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									                        Spiritual Insight For Your Life

              “The life which I now live...I live by the faith of the Son of God,
                 who loved me and gave Himself for me.” Galatians 2:20                                                                                        Complimentary Copy

 Vol. 1, Issue 3                       From the Ministry of Metropolitan Baptist Church                                Summer 2011

                                                                                                      In this Issue…
                                                                                                     Pg. 3             The Lion
                                                                                                                      of Fallujah
                                                                                                     Pg. 4         What is your
                                          By Pastor Tony Scheving                                             Teenager Thinking
   We only live once, so who would want           away” (Ja 4:14). What will we leave behind
to waste their life? Most people have an          when we’re gone? Much of humanism today            Pg. 6          The Priority
unspoken hope: that their life will make
a difference, and that it will count for
                                                  states that man is a product of evolution,
                                                  and is his own ‘god’; there’s no real purpose
                                                                                                                      of People
something while they’re here and even after       to life: it all boils down to fatalism. It’s a
they’re gone. The Bible speaks of “making         hopeless philosophy summed up in Job 7:6,          Pg. 11          Faith in our
a difference” (Jude 1:22). We’re all going to     “My days are swifter than a weaver’s shuttle,                          Creator
leave behind some type of legacy. Historians      and are spent without hope.” Even after
hate Stalin while they love Churchill.            winning three Super Bowls, quarterback
They’re both long gone, and now we’re             Tom Brady exclaimed, “Oh God, there must           Pg. 14        A Child-Run
currently passing through. The Bible says,        be more to life than this!” That is the silent                         Home
“What is your life? It is even a vapor, that      cry of many people.
appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth
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A Life that Counts                                    Driving Factors: Everyone is driven             hearted, Lincoln began to rummage through
                                                   by something. What drives you? Many                the barrel. A chill went up Lincoln’s spine
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                                                   people are driven by pressure, fear, ideals,       as he reached under a blanket in the barrel
   Divine Foundation: A life that counts           expectations, guilt, jealousy, resentment          and picked up Blackstone’s Commentaries!
must begin with God our Creator. The Bible         and even competition. Some people will do          He later stated that he felt at that moment,
says in I John 2:17, “The world passeth away,      anything for acceptance. Many people are           the Almighty had a purpose for his life. How
and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will   a product of their past and are motivated          would it change the way you lived if you
of God abideth for ever.” Life is not about        by haunting memories. In the process, they         awoke every day with the attitude that you
a career, money, materialism, ambitions,           sabotage their future. Others are driven by        were here on planet Earth at this time in
retirement funds, or even happiness. The           money and acquiring things that they think         history for a reason?
reason we were placed on planet Earth is           will bring them happiness. Their net worth
to do the will of God. Years ago, singer Billy     is driven by their self-worth, and they feel          Destination Forever: Your soul is
Joel exclaimed, “This is my life!” But the         more secure about themselves if they have          immortal. A great song says, “Only one life
truth of the matter is, our life is a gift from    more possessions. But sadly, wealth can be         twill soon be past, and only what’s done for
our Creator and belongs to Him. The Bible          lost instantly, and people soon get bored          Christ will last.” One day your heart will
says, “Thou art worthy, O Lord, to receive glory   with their things. Many end up saying, “I          stop, and that will be the end of your body,
and honor and power: for thou hast created         have labored in vain, I have spent my strength     but not you. Most people fail to realize that
all things, and for thy pleasure they are and      for nought, and in vain” (Isa 49:4). If God is     this world is a very temporal place. All the
were created” (Rev 4:11). The Bible also           not your driving factor in life, you’re missing    trends, fashions and fads are as shallow as a
adds in Philippians 2:13, “It is God which         the boat.                                          birdbath. The Bible says, “The fashion of this
worketh in you, both to will and to do of His                                                         world passeth away” ( I Cor 7:31). It’s all
good pleasure.” Popular seminars, self-help           Definite Function: You are no accident.         really petty and pathetic in light of eternity.
books, top 40 songs, and Hollywood movies          Even if your parents didn’t plan on you, God       People today worry about being chic, trendy,
tell people to trust in yourself, believe in       did. You were born as a result of a ‘higher        and politically correct. The apostle Paul said,
yourself, and look within yourself for the         calling’. God says, “I know the thoughts that      “I count all things but loss for the excellency
answers. The Bible tells us to ‘die to self’       I think toward you, saith the Lord… to give        of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord…
and look to God. He is the reason we exist.        you an expected end” (Jer 29:11). Job said,        and do count them but dung, that I may win
He is responsible for our origin, identity and     “He performeth the thing that is appointed for     Christ” (Phil 3:8). We need to stop thinking
significance. You were made for God. Until         me” (Job 23:14). You have been specifically        short term. The psalmist said, “Lord, make
you understand that, life is a dead-end that       designed, equipped, and custom made. Your          me to know mine end, and the measure of
doesn’t make any sense at all. There are over      looks, personality, location, length of life and   my days, what it is; that I may know how
250 major schools of psychology in our land,       other factors were all determined by God.          frail I am” (Ps 39:4). Life is a temporary
and all of them have different philosophies.       He had you in mind before He even created          assignment. In light of that, the Bible says,
So where is the truth? That is the question        the universe. The Bible says, “He hath chosen      “Pass the time of your sojourning here in fear
Pontius Pilate asked Jesus… “What is truth?”       us in him before the foundation of the world”      (sober-minded)” (I Pet 1:17). Don’t put
(Jn 18:38). Jesus gave us a clue in John           (Eph 1:4). You are no accident or ‘product of      your roots down 20 feet deep, you’re just
17:17 when He was praying to His heavenly          evolution’. Your life has significance. When       passing through. Keep a light grip on this
Father and said, “Thy Word is truth” (the          Abraham Lincoln was a young store clerk            life, and set your sights on eternity. Eighty
Bible). Maybe people are floundering in            in Salem IL, he wanted to study law out of         trillion years is a lot longer than eighty years,
life trying to do it their way, when they          Blackstone’s Commentaries, which were the          if you know what I mean. The Bible says,
need to look to God and His Word for               standard of the day. He had almost given           “The things which are seen are temporal; but
direction. The Bible says, “Be ye not unwise,      up the dream because he couldn’t afford            the things which are not seen are eternal” (II
but understanding what the will of the Lord is”    the books. One day out of pity, he paid fifty      Cor 4:18). Knowing God’s will for your life
(Eph 5:17).                                        cents to a poor family in trade for a barrel       begins with knowing God! If you would like
                                                   full of mostly junk. Afterwards, as Lincoln’s      to know God in a real and close way, please
                                                   partner was mocking him for being too soft-        go to

