in the from their father or other “What we learned in the group, shows in
past. In the spring of 2007, myself     positive male role models, our day to day life”.
and several other colleagues attended and that he didn’t learn
the Caring Dads training at Family      positive things from his     “The group helped me realize that how I

Service Toronto.                        father, which put him and speak affects everyone in the house”.
                                        other group members at a
The Caring Dads Program is a 17         disadvantage.                            For further information about the
week program created to help work                                                Caring Dads Program or to make a
with fathers who are abusive toward     The programs success continues to        referral, please contact Family
their children and/or their partners.   grow and to date, approximately 100 Service Toronto at 416-595-9618.
Given the positive feedback from the
staff who attended the training, I was
assigned as the Caring Dads Liaison
to work closely with our staff and
Family Service Toronto to seek refer-
rals and promote the program across
the agency. Since then, numerous
presentations to staff and supervisors                                                                   GOLF DAY
have been done, one to one inter-
views with clients were completed,                                                                Just FORE fun
consultations about appropriate refer-
rals made and men who completed                                                                      June 22nd
the program were interviewed about
their experience.
                                        ‘Best Dressed Team’ Winners from left to right; Laura Tobin,
The men I have talked to who have       Maria Tapia, Louise Tremeer and Kim Wolak pose with David Rivard.

Father Matters...
Engaging Fathers Too
Tri-Service Team focuses on engaging fathers
By Kathy Duncan, Tri-Service Supervisor and                                       As beautiful as you are, as much
Diana Stucchi, Tri-Service, Family Service Worker

                                                                                  as I wanted to and would have
            esearch has shown that                                                loved to raise you, I had to make
                                         working on parenting his daughter
                                                                                  a decision, not based on what
            child welfare workers        with the help of our Agency.             I wanted, but rather based on
            don’t always put enough
                                                                                  what is best for you. Where I am
            effort into finding fathers   *The following letter, written by        in life always changes, some-
of children we are working with or       a father whose daughter became a         times things are good, but most
put enough emphasis on building          Crown Ward of our Agency, serves         of the time they are bad. I have
a relationship with these fathers.       as poignant reminder of the need to      mental health issues including
Further, this research has shown         include fathers in children’s lives.     anxiety, obsessive compulsive
that, contrary to popular opinion, the   This is a particular situation where     disorder and depression for all
majority of fathers involved with        the father relinquished his child in a of which I am taking medica-
the child welfare system do see their    loving way. The majority of the men tion. Unfortunately, these medi-
children on a regular                                     we work with are        cations only moderately help
basis and many of                                         able to stay active in me, and sometimes not at all. I
these fathers do pro-                                     their children’s lives. am not able to really look after
vide financial support.                                                            myself, or my dog, to keep my
                                                          *At the time of         job, or a friend, an apartment or
The Tri-Service Team                                      writing this, I am      a relationship of any kind. I am
                                                          25 years old and        not a “dead-beat father” who
at our Agency has been
                                                          living with my          doesn’t care about you or his
placing a particular
                                                          aunt, uncle and         own life and responsibility etc. I
focus on finding and                                                               am a guy who cares very much,
engaging fathers for                                      cousins at their
                                                          home. I did not         but unfortunately has many
every family they help.
This work has sup-                                        have a very good problems that need to be over-
                                                          relationship at all     come before taking responsibil-
ported these research                                                             ity for another person’s life.
                                                          with my mother,
findings and reminds
                                                          and I have had
all of us working with
                                                          many problems in I had to make a real and hard
children of the impor-                                    the past that she       decision based on what is best
tant role that fathers                                    could not cope          for you. That decision was to
play.                                    with. My aunt and uncle had to have you raised by a family who
                                         take me into their home when             had the means both financially
One father who received support          I was 17 and I have been liv-            and emotionally to raise a beau-
from our Agency was not actively         ing with them on and off since           tiful girl.
involved in his child’s life. Howev-     then. My immediate family fell
                                         apart when I was 12 years old,           I have faith in the CAS and your
er, through a lot of hard work on his
                                         after my father died suddenly            caseworker that they will find
part he has successfully overcome
                                         of a heart attack. I have not            and pick a wonderful family
his addiction and anger issues. Our                                               to raise you and properly care
worker always gave him hope that         been close at all with my sisters
he could be part of his daughter’s       or mom since then and am only for you, teach you, guide you,
                                         slowly beginning to develop a            provide for you and love you in
life and made sure that he was kept                                               a positive environment, the way
informed about her. This communi-        relationship with my brother.
                                                                                  you deserve to be loved and
cation and support was an important                                               raised.
motivator and this father is now

