PERMIT NO. 8261
Nightlight Christian Adoptions
4430 E. Miraloma Ave., Suite B
Anaheim Hills, California 92807
A Semi-Annual Publication of Nightlight Christian Adoptions Fall 2010
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NEW ARRIVALS FROM OVERSEAS
WE ARE PLEASED TO ANNOUNCE THE ARRIVAL OF…
Daniel to parents Bradley and Noelle of California • Isabella to parents Thomas and Peggy of North
Carolina • Dimitry to parents Ronny and Tonya of Kentucky • Michael and Dasha to parents Rob and
April of California • Christian Chuan to parents Otto and Julie of California • Angela to parents David and
Diane of New Jersey • Louis En-Guo to parents Christopher and Melissa of Texas • Kelsey to parents
Edward and Valerie of California • Nikki to parents Galen and Robin of Kansas • Elijah to parents Shawn
and Kristen of
Above: Kelsey & Family
and Jacob Titus were born to Joey
SNOWFLAKE North Carolina •
& Melissa, and Cade Judah was
Scott to parents
By Megan Fabian born to Michael & Christy.
John and Kirby of
South Carolina •
We celebrate with 14 happy Kurtis Chia-An to
Snowflakes families who joyfully To the parents who chose to parents Timothy and
welcomed their babies recently. In entrust their embryos to a loving Theresa of New
January, Trent Cole was born to adopting family, your choice to York • Solomon to
Steve & Christy, and Caleb Joshua follow your love for these lives Paul and Stacy of
was born to Dave & Deb. In April, instead of your fear of the unknown California • Sasha to Above: Haile
Faith Kathleen was born to Dan & has brought the joy of family to so parents Josh and
Jamie, and Naomi Grace was born many lives. You are these Julie of South
to Ron & Linda. In June, Makenna children’s heroes. Thank you.
Lee was born to Brad & Laura,
Carolina • Nahom
Meredith Liesel was born to Noel & Nearly every day we receive a call
to parents Michael
Anne, Elisabeth Olivia Reiko and or two from parents of embryos
and Jamie of South
Thomas Josiah Gideon were born hoping to place them with a loving
Carolina • Haile to
to Tom & Lisa, and Thomas James family. God calls each family to
parents George and
was born to Jamie & Elizabeth. In adoption for a special reason and if
Diana • Redeit to
July, Camila Joy was born to Bryan your heart feels pulled to
Above: Solomon & Family
parents Kevin and
& Tracey, Cora Rose and Robert unconditionally love and care for
Sharla of Kentucky •
McDowell (“Mac”) were born to these special lives, we would be
Dawit and Terefech to parents Mark and Dawn of
Bryan & Andrea, and Shelby Ruth honored to serve you through your
Oklahoma • Mussie and Teketel to parents Jason
was born to Andrew & Carolyn. In embryo adoption process. and Cara of Louisiana.
August, Noah Benjamin was born God Bless!
to Jeff & Heather, Joshua Canaan
NEW DOMESTIC ARRIVALS DIRECTOR
We also welcome home the following It would be nice if
babies who were adopted through our there was a way
Domestic Adoption program and were we could
delivered into the waiting arms of their demonstrate to
proud parents. our children how
fast time really passes when you get
Above: Peyton Hope Above: Daisy Marie
older. When you are 14, you think
CHILD DATE OF BIRTH PROUD PARENTS time crawls at a snail’s pace as you
Daisy Marie January 12, 2010 David and Denise Field wait for such momentous milestones
Cooper Bryson July 30, 2010 Hank and Holly McClurg
as getting your driver’s license,
graduating from high school, hearing
Peyton Hope February 18, 2010 David and Lisa Nazaryk (continued on page 2)
FROM THE EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR (continued from page 1)
from that special friend who has ignored Did you know that the other 99% of But the truth is a powerful tool when we
you for more than an hour and, of children are more likely to drop out of share a few uncontroverted facts: (1) over
course, being able to make all of your school, be involved in drug or alcohol 80 treatments and cures have been found
own decisions without your parents’ abuse and end up in jail? Nightlight is using “adult” stem cells; (2) no treatments
interference. Then comes early sponsoring the development of a youth or cures have been found using
adulthood, followed by middle age, group curriculum called Adopt: The embryonic stem cells; (3) it is now
followed by late middle age, followed by Option which will be available to youth possible to extract embryonic stem cells
later middle age, followed by …. early groups in October. We hope to help without destroying the embryo; and (4)
post-middle age and .. well let’s stop educate young people about adoption as a pluripotent stem cells (the big argument
there. My point? The year 2010 is flying loving and courageous decision for a for why embryonic stem cells are needed)
by and there is still so much to do. woman facing an unplanned pregnancy. can now be developed from cord blood
and other adult tissue. But the truth did
At the risk of missing one of the International adoptions continue to drop not stop the flow of hate mail last month
significant events, let me just scan the as a result of political factors around the when Nightlight’s role in stopping Federal
peaks and valleys of the year – so far. world, fueled in many countries by funding of embryonic stem cell research
UNICEF’s behind the scenes efforts. was announced. We are grateful that
The number of domestic adoptions seems Under the banner of stopping corruption God has been able to use us in this life
to be increasing, perhaps because of the in adoptions, an increasing number of the saving role, primarily through the
bad economy. Did you know that less 143 million orphans in the world are reputation we have developed with our
than 1% of babies born to single women denied permanent homes. But Nightlight Snowflakes embryo adoption program.
