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Obama’s Student’s
Struggle For Freedom
Versandra Kennebrew
Raise Your Rod
Against the Enemy
Ramelle T. Lee
Moving On to
Completion
Karmen A. Booker
Hurting You
Wanda J. Burnside
I Can’t Stand That Person!
ON THE COVER: Marissa “Nova” Gadsden
Venus Mason Theus, Author of “Pearls of Wisdom for Wives:
How to Have a Joyfully-Ever-After Marriage”
Living in the
POWER OF WISDOM
2011 Conference
SISTAHS Embracing the Elevation Conference – “Power and Purpose”
Friday, August 26, 2011 – Saturday, August 27, 2011 (Photos by Rizel Photography – www.RizelPhotography.com)
Power and Purpose WOMEN OF THE YEAR
2011 Conference Beneficiaries (L-R): SISTAH Teen Director Elder Sharnae Coakley, Kalyn Risker (Civic & Community
Woman of the Year), Minister Kim Brooks (Ministry Woman of the Year), Frankie
Darcell (Entertainment Woman of the Year), Co-Founder & Director, Rev. Celeste
Kelley, Dr. Nellie M. Hawkins-Williams (Education Woman of the Year), Pam Perry
(Business Woman of the Year)
Helping Others Mother
Effectively (H.O.M.E.) Girlz
Alternatives For Girls
Guest Speaker, LADY VALORIE BENNETT – Friday, August 26, 2011
Co-Pastor, House of Prayer & Praise Ministries
Interim House
Not Pictured:
Women In Touch, Next Step
Phase II
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2011 Conference
SISTAHS Embracing the Elevation Conference – “Power and Purpose”
Friday, August 26, 2011 – Saturday, August 27, 2011 (Photos by Rizel Photography – www.RizelPhotography.com)
Guest Speaker, SHELITA WILLIAMS – Saturday, August 27, 2011
Author, “How to REIGN in Life”
Community Baby Clothes Give-Away – Saturday, August 27, 2011
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Letter From the Editor
Faith in the Manifestation of the Purpose…
Peace and Blessings, SISTAHS! We are honored to bring you
another issue of “SISTAH Talk E-Magazine”.
As we have endeavored this year to empower, inform and inspire
women and teenage girls to walk in their purpose with the power the
Lord has destined us to have, it is a blessing to know that there are
many who have been pregnant with their purpose and are now ready
to deliver. While the trial of labor may be one that is painful, the
journey encompasses faith to know that you are walking in the call of
the Lord.
The journey of faith is not straightforward. We are all hemmed in on
every side by uncertainty, at times by doubt, confusion, and the
mystery of all that we do not yet know. Faith is a process. If we are
to make this journey towards faith we are going to need to start with
surrender and be willing to make the journey to whatever places
there are that can support and encourage us in our faith.
The problem of course with the journey of faith is that we are making
a journey towards something that does not operate in the normal
realm of our physical senses. The mysterious workings of God
cannot be immediately apprehended by our faculties of sight,
hearing, smell, taste, or touch. God does not work in the ways with
which we are familiar. God seems to operate according to a whole
different set of guidelines.
Giving birth to your purpose, giving birth to the ministry into which
God is thrusting you, giving birth to the business God intends for you
to have, pushing out the miracle that God intends for you to be, is
painful. Sometimes we cry. Sometimes we scream. Sometimes we
complain. Sometimes we hurt the ones who are trying to hold our
hand. But if we will allow the Word and the Spirit to continue to
work in you, the urge to push will become almost overwhelming and
though it come through much pain and difficulty, you will give birth
to your purpose or to the next level of your purpose, and no one else
can do it for you.
Keep the faith as the manifestation of your destiny comes to pass!
In His Power and Walking in His Purpose,
Rev. Celeste Kelley
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~ Table of Contents ~
“Moving Onward to Completion” by Karmen A. Booker ............................................................................6
A SISTAH’s Lifestyle – Life-Coaching Principles
“Raise Your Rod Against the Enemy” by Ramelle T. Lee .............................................................................8
WORD ON THE STREET – Dating &b Relationship Principles
“Do You Agree? Equally Yoked in Christ” by Pamyla Floyd ....................................................................10
“I Can’t Stand That Person!” by Marissa “Nova” Gadsden .........................................................................11
SISTAH Teen Mentoring Initiative
“Handling Your Enemies With Gentleness” ..............................................................................................12
Living the Victorious & Blessed Life
“WWW: Wear Weapons Wisely” by Rev. Revita DeChalus ........................................................................14
“31 Meditations in Seeking God’s Righteousness” by Evangelist Avis Ward ........................................16
LIFE IS GREAT! by Versandra Kennebrew
“Obama’s Students Struggle For Freedom” ............................................................................................18
On the Cover: VENUS MASON THEUS
“Living in the Power of Wisdom” .................................................................................................................20
Domestic Violence & Abuse
“After Then After That…” by Reeveal .............................................................................................................24
A SISTAH’s Closet ............................................................................................................................................26
Health & Beauty ................................................................................................................................................27
SISTAHS Services & Business Network ......................................................................................................28
FAITH & FINANCES by Cedric Dukes
“Sacrifice Now for the Future” ......................................................................................................................29
Soul SISTAHS Café of Reading & Poetry
“Hurting You” by Wanda J. Burnside ................................................................................................................36
“They” by Yvette Wilburn ....................................................................................................................................37
Christian Events & Evangelism (C.E.E.) Network
Feature: TaMyya J ..........................................................................................................................................38
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Moving Onward to Completion
By Karmen A. Booker
In order to move forward, we must take steps. Each constantly in motion. The steps you take when you walk
step is a building block for the next step; each step get you from point A to point B. For example, if you want
leading you closer to the finish line (the completed goal). to get to the bus stop, which is three blocks from your
house, then you must take the necessary steps to reach
Who orders our steps? God the bus stop.
“The steps of a righteous man are ordered by the Lord.” Moreover, as we allow God to order our steps, we
(Psalm 37:23) remain focused and single-minded, rather than veering
off the course that he has set for us. It is important that
But we must allow God to order our steps by submitting we remain focused and single-minded because if we
to Him. Laying down our own desires and adopting His veer from our God-given course by taking a wrong turn,
desires for our lives. we begin to take steps in the wrong direction. Therefore,
we are no longer moving forward, but backward. We are
This requires a willful choice. no longer growing but digressing. This is analogous to
traveling. Suppose your destination is Annapolis,
Taking steps requires forward movement. When you Maryland. You are traveling on the Beltway, and you
move forward, you are growing and graduating from one see road signs - Route 50 - Washington, DC, and Route
level of growth to the next level. However, if you are not 50 - Annapolis, MD. Instead of going in the direction of
taking steps - moving forward - then you are doing one Annapolis, MD you go in the direction of Washington,
of two things: (1) stagnating - remaining still and not DC. Thus, you are off the course to Annapolis. If you
going anywhere; or (2) digressing - moving backward. continue on Route 50 - Washington, DC you will never
make it to Annapolis. You must make a U-Turn and go
Taking steps toward completion of a goal is like walking. in the right direction.
When you walk, you are constantly taking steps forward;
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In the course of life, once we veer off the course God Prayer
has set before us, there is a way to get on the right “Pray without ceasing.” (I Thessalonians 5:17)
course. That way is to ask God for directions back onto
the straight and narrow road that leads us on the path of Study the Word
His perfect will. The longer we continue to take steps
backward, the longer it will take us to reach our final “Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman
goal. Therefore, it is crucial that we allow God to order that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word
our steps so that we can remain on the straight and of truth. (II Timothy 2:15)
narrow road.
Fellowship With Other Believers
“Enter ye in at the strait gate: for wide is the gate, and
broad is the way, that leadeth to destruction, and many “And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some
there be which go in thereat: Because strait is the gate, people do, but encourage and warn each other,
and narrow is the way, which leadeth unto life, and few especially now that the day of his (Jesus Christ) coming
there be that find it.” (Matthew 7:13-14 - KJV) back again is drawing near.” (Hebrews 10:25)
“This is what I told them: Obey me, and I will be your Praise and Worship
God, and you will be my people. Only do as I say, and
all will be well. But my people would not listen to me. “I will bless the Lord at all times, his praise shall
They kept on doing whatever they wanted, following the continually be in my mouth.” (Psalm 34:1)
stubborn desires of their evil hearts. They went
backward instead of forward.” (Jeremiah 7:23-24- AMP)
Benefits of Staying on the Straight and Narrow Road
“I hearkened and heard, but they spake not aright: no are:
man repented him of his wickedness, saying, What have
I done? Every one turned to his course, as the horse You remain in God‟s perfect will;
rusheth into the battle.” (Jeremiah 8:6 - KJV)
You increase your level of intimacy with the Lord Jesus
“So now the Lord says, “Stop right where you are! Look Christ;
for the old godly way, and walk in it.” Travel its path, and
you will find rest for your souls. But you reply, “No, that’s You increase your knowledge and understanding of the
not the road we want”. (Jeremiah 6:16 - NLV) Word;
Requirements for Staying on the Straight and Narrow You are able to bless others; and
Road are:
You remain in a state of readiness to hear from God.
