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					Marrieds Ministry WORKSHOP SERIES
Part 1 of 4 Parts April 24, 2005 Praxedes Place, Kapitolyo

WORKSHOP SERIES
 Part 1: April 24 (Sun svc), 4-6pm
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“Theological Word Pictures of Marriage” by Rolan & Weng Monje
“Unity and Intimacy during Difficulty” by Cesar & Jennifer Lopez “The Stages of the Pinoy Family” by Rico Salcedo & Roy Soriano

 Part 2: Jun 29 (Wed devo), 7:30pm
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 Part 3: Aug 25 (Thu devo), 7:30pm
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 Part 4: Retreats by Region
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All parts feature a lesson, panel disc, dgroup time, & HW.

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Outline
Theological Word Pictures of Marriage by Rolan & Weng Monje

What are Word Pictures? How does the Bible „picture‟ marriage? What does God expect?

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What are Word Pictures?
 Words “making pictures”
 One way to explain concepts  Used in any language (metaphor)

 Common in Hebrew & Aramaic
 Used by Bible authors (mostly Jews) in both

the OT and NT  A helpful angle for getting biblical insight
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Word Pictures to explain concepts
 The Bible uses word pictures to explain many

concepts (e.g. Bible - honey, Jesus-Good Shepherd)

 Many of these concepts would not be

understood as well without word pictures.  Can you think of some other examples?

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Focus on Marriage
 Very important for Christians to study out

marriage in the Bible.  Remember, the foremost analogy that God uses to describe his relationship with us is no other than marriage!  This dramatic biblical use of the marriage analogy is enough to make us think about marriage seriously.
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Why is it important to have a good marriage?
 Because God wants it
 Because it is needed to raise godly children  Because if marriage does bad, it hurts our

witness; a good marriage helps our witness  Because it makes us appreciate God more  Because people need hope in a broken world

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Word Pictures of Marriage
Today, we will look at four different OT word pictures that the Bible uses to describe the marriage bond.
Note that these are all from the point of view of the man (husband).
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#1: A Serious Oath [berith]
 In the OT, several types of “agreements” are

mentioned. The most important kind is called the covenant.  Several „rituals‟ were done to show the seriousness of the covenant (agreement).  The Hebrew word berith is related to the word “cut.” The idiom is that of “cutting a covenant.” In fact, animals were indeed “cut” to show the seriousness of the agreement.
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#1: A Serious Oath
 Cutting animals was common in the Ancient

Near East.

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Cutting a covenant
 An animal was cut/sliced and both parties

would pass between the parts, signifying, “May I become like this animal if I don‟t fulfill my promise…”

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God did “berith” with Abraham
So the LORD said to him, "Bring me a heifer, a goat and a ram…Abram brought all these to him, cut them in two and arranged the halves opposite each other… When the sun had set and darkness had fallen, a smoking firepot with a blazing torch appeared and passed between the pieces. On that day the LORD made a covenant with Abram and said, "To your descendants I give this land… Gen 15:9,10,17-18
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God did “berith” with Abraham
Using symbols, God “passed between” the pieces, showing the seriousness of his promise.
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Can you imagine going through the pieces?
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For marriage, God uses “covenant”
You flood the LORD's altar with tears… "Why?" It is because the LORD is acting as the witness between you and the wife of your youth, because you have broken faith with her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant…So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth. "I hate divorce," says the LORD God of Israel, "and I hate a man's covering himself with violence as well as with his garment," says the LORD Almighty. – Mal 2:13-16
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Marriage as a covenant
It would be good for us to treat marriage as seriously as God treats his covenants.
God is “bloody” serious!

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Marriage as a covenant
God is serious about covenants.

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Marriage as a covenant
When you got married, it was like “passing between” the pieces.
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Marriage as a covenant
 Marriage is a serious oath!

 We need to take is seriously, and God will

help us fulfill it.

Challenge: Remember your solemn oath.

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Remember your solemn oath.
» Be grateful & consider him/her a blessing. » Have times to remember your wedding/special times. » Pray with/for your spouse everyday.

» Commit to recommit.
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#2 A Secret Garden [na’al gan]
 Song of songs is a love hymn about

married romance.
 It uses a lot of word pictures.

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A Secret Garden
You are a garden locked up, my sister, my bride; you are a spring enclosed, a sealed fountain.
You are a garden fountain, a well of flowing water streaming down from Lebanon.

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A Secret Garden
Awake, north wind, and come, south wind! Blow on my garden, that its fragrance may spread abroad. Let my lover come into his garden and taste its choice fruits. - Song of Songs 4:12, 15, 16

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A Secret Garden
 D you picture your

secret garden like this?

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A Secret Garden
 Or like this?

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A Secret Garden
 Or like these?

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A Secret Garden
 Which picture describes your garden?