(not counting those who do not survive continues to fight the good fight on We will always be one voice that speaks
the pregnancy) are placed for adoption? behalf of waiting children while sharing up for the protection of all life, whether
the frustrations of the waiting families. an embryo, a pre-born baby, an infant
It should never be about money, but needing a loving home or the 143 million
FAMILY ALBUM STAFF unfortunately many of the families with orphans around the world. It is not an
the biggest hearts have fewer financial either/or decision as to which life should
Ronald L. Stoddart
resources. We would like to have a half be protected, but our best effort to stand
million dollars to begin offering $5,000 up for all life.
matching grants to families adopting
older (10+) and special needs children. In 1992, after 8 years of practicing
We already have the lowest program domestic adoption law, I went to Russia
fees for older children from Russia, but and my life was changed. God put a
Director of Administration & we’re stretched thin on our support passion for older children in my heart
Marketing budget. (Know any corporations which that remains today. One of my favorite
Editor of the Family Album would like to support a good cause?) daily activities is to scan my Facebook
Email: Kathryn@Nightlight.org By the way, our tour of children from page and see how so many of the children
Russia and Taiwan this year was very adopted from Russia are doing now that
Rhonda Jarema successful. In addition to California, they have grown into young adults. In
Director of Family Support Services
the Russian children also visited late October, I will be traveling to
Colorado where three of them may Uganda with our agency mission team to
already have permanent homes awaiting visit and work at the Tender Hearts Baby
Victory Allan them. Home that we sponsor. Like many
Director of Social Work
friends who have already visited Africa, I
The last week of August was a big week expect God to once again change my life.
for advocates of life. Nightlight is one So even though time is passing by at the
of several plaintiffs who filed a lawsuit speed of light, you are never too old to be
against the Federal government to stop used of God. Go to our web site and
Nightlight Christian Adoptions
4430 E. Miraloma Ave., Suite B
Federal funding of embryonic stem cell search for a way that you can be a part of
Anaheim Hills, California 92807
research which destroys human God’s work at Nightlight.
embryos. The argument isn’t over when
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life begins, but when it is deserving of
protection. We are a lonely voice
among adoption agencies who do not
want to be involved in anything as Ron Stoddart
www.nightlight.org controversial as stem cell research.
SUMMER TOURS 2011 GALA
The 2010 MARCH 12, 2011
tour was a THE MERIDIAN CLUB, FULLERTON
We would like to
invite all of you to
join us at the
from Russia Club for our Annual
and Taiwan Gala on Saturday,
had a March 12, 2011.
wonderful We are going to
time with their families in Southern California and the Russia have a spectacular
auction, great speakers, and wonderful food. If you’d like
to register online, just go to our web site, to
children went on to Colorado for a week as well. The kids
went to the beach, Disneyland, enjoyed the summer reunion
and were able to perform at several churches in Southern
California and Colorado.
And if you’d like to support the Gala ahead of time, we
would greatly appreciate donations for our auction—
Please let us know if you would be interested in supporting the
vacations, sports equipment, tools, children’s toys,
2011 Tour. Would you like to be a host parent? Are you
certificates for hair salons, dinners and other services.
willing to help raise financial support for the tour? Please
contact Kathryn Deiters at (714) 693-5437 or Just call to let us know you have something to donate,
Kathryn@Nightlight.org. (714) 693-5437. You may ask for Kathryn.