Diligence
“Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my
“But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he path.” (Psalm 119:105)
that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he
is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.” (Hebrews © 2011 Karmen A. Booker – All Rights Reserved.
11:6)
“Lazy people want much but get little, but those who
work hard will prosper and be satisfied.” (Proverbs 13:4)
Karmen A. Booker has been called by God to exhort and teach others the Word of God. She is
the founder of Wings of Love Women’s Ministry (WLWM), which is a teaching and evangelist
ministry whose vision is to encourage and inspire people to accept and commit their lives to
Jesus Christ.
Visit Kamen at www.womendestinedforgreatness.wordpress.com
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A SISTAH’s Lifestyle – Life-Coaching Principles
Raise Your Rod Against the Enemy
By Ramelle T. Lee
Mediation Scripture: Psalm 110:2 (KJV)
"The Lord shall send the rod of thy strength out of Zion: rule thou
in the midst of thine enemies."
As a warrior of God, you have been given the rod of My the alarm for the Voice of God has given you the right to
strength and power to trample over the enemy's plans to speak to the atmosphere and speak to the contrary
hold you down. You have been chosen to run with the winds.
wind of My Spirit and leap over places that have
previously held you back. In these difficult times, you You will began to see the signs of change working in
have encountered setbacks and have been discouraged your favor and visualize a new season is emerging.
and begun to desire a place to rest from the journey. Watch God turn your situation around. Stand firm and
keep your spiritual focus and warrior posture in place.
The Spirit of the Lord has come to your rescue. In this You must not get weary. You must not faint. The mighty
moment, God hears your cry. By the power of My Spirit, rock that God has positioned you to be standing upon is
you have gained spiritual momentum and can wrestle solid through Christ Jesus.
with the forces that have kept you bound. No longer are
you afraid to step up and take control of what has held When the enemy raises his ugly head, the rod of justice
you captive. The enemy has come into your camp and will go forth in the spirit realm and the mighty hand of the
tried to subdue you again. But you have become brave Lord will subdue your enemies. Know that the Blood of
in the spirit and are willing to stand firm on God's Word Jesus is covering your situation and you will stand upon
and shoot the devil down. You have been brave to the rock of strength that the Lord has given you this day!
shout back in the spirit and proclaim that the devil has no Allow God's strength to overtake you now. Victory has
power and authority to reign over you. come and your enemies have been defeated. As your
spiritual reward, God has prepared a season of rest and
The Lord of Hosts has sounded the alarm in the established a time of blessing. Be restored and
heavenlies and put the devil on notice. You are not to refreshed as you allow the Spirit of Grace to bring you
be touched and the Lord has given His angels a peace and comfort. It's your time to rise up and shout
message to keep you safe and from harm. No weapon for victory! Wave the rod that God has placed in your
the enemy tries to throw in your direction will work, for hand. Proclaim that the battle has been won. Watch
the Lord has gone before you and placed a shield of God's hand of protection hover over you. Watch your
protection around you and all that pertains to your family. enemies retreat. Praise the Lord for rescuing you from
The Spirit of the Lord is your defense. The Spirit of the all that has come to keep your spirit bound. You have
Lord is your official covering. You shall not be harmed. been placed on solid ground. Know that God is always
You are not fighting alone. This is a spiritual battle. The with you as you firmly stand tall for Him.
Lord has given you a rod that He has placed in your
hand to beat back the enemy. Raise your rod and sound © 2011 Ramelle T. Lee – All Rights Reserved.
Ramelle T. Lee is the Founder and President of Touching Your Heart Ministries. Since 2004, more than 2,500 poems and
over 300 framed poetry creations have been made available to minister to people in all walks of life. She is also an active
member of The Called and Ready Writers. She is also a Board Member and Membership Chairman.
Visit Ramelle at www.TheCalledandReadyWriters.org
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WORD ON THE STREET – DATING & RELATIONSHIP PRINCIPLES
Do You Agree? Equally Yoked In Christ
By Pamyla Floyd
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for walk together, except they be agreed? We receive
what fellowship hath righteousness with Christ by confessing with our mouths that He is the son
unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with of God, raised from the dead and receive Him as Lord
darkness? – II Corinthians 6:14 over our lives. If don't open our mouths against things
that don't line up with us, then we are in effect, in
Do you agree? agreement with whatever was said or done.
Nearly always, love catches us unawares and 'off guard' What are you agreeing with?
so to speak. But, after time spent together, getting to You are being called names that make you
know each others character and finding out if the uncomfortable
friendship will move onto something more solid, it is You are being hit, pushed or shoved
usually too late to try and fix the things we let slide. You Your opinion does not matter, or someone is trying to
see, somewhere in between the excitement of getting to silence you
know each other stage of friendship and the next level of You have to account for your time every minute of the
exclusivity called courtship; we have to ask ourselves day, or continually explain yourself
whether we agree or not. You are always being called on to 'help' by paying or
'loaning' something, usually money
As the saying goes, “Love is a many splendid thing”, but You are not being respected, your time is not valuable
if we let our hearts rule us, then we may find ourselves and you are always being called on at the last minute
caught up in situations, with people we barely know, If introduced, you are just blank. That's it.
because we never took the time to ask ourselves if we
agreed or not. Although this happens more often with It is time to get up, get out and enjoy the life you have
women, this does NOT by any means exclude men. been blessed to live! I understand how past hurt, abuse
How does this happen? Well when we box ourselves off and mistreatment can pull us down, but Jesus said that
from the world, or put up walls; without realizing it, we He came to give life and to give it MORE abundantly!
have made ourselves easy targets for the “Heart will not allow satan to steal my joy, kill my dreams or
Stealer”. For some, spending a lot of time or long destroy my life anymore! I want to fall in with my eyes
periods of time alone, might cause us to put off wide open, receiving each new friendship with love, joy,
questioning things that might have brought up red flag happiness and with the peace of God reigning in my
before. And yes, it can happen to anyone no matter heart. Friends, if we are to be the one that they can't live
how much education or 'street smart' we are. without, we have to be that person before we ever meet
them.
When we become reclusive, and take on the personality
of the Lone Ranger, we usually aren't willing to partake The list can go on and on! Please do not allow satan to
in activities and fellowship with others; now, we are trap you with loneliness and then have you in agreement
headed for trouble. Without realizing it, we have now that this is the best life for you. Life is big, it's beautiful
allowed the deceiver to cloud our judgment and send in and it is here for you to enjoy.
someone we would not normally walk in agreement
with. It is then easy to fall heart fast into a relationship © 2011 Pamyla Floyd – All Rights Reserved.
that does not mean us well. Amos 3:3 asks, Can two
Pamyla Floyd is the Founder of The Word Illustrated which is an online ministry accomplished with scripture, short
commentary and an illustration.
Visit Pamyla at www.thewordillustrated.blogspot.com
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I Can’t Stand That Person!
By Marissa “Nova” Gadsden
There always seems to be someone who rubs someone
the wrong way. We sometimes call these people our
enemies. They might even enjoy the title of enemy
when referencing to you too.
Before marriage and the birth of my first child I use to
indulge in serious road rage. The kind that could have
ended up deadly. Imagine a 5″2 110 pounds soak and
wet woman getting out her car in a rage. I would race
people down in my car after they cut me off or flipped me
the bird. One time and I hate to say it now I actually
speed up to the side of a car put my window down, Pray- This is vital and crucial to our salvation. Growing
looked around for something to throw out at the up I never prayed for the big mouth girl that always had
neighboring vehicle. Not wanting to do major damage I something to say about somebody. I wasn‟t mature
found a peppermint ball and through that at the car. enough in the Lord to understand why I needed to pray
Now how dumb is that? What was wrong with me? I for her the most. Pray for God to help you forgive them,
could have caused a major accident. I cringed at the love them and for there hearts desires that line up with
thought of it even today. And the list goes on. Madness His will of course. (Mark 11:25, Matthew 5:44)
I know, thank God for a second, third and forth chance!
Love – It is what it is! Even though you might be in a
We wrestle with these kind of emotions of jealousy, emotional downpour around this person or even the
hatred, and anger everyday. Keeping it 100 (real) we thought of them. We are commanded by God to love one
wrestle with loving our own loved ones. I wanted to another. Remember Jesus loved his enemies! (John
share some things I try to implement in my daily walk 13:34, Luke 6:27-28, I John 2:9-10)
with Christ.
