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    Remedies to Rid Yourself
               of the
   Junk, Stuff, Mess and Stress

               by
      Jewel Diamond Taylor




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           ongratulations on your first move to clear space in your

           environment and innervironment!

           You’re probably feeling overwhelmed, disorganized,

frustrated, inefficient, crowded, stuck or ashamed because you have

lost control of your stuff and mess.

It’s now time to let go of worn-out conditions and worn-out things.

The consequences of disorder are costing you in time, money,

opportunities and peace of mind.

The reward and benefits of living and working in a serene, clean and

orderly environment are infinite.

As a society we have excess, storage, bags, boxes and for me shoes

just taking up space. We stack up, save up and store up goods and

then pay someone to keep them for us in storage garages.

“All things should be done decent and in order.” 1 Corinthians 14:40

We get attached to material things and yet we forget that peace of

mind thrives in simplicity, order, beauty and enjoying the people not

things.
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Remember you also live inside your mind. Just as you rearrange the

                        furniture or replace old outdated furniture in

                        your physical environment periodically, it’s

                        equally important to do the same with your

                        mental and emotional innervironment (yes, I

                        made up that word).

                        The reward and benefits of clearing your mind

(innervironment) will be like breathing fresh new air. You will feel

free, lighter and creative. Are you ready to let go of the emotional

clutter stored up in our mind (i.e. old and bad memories of sadness,

anger, loss, pain, disappointments, betrayal, illusions, fantasies,

hurts, bad habits, hangups, woulda, coulda and shoulda)?

Empty your emotional and

mental trash can so you can

breathe, feel calm, joyful, grateful

and restored to live your life

more fully.
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Holding on to old feelings of stress, fear, grief and anger can destroy

your health. These emotions block and close the door to joy,

blessings, beauty, serenity, hope, compassion and love. The old

stinkin’ emotions pollute your mind. They crowd and push out your

good and positive thoughts and dreams.

I would suggest your read this message often because you are a

creature of habit heavily invested in your belief system. You have

been chained to those thoughts and feelings. Your subconscious

mind is a tough guard protecting your deep emotions and thoughts.

It will take time, prayer, repetition, determination and your forgiveness

to set those thoughts free. It’s time to let them go. Make room for

God. Make room for your growth and healing. Make room for your

dreams and aspirations. Make room for love to show up in your life.

Make room for new ideas. Make room for the Lord to do a new thing

in your life. The past has passed. Only hold on to those things that

serve you well. You may feel guilty or afraid to let go, but you can do

it. Slowly but surely you can let go of those thoughts, illusions, anger

and sadness. Today is a precious gift of time. Don’t waste it. Enjoy

it. Open the windows to your mind and let in some fresh air.
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                          Suggested Affirmation:


                        "I now clear a path for prosperity, simplicity,
                        efficiency, clarity, beauty and peace in my life.


                        I now let go of worn-out conditions worn-out
                        things and painful emotions.

                        Divine order is established in my home, mind,
                        body and affairs. I am making room for God to do
                        a new thing in my life.



I'm clearing the way for new opportunities, blessings and peace of mind."




                      OUT THEY GO



                             Depression
                                Anger
                                 Fear
                              Illusions
                             bitterness
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I have discovered areas in our emotional and physical life to release

the junk, stuff, mess and stress.

We are constantly influenced by and bombarded with messages to

buy. It's difficult to avoid them. We're convinced that the more we buy

the more we'll have and the more we have the happier we'll be.

On some level we believe that our stuff will make us happy and it

does, for awhile. I can get attached to shoes, clothes, pictures,

birthday cards, nic nacs from the Dollar Tree and expensive items

from Nordstrom, a postcard from my travels or an old Essence

magazine article I wrote years ago. I receive many beautiful and

thoughtful gifts, plaques, cups and t-shirts…oh my!

The more attached we are, the more difficult it is to let go. This

reminds me of a toddler in process of giving up his "blankie" or bottle.

It can be a painful process for some. We spend our hard earned

money on something or someone gives us something from

Grandmother or that lover or wonderful vacation and we want it to

last, and last, and last..
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How can we let go of something that reminds us of someone we

loved or that fabulous vacation? There is a belief that if we let go of

the item attached to the memory we'll lose the memory; or if we let go

of a gift we'll be disrespecting the person who gave it to us. It can

even feel like we're letting go of the person. I still struggle with letting

go of Mother’s glasses and she passed away in 1986.




