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Are you a
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getting by at your 9-5
!"##$%&#$'( 4 Contributors
TABLE OF CONTENTS
5 Editor’s Letter
LOUNGE SOAP BOX
6 Silence in the streets: Can you imagine a 44 Scrap the stereotypes: Anything you can do I
market without buskers? 39 can do better.
8 Man, I feel like a woman: A girl’s life
10 There’s a new aristocracy in town: Polo BREAK DOWN
meets the 21st century. 46 “Do you come here often?” Anyone can pick
12 From Russia, with love: Canada, from the
outside looking in.
18 up with these helpful tips.
14 Hidden between the sheets: What you don’t
know about sex can hurt you.
15 Ticketmania: Ticket scalping goes high-tech.
16 Bump up the volume: A shy girl’s
17 Lost but not forgotten: What happens when
a soldier doesn’t come home from war.
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Freedom at Depth: Scuba diving gives new
21 Saying goodbye: A complicated journey
/ 11 !"#$%&"' through grief after the loss of a parent.
The Burger King: Hungry? Better make it a
70(8*$!$9:*;$<=>>0$?@$A:.'*-:$9B 31 Northern Exposure: Ever wonder what
CD01='$&-1E$0:$:F*$%&&'(&))*$7&G0:=&- reserve life is like?
35 8 Minutes in Heaven: The perils of dating in
the fast lane.
COVER PHOTO BY KAT GUERIN
Stressed to the max: Glue’s top 10 tips for
coping as a student.
Catching a cougar: There really is something
4"**&1& to that older woman appeal.
GLUE Winter 2010 3
KAT GUERIN MAUREEN LAMOTHE KAYLA DE SOUSA Editor: Caitlin Kenny
Photo Editor Managing Editor Design Editor Managing Editor: Maureen Lamothe
Photo Editor: Kat Guerin
Chasing Glue photographers was no 525,600 minutes. How do you mea- Working on design for Glue was quite
Design Editor: Kayla De Sousa
easy task, but thankfully we had a sure a year? Mine wasn’t measured enjoyable as it allowed room for lots
talented bunch of shutterbugs and it in love, it was measured in Glue. It’s of creativity. And I got to shoot some
all came together beautifully. been one hell of a year. guns.What more could I ask for?
Contributors: Amy Allen, Melanie C.
Blanchard, Mallory Clarkson, Carl Dumas,
Avinash Gavai, Alice Hutcheon, Patrick Kah-
touni, Nicolina Leone, Krista Maier, Emma
Marshall, Mike Mellon, Laura Osman, Chris
Seto, Jessica St. James, Katie Stewart,
Stuart Thomson, Lucas Timmons, Julia
Vorob’eva, Alex Wagstaff, Nathan Willard
Advertising Manager: Kaitlin McNamara
KAITLIN MCNAMARA CHRIS SETO MIKE MELLON
PHOTOS BY KAT GUERIN
Account Executives: Kayla Araujo, Zachary
Klym, Chris Lawton, Arleth Lugo, Robyn Mia
Advertising Manager Photographer Writer Sales & Research Coordinator: Sarah
I enjoyed meeting the goal of having a I had never shot bike polo before. My I never actually thought I’d be able to Powers
full-colour magazine. This could not have hands numbed from the bitter cold as write about picking up cougars and Creative Designers: Julian Chartrand,
been done without such a great team. A I watched these guys perform their art actually get it printed. But I did… Cassandra DiChiara
special thank you to all our advertisers. - traditional polo’s got nothing on them. Promotion & Circulation Manager: Amanda
Trafﬁc & Production Manager: Shannon
Webmaster: Braden Davidson
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Sally Enright, Greg Wheeler
Journalism Instructors: Mark Anderson,
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SOME LIKE TO KEEP their ducks in a Mike Mellon, the epitome of ruggedness,
.('-,)%2#."%/-%3(0/-4%35$6/1'%7''18%9'-6"% row, always prepared and ever organized. takes our dare and treats himself to a man-
$'/.#-:4%/%,',#6/.',%;<=%/('/%2#."%0+..1'% Printed by: Performance Printing For me, that’s an understatement. I like to icure. Right beside that story, Kayla De
keep my ducks in a row, categorized and Sousa shares her excitement about shoot-
$'('4%/-,%/%1/(:'%+5'-%(++*%/11%6+*'% sorted by breed, weight and feather quality, ing a gun for the rst time. Flip to page 35
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Email Address: But 2009 just wasn’t on the same page. ventures) as she throws caution to the wind
0/$'*'-.%1+6/1'%7++1%)+3A#.@$%>3$.%/% firstname.lastname@example.org e trend of the year seemed to be to take and gives speed dating a try.
the comfortable status quo, pick it up and What better time to be inspired by these
give it a massive shake before dropping the stories than now, as we say goodbye to last
Glue is dedicated to re ecting the experiences of
Ottawa’s college and university students, on their
scrambled pieces back in a state of disor- year and take o running in 2010. anks
campuses and in their city. Our magazine cel- der - a wild rollercoaster for my poor little to everyone who worked so hard to put
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at’s what you’ll see here in this issue of
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taking a risk, adapting to change or trying
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2 Winter 2010 GLUE GLUE Winter 2010 5
Imagine a market without the
buskers—without the cheerful
strum of an acoustic guitar, or
the soft note of a violin. Would
the silent streets still hold the
here and do this everyday, for eight hours a said John Byers, a busker who’s played on
day, and try and make a living at it. It’s just the streets of Ottawa for years. “Everybody
a hobby.” MacKinnon believes that, instead doesn’t give — it’s like one out of a 100. So,
of encouraging more people to play, this you’re not going to make the money back.”
new law will discourage them. MacKinnon thinks the bylaw is going
e City of Ottawa claims that the by- to “curtail the creativity” of people, caus-
law will allow performances to be sched- ing many performers to quit their trade
uled and organized, giving all buskers an early on. If he’s right, this would result in
equal share of playing time. Paolo Copelli, a smaller community of artists – a future
the market coordinator for the City of Ot- with less culture, less creativity.
tawa, explained that this bylaw will help Although it’s too early to know what will
the market get back to its origins, favoring happen to the market when this bylaw is
local artists. He also commented on the enforced, so far it is causing a stir among
$200 fee, explaining, “If they really care both performers and their audience.
about their trade, this is not an exorbitant Rinholm said that decision makers should
amount of money.” ough $200 might consider the long-term impact when pro-
sound a ordable for some, there are many posing bylaws such as this one. “People
buskers who won’t be able to pay for it. “A need to think about what they do when
guy’s lucky if he can make $10 or $15 a day,” they’re putting in policies.”
Upon presentation of your Student ID Card.
Silence in the Streets A SUMMERTIME STROLL in the By- kers — without the cheerful strum of an short amount of time. On top of that, ev-
Sur presentation de votre carte étudiante.
With the purchase of a meal of $7 or more. One Fruit Cocktail per person, per visit. Cannot be combined with any other offer.
Only at Cora listed below until June 15th 2010. Valide à l’achat d’un plat de 7 $ ou plus. Une offre par client, par visite. Ne peut
être jumelée à aucune autre offre. Aucune valeur monétaire. Valide aux adresses ci-dessous jusqu’au 15 juin 2010.
Ward Market ignites the senses with the acoustic guitar, or the so note of a violin. ery performer must purchase a $50 license
sight of vibrant colours, the smell of fresh Would the silent streets still hold the same and then a $150 permit if they would like
produce and the sound of street perform- appeal? e atmosphere in the market to play for the full year. e $200 price tag
ers. e experience downtown provides could be drastically altered with a new by- is causing artists to reconsider whether the
an illustration of the culture and talent in law, forcing performers to pay if they want cost to play is worth it.
Ottawa, showcased for all to see. to play. Mike MacKinnon has been a busker for
“It’s all part of the vibrancy of coming For many, this bylaw threatens the life years and has played his guitar in many
Valid only at:
down here,” said Rick Rinholm, a longtime of the market, imposing new regulations cities across Canada. He understands the Alta Vista 2629 Alta Vista Drive 613-523-2672
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Ottawa resident who o en frequents the and fees that buskers will have to adhere need to have a license but thinks the price Rideau 179 Rideau Street 613-241-7642
market. “It would be really unfortunate if to. Similar to parked cars, performers will is too steep. Lincoln Field 1355 Richmond Road 613-828-2672
it lost that kind of ambiance.” now be forced to keep within the lines of “I don’t think it’s worth my while to pay Nepean 1545 Merivale Rd. 613-226-6556
But imagine a market without the bus- their allotted space, and only stay for a $200,” he said. “I’m not going to come out
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Perhaps, if I was a secretary in a law o ce.
But if you want to be accepted as a woman in
the male-dominated, rough-and-tumble world
of landscaping, you have to take a remarkably
di erent approach towards any crude verbal or
physical assaults on your person. A swi hip-
check to the groin works nicely.
AFTER TWO MONTHS of desperately search-
ing for full-time summer employment, I nally
accepted a friend’s o er to get me a job in the
landscaping industry. I thought I knew what to
expect as I walked into the shop the next morn-
ing, a er all, this wasn’t my rst time working in
manual labour. But when I walked in with my What the
almost-shiny work boots, my clean hair, my lilac-
smelling clothing and my well-manicured hands, hell are you
I realized I wasn’t what they expected.
e boys began their hazing process right looking at?
from the beginning with less than endearing
nicknames, jokes that in any other crowd would
be deemed highly inappropriate, and grunt work
that even the hardiest men would shy away from.
seen a girl in
Being blessed with a huge chip on my shoul-
der, this only encouraged me to beat them at
their own game. before?
“SHOVEL FASTER!” one of the boys shouts at
perhaps surprisingly I don’t mind. In fact, when
me as I scrape soil out of a tipped up dump truck
I turn back to my shovelling I’m smiling to my-
self, knowing that later, when the job’s done, I can
“You want to get up here?” I re back. “No?
probably squeeze a beer out of him in payment
en shut up.”
for his indiscretions.
He doesn’t, of course. “Could you pull your
In fact, while this kind of behaviour would
thong out a bit more?”
turn most women o not only the landscaping in-
“Go to hell,” I retort, ipping a shovelful of soil
dustry but men in general, I actually thrive on it.
into his face.
Months were spent building meaningful
Still he persists. Next time I turn around, I
friendships with these boys. Lines were continu-
catch him pointing at my bent backside, nodding
his head and smiling at a crew down the street.
“Quit being such a pig!” I yell, dousing him
ally drawn, crossed, then drawn again.
Sure, there were times when the guys, like &,-.$+"$/"00!
little puppies, would get over-excited and need
with another shovelful of topsoil.
to be swatted over the nose to force them back
en, turning my attention to the crew down
behind the line. But it’s mostly innocent fun --
the road, “What the hell are you looking at?
tolerable at its worst, and in most cases, hilarious.