Witness – How can you do it with hate/remorse living
Forgive – Have you ever been in the wrong? Okay so inside of you. One of our purposes as Christians is to
this person might have lied,cheated or stole from you. spread the gospel and bring souls to Christ. (John 13:35,
The same way we ask/want God to forgive us when we Matthew 28:18-20, Mark 16:15, John 14:6)
fall short (and we all do it) is the same way we should
turn the cheek to our enemies. (Ephesians 4:32, Luke © 2011 Marissa Gadsden – All Rights Reserved.
6:37, Matthew 6:14-15)
Marissa “Nova” Gadsden is the PR Director of Gadsden Entertainment, Radio Personality,
Motivational Speaker, Singer, Publishing Company Owner.
Visit Marissa at www.blogtalkradio.com/Nova-Gadsden
or http://www.supernaturalgod.com
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SISTAH Teen Mentoring Initiative
Handling Your Enemies with Gentleness
“Don‟t have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because
you know they produce quarrels. And the Lord‟s servant must not
quarrel; instead, he must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not
resentful. Those who oppose him he must gently instruct, in the hope
that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the
truth, and that they will come to their senses and escape from the trap of
the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will” (II Timothy 2:23-26).
A condition for being used by God involves how we deal with those who
do not know the Lord. Don‟t waste time in foolish and stupid arguments.
Sometimes people will say things just to see if they can get us riled up.
They will try to stir up trouble by pushing our hot buttons. Most of us
know people (some of them very close to us) who seem to have the “gift”
of getting under our skin. Don‟t let them do it. Don‟t let them get you
riled up so that you lose your cool, blow your top, say things you
shouldn‟t say, and end up in a bitter shouting match.
We are not permitted to yell back at those who yell at us. kingdom, but you can‟t argue them into it. Salvation is a
miracle of God that takes place in the human heart. Only
We are not to curse at those who curse at us. the Holy Spirit can convert the soul. It‟s not our
arguments that win the lost. Unless the Lord works on
We are not to intimidate those who try to intimidate us. the heart, all our words will be of no avail.
In short, we are not to match the tactics of those who Therefore, we must be gentle under pressure and kind
may oppose us and ridicule our faith. We must keep our even when pushed to the limit. We must be patient
cool all the time, at all costs. One reason for this is very toward those who oppose us and we must with
practical: You can‟t argue a person into the kingdom of meekness tell them the truth. If we lose our temper, we
God. You can‟t insult them into becoming a Christian. may win the verbal battle but we will surely lose the war
You can‟t intimidate them into accepting Christ as for the soul.
Savior. It is quite possible to argue them away from the
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Living the Victorious & Blessed Life
WWW: Wear Weapons Wisely
By Rev. Revita De Chalus
We need to wear our the breastplate of righteousness is to have our heart
weapons wisely. We live in a covered by God for God is in our hearts.
world where we have to fight
temptations and demonic attacks. We need to know We will travel. Our feet must be ready.
where our strength comes from; it comes from the Lord.
Ephesians 6:15 And your feet shod with the preparation
Ephesians 6:10 Finally, my brethren, be strong in the of the gospel of peace.
Lord, and in the power of His might.
As much as we can, we are to bring peace wherever we
When we fight, we need to be protected, as any go as we take the gospel. We are to live the word of God
soldier/fighter will tell you. Even when we don‟t think that and do the word of God without causing fighting if
we are fighting, we need to be protected from our possible.
enemy.
When the attacks and temptations come, we can hold
Ephesians 6:11 Put on the whole armor of God, that ye our protection.
may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.
Ephesians 6:16 Above all, taking the shield of faith,
This is also a reminder that we must use all the armor to wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of
be protected. the wicked.
We need to be reminded of what we‟re fighting against, Our faith can come against attacks when we believe. We
so that we don‟t take the fight personally, and so that we have more tools.
won‟t think that people can‟t be redeemed if they choose
to be redeemed. Ephesians 6:17 And take the helmet of salvation, and
the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.
Ephesians 6:12 For we wrestle not against flesh and
blood, but against principalities, against powers, against Our salvation; belief in Jesus Christ as our Savior and
the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual Lord of our lives, protects our mind/thoughts. The sword
wickedness in high places. of the Spirit; the word of God, is to be our response to
attacks and temptations. We have a relationship with
Our armor helps us. Jesus that allows us to make our requests in love and
belief.
Ephesians 6:13 Wherefore take unto you the whole
armor of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the
evil day, and having done all, to stand. Ephesians 6:18 Praying always with all prayer and
supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all
One thing that we are asked to take in this verse is the perseverance and supplication for all saints.
whole armor of God.
We fight a battle and we are not alone in fighting battles.
What else do we need? We have Jesus and we have fellow believers who have
battles. We are to pray in Jesus‟ name for help and we
Ephesians 6:14 Stand therefore, having your loins girt are to pray in Jesus‟ name for others to receive help
about with truth, and having on the breastplate of whenever possible. Even if it seems hopeless, we pray
righteousness. for God‟s guidance and God‟s strength watching to see
how God shows His presence in our lives through the
We must be surrounded by truth. We need to be situation.
surrounded by godly things and godly people. To have
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Lord, help us to take the whole armor of God as we our actions and do what we can to rectify the situation, if
stand for Jesus in Jesus‟ name. possible. We need to understand that it may take time
for our family/loved ones to see the changes in us. We
may need to take time to understand the changes in our
Family Feud or Family for You family. Some of our family may accept the changes with
gladness and some of our family/loved ones may not
Many people have family members, although actions accept the changes or believe that there are changes. In
may have distanced them from their family. all we do, we are to bring glory and honor to God in our
words and actions, praying that our family/loved ones
Are you the family member/loved one? The fact that you will join us as we celebrate our God and what He has
are reading this with or on the behalf of someone is done in us.
proof that God is working in your life and in their lives.
Praise God that you still love them. Our Lord will We have to approach our family/loved ones respectively,
continue to give you guidance and understanding on not expecting them to take care of what we are to take
how to help your loved one and how to live with them. care of. Some of our family/loved ones may be frustrated
Seek our Lord in how to define boundaries with your because they took care of our responsibilities. Our family
family member/loved one to help them. The Lord can members/loved ones may not trust that we can take care
use you to show His love to them through you. You can of our responsibilities. We are to patiently work with
be described as the Family for You to your family them to help them understand us and our changes,
member/loved one. whether or not they are patient with us. We must forgive
each other as we grow to be better people in God.
Are you the family member/loved one whose family is
not involved anymore because of previous actions? You Let us help our family/loved ones not to take our
can be described as the Family Feud. We need to responsibilities and let us not take our family/loved ones
remember that our actions can cause reactions from for granted. Our Lord gave us a family and loved ones to
others because of our “take it” behavior. We may have learn from, to live with, and to share love with, especially
said some unpleasant comments and done some His love.
unpleasant deeds. We should not expect our
family/loved ones to “take it”, that is, accept our © 2011 – Rev. Revita DeChalus, Excerpt from “Take It
unacceptable behavior. We may need to apologize for No More, the Lord Overcomes Addictions”
Rev. Revita DeChalus is the Founder of SHEM Women, author of several books and is the Women and
Children's Teacher/Counselor for Lord of Hope Ministries with her husband Roscoe.
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31 Meditations in Seeking God’s Righteousness
By Evangelist Avis Ward
My siblings and I were taught to pray at an early age. Prayer came in many forms
in our home. We prayed before meals, leaving for school, at school, church and at
bedtime. I learned early on that prayer was simply a talk with God. This practice
was not abandoned even when my lifestyle was less than pleasing to Him.
The following were taken from various scriptures in the bible. In maturing
spiritually, I have discovered the most effective way to pray is to pray the word of
God. I begin with, Our Father:
1. Help me to seek You first every day and to always be thankful.
2. Give me wisdom to know when I am deceived and open my heart to all
truth.
3. Create in me a clean heart and renew in me a right spirit
4. Don‟t let anyone lead me astray with empty philosophy and vain deceit.
5. Give me a spirit of humility.
6. Give me a strong desire for righteousness and holiness.
7. Soften my heart that I may have a teachable spirit.
8. By Your power help me to cast down all strongholds in my life.
9. Reveal the true condition of my heart and cultivate a right spirit within me.
10. Let my actions reflect Your values and not those of the world.
11. Place a burden of prayer and fasting in my heart and in my lifestyle.
12. Break me from the need to be in control that I may submit to my spiritual
leaders.
13. Show me when I am rebellious and do things 24. Please remove the pride that keeps me from
that are contrary to Your will. seeing myself as You see me.
14. May I always be reminded that I will reap what I 25. Give me the desire to obey You and the power
sow. to please You.