           "I pledge allegiance to the flag of the United States of America,
                        and to the republic for which it stands,
                                one nation under God,
                      indivisible, with liberty and justice for all."
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                      ecently, an email was distributed          front. He would never ask his men to do
                      by the Family Research Council             what he was unwilling to do.
                      that gives tribute to Major Douglas
               Zembiec known to fellow Marines as “the              “That’s why a gate guard, another young
               Lion of Fallujah.” As we celebrate our            Marine, said this to Maj. Ziembiec’s father
               nation’s birthday, we should reflect on           when the older man drove on base at Camp
               heroes such as Major Ziembiec who paid the        Pendleton, in California: ‘I was with your son
               ultimate price for our country. Dan Morse         in Fallujah. He was my company commander.
               of the Washington Post gave this memorable        If we had to go back there, I would follow
               tribute to Major Zembiec.                         him with a spoon.’
                                                                   With a spoon.
                                                                    “‘Never forget those who were killed,’
                                                                 wrote Maj. Ziembiec of the fallen members
                  “They have to follow your orders,” Morse       of his unit. ‘And never let rest those who
               writes of seasoned combat veterans, “they         killed them.’
               don’t have to come to your funeral. But come        “Typically, it was Maj. Ziembiec who
               they did. When Maj. Ziembiec’s memorial           called his men the lions of Fallujah. And
               service took place on May 15, 2007, at the        when he was cut down, they gave that title
               U.S. Naval Academy Chapel in Annapolis, 40        to him. An honor guard of Navy and Marine
               of his men showed up. These enlisted men          officers and enlisted bore him to his grave. In
               reported that their major always told them        receiving him, Arlington National Cemetery
               it was his privilege to lead them. That’s what    had one more American hero sleeping in its
               he learned when he was a Midshipman at the        hallowed grounds.”
               Academy. That’s the lesson he was prepared
               to teach them when he graduated in 1995.
                 “Not only had Maj. Ziembiec served in
               Kosovo, he had pulled four tours in Iraq–four.
               At the funeral, Cpl. Chad Borgmann related          The story of the Lion of Fallujah is one of
               to Dan Morse the story of Maj. Ziembiec’s         thousands–and hundreds of thousands–that
               racing down from a rooftop in the Iraqi city of   make this land the home of the free because
               Fallujah. He was trying to get a U.S. Abrams      of the brave. We need faith. And we need
               tank to direct its fire at some insurgents who    courage.
               had pinned down his Marines.
                                                                    Let us thank God that we can commemorate
                 “Cpl. Borgmann knew that normally the           once again this year the sacrifices of all those
               unit’s commanding officer was not the one         men and women in our armed forces who
               who would race through hostile fire, mount        laid down their lives for their friends. In
               the tank, and tell its driver where to shoot.     remembering their deeds and paying homage
               But the Lion of Fallujah always led from the      to their memory, we preserve this last best
                                                                 hope of men on earth.

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                    w h at i s y o u r
                                                                                                              don’t care enough about them to be concerned
                                                                                                              how they turn out. Too much freedom without
                                                                                                              parameters sends a message to our kids that they
                                                                                                              don’t mean enough to us to invest our time in
                                                                                                              them. It says we’re not willing to be put out and
                                                                                                              get involved because we don’t love them that
                                                                                                              much. As long as the teen stays out of our way,

 T hinkin g?
                                                                                                              we’ll get along fine. Real Christian parenting
                                                                                                              is actually filled with sacrifice and hard work.
                                                                                                              Though your teen may buck against the rules,
                                                                                                              he needs them for his own protection. If the
                                                                                                              rules aren’t in place and enforced, there will be
                                                                                                              much regret later. It’s also a good idea to explain
                                                                                                              the reason behind the rules so your teen doesn’t
   If you have a teenager, you probably wonder        able to explain what is right or wrong from             think you’re just trying to spoil his fun. Deep
what is going through their head sometimes.           God’s standard.                                         down he will respect you for it. And remember,
They seem to come from another planet and                                                                     rules without a relationship equal rebellion.
think so differently than you do. You probably           Thirdly, teenagers are curious about the
                                                      opposite sex, but they don’t want to bring it up.          Number six; teenagers need their parents
want to try and shake some sense into them                                                                    to be united on raising children. When mom
at times. Why does it seem like you are worlds        Teens are at a stage of life where the hormones
                                                      are awakening. We live in an ungodly culture            and dad don’t stand together on the rules or
apart from your teen? Is there not a way to                                                                   punishment, the kids will ‘divide and conquer’.
get inside of their head and see what they’re         which continually bombards them with the
                                                      promotion of sex. It seems like everyone is             Statements like “don’t tell your father” or “I
thinking? Cary Schmidt, a church youth Pastor                                                                 don’t agree with your mother on this matter”
surveyed people in their early twenties who           talking to our kids about sex except parents.
                                                      Many parents want to bury their heads in the            will bring confusion and rebellion into the
had grown up in solid Bible based churches. He                                                                home. If you don’t agree with your spouse on
received some great insight on what they had          sand and hope they don’t have to deal with
                                                      sex, but that’s a big mistake. Our children             a matter, discuss and resolve the issue privately.
been thinking while growing up as teenagers in                                                                For your children’s sake, stand together. You
Christian homes. Please note the following eight      should have an open door to us to be able to
                                                      ask questions about such sensitive issues. If           should also never allow your child to criticize
things most teens are thinking, but won’t say.                                                                or speak negatively about your spouse. If they
                                                      Christian parents give their teens the truth, they
   First of all, teens know if their parents are      will be able to resist a world of lies. If we fail to   begin to air out their frustration to you about
real or fake. They’re smarter than we give            give them the truth they will most likely buy           the other parent, you should always side
them credit for being. If they see one type           into the lies.                                          with the other parent (your spouse). It is also
of appearance in public, and another kind of                                                                  important to reinforce any and all authorities
behavior at home, it is a real turn off. Our kids        Fourthly, a teenager needs a real bond               in a child’s life whether it’s the parent, pastor,
know we make mistakes and are sympathetic             with his or her parents. Most homes tolerate            principal, or policeman. Divided authority
when we admit it, but if we’re too proud to           a superficial relationship between teens and            brings confusion. Authorities aren’t always right,
‘come clean’ it’s a turn off. They can see straight   parents. Many parents may think this is what            but unless it’s something morally wrong, try
through the hypocrisy. They know our hearts and       the teenager wants, but nothing could be further        to side with that authority for the sake of your
are constantly evaluating our motives. If our life    from the truth. Perhaps the teenager doesn’t            child. Otherwise, you may raise a rebel.
is consistent, then they accept our faith as real.    even realize it, but there is a deep seated desire
                                                      to be close to their parents and to also please            Number seven; be willing to work out the
If not, then they struggle with the conflict and                                                              problem areas. Sometimes you may ask your
reject our faith altogether. Parents of teens need    them. Our Creator has designed it that way.
                                                      There is no substitute for this. This becomes           teenager, “What is wrong with you?” and
to avoid dishonest lives full of contradictions                                                               often times quite honestly, they don’t know
(“do as I say and not as I do”) and live a life       extremely obvious when you look at the results.
                                                      A teenager who has a healthy relationship with          the answer! If you are confused about their
worthy of respect and trust from our kids.                                                                    behavior and thinking process, join the club…
                                                      Dad and Mom is a totally different kid than
   Secondly, teenagers want a real faith and          one who doesn’t. It’s like night and day. They          so are they! Between the ages of twelve and
spirituality from their mom and dad. Sometimes        think differently, behave differently, reason           twenty young people receive a complete
teens have questions about the Christian faith.       differently, and even feel differently. The long        ‘brain rebuild’. Plus, the ungodly part of our
If parents are following God’s Word (the Bible)       term outcome of their life makes this truth             society and culture is also making a bid for
than we should have the answers from our              so obvious. Don’t let your teenager’s friends,          their impressionable hearts. Be willing to work
Creator. If a teenager has a religious question,      hobbies, job or a relationship with the opposite        through problems together and find Biblical
it doesn’t mean that he is rebelling. He may          sex steal their heart away from you. Create             solutions with patience and prayer. Teens need
be just trying to make some sense out of it           times of bonding with your teen, and follow             answers to their problems, and if they can’t
all. He may be trying to make a connection            through to make sure it happens.                        talk to you about them and get those answers,
between God’s principles and real life. A good                                                                they are going to go somewhere else. Our
Bible teaching church is there to help with              Fifthly, your teen needs and even wants              children also need acceptance along with the
this process, and every Christian parent needs        rules that are enforced out of love. Our teens          needed discipline. Remember that correction
to be in such a church and also in the Bible to       expect us to be authorities even though they            is ultimately designed to restore a child into a
help their teenager with his questions. When          might appear to rebel. When we fail to provide          right relationship with you. Teens can handle
that teenager brings up different issues like         boundaries and restraints, we’re actually saying,       correction that flows from a compassionate
sex, morality, abortion, evolution, healthcare,       “I don’t care how you turn out; just don’t              heart and ends with a hug and prayer.
immigration, welfare, etc, a parent should be         bother me.” It really sends a signal that we
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      Character Matters!                                                                                By Troy Dorrell

          Some of today’s great college athletes never fulfill their potential. Though exceptionally
        talented, they fail to succeed in both sport and life. This is because their talent took
        them to a place where their character could not sustain them. Think about that principle
        for a moment; talent is not enough.
          Undergirding all we do is our character; and if it is deficient, in time it will be exposed
        and we will come tumbling down. Every year we hear about athletic stars who
        get themselves into trouble and lose a scholarship or millions of dollars in
        the pros because of poor character. We too can lose much when placed in
        positions of leadership or responsibility and then because of undeveloped
        character we break a trust, talk poorly of someone, or fail to do right. The
        place we held could not be sustained because we lacked what was most
           Be careful not to let your talents, abilities, intelligence, or even
        relationships take you where your character cannot sustain you. The
        friendships we have, the talents God gives, and the abilities we develop
        are all wonderful gifts, but all must be supported by character.
        Character matters!

