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									Communications and feelings – Identifying feelings

        Teacher information
                                                                 Students may perform for the whole class
    Students should be able to identify common                   or a small group.
    feelings of people involved in conflict. These
    may include positive and negative feelings;                  Teachers may like to hold a class
    e.g. anger, disappointment, fear, frustration,               discussion about the feelings of people in
    confidence, calmness.                                         conflict after the presentations.

    Before completing the activity, students should
    have an understanding of the terms “win-win,”                    Discussion points
    “win-lose,” and “lose-lose” (see page 7 and the
    Negotiation activities on pages 50 to 61).                   •    What are some common feelings
                                                                      people involved in conflict have?
    Ask the students to find partners to work with,
                                                                 •    How do they show these feelings?
    then distribute one copy of the role-plays below
    to each pair.                                                •    Which is the fairest type of outcome
                                                                      to a conflict? Why?
    Encourage the students to use well-structured
    arguments in their role-plays, as well as
    gestures, facial expressions, and vocal
    expressions to indicate their characters’ feelings.


    •    Shows an understanding of how people feel during conflict.
    •    Identifies how people show feelings through words and actions.

A and B are good friends.
A walks into a room and catches B reading his/her diary. A has never
let anyone read the diary—it is private. B has just read some comments
about him/her that he/she does not like.
Role-play the conflict that occurs after A walks into the room.

A is new to B’s school.
B walks out of his/her classroom at lunchtime to find A sitting on the bench
where B and his/her gang always sit. B rudely tells A to move.
Role-play the conflict that occurs when A refuses B’s command.
Identifying feelings
   Read each scenario carefully, then complete the following tasks with your partner.
   (a) Decide who will play A and B in each scenario.
   (b) Write three possible endings for each scenario using the headings below;
       e.g. “A pushes B and then runs away.” Add words to describe how you think A and
       B would feel about each ending to the conflict, considering how fair the outcome is.

    • a win-win ending (both characters are happy with the outcome – may need compromise)
 ❑ The Diary                                            ❑ The Bench

 Feelings: A                                            Feelings: A
          B                                                      B

    • a win-lose ending (only one character gets what he/she wants)
 ❑ The Diary                                            ❑ The Bench

 Feelings: A                                            Feelings: A
          B                                                      B

    • a lose-lose ending (neither character likes the outcome)
 ❑ The Diary                                            ❑ The Bench

 Feelings: A                                            Feelings: A
          B                                                      B

   (c) Choose one “win-win” ending, one “win-lose” ending, and one “lose-lose” ending to act out. Check the
       three you choose.
   Practice your three role-plays. Make sure you say at
   least five lines each.
                                                                 Choose your words and actions carefully to
   Perform your role-plays for the class or a small group.          show how your character is feeling.

   Choose one of the role-plays you performed. Describe how you
   used words and actions to show your character’s feelings.
 Communication and feelings – Communication

          Teacher information                                                 Discussion points

     The three styles of communication are passive,                       •     Discuss what kind of attributes assertive,
     aggressive, and assertive.                                                 passive, and aggressive people may have.
                                                                          •     Can a person be passive and assertive,
     Passive people act as though the rights of                                 depending on the situation? Think about
     others are more important than theirs. They                                the student who is quiet at school but very
     may do something they don’t want to do and                                 assertive when surrounded by younger
     have an inability to express how they feel.                                siblings at home. Another student may
                                                                                be very assertive and aggressive on the
     Aggressive people act as though their rights
                                                                                sports field but passive in the classroom.
     are more important than others. They try to
     get their own way through bullying or physical                       •     Explain that it is possible for people to
     violence.                                                                  practice changing the way they speak (“I”
                                                                                statements) and act (body language);
     Assertive people respect others and themselves                             training themselves to be more assertive
     equally. They stand up for themselves and say                              or less aggressive.
     what they think without hurting others.                              •     Show a range of pictures. Discuss whether
                                                                                the person feels good or bad about
                                                                                himself/herself. Students can role-play
                                                                                how they look, act, and speak when they
                                                                                are feeling good or bad about themselves.


     •     Identifies different styles of communication.
     •     Identifies how he/she communicates.

Styles of communication
Passive                                Aggressive                                        Assertive
               Can you hear me                 Can you hear me from down                         Can you hear me from down
               from down there?                  there? You’re so short!                           there? You’re so short!
                 You’re so short!
                                                           Don’t you          I’ll get                    Stand up straight.
                    Please, please                        dare call me         him!                       Look him in the
                       go away!                           short! You’re                                    eyes.
                                                          an ugly, big                                  Yes, I
                                                             giant!                                    am short
                                                                                                       and I’m
                                                                                                         of it!
There are three main ways to communicate – passively, assertively, or aggressively.
     Circle the response that you think is most similar to what your own would be.
                                                         (ii) “Go and knock over that trash can!”
     (i) “Move! That’s my chair!”                             (a) “Umm ... but I’ll get into trouble .... OK,
         (a) “OK ... I’m sorry.” (passive)                        all right.” (passive)
         (b) “I was sitting here first. Please find             (b) “I don’t want to do that. It’s not right.”
             another chair.” (assertive)                          (assertive)
         (c) “Get real! You can go and get your               (c) “You knock over the can yourself!”
             own chair!” (aggressive)                             (aggressive)

     (iii) “You are always taking my things without asking. You’re such a thief!”
           (a) “I know, I’m sorry. I won’t do it again ... sorry.” (passive)
           (b) “I feel upset when you accuse me of taking your things
               without asking because I always ask first.” (assertive)
                                                                             Anger is
           (c) “I’m not a thief! You’re a liar!” (aggressive)                only one
                                                                           letter short
     Now that you have read the examples, write a sentence
                                                                           of danger.
     describing each style of communication.
     What style of communicator do you think you are? passive/assertive/aggressive
     (a) Ask two friends. Do they agree?      Friend 1                    Friend 2
     (b) Give an example that shows the type of communicator you are.

     In pairs, write a short script on the back of this sheet between two people. Decide
     what type of communicator each person will be first.
     (a) Role-play the discussion and ask another group to try to guess what type of
         communicator each person is. Here are your choices:
               • passive + passive                      • passive + assertive
               • assertive + assertive                • assertive + aggressive
               • aggressive + aggressive              • passive + aggressive
     (b) Role-play the discussion again but choose a different style of communication
         for one or both of the people. You will need to change the dialogue to meet
         the style of communication.

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