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Search for FUN FEARLESS FEMALES 2009
BEST EVER!
Yes, lately life's been tougher than Mickey Rourke's skin. But that's all about to change...
Gloom. Job cuts. Belt tightening. So far, 2009 has given us more reasons to be down than ever before. "Even if you've not been directly affected by the recession, you'll have been caught up in the anxiety of it all," says Lindsey Agness, performance coach and author. "When the media are Doom. X, focusing on debt and job insecurity, very quickly the 60,000 thoughts we have each day suddenly revolve around the glass being half empty, not half full." Well,not anymore. "How you think from today will impact on your actions and your life," insists Lindsey. So do our quiz, make a few life tweaks and the rest of your year will go with a bang.
How to make ^ssam the next six months your
HOW IT WORKS
Work out which area of your life you need help with most Read all 15 statements and if you agree with any, shade in the relevant numbered section. Your friendsandfamilythinkyou'vegot a greatjob but deepdownyou'refeeling little disillusioned. 2 You to everyone fib aboutyouroutgoings and mate sureyouavoidlooking your at bankstatements all costs. at 3 Youandyourmanbavebeenrawingmore recently there'sa nigglyatmosphere and between two of you. the /> A Changetherecord! You're v£« ^ constantly moaning friends to aboutyourboss/late hours/crap day. 5 Youdesperately wantto change jobs but,for whatever reason, you'renot applyingfor the onesthat comeup. 6 You've recently to bail bad on a holiday/girls' weekend/ friend'swedding because you couldn'tafford it. 7 Youget creativenearpay day borrowing winemoney from friends,writing cheques, opening storecards... 8 Youandyour manbothmake time for work. Andfriends.AndwatchingGrey's Anatomy. But notimefor eachother. mrn. QZzr Yoursexlife coulddowith a bit Jofsspicingup! 1A A pay rise,a newchallenge...Your 1U bosshas promised the earthfor you agesbut nothing's happened. Frustration's startingto creepin. UHelp! You're totally in the wrongcareer. Youhategettingout of bedin the morning and dreadyourday. 1 r\ Money worries eithermakingyoulose are 1L. sleepor causingrowswith yourman. 1 Q Yoursalarybarelydentsyouroverdraftand 10 you'vegot several loadedcreditcards.No oneknows howmuchdebtyou'rein, not evenyou. 1 /I Youandyourboyfriend don't seem be to J.T" movingon to the nextstage:movingin, mortgage, marriage... (delete applicable). as 1 C You oftenthink yourpartner's changed 13 andthat someone couldmake else you happier. know person You one who'sinterested and it's verytempting.
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sfc Find a person you think is amazing at what they do and ask what it is they do differently that's made them so successful. Use their advice on your own career. % List your strengths and tell your boss you want him/her to utilise them. If you don't know your USP, ask friends what it is. ^c In hard times, people keep their heads down to avoid attention. Buck the trend! Suggest ways to improve things. Whatever colleagues aren't doing, do the opposite. % Work out your career 'values', then assess why your job's not meeting them. Do you value variety but have a 9-5 routine? s|c Start 'acting as if...' Act now like you have that dream job or promotion. Your mindset will change: you'll challenge things, be more confident... and probably get promoted!
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