You’ve never seen a girl in work boots before?” %*$N.0(0-:**H
As for me, I too walk a ne line between being
is kind of banter is all too common, and O.01=:E$D*F=G1*L$0:$7&?$<(=G*L
respected as a woman and working like a man. If A0)*:E$0-'$PI:*L:*'
there is an upside to being a woman working in
the landscaping industry, it’s that you can always (*-0.:&;&:=,*4G&;
Mallory Clarkson go above and beyond expectations. Even though
I get razzed for my physical attributes, I can work
the day through with the boys and still get invited
Man, I feel
for beers when the day is done.
First week on the WHILE SEXUAL HARASSMENT is not OK in
any way, working side by side with men - real men -
job, a co-worker can actually help erase the barriers between the
grabs me by the sexes. e ability to show them and myself daily
like a woman
what I as a woman can o er in a primarily male-
hips and pretends dominated, blue-collar industry is something I
think every woman should experience.
to hump my It took less than seven months for me to realize
PHOTOS BY EMMA MARSHALL
that I had “made it” and become “one of the guys.”
backside. Grounds My acceptance into the boys club became clear
one day when one of the lads let it rip in the truck,
for a hefty sexual looked at me and giggled.
assault suit? “Oops, I forgot you were a girl,” he said. And
then rolled up the window for good measure.
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ski poles made of bamboo, carbon bre or
most commonly aluminum and are given
heads of PVC pipe. “ ere’s a good call
for malletsmiths,” said Macdonald. “A well
made mallet is hard to come by.”
e level of physical contact in bike polo
changes from court to court but the rule is
contact is kept bike to bike, body to body
and mallet to mallet. “ at’s my particular
thing, hooking mallets,” said Macdonald.
Regarding the local code of conduct, Alex
said, “Ottawa has been more about skill
than just brute force. It has cost us in the
past, but has earned some recognition.”
While polo is not intended to be a rough
sport, “if you play a rough game, people
treat you in kind and you’re more likely to
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with love International student Julia Vorob’eva shares
her rst impressions of Canadians - and their
Canadians! “It is all about food, eh?” chocolate bar during class, the teacher here ford in Russia.
at was the rst question I asked af- in Canada absolutely did not mind me eat- Not only is minimum wage higher in
ter three days spent in Canada, although I ing in class. Canada, but the food is cheaper here too.
only gured out the meaning of the sound When lunchtime rolled around and that When I rst went to a Canadian restaurant,
“eh” later on. It seems like a very important same classmate had a piece of pizza with a I was thrilled to get twice as much food as
part of Canadian vocabulary, apparently can of Coke, I realized how equipped Can- you would in Russia, for the same price.
used in order to con rm whether the lis- ada is with food. e heap of pasta in front of me was two
tener heard what was asked about.
But, really, why are Canadians so mental
When I rst came to Canada from Rus-
sia about a year ago, the Canadian family I
lived with made me dinner.
“Wow, that’s a really big plate,” I said,
eyeing the mounds of roast beef and
People from here would de nitely be
starving at school cafeterias in Russia, hav-
ing a bowl of soup and
a cutlet with mashed
potatoes – the only
food on the menu.
In Russia’s rural ar-
eas, many people still
People from here
would de nitely be
starving at school
to three times as much as any restaurant
back home would serve. e funniest thing
is that the more
expensive the res-
taurant, the smaller
your portion will be.
ba ed by Canada’s
But later I would learn the Canadian
don’t even know what
vending machines are
cafeterias in Russia. food obsession, one
thing is clear: like
food mentality: the bigger the plate, the or how they work. I doubt they have ever their immense appetites and super-sized
more pleasurable the meal, especially if it’s even heard of McDonald’s either. e fact helpings, Canadians have big hearts to
full of poutine. is that even one of the biggest cities in Rus- match.
e next day I had my rst class in Can- sia, Vladivostok, which has the same num- Even with their excesses in food, money
ada. at day, one of my classmates bought ber of people as Ottawa, still does not have and vending machine technology, they are
breakfast from the cafeteria, including McDonald’s. You’d probably think, are you very nice people, who would never think
eggs, sausages, bacon, two pieces of toast guys crazy? badly of you even if you don’t have much
PHOTOS BY KAYLA DE SOUSA
and of course a pile of hashbrowns. In Rus- A er a week of full-time work at mini- money.
sia this would be the size of a dinner. Never mum wage, a Canadian would rake in A Canadian person would still be a great
before had I realized that mornings could enough to a ord a small fridge, whereas in friend of yours.
necessitate that kind of calorie intake. Russia the income would barely be enough And in my opinion, that is what sets
Unlike in Russia, where I was once to cover the cost of a meal at e Keg. No Canadian people apart from the rest of
kicked out of the classroom for opening a wonder vodka and pickles are all we can af- the world.
12 Winter 2010 GLUE
Ticket scalping just ain’t what
it used to be. Gone are the
the sheets days of bundled-up men yelling
outside the arena. In its place,
the Internet is becoming the
What you don’t know can’t hurt you. Or so new black market for tickets.
we thought... Ticket scalpers were once easy to spot and had for users to buy and sell tickets. Ticket-
to work hard for their ill-gotten pro ts. ey were master began linking directly to the site
Sexually transmitted infections – many found outside venues with tickets held above the when shows sold out, referring hopeful
of them being asymptomatic - are on the heads of the crowd, o ering better seats or a last buyers to a place where they could still get
rise among young women and men in Ot- chance to a desperate fan. tickets. e company pro ts not only on
Kat Guerin tawa. Speci cally, cases of chlamydia and Ticket scalping is the buying of tickets and sell- initial sales fees, but makes an additional
gonorrhea are increasing. ing them for more than the original price. In the 10 to 15 per cent on tickets resold through
According to Ottawa Public Health, cas- province of Ontario it’s as illegal online as it is on TicketsNow. e practice has landed
es of gonorrhea have quadrupled in young the street to buy or sell scalped tickets, but not so Ticketmaster with several group lawsuits,
men and tripled in young women between easily policed. but to date there have been no charges laid
1997 and 2005 in Ottawa. Similarly, cases e face of ticket scalping has changed drastic- against the company for facilitating illegal
of chlamydia have doubled in young men ally over the past few years. e club is not nearly activity.
and increased by more than 30 per cent in as exclusive. Anyone with an Internet connection Right or wrong, damning to the ticket in-
young women. and a credit card can turn a pro t on concert tick- dustry or simply supply and demand, it will
Not incidentally, perhaps, the joys of sex ets from the comfort of their home, even despite take some time for police resources to catch
are being su ciently covered all over the strict anti-scalping laws. Online anonymity has up with the crime. Said a Phone Buster rep-
media in music videos, television, song lyr- made ticket scalping a casual a air, nothing more resentative, “We use the ‘buyer beware’ ap-
ics, etc. (we all know Britney Spears wasn’t than a quick transaction. proach. It’s all we can really do.” !
really seeking a friend named Amy). en Internet users have a plethora of online market-
again, you never hear a rapper rhyming places to sell their wares. All business is conducted
about how he caught ‘the clap.’ facelessly behind usernames.
So what are these STIs? “ ere could be a thousand new users every day
Chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis, are
examples of STIs that are caused by bacte-
who want to sell tickets,” said a representative of E!")F'G/'
Phone Busters, a collaborative RCMP and OPP
ria. ey can be spread during unprotected fraud phone line initiative. “We don’t have the re-
sexual activity and can cause severe prob- sources to really police that.”
lems like pelvic in ammatory disease in Scalping was a treacherous but pro table busi-
women, infertility in both sexes, and more. ness in the golden years of street scalping because
According to Jeanette Doucet, executive Damage can be caused to the body with- mind or give you a head start on getting the of the threat of fake tickets and undercover cops.
director of Planned Parenthood Ottawa, out you knowing because many STIs show treatment you need if you have an infection. e crime was much more heavily policed, but fans
HIV (Human Immunode ciency Virus) little to no symptoms. ese silent killers “You should have a full screening for o en found the perpetrators to be dubious allies.
in particular can be spread through ve can be spread by someone you trust and STIs between partners,” said Doucet. “If Today smart scalpers can turn a pro t without
di erent uids: breast milk, semen, blood, who believes they’re ‘clean.’ you’re monogamous, both partners should breaking a sweat, but common sense precautions
and vaginal and erectile uid. “If you have no symptoms, but you have get the test every six months and a woman are key to protecting the guilty. “Don’t publicize the
Hepatitis C can be spread through four it, you’re spreading it,” said Doucet. Untreat- should get a yearly Pap smear.” seat number,” said one online scalper.
uids: semen, blood and vaginal uid as ed STIs can spread to the testicles and pelvis Luckily, most STIs are treatable and can O cial ticket sellers have had to get creative to
well as saliva – the latter classi ed as very in men and the ovaries and fallopian tube in be cured. Depending on the infection, they protect their pro ts. Big ticket monopolies have
low-risk. women, and possibly cause infertility. may be cured with antibiotics, ointments or been combating scalping for ages, but the con-
Moreover, the Public Health Agency of “You may not know you’re infertile until by keeping the infected area clean. However, nectivity provided by new technology allows every
Canada says some STIs, including herpes you’re ready to start a family,” said Doucet. there is no cure for HIV or herpes to date. ticket buyer to become a potential scalper.
and genital warts, are spread through skin- If abstinence isn’t an option to which Services within the community, city, In 2008, Ticketmaster began selling digital tick-
to-skin contact. While parasitic STIs, such you’re willing to commit, how do you pre- province and country are available to help ets. In some cases, show-goers present their credit
as pubic lice and scabies, can be spread vent yourself from contracting STIs? prevent STIs. From a local sexual health cards instead of tangible tickets in order to be ad-
ILLUSTRATION BY ALICE HUTCHEON
through bed sheets or towels. Proper protection can go a long way. Be- clinic to Ottawa Public Health to the Pub- mitted. is le scalpers with nothing physical to
Outside the bedroom, hepatitis C can be ing diligent when using condoms and den- lic Health Agency of Canada, information sell their customers.
PHOTOS BY KAT GUERIN
transmitted through unclean needles used tal dams can prevent some STIs. As well, and help is easily accessible to anyone. Still, e orts by o cial ticket companies have
for tattoos, piercings and drugs.
“Drug users are at high risk of contract-
using clean, sterilized, unused needles for
piercings, tattoos and drugs can also pre-
When health is at stake, it’s better to
know rather than dismiss. Ignorance isn’t
been only marginally successful and tickets con-
tinue to be sold at in ated prices online. As a result
ing hepatitis C if clean needles aren’t used vent the spread of infection. always bliss. And what you don’t know can Ticketmaster began cashing in on the resale trend A:<@B'9=C'(D:>@:B /567'89:;<=>'#?@1
all the time,” said Doucet. Regular testing can provide peace of hurt you. !
" by purchasing TicketsNow, an online marketplace
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LOUNGE Jocelyn Ranger’s father was the 44th
Canadian soldier killed in Afghanistan.
With every milestone that passes in her
life, he is not far from her mind.