What is your Teenager Thinking?
continued from page 4
    Finally, teenagers need reinforcement when
they do something right. They can often go
through their teen years feeling like they are
always in trouble. When they do something
wrong they’re always caught, but when they
do something good it is just expected and
nothing is ever said. This can be extremely
discouraging and also cause bitterness. In most
cases they over-exaggerate our criticisms in their
minds and feel like complete failures. For this
reason it’s important to keep things in context
if it’s ‘not a big deal’. And when they’ve done
something right, be sure to acknowledge it. In
fact you should praise your child for several
things compared to every reprimand you have
to deliver. This will constantly challenge you to
look for ‘the good’ and praise it!
   So there you have it… eight things teens
won’t tell you, but it’s what they’re thinking all
the same. Parenting is the toughest job you’ll
ever love and worth the time and effort. Make
sure you parent according to the principles
taught in God’s Word, and that you’re also
faithful in a good Bible teaching church. Your
family is counting on it.

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           what matters most
     The Priority of People                                                                     By: Cary SChmidt
            Have you ever rushed through your day at a        the effects of chemo, and often more so for
        frantic pace, crossing off as many things on your     Haylee because she’s the youngest. It must be
         to-do list as possible? Have you ever finished       hard for a ten year old to process all of that.
           a busy day, collapsed into bed, and wondered
            what you did of value that day? Have you             Later that evening, to her delight, I told Haylee
             ever sensed, deep inside, that you’re getting    I had a surprise! She smiled and, of course, asked
              a lot of “stuff” done, but something is still   “What is it?!” “I can’t tell you. Just go get ready for
                missing? It’s easy to do a lot of good        a date!” With that, she excitedly began to prepare.
                 things with our time and life, but to        She loves to look her best for our dates. Her
                  miss the really important things—the        delightful anticipation assured me that this was a
                    things that matter most. And when         very good decision!
                     we do, our conscience is unsettled.         A few moments later, we were in the car, hand
                      Perhaps you feel that way right         in hand, looking forward to time together. We
                       now.                                   started at Macy’s to look for a dress—no luck.
                          Over the past six months, my        Then we made our way to a restaurant in the mall
                         family and I have been facing        where we shared a meal. Already the look on her
                            a very different season of        face implied a peaceful heart, a settled spirit, and
                             life—a battle with cancer.       great contentment in being with her father.
                              This article isn’t about           We talked, and talked… and talked. We talked
                              that battle, but about an       about the problems of growing up, the challenges
                              experience that happened        of fifth grade social politics, and understanding
                               within it. Needless to say,    hard things in life. We talked about cancer and
                                cancer and its related        how she was doing with this. We even talked a
                                 dynamics have changed        little bit about boys (Uggh!). After dinner, I had
                                  our schedules and our       some bone pain from some shots I have to take
                                   lives dramatically.        and was finding it a little painful to walk. “Come
                                    Chemo has its way of      on Dad, you don’t feel well, we can go to the car
                                     vastly limiting your     and go home.” I think Haylee had been clued in
                                      capabilities in life—   by mom to “take care of me.” “No, no… I’m fine…
                                      effectively reducing    come on, we gotta go find a dress.” And so we
                                     your weekly output       went to Dillards.
                     by 60% (or more). This experience
                 has required that I refine, refocus, and        It was almost closing time, but Dillards was a
      remain fixed on the things that truly do matter in      gold mine of new little girl’s dresses, and within
      my family and ministry.                                 about twenty minutes the dress was purchased
                                                              and we were beginning our long, limpy walk
         About three months into this battle, on an           through the mall and back to the car. As we left
      evening when I had some energy, I said to Dana,         the store, I gently put my arm around her and
      “I really believe the Lord wants me to take Haylee      said, “This is one of my very most favorite things
      out for a date tonight. I can sense in her heart and    to do in all of my life—take you out to eat and
      spirit that she needs time with me.” I have felt bad
      that my kids have had to watch me suffer through
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The Priority of People                         and they are the most important people           he loved and appreciated. Suddenly,
continued from page 6                          in your life, if you are a parent. No one        money and success faded, and life was all
                                               else and nothing else should trump your          about relationships—people!
buy you a pretty dress!” She sweetly said,     relationship with your family. I don’t care
“Thank you.”                                   who it is, what they demand, or what kind           You want to know what really matters
                                               of pressure they place upon you. Nothing         in life? People. Study the life and ministry
  Haylee was very quiet for the next ten                                                        of Jesus. His days weren’t spent processing
                                               trumps your family!
minutes of our walk. I wondered what                                                            projects or checking off His to-do list.
she was thinking. Then, out of nowhere,           When we got home that night, Dana             (Though most of us must do some of
about halfway to the car, she let go of my     instructed Haylee to get ready for bed. A        that.) His days were spent touching the
hand, hugged me with both arms, closed         few moments later, Dana came into our            lives of people. He lived in balance—
her eyes, and said with a long sigh, “I        room and said to me, “She’s a different          resting when necessary, walking with
really, really love you…” It was precious.     person! She’s at peace. She’s whole. She’s       His Heavenly Father, and giving Himself
Unforgettable. The look on her face and        gentle and responsive. It’s like these last      to people. He was never in a hurry. He
the sweet tone in her voice seemed to say,     three hours with you untied every knot           lived with plenty of margin. (He walked
“My heart is SO OKAY right now, I can’t        in her heart!” I could sense it also. Haylee     nearly everywhere He went.) He never let
even put it into words!”                       was a different person, because Dad spent        urgency determine His agenda. His life,
                                               some time loving her. (And by the way, it        ministry, and daily agenda were driven by
   It was then that the Holy Spirit said to
                                               wasn’t about the dress, it was about the         the leading of His Father and the lives of
me, “This is the most important thing you
                                               connection of hearts.)                           people. With Jesus, on a practical, daily
did today!” I thought back through my
                                                                                                level, people mattered the most.
day. The morning was spent in bed, trying         We live in a really busy age! This is a day
to answer emails and feign productivity        when most people live with little to no            Do people matter most in your life?
amidst feeling sick. The afternoon enabled     margins in life. The spaces on our calendars     Begin with the people closest to you—for
me to get into the office for a couple         that jobs and commitments don’t fill,            they are the ones God has given to you.
of hours to sign letters, have a couple        we quickly fill with everything else—            Then work your way out from there. Focus
of meetings, and try to get a little work      from soccer practices to music recitals to       your life on loving, serving, and investing
done. But the value of the day—the real        bowling leagues. And for all of our urgent       into people. Connect everything you do—
significance of the whole day was found in     busyness and frantic pace to “get it all         even the task list and the projects—to the
these final few hours with Haylee. Why?        done,” we end our days with a nagging            needs of people. When you plan your day
                                               conscience that we missed the things that        and your week, begin with people. Make
   Well, first because she is dependent
                                               matter most. A lot of things were “checked       sure that every relationship in your life is
upon me. She’s my daughter. She, along
                                               off the list,” but in the process we paid a      healed, restored, right, and healthy. Work
with the rest of my family, is my most
                                               high price in neglecting people.                 to keep them that way. No matter what
valuable, most significant, most precious
                                                                                                you accomplish in life, if your relationships
ministry. My four family members truly           I read an interesting book recently. It        are broken or neglected, you are failing at
are the only people on the planet who are      was called Chasing Daylight. It wasn’t a         what matters the most to Jesus.
actually dependent upon me. The rest of        Christian book, but it was written by a
the world is not. These precious people are    highly successful CEO who was diagnosed             How did you live your life today?
dependent upon me in many ways. Simply         with three fast-growing, cancerous brain         What’s your plan for tomorrow? Are you
put, the most important things any of us       tumors. Sadly, he was given three months         neglecting people for the sake of “more
do on any day are those things we do to        to live. The book chronicles how he              important things”? Take a good look at
love, care for, nurture, and provide for our   decided to live his last three months of life.   tomorrow’s plan and then next week’s
family. How can we expect our kids to fall                                                      plan—and make it people-centric. Jesus
in love with God and grow in His grace,          Here was a man whose life was                  said, next to loving God, there’s nothing
if we aren’t falling in love with them and     consumed with success—earning money,             more important in life than loving people.
showing His grace?                             making his company successful, and
                                               enjoying all the perks of wealth. And he            “And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt
   Second, because she is a person. Her        was good at it. He had multiple homes,           love thy neighbour as thyself” (Matthew
heart, her emotions, her struggles, her        chartered private jets, and enjoyed              22:39).
feelings, her questions, her burdens matter;   everything his heart desired. He provided
and her mother and I are God’s gifts to        well for his family. But from the moment           Someone within your reach has some
her to walk her through all these new life     of diagnosis, none of that mattered. When        knots in their heart or emotions that you
experiences. She’s never been there before!    given three months to live, there was only       can help to untie. Now go and do what
It’s called parenting, and what a gift it      one thing that mattered—relationships. He        Jesus would—untie those knots and truly
is! Sometimes I think that we forget that      spent his last three months doing what he        love that person. In the end, how you lived
our children are people—new people—            called “unwinding relationships”—spending        for and loved God and people is what
and their life experiences are their first!    time closing his relationships with people       matters most!
They are people who matter to God,
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                                                                                                     or dishonored them? Have you always obeyed