                                                                                   Adoption Needed...
                                                                                   Needed for
Celebrating our Volunteers...                                                      Older Children
Volunteer Recognition 2009

By Lori Gibbard, Volunteer Services Coordinator
             uring National Volunteer    ago and has been a Special Friend to
             Week, we celebrated our     several children. One of our par-
             volunteers at our an-       ents reported that, “their child’s face
             nual Recognition event      just lights up when he speaks with
held on April 25. The theme for this     Marion on the phone.” Marion has
event was “Celebrating Diversity”        also offered Parent Relief to a moth-
and volunteers were sent their invita-   er recovering from hip surgery, and
tions in the form of a passport, which   has assisted with several research
they brought with them. Photographs      assignments.

were taken to attach, and participants
moved through the various conti-         Thank you Marion, and all our vol-                   n Friday, April 24 we
nents of the world tasting interna-      unteers for your time, effort, partner-              co-hosted a media con-
tional finger foods from the various      ship and dedication in spreading the                 ference along with the
countries within the continents.         good news of the difficult work we                    Adoption Council of
                                         do here at the Children’s Aid Society Ontario to draw attention to the need
Our participants were entertained        of Toronto.                             for families to adopt older children.
throughout the event by an interna-                                              Pat Convery, Executive Director,
tionally known musician, songwriter      *Please note: We are especially         Adoption Council of Ontario, David
and sound therapist, Gary Diggins        in need of male volunteers for          Rivard, Chief Executive Officer, and
and his group of celebrated musi-        Special Friend assignments and          Kaushala Mahesan Wendy’s Wonder-
cians known as “Triune”.                 volunteers who can travel outside ful Kids Recruiter spoke about the
                                         the GTA to support children and         benefits and opportunities of adopt-
                                         youth in our care.                      ing a child who is older. They were
One of the highlights of
this event is the pre-                                                           joined by adoption advocates Mary-
sentation of the Crystal                                                         anne and Zoë Bourgeois. Zoë, who
Heart Award to honour                                                            was adopted as a teenager, spent nine
a volunteer or group of                                                          and a half years in New Brunswick’s
volunteers whose com-                                                            foster care system before being
mitment to volunteer-                                                            adopted by Maryanne, who is an
ism has been demon-                                                              adoptee herself.
strated through length
of service, multiple as-                                                           Finding homes for older children is a
signments and outstand-                                                            top priority for the CAS of Toronto.
ing service. This year’s                                                           We currently have two Wendy’s
recipient was Marion                                                               Wonderful Kids Recruiters who spe-
Radsma.                                                                            cialize in finding homes for older and
                                                                                   special needs children.
Marion began volun-          Gary Diggins and his ‘Triune’ entertained
teering over 29 years               participants at the event.

Forever Family...
A “Forever Family” Is for Every Child
By Catherine Snoddon, Communications Coordinator
“I would like to get love and affection and all those things I haven’t
had before.” - Angela, young girl wanting a forever family.
                                        they would with a younger child.          more involved with the adoption
                                        “A lot of the ‘problems’ can actu-        process than younger children. Their
                                        ally be positive. Older children are      voice is heard throughout the en-
                                        able to have conversations and can        tire process and their personalities
                                        be a lot easier to relate to and get to   and characteristics help us create a
                                        know.” Kaushala Mahesan, Adoption         profile of the type of parent that we
                                        Worker at CAS of Toronto, went on         feel would best be able to meet their
                                        to say, “Sometimes people are wor-        needs. The adoption journey tends to
                                        ried that they might miss out with        be a much longer process in order for
                                        an older child on a lot of ‘firsts’, but   everyone to get to know each other
                                        many children who have been living        gradually.