15. Help me cultivate a desire in my heart to be 26. Help me to bless You at all times and let Your
obedient to Your Holy Word. praises continually be in my mouth.
16. Help me forgive those who hurt me and to show 27. Because there is power in words, help me to
mercy as You have shown mercy to me. speak only good things.
17. Fill my heart with peace, happiness, and joy and 28. Help me to never grieve Your Spirit.
help me focus on heavenly things. 29. Empower me with Your strength so that the
18. Fill me with Your goodness so that it becomes a enemy‟s tactics won‟t entice me.
natural way to treat others. 30. Help me to always know and recognize truth.
19. Give me strength to resist temptation and 31. Transform me into Your likeness.
harmful habits that might control me.
20. Open my ears to Your voice as Your Spirit leads These meditations assist in living righteously, holy and
me. with humility. To live holy isn‟t heard very much from the
21. Fill my heart with repentance for the things I pulpit these days. When we try, His grace is there when
have done that grieve You. we fall short of the mark. By trying, I feel I am working to
22. Please remove any bitterness in my heart that please Him. That alone is reward enough for me to try.
would cause me to harbor unforgiveness. What about you?
23. Let the words of my mouth and meditations of
my heart be acceptable in Your sight. © 2011 – Evangelist Avis Ward – All Rights Reserved.
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Life Is Great…
By Versandra Kennebrew
Obama's Students Struggle for Freedom
The American Recovery and Reinvestment Act passed Eastern Michigan University in Ypsilanti, MI. It‟s July and
by Congress at the urging of President Obama in 2009 she tracks me down on the internet looking for
allowed hundreds of thousands of unemployed and temporary housing for the summer because her grant
underemployed students to improve their lives through doesn‟t cover housing during the summer months. After
education. What many refer to as “The Stimulus Act” one day back home with her dysfunctional family headed
was designed to create or save jobs, boost the economy by her bi-polar mother, she realizes that she can‟t come
and support long term growth and foster accountability back home. Melissa‟s mother‟s sickness and poverty
and transparency in government spending. The living causes her to lash out, spewing violent words
questions is; Are the thousands of homeless college which fuel deep emotional pain. Watching her younger
students who struggle to fight for economic freedom sister who has been “taken by the streets,” Melissa says,
benefiting from the $275 billion made available through and her eight year old brother who hangs out all times of
federal contracts, grants and loans and what about the night with no parental guidance, hurts her even more
more the more than 900,000 school age students deeply.
walking the halls of schools in America?
Melissa has successfully completed two-years of her
To answer these questions students all over the country Social Work studies and she knows that if she gets
are asking, we will look at Melissa, a full-time student at caught up in the drama at her home, she will never be
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free of poverty and hopelessness. She faces the fact that attributed to her being about 150 pounds over
that she is homeless for the next month or so. Until weight. Of the six months Donmonique lived at Hunter
school starts back again, she will stay with whoever will House, her father sent her $50 and her mother
let her while looking for supportive independent living, purchased $100 worth of food using the bridge card that
working for a temp agency (where she earns about $200 was supposed to assure she was fed each month.
per week) and praying that her trusty transportation does
not break-down. Then there‟s me. My name is Versandra and I am an
under employed homeless advocate studying to become
After working with Melissa for a week to locate housing, a self-improvement teacher at Wayne County
she still had no permanent place to stay and all of the Community College District in Detroit,MI. I work part-time
programs I introduced her to said that she was either too at one of the top museums in the country, the Detroit
old for their program or needed to first navigate the Institute of Arts. I volunteer as a community service
emergency shelter system prior to moving into the commissioner for the City of Detroit Department of
independent living program (which is specifically Human Services. Although I closed my massage
designed for people like her who are in transition, have practice so I could focus on my education and manage
employment but just need a little temporary support). To Hunter House, I take care of a few massage clients at
get into an emergency shelter, she must show up at a home. My heart tells me that I must help people like
local shelter at 5pm each day and wait in line with Melissa, Donmonique and the many other mentees who
hundreds of desperate homeless Detroiters and hope have contacted me for assistance, but reaching out has
there is room for her. set me back big time.
I‟m sad to say that Melissa didn‟t show up for the 2-days Charitable giving should be done by those who have
of volunteer work I suggested to her at the Concert of extra to give is what I hear from others but some how I
Colors. She would have assisted me with promoting an keep giving the little that I have and now my taxes are
upcoming 10-City College Homeless Awareness & behind and everything that I worked so hard to build
Sensitivity Tour. Opportunities like these have led to after my own almost two-year homeless experience
employment and even housing for others I have seems to be eluding me. After closing Hunter House in
mentored in the past. With so many teens and college April of this year, I became even more committed to
students in need of coaching and other support, I have raising funds and awareness to support people just like
resolved to only bend backwards to help those who I see me who want to become more educated and skilled so
are willing to help themselves. I wish Melissa the best in we can have access to the freedom which is supposed
her quest for higher education and hope it serves her as to be free for all.
she expects it will.
The educational opportunity provided by the American
Now, let us look at school age homeless students. Recovery and Reinvestment Act did not cause our
Donmonique is a sixteen year old homeless girl who I struggle but it has enhanced our vision of ways we can
provided shelter and vital support for through the winter. make a difference for ourselves and our community.
She had not been in school for two years and during her Before going back to school, I never would have been
six month stay at Hunter House, (a supportive comfortable enough to write this blog. My Political
independent living home named after my deceased Science, American History, English, Speech and
grandmother Nina Bell Hunter) she got re-enrolled in Sociology classes have empowered me to stand taller
high school and had the best Christmas of her life. You and be even more proud to be an American and an
see, Donmonique‟s prior homes were neighborhood individual. President Obama‟s students are struggling
crack houses. Her desperate but neglective, drug but we will achieve our goals and make a significant
addicted mom dragged her from house to house seeking impact on our communities and our nation. Thank you
her next fix for years. Congress and thank you President Barack Obama for
giving financially challenged students the opportunity to
Donmonique lived with her grandmother and an aunt off- move from where we are to where we want to be, free.
and-on but the day she called me, (after a friend told her
she could possibly find help on the internet) she brought © 2011 Versandra Kennebrew – All Rights Reserved.
with her a grocery bag with clothes and another bag with
chicken wings, some type of pork and some other food
Versandra Kennebrew is the author of "Thank God for the Shelter: Memoirs of a homeless healer" and a variety of other
VKI personal development products. She is a certified massage therapist and serves the City of Detroit as a Community
Service Commissioner for the Department of Human Services.
Visit Versandra at www.versandrakennebrewintl.com
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Living in the
POWER OF WISDOM
On the Cover:
VENUS MASON THEUS,
Author of “Pearls of Wisdom for Wives:
How to Have a Joyfully-Ever-After Marriage”
When her close circle of Live, Wake Up Detroit, and the Words- N-Motion and
friends were in college Talk to Me With Brenda Perryman television shows; and
preparing for exciting has been interviewed on the Women in Ministry with
careers, 21-year-old Venus Fatima Boggan-Campbell radio show. She has also
was the stay at home mom been a guest on the Christian Wives‟ Club, and the
of an infant daughter and Chocolate Pages internet radio broadcasts. She is the
married to a bi-polar drug host of her own internet radio show, the Anointed Pen
addict who, unbeknown to Christian Literary Show.
her, often hallucinated about
murdering their entire family Venus is the founder and host of the annual Anointed
then killing himself. She never imagined that God would Pen Conferences for Christian Writers and the Detroit
give her a second chance; and that someday she would chapter president of the American Christian Writers.
become a fervent, sought after advocate for Christian
marriage – coaching, teaching and encouraging other Venus has been married to the man of her dreams,
women that they too, can have a Joyfully-Ever-After Jerome "Rick" Theus, since 1985. She and her husband
Marriage. teach the In It For Life Christian Education Class for
Married and Engaged Couples. They are also the co-
Exquisite teacher! A leader! Refreshingly transparent are directors of the Uplift Family Ministry of Greater Grace
among the words used to describe her. Venus is Temple.
dedicated to helping married women find joy in all
situations. She also teaches brides-to-be and someday Venus' platform of Joyfully-Ever-After Marriage offers
brides how to prepare and to choose wisely. Her words hope, healing and assurance that contrary to popular
of wisdom are seasoned with love, support, and truth: a belief, monogamous, joyful marriage is indeed alive and
combination any woman can benefit from. Single well! SISTAH Talk is blessed to be able to share Venus‟
women receive spiritual and practical preparation so that story of living life in the power of wisdom.
they can be ready for Boaz before he shows up! In her
books, blogs and workshops, Venus candidly shares her ST: Tell us about Venus Mason Theus.
own experiences – the trials as well as the triumphs.