     I Have A
                                                                                                     them immediately with a good attitude?
                                                                                                       #6 “Thou shalt not kill” (Exodus 20:13)
                                                                                                        Although most people have never
                                                                                                     committed murder, they are guilty of
                                                                                                     “murder of the heart.” Jesus explains this
                                                                                                     commandment in Matthew 5:21-2 by saying,
                                                                                                     “Whosoever shall kill, shall be in danger of the
                                                                                                     judgment: But I say unto you, That whosoever

     What is God’s Plan for Getting to Heaven?                                                       is angry with his brother… shall be in danger of
                                                                                                     hell fire.” Have you ever been mad, bitter or
                                                                                                     resentful toward someone?

   Jesus said, “Except a man be born again          of God’s standard: the 10 Commandments.            #7 “Thou shalt not commit adultery”
(spiritually), he cannot see the kingdom of         Let’s see how you rate compared to the 10        (Exodus 20:14)
God” (heaven), (John 3:3). This is because          Commandments.                                       While many have never committed
we were all born with a sinful nature,                                                               adultery, Jesus said, “Thou shalt not commit
spiritually dead. Just as we’ve all had a time             THE 10 COMMANDMENTS
                                                                                                     adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever
and place when we were born physically,              #1 “Thou shalt have no other gods before        looketh on a woman to lust after her hath
we must also have a time when we are born           me” (Exodus 20:3).                               committed adultery with her already in his
again spiritually. We are not automatically                                                          heart,” (Matt 5:27-8). Have you ever lusted
Christians (born again or saved) just because         No one can claim they have never put
                                                                                                     after the opposite sex? This is adultery of
Jesus died on the cross for our sins. Jesus said,   anything ahead of God such as money, a
                                                                                                     the heart according to Jesus.
“Except ye be converted… ye shall not enter         career, self centered goals, pleasure, sports,
into the kingdom of heaven” (Matt 18:3). No         entertainment, sin, vice, a relationship with      #8 “Thou shalt not steal” (Exodus 20:15)
one has always been a Christian. John 1:12          another, etc.
says, “But as many as received him (Christ),                                                           Who could claim they’ve never taken
                                                      #2 “Thou shalt not make unto thee any          anything that doesn’t belong to them?…
to them gave he power to become the sons
                                                    graven image (of God)” (Exodus 20:4).            something small or even the boss’s time?
(children) of God.” No matter what anyone
else says, the Bible teaches a conversion             Many have been guilty of inventing a             #9 “Thou shalt not bear false witness”
experience. The Bible is full of examples           “God of their own imagination” and liking…       (Exodus 20:16)
of people who had a spiritual conversion            a God who suits them. People want a God
such as Zacchaeus, Matthew, Nicodemus,              that overlooks sin and takes everyone to           No one could honestly claim they have
Pentecost converts, Paul, the prison guard,         heaven. They have improvised and dreamed         never told a lie!
Cornelius, Rabbi Crispus and others. 2 Cor          up a God of their own image.                       #10 “Thou shalt not covet” (Exodus 20:17)
5:17 says, “Therefore if any man be in Christ,
he is a new creature: old things are passed           #3 “Thou shalt not take the name of the          Have you ever desired anything you didn’t
away; behold, all things are become new.” This      Lord thy God in vain; for the Lord will not      have or didn’t need? Have you ever longed
is the spiritual pivotal point of life.             hold him guiltless that taketh his name in       for what belonged to someone else? Have
                                                    vain” (Exodus 20:7)                              you ever been discontented or ungrateful?
          Steps to                                     Reread that carefully. God is keeping            Most people are guilty of breaking most
      Being Born Again                              record of every time you’ve used His name
                                                    as a curse word and you will answer for it
                                                                                                     or all 10 commandments! Even more
                                                                                                     alarming are the many places in the Bible
   The first step is the hardest one. We            one day.                                         which reveal that liars, adulterers, thieves,
must recognize our sinfulness. Most people             #4 “Remember the sabbath day, to keep         the covetous, etc., will spend eternity in hell!
don’t see themselves as that bad of a sinner.       it holy” (Exodus 20:8)                           (Rev 21:8, I Cor 6:9-10, Gal 5:19-21). How
They are like the Pharisee in Luke 18 who                                                            could you ever expect to get to heaven by
recognized the sinfulness of others, but              Have you always honored the Lord’s Day         living a good life? Romans 3:10 says, “As it is
was blind to his own sin. The Bible says in         or been faithful in church attendance? (Heb      written, There is none righteous, no, not one.”
Romans 3:10, “As it is written, There is none       10:25)                                           Romans 3:23 says, “For all have sinned, and
righteous, no, not one.” Isaiah 64:6 says, “But                                                      come short of the glory of God.” Most don’t
we are all as an unclean thing, and all our           #5 “Honor thy father and thy mother.”
                                                                                                     realize that sin has a penalty. Romans 6:23
righteousnesses are as filthy rags.” Yet, most      (Exodus 20:12)
                                                                                                     says, “For the wages of sin is death” (Hell).
people fail to see themselves as that bad.            Have you ever disrespected or disobeyed
They feel they are a good person, but they          your parents? Have you ever argued with them
are comparing themselves to others, instead                                                                            continued on next page
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God's Plan for Getting to Heaven.                   way to heaven. Jesus said, “Many will say to           Lord after being saved! Titus 3:8 says, “They
continued from page 8                               me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not …in            which have believed in God might be careful to
                                                    thy name done many wonderful works? And                maintain good works.”
   We cannot possibly get to heaven by
                                                    then will I profess unto them, I never knew
keeping the law (10 Commandments).                                                                            Baptism has nothing to do with getting us
                                                    you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity,”
The law was given by God to show us how                                                                    to heaven. In fact, St. Paul said, “Christ sent
                                                    (Matt 7:22-3). Sadly, these wound up in
desperately we need forgiveness by accepting                                                               me not to baptize, but to preach the gospel,” (I
                                                    hell because they were trusting in their own
the sacrifice of Jesus on the cross for our sins.                                                          Cor. 1:17). The thief on the cross went to
                                                    goodness and works instead of the sacrifice of
The Bible says, “The law was our schoolmaster                                                              heaven without ever being baptized. You
                                                    Jesus for our sins.
to bring us unto Christ, that we might be                                                                  won’t find a baby baptized anywhere in
justified by faith” (Galatians 3:24). We are           Jesus is our substitute sacrifice for sin. The      the Bible, nor anyone else getting baptized
condemned on our own, and need a Savior!            Bible says, “Christ died for our sins according        before being born again. However, after
Once we recognize this, we are qualified to         to the scriptures” (I Cor. 15:3). Jesus paid           someone has been saved, he should follow
be saved. Jesus said, “The Son of man is come       for our sin on the cross. We cannot be born            the example of Jesus by being baptized
to seek and to save that which was lost,” (Luke     again by earning it. Titus 3:5 says, “Not by           (immersed) in a true Bible-practicing
19:10). We must see ourselves as lost. This is      works of righteousness which we have done, but         church. But remember: we are saved by
the key to being born again!                        according to his mercy he saved us.” Ephesians         the blood of Christ, and not the water of
                                                    2:8-9 says, “For by grace are ye saved through         the baptistery. Ephesians 1:7 says, “We have
   Many foolishly attempt to make
                                                    faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of   redemption through His (Jesus’) blood, the
themselves acceptable to God by their
                                                    God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.”         forgiveness of sins, according to the riches of his
works. In Romans 10:1-3, Paul says, “I bear
                                                    All your faith must be in Jesus Christ 100%.           grace,” (a favor from God). Romans 5:9-10
them record that they have a zeal of God,
                                                                                                           says, “Being now justified by his blood, we shall
but not according to knowledge (Bible truth).          Getting to heaven cannot be by both                 be saved from wrath through Him (Jesus).
For they …going about to establish their own        grace and works. Rom. 11:6 says, “And if by            When we were enemies, we were reconciled
righteousness, have not submitted themselves        grace, then is it no more of works: otherwise          to God by the death of his Son.” Romans 5:1
unto the righteousness of God,” (the payment        grace is no more grace. But if it be of works,         says, “Therefore being justified by faith (in His
of the sacrifice of Jesus on Calvary). After        then is it no more grace: otherwise work is no         blood), we have peace with God through our
everything Jesus suffered for you on the            more work. Therefore we conclude that a man            Lord Jesus Christ.”
cross, trying to work your way to heaven            is justified (saved) by faith without the deeds
is an insult to God. It’s like saying that the      of the law,” (Rom. 3:28). Any verses in the               Part 2 of this article will be continued
sacrifice of Jesus wasn’t adequate to pay           Bible eluding to doing good works are always           in the next issue of Faith for Life. If you
for your sins. Many self-righteous people           addressed to someone who is already born-              would like more information please go to:
think they’re good enough to work their             again, encouraging him to faithfully serve the