“   When we met our son,
Stephen, he was seven years
old and I can honestly say that
                                        in the care of a CAS may not have
                                        had the same opportunities as other
                                        children. Birthday parties, trips to
                                                                                  Adopting an older child is a learn-
                                                                                  ing process for everyone involved
                                        the zoo, being on a baseball team can     and like any situation where you
we fell in love with him right
                                        all be experiences that you share for     are learning, sometimes it requires
away. Alex, adoptive father,
                                        the first time together, as a family.”     support. Families that adopt older
went on to say, “People gen-
                                                                                  children receive extra help which can
erally think about adoption
                                        A relatively new focus for children’s     include having a Child and Youth
with babies and very young
                                        aid societies is trying to find homes      Counsellor work with the family
children, but older children
                                        for teenagers. “Teenagers need            while everyone adjusts to one an-
need parents too. What will
                                        families as much as anybody, per-         other. Child and Youth Counsellors
happen to these children if
                                        haps more. They really need a car-        can provide support throughout the
they don’t get this kind of

                                        ing adult to guide them through the       adjustment period and beyond that

                                        process of becoming an adult, said        time if needed. Jean, an adoptive
                                        Kaushala. Parenting a teen is often       mom to an older child says, “A social
            hildren living in the care
                                        tough, but there is real opportunity      worker through CAS came to coach
            of a children’s aid society
                                        to bond and shape someone’s life          me on some of the situations we
            are counting on us. Like a
                                        forever.”                                 were facing. She would model some
            good parent we need to do
                                                                                  behaviours to try while I watched. It
everything we can to make sure they
                                        There are some real perks to be-          was really helpful for me.”
are loved, nurtured and supported.
                                        ing a Mom or Dad of an older child
Research has shown again and again
                                        and one of them is no more diapers!       In the end parenting any child brings
that the best way to do this is in a
                                        Older children are usually done           its own unique challenges, heart-
permanent home like that of an adop-
                                        with baby stuff. On a more serious        breaks and joys, but the impact you
tive family.
                                        note, older children are usually more     can have on a child’s life is simply
                                        knowledgeable about their birth par-      immeasurable. “When I see my son
Finding families who are interested
                                        ents and history, which can be very       laugh, truly laugh, then I know that I
in caring for older children can be
                                        helpful for them being able to move       have done a good job. It is so beauti-
challenging. Many people are fear-
                                        on with their life.                       ful to see and such a reward to know
ful that there will be problems with
                                                                                  we have helped to create that happi-
an older child and that they won’t be
                                        Children who are older are much           ness” says Jean.
able to bond with an older child as

News from Adoption Disclosure..
Adoption Disclosure Services Are Changing
New Rules Beginning June 1
By Adoption and Crown Ward Disclosure Services
The Access to Adoption Records Act (AARA) was introduced in December
of 2007 and passed in May of 2008.