OR

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A Secret Garden
 You should look

forward to your time alone because it is exclusive.  No one else is allowed or best suited for your secret garden!
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A Secret Garden
» Like any garden, our marriage like a needs attention, constant tending & nourishment.

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A Secret Garden: Taking it deeper
» Sex is a gift. The world abuses the gift. » Only you two can satisfy each other in the most private ways. » Sam Laing: The thing that distinguishes the
relationship of husband and wife from every other relationship is the “one flesh” aspect…Take it out, and the depth of closeness and love for one another will not reach its God-given potential.

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A Secret Garden

Challenge: Celebrate your sexuality.

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A Secret Garden
For men: Know & show that there is more to love than sex.

For women: Acknowledge that you want to meet your husbands physical needs.
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Celebrate your sexuality
» Don’t take each other for granted.

» Strive to keep growing in your physical relationship.

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#3 A Satisfied Man [ravah]
 Marriage is described as a satisfying

relationship.  In those days, thirst was satisfied by getting water from a cistern… “every one of you will eat from his own vine and fig tree and drink water from his own cistern”

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#3 A Satisfied Man

Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares? Let them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers. – Pr 5:15-17

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#3 A Satisfied Man
May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer-- may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love. Why be captivated, my son, by an adulteress? Why embrace the bosom of another man's wife? For a man's ways are in full view of the LORD, and he examines all his paths. – Pr 5:18-21
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Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well…
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Ancient Cisterns

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A Satisfied Man
 A man should be satisfied with his

cistern/fountain, but he should also take care of it!  Point: Marriage should meet each other‟s needs. The idea is that no one else on earth can meet your needs of your needs like you.

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A satisfied man = A confident man
 A man should be

satisfied with his cistern/fountain…
 But that also

depends on how he takes care of it!
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What happens…
When we don‟t pay attention to each other‟s needs?

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What happens…
When we don‟t pay attention to each other‟s needs?

progressive nature of emotion

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Another word picture...
A nagging wife is as annoying as the constant dripping on a rainy day. - Prov 27:15 (NLT)

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The “nagging wife” picture

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The “nagging wife” picture
Drip-like nagging (from any side) shows that needs are not being met.
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But if you meet each other’s needs
The man is the first to be fired up! (And the woman naturally follows).

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A Satisfied Man

Challenge: Meet each other’s needs.

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Meet each other’s needs.
» Be generous with praise. » Learn to accept each other (esp. weaknesses). » Communicate your needs. (slow start-up) » Strive to call each other higher spiritually.

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#4 A Blazing Fire [reseph ‘esh]
 Fire is used in the Bible to depict

many different things.  One of the things denoted by fire is an awesome marriage!

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#4 A Blazing Fire
 Remember, Song of Songs…

Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame. – SS 8:6

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How’s the fire?

Is your fire for each other still blazing hot?
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O uling nalang?

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How’s the fire?

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Make your marriage a blazing fire!

Challenge: Keep the romance alive!

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Keep the romance alive.
» Everyday romance. »Work on something, physical/spiritual together. »Make yourself attractive (physically and spiritually).
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The Word Pictures
 These word pictures help

us understand God‟s heart for us as married couples.  These show us how much God desires the best for our marriages!

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Word Pictures of Marriage

What are Word Pictures? How does the Bible „picture‟ marriage? What now?

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Word Pictures of Marriage
Word Pictures are…
 Words “making pictures”  One way to explain concepts

 Especially common in Hebrew & Aramaic
 Used by Bible writers

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Summary of Word Pictures

1. A Serious Oath [berith] 2. A Secret Garden [na’al gan] 3. A Satisfied Man [ravah] 4. A Blazing Fire [reseph ‘esh]

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Konting HW (until June 29)
1. Pray about your marriage. 2. Discuss this workshop with your spouse (maybe during a date?). 3. Spend time with at least two couples you think you can learn from/relate with. 4. Memorize Mal 2:16 together. 5. Do the follow-up sheet together.
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Let’s be encouraged!

God shows us in the Bible that He wants the best for our marriages.
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Let’s be encouraged!

The price tag of a great marriage is not too high.
God believes in us! He’s behind us!

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Conclusion

So let’s work on and grow in our marriages

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Conclusion

May your marriage be a “picture” of forever...
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PROPOSED WORKSHOP SERIES
 Part 1: April 24 (Sun svc), 4-6pm


“Theological Word Pictures of Marriage” by Rolan & Weng Monje
“Unity and Intimacy during Difficulty” by Cesar & Jennifer Lopez “The Stages of the Pinoy Family” by Rico Salcedo & Roy Soriano

 Part 2: Jun 29 (Wed devo), 7:30pm


 Part 3: Aug 25 (Thu devo), 7:30pm


 Part 4: Retreats by Region


All parts feature a lesson, panel disc, dgroup time, & HW.

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