We value our spaciousness and we value our stuff, but our stuff has

weight and it weighs us down. Here are some good tips to remember

to help you start purging, organizing and de-cluttering your space:

**Have "homes" for everything that comes into your home.

**Regularly purge file cabinets, closets, bureaus, and cupboards.

**Make it a family tradition to give to charity four times a year.

**Create a family mission statement to live "clutter free".

**Ask: "What's really important?" “Is this really necessary?”

**Rethink your value system with regard to material possessions

**Say "No, thank you."
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If we could let go of the power of "needing more" and the "search for

happiness" through material possessions, we would experience more

serenity, simplicity, order and efficiency.




Life is much easier and actually pleasant when you have an

organized living and work space. Getting organized, simplifying,

buying less, and letting go of things frees you to take charge of your

life and achieve your dreams.
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In today's competitive market, nobody can afford to waste time and

effort at work. We're all looking for ways to be more efficient and

effective, decrease stress, streamline a process or just make life

easier.



Organization is a smart way to accomplish all of that and more. Look

around your workspace. Do you feel and look like you're in control?

If not, it's time to start getting it together. The benefits pay dividends

every single day when you can find things easily, save time and

prevent important information from getting lost.


Feel in Control

Find out if organization affects how you feel and deal at work. Just

answer true or false to the following statements:


   1. A messy office stresses me out.

   2. I'm exhausted at the end of the day.

   3. Clutter makes me feel overwhelmed by my work.

   4. There are so many piles in my office-it looks like a mountain range.

   5. I often say: "Wait, I know I put it somewhere."

   6. I haven't seen the surface of my desk in months.
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If you answered true to three or more of these statements, you're

going to benefit from some office re-organization. Clutter makes you

feel out of control. When your office is in order, your workplace stress

is more manageable.


Look Professional

A messy office inspires no one. Everyone knows someone who

claims they can "find anything" in their messy office. But how long

does it really take? Do you feel confident depending on that person

when your project is on a deadline? There's an old joke about how

little work gets done in clean offices, but it's more likely that person

accomplishes more by being organized and efficient.




Are you hoarding and holding on to things that are worn out and of no

use?
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                                        I would suggest tackling a small

                                        area first such as your bathroom

                                        cabinet, which should only take

                                        you about two hours to get

                                        done. The bathroom cabinet can

                                        often be one of those forgotten

                                        areas of your home as no one

                                        else sees it apart from your

                                        family members. But if it is full of

half used bottles of shampoo, out of date medications and broken

and dried up cosmetics it is not going to serve its function very well.


If your home is messy and disorganized, just the thought of cleaning

it up can be overwhelming. There have been times I just stood and

cried in the middle of all the junk, my stress-meter overheating.




So, in essence, putting a messy house in order begins in your mind.

Start by envisioning it the way you want it to look. Picturing your
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picked-up home immediately takes the focus off the problem and onto

the end result, which stimulates your mind to come up with a solution.


Start slow, small and steady


Piles will be shifted, boxes will be filled, stuff will be stashed--until the

fever breaks. Then the clutter tide flows back in, confusion redoubled

because of the flushed and furious attempts to get a grip in a hurry.


Just as clutter arises gradually, over time, so it must be fought

gradually and over time. Beating clutter requires building new habits,

applying new organizational methods, and creating new household

routines. The clutter cure takes time, and can't be short-cut.


Resist the temptation to go all-out in fevered, short-term sorties

against clutter. Like the fable of the tortoise and the hare, slow and

steady wins the declutter race.


Schedule regular declutter sessions - a successful attack on clutter

requires time, energy and motivation.
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Even 15 minutes a day will make a good start. Better, schedule larger

blocks of time, from two to four hours once or twice a week, for

maximum declutter efficiency. Clutter is evidence of many things:

poor habits, lack of organization, sentimental attachment, too much

stuff. But, at bottom, each item of clutter is a decision delayed. The

mail arrives, replete with circulars and junk mail and catalogs. "Oh, I'll

go through that later!" whispers the clutter monster, deferring the

simple decision to cull and toss the unwanted paper.


                      What is your clutter profile?


The Hoarder says… "This might come in hand someday!"


Hoarding is rooted in insecurity, financial or otherwise. Deep down,

Hoarders fear that they'll never have the resources they need if they

let go of any possession, no matter how worn, useless or

superfluous.


If cabinets and closets are crammed with egg cartons, cracked

margarine containers, and old magazines, there's likely Hoarding

behavior underlying the clutter.
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Hoarders need to remind themselves that resources will always be

available. Reassure yourself! Stuff will be with us always. Find

magazines indexed at the library, kitchenware marked down at yard

sales, and every small appliance known to man can be found

(cheap!)at the thrift store. Think of these off-site treasure troves as

attenuated household storage areas. Dare to dump it!