           he Ontario Government has        A corporation, if guilty of this of-      being sought is likely to derive a
           changed its laws governing       fence, may be fined up to $250,000.        direct medical benefit.
           access to adoption records.
           The Access to Adoption           An individual may also submit a        Adopted adults, adoptive parents,
Records Act (AARA) was introduced           contact preference notice, indicat-    birth parents, birth siblings, birth
in December of 2007 and passed in           ing how he or she would like to be     grandparents, birth aunts and uncles,
May of 2008. This act will allow            contacted after the release of his or  and children of deceased adopted
adopted adults and birth parents to         her post-adoption birth information    adults can still request non-identify-
obtain identifying information about        (e.g., by phone, email, etc.). How-    ing information from the Children’s
each other. The government refers to        ever, there are no penalties if contactAid Society (CAS) that handled the
this identifying information as “post-      is made in a manner that is different  adoption. If an individual does not
adoption information.”                      than indicated on the notice.          know which CAS handled the adop-
                                                                                   tion, he or she may request from
Beginning on June 1, 2009, an               Adopted adults and birth parents       Service Ontario an application form
adopted adult will be able to apply         who do not wish to have their identi- for non-identifying information. If it
for a copy of his or her original birth     fying information released have the    is determined that the adoption was
registration, which normally contains       option to submit a disclosure veto     handled by a CAS, the individual
the birth mother’s name at the time         (providing the adoption was final-      will be re-directed to the appropriate
of the birth, as well as a copy of his      ized prior to September 1, 2008). A agency. If the adoption was arranged
or her adoption order. Once an ad-          disclosure veto prevents the release   privately, the Custodian of Adop-
opted person has reached the age of         of any information found in birth      tion Information will release the
19, his or her birth parent, if eligible,   registrations and adoption orders that non-identifying information in their
will be able to apply for information       would identify the person who filed     possession.
from the adopted person’s original          the veto.
and substituted birth registrations                                                Service Ontario is the door to the
and adoption order, including the           The Adoption Disclosure Register is public for all provincial govern-
person’s adoptive name. (An eligible        a government service that matches      ment services, including adoption
birth parent is one who is listed on        adopted adults with birth relatives.   information disclosure. The public
the adopted person’s original birth         Both the adopted adult and the birth can access information, application
registration.)                              relative must have submitted their     forms and supporting guides for
                                            names and contact information to       all available adoption information
An individual who does not want to          the Register in order to be matched. disclosure services online at ontario.
be contacted after the release of his       When a match is made, the contact      ca/en/residents/111872 or by calling
or her post-adoption birth informa-         information submitted to the Register 1-800-461-2156 or
tion (i.e., identifying information)        is the information that is provided to 416-325-8305.
can submit a no-contact notice. Vio-        each of the parties matched.
lating a no-contact notice is an of-                                               Further questions can be directed to
fence, and an individual who violates       The Custodian of Adoption Informa- the Children’s Aid Society of
a no-contact notice may be subject to       tion may conduct a search in the case Toronto’s Adoption Disclosure
a penalty of up to $50,000.                 of severe illness, where the person    Services at 416-924-4640 ext. 3595.
                                            requesting the search or the person
                                                                               Management who has helped spon-
Celebrating our Foster Parents...                                              sor this event for the past three years.

The Stars of Our Agency                                                        Our foster parent celebrities were
                                                                               entertained by Peter Jarvis otherwise
By Dawna Cramer, Foster Care Intake and Recruitment                            known as Silver Elvis. The highlight
The Stars were out during the day. Foster parents                              of the afternoon was our own ver-
                                                                               sion of the Oscar presentations with
and staff donned their finest attire at the 7th
                                                                               Jib Jab clips featuring some of our
annual foster parent tea, on June 2, with a Day at                             foster parents and staff representing
the Oscars theme.