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   the mathematical probability that

       Jesus is �e Messiah
   The reason why prophecy is an               actually live? How does one ‘arrange’ his        For example: in Micah 5:2, where
indication of the divine authorship            own death and specifically by crucifixion,    it states the Messiah would be born
of the Bible, and a testimony to the           with two other victims, and then ‘arrange’    in Bethlehem, Stoner and his students
trustworthiness of the message of              to have his executioners gamble for his       determined the average population of
the Scriptures, is because of the tiny         clothing (John 16:19; Psalms 22:18)?          Bethlehem from the time of Micah
improbability of fulfillment. Anyone           How does one ‘arrange’ to be betrayed in      to the present; then they divided
can make predictions, but having those         advance? How does one ‘arrange’ to have       it by the average population of the
prophecies fulfilled is vastly different. In   the executioners carry out the regular        earth during the same period. They
fact, the more statements made about the       practice of breaking the legs of the two      concluded that the chance of one man
future, and the more the detail, then the      victims on either side, but not his own?      being born in Bethlehem was about
less likely the precise fulfillment will be.   Finally, how does one escape from a grave     one in 300,000. There are hundreds of
                                               and appear to people after having been        prophecies regarding Jesus being the
  For example: what’s the likelihood of a      killed?                                       Messiah, but after examining only eight
person predicting the exact city in which                                                    other prophecies, they conservatively
the birth of a future leader would take          Indeed, it may be possible for someone      calculated that the chance of one man
place, hundreds of years beforehand?           to fake one or two of the Messianic           fulfilling just eight prophecies was one in
This is indeed what the prophet Micah          prophecies, but it would be impossible for    1017. To illustrate how large the number
did 700 years before the Messiah was           any one person to arrange and fulfill all     1017 is (a one with 17 zeros), Stoner gave
born in Bethlehem. Furthermore, what is        of these prophecies. Professor Emeritus       this illustration:
the likelihood of predicting the precise       of Science at Westmont College Peter
manner of death that a new, unknown            Stoner has calculated the probability of         If you mark one of ten tickets, and place
religious leader would experience, a           one man fulfilling the major prophecies       all the tickets in a hat, and thoroughly stir
thousand years before that manner of           made concerning the Messiah. The              them, and then ask a blindfolded man to
death was even invented? Yet, this is what     calculations were worked out by twelve        draw one, his chance of getting the right
David did in 1000 B.C., predicting death       different classes representing some 600       ticket is one in ten. Well, let’s suppose that
for the Messiah by crucifixion.                university students. The students carefully   we take 1017 silver dollars and lay them
                                               weighed all the factors and discussed each    on the face of Texas. They would cover
   Again, what is the likelihood of            prophecy at length. All the students, even    all of the state two feet deep. Now mark
predicting the specific date of the            the most skeptical agreed unanimously         one of these silver dollars red and stir
appearance of some great future leader,        with the conservative calculations.           the whole mass thoroughly, all over the
hundreds of years in advance? This is what                                                   state. Then blindfold a man and tell him
Daniel did, 530 years before Christ. If one      However, Professor Stoner then took         that he can travel as far as he wishes, but
were to conceive 50 specific prophecies        their calculations, and made them even        he must pick up one silver dollar and it
about a person in the future, whom             more conservative. He also encouraged         must be the right one. What chance would
one would never meet, just what is the         other skeptics or scientists to make their    he have of getting that marked silver
likelihood that this person will fulfill all   own estimates to see if his conclusions       dollar? Exactly the same chance that the
50 of the predictions? How much less           were more than fair. Finally, he submitted    prophets would’ve had of writing these
would the likelihood be if 25 of these         his figures for review to a committee         eight prophecies and having them all come
predictions involved the actions of others,    of the American Scientific Affiliation.       true through any one man, Jesus. From
and were completely beyond his control?        Upon examination, they verified that his      these figures, Professor Stoner, concludes
                                               calculations were dependable and accurate     the fulfillment of these eight prophecies
   For example: how does someone               (Peter Stoner, Science Speaks, Chicago:
‘arrange’ to be born in a specific family?                                                   alone proves that God inspired the writing
                                               Moody Press, 1969, 4).
How does one ‘arrange’ to be born in a
specific city, in which his parents don’t
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Mathmatical Probability.                        another calculation, Stoner used 48              the Son of God is rejecting a fact, proved
continued from page 10                          prophecies, and arrived at the extremely         perhaps more absolutely than any other
                                                conservative estimate that the probability       fact in the world.”
of the prophecies–the likelihood of mere        of 48 prophecies being fulfilled in one
chance is only one in 1017!                     person is the incredible figure of 10157.          The preceding was compiled and edited by
                                                There are actually 456 such prophecies of        David Dennis and is an excerpt by David
   Another way of saying this: any                                                               Williams, a mathematician and Computer
                                                Christ in the Bible according to Biblical
person who minimizes or ignores the                                                              Systems Manager at the University of
                                                scholar Alfred Edersheim, but obviously,
significance of the biblical, identifying                                                        Newcastle. Several quotes are taken from the
                                                the probability that 456 prophecies
signs concerning the Messiah would be                                                            book “The Case for Jesus the Messiah”, by
                                                would be fulfilled in one man by chance
foolish. But, of course, there are many                                                          John Ankerberg.
                                                is a statistical impossibility. As Stoner
way more than eight prophecies. In
                                                concludes, “Any man who rejects Christ as

