1.Where to Find Inner Peace! It's no secret that some people spend a lifetime chasing inner peace outside of themselves and in the end find themselves still wondering where "inner peace" is. Did you know that the real secret to finding "inner peace" isn't by achieving and accomplishing things on the outside rather it is by going deep within yourself and realizing that inner peace that is already within you. Sounds easy enough, right? Yet, here you are still searching for inner peace which is why in this article you will discover perhaps the most powerful way to discover that inner peace within. Where to Find Inner Peace! Want to know where to find inner peace? The truth is inner peace has always been and always will be inside of you and it is always present in all ways always. However, it is often difficult or challenging to experience the stillness and power of inner peace as you are connected with the things without rather than the "no thing" within. And for good reason, if you were only connected to the "no thing" within your experience of life wouldn't exist at least as you now know it. Yet, before we get lost into the limitations of words, thoughts, and imagination (which is part of the challenge to begin with) it is time for you to know the real secret to discovering inner peace. The practice of meditation and stilling the mind is the secret to finding inner peace. Interestingly enough, when you first begin your meditation practice at times it may seem as if it is anything but stilling or inner peace as you become aware of more and more unconscious habits, thoughts, and patterns that have been covering your Inner Peace all along. Thankfully, in time, as you begin to go deeper and deeper into your meditation practice you will begin to get glimpses into that Inner Peace and at least in my experience the more often I experience the awareness of that silence the Inner Love, Joy, and Peace the easier it becomes for me to see and feel that Inner Love, Joy, and Peace within and without in all ways always. Of course, your experience might be entirely different as we each will experience Inner Peace and Contentment in our own unique and special way. With that said I know this much is true, all the great books of ancient all in some way or another point towards Meditation as one of the keys to experiencing Inner Peace. Thaddeus Ferguson has dedicated himself to the cause of helping people heal themselves first in order to help heal the world during this amazing time of transformation. The practice of Meditation is just one of the many powerful tools that you can use in order to help Heal You First. 2. Practical and Useful Steps to Gain Inner Peace We all crave inner peace, but how do we reach it? Will it take years of intense meditation practice to reach inner peace? Will you need to spend hours in weekly yoga classes? Will you need to climb to the top of a Himalayan mountain and seek the counsel of an old wise man to share the ancient secret to inner peace? While your path to expanding inner peace may or may not include meditation, yoga, or spiritual wise men, it will be a unique journey. Discovering inner peace often leads us down a twisty, curvy road. However, if you are ready to step onto that pathway and have greater inner peace, continue reading and discover practical and useful steps that you need to know to get started. Definition of What Inner Peace Is Not Let's begin by gaining a deeper understanding of what inner peace is not. Being able to rule out some false ideas of inner peace may just save you years of frustration. First, inner peace does not mean that you walk around thinking only "positive" thoughts. The mind simply doesn't work that way, and besides, it is almost impossible to try to control what your mind thinks. In addition, inner peace is not an evened out emotional state where there are no highs or lows. Inner peace does not show up when everything about your self, life, or the world is perfect. You probably already know that inner peace is not found in food, overeating, or finding some way to escape from your stress or emotions. What you might not realize is that inner peace is also not found at the end of your weight loss goal, or for that matter at the end of any goal. If you do not experience inner peace with a particular aspect of your current life - whether it be with your body, occupation, partner, home, etc. - you will not gain inner peace by merely losing weight, changing your job or partner, or moving. For example, if you do not cultivate love for you body and life now, it will not suddenly appear when you are thin. A person outside of you does not award inner peace to you because you worked hard enough, attained your goal, achieved the perfect body, or because you have been a "good" boy or girl. In other words, inner peace is not something you can earn. Definition of What Inner Peace Is So what is inner peace? Inner peace refers to a state of having enough knowledge to stand strong even in the face of stressful or undesirable life situations. It is an ability to breathe deeply, find center, and regain an internal sense of calm or fortitude during all of life's experiences. It is the ability to handle situations and conflicts, in life and in ourselves, with acceptance, empathy, and creativity. Sometimes, inner peace is defined as having a calmness and general freedom from anxiety. However, perhaps more importantly, rather than seeking the absence of negative thoughts, stress, or emotions, inner peace is your ability to accept those thoughts, worry, and feelings when they occur. Then instead of getting stuck in them being able to move beyond them. Inner peace grows as you remind yourself that you have the capacity to deal with your challenges. You may not know exactly how or when you will reach a desirable outcome to your situation, but you have an inner peace knowing that you will persevere and achieve success. For example, instead of stressing or worrying and then using overeating to calm or avoid dealing with an unpleasant situation or emotions, you would know how to tap into your inner peace and find creative solutions to your problems. Inner peace is your ability to slide back into your own genuine optimism and faith in life and yourself, and to deal with anxiety, stress, or emotions when they occur. How Do You Gain Inner Peace? How do you gain inner peace? Attaining inner peace is a ongoing process that evolves, grows, and expands as you place your attention on it. It is an ever-expanding realization that you are safe in the world, that you have the power to create change in your world, and that you are connected to love itself. This inner peace does not happen overnight. It happens gradually throughout your lifetime. First, you deliberately and consciously choose having greater inner peace as your objective, and then you decide to take small daily actions that support your having what you want. A great working definition of inner peace would be, "I am glad to be alive!" This definition points to the importance and joy of your own life. It is a feeling of wanting to be here on Earth - even through the sad times and the bad times. If you look at your own life right now, you can quickly see where you are in terms of feeling, "It's great to be me, it's great to be alive!" Maybe you are way up high on the scale, loving yourself and loving life. Then again, maybe you are way down the scale, depressed, not seeing much point to your life, or even contemplating suicide. However much or little inner peace you currently have . . . there is more. However, having more requires that you decide that you want to be alive and you want to experience inner peace while you are alive. Making this conscious decision immediately puts you on the path to attaining your desire. Once you are on your path, begin to notice what comes your way. Notice if you want to spend more time outdoors, or if you are led to reading a certain book. Notice if you are drawn to a certain deep breathing class, if you are tired of talking negatively to yourself, or if you feel a need to fill your life with more plants, living food, or animals. Amazingly, your path to ever expanding inner peace involves something as simple making a decision to have inner peace, then listening to your inner suggestions and following through on your inner nudges. Do this deliberately, everyday, and you will begin to notice the changes that occur within you. Choose inner peace and choose the actions that support inner peace...and watch yourself awakening to a new sense of, "It is good to be alive!" 3. Meditation and the 7 Steps to Inner Peace If you want to experience inner peace, you don't need to travel to exotic locations, study with a yogi or lock yourself in a room and chant endlessly. Finding inner peace is a matter of taking time for yourself to quietly reflect on the stillness within you. We're all so busy rushing from one thing to another, occupying our precious time with things that don't even need our immediate attention. Sadly, we seldom take time for ourselves to be at peace. Truth is, the idea of someone having 20 minutes of free time to do nothing could very well put them in a panic! Most people wouldn't know what to do with themselves. That's because they don't know inner peace. Inner peace is the reflection of within. It is the focus of the quiet stillness within you that gives you a sense of the kind of peace and relaxation that is without words. Meditation is the secret to finding inner peace. Inner peace is the secret to spiritual awakening and oneness with your spiritual self. Here are some suggestions that will help you find inner peace. 