                                                                               the winning categories for this award
                                       Claudi Biscotti, Dunwoody Booth,        show.
           ver 185 people walked
           the red carpet and had      Dufflets, Faema, Flour Girls, Gala-
                                       pogos Imports, Goddess Chocolates       Many of our guests dressed up in
           their photos taken by our
                                       and Cakes, Herbal Infusion, Holly-      their finery for the day, some repre-
           resident staff paparazzi
                                       wood Standups, Home Sweet Home,         senting their favourite celebrities.
Irma D’Alonzo, Mumtaz Waljee and
                                       Illy Espresso Ltd, Kernels Popcorn,     It would have been very difficult to
Ferdinand Herrera. Our own E-Hol-
                                       , Lindt Sprungli, Lovely Cuppa,         say who would make this year’s best
lywood commentators Katie Gibson
                                       McCall’s Baking Supplies, Margaret      dressed list. However, there is no
and Luc Drouin conducted red carpet
                                                           Pommer, Pos-        question which of our stars caused
interviews which
                                                           ticino Restau-      the biggest fashion reaction. Carol
were captured on
                                                           rante, Reunion      Lummis, arrived in Björk’s memo-
video by Visual
                                                           Island Coffee,      rable swan dress, to the applause and
Creations Photog-
                                                           The Movie Post-     laughter of all. She certainly left her
raphy and Videog-
                                                           er Warehouse,       mark (and many, many of her feath-
                                                           Soma Choco-         ers), all over this event.
Hosting the event                                          lates, Stubbe
was Marc Mac-                                              Chocolates,
                                                           Sweetcheeks Fa-     The day the stars came out was a
Donald, Wilma,
                                                           vours, Tea Frog     memorable one, and fitting tribute to
“Marilyn Mon-
                                                           Teas, Timex of      our Agency’s stars, our foster par-
roe”, Cannon
                                                           Canada, Twisted     ents, whose dedication and devotion
and Luc, “James
                                                           Sisters, Unique     to children in care is life transform-
Dean,” Drouin.
                                                           Party Supplies,     ing. All are winners in our eyes.
The room at                                                Warner Brothers
the Franciscan                                             of Canada, and
Church of St                                               Waterdale Floral
Bonaventure was                                            Supplies
transformed into a     Left to Right: Peter Jarvis aka
Hollywood venue       ‘Sliver Elvis’ and Carol Lummis       A very spe-
thanks to linens                  aka ‘Björk’.              cial “A Star is
by Chair Décor                                              Born” diamond
Etc, tableware from A and S Special encrusted star shaped pendant was
Events and Balloon Decor Yorli.         provided by Nuno Rocha of the
                                        Diamond Studio was won by Foster
Door prizes and event props were        Parent Carlene Brown.
donated by: Acco Canada Ltd.,
Algonquin Tea Company, Bacon            A buffet luncheon suited for any red
Basketware, Bulova Watch Com-           carpet event was provided by Food          Janie Ryan at the bus stop
pany, Camcarb, Celestial Delights,      For Thought Catering and Event                   with ‘Marilyn’.

                                                                                 I needed a place for my children who
  Personal Story from Former Client..                                            were to be returned shortly to live. I
                                                                                 found a place in community housing
 You Live and You Learn                                                          for my children and myself. I moved
                                                                                 in, and had my children returned to
 The following is a personal story written by a former client
                                                                                 me within a month.
 that demonstrates how positive changes can happen
 with the right combination of support and determination.

                                                                                 As a result of my experience, I have
       n 2005, after I had my second son, I got into some trouble with the       learned a tough lesson in life and
       law. I had a boyfriend who was abusive and drank a lot. One night, I      made a promise to my children and
       went out to have a good time and when I returned home he was drink-       myself. “Try your best to avoid
       ing as he was watching our son. I became very belligerent and abusive     conflict by using the tools I learned
 towards my boyfriend. Soon after, the police were called and I was arrested     during anger management and stress
 for assaulting my boyfriend. I was incarcerated for the long weekend and        managements programs and look for
 my children were apprehended by the CAS and placed with my boyfriend’s          familiar patterns.” Break the pattern
 mother for the period of a year.                                                of abuse. My conclusion is that no
                                                                                 matter what happens, things work
 After I was released from jail, I had many things that needed to be done        out as long as you take simple steps
 before I could have my children returned. To begin, I had to live in a          instead of jumping. It may take time
 women’s shelter where most of the women were drug users. Many of them           but will benefit you in the end.
 just lived on the premises, and had been living there for some time. I felt
 uncomfortable, but I needed to do what I had to do in order for my children
 to be returned. I was referred to a program at The Center for Addiction and
 Mental Health on the accusation I was an alcoholic because I was incarcer-
 ated under the influence. I completed the three-week live-in program. Dur-        Communicate is produced by the
                                                                                  Communications Department of the
 ing the time I was in the program, I lost my apartment, so there was no place
                                                                                  Children’s Aid Society of Toronto.
 for my children to return to. As a result, I returned to the women’s shelter
 and completed a number of parenting programs recommended by Children’s           Comments, letters to the editor, and
 Services, which included anger management and urine tests three times a          submissions may be forwarded to:
 week to ensure I was not drinking alcohol. During the court proceedings,         Catherine Snoddon and Rob Thompson,
                                                                                  Editors, Communicate.
 I was sent to a probation officer who referred me to a PAR (Partner Assault
                                                                                  Communications Department
 Response) program, which included becoming aware of the signs of abuse           Children’s Aid Society of Toronto
 and learning about anger management. Again, I completed the program.             30 Isabella Street
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Congratulations to Heidi Kiang...                                            Request...
Ryerson’s Field Instructor of                                                A Speaker
the Year                                                                     Confused about the role of