                                                                         for. The stories we used to make up, or explain ourselves do
                                                                         not make sense anymore, and we have run out of new stories.”
                                                                            While many biologists and scientists were pushing the
                       faith in our                                      idea of evolution, Thomas’ study of the complexity of life

                                                                         and organisms led him in another direction. After seeing the
                                                                         perfection of the millions of life forms on earth, he could not, in
                                                                         good conscience, believe that it was all a product of chance.
                                                                         He knew another reason for the origin of our world had to
                                                                         exist. Scientists have tried to reason away the creation of
                                                                         our world; yet as a Christian, I have only to read the first few
                                                                         chapters of the Bible to obtain my answer for the origin of life,
                                                                         “In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth.”
                                        by Dr. Paul Chappell             The first verse in the Bible tells us all we need to know about
                                                                         our existence. Our belief in God’s act of creation is an act of
     “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the                faith. We trust God’s Word as our answer on the matter. That
   evidence of things not seen. For by it the elders obtained a          the world was created by an invisible Being, seems foolish to
   good report. Through faith we understand that the worlds              some people, yet as a Christian, I trust that God’s Word is true
   were framed by the word of God, so that things which are              in chronicling the beginning of time.
   seen were not made of things which do appear.” -Hebrews                  If you believe that God created everything that exists, why
   11:1-3                                                                is ‘trusting Him’ for your care sometimes difficult? We read of
                                                                         how He formed Adam and Eve and carefully breathed into
     The same God, who took time to personally create Adam
                                                                         them the breath of life, yet we sometimes forget how God is
   and Eve, personally created you.
                                                                         still as caring and involved in our lives as well.
      Lewis Thomas should have known better. He attended the
                                                                           If you’re a true Christian, do you doubt that God created
   finest schools (both Princeton and Harvard), studied with
                                                                         the universe? If you don’t question Genesis 1, then why should
   some of the brightest scientific minds, and wrote on a number
                                                                         you question God’s promise in Matthew 6:25, “Therefore I
   of biological subjects. He wrote for scientific magazines,
                                                                         say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat,
   chronicled his research in a book, and won a wide array of
                                                                         or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall
   awards for his work. Yet, amid his studies on biology and the
                                                                         put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than
   origin of life, he came to the following conclusion:
                                                                         raiment?” God’s caring detail of your life didn’t stop after
      “I cannot make peace with the ‘randomness doctrine’; I             you were born. He didn’t form you in the womb and then
   cannot abide by the notion of purposelessness and blind chance        leave you to face the world on your own. God takes notice
   in nature. And yet, I do not know what to put in its place for        of every aspect of your life and will until you die. When
   the quieting of my mind. It is absurd to say that a place like this   problems come into your life, don’t forget the gentle care of a
   universe is randomness, when it contains in front of our eyes,        loving Creator. He thought of you before time began, created
   so many billions of different forms of life, each one in its way      you, and cares for you even now. Have faith that God is there
   ‘absolutely perfect’ and all linked together to form what would       through the good times and bad, and trust Him to watch over
   surely seem to an outsider, a huge spherical organism. We             you each day. More importantly, have you trusted God with
   sometimes talk of the absurdity of the ‘human situation’, but we      your soul? To learn more about this, please carefully read
   do this because we do not know how we fit in, or what we are          pages 8-9.

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            Soggye a l
                                                                                                                                  by Stephen

  I despise soggy cereal! When I was a kid,             What about you? Have you ever been               In no way whatsoever do I intend to
there was a grandmotherly woman named                willing to set aside something that you          cheapen or trivialize the great sacrifice
Mrs. Shelton who would sometimes care                really wanted in order to meet someone           that Jesus made on the cross, but I do
for us if my parents were out of town. She           else’s need? Have you ever been willing to       see a parallel. Jesus had all the riches of
had a very effective way of getting us out           put some dream on hold because God led           Heaven. He needed nothing. Yet for our
of bed in the morning. She would turn on             in a different direction? You may say, “But if   sakes He became poor. True sacrifice is
the bedroom light and sweetly say, “I just           I don’t do this right now, I will never have     when a person is willing to set aside his own
poured the milk in your cereal.” About three         the chance to do it again!” That may be true.    desires to meet someone else’s needs. True
and a half seconds later we were at the table        The moment might pass you by. The cereal         love is when a person is willing to give up
eating breakfast!                                    may be soggy by the time you get back to         something of value in order for someone
                                                     it. But what an opportunity to prove your        else to gain something of great value.
   My own children now hate soggy cereal             love!
as much as I did back then. But recently we                                                             Sadly, many of us often fail to follow the
had a “soggy cereal” incident which taught              The Apostle Paul urged the Corinthian         example of Christ in this area. We have
me a very important spiritual truth.                 Christians to prove the sincerity of their       our habits and our hobbies. We have our
                                                     love in second Corinthians chapter eight.        ambitions and our aspirations. We have our
   We were sitting at the table eating               And then, to nail the point home with            plans and our possessions. But sometimes
breakfast when suddenly one of the younger           them, he said, “For ye know the grace of         the greatest proof of our love is just a bowl
children (who had still been asleep when             our Lord Jesus Christ, that, though he was       of soggy cereal.
we started eating) came walking into the             rich, yet for your sakes he became poor, that
kitchen looking for a bowl, a spoon, and             ye through his poverty might be rich” (2
the milk from the refrigerator. My oldest            Corinthians 8:9).
daughter, Candace, said, “I’ll get it.” I replied,
“Why don’t you let mommy or me get it.
You just poured your milk, and if you don’t
start eating right away, your cereal is going
to get soggy.” “That’s okay,” she said, “I’ll do
it. I don’t mind if my cereal gets soggy.”
   Now I know for a fact that she hates
soggy cereal, but in that moment, serving
her younger sibling became more important
to her than whether or not her cereal was
crunchy or soggy. Immediately a voice in my
mind asked, “Have you ever been willing to
let your cereal get soggy in order to serve
someone else?” Of course, in my mind I
was not thinking of literal cereal, but of
the many goals, dreams, ambitions, desires,
hobbies, and self-serving interests that so
often are the driving force behind our lives.