1. Spend Time In Quiet Reflection With all that's going on in the world today, one of the best things you can do to achieve inner peace is to minimize or eliminate reading newspapers and watching the news. When we allow our mind to absorb the negativity that's around us, we become more detached from our spirituality and achieving inner peace. When our mind has nothing to occupy it, it immediately feels insecure and looks for something to fill the void. That's when we instantly turn on the TV or surf the internet, anything to keep the mind busy. Instead, when you find yourself with some free time, even if it's just 15 minutes, use that time to be still, to be by yourself, to focus inward. A guided meditation will help you take a huge leap forward toward inner peace. 2. You Are What You Think We've been conditioned to think negativity - sad but true. People thrive on bad news, they buy it, they follow it, they seek it out. It's no wonder that so many people seem so unhappy and withdrawn, unable to escape the self-imposed wall of negativity they've build around themselves. We must take the necessary steps to avoid negative thinking. You'll never be able to achieve inner peace when you're focused on the negative. There's simply nothing at all to be gained by thinking negative thoughts. Changing your way of thinking is not going to be easy - it doesn't happen overnight. But what steps are you willing to take to change your life and achieve inner peace? You are the master of your mind, not the other way around. Take control of your thoughts and you'll not only take control of your life, but you'll achieve inner peace. 3. Simplify Your Life "There never enough time in the day." How many times have you heard someone say that? We fill our days up with so many chores, tasks and mundane activities and as a result, we don't stand a chance in achieving inner peace. Simply because we don't take the time. You want to meditate but have to get the laundry done. You want to spend some time to yourself but the grass has to be mowed. You want to sit down for just a few minutes but you have to vacuum first. When you stop placing demands on your time, you'll feel a weight lifted from your shoulders. Prioritize your time by tackling the big tasks first, plan time for yourself, then accomplish some of the smaller tasks, but at a comfortable pace. You'll find your day a lot less hectic and a lot more enjoyable. 4. Quiet Time Alone Is The Foundation of Inner Peace Each day we spend our time working for someone else, taking care of our families, cleaning, cooking, etc. Sadly, we never manage to find just 15 minutes to focus on inner peace. Sitting quietly and simply listening to the breath allows the body and mind to relax. This cultivates inner peace. There's no amount of money that will bring you inner peace. There's nothing "without" you that can bring you inner peace. It must come from "within" you, from within those quiet moments of solitude when there is only you and stillness. If you have trouble stilling you mind, ask your angels to help remove those busy thoughts so you can focus on inner peace. 5. Be Immune to Flattery and Criticism You must remember that it's not what others think, but what you think that matters. We certainly can listen to the criticism and flattery of others, but if we depend on them, we rob ourselves of inner peace. Allowing yourself to be affected by people who bestow either flattery or criticism on you will inflate your ego which pulls you further away from inner peace. Allow yourself to have a strong sense of confidence and self. Know that your opinions are ultimately the ones that matter. Don't criticize anyone but instead accept them for who they are. Leave the criticism to those who lack good judgment and self-confidence. 6. Act Selflessly Act from the heart and reap the rewards! Give selflessly of yourself. When we serve others in some form, the feelings of love, happiness and inner peace will envelope you like a big hug from someone you love. 7. Avoid Criticism of Others It's vital that we empathize with others, to put ourselves in someone else's place. We must be aware that everyone is fighting a battle of some kind. Criticism of others is a negative energy that deeply affects your sense of inner peace. When we criticize, it's impossible to feel inner peace. Instead, make an effort to give your love and energy to others in need, and in doing so that positive energy will have a wonderful ripple effect. 4. 20 Reasons Why You Need Inner Peace and Tranquility Inner peace is not reserved only to yogis, hermits or monks, sitting alone in a far off place, praying or meditating all day long. It can also be attained by people living an ordinary life, who have a job, married and with children. Inner peace is a state of being emotionally and mentally at peace and strong in the face of discord or stress. It is the opposite of being stressed or anxious. True inner peace, confers tranquility, inner harmony and inner balance, and is an inner condition, which is independent of external conditions and circumstances. It can be acquired through proper training, resulting in the ability to remain calm, undisturbed and unhurried in difficult and unpleasant situations. When there is inner peace there are no anxieties and fears, no negative thoughts or negative expectations, no stress and no lack of satisfaction and happiness. It is a state of emotional and mental poise, happiness, confidence and inner strength. Though almost everyone desires inner peace, albeit unconsciously, few realize its importance and benefits, and very few realize that it is a skill that can be learned and developed. You can stay where you are, without making external changes in your life, and yet attain inner peace. Some might go faster and others might progress at a slower pace. Some might reach high and others not so high, but any amount of inner peace and tranquility gained is a great achievement that can transform one's life. There are many reasons why you need to gain at least some measure of inner peace. Here are 20 reasons to consider: 1. Inner peace improves your ability to concentrate. 2. It improves the ability to handle efficiently the daily affairs of life. 3. It increases your inner strength and power. 4. Inner peace eliminates impatience, anger, nervousness and restlessness. 5. Inner peace develops patience, tolerance and tact. 6. It makes you feel centered, grounded, and stable. 7. Being mentally and emotionally calm contributes to improved sleep. 8. You gain the ability to be emotionally and mentally unaffected by what people think or say about you. 9. It eliminates stress, anxieties and worries. 10. Inner peace brings inner happiness and bliss. 11. It increases self mastery and self discipline. 12. It relaxes the body and nerves. 13. The healing energies of the body work unhindered. 14. Being peaceful enables you not to be swayed by events, hardships and difficulties, and to maintain inner poise, clear judgement and common sense in such situations. 15. Inner peace eliminates negative, futile and restless thinking. 16. It improves your relationships with other people. 17. It makes life look brighter. 18. It increases creativity. 19. It makes it easier to meditate. 20. It is the gateway to enlightenment and spiritual awakening. True inner peace is important not only while things move smoothly, but especially in times of trouble, difficulties or danger. Then it counts most. Inner peace ultimately brings peace into your life, your affairs and your relationships, and to the world around you. Remez Sasson teaches and writes on positive thinking, creative visualization, motivation, self-improvement, peace of mind, spiritual growth and meditation. He is the author of several books, among which are "Peace of mind in Daily Life", "Will Power and Self Discipline", "Visualize and Achieve" and "Affirmations - Words of Power". 