SUMMER FUN AT
THE REUNIONS AT
ADOPTEES BEACH PARTY
There was a wonderful turnout of kids at the Beach Party last
month. Kids who hadn’t seen each other in 10 years were able
to catch up and look forward to getting together soon. We’re
hoping that several of you will come to the Fullerton Ruby’s on
Saturday, October 16th at 3:00. Liana Gabler will be there and
several others. If you’d like more information you may call the
Nightlight office and ask for Kathryn or contact Liana on
NOVEMBER 7, 2010
On Orphan Sunday, churches around the country and beyond will celebrate
the love of the God who “places the lonely in families” (Psalm 68:6) and
calls us to do the same. Ultimately, Orphan Sunday seeks to make the
Gospel visible as Christians explore and respond to God’s heart for the
orphan in adoption, foster care, and global orphan ministry.
Ask your church if they will be holding an event on November 7th. Offer to
have an information table after or between services that Sunday to raise
awareness of the need to help orphans worldwide. There are resources on
the internet at www.orphansunday.org and we will be happy to provide you
with resources. Please contact Laura Godwin (LauraG@Nightlight.org) for
We adopted our daughter last year with God changed dramatically this year,
through the China Special Needs and I cringe at the thought that I could
IS THERE EXTRA ROOM program. The term “Special Needs” is have gone through life ignorant of how
scary. I pictured a child who would live much He loves me. I just didn’t realize
IN YOUR HEART? with us for the rest of our lives…a child it...it took 35 years and my daughter’s
There are lots and lots of children around that needs constant care…a child that adoption to realize the depth of God’s
the world, waiting for a family to call their needs more patience than I may have. I love for me.
own. Nightlight has been helping children didn’t feel like I could be the parent that
a special needs child requires. Originally Is adoption smooth sailing? No. Does
here in the US and abroad for over 50 an adopted child have different needs?
years now. Some of the parents knew that we were on the list for a non-special-
needs child, but changed to the Special Yes. Does a special needs adopted child
they were adopting a child with a need for have different needs? Yes. Is it scary?
a little extra care or who might need Needs program when we realized that
“special needs” encompassed many Yes and no. Do you have a support
surgery. Another family thought they were system at Nightlight? YES! Will you
adopting a non-special needs child and different needs… some needs that do
require much more than I could give, but grow into the parent that God wants for
later learned that she had cerebral palsy. you to be? Yes. If you have any
But all of these families know their other needs that have been corrected or
could be corrected through surgery here questions about special needs adoption,
children have been a blessing to their please don’t hesitate to contact
families and would love for more people to in the U.S. You can do a little research
and decide what you feel you might be Nightlight; they’ll be happy to answer
step forward and adopt waiting children. your questions and I’ll be happy to talk
There are about 2,000 waiting children in able to handle.
to you as well. I’d love to introduce you
China right now. China is recognizing the Adopting Aaselia has been life changing to our daughter and show you how
need for more families for these waiting for us. Her medical needs take all of 5 simple a special needs adoption really can
children and has begun a new program minutes a day…she acts just like a be.
they are calling their “Special Focus normal 2 year old and no one realizes
Children”. These are children who have that we have adopted a special needs A Surprise…
been on the Waiting Child list for 2 months child. I’ve come to realize through her
or more. If a couple selects a child from adoption just how much God loves me! Just a couple of hours after adopting our
this list, they will have 6 months to get After all, I’ve been adopted by my daughter we realized that she had some
their paperwork ready (instead of the usual heavenly Father. Was He looking for a very special needs (we would later come
3 months). As with any Waiting Child, “perfect” child? Nope. He adopted a to learn that she had probably suffered a
you will receive updated medical reports special needs child. I am far from stroke, either before or shortly after
and photos while you are waiting to perfect…ugly on the inside and I need a birth, resulting in cerebral palsy). At 17
complete the process. Families are usually LOT of work, yet God loves me months, she was acting more like a 6
able to complete their adoption within a unconditionally. When I look at Aaselia month old. The worst went through my
year. and see how much I love her, regardless head. She would never walk, feed
of the extra doctor appointments I may herself, or have any independence of her
Let’s hear from three families who would own. Our older daughter, waiting for us
like to share their experiences… have, I can only imagine how much
more God loves me. My relationship (continued on page 5)
TENDER HEARTS you would like your donation to go to Uganda Baby Home.
OUR We are also sending people over on Mission Trips throughout
ORPHANAGE the year. The first group is leaving on October 22nd. If you
IN UGANDA would like to go on a future trip, please let us know. Those
traveling will be helping with projects around the
Lives are being orphanage and caring for the children in Tender Hearts’
transformed at care. For more information, please visit our web site or call
Nightlight’s new our office.
orphanage in Uganda, Tender Hearts.