Lost but not forgotten Melanie C. Blanchard
orty-Four. To most, this number Jocelyn’s father was the 44th Canadian she threw herself into her upcoming nuptials.
has no meaning. To Jocelyn Ranger, soldier killed in Afghanistan. “Surprisingly, it didn’t hit me on my
44 made the world stop. Forty-four When a soldier’s life stops, the fam- wedding day that my father was not walk-
caused her to stop breathing, hoping and ily must nd a way to move forward. For ing me down the aisle,” she said.
dreaming. Ranger, moving on with her life meant nev- Soon a er came the birth of her son and
On Nov. 27, 2006, Regimental Sgt. Maj er forgetting the sacri ce her father made the awareness of just what was lost. “I nal-
Chief Warrant O cer Robert Girouard was and honouring him at every chance. ly realized that my children would never
traveling near the southern city of Kanda- “My family continues to grieve for him know their grandfather,” said Ranger.
har with his men. A suicide bomber pulled every day,” said Ranger during her emo- Life moved forward from there. Rang-
up alongside Girouard’s Bison armoured tional acceptance speech for a scholarship er was given a monumental opportunity,
personnel carrier. When the bomber deto- in honour of her father’s memory. the chance to go back to school, and she
nated his explosives, Girouard and Cpl. Al- Ranger said that it didn’t really hit her took it. This chance came in the form of
bert Storm lost their lives. right away that her father was gone. Instead Project Hero. e scholarship was created
by Honorary Lt.-Col Kevin Reed of the 31
Brigade, and retired General and former
Chief of Defence Sta Rick Hillier.
To be eligible for the award a student
must be under 26 years of age, be a Ca-
nadian resident, and have lost a parent or
spouse while on active military duty not
ings have been stressful for Ranger
!"#$%&'($#""#)$*$#&$+$,)-.",$ with the beginning of school because her
UP THE husband is also preparing to deploy to Af-
ghanistan. But being back in school has
4#5,$6-,#7$,-6"$-1.$2"(%$-66&(.-89"$ helped Ranger deal.
:,$9&/$-,$;<=>?>=$@9',$#-A", “[It] has enabled me to connect with
adults and create relationships but I am still
Amy Allen grieving my father which, at times, makes
it di cult to focus,” she said.
C&$)0.."1$B&,#,7$1&$D0EE0BF,$ ’ve never considered myself a good dancer. everything under the sun. She’s taught not only in Because her family is primarily military,
-1.$1&$-#$)&E"$#(-%, When I was a teenager, I shunned high school Montreal and Ottawa, but also for Club Med in the they are spread out across the province but
dances and skipped prom. To this day, I avoid Dominican Republic. Ranger has the support she needs to move
:,F$-8&'#$GE09"$!"E,3 weddings like they’re the plague. Needless to She’s been dancing Reggaeton ever since she vis- forward. She does not doubt that at one call
say, my decision to join a Reggaeton dance class ited Cuba ve years ago. is style of music rose her family would be there for her.
with my sisters at the Glebe Community Centre to popularity in South America during the 1990s. “Even though I am lacking in proximate
ba ed all who knew me. Although it has only recently gained attention in family support, I have my friends, classmates,
I walked in on my rst day not knowing what North America, dance classes based on the music and instructors who I feel I can lean on over
to expect. Before I knew it I was strutting across have already started cropping up everywhere. the course of my studies,” said Ranger.
the studio moving my shoulders and hips in ways “It’s a mix of dancehall and Latin and it’s high- She plans to nish her studies at Algon-
I never knew shoulders and hips were supposed to energy body shaking,” Phaneuf said, stressing that quin College in the eld of business. Ulti-
move. For the most part, I felt like a geriatric having Reggaeton requires that you learn to move certain mately she would like to enter the eld of
a seizure. parts of your body separately from the rest. human resources and then grow her family
-./-#0$123)*$#4&)5# !"#$%%&$"#''# But my initial feelings of incompetence and Phaneuf said that Reggaeton is accessible to any- while being a business woman.
embarrassment quickly morphed into excitement. one who wants to try it. Men and women of all ages Girouard’s dream was to see his family suc-
For one thing, I wasn’t nearly as bad as I’d expect- can dance Reggaeton — it’s only a matter of nding ceed at higher education and be triumphant
ed, and for quite another, I wasn’t the only girl in the courage to step into the unknown. in their lives. All of this would not be possible
PHOTOS BY LAURA OSMAN
PHOTO BY KATIE STEWART
the room who felt self-conscious about her lack For me, it’s an incredible workout and it sure without funding from the scholarship.
of experience. beats jogging around the block at ve in the morn- “ e Project Hero initiative demon-
7%'48994 Our instructor, Emilie Phaneuf, has been teach-
ing dance for eight years. Her background in dance
ranges from the traditional to the modern: from
ing. More importantly, it’s a con dence booster.
Even when you think you look ridiculous, one
glance in the mirror spanning the wall will tell you
strates to our community that Canadians
are proud of our soldiers and their families,
+8(.:/-4"4)82:4 ballet to ballroom to hip hop, she’s danced almost "
that you look less ridiculous than you feel. !
and that they will remember their sacri-
ce,” said Ranger. !
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group of scuba divers passes over the
wreck of the Conestoga, a combined
passenger and cargo steamer. e
once mighty ship now rests along the bot-
tom of the St. Lawrence Seaway. A heap of
cracked wooden planks and rusting iron,
the Connie pales in comparison to its 1878
splendour. She caught re, loaded with a
cargo of wheat, and sank on May 22, 1922.
Back on land, the divers compare notes
about what they saw. It’s the usual banter
about sh and crawdads, water tempera-
ture and visibility – a completely unre-
markable dive, in other words, if it weren’t
for the fact one of the divers was a quad-
riplegic, one was missing a leg, and a third
was missing an arm.
Welcome to Freedom at Depth Canada,
the country’s only scuba diving program
geared toward physically disabled divers.
Program founder and general manager
Hubert Chrétien, son of former Prime
Minister Jean Chrétien, has been teach-
ing people with mobility impairment to
dive for the past 18 years. And what he’s
discovered is that the so-called disabilities
that are so evident on land, all but vanish Hubert Chrétien helps a quadriplegic diver into the water of the St. Lawrence Seaway.
“We take the wheelchair out of the Chrétien tries to ensure that every diver will take one diver who needs assistance
wheelchair sports,” says Chrétien, who’s he trains stays a diver. e certi cation in the morning and one in the a ernoon.
been diving since age 11. “It’s a very nor- as an open water diver takes one week- Other divers are welcome to join as well.
malizing ativity. ere’s nothing wrong end. When Chrétien books that weekend But before getting there, the divers must
with wheelchair basketball, but when you for his students, he also books them four learn the basics.
play wheelchair basketball you’re with a or ve others days of diving that summer. Freedom at Depth’s course is set to each
bunch of people in wheelchairs. When you e goal is to get them at least 15 dives per diver’s ability. Being a one-on-one course, it
go diving, you’re just diving with other season. is a lot more intimate than a regular scuba
people.” “If people don’t do 10 or 15 dives a year course that would typically have seven or
Chrétien in many ways is Freedom at they won’t stay in the sport,” explains Chrétien. eight students per instructor. It takes about
Depth: He is the program’s teacher, ac- Freedom at Depth also o ers diving in seven evenings on average, but Chrétien
countant and fundraiser. He’s also the only the Caribbean. “We bring people to the Ca- will change the course to meet the needs
person in Canada quali ed to train other ribbean to dive, but we never certify people of the diver.
scuba instructors on how to work with dis- in the Caribbean,”
abled divers. says Chrétien. “If
PHOTOS BY TED TIMMONS
“We teach [scuba instructors] about dis- people learn to dive It’s a very normalizing activity. There’s
ability awareness, psychology of disability, in paradise they are
physiology of disability, how to travel with never going to want nothing wrong with wheelchair basketball,
people with disability.”
Lucas Timmons While Freedom at Depth does o er
to dive [in the St.
Lawrence]. If peo-
but when you play wheelchair basketball
explores courses on how to be a dive buddy for ple don’t dive here,
you’re with a bunch of people in wheelchairs.
someone with a disability, the larger man- they’re not going to
date for Freedom at Depth is to train dis-
abled divers, and to give them the tools,
stay in the sport.”
Chrétien sets up at
When you go diving, you’re just diving with
resources and support to pursue the sport.
the Divi Flamingo
“Our school is not just about training resort in the Dutch
people with disabilities to dive,” says Chré- Antilles and takes
tien. “Once they are certi ed divers, it’s or- divers out with him to explore much pret- “I once had a girl who had a lot of dif-
ganizing all sorts of activities and outings tier scenes than at the bottom of the St. culties because her handicap was quite se-
to get them opportunities to dive and get- Lawrence. vere. I did 20 pool sessions with her. We’ll
ting them the assistance to go diving. e divers who go book time with Chré- do whatever is needed.”
“Our objective is to make divers,” he tien at the resort. Freedom at Depth does “I don’t like it when people say, ‘tell me
adds. “I would rather teach one person not charge for this service, but divers must about your program,’” says Chrétien. “I
who does 100 dives, rather than 100 people book their own airfare and accommoda- don’t see it as a program. It’s something
who only do one dive.” tions. Chrétien does two dives a day and that’s adapted to people’s individual needs.
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People with disabilities all have di erent require- more than just learning diving ability.
ments.” “It also builds a lot of con dence,” says Chrétien.
For disabled divers, there are three di erent levels “It’s a very cerebral sport. I cannot make a good diver
at which Freedom at Depth can certify. e levels de- out of somebody who’s scared, out of somebody who
ne how a diver is able to dive. doesn’t have a good spatial orientation. You need to
“It’s not based on disability; it’s based on ability,” have the right stu . e water is very, very forgiving
says Chrétien. “You can have two people with the of physical ability but requires a sharp mind.”
same disability but they don’t fall in the same cat- To say that diving and handicapped dive training
egory because it’s performance based.” has taken over Chrétien’s life would be an understate-
A-level divers are totally capable of taking care ment. He has a private indoor pool that allows him
of their buddies. at includes being able to tow a to train divers when it gets too cold to dive in the
hurt or tired buddy to the boat and provide rst aid St. Lawrence. He has a fully accessible apartment that
if needed. ey have no restrictions and only have to he lends out, at no charge, if traveling poses a major
dive with one buddy. hardship for a student. He spends three months out
B-level divers can take care of themselves in the of the country diving, and four months of six-day-
water, but cannot rescue their buddies; they have to weeks traveling from Gatineau to the St. Lawrence.
dive with two buddies to provide redundant backup “I’m scared of the day I won’t be able to li people
in case of emergency. and I will have to start teaching instructors full time
e c-level also requires two dive buddies, and one instead of teaching people with disabilities,” says
of them has to be quali ed by the Handicap Scuba Chrétien. “It’s not a job. It’s a vocation. It’s a passion.
Association as a dive buddy, dive master or instructor. It’s something in my life that comes before everything
e bene ts of Freedom at Depth’s course are "
else. I don’t live a very balanced life and I love it.” !