She is passionate about cultivating a community of what VMT: Like most women, I wear a lot of hats.
she calls “P31s” – empowered, yet nurturing women who
know their value and operate within the purpose for Full Time Family Manager: For the past 26 years, I have
which they were created. been married to the man of my dreams – the man God
created just for me. I am the biological mother of two
Venus is the author of Brown Paper Bag, a novel and a daughters and “Bonus Mom” to two sons and another
marriage guide entitled How to Have a Joyfully- Ever- daughter – all are adults. Our blended offspring have
After Marriage. Although different genres, the theme of produced 15 grandchildren. I have been the primary
both books is faith, virtue, and self value. Venus has caregiver for my mom who is a stroke survivor, since
also written articles for Gospel Today and SISTAH Talk 1996. I took over where mom left off in helping my
magazines. She has made appearances on the CTN grandmother care for my grandfather, an Alzheimer‟s
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patient, for about 18 months during the late 90s. After school and soon afterward we developed a great
Grandpa passed away, my grandmother moved in with platonic relationship.
us and helped me care for mom and raise my children.
In early 2005 we discovered Nana was terminally ill and I had been attending an organization that calls itself a
along with a hospice team, I also cared for her for church and he also joined - so we ended up spending a
approximately four months. My daughters, infant lot of time together. There came a time when he
granddaughter and I were at her bedside when the Lord expressed to me that he wanted more than friendship;
called her from labor to reward. According to the 1910 but I didn‟t feel the same way about him. I liked him as a
U.S. Census, Nana was 96 years old. At one point there friend, but there wasn‟t one thing about him that
were five generations living in our single dwelling home, appealed to me romantically. However, the “church” we
now we‟re down to only four. attended frowned upon its members having relationships
with non-members and they wore me down. Eventually I
Ministry: My husband and I teach a Sunday Christian caved in to pressure from our “church members”
Education class for married and engaged couples; and including my well-intentioned grandparents who were
for nearly10 years, we‟ve served together as Co- also members - and we became a couple.
Directors of the Marriage and Family Ministry at Greater
Grace Temple in Detroit. I am a wife coach, which Sexual promiscuity, often followed by children born out
simply means that I mentor and teach bible-based of wedlock was a norm among the members of that sub-
relationship and homemaking skills to wives, brides-to- culture; and their position on marriage was take it or
be and someday brides. I am the founder of leave it. Still, when I discovered that I was pregnant, I
Wisdom4Wives, an organization which began online, but didn‟t want to be numbered in “that” statistic – a poor,
now meets offline periodically for workshops and face-to- black, under educated, single mother. But guess who
face fellowship as well. didn‟t want to get married? The guy who wanted to be
with me so badly that he had everyone in our circle
Author and Literacy Advocate: I am the author of Brown involved in a campaign to win me over was NOT
Paper Bag, a Christian novel. Currently, I‟m putting the interested in marrying me. To add insult to injury, upon
finishing touches on its sequel, A Long Time Coming; learning that I was pregnant, the pastor of the “church”
and have begun researching for the prequel as well. In called me into his office one day and gloated about
addition to those projects, I am revising my first non- Todd’s unwillingness to marry me. He seemed to take
fiction Pearls of Wisdom for Wives: How to Have a pleasure in “advising” me that Todd’s pursuit of my
Joyfully Ever After Marriage (Foreword by Delores affections had simply been for sport. He also tried to
“Mom” Winans) along with an accompanying workbook. convince me that my grandmother wouldn‟t want me to
I expect the ebook version to be available this October have a baby out of wedlock and recommended that I
and the hard copy is due to be released April of 2012. have an abortion and cut my losses. He was right about
Todd not wanting to get married, but was dead wrong
I am the founder of the Anointed Pen Conferences for about his not wanting to be a father - and my
Christian Writers; the current president of the Detroit grandparents were my biggest supporters. When I told
Chapter of the American Christian Writers, and I am also Todd about the little chat I‟d had with our pastor, we
a member of the Motown Writers Network. decided to leave “church” – and so did grandparents.
My mother also tried to talk me out of getting married.
ST: Please share your journey through your first She warned me that an unplanned pregnancy isn‟t a
marriage. foundation to build a marriage on. But I didn‟t listen to
her either. I was determined to marry my baby‟s father if
VMT: I met my former husband (I‟ll call him Todd) when I it killed me – and it almost did.
was a freshman and he was a junior in high school. His
brother, a track team rock star, was my best friend‟s In retrospect, I realize that I wasn‟t hell bent on marrying
boyfriend. My girlfriend, Todd’s brother and a few Todd because I was in love with him; but rather because
members of the track team met in the cafeteria every I was filled with pride, envy and lacked self esteem. My
day, though Todd rarely contributed to our animated girlfriends from high school were away at college, living it
lunchtime conversations. The brothers‟ family was in up on campuses across the nation, doing internships
turmoil and divorce was imminent. While his older and preparing for exciting professional careers. I, on the
brother seemed to cope through socializing and other hand, had dropped out of Oakland University after
excelling in sports, Todd became introverted and completing only one semester, was working a dead end
withdrawn. He and I rarely even exchanged greetings job and living with my parents.
back then. However, a few years later we reconnected
as classmates at Wayne County Community College. The final straw was when I found out that one of my
He had come out of his shell considerably since high friends had gotten engaged. I HAD to do something I
thought would validate my paltry existence. If I wasn‟t
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going to be a doctor, lawyer, musician or therapist like and mercy had directed Todd to leave in order to save
my BFFs, at least I‟d beat them to the altar. I was bound all of our lives!
and determined to get married and Todd was just as
determined not to. My pathetic pleas and attempts to Over the years he has kept in touch with our daughter
shame him into marrying me fell on deaf ears so I used a and they now have a cordial, long distance relationship. I
backup plan: I threatened to keep him from having am pleased to report that he has been drug free for
access to the baby. So on October 15, 1977 Sweetest several years now. He also single handedly raised two
Day, we were married. Anyone who could see our other daughters who are talented, productive young
wedding photos would easily surmise that our marriage adults. Todd is now a champion for new legislation that
had been doomed from the beginning. The few people will improve mental health care and drug addiction
who smiled looked as though they were forced to do so treatment in the U.S. He also has aspirations of opening
at gun point – especially the groom. a facility for others who are recovering from substance
addiction. In addition, his life story is being chronicled by
Nevertheless, I hoped our marriage would turn out to be an author in New York. It wouldn‟t surprise me at bit if
a real life version of the ones depicted in the TV shows I the book is made into a movie.
grew up watching in the 60s. Shows like Father Knows
Best, the Donna Reed Show or Leave It to Beaver.
Actually, I would have even settled for a family likened to ST: What was your determination and drive? Tell us
the Flintstones or the Jetsons. I convinced myself that if how you were inspired to live a life of power and
I wanted it badly enough, and could shine as a wife and purpose.
mother, he’d change embrace my domestic virtues and
happily conform to normal family life. But that didn‟t VMT: The bible says to whom much is given, much is
happen. What little respect and affection we had for one required. I had a very blessed childhood and when I
another seemed to dissipate as quickly as the ink on our became an adult, the tables turned and the three people
marriage license dried. who cared for and nurtured me needed and deserved
reciprocity. I have been tremendously influenced by a
In my naiveté, I hoped that the deficits I knew existed in number of virtuous women who I strive to emulate even
our marriage would somehow just mysteriously work today. Those women include my mother, maternal
themselves out. I had known from the beginning that grandmother, several of the older women at my church,
Todd really wasn‟t what I was looking for in a husband - ladies from my childhood neighborhood and even some
including my awareness that he had a history of drug of my contemporaries. They are and were full of faith,
use, emphasis on the word history. My knowledge of hope and tenacity. They were gifted wives, mothers and
drugs and drug addicts was limited to distorted movie homemakers who plowed through various adversities
portrayals, so I had no idea that he was in fact using and always encouraged me to do the same. Above all,
drugs while we were dating and even after we‟d gotten they remained centered on God, their family and homes
married. He wasn‟t scratching and walking around in a – and I want to be just like them “when I grow up.” My
zombie-like state. Nor was he stealing or pulling purpose is to nurture and to teach women – wives in
disappearing acts. Neither was he ever physically or particular. I live and breathe Titus 2:3-5 and Proverbs
verbally abusive. He went to work every day and came 31:10-31.
home almost every evening (yes, there was infidelity). I
later discovered that there is such a thing as a
functioning drug addict. ST: Please share a word of empowerment with
single women who have been through bad
Our daughter was only a few months old when, over my relationships and marriages.
tearful objections he left us for good but didn‟t reveal his
true reason for leaving. I felt betrayed, rejected and VMT:
foolish. The naysayers were right after all and I became
that “statistic” I tried so hard to avoid becoming. Learn from your mistakes – don‟t repeat them
Don‟t allow yourself to become isolated, seek a
Eventually Todd moved out of state to distance himself support system
from the seemingly never ending drama that plagued his Use this time to develop as a whole person
nuclear family; and to get clean and sober. It would be a Don‟t rush into another relationship
long, arduous struggle for him. While in treatment he Realize that it‟s ok for you to fly solo for a while;
was diagnosed as being bi-polar. Many years after we Understand that relationships are meant to
parted ways, he disclosed to me that while we were complement, not complete you
living under the same roof, eating at the same dinner
table and even sleeping in the same bed – he often had
vivid hallucinations about murdering me and the baby;
and then committing suicide. God, in His infinite wisdom
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ST: What advice would you share with single women upon temporary, superficial things like appearance,
who are struggling to get past their pain of former social status, feelings, assets, or even health from joy.
marriages? Joy is an intangible but spiritual state of existence that is
based on the knowledge that God is your source at all
VMT: I have a few Do‟s and Don‟ts: times.