Chris is a prime example. Just a short
while ago Chris was found in an A SNOWFLAKES JOURNEY
abandoned house with his ailing
JASON AND KELLIE’S STORY, PART 1
grandmother. Because she was dying
and could no longer care for the 2-year old little boy she Jason and Kellie knew that they wanted to adopt, even
asked the authorities to take care of him. They placed Chris before they had their two sons. When their first son was
with Tender Hearts on July 14th. He was in terrible shape, born with cystic fibrosis, a second pregnancy seemed scary,
as this first photo shows. He was extremely malnourished but Jason and Kellie stood firmly on their Christian faith
and wasn’t at all responsive. He didn’t even cry or make any and decided they did not want to live by fear. After their
sound. second son was born, it was time to adopt. A friend
suggested embryo adoption and Jason and Kellie valued
Chris was taken to the medical clinic for testing and medical
aspects such as the control of the prenatal environment and
care. He weighed only 7 kilo, about 15.5 lbs., not much at
the bonding during pregnancy and birth. During their
all for a 2 year old! He was given special food to eat to attain
homestudy, they learned that some of those embryos waiting
a more healthy weight and within 6 weeks he had gained
for homes were single embryos. They rightfully guessed that
weight, was smiling (and crying when unhappy about
those single embryos often wait a long time for an adoptive
something) and was a totally different child, learning and
family because of the risk of not achieving a pregnancy with
growing. Quite a transformation!
one. Jason and Kellie are not a couple who lives by fear.
That is our goal with Tender Hearts, for children to receive They chose to adopt one single embryo and live by faith.
the love and care—and prayer—they need to grow into Currently, they are at the beginning of the matching phase
strong, healthy adults. Would you consider supporting our and we will follow their embryo adoption journey to watch
Ugandan Ministry? You may donate to the orphanage by it unfold.
visiting our web site and clicking on Donate. Indicate that
RUSSIAN AND CHINESE CHOIRS - YEAR ROUND!
We’ve had our Russian Choir for 7 years and now we would like to expand our Choir to include
children adopted from Chinese speaking countries as well. The children (up to early 20s) will
learn two Christian songs in their native language and will go to churches throughout the year to
help raise awareness of the need to help orphans worldwide. Would you like to join one of our
choirs? Practices will be held at a convenient time and location for participants. Please contact
Kathryn Deiters if you’d like to learn more—or to sign up to be a part of one of these choirs,
IS THERE EXTRA ROOM IN receives some extra support with heart, and is very compassionate. We are
YOUR HEART? (continued from page 4) occupational and speech therapy at her very blessed to have her in our home and
school. But she is a happy child. She is love her dearly. We know that she was
at home, would have her life drastically reading and writing and doing math. meant to be in our family.
altered by her sister’s developmental She is on a soccer team. She is also
issues. involved in our church’s children’s We also wanted to share Juliana’s story,
programs. even though she was adopted from Belarus,
After we were home 6 months we had not China, because it beautifully illustrates
her evaluated by Regional Center. My greatest fears at the beginning never how one family handled a difficult
Within another 3 months she was materialized. She is constantly making us situation and came through it even stronger
receiving occupational therapy, speech laugh and she gets along well with her than before and very grateful that Juliana
and cognitive therapy, as well as group sisters. She is funny, giving, has a tender had been entrusted to their care…
therapy. Now, at 8 years of age she still (continued on page 9)
EDUCATION: CLASSES, SEMINARS, AND SUPPORT GROUPS
Nightlight offers the following classes in our offices or online. If you would like further information on any of these
classes, please call us at (714) 693-5437. Pre-registration is required for all of the classes.
Adoption classes are required for all families completing a homestudy through Nightlight. All classes are held in our office (4430
E. Miraloma Ave., Suite B, Anaheim Hills, CA 92807). Please call (714) 693-5437 or email firstname.lastname@example.org to register;
registration is required for all classes.
Classes required for International clients are designed according to The Hague Standards. These classes will help to ensure that
the required parent education and preparation for inter-country adoptions has been completed. Clients will receive a certificate of
completion at the close of each class to verify that they have attended the class in its entirety.
These are informational seminars on Domestic, International, and Embryo adoption.
Saturdays from 9:00 a.m. – 12:00 Noon. There is no charge, but registration is helpful.
Adoption seminars can also be held at local churches. If you would like an adoption seminar offered at your church, please call us
at (714) 693-5437 and ask for Kathryn Deiters.