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     Not Good Enough                                                                                            by Dan aceituna

   Jerusalem, circa 33 A.D...                   on his behalf. God, looking down on His               Judgment day, sooner
   The mob was now stirred into a frenzy;       bruised begotten, was greatly impressed by              than anticipated...
they were no longer satisfied with merely       what the Son had endured for the sake of the
                                                                                                      Fred now stood trembling, before God.
screaming, “Crucify Him!” They began            very ones who had bruised Him. So satisfied
                                                                                                   “And what do you have to offer, as payment
spitting, cursing, and flinging any object      was God by his Son’s dying sacrifice, that for
                                                                                                   for your sins?” God said with just His eyes.
they perceived harmful. Jesus, marred           Christ’s sake, Fred P. Johnson’s payment for
                                                                                                   But before Fred could offer his best, God
beyond recognition, could barely carry the      sin was now considered finished.
                                                                                                   began to replay the ordeal that Jesus Christ
large wooden structure that would soon                                                             had endured. As Fred watched the agony
produce the worst part of His ordeal. Yet,                                                         on Christ’s face, and considered the injustice
His mind stayed on His chosen task, the                     Minnesota,                             of having to wrongly endure the crucifixion,
reason He came to earth, the reason for                    circa 2011 A.D...                       his mind suddenly remembered a thought
enduring an abusive night at Herod’s, and          Fred signed the last check; the bills would     he had long ago while daydreaming during
the heart-wrenching abandonment by the          soon be mailed on time, and along with them        his communion class. “Why,” he had briefly
twelve He loved. In spite of all the pain       a hundred dollars toward his favorite charity.     mused, “do we have to do all this to pay for
and rejection inflicted by the very creatures   Yes, Fred thought, it felt good to do right, not   our sins, if Christ supposedly paid for it on
He breathed life into, His mind stayed on       to mention the eternal benefits. He thought        the cross?” Yes! Fred realized, ‘I remember
their need and that of Fred P. Johnson …        back to all the good deeds he had done, the        thinking that’ . . . The replay was over,
Moments later, each driven nail brought         help he had been to others, and the many           and God’s focus was once again on Fred.
forth a new meaning to pain, and a renewed      hours of sitting in church enduring all those      “I endured that for you,” God silently
sense of joy that Fred would be spared far      sermons. Sure, there were bad things in the        inferred by revealing his nail scarred hands
worse in eternity. In the end, as Jesus gave    mix (nobody’s perfect), but Fred made a            for the first time, “That’s what it took to
up the ghost, His thoughts were not angry       good effort to keep sinful acts at a minimum.      pay for your sins, and what do you offer as
for having unjustly endured the penalty for     He kept the scale tipped in his favor, and had     payment?” Fred took a long tearful look at
Fred’s sin, but rather gladness knowing that    resolved to do so until the end; a worker’s        the wounds, and thought, “never mind . . .
Fred’s way to heaven was now possible, if       work is never finished. Yes, Fred quietly          who was I kidding?”
Fred chose to accept the payment made           assured himself, God will be impressed.

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                      By David Dennis           Home                                            By Pastor Tony Scheving

    In many American homes, the question        It’s not tolerated in most other countries      does what he feels like doing. A self-
is, “Who’s running the asylum?” Are the         around the world. But American parents          centered child knows how to manipulate to
parents in control of the children, or vice     expect it and accept it. We wonder why          get what he wants. Self-gratification is first
versa? After observing American culture,        kids are out of control in the public school.   and foremost. His conversation normally
the Duke of Windsor commented that              Our commitment to our ‘kids’ happiness’         includes his own wants and wishes. A
the thing that he found troubling about         ends up ruining them through indulgence.        self-centered kid views everything in
America is…“How well the parents obey                                                           life based on how it will affect himself
the children!” Somehow we’ve sent the              The average home is co-run with parents      instead of others. He often interrupts an
signal to our kids that they’re in charge.      sharing their authority and jurisdiction        adult conversation to give his opinion.
If you go back a couple of generations,         with the kids. It’s called ‘democratic          He is normally hard to impress due to
you’ll recognize something that took place      parenting’ and puts kids on the same level      his attitude. He is mostly unappreciative
in our nation. Humanist Dr. Benjamin            with mom and dad. Dr. Spock told us that        and complains a lot. He is normally
Spock, did a number on us and later             kids are little people and entitled to the      preoccupied with fun and requires ongoing
denounced his bogus philosophies about          opinions, preferences and responsibilities      entertainment. In general, a self-centered
child-rearing, but the damage was done.         of parents. This may sound good, but            kid is easily irritated, squanders money on
The revolution of young people in the 60’s      in actuality, a child is not your equal         himself, doesn’t learn from his mistakes,
and 70’s produced an attitude that kids are     emotionally, spiritually, mentally or in the    can’t be trusted to make wise decisions,
on the same level as adults when it comes       wisdom of experiencing life. The last thing     often retaliates when offended, denies
to understanding life. Back in the 60s the      to develop in children is their ability to      responsibility, has a ‘victim’ mentality,
Monkee’s proclaimed, “We’re the young           reason. They may be as tall as their parents    doesn’t like to serve others, gets upset
generation, and we’ve got something to          with as deep of a voice, but they still lack    when punished, and will do as little as
say!” At the same time we saw ‘kid power’       the wisdom and experience of mom and            possible to help out around the house.
and the ‘year of the kid’ mentality. Even       dad. That’s why our Creator set it up for
kids’ books like the Berenstain Bears show      parents to lead children and not vice versa.       In a child-run home, the parents put up
the kids being smart and the dad being          Yet in many homes, the kids are ‘calling the    with this type of behavior. They meekly
dumb. The Disney Channel kids are shown         shots’ and the parents don’t even realize       petition their kids to do something with a
to be cool and savvy with a quick wit,          it. In a child-run home, the decisions are      pleading voice instead of an authoritative
and grown-ups dopey. A subtle message           made based on the kids feelings instead         one. They become exasperated trying to
was being sent, and society bought into it.     of their parent’s feelings. What the family     persuade the kids to comply, eventually
Today we live in a country where many           eats, or where they eat-out is based on         giving up. They resort to bribes and treats
parents are afraid to get their kids under      what the kids like. The parents skip certain    in order to get obedience. They allow the
control. Society tells us that’s a ‘no-no’…     activities such as having company over          child to freely complain, and even criticize
it’s abuse. At the same time, God’s Word        because the kids will get bored. The kids       the parents’ decisions and leadership. In a
says, “Children, obey your parents in the       are chauffeured all over town in ‘Mom’s         child-run home, the parents have to explain
Lord: for this is right. Honor thy father and   taxi’ with the rest of the family revolving     in detail or even argue each command.
mother” (Ephesians 6:1-2). America is           around the children. The children are           They conclude a request with “Ok honey?”
filled with immature, self-gratifying kids      rarely told “No” and stiffen up at the very     They’re even held hostage by the child’s
who grow up thinking their happiness is         word. They continue to ‘lobby’ their parent     outbursts and have to reason with him to
of supreme importance. Did you know             even after being refused. A child-run home      calm him down instead of administering
that child rebellion and self-absorption        contains a self centered kid who normally       swift discipline. After disciplining, the
are phenomena unique to the past couple         can’t do anything gratifying in moderation.     parents are apologetic and bend over
                                                A self-centered kid is selective and only
of generations, and countries like ours?                                                                         continued on next page
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A Child-Run Home.                               learn at an early age that the world doesn’t      your children that life’s not always fair, and
continued from page 14                          revolve around them. With nearly seven            sometimes they won’t like the outcome.
                                                billion people in this world, no one is           Don’t treat them like some VIP in the home.
backwards to try and regain the child’s         ‘that big of a deal’ when it comes to self-       Put them to work helping out around the
affection. All the while, the child loses       importance. Jesus said, “If any man will come     house. When it comes to activities, you need
respect for the parents and secretly thinks     after me, let him deny himself” (Matt 16:24).     to do what’s best for the whole family and
his parents are wimps. Why do parents put                                                         not just one child. Remember to have fun,
up with this? In some cases, they have such        If you find yourself in a child-run home,      and make your home a happy place. It’s
low standards, that they’re satisfied as long   please don’t despair. How can it be turned        easy to get ‘ugly’ at times, but try to be nice.
as their kid’s not on drugs, or doesn’t get     around? A timely mid-course correction is         Keep the volume down during rough times
pregnant. The parents may also be insecure      possible. First of all, you must regain respect   as yelling doesn’t accomplish much. Anger is
and craves the child’s approval, not wanting    by accepting your God-given role as leaders       normally counter-productive. The Bible says,
to do anything to jeopardize it. Sometimes      of the home. There must be consistent             “Fathers, provoke not your children to anger,
they feel subconscious guilt for both           consequences for disobedience. Do not waver       lest they be discouraged” (Colossians 3:21).
parents working outside the home, and try       on your decisions, or you’ll be resented.         Above all, teach them to submit to authority.
to make up for it by being a pushover.          Don’t allow children to argue with you as         They will be under some type of authority
                                                they would a peer or a sibling. The Bible         for the rest of their lives. In the battle of
    You can almost tell the spirit and attitude says your children are to honor you. Quit
                                                                                                  wills, the parents must conquer. If not, you’re
of self-absorbed children by their very         trying to be their buddy, as familiarity breeds   rewarding the child for bucking authority
countenance and posture. So the question        contempt. Aim for their respect, more than        and in the process, ‘feeding a monster’.
is, “Who’s in charge of the home?” God          their affection. Parents who depend on a          Finally, remember that you’re fighting for
places great importance on the parents          child’s acceptance, are crippled by their         your children. Our society seems to be doing
being in charge (Exodus 21:17). Jesus even own insecurities. That parent actually needs
                                                                                                  everything it can to corrupt young people
reminded us of the seriousness of children      the child’s acceptance to feel good about         while Satan has placed a bulls-eye on them.
being out of control (Matthew 15:4).            themselves. They don’t want to be the ‘bad        There are incredibly evil influences like
Parents who allow a ‘child-run home’ are        guy’. Children aren’t dumb, and they pick         pornography, harmful electronic games, lewd
not doing their children any favors. Those      up on this which gives them power and             television and ungodly music. Our children
children will grow up and destroy their         leverage. Be sure to communicate and let          need our continual prayers as well as our
marriage with their self-centeredness.          your children talk, but never in an ‘in your      love. Parenting is one of the toughest, yet
They’ll also struggle in the workforce. In      face’ or disrespectful manner. Minimize           most rewarding, things in the world. May
order to help children gain outer control       your TV and computer time. Take the time          God give us wisdom to raise children that
which they’ll need in life, parents must        to raise your children now, or one day you        will glorify Him.
teach children inner control through            may end up raising your grandkids. Teach
submission. No one wants to unleash a
menace on society. God put parents over
children to guide them until they grow in