5. The 3 Enemies Of Inner Peace Although it's quite hard to define what inner peace really is, we all know what it feels like because we've all had times in our life when we experienced it. For many inner peace is nothing but fleeting moments of bliss that is more often than not something that they cannot really hold on to. One of the main benefits of living a more spiritual life is to cultivate a greater sense of inner peace in your life. Inner peace is a deep inner sense of ease - a sense of inner comfort and stillness that is both joyful and calming. Inner peace will free you from many of the demands and expectations that drive most people over the edge. By living your life with a greater sense of self awareness you can start to cultivate a sense of inner peace and live life with a greater sense of clarity and perspective. Living your life with a sense of inner peace is not so much a conscious pursuit as it is the result of living your life in a certain way. It's not so much in what you do as it is what you don't do. Your nature - your own spiritual essence (your soul) comes from a place of peace and it's ultimate pursuit is to be at peace. The challenge that we are all faced with is that our everyday lives tend to distract us from a sense of inner peace. There are 3 culprits in particular, that causes most people to disconnect themselves from this sense of inner peace. - The Ego Your ego is that part of you that's like a veil to your spirit. It's the external facade that we all wear in order to operate in this world. Your ego constantly reminds you about your separateness and how you have to proof yourself by being better than, faster than or stronger than everybody else. Your ego is the source of most of the conflicts in your life. These can be conflicts with other people and even with yourself because the ego is fixated on being the most important person. Having a sense of inner peace allows you to be in harmony with everyone and everything. The effect of inner peace is a sense of unity and you start to see both your environment and your fellow human beings as being connected to you in some invisible way. Although you cannot rid yourself of your ego, you can go along way in subduing the ego and focusing on living from your higher self instead trying to satisfy your ego and all the millions of demands it places on you every day. - Living In The Future So many people waste away their precious time living their lives in a time other than now. Wallowing in the past serves no purpose and no matter what you do you cannot change that which is over. Worrying about what might happen in the future will only cause you to feel an inner sense of turmoil. Worry tends to consume your entire mind, removing you from feeling at peace. One of the key spiritual realizations is to understand that the only 'time' you really have is now. Where your thoughts are now is where you are. If you think that one day when you have enough money or when the right person comes along or when you are fit and healthy THEN you will be happy - think again! Divert your thoughts and your energy to the present moment instead and give up everything that's over and done with and let go of everything that might be. - Spiritual Ignorance There is an aspect to each and everyone of us that is invisible, yet very real. This higher self, your spirit is who you really are. You will continue to feel unfulfilled in life until you recognize and nurture the seeds of divinity deep within you. It is this spiritual part of you that seeks to be at peace. When you recognize and nurture your own divinity you can start to listen more to your Self and less to the demands and expectations of the world. Knowing what brings you a sense of inner peace is the essence of living a more peaceful life. By becoming more aware of these three 'enemies' of inner peace you can start to make a more conscious effort to stay connected with your own spirituality and live a more blissful life. An inner sense of quiet and tranquility is a very important part of being happy in your Self. Make it your goal in life not to achieve or have more, but instead to be at peace and reorganize your priorities to create an environment within yourself where your spirit can thrive. 6. Forgiveness - A Two-Fold Approach Forgiveness One of the most difficult and often misguided human attributes is to forgive. Forgiveness asks us to look deep into one's self and look past hurt, disappointment, and fear. It asks us to to look to the deepest corner of our being and seek compassion toward self or others. Forgiveness is two-fold. A person must be inclined to forgive one's self. An individual who's unable to forgive one's self throughout life's journey, will forever be hounded and weighed down upon. The inability to forgive one's self will hamper the ability to forgive another, for how can one forgive another if they are unwilling or unable to forgive themselves. True forgiveness is born from within, and as such, draws one's gaze toward the individual self, the individual being. As in love, one must be willing to forgive oneself prior to forgiving another. The second part of forgiveness needs to be approached with true empathy and understanding. Once an individual has been able to successfully forgive themselves, especially for the wrongs they have committed toward themselves in life's journey, then they are able to go outside of themselves and attempt to forgive another or ask for forgiveness from another. Life's most humbling journey is when one can acknowledge a wrong committed against one's-self or another and truly forgive the wrongdoer (be they the individual themselves, another, a community of people, society or even God). Forgiveness leads to healing. Forgiveness leads to understanding. Forgiveness leads toward redemption. Forgiveness leads to faith. Forgiveness leads to LOVE (caritas). True forgiveness breaks down all barriers and leaves one naked before the other or self. To ask for forgiveness a person must know what it is like to forgive. To forgive one must know what it is like to be forgiven. Forgiveness is a way of life. It brings renewal in times of despair. It brings hope in times of crisis. It brings solitude in times of loneliness. It brings solace in times of hurt. Like LOVE, true forgiveness does not envy, boast, or hold qualms. True forgiveness brings understanding and awareness. Its the acknowledgement of some sort of wrongdoing and moving on, moving forward. Some people and scholars would argue that true forgiveness is a fallacy. Others would argue that in order to achieve True Forgiveness one must be willing to forget. I argue that true forgiveness allows us to understand and learn from the wrong done to one's self or another. In order for this to work, forgiveness continually needs to be renewed and rejuvenated. Forgiveness draws its true inspiration from love and yet its true goal is love. If we recall the story of the Prodigal Son (Luke 15:11-32): 11 Jesus continued: "There was a man who had two sons. 12 The younger one said to his father, 'Father, give me my share of the estate.' So he divided his property between them. 13 "Not long after that, the younger son got together all he had, set off for a distant country and there squandered his wealth in wild living. 14 After he had spent everything, there was a severe famine in that whole country, and he began to be in need. 15 So he went and hired himself out to a citizen of that country, who sent him to his fields to feed pigs. 16 He longed to fill his stomach with the pods that the pigs were eating, but no one gave him anything. 17 "When he came to his senses, he said, 'How many of my father's hired men have food to spare, and here I am starving to death! 18 I will set out and go back to my father and say to him: Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. 19 I am no longer worthy to be called your son; make me like one of your hired men.' 20 So he got up and went to his father. "But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him and kissed him. 21 "The son said to him, 'Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son.[a]' 22 "But the father said to his servants, 'Quick! Bring the best robe and put it on him. Put a ring on his finger and sandals on his feet. 23 Bring the fattened calf and kill it. Let's have a feast and celebrate. 24 For this son of mine was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.' So they began to celebrate. 25 "Meanwhile, the older son was in the field. When he came near the house, he heard music and dancing. 26 So he called one of the servants and asked him what was going on. 27 'Your brother has come,' he replied, 'and your father has killed the fattened calf because he has him back safe and sound.' 28 "The older brother became angry and refused to go in. So his father went out and pleaded with him. 29 But he answered his father, 'Look! All these years I've been slaving for you and never disobeyed your orders. Yet you never gave me even a young goat so I could celebrate with my friends. 30 But when this son of yours who has squandered your property with prostitutes comes home, you kill the fattened calf for him!' 31 " 'My son,' the father said, 'you are always with me, and everything I have is yours. 32 But we had to celebrate and be glad, because this brother of yours was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.' In the Prodigal Son, we see that the youngest son, needed to come to forgive himself first. This forgiveness, allows him to come to the awareness that leads him back home. Ultimately the father is able to forgive the son and take him back in. The eldest son's inability to forgive himself and live with jealousy toward his brother does not allow him to face the reality lying before him and forgive his brother. How many times to we look down at ourselves and don't forgive ourselves for our actions and wrong doings to ourselves? How many times do we dwell upon the moments of life--however insignificant they may seem--that seem to rob us of our true happiness and love? How many times are we unable to forgive those close around and closest to us--many times for being themselves? How many times are we unwilling to swallow our own pride and ask for forgiveness, especially when we know we're in the wrong? The inability to forgive ourselves and others, and ask for forgiveness from ourselves and others robs us of our passions, loves, joys, time. That inability leaves with doubt, fear, regret failure and disappointment. To forgive is Divine. Forgiveness helps us to transcend from the physical to the metaphysical realm. Forgiveness brings us ever closer to God. It is one of the few human actions that asks us to heal physical, emotional, and psychological hurts. Since its an action that requires both internal and external actions, it forces us to another realm. To forgive is not a natural human act, but one that if born from the right "chispa" can bring much healing in all the areas of our lives. With this said, I want to genuinely ask for forgiveness from those I've transgressed, hurt, disappointed and let down. I am truly sorry and apologize for any wrong doings I may have committed against you. However, insignificant it may have seemed at the time, I know it was cause of much pain or hurt to you and I am sorry. I hope that you may find it in you to forgive me. I pray that you may find comfort, healing, solace and closure for my inadequacies and the hurt that I may have caused, either consciously or unconsciously. Likewise, I want to forgive those who have caused hurt and pain in someway or another. I have learned much throughout life and have learned that even in moments of hurt and pain, true healing cannot begin to take place until I can forgive those moments in my life. I pray that you may one day find it in you to forgive yourself for your actions and may find comfort in knowing that you have been forgiven. P.S.