The Procrastinator says… "I'll think about that tomorrow!"


Those of the deferral mindset are guilty of the great set-aside. Bills,

notices, old newspapers, items that need cleaning or repair, and

household projects are all set aside to be dealt with another day. The

procrastinator will leave dinner dishes in the sink, wet laundry in the

washer, and clothes piled up on the bedroom chair and exercise

equipment.


Procrastinators need to be reminded that tomorrow has no more time

or energy than today--and that deferring decisions drags down each

new day with yesterday's unfinished business.
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Since this behavior is grounded in procrastination, apply the best

remedy: action. For Deferrers, simply making a start creates the

momentum needed to finish the job. Remember, it's easier to keep a

rolling stone in motion, than it is to pick it up and start it rolling the first

time!


The Rebel says… "I don't wanna and you can't make me!"


Somehow, it's all Mom's fault. Rebels were forced to pick up after

themselves as children; as adults, they're still expressing the mute

and stubborn determination of a four-year-old who refuses to pick up

his toys.


Rebel clutter can be anything, but often centers on household

activities. No, the Rebel won't put his or her clothes in the hamper,

cereal bowl in the dishwasher, or car in the garage--even when the

clothing gets wrinkled, the cereal bowl hardens into yellow goop, and

the car gets damaged by roadside traffic.
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Rebels need to remind themselves that the war is over. They don't

live with Mom anymore--and their own family deserves an adult on

the job, not a sulky child.


Tell that inner Rebel, "It's okay--I'm the parent now, and I want a

house that's nice to live in. By switching places with the old authority

figure, the Rebel can find a way out of "I don't wanna!"


The Perfectionist says… "Next week, I'll organize everything--

perfectly!"


Perfectionists are wonderful people, but they live in an all-or-nothing

world. They do wonderful things--when they do them!


Perfectionism forms an inner barrier to cutting clutter because the

Perfectionist can't abide doing a less-than-perfect job. Without the

time to give 110% to the project, the Perfectionist Clutterer prefers to

let matters--and the piles of stuff--slide.


For example, plastic food containers may be overflowing their

cabinet, but the Perfectionist Clutterer won't deal with them until he or

she can purchase the perfect shelf paper, lid holder organizer, and
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color-coded labels. Perfectionist Clutterers need to remind

themselves of the 20-80 rule: 20% of every job takes care of 80% of

the problem, while fixing the remaining 20% will gobble 80% of the

job. By giving themselves permission to do only 20%, Perfectionist

Clutterers get off the dime and get going.




The Sentimentalist says… "Oh, I remember when…!"


Sentimentalists never met a memento they didn't like--or keep.

Children's clothing and school papers, faded greeting cards,

souvenirs from long-ago trips and jumbled keepsakes crowd the

environment of the Sentimental Clutterer.


Problem is, there's so much to remember that the truly endearing

items get lost in a flood. Who can find the first grade report card in an

attic full of boxes of paper?


For example, a Sentimental Clutterer can collect each child's school

papers into a single box by selecting one best drawing, theme or

project each month.
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Sort it out, choose the best, keep the memories and dump the rest!


Tag sale, yard sale, garage sale--whatever you call it, the yard sale is

part and parcel of the American way of life.


On sunny weekend mornings, slow-moving cars ("I brake for yard

sales!") circle suburban neighborhoods as their occupants hunt baby

toys and French-fry makers, auto parts and cocktail shakers.


If you're in active declutter mode, the next stop is your house. A yard

sale can clear clutter and score some cash, but it helps to have a

road map. Try these tips for a successful yard sale:




                       Tag sale, yard sale, garage sale--whatever you

call it, the yard sale is part and parcel of the American way of life.
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On sunny weekend mornings, slow-moving cars ("I brake for yard

sales!") circle suburban neighborhoods as their occupants hunt baby

toys and French-fry makers, auto parts and cocktail shakers.




                If you're in active declutter mode, the next stop is your

house. A yard sale can clear clutter and score some cash, but it helps

to have a road map. Try these tips for a successful yard sale:


Now that you have a vision of the end result, it's time to look at the

small picture. Start in the area that causes the greatest stress for you.

For many work at home moms that would be the office where

receipts, bills, the kids' school papers and other miscellaneous junk

normally end up.


Instead of diving in, try wading through one small area at a time. That

way, you'll get frequent feelings of accomplishments as you de-clutter
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each space such as clearing off your desk, cleaning out a closet,

picking toys up off the floor, or straightening that stack of magazines.

Each area you conquer gets you closer to that overall goal of being

mess-free.


