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                                                           July/August 2010 | Volume 62 Issue 4


              Tuesday, September 14, 2010
                                B’nai Brith House
                               15 Hove Street, Toronto
                                  7:30 p.m.
        $5.00/person if reserved in advance / $10.00/person at the door
                        Light Refreshments Will Be Served
                    Spouses and guests are welcome
              Special Guest Speaker

                ARIE RAIF
        A diplomat with a distinguished
             government service record
                         who has come
                    OUT OF THE COLD

      International Terrorism and Aviation

                               FINAL APPROVAL
                             L.M.O.L. Constitution
         R.S.V.P.: Bro. Irving Pisarek – drpisarek@rogers.com – 416-633-3000

                Come out and meet your friends

      Leonard Mayzel              Ontario Lodge #1800 B’nai Brith Canada, District 22
                                                                                     2010 Executive

President  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  . Dr. Irving Pisarek                Chairmen:
Senior Vice President  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  . Moishe Grossinger                                Adult Jewish Education  .  .  .  .  .  .  . Zvi Wainsteim                      416-494-6176
Second Vice President .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  . Dennis Tolson                         Brotherhood  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .Eric Eisen    905-417-5797
Third Vice President  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  . Alvin Abram                     Constitution  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .Eric Eisen   905-417-5797
Financial Secretary .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  . Larry Baine                 C .V .S . Chairmen .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .Dennis Tolson          905-731-5886
Treasurer  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  . Stan Beder                                                           Moishe Grossinger            905-763-7543
Recording Secretary  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  . Ron Rotman                       Fundraising:
Trustees  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  . Marilyn Abram (Head)                              Entertainment Books  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .Stan Beder                    905-883-3430
                                                                                                             Max Berg                                                               Jacques Altaras      416-862-6182
                                                                                            Shoshana Elharar                    Dinner Draw  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .Sheldon Rose              416-225-1672
                                                                                                              Jeff Levy                                                                     Larry Rose   905-882-0800
                                                                                                Martin Richman            Observer  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .Alvin Abram   416-667-1144
Warden .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  . Zvi Wainsteim          Programme  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .Marilyn Abram            416-667-8217
Chaplain  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  . Ralph Gan     Web Site  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .Dr. Irving Pisarek        416-633-3000
                                                                                                                          Women’s Programme  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .Marilyn Abram                         416-667-8217

                   The Observer is the official publication of                                                            Executive Secretary  .  .  .  .  .Sharon Haberman
                   Leonard Mayzel Ontario Lodge No 1800 B’nai Brith .                                                                                       195 Acton Avenue,
                   Articles, editorials and expressions of opinion are                                                                                      Toronto, Ontario M3H 4H6
                   published on the authority of the writer over whose                                                                                      Telephone: 416-638-4013
                   signature they appear and are not necessarily the policy                                                                                 E-mail: phaberman@sympatico .ca
                   of the Lodge, unless adopted by the Executive and/or
                   General membership .

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                                             by Dr . Irving Pisarek