Dates for 2010: November 13; Dates for 2011: February 26 • May 7 • September 17
LIFE-LONG ISSUES IN ADOPTION (required for all clients)
Thursday evenings from 6:30 – 9:00 p.m. Cost: $50/Couple
In this class we will look at the core adoption issues, which will give you an understanding of how you are linked to the other
members of the adoption triad: the adoptee and the birth family. The material is applicable to all types of adoption, including
Domestic, International, or the Snowflakes Embryo Adoption Program, and will help adopting families develop understanding
and compassion for everyone involved in the adoption process. For information on upcoming classes, please check our web site,
Dates for 2010: December 2; Dates for 2011: February 17 • May 5 • August 4 • November 3
DOMESTIC ADOPTION DECISIONS (domestic clients)
Thursday evenings from 6:30 – 9:00 p.m.; Cost: $50/Couple
This class will feature an adoptive family discussing their open adoption. They will discuss how the type of contact was agreed
upon and how it is working out for them.
Dates for 2010: December 9; Dates for 2011: February 24 • May 19 • August 11 • November 10
ATTACHMENT & OTHER ISSUES OF INTERNATIONAL ADOPTION (international clients)
Wednesday evenings from 4:00 – 9:00 p.m.; Cost: $100/Couple
Understanding the theory behind parent and child attachment is important for any parent. However, it becomes particularly
important when adopting a child internationally. It is most helpful if this class is taken in the beginning of the homestudy
process. This class defines attachment and bonding, reviews the theories behind attachment, and provides practical advice on how
to develop a solid attachment with your newly adopted child. Please contact Rhonda Jarema, MA, Director of Family Support
Services, with any questions about this class, by emailing her at Rhonda@Nightlight.org.
Dates for 2010: October 13; Dates for 2011: January 5 • March 23 • June 8 • September 21
MEDICAL ISSUES OF INTERNATIONAL ADOPTION (international clients)
Saturday mornings from 9:00 a.m. – 12:00 noon; Cost: $60/Couple
Dr. Gary Feldman, Medical Director of the Stramski Center at Miller Children’s Hospital, will be leading this class to provide an
overview of the medical issues commonly experienced by children who have been adopted internationally. Dr. Gary Feldman is
an expert in his field and we know those of you in attendance will enjoy this informative class. This class satisfies the medical
issues training required by The Hague.
Dates for 2010: October 2
There are two ongoing support groups: Moms of Internationally Adopted Preschoolers and Moms of School-aged Internationally
Adopted Children. If you are interested in participating, please contact Rhonda Jarema, Rhonda@Nightlight.org, for more
EMAIL SUPPORT GROUPS
Snowflakes - If any of you would like to be added to the Snowflake Adopting Parent or Genetic Parent Yahoo groups, please
contact Megan Fabian at Megan@Nightlight.org. The Snowflake families are great about sharing information they learn with
others in the group. We would be happy to add you.
Taiwan - Families adopting from Taiwan may join our Yahoo group for this country, which provides a wonderful way to meet
other families adopting from Taiwan. Please contact Kathryn Deiters at Kathryn@Nightlight.org to be added to this group.
WHEN TO SEEK HELP FOR YOUR move forward. Five or ten years down the road, it is hard to
CHILD By Rhonda Jarema determine the cause of a behavior or issue that has been
building for years. At that point you are looking at the
As I was responding to a family, commiserating over a immediate behavior or issue and trying to ‘fix that’, while
particularly challenging ‘first year’ that we were sharing with ‘peeling back’ the layers of issues that have built up over the
our respective children, I realized the topic for my article. The years.
first few months and even years, have some significant
challenges. Each member of the family is adjusting to the As school is beginning, I wanted to point out an area of
resulting changes of adding another family member. However, concern. The international specialists have noted that if
despite or perhaps due to all the evaluations, meetings and internationally adoptive parents were to choose one
education, families may be hesitant to share their issues, intervention that would provide the most benefit to their
unwilling to admit, despite the education, that they are child, it would be speech and language therapy. A child who
struggling. All too often, I don’t hear from a family until they is struggling to communicate gets frustrated and ends up with
have been home several years and finally get to the point other issues aside from the initial speech concerns. If the
where they are overwhelmed enough that they are desperate ‘experts’ from your local school district are encouraging you
for a solution. Unfortunately, there is no magic pill or wave of to ‘wait three years’ to determine if speech/language is really
a wand to fix issues that have been building for years. an issue because language acquisition ‘takes a few years’, I’d
encourage you to insist on an evaluation. If your child has an
At Nightlight, we’ve recognized that being in close contact issue, that issue is eligible for evaluation and services the day
with your adoption agency social worker or support person, you arrive home from the airport. You do not have to wait
particularly that first month home, can really help in the three years for an evaluation!