                                                                             the CAS of Toronto in our
         ongratulations are in order for Heidi Kiang, not only has she
         recently been appointed as Interim Director, Volunteer Services,
         but she was awarded the distinction of being the Field Instructor
         of the Year from Ryerson’s School of Social Work.                   Not sure when to call the
                                                                             CAS of Toronto?
                                      The School of Social Work ac-
                                      knowledges Field Instructors’          Need some help learning
                                      commitment to quality social work
                                                                             positive ways to discipline
                                      education in part through the Field
                                      Instructor of the Year Award.          children?

                                      The success of the field placement         Get the answers to
                                      experience is largely dependent         these and many more
                                      upon the energy, time and exper-              questions by
                                      tise that practitioners are willing
                                                                               requesting a speaker
                                      to share with students. The Field
                                      Instructor of the Year Award is one        from our Speakers
                                      small way that the School of Social       Bureau to visit your
                                      Work acknowledges and celebrates              organization.
                                      this important role and those who
                                      support students as Field Instruc-     The CAS of Toronto Speak-
   Left to Right: Heidi Kiang and                                            ers Bureau is a group of 100
            Bobbi Moore.                                                     people, made up of our staff.
                                       Heidi was nominated by Bobbi
Moore, her placement student. Bobbi wrote many reasons why she believed      We routinely visit organi-
Heidi should receive this distinction.                                       zations to explain our role
                                                                             within the community and
Here are some of her thoughts:                                               your responsibility in helping
                                                                             us protect kids from abuse
Heidi is a wonderful person and supervisor. She is incredible at creat-
ing a space of equality and respect. Although I am aware that as my          and neglect.
supervisor she has a lot of power, she is always willing to hear me and
learn from me. I can honestly say that my time here at CAS of Toron-         We are happy to tailor our
to has changed the way I see myself. My disability is now changing
to ABILITY! Heidi has given me plenty of room to create my learning
                                                                             presentation to your group’s
path here. I have learned a lot from Heidi that I will use as a Social       specific request.
Worker. I have learned how important it is to always be aware of the
power differences within relationships. Although they do exist, she          Visit our website at
has taught me that there is no reason to fear making mistakes and
that in trusting relationships the power can be shared, and is chang- for more
ing over time during the relationship. As a result, I am learning to be      information and submit your
a lot more comfortable speaking, taking risks and challenging myself         request today!
as a student and as a person. Thank you so much Heidi for helping
me along this journey of change and acceptance of myself.

Kinship Care...
Kinship Families Need
Support Too
A family is a group of members who love you.
A family is a group of members who need you.
A family is a group of people you love.
A family is a group of people who will be there for you.
                         Torrie Jackson                                           Saying Goodbye

          inship, or caring for children who biologically do not belong to        and Thanks to...
          you, but who are connected through blood, family ties or any
          meaningful relationship, is changing the face of family. When           Anthony
          children cannot live at home safely with their parents, we are
committed to first trying to have them stay with someone with whom they
                                                                                  Foster Care Resource Worker
have an emotional connection.

                                                                Recently, our
                                                                Branch hosted
                                                                our very first
                                                                Kinship Fam-
                                                                ily Support
                                                                Group. The
                                                                group was
                                                                divided into
                                                                two sections