Do
Dig in deep to get to God! Never assign anyone
Acknowledge that you are hurting the responsibility of
Ask God to show you yourself in the situation, making you happy
admit that you may have played a role in your You MUST have a
breakup solid, consistent
Forgive yourself and forgive your former spouse connection with God
Before entering into another relationship, take You MUST know the
your time and be selective about who you Word of God and His
allow into your life from this point on – especially Will concerning your
if you have children. I can‟t emphasize this life
enough based on the recent barrage of You MUST learn to
horrifying news reports. If you have to stay be patient and to put
single until your children are adults – so be it. your trust in God
Don‟t If you commit to producing the fruit of the spirit, God will
Waste your time and resources on trying to get honor your commitment and give you incomprehensible
even. Living well is the sweetest revenge joy - no matter what state of affairs you are in
Hold grudges, it does more harm than good
Stop living because your marriage has ended
Allow anyone other than God to “arrange” a ST: Please share any upcoming projects that you are
relationship for you involved in.
Berate your former husband to your children.
That doesn‟t mean you should not protect them VMT: My Wisdom4Wives group has a series of
if he is dangerous or involved in harmful teleconferences we call Pajama Parties. The next on is
nd
activities. Only share with them what they really schedule on Thursday, September 22 at 9pm. My
need to know and are old enough to understand husband Rick is our guest presenter: The topic is “How
to Be Treated Like the Queen God Created You to Be.
Sidebar: I NEVER refer to “Todd” as my ex-husband. Those interested can participate from the comfort of their
Our society attaches a negative connotation to that homes by dialing into 219.509.8222
prefix. And we know that the power of life and death is
in the tongue. I’ve never wished any ill will toward him On Saturday, October 8th, the Wisdom4Wives group
therefore I have always tried to only speak positively has its annual Jeans and Pearls Founder‟s Fellowship
about him, particularly when talking about him to our Outing. Anyone interested in becoming affiliated with
daughter. w4w (regardless of marital status) can join us through
our free website and the Wisdom4Wives Face Book
As you allow God to heal your brokenness, set goals for Group.
yourself, map out a plan of action and track your goals.
Understand that the person you are today is not the
person you will become – IF you allow the Lord to work ST: How may you be contacted?
in and through you.
VMT: ST readers are invited to connect with me through
any and all of the following sources:
ST: What advice would you share with married
women about living joyfully in their marriage? Email: ask@venusmasontheus.com websites:
www.venusmasontheus.com
VMT: Psalm 28: 7 says “The LORD is my strength and www.wisdom4wives.webs.com
my shield; my heart trusted in him, and I am helped:
therefore my heart greatly rejoiceth; and with my song
will I praise him.” Distinguish happiness, which is based
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Domestic Violence & Abuse
And Then After That…
By Reeveal Goode
My son would home from transgressions; He was bruised for our iniquities; the
preschool excitedly chastisement of our peace was upon him and by His
sharing the day‟s events stripes we are healed. (Isaiah 53:5).
in sequence. Before
unfolding what happened In pursuit of peace and God‟s will, I moved again and
next he would always never looked back. I thought I was free, but was
say, “And then after threatened and harassed continually. So, I never allowed
that”. To inspire him to myself to become comfortable. Angry at my abuser and
read more, I took note of disappointed with myself, I applied cocaine to numb the
one of his stories and pain and champagne to flow with my tears. For me, God
wrote it in book form wasn‟t moving fast enough to get the job done. Tired and
hoping he would find it giving up, as I lay on the floor crying about still not
relational and interesting having any peace, the Lord asked me, “What do you
to read. The title as well as the phrase before turning have? “ I said, “All I have is faith, but what good is it if I
each page was …and then after that…” I enjoyed it have to keep going thru this? “He said, “Get up.” So I got
more than he did, and now I find it relevant for my story: up. He said, “Keep going.” So I go on. It has been
difficult to balance life with wounds suffered from verbal,
In my late teens while enjoying life and adjusting to psychological, economic and physical abuse; however,
college, two events happened that would eventually my story doesn‟t end there.
define my purpose, to the glory of God. I was
simultaneously introduced to Jesus Christ and domestic One morning, prior to requesting anything from the Lord
violence. I simply asked Him, “How are you feeling?” His answer
compelled me to think less of my own pain and more
Being referred to by common derogatory names along about the heartache of a loving God who waits to be
with being slapped, punched, stomped, thrown out of loved in return… and then after that while meditating on
cars, into walls and thru doors, caused my esteem to His Word, I met the comfort of the Holy Spirit; the sin-
plummet; defending myself led to further injury. I was shaker.
considered defiant for going to work to earn my own
money. The penalty was torn clothes, black eyes and Beleaguered with discouragement every time I heard
bruises. I moved in and out more times than I can another story about domestic violence, I earnestly
remember. One night as I mentioned that a friend had prayed for all who suffer abuse. I was led to forgive my
just been allegedly murdered by her husband due to abuser for my own sake… and then after that, while
strangulation, I found hands gripping my neck while eating the Word, I met the healing power of Jesus; the
being asked, “like this?” Gasping for air and praying for bondage-breaker.
survival, I was released by being thrown into the
staircase. That changed my perception of what I had With God seemingly silent regarding domestic violence, I
endured many years. As a result, I obtained what was pleaded with Him to intercede; only to realize that WE,
then known as a restraining order. The order was have to break the silence… and then after that, while
violated and so was I. The locks were changed; so on loving the Word, I was led to serve under the protection
the night the door burst open, I ran, then felt a gun of the Lord of Hosts; the way-maker.
against my head with threats to kill. I ran again, but this
time into the arms of the one who has all power in His Although it took awhile to get the courage, I freely share
hands. my story to encourage survivors to keep on surviving;
discourage abusers from abusing and bring awareness
“God, why did you let him treat me this way?” I asked. to help others prevent it from becoming a part of their
Without an answer, I thought that if Jesus really loved stories. After all, I‟m free; for she who the Son sets free
me, He would have prevented it. I later learned that He is free indeed.
understood because He had been abused through no
fault of His own: He was wounded for our
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Now while using my son‟s sequential phrase, I excitedly seated on the right hand of the Father. In all of that He
share a story about the sin-shaker, bondage-breaker fulfilled the law and the prophets. And after all of that
and the way-maker because before all of that, Jesus He‟s coming back. So our stories should never end
came to destroy the works of the adversary… and then before Jesus reigns in our lives because He‟s how we
after that He made disciples while preaching His get the victory!...
kingdom… and then after that He went to the cross, died
and was buried… and then after that He rose on the And then after that…
third day… and then after that He showed Himself to His
disciples… and then after that He ascended and is © 2010 Reeveal Goode – All Rights Reserved.
Reeveal Goode is a certified domestic violence counselor and advocate and is Servant Leader in Domestic Violence
Awareness and Prevention Ministry.
Visit Reeveal at queenofsong@ymail.com
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A SISTAH’s Closet
Ready to think about your wardrobe for autumn and winter?
Then this article will be of use for you! Here you will find the list
of trendiest colors for the coming season and choose some you
believe are the most flattering for you.
A real fashionista always plans her wardrobe beforehand. And
while it is still three months ahead before the next fashion
season designers have already supplied us with their Color
Trends for Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012. So, why not start working
on creation of impressive looks which your girlfriends will later
look at enviously? My suggestion is to begin with colors.