family’s adjustment. Families benefit from meeting with their
social worker within the first month post placement. It is a I’ve learned all about evaluations, study meetings and
time of stress as all family members are dealing with the individualized educational plans throughout the years. There
changes in the family. We know it won’t solve all issues, but are some wonderful websites that talk about parental and
we have found that identifying issues early on can help student rights in schools. Here are my two favorite websites,
families bring in resources so that the problems can be www.wrightslaw.com and www.LDonline.org. Do check
addressed and helped rather than continue to escalate over a them out as they provide a wealth of valuable information.
matter of years. Also, if you have concerns or questions, don’t hesitate to
contact your post adoption support social worker/counselor
We are now asking each family to meet with their home study or contact me. We are here to help, not judge. Let us try to
or post adoption social worker within their first month home. problem solve together. That is what it is all about! Here is a
We honestly believe and hope that visit will help families start quote from Franklin D. Roosevelt that says it best of all,
their life together with their child on a positive footing. "One thing is sure. We have to do something. We have to do
the best we know how at the moment . . .; If it doesn't turn
When issues are identified, even if they seem rather small at out right, we can modify it as we go along."
the time, it is best to check them out with a professional. Ask
your social worker, talk to your pediatrician, child’s teacher or
even call or email me. If issues are addressed while still small,
it is often easier to determine their source, treat them and
CONGRATULATIONS TO OUR GRADS! ASHLEY DINGESS (right)
We want to congratulate the hard-working graduated from Sunny Hills
graduates who shared their exciting news with us. High School on June 17, 2010.
Congratulations, Ashley! And it
was so nice to see you at the
ILYA WILTZ (left)
Beach Party in August!
graduated from Cal
State Long Beach on
May 26, 2010. Ilya
served as president of
GOLDSTEIN (left) graduated
LIANA GABLER (right)
from El Camino Real High
graduated from California
School in Woodland Hills,
State University, Fullerton on
California on June 17, 2010.
May 22, 2010 with a BA in
interned here at Nightlight this
past summer, offering great
support during the Summer
Tour and Reunion and
planning the Adoptees Beach
Party. Congratulations and
thank you, Liana!
JAYDEN PAPPAS (right)
graduated from Mountain
Peak Charter School in
CLAYTON (left) graduated
Fountain Valley, California.
from Upson-Lee High School
Congratulations, Jayden! It
in Thomaston, Georgia on May
was nice to see you at the
28, 2010. Congratulations,
ANYA NICOLE BURKHOLDER graduated from
Brethren Christian High School in Huntington Beach,
California on June 11, 2010. Congratulations, Anya!
AARON TROY (right)
graduated from Avalon High
ANASTACIA NOELLE GEORGE graduated from
School in Avalon, California
Auburn High in Auburn, Alabama on May 25, 2010.
on June 24, 2010.
BACK TO SCHOOL
By Laura Godwin
Now that your child may be going back to school, you may wonder if the teachers will understand your child’s
needs as they relate to adoption. Because many of our children may have a history of living in an orphanage
and in some cases experiencing not only neglect but abuse, it is helpful to have resources to share with
teachers. The Heart of the Matter, a resource site for adoptive parents, has a guide that can help you in talking
with your child’s teachers and creating realistic expectations.
IN THE NEWS
P l ea s e l et u s k n o w i f y o u r fa m i l y i s i n t h e n e w s a n d w e’ l l b e h a p p y t o s h ar e !
Kicker has come from Russia to love, a wonderful story of Oleg Parent’s journey from Russia to Southern
California where he has become quite the star kicker at Trabuco Hills High School, Orange County Register,
May 4, 2010. Congratulations, Oleg!
Nightlight was in the news a great deal the end of August when Judge Royce Lamberth blocked the Federal
government from funding research involving human embryonic stem cells. As Ron mentioned in his letter,
Nightlight has taken a stand on this issue. As a result, the phones were ringing off the hook in the hours and
days after the ruling was announced. The Wall Street Journal, New York Times, Washington Times (August
24, 2010), and newspapers, TV, and radio stations across the country all weighed in on the subject, many of
them interviewing Ron for their stories.