-- "Carpe Diem--SEIZE the DAY." Seize every opportunity you have and make the best of it. 7. The Art of Forgiveness: Healing Your Life and Others Imagine how perfect our world would be if we could live by three simple life affirming principles: "Do not hurt yourself," "Do not hurt others," and "Do not destroy property." During the course of our lives we make lots of mistakes. In fact, it seems that we never learn from those who came before us. We have this trait that, if we were any smart, we would let it go immediately. Instead, we are adamant about making our mistakes and learning from them, silly us! In any case, every time we disobey the rules, we either need to apologize or, if others disregard these principles, we need to forgive. In my article: "Who Wants To Apologize? How Simple Words Can Heal Your Life," I talk about the act of asking for forgiveness. Now, let me focus on the art of forgiving. Based on the three life affirming principles, the very first person you need to forgive is yourself for hurting the most important person in your life: You. That's right. I know most people consider their children, spouse, and parents the most important people in their life. This is very generous of them, but it does them no good. The most important person in your life is you. Period. You must embrace this concept once and for all. Then, you need to forgive others, either for hurting you or for destroying your property. Comprised in this group are the general criminals, authorities, people in general, acquaintances, co-workers, and those you love; in sum: everybody but you and your pet. Now, which ones are the most difficult to forgive, yourself or others? This a tough question, but one can argue that forgiving oneself is a most arduous task. We are our most sever critics and have a tendency to knock our heads on the wall time and time again because of simple little petty mistakes. No matter whom you need to forgive, one of the best ways to go about it is to visualize yourself or the person being enfolded by a light, be it golden, purple, or just plain white. Then, take a deep breath and repeat it aloud: "I am now blessing you and sending you to this light. You and I are free. I wish you well." Then, see the light dissipating, like smoke in the air. Take another deep breath and affirm: "It is done." Go about your day and repeat this process as often as necessary. 8. Forgiveness - Healing Your Relationships Means Healing Yourself Though learning to forgive can feel like one of life's harder lessons, long-lasting bitterness, resentment and hate is extremely damaging, not only to your enjoyment of life, but to your health. Perhaps someone in your family did something you don't approve of and you now feel anger or bitterness? With all the talk about forgiveness in the headlines over the past while, it is important to realize that it is possible to overcome your past grudges, resentments and wrongdoings. Though learning to forgive can feel like one of life's harder lessons, long-lasting bitterness, resentment and hate is extremely damaging, not only to your enjoyment of life, but to your health. Perhaps someone in your family did something you don't approve of and you now feel anger or bitterness? Or maybe you were looked over that promotion or a raise and now feel resentment towards your employer? If you have lingering anger, stress or high blood pressure, you may need to forgive that person, or perhaps yourself, to improve your health say an increasing number of social scientists. Working with a forgiveness program can release the prolonged anger, rage and stress that have been linked to physiological problems, such as high blood pressure, fibremyalgea, some allergies and other psychosomatic illnesses. Forgiving someone doesn't mean tolerating or excusing the bad that was done. But the shock or awfulness of what happened needs to resonate only for a while. After that you need to move on from it for your own peace of mind. Forgiveness is an empowering act. Holding on to old pain, anger and resentment, makes life miserable and negative and it keeps you as the victim. But you can choose to let go of it. Regression hypnotherapy teaches the importance of forgiveness in your life and shows how depleting old anger and pain can be. Good hypnotherapists are able to reprogram (with your permission) your subconscious mind, allowing you to release all of your old pain and hurt. In doing this, you can set yourself free from being the victim and allow yourself to move forward with full self-esteem into a life of harmony and happiness. Regression hypnotherapy can help people revisit periods of their past where stored anger, resentment and bitterness are buried. "By releasing stored anger the person can moved forward in all aspects of their life. At times forgiveness works when all other methods fail." Imagine when you can think about the events in question and feel calm and even indifferent. What a relief! How much more space you'll have in your mind and life. When you truly forgive and move on you can put the past behind you and get on with life. 9. Forgiveness - Healing the Anger and Resentment of the Past Throughout life, sometimes people treat us in a way that causes us pain. It doesn't matter if the pain is intentional or unintentional it still leaves a mark on our emotions. Most people don't try to hurt others, usually the one that hurts is experiencing their own difficulties handling life. When we get hurt we can get angry at the person that hurt us and angry at ourselves for allowing it to happen. We can begin imagining revenge scenarios and wanting the worst to happen to that individual. In reality this sort of thinking is toxic to the system. It doesn't move us forward in life to where we want to be. It keeps us stuck. Even if the person is long gone these feelings can still emotionally tether us to them. One of the most healing and cathartic processes for releasing the past can be forgiveness. And yes, Love. Love and forgiveness allow you to rise above what happened and take back control of your life, and yourself. Forgiveness is not forgetting. We learn from every experience that we have. Through integrating what you learned from your experience with this person and situation you become better equipped to handle life in the future. Furthermore forgiveness is not agreeing with what happened. It is not justifying the behaviour of the person. Instead it is saying, "I choose to let this go so I can move forward in life." And lastly the person that benefits the most from forgiveness is not the person that hurt you, but rather yourself. It is only through the forgiveness of others can we truly release the past and move forward to a brighter future. 10. There Is No Revenge So Sweet As Forgiveness Unforgiveness Has No Foresight Unforgiveness is the one guaranteed formula for smothering our originality. When you have been wronged, a poor memory is your best response. Never carry a grudge. When you're straining under its weight, the other guy's out producing. Forgive your enemies - nothing annoys them more. There is no revenge so sweet as forgiveness. The only people you should try to get even with are those who have helped you. Never is God operating in your life so strong as when you forego revenge and dare to forgive an injury. People need love most when they deserve it the least. People need loving most when they deserve it least. Forgiveness heals; unforgiveness wounds. You can't get ahead when you're trying to get even. Being offended is a strategy of satan's to get you out of the will of God. When we think about our offense, trouble grows; when we think about God, trouble goes. When you don't forgive, you are ignoring its impact on your destiny. Hate is a prolonged form of suicide on your dreams. How much more grievous are the consequences of unforgiveness than the causes of it! Forgiveness saves the expense of anger, the high cost of hatred and the waste of energy. Forgive someone every day. 11. Happiness Information What is Happiness? Everyone wants to be happy. Everyone has experienced happiness at different times in their lives and knows what it feels like to be happy. It is an emotion to be strived for. But what is happiness? Each person's definition of happiness is different. Each individual has an idea of what they feel they need in order to be