Trend #1: Soft colors. It is essential to remember that Trend #5: Midnight blue. Midnight blue is always safe
in autumn and winter colors shouldn‟t be as bright as no matter where you go: office, party, shopping, etc.
they are in spring and summer. But it in no way means Play with it, experiment and surprise your friends.
you have to go black, grey and brown. You can choose
any color you like but make sure it is more subdued Trend #6: Neutral colors. These colors are always
rather than flashy. Or you can opt for soft hues including fashionable and designers seem to never get tired of
lavender, cantaloupe, spindrift, or honeydew. creating pieces in neutral hues. It‟s simple: neutrals can
stay with you forever, they are versatile and can be
Trend #2: Mood-improving bright details. If you think easily combined with other pieces, both neutral or bright.
soft hues are dull there is another great color trend for
you to choose – bright details. Add bright accessories to Trend #7: Prints. In Fall/ Winter 2011/ 2012 season
you look, like scarves, bags or hats, find a great-looking prints play a significant role. They dilute the monotone
pair of boots, or go for one vibrant item that will become scheme and leave a great field for experiment. The
the focus of your attire. Be smart to keep the balance. safest option is to combine printed items with monotone
Too many vivid colors in one look in summer is playful ones. However, if you are confident about your styling
and interesting, but in winter it looks vulgar. skills you might want to try to coordinate various patterns
in one look. Betsey Johnson offers us to combine
Trend #3: Burgundy. If you want color but believe leopard and plaid. And she even mixes leopard and
orange, lemon and magenta are too much for you try python.
burgundy. It looks good on almost anyone and adds
glamour to the appearance. This color is luxurious and The variety of trendy colors is large but there are always
there is hardly a way to spoil your look with it. some you like more than others. So, just build you Fall/
Winter 2011/ 2012 wardrobe around these and feel the
Trend #4: Shiny colors. For special event you might most stylish.
want something shining. Go for it! Special events need
special dressing. But keep a few rules of wearing Excerpt from Color Trends for Fall/Winter 2011/2012
sparkling clothing in mind to stay in style. http://www.millionlooks.com/trends/outfits-trends/color-
trends-for-fall-winter-2011-2012/
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Health & Beauty
Tips for Boosting Your Winter Skin Care Regimen,
Moisturize More
You may have found a Hydrate for Your Health, Not for Your Skin
moisturizer that works just fine in If you've heard it once, you've heard it a thousand times:
spring and summer. But as Drinking water helps your skin stay young looking. In
weather conditions change, so, fact, it's a myth. Water is good for your overall health
too, should your skin care and "the skin of someone who is severely dehydrated
routine. Find an "ointment" will benefit from fluids. But the average person's skin
moisturizer that's oil-based, does not reflect the amount of water being drunk,"
rather than water-based, as the oil will create a Kenneth Bielinski, MD, a dermatologist in Oak Lawn, Ill.,
protective layer on the skin that retains more moisture tells WebMD "It's a very common misconception."
than a cream or lotion. (Hint: Many lotions labeled as
"night creams" are oil-based.) Grease Up Your Feet
But choose your oils with care because not all oils are Yes, those minty foot lotions are lovely in the hot
appropriate for the face. Instead, look for "nonclogging" summer months, but during the winter, your feet need
oils, like avocado oil, mineral oil, primrose oil, or almond stronger stuff. Try finding lotions that contain petroleum
oil. Shea oil -- or butter -- is controversial, because it can jelly or glycerine instead. And use exfoliants to get the
clog facial pores. And vegetable shortening, LaPlante dead skin off periodically; that helps any moisturizers
says, is a really bad idea. "It would just sit on the skin," you use to sink in faster and deeper.
she says. "And it would be really greasy."
You can also look for lotions containing "humectants," a Pace the Peels
class of substances (including glycerine, sorbitol, and If your facial skin is uncomfortably dry, avoid using harsh
alpha-hydroxy acids) that attract moisture to your skin. peels, masks, and alcohol-based toners or astringents,
all of which can strip vital oil from your skin. Instead, find
Slather on the Sunscreen a cleansing milk or mild foaming cleanser, a toner with
No, sunscreen isn't just for summertime. Winter sun -- no alcohol, and masks that are "deeply hydrating," rather
combined with snow glare -- can still damage your skin. than clay-based, which tends to draw moisture out of the
Try applying a broad-spectrum sunscreen to your face face. And use them a little less often.
and your hands (if they're exposed) about 30 minutes
before going outside. Reapply frequently if you stay Ban Superhot Baths
outside a long time Sure, soaking in a burning-hot bath feels great after
frolicking out in the cold. But the intense heat of a hot
Give Your Hands a Hand shower or bath actually breaks down the lipid barriers in
The skin on your hands is thinner than on most parts of the skin, which can lead to a loss of moisture. "You're
the body and has fewer oil glands. That means it's better off with just warm water," LaPlante advises, "and
harder to keep your hands moist, especially in cold, dry staying in the water a shorter amount of time."
weather. This can lead to itchiness and cracking. Wear
gloves when you go outside; if you need to wear wool to A lukewarm bath with oatmeal or baking soda, can help
keep your hands warm, slip on a thin cotton glove first, relieve skin that is so dry it has become itchy, Bielinski
to avoid any irritation the wool might cause. notes. So, too, can periodically reapplying your
moisturizer. If those techniques don't work, go see a
Avoid Wet Gloves and Socks dermatologist. "You may need a prescription lotion to
Wet socks and gloves can irritate your skin and cause combat the dry skin," Bielinski says. "Or you may have a
itching, cracking, sores, or even a flare-up of eczema. condition that isn't simply dry skin and that requires
different treatment."
Hook Up the Humidifier
Central heating systems (as well as space heaters) blast Excerpt from 10 Winter Skin Care Tips
hot dry air throughout our homes and offices. Humidifiers http://www.webmd.com/healthy-beauty/features/ten-
get more moisture in the air, which helps prevent your winter-skin-care-tips?page=2
skin from drying out. Place several small humidifiers
throughout your home; they help disperse the moisture
more evenly.
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FAITH & FINANCES
Sacrifice Now for the Future
By Cedric Dukes
The meaning of sacrifice is to surrender of something
prized or desirable for the sake of something considered Answer – Thanks for sharing, I applaud you for taking
as having a higher or more pressing claim. Sacrifice is control of your finances. It seems that you are getting the
good. Sacrifice will not benefit you in the short term; it necessary help. Before you start a budget, my
will benefit you later. Once you start sacrificing in your suggestion is to sit down to decide your goals. Your
budget, you will see a greater move of God in your goals will really fuel what you need. If you desire to have
finances. My family began to experience increase in our more than you have now, you have to make some tough
finances once we started to sacrifice our finances for the decisions. What are you willing to sacrifice? Habakkuk
greater good. 2:2 says Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables,
that he may run that readeth it. When you have a goal in
Question – Cedric, I am 82 years old, retired, and mind you tend to run toward it. You have already started
enjoying life. What is the best option for people like me by going to school. At this time, you are not in the
to handle finances? My family needs are not as great as position to create a budget because you have no
they were before. We do what we can and we serve in income. The only way to get there is to start working.
the church faithfully. We enjoy sharing with others. Secondly, you can address your school loans by calling
the loan department and ask them to defer your loans
Answer – Congratulations on being retried. Many of us until you finish school. Again, write your goals, find a
would like to be in that position. I cannot tell you much job, budget, then save money.
more except to keep living. You said that you are Update from reader since question - Cedric, I have
enjoying life. Obviously, you have done something right
now finished school and have the opportunity to work as
with your money. Proverbs 10:22 says the blessing of
a dental hygienist. Until I am able to find a job in this
the Lord makes a person rich, and he adds no sorrow area, I have secured another position working full time.
with it. You are rich in more ways than one. You are rich
Thanks for your help!
in the eyes of God not in the eyes of man or Wall Street.
Being rich is ensuring that all of your needs are met,
meeting other needs, and having some left over to do Question - Deacon Dukes, we have a family business
what you like. and we want to pay tithes. Some of us want to pay them
from a net income meaning after taxes and others want
My first suggestion is to ensure all of your financial to pay them as gross. What should we do?
information is update. Don‟t let anything lapse, policies
included. Continue to do what you are doing. If it is not Answer – Thanks for the question. I have a few
broke, leave it alone. This is your time to reap your questions: Do you have a legal contract/agreement on
harvest because you sacrificed many years ago. how distributions are given; also what does your contract
Secondly, continue to witness and teach the grace of say in terms of giving your tithes – gross or net? If you
God to others in the area of your finances. We need to don‟t have this language right now, my suggestion is not
hear your testimony. It is not often that we see people to sweat it. Once everyone gets their distribution, you
live this long and enjoying life. can decide on how you want to pay it. The Bible does
not specifically mention gross or net tithing. It says give
Question – Deacon Cedric, I need help with my budget. your best as stated in Proverbs 3: 9-10. The promise of
I have a 1 year old son; we receive government that scripture is that God will ensure that your barns will
assistance. I am currently staying with my aunt in which be filled with plenty.
she takes care all of the expenses. I am attending school
part-time to become a dental hygienist and I don‟t work. I © 2011 Cedric Dukes – All Rights Reserved.
have a few expenses with some outstanding student
loan debt. How should I handle my budget?