                    Clutter is Postponed Decisions

Many people think of letting go as having less, but actually, there are

many more things you will have MORE of: freedom, peace of mind,

ease of access. Some people enjoy being a person someone can go

to when they need something. To let go of clutter is to let go of a part

of who they’ve become. They use the excuse that something useless

may someday come in handy for someone. Like when a child will

brag on a grandparent because they always have just what they were

looking for. To let go of clutter may make them feel they’re losing a

connection that draws others to them in times of need.




Letting go of clutter can be sad in some cases. You realize you really

have no reason to hold onto your child’s first grade drawings or that

toy car collection. Maybe Aunt Sallie is gone now, and you still have
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her hundreds of crochet books and never cared to learn to crochet

yourself.


Letting go of also be a time to shut the door on the past or to end

habits and start over fresh. New beginnings can be scary and

invigorating at the same time. Ask a college student having to clean

out their clutter so they can earn some money to help pay their tuition

or fuel for their car.


Clutter comes from attachment to things. Attachment comes from

fear. The fear comes from feeling "lack", the inability to get the stuff

again should you ever need it in the future. A great reason to get

organized is for your spiritual growth.



                         Clutter Places to Clear:




    Paper purge (mail, bills, financial papers, taxes)
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    Recycle bin on your computer, merge files, delete files, clear up

memory space on your computer




    Purchase mistakes – reduce unnecessary – trivial –

entertainment shopping without a budget plan – yes, I’m talking about

those discount stores like the 99cent Store, the Dollar Tree and Big

Lots – just say “NO”




    Plastic – think Green, think about Mother Earth, reduce the

plastic bags and bottles – recycle - reuse




    Pantry – clean out – throw out all the old cans, bottles, dry cereal,

organize them so you can actually see what you have.
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    Purses and shoes – we usually wear the same old comfortable

shoes and have too many shoes. Donate them, have a yard sale.

Make a promise that if you buy a new pair … an old pair have to go.



                      Get shoe racks, closet bags and clear boxes

                      so you can see what you have and get to them

                      easily. I have to admit I have bought the same

                      pair of shoes on occasion because my shoes

                      were so cluttered. I keep my boots together,

                      my dress shoes together, my summer sandals

                      together, etc.

                      Sort out your purses and let go of the ones you

                      don’t use anymore. Don’t be a bag lady. I

                      know this is a big clutter-buster to overcome

                      and I feel your pain. This is my biggest area of

                      clutter to overcome.
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    Plates and dishes

Get rid of old cracked dishes.

Clear you counter of too many

gadgets and appliances.

If you don’t use it – lose it.

After you use it, wash it and

put it away. You’ll enjoy

cooking and serving in your

kitchen when it is organized and clean.




    Packages and

junk in your car

trunk?

Completely empty

your trunk and then

sort, toss and

repack with as few

necessary items as possible.
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Put the things that need to go back in your car in a sturdy plastic box

with a lid. This will keep continue to them organized.


Make sure your car stays clutter free in the future by taking fast food

wrappers and other trash with you when you get out of the car.



    Closets

Here are 3 simple steps to help you clear out

closet clutter.


1. Make Sure You Have Good Hangers.

Get rid of those wire hangers! They’re weak,

stick up in the air, and they damage your

clothing. Some dry cleaners will take them

back and recycle them.


Get the sturdy, clear plastic ones that slope down on the ends so you

won’t end up with “shoulder nipples” on your shirts or blouses. They

can be obtained at stores like Target or Bed Bath & Beyond. And they

won’t take up a lot of room.
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While you’re at the store, also pick up a few sturdy skirt hangers and

wooden pants hangers. Vertical skirt hangers with clips that hold 5 to

6 skirts on one hanger are a great choice. Also check out expandable

or over-the-door shoe racks and a tie rack if you wear ties.



2. Clear It Out.

Yes, I really do mean you need to pull

out everything that’s currently in there.

And while you're doing that, keep in

mind that most of us wear 20% of our

clothes 80% of the time; the rest is contributing to closet clutter.



    Office and desk area




            BEFORE                               AFTER
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    Publications

Clear the path for your blessings and clarity of mind. Sort and throw

away old magazines, newspapers and junk mail.




    Precious memories (photographs, trophies)


    Projects (knitting, painting, sports, crafts, jewelry making, auto
repair, hobby collections)


    Pass on, donate, give away items. What may be perceived as
trash to you is a treasure for someone else.
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    Physical pain – If you have health issues and you can’t can’t

move and get around – ask for help. You would be surprised how

many people would be happy to help you and how much better you

would feel.