IS THERE EXTRA ROOM IN During the year Juliana was in treatment The theme that comes through in all three
YOUR HEART? (continued from page 5) for cancer, we watched our beautiful little of these stories is that the families have been
girl lose her hair and turn deathly pale as greatly blessed by the children they adopted,
We were drawn to Juliana’s picture when she endured a very difficult course of even though they required some extra
we first saw her because she had beautiful treatments. Throughout all of this Juliana medical attention.
blue eyes that were crossed just like our remained a happy, optimistic little girl
son, Timothy. We knew from experience who almost never complained. Is there extra room in your heart to help a
that strabismus (crossed eyes) was easily child who needs you? Are you wondering
corrected in the U.S. with an outpatient While we were not planning to adopt a what some of the conditions of the waiting
surgery. Juliana was 20 months old when child with a serious medical condition, children are? Here is a brief list: Heart
we brought her home from Belarus, she God gave us the grace to see it through. issues (many times correctable with
had surgery to fix her eyes at 24 months, We feel that it was God’s plan for Julie to surgery), club foot, albinism, missing eye,
and enjoyed good health for the next be adopted into our family so she could intestinal issues, various degrees of cerebral
three years until a fateful day in February both receive treatment for cancer and palsy, cleft lip and palate, dwarfism,
2007. That was when she showed us a have the love and support of parents and anemia, spina bifida, crossed eyes and other
swollen lymph node in her right armpit. siblings. It is very unlikely she would vision problems, deafness, hepatitis B and
The next day at the pediatrician’s office have received any treatment in Belarus C, among others. Many of these conditions
we found a swollen area under her right and she certainly would not have had are correctable with surgery or can be
forearm which started a surreal journey access to all of the latest equipment and minimized through proper care and
of doctor and hospital visits, MRIs, CT specialists that she had here in the U.S. treatment.
scans, PET scans, bone scans and Juliana has already beat the odds by
biopsies. After 3 weeks we knew that making it off treatment for 2 years If you would like to learn more about this
Juliana had a very aggressive, rare without a relapse and her long term program, please contact us. We would be
pediatric muscle cancer called survival odds keep increasing with each happy to add you to the list to receive
Rhabdomyosarcoma and we were facing passing day. We feel sure God must have emails about specific waiting children as
14 rounds of chemotherapy and 6 weeks a very special purpose for Juliana’s life. well. You may contact Lisa@Nightlight.org
of radiation along with a discouraging She is our hero and a walking miracle for more information.
prognosis for her future. and we are honored God chose us to be
CARS 4 CAUSES BABY BOTTLE FUNDRAISERS
If you would like to donate an old car, truck, These fundraisers are a very successful means of
or van, regardless of where you live, you may allowing churches to become involved in a
contact Cars 4 Causes and they will take care of everything. profound way in support of Nightlight
Christian Adoptions and our ministry to help
Phone (800) 766-CARE (800-766-2273). Tell them you would
women who are facing a crisis pregnancy. Please
like the proceeds to be given to Nightlight Christian Adoptions.
talk to people at your church to find out if they
Cars 4 Causes will pick up the car, towing it if necessary, without
would like to support a fundraiser. You may contact
charge to you. Cars 4 Causes fixes up the car, sells it, and sends a
Kathryn Deiters for more information.
check to Nightlight.
If you have any questions about the program, please call
Nightlight at (714) 693-5437.
LAILA ROSE FOUNDATION
WAYS YOU CAN HELP NIGHTLIGHT
If you are considering adopting a special needs child, The Laila
WHEN SURFING THE WEB OR SHOPPING Rose Foundation may be able to help. The Foundation was
Are you going to be doing some Christmas shopping
formed in 2006, in loving memory of Laila Rose Engh, who
online this year? You could help Nightlight in the
was lost at the tender age of four in a tragic automobile
process. By adding the GoodSearch toolbar to your
accident, along with her dear mother, Lisa Engh. The family
computer, either Internet Explorer or Firefox, each time
has decided to turn their grief into action and find a way for
you shop at more than 1,300 stores (from Amazon to
Laila’s legacy to bring the sort of joy to others that she brought
Zazzle) a percentage of your purchase will automatically
to her family’s lives as a daughter, sister, granddaughter, niece,
be donated to Nightlight! And it doesn’t cost you a penny.
You may even save money as the toolbar provides The mission of the Foundation is to provide needed support to
coupons and deals as well. The toolbar also has a foreign born orphans eligible to come to or already arrived in
search box and each time you search the Internet about the United States for adoption, to the adoptive families of such
a penny is donated to Nightlight. What could be better? orphans, and to organizations assisting the orphans and
Please pass this information on to your kids and your
friends. All you need to do is go to:
You too may join in helping children by contacting the
adoptions. If you have any questions or problems,
Foundation at email@example.com or by calling (703) 360-
please give us a call at (714) 693-5437 and we’ll walk
you through it. Thank you for your support!