Cedric Dukes, speaker and columnist, is the author of Hostile Takeover - Manifesting God‟s Plan and Purpose for Your
Finances.
Visit Cedric Dukes on Twitter, @CDDukes, cedricdukes@gmail.com or at his official website, www.cedricdukes.com
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Meet Terri Clay! She is inspiring, empowering and a beacon of hope to everyone she
encounters. Born into a middle-class, close knit family with core Christian values and
morals, Terri Clay understands the need to obey God and follow His instructions. It was
through adversity and disobedience, she learned the significance of life lessons her
family instilled in her.
At the tender age of 14, Terri began to make poor choices in her life which left her alone
to navigate through the harsh realities of life based on her decisions. By the age of 21,
she was a mother of 4 children, homeless and a single parent who endured a traumatic
season of domestic violence.
But Terri fought back by trusting in the Lord and relying upon the teachings she learned
from her close knit family. She went back to school, gained a nursing degree and began
to change her projected destiny. In the midst of working with troubled teenagers in a
psychiatric hospital, Terri recognized her PURPOSE-to inspire others!
Today Terri‟s primary assignment is to encourage others and let them know that God is
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Steppin’ Out of the Box
Steppin Out of the Box believes that young people‟s minds are expanded by what they are
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Soul SISTAHS Café of Reading & Poetry
Hurting You
By Wanda J. Burnside, Café Administrator
I never realized
how hurt you truly were my friend . . .
Until I heard your cries
Coming deep within
They flowed from you . . .
From the inside out
Now, I sincerely understand
and have no doubt . . .
That you have been hurting
for such a long, long time . . .
And at one point in your life,
You could have committed
A horrible unforgettable crime.
I felt your hurts
Just the other day . . .
It came and spoke to me
I had no words--
I didn‟t know just what to say . . .
I want the best for you my dearly beloved
So, I asked God to send His Holy Spirit
To comfort you from above.
Somehow, your pain and hurts . . .
I now understand and feel,
What you have suffered
Is so true and so real.
My heart feels your heavy load
and terrible fears . . .
I can see that your days
were filled with overflowing tears.
So, now I reach out with my prayers . . .
For this is what I must sincerely do,
Because I truly want God to stop---
What has been hurting you!
©2011 Wanda J. Burnside – All Rights Reserved.
WANDA J. BURNSIDE
WRITE THE VISION MINISTRIES
and Media Publications Int'l.,
Publisher/Founder
THE LAMP NEWSLETTER, President
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Soul SISTAHS Café of Reading & Poetry
They… By Yvette Wilburn
They said I couldn‟t do it, or it‟ll never last.
They tried to guess my future by looking at my past.
Nothing good about it. They meant it for my bad,
They tried to rob me of all the motivation I had.
I‟m asking God to strengthen me and help me to discern,
Who to listen to, and the lessons that I should learn.
People don‟t define for me what I can and cannot be.
People only speak about what they think and cannot see.
God sees my heart and knows my total worth.
He‟s had a detailed plan for me since way before my birth!
I can look in the mirror until my beauty starts to fade.
I can rejoice because I‟m fearfully and wonderfully made.
I won‟t let their behaviors dictate my next move.
I‟ll wait on Jesus for He‟ll make my way smooth.
They can‟t hold me down,
For I‟m no longer bound.
I‟m no longer a victim, and I choose not to volunteer.
I don‟t have to believe the negativity I hear.
They can‟t hinder me with their words of wrath,
For I know that God‟s Word is a lamp unto my path.
I will keep praying steadily and keep my mind stayed on
Him.
I will serve God readily and not worry about them.
© 2003 Yvette Wilburn
All Rights Reserved.
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Christian Events & Evangelism (C.E.E.) Network
Gospel Recording Artist TaMyya J signs with Legendary
Label & Production Team DarkChild Gospel!
New York, NY (May 24, 2011) - No stranger to the who wait.” Her recent signing with DarkChild Gospel,
music industry, National Recording Artist TaMyya J has underneath Fred “Uncle Freddie” Jerkins as their newest
built an impressive and well-rounded career in artist, is proof.
entertainment for the past decade. A critically acclaimed
Independent CD Release in 2005 entitled Suddenly and “I thank God for this opportunity to work with Fred
a nomination for the Gospel Music Channel‟s “Pop Video Jerkins III and the DarkChild Gospel team, and I am
of the Year” Award all while traveling as a background going to work hard to make this the best CD ever,” said
vocalist for Grammy Award Winning duo Mary Mary all TaMyya J when asked thoughts on her new partnership.
served as key ingredients in fulfilling her dreams of one
day taking the stage front and center as a major Due in part to the incredible combination of production
recording artist. They say, “Good things come to those
by Jerkins and dynamic vocals of TaMyya J, old and
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new fans alike can expect a familiar yet unprecedented in the mainstream and the gospel industries including;
sound helping to ensure that the project will be a highly “Say My Name” and “Lose My Breath” by Destiny‟s
anticipated release on the DarkChild Label. Known for Child, "Déjà Vu” by Beyonce‟, “Rock My World” by
her beauty, powerful soprano range, melodic tones, and Michael Jackson, “The Boy Is Mine” by Brandy,
edgy contemporary delivery, TaMyya puts forth a “Revolution” by Kirk Franklin, “You Don‟t Know” and
conscious effort to be clear about in whom her faith lies, “Why Me” by Kierra “Kiki” Sheard, “Follow Me” by Virtue,
conveying a message of hope, love, and restoration. “Need To Know” by Dawkins & Dawkins and “Power” by
Deitrick Haddon, to name a few.
Headed by the Grammy and Dove award winning
Jerkins, DarkChild Gospel is bound to exceed Already hard at work in the studio, TaMyya and Jerkins
expectations. When asked his thoughts on this new assure us that we can look for an early summer release
venture, Jerkins went on record stating “DarkChild of this project. In the meantime, you can catch TaMyya
Gospel promises to make this project the „Must Have‟ hosting her urban radio show “Never Missed A Beat”
CD of the century; we‟re a record label and production every Saturday night on WEHA Gospel 88.7 FM out of
company committed to taking gospel to the next level!” Atlantic, City NJ or you can visit http://www.tamyyaj.com
Jerkins has been involved in many hit projects where he for more info!
was writer, co-writer, or producer for many “A” list artists
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WHAT THE INDUSTRY IS SAYING ABOUT TAMYYA J!
"TaMyya J is one of the most incredible soprano voices in gospel music. She‟s also one of the sweetest people you'll ever
meet. It was our pleasure to have her as our background singer, but now it's her turn to take the lead. We believe she's
gone blaze that microphone, glorify God, and bless his people. Get it!!!”
Tina & Erica Campbell | Gospel Recording Artists Mary Mary Columbia Records
"TaMyya J has the voice of an angel and a heart of gold. She is an extraordinary young lady and I can‟t wait for the world
to hear her amazing voice!"
Onitsha | National Recording Artist/Background Vocalist – Janet Jackson, American Idol, GLEE, and more
"TaMyya J is a powerhouse vocalist worthy of mainstream recognition!! I‟ve had the pleasure of working with her behind
the scenes since 2005, and have witnessed the growth in both her ministry and vocal ability. I wish her much success on
her new endeavor; she is ready to take the Gospel world by storm!!"
Adam Blackstone | Producer/Musical Director – Maroon 5, Jill Scott, Drake, Janet Jackson, and more
"TaMyya J‟s voice is an incomparable combination of soul & power that is sure to add to the current landscape of Gospel
Artists! Definitely anticipating her new release!!"
21:03 | Gospel Recording Artists PAJAM/ Zomba Label Group
Excerpt from
http://www.vgslentertainment.com/TAMYYAJDARKCHILD.html
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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CANDLELIGHT VIGIL
“From Victim to Victor: Silence is Not an Option”
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.
Wayne State University School of Social Work Alumni
Association, Walden University, and a local Detroit domestic
violence agency, Sisters Acquiring Financial Empowerment
(SAFE), are coming together to hold a Candlelight Vigil.
This vigil will raise community awareness of domestic
violence and to provide domestic violence related community
resources to community residents.
Saturday, October 1, 2011
5:00pm - 7:00pm
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U.N.I.T.Y
and
Highland Park Councilman Rodney Patrick
present
U.N.I.T.Y 2nd Annual Resource Fair
“Resources at Your Fingertips”
When: Saturday, October 8, 2011
Where: Highland Park Boys & Girls Club
Address: 24 Ferris Highland Park, MI 48203
Time: 11:00 a.m. - 2:00 p.m.
Receive info from organizations here to help YOU
For more information contact U.N.I.T.Y at (313) 989-7876
or unitydetroit@hotmail.com
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