STORY BY PATRICK KAHTOUNI
PHOTO BY CAITLIN KENNY
When a loved one passes away, those
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H is picture sits on a coffee table next to the couch in the living
room where he used to relax and watch TV every night before
going to sleep.
The youngish man stares at me every time I walk into the house;
his eyes are xed. It’s been a while since I’ve actually seen him –
the heart attack that killed him in June 2009, just two weeks shy
of Father’s Day, changed this family’s life forever.
It was random. e kind of out-of-the-blue that leaves you feel- Howard, a psychotherapist and professor of psychology at the
ing empty. My dad, Joe, was only 43 years old and, in my mind, University of Ottawa. “People think that if they can just work out
not ready to leave us – a feeling that’s never completely gone away. the situation with some higher being, that that’s ok. It’s all about
I remember the call from Niagara General Hospital with endur- ‘what ifs.’”
ing detail – surprisingly. We had to wait four days to see him because of the autopsy
“Hello, my name is Dr. Velji from Niagara General, who am I and standard police investigation into the cause of death. I had
speaking with?” he asked. myself convinced that the dead could come back to life simply by
“Patrick... I’m his son. What’s going on? I’m trying to nd a way thinking it.
to get down there as soon as possible,” I replied. “For some people it’s a matter of control,” says Dr. Howard. “We
“Most of us want to see the world as we immigrated to Canada almost 24 years I had myself
predictable, ordered and fair,” says Chris ago, leaving them behind.
“I’m afraid I have some bad news, Patrick. Your father didn’t always try and change situations if we don’t like them.” convinced that
Davis, a professor at Carleton University’s Friends can be helpful in situations
make it. e heart attack was too much for him.” “To achieve acceptance and begin the grieving process, they the dead could
school of psychology. “And when some- that require the delicacy of dealing with
“What?!” I burst out, almost screaming at him for suggesting need to do some kind of viewing,” says Gilles Sauvé, funeral direc-
the idea. tor at the Orleans location of Kelly Funeral Homes on why people
thing bizarre happens, it’s unsettling. We grief; but there is no substitute for family. come back to
search for meaning to make sure the world Handling the grief isn’t the same when life simply by
“I’m so sorry to have to tell you like this, if you need any...” he like to see their loved ones post-mortem. “It’s traditional. Most
is OK.” you’re missing a vital core of your sup-
continued. I didn’t hear the rest; I slumped over against the wall, people are visual and it helps them begin the process.” thinking it.
While my family waited for the body port system.
emotions and thoughts clouding my mind, phone on the ground. As an adolescent, grief can be harder for us to deal with.
to arrive we had plenty of time to “search “A close-knit family is a great support
My mom and brothers knew right away. I could see them crying in Rebecca Abrams, an award-winning British journalist who lost
for meaning,” as the psychologists would network,” says Howard. But she maintains
the background, but my mind started blacking out my surroundings. her father and step-father in her youth, wrote in her book When
have it. e term was coined by Austrian that family can also be disadvantageous to
I was burdened with questions: Was this real? How was it pos- Parents Die: “ ere simply is not enough time, energy, or emo-
neurologist and psychiatrist Viktor Frankl the grieving process.
sible? What did this mean? What would happen next? How would tional strength to cope with everything.”
who argued that the search for meaning is “An estranged family can be really dif-
it impact us? She continues to explain that “grieving becomes a struggle” im-
an important part of grief, helping us come cult to deal with,” explains Dr. Howard.
There can’t be a worse feeling than dealing with a death – pacted by the social world that adolescents live in.
to terms with something that doesn’t make “Sometimes they can be negative to the
especially that of someone I call “essential” because they are In Abrams’ research, she found that counsellors working with
much sense – death. process. Especially if the will is contentious
so integral to your mental, physical and emotional well-being. bereaved young people noted a disconnection from their peer
“People are trying to understand death it might create an inappropriate situation.”
The confusion, anger, guilt, denial, and emotional pain are groups because the chances were signi cantly lower that some-
in a world that makes sense,” says Dr. For four days all I noticed was the sun
catastrophic. one in their immediate social network had experienced a similar
Davis. “Many times there are no explana- going down and the moon coming up.
e loss impacts you on a feral level; the grief makes you insane. situation.
tions. People will go for years trying to We edged closer to the wake. Funeral
e rst day a er he passed, I kept thinking it wasn’t real, that Grief is one of the few hardships incongruous with human un-
gure it out.” preparations and burial arrangements had
he hadn’t died; maybe trying to convince myself that if I truly be- derstanding. e common belief is that people don’t talk about
Friends were always around for that been nalized.
lieved those insane thoughts his death would be undone – a mod- death because it’s a social and cultural taboo but that’s just a con-
four-day span. Unfortunately, our extend- e whole process was surreal. It felt like
ern day Lazarus. venient excuse. We don’t talk about death because we can’t under-
ed family was unable to be with us because I was caught in a time vacuum. All the days
“It’s a basic human reaction to a crisis situation,” says Dr. Terry stand it and we can’t control it.
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All the days were the same; I
was stuck in neutral, waiting to
say my nal goodbyes to him
before I could start moving on.
were the same; I was stuck in neutral, waiting to say my nal good-
byes to him before I could start moving on.
e day of the wake came. It was a ursday. A sombre urs-
day. Cloudy, but hot. irty degrees without a trace of blue.
I woke up and felt nauseous as I started getting dressed.
I knew the day ahead was going to be long and tiring – both
physically and even more so emotionally. But no amount of men-
tal preparation would have been enough get me through it.
e funeral home had arranged for a limousine to pick up my
two younger brothers, Joseph and Roderick, my mom, Marie,
We slowly ambled along the streets of east-end Ottawa. A mo-
torcade of friends anked the “ rst family.”
e drive wasn’t long enough. I was starting to breakdown at
the thought of seeing him and we hadn’t even arrived at the fu-
neral home. I had no time to compose myself.
e funeral directors assured us that we’d have at least an hour
alone with him before the doors would be opened for everyone
else to pay their respects.
We walked in to the funeral home. Accordion doors were
closed on both sides of the amber-toned room.
I was caught in a twilight zone. I wanted to keep looking at the
furniture and avoid the whole thing altogether, but I also desper-
ately wanted to see him.
My feelings at that moment couldn’t have been any further
apart on the spectrum.
My stomach was turning. My jaw was locked, hands balled
I looked down to the other end of the room and there he was,
just lying there in his wooden throne. Flowers painted out the
walls behind him.
I think I yelped, like dogs do when they are hurt. It felt like my
heart was trying to ght its way out of me because it was beating
so fast. And there he was. Not moving. Not sitting up. Not smiling.
Nothing. Just nothing. Empty.
I tried not to be overwhelmed. But it was impossible. I don’t
even know why I tried in the rst place.
I walked deliberately towards him. I had planned to say hi to
him, to say anything at all. But when I got close, I couldn’t talk. My
breathing got deeper and deeper. My eyes were pooling with tears.
All my senses were working overtime. But I couldn’t talk. I
could think about saying hi to him, but my brain couldn’t execute
the function. It hurt too much.
I’d waited four days to talk to him, to see him, touch him, and
be with him. And now that I was there, in the moment I had wait-
ed for, my brain was overwhelmed. e grief and sadness were
I kept expecting him to move; not really thinking about it,
simply hoping that he would. I was watching his chest, hoping
that it would rise and fall with the rhythm of human breath. But
I was willing myself to believe that if I thought even harder
about him breathing, about his chest heaving up and down, that it
would. But it didn’t. And it never would. " !
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The man that changed the ground beef scene has lots more up his
sleeve. There’s no stopping Ion Aimers, the brain behind Ottawa’s
beloved burger bistro The Works.
STORY BY CAITLIN KENNY!#!PHOTOS BY LUCAS TIMMONS
2 Winter 2010 GLUE GLUE Winter 2010 27
It seems perfectly poetic.
O a quiet dirt road a short jog out- taurant rst came to him long before that business on a roster dominated by tech and
side Navan, there is a tree-lined laneway. small New Edinburgh location grilled its consulting companies.
At the head of the column of gravel sits a rst patty, but it took years of meticulous Another one of Aimer’s mould-breaking
cozy, wooden house. Inside, the lone resi- planning before he made the leap. accomplishments dates back to January
dent, Ion Aimers, rests comfortably on “ e burger concept had been in my 2008, when he won the title of Restaura-
the couch, sipping from his white tea cup. mind for 20 years before it came to frui- teur of the Year at the ORHMA’s Ottawa
e warm morning sun bathes Aimers and tion,” admits Aimers. In his youth, the Restaurant Awards. e owner of a burger
the room, as a tall grandfather clock stands Montreal-born teenager was known to joint makes for a somewhat unlikely re-
guard above all other furniture. e hands host dinner parties for his friends, where cipient, considering that recent winners
on its ancient face sit still, long retired from he’d serve burgers to his beer-guzzling include the elite of Ottawa ne-dining, like
their duty of keeping time. But Aimers him- guests. “Very few 18-year-olds have din- the owners of Black Dog Bistro and Beckta
self is far from o -duty, and time is far from ner parties,” he says. “Most have ‘Let’s get Dining & Wine. With growing revenue and
stilled. e tranquility is broken by the beep drunk’ parties. But I would provide food the attention of the community, Aimers was
of a cell phone. Over and over again. rst and use my friends as guinea pigs.” proving himself to be an unstoppable force.
Two of the morning’s phone calls elicit FROM THERE, Aimers continued to BUT EVERYTHING came to a startling
“Oh dears” from Aimers within seconds. think of the future, while planning his halt that April, when Aimers su ered a
Yet he remains surprisingly at ease through approach with tremendous deliberation. massive cardiac arrest. Fortunately, the fa-
it all, clearly accustomed to the fast pace. Stints owning and managing other restau- ther of two had decided to go to the hos-
“It’s just Monday at the restaurants,” he ex-
plains by way of apology before taking yet
For Ion Aimers, it’s onwards and up-
wards, always. As the owner and founder
of e Works, a chain of o -beat gourmet
hamburger bistros, Aimers is continu-
ously moving forward. e Ottawa start-
rants bought him time
as he continued to
develop his ideas for
e Works. “To me,
if you’re going to put
together a concept-
The burger concept available quickly when
had been in my mind Aimersthe found life-
type business like e for 20 years before it just lucky because they
Works, you’ve got to came to fruition.
“ pital that day because
he wasn’t feeling well,
so emergency care was
oor. “I was
did have to de brillate
ve years, taking e Works not just outside
Ottawa, but outside the province as well.
“I have a plan,” says Aimers. “But that plan
is more about people than it is about money
or location, because I feel the concept would
his sta blame the location for the proj-
ect’s downfall. Roost was built inside e
Works’ Orleans location, with the two
sharing a kitchen and only a wall dividing
the two dining areas.
back down if the risks slightly outweigh
the advantages, he will err on the side of
taking the risk.”