happy. However, there are others who have everything they need in life but are still unhappy. A happy person enjoys life. They are a magnet drawing others in and are pleasant to be around. They have a contagious smile. They most often have something nice to say or a helping hand to offer. A happy person carries a positive psychology, encouraging others around. Their lives are a reflection of goodness. True happiness comes from within. It is how we feel about ourselves. It is not conditional, based on money, status, or materialistic possessions. Happiness is something we all choose to experience. It is feeling of contentment and joy that titillates the body from within and exudes to the outside. You don't need to wait for some event to take place in your life to find happiness. Finding true happiness begins with gaining control over your thoughts. Remember, your thoughts ultimately decide your actions. By changing the way you think you can make you happier than you've ever been in your life. Your negative thoughts attract negative emotions and unhappiness. Your positive thoughts attract positive emotions and happiness. The Comparison Trap Repels Happiness As humans, we place conditions on our happiness. We carry the thought that when we have achieved _______ we will be happy. Then we finally get what we want but the happiness is short-lived. You compare your life and circumstances with others and in no time you feel unhappy again. This is a trap we are all guilty of. Happiness runs away from this kind of mentality. It is a common trap and one we must stay clear of it. Happiness is contentment! If you are content with your life each step of the way, you will achieve happiness each day of your life. True you have your ambitions and goals you aspire to. You may want more money, a better job, or a nicer house. But does that mean you have to wait until you have achieved these things in order to be happy? No! When working to achieve your goals in life, you must be able to enjoy your efforts and hard work each step of the way and find the happiness within. However, if you perpetually compare yourselves with others and what they have achieved you will never be able to find the happiness in whatever you do. Your efforts will always seem futile. You will feel as if you are making little progress. You will become dejected and unhappiness sets in. If this is your strategy in life, you will very seldom find happiness because as soon as you have achieved one goal, there will be someone else you can find to compare your life with. It will be impossible to find anything meaningful in what you do. You lose patience and become desperate to find that instant gratification. Remember, success is a journey. Nothing happens overnight. So enjoy each step of the way and find happiness in each stride of the journey. If you are truly in the pursuit of happiness, you have to remove the conditions you place on your happiness. You have to avoid the comparison trap. You must begin to see your life in an optimistic light. You must give yourself credit for your efforts. And if you feel your efforts are not gaining ground, seek some direction. We all need assistance from time to time to get us back on target. Happiness is a Choice! True, many of us genetically carry a happy disposition. But even the happiest of persons experience sad days. The good news is that we can choose how happy we want to be. When you feel unhappy, you automatically assume it is due to a lack of something. You immediately begin to desire material things hoping it will fill that void that you feel. Maybe it's a new car, or a new house, or a new job. You begin to anticipate these things, waiting for your happiness to arrive. When the quick fixes don't arrive the unhappiness still exists. The root of the problem stems from a distorted self-perception. The perception you carry of yourself can sabotage any chance you have of happiness. The first step in choosing a life of happiness begins by changing your self-concept. You must believe you can be happy at whatever stage of life's journey you are at. When I suffered my stroke at 37, it was a very trying period of my life that made me feel very fearful and sad. The recuperation from brain surgery left me feeling helpless and unhappy. I didn't know how long my recuperation process would last but I realized I had to do something to bring some joy and happiness back into my life. I made the decision to work with the impoverished, helping to restore a clinic that was destroyed in an earthquake. My happiness was instantly restored. I felt happy for life and living. I recognized that happiness is a choice and I chose to do something to bring back some joy and happiness to my life. I felt happy for each breath I was able to take. I gave thanks each day for the chance to awake to see my family. You too can claim your happiness. You too can make that decision to find happiness in your life. No one expects you to be perfect. You are the one that hold yourself to perfection. Find ways to restore peace and joy in your life and observe how much more success you will achieve. Events in your life will flow smoother, relationships will be more meaningful and life will be sweeter. The sooner you accept that happiness is a choice, and that you can choose to be happy, the sooner you will begin to feel happiness flowing through you. Make that choice today! How to Choose Happiness Choosing to be happy is being able to recognize the simple things in life that we can derive happiness from. I am providing this list in hopes that you can look inside your life and recognize the happiness that already exists and how you can bring it out or how to bring more happiness into your life. Here's how you can choose to be happy. Having good health - Don't take your good health for granted. Be happy for the blessings of good health and be good to your body, don't abuse it. Moderation is the key. The friends in your life - Cherish the friendships in your life and the happiness they bring. Don't take your friends for granted. Invite them over for a dinner party or barbeque. Let them see how appreciative you are for having them in your life. Family - Strengthen the family bonds you have. Your family can bring a lot of happiness to your life. If the bonds are broken, work on mending them. Meditation - This is a technique you can use to remove the unnecessary clutter and negativity from your thoughts that can cloud your ability to recognize happiness in your life. Clear the cobwebs and learn to think clearly again. Biofeedback- If you have difficulty in choosing your thoughts, this is a technique you can use to bring more positive thinking in your life. Remember controlling your thoughts and removing negativity can bring you instant happiness. Feed your spiritual void - When we are spiritually full, we are transcended into another realm of thinking. We discover ways of finding more meaning and happiness in our lives more easily. We dwell on positive things and discard ugly habits such as judgmentalism, criticism, cynicism, bitterness, and strife. These things harbor unhappiness within. Have a sense of direction - We must have projects, work, something to feel productive about in our lives, or a set of goals that we aspire to. This brings happiness into our lives. The feeling of nonproductivity leaves one feeling useless and unhappy. Find an emotional connection - Having a meaningful relationship with another person can bring a lot of happiness to our lives. We are social creatures that need to be with others and not always alone. Loneliness breeds unhappiness. To love and be loved is happiness in a bottle. Avoid conflict - One way to remain happy is to maintain good relationships with people. Whether it is with a coworker, a friend, a family member, or the cashier at the grocery store. When you are hostile to others it has a way of coming back to you like a boomerang. Be patient with the people you encounter and be good to your fellowman. This will bring peace and happiness into your life. Do for others - When you do kind acts for others it bounces back to you in the form of joy and happiness. No matter how small, go out of your way to do something nice for someone. It pays big happiness dividends. Be thankful each day - When you wake up each morning give thanks for the wonderful things in your life. Send those sentiments of gratitude out to God or to the universe and watch how much happier you feel throughout your day. We have a tendency as humans to dwell on the negative and see the glass as half empty rather than half full. By giving thanks for all the blessings in your life, big or small, you are allowing more room for happiness to reside. 12. Happy First What is it that we are so afraid of? Why won't we let go? A shark cannot rest, it cannot stop swimming or it will die, it will drown. Humanity seems to be acting in the same manner. It is though we are running for our lives. We are being chased and if we stop we will die. There is an urgency to get somewhere, anywhere, and we do not know what to look for or where, but it is always out there, somewhere. Unknowingly we have left the place that we are looking for. From the inner peace that we experienced so long ago as children and as the person we once were. We seem to have lost our way and are running just for the sake of running. It is as though we are in a cattle stampede. One starts running and we are following blindly. What happened to the peace, the serenity and joy of just being, what happened to our innocence? Somewhere along the way we believe that we have lost it, and that we cannot have it again. Someone told us to run and we haven't stopped. The industrial revolution has pushed us forward in a frenzy to acquire things, the latest is always best, always desirable and it is the carrot that moves us beyond our means, away from what we really desire. It has taken us away from our natural ability to be at peace, to be happy and content. 