Several weeks ago, I began to think about what I would say in my               honour to present you with your Past-Presidents’ Ring, Pin . A citation
installation speech as I take on, as far as I know, an unprecedented third     from BBC of your service to this organization will be presented at a
term position as the President of a B’nai Brith Canada Lodge, Leonard          future L .M .O .L . Meeting .
Mayzel . I would like to thank YOU for expressing your confidence and
support in recycling, I mean, re-electing me .                                 The Master of Ceremonies this morning is, Brother Ben Libman to you
                                                                               and affectionally Uncle Benny to me, along with our Installing Officer,
Prior to the completion of my term as L .M .O .L . President in 2007,          Brother Ron Blatt . I also want to thank Brother Eric Eisen for his help
I recommended that our present Constitution (circa 1995) required              as the Installation Chair . I would also like to give special thanks to
updating . Eric formed a Committee to assist him with this task . This         Marlene White and special guest Susan Colomby, for assisting Hilda in
amended document has been approved by the Executive Board and                  beautifully setting up this room .
will be distributed with the June Observer mailing to the Membership
for its review . The updated Constitution will be again distributed for        I would like to take this opportunity to thank my family for their advice,
ratification at a late-September General Meeting .                             support, understanding, love and lending me to LMOL again . Special
                                                                               thanks to my dear, loving wife, Hilda, for all that she has done to
The major changes to the Constitution will align us with a calendar            organize today’s event . Hilda, it often amazes me how you find the
year-end, the same as B’nai Brith Canada . Furthermore, there are also         time to manage and do all that you do  .  .  . And I thought I was busy .
some other changes being proposed with respect to Executive Board
positions and time-frames for holding our Nomination and Election              Looking at a page of our Lodge’s letterhead, I am in awe of all the
meetings . Consequently, in order to accommodate these changes,                names listed since our Lodge’s charter inception 62 years ago . In
Leonard Mayzel Lodge is currently in a ‘transition’ year, with my term         September 1948, the same year that the State of Israel was founded
as President ending at the end of December 2010 . Of course, there will        based on freedom, justice and peace, L .M .O .L under the leadership of
be a ‘Nomination General Meeting’ held in October 2010 in advance of           President, Brother Manny Hershberg was established .
the ‘Election General Meeting’ scheduled for some time in November
2010 . An Installation Program will be scheduled into the New Year             I reflected on my own beginnings in Leonard Mayzel back in 1974
2011 .                                                                         under the leadership of President, Brother Gerald Marshall . I remember
                                                                                                           vividly, attending a new member program
I would like to start off by                                                                               hosted by one our past presidents, and
directing my comments to                                                                                   quickly was enthralled with the hospitality
Brother Ralph Gan . Ralph,                                                                                 and camaraderie extended to me and the
I have observed you as you                                                                                 other new members present .
fulfilled your Presidential role
these past two years . You                                                                                 As Albert Schweitzer once wrote: “You must
have demonstrated, in your                                                                                 give some time to your fellow men . Even if
gentle way  .  .  . leadership,                                                                            it’s a little thing, do something for others
compassion and common                                                                                      – something for which you get no pay, but
sense, striving to improve                                                                                 the privilege of doing it .”
the way this Lodge functions .
As my FIRST act as the newly                                                                               Times have changed . We have grown older
installed President of Leonard                                                                             and hopefully wiser . Now we are empty
Mayzel Ontario Lodge, it is                                                                                nesters, looking after our grown-up children,
now my distinct pleasure and                                                                               often babysitting grandchildren, pets and
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plants . The culture of L .M .O .L . has also changed . We have been active          heartfelt thanks to all of you” . I look forward to your continued support
in the community for almost 60 years . Accordingly, Lodge members                    during the next term .
adhere to the principles of B’nai Brith and its motto of “People Helping
People” which brings Jewish men and women together in fellowship,                    As we move forward, the next few years are exciting ones for our
to serve the Jewish community through combating and trying to help                   Lodge as we begin to plan new and innovative programming . We
resolve human right issues such as the rising global incidences of anti-             are looking into ways of streamlining our administrative printing and
Semitism, bigotry and racism in Canada and abroad, and, through                      mailing costs . One such measure to accomplish this will happen by
carrying out and supporting activities which ensure the security and                 the end of this summer as we ‘roll’ out an innovative new website for
survival of the State of Israel and Jewish communities .                             inter-communication amongst our membership and the Community .
                                                                                     This website will ‘showcase’ L .M .O .L . to the world “at the click of a
To this end, I want to thank our                                                     mouse” .
special guests who champion
our organization both locally and                                                    Another idea that I would like to develop is to have joint social programs
globally . Firstly, we welcome the                                                   with other B’nai Brith Lodges . I believe in ‘strength in numbers’ and
National President of B’nai Brith                                                    in doing so, we will be able to pool resources and bring programs
Canada, Mr . Joe Bogoroch to our                                                     that we could not have undertaken ourselves, unless there was greater
installation . I also wish to thank                                                  attendance participation .
Dr . Frank Dimant, Executive Vice
President of B’nai Brith Canada, for                                                 Past-Presidents: Moishe Grossinger, Dennis Tolson, Alvin Abram
his eloquent remarks and Invocation .                                                and myself have assumed the top four ‘rung’s’ of the ladder . But,
Ladies and gentlemen, there is no better spokesman for B’nai Brith                   for the sake of our health, this cannot continue forever . Let me add
and the Jewish community than Dr . Frank . I am also honoured to have                that Leonard Mayzel Lodge is in good shape . We have a core of
Pearl Gladman here with us today . Pearl is the National Director of                 creative, dedicated and enthusiastic members who continually strive
B’nai Brith Canada and the Center for Community Action, and has                      to outperform themselves when it comes to working hard for the
assisted and supported L .M .O .L . for many years, on many fronts . On              betterment of this Lodge and the community at large . Without the
June 6th, Pearl is being honoured for her 30 years plus, of dedicated                tremendous efforts of many, many people, Leonard Mayzel Lodge
service to B’nai Brith and the community at large, at B’nai Brith’s                  could never have achieved the stature and reputation it enjoys in this
Annual General Meeting here in Toronto . Leonard Mayzel will be                      community and globally . I only hope that, as this Executive’s term
represented at this event . Mazel Tov to you Pearl!                                  begins, the momentum presently in existence will continue to evolve
                                                                                     through your participation in all of our events so that we may strive for
We, as members of B’nai Brith, along with the Canadian organization                  greater achievement . I know all of us can do it .
founded in 1875, are also faced today with many other challenges .
Going forward, what we need to do is recruit and retain new ‘brothers
and sisters’ from both inside our organization and from outside utilizing
marketing initiatives developed and implemented by both L .M .O .L .
and B’nai Brith Canada .