EVEN IF taking chances means poten-
tially failing, Aimers still comes out ahead,
up is one of the fastest growing companies hit every detail,” he me back to life, hit me sit well anywhere.” With that in mind, Aim- e chicken and ribs were forced to Venturing believing that every defeat comes with
in the city, and Aimers has no intention explains. “If you for- with the paddles,” he ers is currently negotiating with a group from compete with the already-acclaimed burg- outside the a lesson. “ ere’s absolutely no point in
of slowing down anytime soon. But not get the details and you says with a chuckle. Montreal, which ts with his desire to keep ers. In the end, most guests preferred to eat looking back unless there’s something to be
his initial expansion within reach. on e Works’ side, choosing the tried and
everything he touches turns to gold. only think within your own realm of what Although typical of Aimers’ non-serious learned from it,” he says. “ erefore, learn
He’s had his share of setbacks and ops, you know, then it’s not all there.” attitude, his light-hearted jokes about the In Ottawa, Aimers is treating Hunt Club true over the unfamiliar chicken. Admit- burgers may from your mistakes or what’s happened to
but continues to plough forward; lessons But everything is there at e Works, incident make it easy to overlook its sever- and eventually Barrhaven to the world of ting defeat, Aimers closed Roost in Sep- seem brave you and try to move forward.”
learned, ready to tackle something new from the factory-style décor (featuring ity. Having spent ve days in a coma, he is gourmet burgers. While a Barrhaven loca- tember and expanded e Works’ dining for Aimers is attitude can be slightly tiring for
and take a risk. walls of re-purposed brick, strewn with very fortunate to not have sustained any tion has yet to be secured, Bank Street in area. “I thought it’d be a good idea to have those trying to keep up with Aimers. “It
AIMERS’ BEGINNINGS in the ground random knobs and faucets that stick out type of brain damage or permanent injury. Hunt Club was made home to e Works’ two restaurants in one building, but appar- right now, just
can make you a bit crazy,” jokes Connolly.
beef business began modestly in 2001, haphazardly) to the zany names of menu As he puts it, he’s “still the same old goof- sixth location mid-December. ently no one else did,” he says. months after “It’s always about the next thing.” Fortu-
when he rst opened e Works in a tiny items (like Steamrollers, a stu ed tor- ball,” with just a few slight changes. HAVING ALREADY relocated his original However, the Roost chicken always got shutting down nately, she’s usually able to keep up with
bricked space in New Edinburgh. What the tilla appetizer) to the lightbulb-shaped e 51-year-old now makes a point New Edinburgh shop to a bigger space in raving reviews from the customers who Roost, his the fast pace as the couple spend time do-
restaurant lacked in physical space, it made salt and pepper shakers that sit atop the of exercising daily and watches his diet Manor Park, Aimers now has plans to re- were bold enough to forego e Works and ing their favourite things, like listening to
up for in originality. Decked out as an in- iron-branded wooden tables of the dining closely, which meant saying goodbye to turn to that small building for a new adven- try something new - so much so that Aim- experiment
music, shopping and travelling. “He is the
dustrial factory, e Works o ered Ottawa room. Nothing about the restaurant was the Hamburger Mary, his favourite from ture, hoping for some of the same magic he ers is now working on nding a new home with chicken. most fun person on the planet,” she says
a unique dining experience, serving he y accidental, but rather exactly how Aimers e Works. Named a er a restaurant in had there nine years ago. Only this time, he’s for Roost downtown, believing the right about the quirky man who unabashedly
burgers topped with every whacky thing intended it to be. Vancouver that Aimers visited in 1981, the banking on a di erent product: pizza. location is the only missing piece. is grooves to Elton John and Celine Dion.
from peanut butter to Kra Dinner. Suc- is detail-oriented approach is a large burger comes topped with fried egg, ched- Slotted to open early this year, Zazaza will philosophy proved itself three months ago, “He just really loves his life.”
cess propelled the business forward quick- part of why e Works thrives today. “ e dar cheese and strips of bacon – all taboo serve gourmet pizza in a style similar to e when Aimers helped nance the reloca- ere’s no argument there. “It would be
ly, with e Works now present in nearly failure rate in our industry is very high,” toppings for Aimers these days. Works. Although Zazaza’s concept will be tion of haute chefs Simon and Ross Fraser’s criminal for me to look at what I do as a job,”
each part of the city. And as Aimers boosts says Mike Ziola, Ottawa region president He’s also chosen to work on a reduced very di erent from e Works’ industrial kitchen to a bigger space on Beechwood says Aimers. “I absolutely adore getting up
his restaurant tally from ve to nine in the of the Ontario Restaurant Hotel & Motel schedule, although it barely slows him image, guests can expect to see similar cre- Avenue. So far, the investment has paid every morning and doing what I do.”
span of a few months, including venturing Association. “Some people don’t plan it out down. “He’s the type of guy who gets out ativity in everything from décor to menu o , with the brothers feeding Fraser Café’s But that doesn’t mean he doesn’t have oth-
beyond the safe borders of burgers, there’s as much as others, but the amount that you of bed running,” says Evelyn Cheesbrough, terminology. “We’ve learned what works packed dining room night a er night. er ambitions beyond the restaurant world. “I
no shortage of momentum behind the plan ahead will impact your success rate.” who works closely with Aimers in e with burgers and what works in Ottawa,” Re-opening Roost might mean taking have a lot of things I want to do. I want to
hamburger king. So far, Aimers has de nitely made a Works’ head o ce, a converted two-bed- says Jeremy Strong, e Works’ cleverly titled yet another risk, but that is something walk from Kathmandu to the base of Everest.
Yet, Aimers’ continual drive onwards strong case for the value of this approach. room apartment above the Glebe restau- Commander-in-Beef. “Now it’s just a matter the serial entrepreneur has proven him- I want to canoe down the Amazon. I want to
doesn’t mean he charges ahead carelessly. With chain-wide sales of $8.5 million rant. “ e amount of information that he of seeing if that can translate to pizza.” self to be more than comfortable with. “If sail or row across the Atlantic.”
In a seeming contradiction, he balances his last scal year, e Works has once again can process in a day is unbelievable.” Venturing outside the realm of burg- he believes in something, with an edu- True to form, Aimers has big plans for
forward focus with a well-developed ability landed itself a spot on the Ottawa Business WITH BIG PLANS on the horizon, Aimers ers seems brave for Aimers right now, cated eye, he’ll assess the risks,” says Pam the future. Whether it be plans for the day
to consider all angles and plan accordingly. Journal’s list of fastest growing companies, is about to push himself even further. He has just months a er shutting down Roost, Connolly, Aimers’ girlfriend of more or plans for his life, there’s only one way:
e thought of a gourmet hamburger res- where it stands out as the only food-related set a goal to have 50 restaurants open within his experiment with chicken. Aimers and than a year. “But whereas most might onwards and upwards, always. !
28 Winter 2010 GLUE GLUE Winter 2010 29
The journey to post-secondary education can
be a treacherous one for Aboriginal youth. This
is the view from the passenger seat.
FULL PAGE Story and photos by Stuart Thomson
MEDIA & DESIGN
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Youtube. Money for the repairs was re-allocated a er the GST cut liking.
was proposed and the community still lacks a proper schoolhouse. I didn’t know this at the time, but it was in the papers the day
“I think my reserve is the most ghetto, out of everyone in the a er I got back.
class,” Natacha said to me once. Matter-of-factly, just like nearly e rst thing that greets you in Barriere Lake is a house com-
everything she says is. She was 19 years old at the time and shock- pletely gutted by re. e windows are blown out and the roof has
ingly short of bullshit. collapsed into the living room. A doghouse sits on the front lawn
at is one of the bleak pictures, but Mary, a wise old hand in and a “no trespassing” sign broadcasts its pale irony to passers-by.
the class, summed it up succinctly for me. “Some of the reserves e community is desolate and nearly empty. Windows and
are worse than others.” doors are boarded up and dogs roam the streets.
I am comforted by moderation and soothed by milquetoast As we le , Christine pointed to the stop sign and said, matter-
even-handedness. Somehow this assessment stuck with me, like of-factly, “those are gunshots.” e sign has four neatly punched-
old wisdom. It was all I really had in my mind when Christine out holes right in the middle, surrounding the word.
relented eventually. KITCISAKIK, THE SECOND place we visited, has a large com-
“So you’re really gonna know me, eh? You’re gonna see where munal shower area standing gra ti-ridden in the middle. As we
my family lives,” she said. I could see how uncomfortable the idea approached it, Christine warned me that a fast getaway may be in
made her. the cards.
She told me not to judge her because her parents “live in a du- “I used to see a guy from here. He turned out to have a wife
plex” and don’t have that much money. and kids.”
I thought about telling her that when I moved to Canada, my I was already feeling like some kind of horrible voyeur and this
parents typi ed the poor immigrant. We lived in a co-op in Scar- only made it worst. I had been taking pictures in Barriere Lake,
borough, Ont. and I still remember the screaming battles, the dra- and suddenly the lurid awfulness of it all started to sink in. Chris-
matic tantrums of the people who lived above us. But what the hell tine grabbed my camera and kept snapping.
did that matter? I lived a couple of years of poverty and my parents “Last time I was home, it was because my cousin had commit-
skillfully shielded me from it. ted suicide. Her friend too,” she said, seemingly out of nowhere.
CHRISTINE PICKED ME up in her little car, with her baby in the Later, she went on to tell me that the friend who had killed her-
backseat, and we made our way to Val d’Or. She had a tour of the self was pregnant.
reserves that were on the way planned. She kept asking me what my CHRISTINE PICKS UP a lot of hitchhikers. Back when we were
expectations were, what I hoped to see and gain from it all. in class together she used to go home to see her parents by hitch-
I didn’t have an answer. Part of me was reluctant to say that it ing rides and she is forever paying back the debt of those li s from
was just curiosity. About her, about where she was from, about In- strangers.
dian reserves and about Canada
We began our tour in Barriere
9:;<$ =>55$?$=455 $@:.A$B:C!D
Lake, a reserve that had been
in the news a er Indian A airs
Minister Chuck Strahl imposed
elections on the community. A
leadership struggle had lingered
on too long for the government’s
CHRISTINE or an abrupt shortage of chilli at the school cafeteria, I loved her graduation ceremony. 1.%2345+6..%#31&+73*3
KING IS a friend of
mine. I met her in
at Algonquin Col-
lege where she was
a nervous little re-
brand with black,
and righteous anger
that thumped out of
her like bullets from
e Aboriginal Studies program lasted a year and we became
fast friends in that time. I’m still amazed by her will, her resolve
and, most of all, her heart-breaking humanity and all the foibles
and aws along with it.
CHRISTINE CAME TO OTTAWA to escape a lot of things. I get
the impression that there are things that I will never hear about,
but among the ones I’m aware of are drugs, varied relationships
and an all-encompassing ‘badness’ that she leaves up to my imagi-
We stuck it out in Aboriginal Studies together, serving as each
e stories spread through gossiping classmates, as they do in
any classroom: someone had family problems, someone had to
move back home to work, poor Raymond’s house burnt down when
his kids found some matches. (“ ey’ve moved in with their mom’s
mom.” “ eir mom?” “Are they still together?” “Not anymore.”)