DETSKY DOM PARTNERS
CRAFTING FOR NIGHTLIGHT
Do you like to make crafts? You probably received our e- Detsky Dom Partners is the humanitarian
newsletter about a fun opportunity that Jo-Ann Stores is foundation that is helping orphans around
offering, Crafting for a Cause. The intent is to encourage the world. Detsky Dom Partners is providing material aid and
Jo-Ann customers to make and donate a handmade item financial support to orphans worldwide, including bringing
directly to their favorite charity. You must be 14 or older children to the
to enter. Each person enters their craft on behalf of U.S. for Summer
Nightlight. You are then eligible yourself to win one of Tours.
five $1,500 gift cards from Jo-Ann. The three non-profits
who receive the most craft item entries submitted on their If you would like
behalf (photos of the craft are entered), are then eligible to support
to receive a portion of a $90,000 donation from Jo-Ann Detsky Dom
and its partner organizations. Partners or
Above: 2010 Summer Tour
You may register at www.Joann.com and in their search
would like to
box type, Craft for a Cause, to get all of the details—
learn more about
you’ll be sending photos of your entry to Jo-Anns and the
this organization and how you might be able to help, please
actual item to Nightlight if you’d like to donate it. The
visit the website at www.detskydompartners.org or contact
contest ends October 30th though so be sure you enter
Kathryn Deiters (Kathryn@Nightlight.org). One way to
provide support is through corporations providing matching
funds for donations you make. We will be happy to give you
Here are a few ideas for crafts you could make:
any information the corporation needs for this purpose.
Blankets for babies and older children, jewelry, decorated
photo albums, purses, quilts, cloth baby books, cloth THE TRICYCLE GUILD
dolls, scarves and hats for any age, just to name a few.
Are you looking for a worthy organization to
If you’re willing to part with your prize creation and donate support, volunteering your time and talents?
it to Nightlight, we have several events coming up: Nightlight has the answer—The Tricycle
Guild! We get together and have parties just
October 2010: Mission trip to Uganda for fun; we have gatherings to plan upcoming
November 2010: Nightlight will have its first online events, and we have “work parties” before our big events.
March 2011: Nightlight Gala and Auction For further information or if you are interested in joining The
July 2011: Summer Tour Children would love a little Tricycle Guild, please contact Kathryn Deiters at (714) 693-
photo album for photos of their trip. 5437 or Kathryn@Nightlight.org.
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RUBY’S FUNDRAISER or email and we’ll send you more:
SATURDAY, OCTOBER 16, 2010 714.693.5437 or firstname.lastname@example.org. You NIGHTLIGHT CALENDAR
have to present the flyer when paying your
7:00 A.M. – 9:00 P.M. bill though. The money raised will be used 2010
If you live in Southern California and enjoy for our new Scholarship Program at
02 Medical Issues of Int’l Adoption
Ruby’s Diner as much as we do, this will be Nightlight, to help special needs and older
13 Attachment & Other Issues
a fun and easy way to support Nightlight. children be adopted.
16 Ruby’s Diner Fundraiser
Just cut out the flyer below, and head over You can help Nightlight by going anytime
to the Ruby’s Diner in Fullerton any time
during October 16th, but if you’d like to
during October 16th and enjoy a meal meet up with other Nightlighters, be sure to
07 Orphan Sunday
at Rubys - 20% of your bill will go to come around 3:00 p.m. Several of us will
13 Adoption Seminar
Nightlight. If you need more flyers, to give be there at Ruby’s at 3:00 p.m.
to family or friends that might want to go
at a different time, just give our office a call Hope to see you there! December
02 Life-Long Issues in Adoption
09 Domestic Adoption Decisions
05 Attachment & Other Issues
29 Asia Reunion
17 Life-Long Issues in Adoption
24 Domestic Adoption Decisions
26 Adoption Seminar
12 Gala Auction & Dinner
23 Attachment & Other Issues
05 Life-Long Issues in Adoption
07 Adoption Seminar
19 Domestic Adoption Decisions
08 Attachment & Other Issues
04 Life-Long Issues in Adoption
11 Domestic Adoption Decisions
17 Adoption Seminar
21 Attachment & Other Issues
03 Life-Long Issues in Adoption
10 Domestic Adoption Decisions
For more information on any
of these events, please call
the office: (714) 693-5437.
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