    People can fill your mind with negative thoughts. People can eat

up your time cluttering your calendar with activities that take you

away from your purpose and goals. Evaluate the relationships in

your life that bring clutter (i.e. drama, stress, heartache and disorder).

Free your heart, mind and time from any strong hold toxic dead-end

relationships that may hinder your growth and peace of mind.



    Proactive – pick up, clean up, put back, toss immediately after
use, if it’s broke fix it, if you wear it…hang it up


    Pen and paper – have a list of things to do to keep you
organized.


    Have a designated place for everything (i. e. keys, laundry, mail,
stamps, batteries, music CDs, taxes, cell phone, umbrellas, etc.
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    Break the procrastination habit – suggested reading e- book “The

Main Thing is to Keep the The Main Thing…THE MAIN THING” by

Jewel Diamond Taylor




    Choose a friend or family member you trust to sit with you for this

process. For many people, letting go is easier with someone else

there. When I tackled my closets, I asked my Goddaughter to come

over and help me. It helped knowing she wouldn’t be judgmental of

my closet chaos and she helped to me to let go of items that were

hard for me to toss and donate.


This material may be overwhelming and you may remain stuck in

your clutter. I hope you will just start somewhere and start small.

Ask for help. Forgive yourself. Take a deep breath and get started.


Removing unwanted items in your home and giving it a fresh look can

be therapeutic, profitable, refreshing and is a reality check with

respect to your spending habits.
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While giving your rooms an overhaul, you may find several things.

There are items that need to be binned and items that are still in good

condition. The second category may include new items you do not

remember buying or well-used items that have served you well. You

may earn some money just by throwing a garage sale – set up signs

for a garage sale and stalls that will be able to accommodate those

usable items. Alternatively, if this is too much of a hassle, use eBay

as a virtual market place to get rid of your usable crockery, clothes,

shoes, baby gear, furniture and other accessories in exchange for

some cash.

Decluttering Your Home Will Give You a New Look

You may feel like refurbishing your house after you have gotten rid of

the clutter. Giving your home a new look does not mean hiring an

interior decorator for a total new look – you can start by adding new

plants to give you home a fresh ambience; using candles to add a

hint of mystery and romance; reframing old photographs of your

children; or simply by repainting one wall of each room of your

favorite color.
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Decluttering Your Home Will Give You a Reality Check

While you decluttering your home, you may suddenly find that you

are hit with a reality check. Chances are that all this clutter

accumulated over the months and years through over-spending. Has

shopping been a form of escapism to avoid other problems – such as

finances in the first place? If it has, you may find bags and bags of

clothes, make-up, accessories, toys that are still in their bags and

attached to their price tags.

If this is the case, you may want to assess your spending habits. Find

other ways to release stress every time you feel like hitting the shops,

such as going for a brisk walk around the neighborhood. Over-

spending is a plague on your purse as much as it is a burden on your

life and your home. If you have plenty of things that you do not need

in your home, you do not need to go shopping – so try to curb the

shopping habit. For the existing items in your home, you may either

wish to sell them off or give them away to charity – there are people

out there who will need your junk.
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Once you have decided to let things go, it’s crucial to get them out of

the house as soon as possible. Unwanted items can be given to

charity, friends or family or recycled. Or you could sell them at a car

boot sale or second hand clothes shop or advertise in your local

newspaper.


Once you have decluttered and decided what to keep, then it’s time

to look at storage. To maintain a clutter free home it is essential that

everything has a home, so it’s easy to find. So store like with like,

such as all vases together. We use 20% of our possessions 80% of

the time so put this 20% in the most accessible places. Treat

yourself to storage items such as a filing cabinet, a shoe rack or a

pretty box in which to keep sentimental items.


   There are so many benefits to decluttering and letting go of old

   stuff. A more relaxing home where you can find things when you

   want them. Enjoy the lighter feeling you get when you look

   around. Next time you indulge in a little retail therapy you’ll have a

   much clearer idea of what you own and what you actually need.
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Positive health benefits that you may also experience as a

result of decluttering your home:


      You should be able to sleep better in a clean and tidy

       environment, and spend less time worrying at night.

      You will feel more energized to start projects and carry them

       through to their end.

      You will feel more able to deal with things as and when they

       happen.

      You will feel better equipped to deal with life on a day to day

       basis.

      You will have more time to pursue hobbies and outside

       interests.

      Your general health may improve, less colds and flu each

       year.

      You will be equipped to part with sentimental items.
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Thank you for your business. I    wish you progress, peace and

order as you make room for God to do a   new thing in your life.




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