Little bits of gossip that, in the midst of the slow trickle of hear-
say, didn’t really seem all that extraordinary. It was at the gradua-
tion ceremony that it really hit home. Where was everyone?
WE TALKED A LOT of reserve life in Aboriginal Studies and it
frustrated me that I’d never even visited a reserve. It seemed like a
pretty serious part of Canada for me to be missing.
I only had the
Canadian media to in-
form me before taking
an AK-47. others’ crutch. She got pregnant halfway through the year and I Before taking Aboriginal Studies I only had the Canadian me- G+*%+3;*2&'(3I,*93BBB3
She erupted in- got drunk halfway through most days of the year. I think she spot- dia to inform me, and it has painted a fairly bleak picture of re- A<,%:3G$%&'(3J3G5)),%K
discriminately, like ted my problem, for what it was, before anyone else. I used to g- serve life.
Aboriginal Studies, and
a poorly handled
ri e, at whatever in-
ure back then that she just knew me really well, but the truth was
that she just knew addictions really well. She’d seen a lot of them.
Reserves, when they make the news, are either ragged and run-
down or the home to strife. It’s either Oka or Attawapiskat. Riots
it has painted a fairly =7,3L9+&)*+,3?.99,(,3J3
justice she managed
to happen upon.
Had one or two as well, from what I can guess.
We watched our class dwindle in size as the year rolled along.
or rigor mortis.
My friend Natacha is from Attawapiskat and I remember her
bleak picture of
Whether her target Sometimes there were only a handful of us in class, as few as matter-of-factly telling me that the schoolhouse in the town is un- reserve life. : G G !D $ L < ! C < 9 $ 1 L B :D -
was the sordid his- three or four people. A class that began with about 30 students, usable and that the children tumble into an asbestos-ridden por-
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tory of Canadian all seemingly eager to learn, some proud to the point of beaming table every morning. Sure enough, you can watch Charlie Angus,
residential schools even to be there, ended up with about nine of us on stage at the the MP for the area, thundering into the government about it on
32 Winter 2010 GLUE GLUE Winter 2010 33
Along the way she pointed out spots where she’d
been stranded, where people had lectured her
get out of her. We made an attempt to get to the
cemetery where members of her family are buried,
driveway at the King house, a commotion broke
out behind the sliding doors at the front of the resi-
Speed dating is the newest dating craze in our fast-
paced world of drive-thrus and high-speed internet.
But is it a waste of time or worth your while? One
young twenty-something nds out...
about a-pretty-little-girl-like-her-hitchhiking and but the mud was deep and wet and we couldn’t risk dence. Christine’s parents came hurtling out, o er-
all of the best places to eat along the way. I think getting stuck. ing to carrying things, shaking my hand, making
she’s had a burger in just about every little mom n’ Some of the houses in Lac Simon seem brand jokes and lavishing attention on baby Maverik.
pop restaurant on the road to Val d’Or. ey were new and the community sports a massive new I was herded quickly into the house and a plate
all really good, except for the one joint where the school. But there was nobody on the streets and of something delicious was in front of me within a
sta are racist against Indians. there’s an ominous ghost-town feel. People draw minute or two.
WE ENDED UP in Lac Simon, where Christine’s their curtains as you drive by. Christine’s sisters waited patiently for their par-
family is from. e atmosphere in the car got dark- is is where Christine’s cousin committed sui- ents to stop fussing before commandeering their
er and she clammed up again. cide. A lot of bad things happen here. sister and scurrying o with her. I spoke to her
“A lot of bad things happen here,” was all I could AS WE PULLED into Val d’Or and arrived in the minutes later and she was already bursting with
e house heaved with activity and I was quite
content to be a y on the wall. I watched televi-
sion quietly while the King family did its thing.
Christine’s mom commands the house, the con-
dent matriarch reminiscent of Angela in Frank
McCourt’s masterpiece. She easily assumes that
benevolent, motherly authoritarianism that seems
necessary in houses stricken with poverty.
She kept telling me how her pork roast was
nothing special and I kept telling her that it was the
best meal I’d had in months, at least since I’d last
visited my own mother. We were probably both
Soon the girls were all smoking outside on the
porch, in the supernatural darkness of the cold Val
d’Or night. e glow of the autumn sunset had ex- Story by Krista Maier
pired and a pale darkness was collapsing amid the
revelry of reunion in the King house. ere was an
easy contentedness about the place. It struck me
Photos by Maureen Lamothe
that, if I were only driving by, none of this could
have occurred to me.
TO ME, THIS is the face on the statistics. It’s
hard to view a suicide rate that’s eight times the
average without a certain feeling of despair. How
much does that amplify when you have heard the
story of the teenaged girl who killed herself with
her friend, letting the baby inside her su ocate and
perish with her? " !
34 Winter 2010 GLUE GLUE Winter 2010 35
with God that as long as my teeth made e concept of speed dating was con- tended to do at every booth. We gazed in- though she has seen cases where they do.
no contact with the asphalt I would attend ceived by Rabbi Yaacor Deyo of Los An- tently at one another as we talked about When it comes to love at rst sight,
church on Sunday. geles as a way for young, Jewish singles to wine, laughing and joking. Payne o ers an old saying: “Don’t judge a
I looked down at my out t: tight black meet and potentially marry. e rst event To an outsider looking in, it would have book by its cover because preconceived no-
skirt, black stilettos and a leather jacket. I took place at Pete’s Café in Beverly Hills, appeared as though we had some chemistry. tions can be incredibly misleading. Physi-
was freezing. But at the prior mercy of four Calif., in 1998. Since then it has spread all DR. KIM PAYNE, C. Psych studies cal attraction can only get you so far.”
good friends, wine, make-up and mousse, over the world as a revolutionary way for sexual behaviour clinically and says there SADLY, MY ATTRACTION to my blue-
I looked hot. singles to meet. is a wealth of non-verbal behaviour that eyed date halted immediately when he
FIVE MINUTES LATER in the darkened e match-making craze has swept can identify subtle cues of interest. A close suddenly bared his teeth in a twisted grin,
con nes of the Collection, I smiled and in- North America, the United Kingdom and forward lean, mutual eye contact, a smiling while referencing his dislike for getting
troduced myself to my rst date. e table Australia, and according to fastlife.ca, con- facial expression, an open posture, gestures ‘gremlin’ teeth from red wine. Ugh. We
was small and round, tting two sets of tinues to gain popularity in China, Japan, such as head nods, a brief touch or an up- would never make it.
hands and two wine glasses just comfort- Korea, Hong Kong and Singapore. ward pitch in someone’s voice, are all indi- TODAY COMPANIES LIKE fastlife.ca
ably. To the right of me hung wall art con- Large speed dating companies cater to cators of attraction. and cupid.com specialize in speed dating.
THE ONLY THING taining splashes of orange and red with a metropolises like Toronto, Vancouver, Mon- ese cues cannot predict a successful As the popularity increases, so does the
that was going to cure this situation was black silhouette of a woman. I crossed my treal, Calgary but most cities also have local relationship, but they are visual hints that level of specialization. ere are speed dat-
some liquid courage. legs and breathed easily knowing that talk- events. e Single Option, an Ottawa-based one can be on the look-out for when meet- ing sessions for tall men, university edu-
I tipped my glass back and gulped the ing was my forte. company o ers speed dating events for $78 ing someone new. cated singles, Chris-
last of the red wine hoping for the famil- “Tell me about your...” which includes a spin dating membership “In speed dating, tians, tness bu s
iar tingly sensation to sweep over my body. But before I could nish my date asked to speed dating events. Speed dating events you have to make a Sadly, my attraction and gays and lesbi-
e walls of the quaint lounge suddenly me what high school I went to. cost $49 for members. choice,” said Payne. ans, to name a few.
ushed a warm crimson against the glow Turns out he was born and raised in Sut- BY THE DING OF THE FIRST BELL, I “And you may be to my blue-eyed Meeting the right
of the opaque lights and it was then that I ton, Ont., a mere 25 minutes from my home- was eager to head to the next date. Because limiting yourself people from special
wondered if it was just me, or if someone town. I suppose discovering our common there were more women than men, how- because some peo- date halted interest groups has
had dimmed the lights. geography should have made me feel con- ever, the ladies were stacked four-deep at ple may have di - never been easier.
Behind me sat a man so ly illuminated. nected to him. But judging by his appear- the bar, waiting to be rotated in at the bell. culty communicat- immediately when Brushing up on
Armed with a card and pen, I pivoted on a
black stiletto and prepared myself for eight
ance, the high school I attended was prob-
ably not even built when he was a student. I’d
While waiting for a re ll, I admired the
sleek black wall units holding liquor bottles
ing their interest.”
he suddenly bared speed dating eti-
quette is also made
minutes of heaven. Or Hell.
SPEED DATING. It’s as simple as it
estimate his current age at about 34. I’m 21.
Six minutes and counting.
in all shapes and sizes, and had a moment
to admire the romantic artwork hanging
for being attracted
to someone is very
his teeth in a easy with the use of
the Internet. Many
twisted grin, while
sounds. You date someone – speedily – be-
fore rotating to another date. It’s character-
ized by a socially awkward scene where
eligible singles gather together hoping to
meet the love of their lives: women search-
ing for Mr. Right and men hoping to whisk
a woman away with the promise of long
walks on the beach. Each date lasts three to
MY MOM MET MY DAD at her friend
Nancy’s apartment. He rented the base-
ment with a buddy. A er they rst met,
my dad would ask to borrow a cup of sugar
from Nancy only when my mother visited;
a timeless love story. Fast-forward 23 years
and if one is lucky enough to have time to
socialize, it usually involves a night at a bar.
from the walls.
I eyed my fresh glass of wine, swished
it around and smelled its earthen aroma.
So ly, I allowed my lips to touch the robust
liquid and ignite my senses.
Recharged, I was ready to move onto my
In the far back corner sat a man of slen-
dependent on cul-
and life experi-
ence, making it dif-
cult to pinpoint a
dislike for getting
“ websites o er tips
starters, even ques-
tions to avoid, such
as ones that allude
to income and age
which could make a
date turn awkward
eight minutes depending on the company And bar-hopping can only get one so der stature facing the window. His shirt causing chemis- from red wine. quickly.
and coordinator. At the sound of a bell, one far, o en ending with beer goggles and was a bright turquoise and as I sat down try between two To avoid those
set of people get up and rotate to the next ta- regrets. us, the novelty of speed dating: I was met with equally stunning blue eyes. people. Some seek questions, rst-time
ble. is continues until everyone has met. the chance to meet several eligible singles His posture was relaxed and open, mak- partners with similar values while others speed dater Cheryl Gingras of Ottawa
While rotating around the room every- in a short amount of time with few require- ing me feel comfortable. Sitting on bar are attracted to individuals who are simply made a mental list of some questions she
body has a score card and makes note of ments other than good conversational stools, I did not have to worry about my unattainable. Contrary to popular belief, op- was going to ask her date prior to the event.
which partners if any, they would like to skills and a pen – drinking, optional. breasts resting on the table, the way they posites do not necessarily attract, says Payne, “If you leave it open, they end up asking
get to know further. An exchange of e-mail
addresses is only made the next day if two
people are mutually interested in one an-
other according to the score cards. When
this happens the coordinator relays the
contact information to both parties.
