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									Gods in Everyman
Author: Jean Shinoda Bolen

In this challenging and enlightening companion volume to the bestselling Goddesses in Everywoman,
Jean Shinoda Bolen turns her attention to the powerful inner patterns--or archetypes--that shape men's
personalities, careers, and personal relationships. Viewing these archtypes as the inner counterparts of
the outer world of cultural stereotypes, she demonstrates how men an women can gain an nvaluable
sense of wholeness and integration when what they do is consistent with who they are. Dr. Bolen
introduces these patterns in the guise of eight archetypal gods, or personality types, with whom the
reader will identify. From the authoritarian power-seeking gods (Zeus, Poseidon) to the gods of creativity
(Apollo, Hephaestus) to the sensual Dionysus, Dr. Bolen shows men how to identify their ruling gods,
how to decide which to cultivate and which to overcome, and how to tap thepwer of these enduring
archetypes in order to enrich and strengthen their lives. She also stresses the importance of
understanding which gods you are attracted to and which are compatible with your expectations,
uncovers the origins of the often-difficult father-son relationship, and explores society's deep conflict
between nurturing behavior and the need to foster masculinity.In Gods in Everyman Dr. Bolen presents us
with a compassionate and lucid male psychology that will help all men and women to better understand
themselves and their relationships with their fathers, their sons, their brothers, and their lovers.

There Are Gods In EverymanThis book is about the gods in Everyman, the innate patterns--or archetypes-
-that lie deep within the psyche, shaping men from within. These gods are powerful, invisible
predispositions that affect personality, work, and relationships. The gods have to do with emotional
intensity or distance, preferences for mental acuity, physical exertion, or esthetic sensibility, yearning for
ecstatic merger or panoramic understanding, sense of time, and much more. Different archetypes are
responsible for the diversity among, and complexity within, men and have much to do with the ease or
difficulty with which men (and boys) can conform to expectations and at what cost to their deepest and
most authentic selves.To feel authentic means to be free to develop traits and potentials that are innate
predispositions. When we are accepted and allowed to be genuine, it's possible to have self-esteem and
authenticity together. This develops only if we are encouraged rather than disheartened by the reactions
of significant others to us, when we are spontaneous and truthful, or when we are absorbed in whatever
gives us joy. From childhood on, first our family and then our culture are the mirrors in which we see
ourselves as acceptable or not. When we need to conform in order to be acceptable, we may end up
wearing a false face and playing an empty role if who we are inside and what is expected of us are far
apart.CONFORMITY AS A PROCRUSTEAN BEDThe conformity demanded of men in our patriarchal
culture is like Procrustes' bed in Greek mythology. Travelers on their way to Athens were placed on this
bed. If they were too short, they were stretched to fit, as on a medieval torture rack; if they were too tall,
they were merely cut down to size.Some men fit the Procrustean bed exactly, just as there are men for
whom stereotype (or the expectations from outside) and archetype (or the inner patterns) match well.
They find ease and pleasure at succeeding. However, conformity to the stereotype is often an agonizing
process for a man whose archetypal patterns differ from "what he should be." He may appear to fit, but in
truth he has managed at great cost to look the part, by cutting off important aspects of himself. Or he
may have stretched one dimension of his personality to fit expectations but lacks depth and complexity,
which often make his outer success inwardly meaningless.Travelers who passed through the Procrustean
ordeal to reach Athens may have wondered whether it had been worthwhile--as contemporary men often
do after they "arrive." William Broyles, Jr., writing in Esquire, wearily described how empty success can
be:Each morning I struggled into my suit, picked up my briefcase, went to my glamorous job, and died a
little. I was the editor in chief-.of Newsweek, a position that in the eyes of others had everything; only it
had nothing to do with me. I took little pleasure in running a large institution. I wanted personal
achievement, not power. For me, success was more dangerous than failure; failure would have forced me
to decide what I really wanted.The only way out was to quit, but I hadn't quit anything since I abandoned
the track team in high school. I had also been a Marine in Vietnam, and Marines are trained to keep on
charging up the hill, no matter what. But I had got up the hill; I just hated being there. I had climbed the
wrong mountain, and the only thing to do was go down and climb another one. It was not easy: my
writing went more slowly than I had...
Author Bio
Jean Shinoda Bolen
Jean Shinoda Bolen, M.D., is an internationally known Jungian analyst, clinical professor of psychiatry at
the University of California at San Francisco, and a former member of the board of the Ms. Foundation for
Women. She lives in Mill Valley, California. Contact jean Bolen at www.jeanbolen.com.

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