'Things,' have promised us happiness, but we do not feel happy when we have them. There is always a promise of happiness but never delivery. Things may be symbols of our happiness but they do not bring the promise with them, because there is another thing dancing in the shadows, calling to us, beckoning, luring us from one thing to another. We are so far gone that we now believe that we cannot be happy unless we have a thing. We have forgotten how to be happy naturally without being stimulated. We have been told that we cannot go backwards; we cannot go back to the way it was before because we would not have our things. This is one of the greatest lies that have been passed on from one generation to another. Happiness is where you find it we are told, and this is absolute true if we understand that we can find happiness anywhere if we are happy first. The thought of being happy brings happiness into our lives. Happiness comes from within and is not put upon us by things. Unhappiness is created from the thought that we need something to be happy and this unhappiness comes from the very things that we are depending on to bring us happiness. If illness, accidents, sorrow, suffering, lack and loneliness comes from an error in thought, then only the thought has to be changed in order to achieve the happiness, and once our basic needs are met, there is only room for happiness. When thoughts turn towards wants then they turn away from comforting human emotion, natural love, joy, pleasure, contentment and belonging. The simpler life is the closest we get to true happiness, because we become focused on it, it is what we think about and all thought becomes manifested in our experience. "I can't go back, I won't, I worked too hard to get where I am and what I have; I won't live in a cave. If all we really want is to be happy, why would we not live in a cave and live simply if it brings us back to happy. If we are heading in a direction that leads away from happiness, why do we keep going there? Is it that we are happy to be unhappy or that happiness does not really exist except in our thoughts? Is it that we believe that happiness does not last, so why pursue it? What is it that we do with the butterfly once we catch it? Is the happiness found in catching the butterfly or letting it go once we have been there, or is it both? Can we experience happiness without experiencing all its opposites? Is the joy of letting go a precept in experiencing happiness once we have found it? Must we turn away from happiness so that we may find it later? If we are happy and remain that way, will we forget what it means to be happy? All of our experiences are this way, they are cyclical, and we cannot know what we have or experience it until we no longer have it. We must move away from it so that we can come back to it. So if living our complicated lives is not bringing the happiness that we choose, is it because we forgot what it is or are we now ready to return to it? Is it that we are running from something or is it that we are now running towards it? The trip will stop when we know that we already have what we desire, we simply need to choose it. Happiness, joy, fulfillment, belonging are things that we do not have to look for. They are what we are naturally and we simply have moved our thoughts away from them. Our things, our toys are symbols, but they are not symbols of happiness, they are symbols of trying to be happy. They are symbols that we have moved away from what we already have, what we know. In trying to make our lives easier so that we have "time," to be happy and enjoy our lives we have created less time to be happy. Happy is scheduled for events and things and then we are too tired. To numb our loss of the sense of happiness we drug ourselves so that we don't have to feel anything. The truth is and always has been that we can be happy without "things," or doing anything. The sacrifice is that we have to give up on the notion that we need anything and we must be prepared to give up things that do not demonstrate our happiness. Happiness comes as quickly as thinking about it. Be happy first then go out and do things that represent happy to you. Happiness comes in the silent moments between events, when there is nothing left to do, when we have given up on finding it, and when we have done everything else. When we have given up on the notion that we have to find it, it finds us. I don't know anyone that is happy all the time or even most of the time. I think happiness must be dessert. We have to go through the main course to find it. If dessert was the main course we would still move away from it once we had finished or had enough of it. I believe that we can be happy all the time, but not experience it. As we get involved in doing the happy things we forget that we are happy until it enters our mind that we are happy. Too much happiness or dessert becomes irritating and mundane, like sex, you got to move away from it in order to appreciate it and be grateful for the times that you are experiencing it. An emotion that comes from happiness is contentment, which is not as intense. But even contentment as happiness must be recycled. Life without extremes is none life. Life moves in waves and begins on the edge of all our emotions. Once you hand gets used to being in warm water, it is no longer appreciated as warm until you pull it out. Once we let go of the thought that we will not longer experience happiness, then we will have time to focus on simply experiencing this emotion and it will be drawn into our lives. We won't have to do things to find it. Stop running, move away from the crowd, simplify your life become aware of your environment, learn to appreciate what is already around you and happiness will enter your thoughts always. Find the beauty in the simple rock, a blade of grass, or the people around you. You have created them, they are your wonders, and you brought them to you as opportunities to experience happiness. Why Not Take The Happiness Quiz And Discover The Real 13. Meaning Of Happiness Why not take the following short quiz to determine where in your life you could find more rewarding and lasting happiness. The one common denominator in every human is the desire for happiness. One of the most sought after traits is happiness. So, either you are happy most of the time with all aspects of your life or, you would like to be happier more often somewhere in your life. This quiz will help you self-discover; what happiness is for you, why you have it, why you are not happy, what it will take for you to be happy, or who or what you feel is responsible for your happiness. I recommend you make a copy of the quiz before you complete it. You might want to share it with a friend, relative or fellow employee. Please give me a call if you would like the answers to this quiz. Other quizzes are also available on the following topics: Customer Service ¤ Relationships ¤ Sales ¤ Management ¤ Success ¤ Motivation See the end of this quiz for quiz answers. 1. Happiness is:________________________________________________________________ 2. Happiness is not:_____________________________________________________________ 3. Who is responsible for your happiness:___________________________________________ 4. Who is not responsible for your happiness:________________________________________ 5. It is possible to be happy all of the time. True/False. 6. Happiness is: inside-out - outside-in. 7. If you had more:___________________________________________ you could be happier. 8. When you:___________________________________________________you will be happy. 9. Stuff can make you happy. True/False. 10. Happiness is: more, bigger, better. True/False. 11. Most people are reasonably happy most of the time. True/False 12. You will be happy when:_____________________________________________________ 13. If you are successful, you will be happy. True/False. 14. If you have your health, you will be happy. True/False. 15. __________________________________________is getting in the way of your happiness. 16. Hanging on to old emotional baggage prevents happiness. True/False. 17. People who are happy smile a lot. True/False. 18. Living in the present moment is not important to be happy. True/False. 19. Happiness is easy to achieve. True/False. 20. One of the biggest things missing in people's lives who are not happy is: _____________________________________________________________________________ 21. Other people can make you unhappy: True/False. 22. Un-managed stress is a cause of unhappiness. True/False. 23. People who are happy have no regrets: True/False. 24. Happy people always want more of something: True/False. 25. Unhappy people are never satisfied with:_________________________________________ 26. Happy people see other's as teachers: True/False. 