How do I know? Simple. One night I le
my inhibitions at the door and went.
AT 7:25 P.M., ve minutes before I
should have been mingling with eligible
singles, I was still driving down York
Street. Realizing there were no le turns
at the corner of York and ByWard Market
Street, I was forced to make a hasty exit
from a friend’s car. As I peeled my bare
legs o the warm leather seats and wob-
bled out of the car, I made a quick bargain
36 Winter 2010 GLUE GLUE Winter 2010 37
Gingras attended speed dating for the rst
time together a er hearing how much fun a
mutual friend had.
Both women are anti-online dating and
opted to try speed dating instead. By the
end of the night she picked four men, and
the next day received four matches. Seven-
ty per cent of the men at the event picked
her giving her elite status at fastlife.ca, and
special entry into elite speed dating events.
Her funniest recollection of the night
was when one of her dates asked what
some of her hobbies were. In response to
the same question, her date admitted he
was really boring and didn’t do anything.
“You just have to go with an open mind
and go with the ow,” she said. “Go on a
second date, eight minutes is just a rst im-
pression,” she said laughing.
AND SO, AFTER MY FINAL and un-
timed date, I said goodbye to all the ladies
I met that night looking for love, a hook-
up or just a friend. I passed my card to my
event coordinator knowing that I didn’t
check ‘yes’ to any of the guys I met, but
“ grinned at the hand-written ‘maybe’ I in-
One date I had was
literally all gum and
no teeth. I was giggling
the entire time, but not
with him, at him.
cluded, hoping to get a vacation on a yacht
in the near future.
I kept the other part of my card as a sou-
venir from a night of many rsts: speed dat-
ing, letting a friend near my eye with sharp
eyeliner, learning the true loathing I have
questions that put you on the spot,” she headed to YukYuk’s to pursue his new career. for panty lines thus going without –in a
said. Gingras opted for a non-threatening I dated someone else who worked in the skirt, fearlessly speed dating sans wingman
question and asked her dates whether they so ware business, but had nothing to talk and being a con dent conversationalist. In
played guitar, because she loves guitarists. about other than potty-training his puppy. I the sheer awkwardness that the night had to
She found the speed dating awkward, did try to see what kind of deal he could get o er I collected my thoughts and stumbled
but admits it would have been worse if me on Adobe InDesign so ware, though. across a feeling of contentment despite being
she didn’t have good conversation starters. Another guy fancied himself quite the miles away from my comfort zone.
Overall, Gingras o ers a piece of advice for catch and perhaps he was – for a mid-30- I walked down the stairs of the very venue Being a student can be pretty
new speed daters: “Don’t go with high ex- year-old. He was full of compliments, but that I awkwardly stood in front of only two rough. As assignments pile up,
pectations, but look at it as a new way of sealed his fate when he whipped out his hours ago, praying for a bolt of lightning to
networking with people.” iPhone to show me his big yacht. If only he strike me dead. Opening the door, a burst relationship problems arise, and
AND SO I FOCUSED on my networking drove a Hummer, I could conclude he was of cold air rushed against my warm skin, Maureen Lamothe life in general starts to get hec-
skills because even a er licking my wine compensating for something. riding through my leather jacket and up my
glass dry four times, I still wasn’t attracted My last date of the night was as interest- back, sending my hair into a fury of waves. tic, sometimes it’s hard to keep
PHOTO BY NATHAN WILLARD
to anyone. ing as a rock, and asked me what kind of With the ominous glow of the sign be- up. Here are Glue’s top tips for
One date I had was literally all gum and exercise I liked doing. hind me I pivoted on a black stiletto and
no teeth. I was giggling the entire time, but e scary thing was, I had no bell to end it. walked into the starless night gracefully ac-
not with him, at him. SARAH FISHER (name changed for pri- cepting that an awkward date or two, can
By the end of the date he probably thought vacy), on the other hand, scored four great humble even the best and most determined
he was Ottawa’s next stand-up act, and likely dates a er all the bells were rung. Fisher and of the single and fabulous." !
38 Winter 2010 GLUE GLUE Winter 2010 39
“YOU LOOK TIRED.” counter a threatening situation that we feel
Not exactly the rst thing you want to exceeds our coping abilities. 8. Cut temporary ﬁxes.
hear a er a late-night cram session; espe- at’s why it’s so important for students Ca eine, alcohol and tobacco are typi- The most
cially a er all the co ees you drank and the to quit sweating the small stu and help cally temporary xes that will only leave
music you blared to keep yourself awake. their bodies cope with stress by changing the you worse for wear at the end of the day. important thing
But it’s pretty unavoidable because, as stu- things they can control about their lifestyle. Again, it is a very individual perspective to remember
dents, we’re forced to deal with all sorts of but be aware of your body. Know how
is that these
stressors, including balancing school, work, 1. Get 6-8 hours of sleep much your body can handle without send-
relationships and planning for the future. a night. ing you overboard. tips are general
ere are also other subconscious levels It’s a catch-22. You’re too stressed to
of stress that we don’t even realize a ect sleep, but you need enough rest in order to 9. Make time for the things may not work
us. Like the last cranberry mu n being cope with growing amounts of stress.
gone in the cafeteria, the new pimple that
Taylor advises that a regular bedtime for everyone.
Make time for the things that are re-
sprouted up or our favourite sports team routine can help students make the most of ally important to you. When you are doing If you still
losing that championship game. their mattress hours. By creating a routine something you enjoy, you tend not to focus
When combined, these factors can lead before getting ready for bed, you’re giving nd yourself
on the issues nagging at the back of your
to a pretty unhealthy lifestyle for students your brain subtle cues that it’s time for bed.
– an almost inevitable outcome consider-
mind. Anybody who brings joy into their struggling with
lives deals with stress in an easier way; it
ing it is usually unadvisable to just forget overwhelming
about that huge presentation or miss a few
2. Eat right. when people get that cranky, irritable, hun- allows for balance in their lives.
Watching your diet is vital in helping gry phase mid-a ernoon.” feelings of
shi s at work.
your body deal with stress. Alcohol, caf- stress, get
However, high stress levels not only 10. Laugh.
feine, sugar and fats all strain your body’s
lead to feelings of tension or anxiousness 3. Exercise. Laughter really is the best medicine. It’s help from
ability to cope. “When you have elevated
but can also cause headaches, ulcers, skin Stress produces a negative hormone 4. Be organized. your body’s natural stress-release mecha-
stress levels in your body, there are a lot of someone who
rashes, high blood pressure, hyper tension called cortisol, which increases blood sug- Taylor advises planning your week nism. It is a proven way to relieve anxiety
toxic chemicals oating around,” says Jenni- ever, Taylor warns that this is a very per-
and drug and alcohol abuse. can personalize
fer Brown, a dietician at Algonquin College. ar and blood pressure. According to Craig ahead of time. An easy way of doing this is sonal decision. “If it adds more stress than in a positive way. Just doing something
How we perceive stressful situations also
A diet with a balance of fruit and veg- Adams, head trainer at Ottawa’s End Result to create a table to map out each day Sun- a state of feeling calm, I’m not sure it would pleasurable has been shown to trigger a these tips for
plays a major role in overall health.
etables high in anti-oxidants (think bright Fitness, the best way to ght cortisol is by day to Sunday. Taylor uses highlighters to be worth it to somebody,” she says. “It can better state of mind. Laughing is also high-
“When people are feeling stress, it’s o en your lifestyle.
colours), sh high in Omega-3 fats (think exercising. colour-code activities according to impor- be very healthy, but not everyone might see ly contagious so you could be doing a good
stemming from their perspective of what
stress means for them,” says Maria Taylor, a
salmon, macrel, etc.), whole grains and at
least eight cups of water a day will place
“When you work out, whether it be
yoga, running or li ing weights, your body
tance to make sure everything gets done.
She says that when people have a plan,
it this way.” thing for someone else.
counselor with Algonquin College’s Coun-
your body in optimum condition to deal releases a chemical called endorphins, they’re not as reactive and therefore deal
seling Services. “It’s a very individualistic which are basically the feel-good chemical with stress better.
According to Brown, the best way to keep of your body,” Adams says.
is means that what is stressful for you, If that weren’t enough, exercise can also al-
is not necessarily something that will cause
your mood up and your stress level down is 5. Learn how to say no.
to eat every four to ve hours. “If you go too low you to sleep better and release aggression.
your friend to feel stress. We each react Stop trying to do everything and please
long without eating, then your body tends to But for some, it seems practically impos-
with a di erent “stress response” if we en- everyone. Whether it’s because you don’t
get really low blood levels,” she says. “ at’s sible to t exercise into a busy schedule.
want to let someone down, you feel obli-
Adams suggests quick 20-30 minute
gated or you feel guilty if you don’t help, it
workouts at least ve times a week to keep
isn’t useful to carry around those feelings.
yourself energized and leave you in a better
“Guilt is just a form of anxiety,” says Tay-
position to deal with stress. “Weight-train-
lor. “Assertive communication sometimes
ing is going to release the quickest amount
involves saying no for self-care, not sel sh-
of endorphins to help your body chemi-
ness but for self-care.”
cally,” Adams advises. “And yoga is going
to help because of the breathing; you’re go-
ing to be able to relax which puts you into 6. Be positive.
a more focused state.” Remember e Little Engine at
Could? Turns out he can come in handy on
stressful days. Visualizations can be very
important in distracting yourself from
negative thoughts. Try not to think about
the things you can’t do, but instead focus
on what you were able to get done in a day
and what you will accomplish next.
PHOTOS BY MAUREEN LAMOTHE
7. Spend time by yourself
Taking a time out allows you to separate
yourself from the stress in your life. Turn
o your phone and take a mental vacation
from homework, friends and family. How-
GLUE Winter 2010 41
Glue sexpert goes on the prowl
for the elusive jungle cats. He
shares his tips and tricks...