wisdom. Children also need boundaries
for their own security. A home without
boundaries leads to confusion and can also
make children feel unloved.
  Controlled children are those who submit
to their parents’ will with a good attitude.
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                                                            With failure being a part of life, the               right around the corner if we use the failure as
   Pastor’s Perspective                                  question one has to ask, “Does it have to be so
                                                         devastating?” The answer is “No”. The Bible says,
                                                                                                                 means of going forward, not backward. If you
                                                                                                                 look at the lives of many well known historical
                                                         “For a just man falleth seven times, and riseth up      figures, you’ll see many cases of people who just

                                                         again....” In this verse, God is telling us to “Get     wouldn’t quit. In 1905, the University of Bern
                                                         up!” when we fail. Failure is not meant to be a         turned down a man’s doctoral dissertation calling
                                                         stumbling stone, but a stepping stone. Someone          it “irrelevant and fanciful.” The man’s name was
                                                         once said that the road of success is paved with        Albert Einstein. In 1894, an English teacher

                                                         failures. The famous inventor, Thomas Edison            wrote on a student’s report card, “a conspicuous
                                                         conducted over 50,000 experiments attempting            lack of success.” The student’s name was Winston
                                                         to create a storage battery. When asked about           Churchill. In the late 1970s, a 5’ 11” sophomore
                                                         that time frame riddled with failures, Edison said      tried out for his high school’s varsity basketball
                                                         he was not discouraged but instead had found            team and was cut. The person was Michael
   “For a just man falleth seven times,                  50,000 things that won’t work. His attitude             Jordan. The list could go on and on, but these
   and riseth up again…”                                 towards failure made him a success and it can do        people, amongst many others, overcame the
                                                         the same for us.                                        failures they faced. We can find a silver lining
                           -Proverbs 24:16                                                                       in our failures. If we did, I believe we would
                                                                          The Reality                            experience success more often. Consider Peter
                                                                                                                 again: he denied the Lord, yet the Lord restored
      Vinko Bogatej, a former Yugoslavian ski-              Failure is part of life. Everyone faces it. It’s     him. Peter went on to preach on the day of
   jumper, took a serious spill off a ski jump while     not a matter of “if,” but “when.” In fact God           Pentecost and 3,000 came to know Christ as
   competing in the 1970 World Ski Jumping               expects it from us, “For he knoweth our frame;          Savior. (Acts 2:41). Paul didn’t quit either. He
   Championships in Germany. He landed on his            he remembereth that we are dust” (Psalm                 kept going and by the end of his life he wrote
   head and was hospitalized for his injuries. He        103:14). God knows we are going to make                 under Holy Spirit inspiration, “I have fought a
   eventually had a full recovery and returned           mistakes; He knows we will sin. When we fall,           good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept
   to regular life. At that time, ABC had a sports       God promises to be there to pick us right back          the faith” (II Timothy 4:7). The truth is that
   program called Wide World of Sports which             up (Psalm 37:23-24). If we fail, rise up again.         failure often teaches us more than success ever
   had the famous promo tag, “…the thrill of             If we sin against Him, confess it, forsake it and       will. Success often comes after several failures
   victory, the agony of defeat….” Shortly after         forget about it! The Bible says, “If we confess our     have taken place. I know good people God has
   Vinko’s incident, ABC’s Wide World of Sports          sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins,   used greatly in the ministry and they themselves
   began to use the footage of his wipe out every        and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness” (I          claim nobody has made more mistakes then they
   time the phrase, “…the agony of defeat…” was          John 1:9). So many walk through life thinking           have. The key is not
   mentioned in their commercials. In 1980, ABC          they need to be perfect, when they never will be.       quitting. We are
   planned to produce a special anniversary edition      Failure is a reality of life.                           not failures
   of Wide World of Sports. ABC Producer Doug                                                                    until we quit.
   Wilson interviewed Vinko as part of this special
   edition. Wilson stated that when he told Vinko
                                                                          The Results                            Failure is not
                                                                                                                 designed to
   he had been appearing on Wide World of Sports            What does failure often bring? Obviously             break us, but
   for 10 years as part of their promo tag, Vinko        things we don’t like. Sometimes it brings               to better us.
   responded, “I can’t believe it! I appear on TV        embarrassment. In the Gospels, Peter boasted            I’m glad God
   130 times a year!” Vinko’s attitude is a good         how he wouldn’t deny the Lord, but did just             is the God
   example of what it means to “Fail Forward.”           that when asked by a little maiden about his            of the second
   Failing is a part of life that everyone experiences   relationship to Christ. Peter experienced great         chance.
   from time to time. How we handle or perceive          embarrassment as Christ’s eyes met his after
   those times of failure will either make or break      denying Him three times. Sometimes failure
   us.                                                   causes setbacks in life. The Apostle Paul was
                                                         warned by the Holy Spirit not to go to Jerusalem
      One of the most disheartening feelings we          (Acts 20:22-23). Despite these warnings, Paul
   experience happens when we fail. We feel              went to Jerusalem anyway, and by the time the
   beaten down, discouraged, de-moralized and            dust settled, he found himself stuck in a prison
   defeated. Often failure is the forerunner of          for over 2 years. Paul’s failure to listen to God
   quitting as we question whether or not the            brought a significant setback in his life. These
   situation is worth pursuing any longer. The           results can often be very frustrating, especially May God richly bless you.
   motivation to keep going can evaporate, leaving       when they appear to be so costly.
   us doubtful of our desired outcome. The Bible
   says, “Hope deferred maketh the heart sick”
   (Proverbs 13:12). Maybe you’ve experienced
                                                                         The Reward                                 pastor a. Wartner
   failure in the recent past, whether at work, with        Though we do not like to deal with the results
   people, or in your life activities. Those times can   of our failure, we can find blessings if we learn
   weigh on our spirit, and going forward seems          how to properly handle them. Success could be
   like a greater chore than ever.

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