27. Unhappy people tend to see themselves as:_______________________________________ 28. One of the most important things to do to find lasting happiness is: _____________________________________________________________________________ 29. Most people take themselves too seriously: True/False. 30. Happy people have just as many problems as unhappy people: True/False. 31. The power of choice contributes to a person's happiness because: _____________________________________________________________________________ 32. Happy people lead with their head and let their heart follow: True/False. 33. Unhappy people would rather be right than happy: True/False. 34. Accepting differences in others is not important to your happiness: True/False. 35. Happy people are always doing, going, learning: True/False. 36. A lack of patience is a sign of:_________________________________________________ 37. Happy people have more fun in life than unhappy people: True/False. 38. Unhappy people believe that other people need to be fixed in some way: True/False. 39. Happy people are interested in others and listen to them: True/False. 40. Something is always missing in the: happy person - unhappy person. 41. Unhappy people tend to:______________________ in life. 42. Happy people are always:_____________________________________________________ 43. Unhappy people never:_______________________________________________________ 44. Self-disclosure is a trait of:_____________________________people. 45. A lack of forgivenes is a trait of many unhappy people. True/False. 46. Happy people live for:________________________________ 47. Unhappy people live for:______________________________ 48. You know someone who would benefit from taking this quiz. True/False 49. You learned what as a result of this quiz:_________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________ 50. You are happy you finished this quiz: True/False SCORING 50 correct answers..........You should be giving the quiz. 45-50 correct answers..........You are happy with most of your life. 40-45 correct answers..........You have it together unless you lied about some of your answers. 35-40 correct answers...........Read my book: The Road to Happiness. It will help you. 25-30 correct answers...........You live in fantasy-land most of the time. Get a life. 25 or less correct answers......You have really big problems. Get into therapy. Correct Answers: Happiness Quiz Keep in mind that the answers to several of the questions are subjective. In many cases there is no right or wrong answer only - a best or better answer. This quiz is not designed to give you an in-depth explanation for each answer but rather to stimulate your thinking. With this in mind let's take a look at what I believe - are some of the vital issues in the area of happiness. 1. Up to you. 2. Possessions, your address, success, power, fame, good looks, up to other people. 3. You are. 4. Anyone else. 5. True. 6. Inside-out. 7. You fill in the blank. 8. Again you fill in the answer. 9. False. 10. False. 11. False. 12. Your turn. 13. False. 14. False. 15. Your turn. 16. True. 17. True. 18. False. 19. True. 20. The willingness to take the responsibility for their life and happiness. 21. False. 22. True. 23. False. 24. False. 25. Anything. 26. True. 27. Victims. 28. Take responsibility for your happiness. 29. True. 30. True. 31. They get to chose their outcomes, attitudes, happiness. 32. False. 33. True. 34. False. 35. False. 36. A lack of trust, faith. 37. True. 38. True. 39. True. 40. Unhappy person. 41. Complain a lot. 42. Interested in others, listening, concerned. 43. Take responsibility for their station, position, circumstances. 44. Happy. 45. True. 46. The present moment. 47. Yesterday, tomorrow, always. 48. Up to you. 49. Up to you. 50. Up to you. Total Happiness - Recognizing Who are the Totally Happy 14. Individuals? Let me describe to you so that you can recognize who are the totally happy individuals. Then: * those who are boxed in any emotion they find detrimental, can free themselves and transform to be totally happy, * those who are partly happy, can fully maximize the advantageous and be totally happy, * those who are temporarily happy, can be totally happy permanently, * those who are being delayed, can instantly and immediately be totally happy, * those who are intermittently happy, can enjoy being totally happy smoothly and everlastingly, * those who are happy can immediately switch to be totally happy, and * the rest who are other than these, can be totally happy individuals, at will, now and here. Actually describing the totally happy individuals in this world is easy because in any society around the globe, we can easily recognize them since they are prominently distinctive, especially when we observe their outer physical reflections being the projection from their inner metaphysical dimension. Totally happy individuals are males and females, wherever they are, and wherever they go, they are totally happy. Their total happiness is authentic, bold, full, genuine, pure, real, and wholesome. In addition it is natural, and original. It is constant, without a level therefore it cannot be any less or more. It is also consistent, thus enough for a life span. They are full of spirit, vitality, and enthusiasm. Thus, they are always jovial, easily joyful and are able to enjoy the full enjoyment in every moments of their life. They are witnessed to having a great sense of humor, so much so they are heard singing, humming, and whistling sweet tones. Truly visible physically yet subtly are the natural shinning facial glow without cosmetics, and the sparkles at the corners of their eyes. Their smiles adorned with special sweetness, the usual fixed curve curling up the corners of their lips. In addition, their spontaneous laughter vibrating through and thus shakes their entire body. Yes, the nature of totally happy individuals are exuberance, and full of excitement, liveliness, cheerfulness, and zest. In addition, they are full of energy with awesome charisma, dynamic aura, and the always spreading luminance of fresh yet gentle radiance. Totally happy individuals do not wait for total happiness to happen; they decide and choose these exciting happenings now. In addition, totally happy individuals do not have a list to do things in order to make them totally happy. In fact, they enjoy total happiness in every moments of their life, so they do not encounter some days they are being happier than other days. Instead by being continuously in total happiness, they can have a list of meaningful activities to do if they prefer to. At every present moment, they are totally happy individuals, so they are engaged in self-talk in a manner of interactive internal dialog, with the focus on their total success. Truly totally happy individuals are those who have fixed a whole life commitment to being totally happy. They basically scripted their entire life based upon knowing that an individual proposes, and the God disposes. Totally happy individuals live their life in accordance to the way of life ordained by the God; the source of their feeling of total happiness. They know what the terms happy hours mean, when they spend quality moments in conversations with the God. While in these conversations, they humbly ask for wonderful opportunities, abundantly luxurious provisions, pristine wisdom, and ultimate possibilities, while aligning their personal compelling purpose with the overall grand purpose of the God. Thus trusting the God, they perform real magic, and they experience miracles at every moment throughout their precious life, because first and foremost they position themselves being in total happiness. Their outlook of life is full of optimism, so much so the environment may presents gloom, the situation promises doom, but not to the totally happy individuals who see freedom in the direction of optimal living. They decide and choose the option of total happiness as the preference of their life priority. They impress total happiness inside them and express it outside them. Normally life challenges are minimal, and yet when they are opportune to encounter one, they immediately return to their intention and forward strategy by visualizing and emotionalizing their hajat. Thus they ensure its manifestation. They overcome the conditions of failure, because they consider this as an outcome. Supposing they do not like the outcome, they change the visuals and feelings inside them, in order to change the outcome outside them. As totally happy individuals they fixed solid believe, heightened expectation and faithful anticipation, either in flow, cycles, or synchronicity. In flow they are engrossed in this feeling, and thus, each moment is avenues for self improvement, development, enhancements leading to productivity of the highest quality, and maximum quantity. In cycles they are totally happy within the ups and downs. This is because they do not need a reason to be happy. The totally happy individuals remain in total happiness regardless of what happen or what did not happen in their life, because they know that total happiness is not dependent, yet independent of a subject or an individual; an object or possession; a context such as a circumstances, a condition, an event, a happenstance, a situation, an environment, surrounding, or a dimension. In synchronicity they are in control of change, for example the shifting of their paradigm, or switching of their perspective to keep on benefiting from the goodness in life and the respect for other individuals. Normally, totally happy