                                                                with parents
                                                                and caregivers                    e would like to con-
                                                                in one group                      gratulate Anthony
                                                                and children in                   Eastman, Foster Care
                                                                the other. The                    Resource Worker,
                                                                groups were       who recently retired from our Agen-
led by Amanda Forbes and Tiffany Allison, both Kinship Care Workers.              cy after 28 years of service. Your
Over a six-week time period families and children got to talk about some          team would especially like to ac-
of the challenges they were facing in their new roles as parents while learn-     knowledge the many years of caring
ing about the resources that are available to kinship families. The Support       and hard work that you provided.
Group really helped families find a sense of community as many of them             The last 11 years at our Agency
felt disconnected from everyone else as their family doesn’t necessarily look     which were spent with your col-
like the traditional family. This was felt particularly among the children:       leagues in the Foster Care and Adop-
two young people in the group were actually classmates who had no idea            tion department will not be forgotten,
they were both living in kinship families as they didn’t feel comfortable         particularly your laughter and your
being open about this information.                                                sense of humour.
The group was very well received and there are plans to have more Support         Enjoy your time golfing and playing
Groups in the future.                                                             tennis. On behalf of everyone at
                                                                                  CAS of Toronto, we wish you all
Thanks to everyone for making this pilot project such a success!                  the best!

                                                                                of the Scotiabank Toronto Waterfront
Children’s Aid Foundation...                                                    Marathon. We couldn’t be happier or
Corner                                                                          more excited!
                                         Both gentleman spoke about their
                                                                                We are looking for participants for
Youth come out to learn                  personal experiences and the re-
                                                                                the Scotiabank Toronto Waterfront
                                         wards of working in the construction
more about apprenticeship                industry.
                                                                                Marathon to join “Team CAF” and
                                                                                help to raise funds for our children
programs!                                                                       in need. With a 5km run/walk, half
                                                Special thanks to the
                                                                                marathon and marathon, there is an
                                                Children’s Aid Foundation
                                                                                event that everyone can participate in
                                                ( for coordinating
                                                                                on September 27th, 2009!
                                                this event and for hosting
                                                lunch for everyone.
                                                                             We have a friendly competition go-
                                                                             ing between the Children’s Aid Soci-
                                                For anyone unable to at-
                                                                             ety agencies participating on behalf
                                                tend the presentation but
                                                                             of the Foundation’s team. Durham,
                                                interested in learning more
                                                                             Peel, York and CAS of Toronto have
                                                about working in the trades
                                                                             signed on to help raise funds for
                                                and Local 183 please con-
                                                                             your individual agencies. We know
                                                tact Sherri McMullen,
                                                                             how you like a good competition so
                                                Children’s Service Worker at
   Left to Right: John Campbell, Sherri                                      get signed up or coerce a co-worker,
                                                416.924.4646 ext 2233.
        McMullen, Risa Abella and                                            family member or friend to sign up
              Vince Varano.                                                  so that you can sponsor them.

                                               What are you doing               For more information on the
            n May 28 almost 30
                                         September 27, 2009?                    event and how to register to
            youth attended a pre-
                                                                                run or to sponsor a participant,
            sentation by Local 183       Join us to help make a                 visit
            and Tridel. Risa Abella,
Local 183 Apprenticeship & Training      difference                             thon2009.aspx or contact Rebecca

                                                                                Llewellyn at 416.923.0924 x235 or
Coordinator, spoke candidly about
                                                  his year the Children’s Once you
apprenticeships available through
                                                  Aid Foundation has been       have registered contact Rebecca to
Local 183 and the opportunities
                                                  fortunate to be named one     let her know you want your fundrais-
that can be realized by pursuing a
                                                  of three featured charities   ing going back to CAS of Toronto.
career in the trades. Attendees were
interested to learn that Local 183 is
North America’s largest construction
union. Some youth were interested
in signing up for the apprenticeship
program right away, while others
wanted to learn more. To that end,
Local 183 will be hosting a “shad-
owing” day at its training facility in

A career in the trades was further
highlighted by Vince Varano, a mem-
ber of Local 183 currently employed
at Professional Carpentry, and John                     2008 Scotiabank Toronto Waterfront
McIlvery, Site Supervisor, Tridel.              Marathon Children’s Aid Society of Toronto participants.

Children’s Aid Society of Toronto has...
Proud to be
YOU and ME!

   Congratulations are in order for Richardson                     Winners at North Branch are all smiles! From
  Residence, winners of the PRIDE Branches Out,                      left to right, Karim Morgan, Temporary
          Internal Resources, contest.                                 Administrative Assistant and Sandra
                                                                        Fontenelle, Family Service Worker.

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