Catching does a guy
Mature women, like all women, give o Be prepared. oor anyway, and the smiles the women out to be disastrous.
a vibe. But mature women give o a very e average bar or club has a website, gave me said it all. ey liked the attention. However, being
special one. I don’t know if it’s the life expe- use that. You can also call ahead, the bar- A note of caution: whatever you do, prepared, focused
rience, the maturity or the con dence. But tender can usually give you a few pointers don’t ever tell a cougar that she is old. One and being aware of
whatever it is, it’s damn attractive and it’s and a decent description of what to expect. of the thrills about cougar hunting is that your surroundings
damn sexy. I get to the bar, there’s hardly anyone some cougars don’t even know they are, in and by gauging the
at’s why I’ve gone out hunting for a there that look to be in their twenties. fact, cougars. A stealthy hunter can catch reactions of your
cougar or two – sexy, mature women over Good. them unaware. Don’t even mention the targets, your chanc-
35 years old. ere are plenty of cougars, all done up, word “old” or “older,” they hate it and you’ll es of avoiding a
I’ve had some experience with cougars. strutting their stu up the stairs into the bar. waste your time digging yourself out of a worthless night out
My rst time in college, up in Northern Better. hole and trying to backtrack. and shagging a cou-
Ontario in a little city called Sudbury, I had Before I even got in the bar, a pretty Trust me, the claws will come out. gar will increase.
the opportunity to spend some good qual- woman with long, wavy re-orange hair Another valuable lesson I inadvertently Now all you lads
ity time with two of them. turned and gave me a big smile. It had taught myself, and I should have known bet- need is a set of big
I was pretty fortunate, they were both “yummy” written all over it, or at least ter, was that I asked a really good looking, ol’ cojones. " !
my neighbours. Both of them were recent- that’s what the smile said to me. I couldn’t red leather coat wearing, cleavage bearing
ly divorced and looking to put some spice help but grin, ear to ear. You could feel the cougar if she came around the bar o en.
back in their lives. Boy was I lucky. sexual tension in the very air around the Oopsie.
I won’t go into details, but I had fun. Lots place. It was a good start to the night. I gained some valuable experience out of
of fun. Second, and before we go any further, I that night even though I didn’t take home
Being prepared, focused and So here I am in Ottawa. I don’t have any should say this. Don’t get too drunk. Have or was not taken home by a cougar.
single or divorced cougars to hunt nearby, a few brews to loosen your tongue and It’s hard to pinpoint an exact science or
being aware of your surroundings at least not that I know of. So where does get some of that liquid courage. But don’t fool-proof technique for hunting cougar.
and by gauging the reactions a guy who’s in the mood for cougar begin?
First, do some scouting. e tried, tested
I know it doesn’t sound like fun, but the
On any given night things can go accord-
ing to plan while on others they can turn
of your targets, your chances and true venue - and what should be the
easiest choice for beginners like myself - is
sacri ce is worth it.
ird, keep your aim true, focus. I can
of avoiding a worthless night a bar or club. ere’s a ton of them in Ot- just see myself wandering around between
tawa that cater to speci c types of women. this one in the black leather mini skirt and
out and shagging a cougar will
Do some research and you’ll nd a good that one with the long auburn hair. ere’s
hunting spot. just too many to pick from.
PHOTOS BY AVINASH GAVAI
increase. Whichever bar you do choose, make sure Choose your target and stick with her.
that the crowd is older than at the average Fourth, a true hunter blends into his
bar. Find out when the single ladies tend surroundings, surveys the landscape and
to drink there, and nd out what the dress adjusts accordingly. I never took dancing
code is and what kind of music they play. lessons. I suck at it. But I hit up the dance
42 Winter 2010 GLUE GLUE Winter 2010 43
Male, female - doesn’t matter. Glue writers
take a walk on the other side as they Locked and loaded, Kayla De Sousa takes aim
SCRAP THE I
t is almost impossible to hear anything 90 per cent of the membership.
with the protectors over my ears. I put “It’s a male-dominated sport,” agreed
on my safety glasses and stand back, Ena Ward, one of two female range of-
hesitant to move the slightest bit. I wait cers out of 48 at the RA Gun Club. Each
for instruction. To my le and right are evening, she says, there are only two or
people of all ages, mostly male, standing three women out of the 15 or so people
awaiting instruction as well. ey appear standing in line to shoot.
con dent and ready; my hands are “I like helping out with the women,”
already shaking furiously. adds Ward, 47, a range o cer for 15 years,
“Approach the table,” the range the last three with the RA Gun Club. “I’m
Mike Mellon puts the man in manicure o cer says clearly over my prejudiced, but women are easier to teach
right shoulder. I walk slowly than men because they don’t have pre-
’m a guy. I drink beer, smoke cigarettes, curse and rotten skin at the tips of my ngers. She towards the table; a .22 calibre conceived ideas of how it works.”
scratch my ass on a regular basis. I don’t get mani- also tried, with limited success, to even semi-automatic pistol is sitting As for me, I was lucky enough to expe-
cures. e only time I have ever thought about a out the bite marks I had made on the there with its magazine beside rience shooting both the handgun and a
manicure was as a possible gi for my mom’s birthday. tips of my ngers. it, unloaded. Although the sign-in sporting ri e.
But that was before. Now I know better. Now came the fun part, the hand form showed me that most of the I found the sporting ri e to be the more
I walked by the salon twice before I mustered up and arm massage. I found this to be people here had no previous rearm exciting of the two. It was heavy, I had to
the courage to go in. I’d looked in before to check out the most important and relaxing experience, they seem sure of what load each round separately, and I could
girls, but I never thought I’d actually walk in with the segment of the whole experience. they are doing as they begin to load feel the recoil of the ri e into my shoulder
intention of saying, “I’d like a manicure.” When I did, I e manicurist - it was a wom- their guns. Luckily, the range o cer a er each round.
got some weird looks from the women within earshot, an or else I’d have passed - applied taking care of me loads mine for me It probably also helps that I had better
that’s for sure. some cream to her hands and be- with 10 rounds. aim this time around, even landing one
Here’s how my rst ever manicure played out. gan to thoroughly rub it into my When he hands me the rearm, bull’s eye. e experience provided a sort of
To start o , the manicurist sat me down and asked arms and hands. I try to remember all of the safety euphoric high that I have never felt before
me to use the alcohol sanitizer on the top of the desk. It felt very erotic and relaxing and I techniques showed to us before en- and I couldn’t stop bragging about my
Second, she made me dip my hands in a cleaning found it hard to concentrate. tering the ring range, including how experiences to friends, family and peers.
solution that also so ens the parts she intends to clean. I’d go back just for that. to hold the gun properly and safely. A er personally experiencing the rush
Next she trimmed and led my nails, which felt odd Last, but not least, she painted my nails. I When everyone is ready, we are given shooting guns can provide, I nd it hard
because someone else was doing the ling, but I ignored chose a clear coat that also doubled as a nail the OK to start shooting. I attempt to aim to believe that more women don’t want to
the odd feeling and concentrated on her technique. hardener. at the bull’s eye on the target paper and participate in this sport.
I didn’t feel as nervous or uncomfortable as I I got the nail polish simply because I pull the trigger slowly. Around me, I can It also makes me curious why, a er
thought I would - the fact that there were a couple of wanted the whole manicure experience. I hear the others’ guns going o quickly and showing my target skills to the boys in my
cute girls there to make eyes with didn’t hurt. wouldn’t get it again. e paint was just go- decide to do the same. class, they seemed shocked and impressed
A erward the manicurist began to push back and ing too far for my taste; my nails sure were e rush is inexplicable and I am totally with my aim. I can’t help but wonder if
trim my cuticles. For those of you who don’t know what shiny though. unaware that my magazine is empty until it’s because I’m a girl or because it was my
cuticles are, they are the strips of dry skin that surround A guy’s nails are like his car or truck. my range o cer advises me so. rst time at a shooting range?
the base of your nail - the piece of skin I never realized Some like their 4x4’s to work hard, haul a e magazine is pulled out of the gun Although it was intimidating to be sur-
had a name, until now. load and have the scratches and dents to and both are placed carefully back on the rounded by men who appeared to know
is was followed by the manicurist applying some prove it. Others like a sleek ride with a table. I am lled with adrenaline and feel exactly what they were doing, I would
so ening oil on the tips of my ngers and nails. e smooth Turtlewax nish that sparkles a sort of empowerment I have never felt most de nitely return simply to feel that
oil wasn’t nearly as messy as the motor oil that usually and shines. before. rush again.
stains my hands - doesn’t stink as bad either. I’d say that my hands are de nitely like Many would consider the sport of In fact, why leave it at guns? Why
By this point I was beginning to realize the impor- a truck, one that has more than a few shooting a gun, either in a controlled shouldn’t women participate in all activi-
PHOTO BY CARL DUMAS
tance that a man’s hands and nails have to a woman: dings and is covered in mud. Still, like a environment or for hunting, an ties, even those that are typically consid-
some like them rough, some like them so , but none truck, I’ve come to realize that even the activity solely done by men. ered male-oriented.
like them dirty. hardest working hands can use a wash, According to Sharron Malott, A er all, what better way to show the
Next, the manicurist pulled out a miniature pair of tune-up and a bit of pampering every recreation supervisor at the RA world that women can do anything men
scissors and started trimming o the excess, dead or "
once in a while. ! Centre, men account for about can? And maybe even do it better! ! "
44 Winter 2010 GLUE GLUE Winter 2010 45
It’s a big, bad world out there
and nding a mate is no easy
task. Here, love guru
Jessica St-James weighs in
on what it takes to nd a date.
“Do you come here often?”
T he world of dating can be a scary place if
you don’t know what you’re doing. Being
rejected by the cutie you’ve had your eye on
tion to those that classify as being their
“type.” What if we opened our minds a
little? Maybe he is a little shorter than you
ods of communication and you don’t need
to say a thing. So drop the cheesy pickup
lines and try making eye contact or even
can be a real blow to the ego. So for those of prefer, or perhaps you’re not normally fond just smile at the person you’re interested in.
you still searching for the ying to your yang, of brunettes, but the fact is that keeping an Once they pick up on your signals, you’ll
here is a top ve list of techniques that might open mind means an even larger popula- be the one who’s picking up.
help you snag that special someone. tion of potential dates.
KEEP UP HOOK, LINE AVAILABLE
APPEARANCES AND SINKER When you’re out in large groups, it can
Whether we like to admit it or not, rst While “Hey baby, did it hurt when you be very daunting for anyone to approach
impressions tell us a lot about a person. fell from heaven?” might not be what girls you. Surveys showed that people are more
A guy sporting what he thinks is manly want to hear, the right pickup line in the likely to strike up a conversation with
scru , might come o as being lazy. And right situation can actually be very e ec- someone who is alone rather than sur-
that girl near the bar with way too much tive. Don’t be cliché - something as sim- rounded by buddies.
make-up is clearly high-maintenance. ple as “What are you drinking? e next If you’re out with friends and you see
Results from a recent survey of Algon- round’s on me,” can work wonders. someone you’re interested in, try straying
quin students showed that people ranked Student surveys show that compliments from the pack. Not only will this make
ILLUSTRATION BY ALICE HUTCHEON
physical appearance as being an important were ranked as one of the best “lines” to you more approachable, but people will be
part of rst impressions. use. So go ahead, boost some egos! more likely to notice you too.
THINK OUTSIDE USE YOUR BODY So the next time you’re out on the prowl,
THE BOX No, not like that! Body language is one try these techniques and you just might
A lot of people tend to limit their atten- of the most e ective and prominent meth- land yourself Mr. or Ms. Right.
46 Winter 2010 GLUE