individuals are seldom alone, or feeling lonely or being in loneliness. However, when they are actually alone, totally happy individuals are living optimally, by doing what they love and they love what they are doing. They are engaged, immersed, and engrossed in what they are doing, while continuously being totally happy. While in their relationships with others, they do not consider comparison or competition. They exercise self-in control. Thus they prefer not to be a happier person, or happier than others. They value their fellow beings, so they linkage with others through the people network connections and they are proactive and interactive in exercising integration with integrity. To them total happiness is not contagious. If there is an instance it produces such an effect, then it is not permanent, because it is from outside and not inside the totally happy individuals. So, when in a group they do not prefer to be involved in vain talk, rather their conversation focusing on goodness. The contents of their talks are vital and valuable information, that are worth more than any of the cherished gems. Their presence are being felt by those in a room, before they even step at the front door, and they exchange special delights with those in the room, and when they go out, they leave a lasting remembrance. Totally happy individuals acknowledge total happiness as their birth right. They already experience total happiness since birth. They prefer to continue experiencing it before their inevitable moment of death. Thus totally happy individuals treasure and cherish the feeling of total happiness so dearly while being alive. So as owners of total happiness, totally happy individuals are able to attain, or obtain, contain, retain, remain, gain, maintain, and sustain total happiness. This ability is being in total happiness at will. They just are willing to being totally happy. That is it. They know that the fact remains; there is no other way to total happiness, total happiness is the only way. Interestingly, as totally happy individuals they are dreamers. When awake, they daydream of a peaceful world to live in by contributing one or more goodness for their benefits and others too. When asleep, they dream into various multiple dimensions to experience the joy of healing the internal and external physical body, while recuperating from the challenges of life. Totally happy individuals are those who directly contribute to the global total happiness by them being in total happiness themselves. Their presence always signifies the worthiness of living as lively as liveliness can be. 15. Total Happiness - a Promise of the Right Premise In this journey or voyage of our life, there have been a lot of questions pertaining to total happiness, and yet, many people are still waiting for the answer. Truly, the answer is available and achievable when we are wise to stand firmly on the right premise that provides a promise. In our surrounding we hear questions such as: "are we waiting for happiness to happen?", "do we think that happiness is the result of good fortunes or random chance?", "do we have to pay money to get happiness?", or "do we have to surmount enough power to achieve happiness?", "is happiness dependent on external events?", "are there ways to learn, or steps to be taken, in order to be happy?", and more, that are similar. Since the emergence of a simple technology in relations to parchment mass production, and then the progress from copious scriber to an advent of the printing press, we come into reading documents containing information by philosophers, thinkers, orators, and writers then, who have left their life on earth with an unsolved puzzle as evident in the following statements: 01) Happiness has been given by many a top priority in their life, 02) The value of other goals in life is measured to the extend whether these goals bring about happiness as a result, 03) The same activities which is said to be contributory, yet do not bring about equal happiness to the same people involved, 04) Happiness is elusive, difficult to attain, and remain a mind boggling riddle, 05) So just pretend that you are happy, or act as if you are happy, 06) There are so many people who are unhappy, and this add to the statistics of the nationwide unhappiness which is widespread throughout the global societies, and, 07) There is a need to learn how to obtain it, therefore, seek happiness. Successive communicators from the point of "seek happiness", up to the present moment begin to accept these statements and agree to continue reiterating that they also cannot understand what happiness is, and proceed to amplify through using various media to disseminate worldwide documented information in the perpetual struggle in the conquest of happiness. Attempts have been made to even present a complicated circuitous path to wrestle in the hope of arresting this complex state of happiness. The conclusion remains a continuous predicament in pursuit of happiness. Thus, it is evidently clear that along this lineage of information dissemination, these individuals have not discovered happiness. In addition, they have not attained it fully as in total happiness, and they have been unable to share with others throughout each generation to the next generation. Indicative as proofs are their advice, urge or challenge using terms such as "seek", "search", "pursue", "quest", "conquest", "looking for", "find", or similar. For the purpose of illustration, please ponder the followings: Andy says, "I am searching for a book to read", while Bobby says, "I benefit from reading this book", and Cindy says, "I immediately apply the lessons I have learned after reading this book". See the difference? Similarly, seeking, pursuing, questing, conquest, or looking for, and other similar terms, is relaying a meaning of not obtaining total happiness as yet. While all these are going on and seemingly shall continue on and on, there is another lineage of information flow beginning with Adam, his children, and proceed to include his descendants right up to the present public communicators. Especially, they are servants of the God, who are serving their only Lord, and in their perseverance proceed to observe and providing a sincere service by preserving information nearing the truth belonging to the Owner, in relations to total life, total success, and in particular total happiness. The facts remain as follows: 01) Total Happiness is a gift from the God, to each and every individual since his or her birth on earth, as a birth right, which is to each equally enough, so much so no one has to take it from another, or share it with others. 02) Total happiness in reference here is authentic, real, true, genuine, original, natural, and wholesome. 03) There is no such a term as "unhappy", or "unhappiness". This is not and can never be the opposite of total happiness. The actual opposite of total happiness is happiness, or other detrimental emotions. These emotions that are detrimental include anger, annoyance, anxiety, boredom, irritation, rage, fury, resentment, sorrow, grief, frustration, disappointment, dissatisfaction, and what are similar. 04) Total Happiness is an option that is not dependent, yet independent from a subject or an individual; an object or a possession; or a context that includes a condition, a circumstance, an event, a happenstance, and a situation. So, first and foremost each of us shall be totally happy and being in total happiness, and then adding goals, while improving, or enhancing other aspects of life's fulfillment to the full. Know the purpose, decide, and choose total happiness, first. 05) There is no other door to total happiness, and total happiness is the only door. Similarly there is no other way to total happiness, and total happiness is the only way. There is no other path to total happiness, and total happiness is the only path. There is no other route to total happiness, and total happiness is the only route. Evidently, the door is wide open, the way is direct, the path is clear, and the route is sure to obtain total happiness easily, instantly and immediately. Now and here, simply intent it, or will it, or just be, and you are. 06) Right now and right here, each individual is able to attain, obtain, contain, remain, retain, gain, maintain, and sustain total happiness, and be a totally happy individual at every moment throughout the remainder of his or her life in this world. Therefore, based on these two lineage of information dissemination, each of us can realize, become aware, and remember consciously the possibilities of total happiness as a promise when we are on the right premise. For example, if we accept this premise, and then follow a lineage of information dissemination based on the advice, "I cannot read, everyone here cannot read also, therefore no one can ever read, thus seek reading", then the tendency is to support the authority by continuing the reiteration of "no one can read, and no one can ever read". Should you prefer, please consider the right premise, inherent in the lineage of information dissemination based on the facts that although there are those who cannot read, yet there are individuals who can read, and others have an equal chance to read, thus read. Similarly, you have the opportunity to be totally happy, and a direct way of being in total happiness, thus be totally happy and being in total happiness. This is a promise of the right premise.