Our lifeline for the future of L .M .O .L .’s existence depends on this . We
have to act now to insure that the membership and future leadership of
L .M .O .L . is solid in order for our Lodge to survive . Otherwise, L .M .O .L .
as we know it today may cease to exist! One possible good sign is that
more women, especially wives of our members, have decided to join
as Lodge members .

I would be remiss if I did not pay special tribute and appreciation to               In conclusion, I want to thank each and every one of you for your
our talented and hard working Executive, Committee Chairs, the many                  patience, support and presence here, and your unwavering commitment
past presidents, fellow Lodge members and Sharon Haberman, our                       to the success of this great Lodge . This is what drives us to work harder
Executive Secretary, for their unwavering patience and guidance that                 on your behalf; to be the best that L .M .O .L . can be . I am proud to be
has helped me tremendously in serving Leonard Mayzel during my                       a member of this great Lodge and honoured to serve you as President
many various terms holding Chairmanships and Executive Office . Not                  for my next term of Office .
once did I have to throw the Gavel or the Roberts Rules of Order Book
at anyone . There are many names to mention, so I say collectively, “a               THANK YOU .

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                                                 Where I Sit
                                                  by Alvin Abram

ONE PERSON CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE                                             brought to an assembly building to be shipped to a concentration
                                                                             camp .
Several years ago I wrote a story about Martin Maxwell or Max Mayzel
as I know him, entitled “One Person Does Make A Difference” . It had         Not getting any co-operation from the British government, Winton
to do with events that in some cases Max had no control and weaved           arranged passports to be forged in the children’s names that allowed
its way to a conclusion that emphasized the title of the story . Events      them to be released from the camps . He then engaged 8 trains over
that in some way changed the lives of some, especially he and his            the next several months filled with children destined for England .
brother . It was a story of chance and circumstance .                        Martin Maxwell and his brother were placed before a German officer
                                                                             and asked where their parents were . Martin replied, “They’re dead .”
On May 6th, I attended a Tribute Dinner at Beth Emeth Bais Yehuda            The officer instead of ordering them sent to a camp, shouted that they
Synagogue . The Honouree was a 101 year old non-Jew . In 1938 he             leave the building before he changed his mind . Not long after, the
set into motion a series of events that affected the lives of many           two boys were able to join a train of children destined for England .
people in the years to come . He saved the lives of 669 children
just before the war began, who grew up, married, had children and            When the war came to Czechoslovakia, sitting in a train station in
grandchildren and now number over 5,000 .                                    Prague were about 250 children on their way to England .They never
                                                                             arrived . The Germans arrested them, sent them to camps where they
Nicholas Winton was a stockbroker . Martin Maxwell was a young               all died . But 669 children did arrive in England . Martin joined the
man . Winton saw the refugee camps that the Germans had interned             air force in England . His brother was accepted as an immigrant to
Jews prior to their invading Czechoslovakia and realized their plight .      the U .S . where he became a bombardier . On D-Day, Martin flew a
He returned to England to find people to sponsor Czech children if           glider into Normandy . His brother flew over Germany and bombed
he could arrange for their arrival . Martin Maxwell and his brother          strategic sites .
were rounded up with all the Jews in Vienna on Kristallnacht and
                                                                             With England in the war, Winton joined the army . Martin was
                                                                             wounded in Arnheim and captured by the Germans and eventually

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put in a POW camp . His brother was shot down over enemy territory
and with the help of the underground made his way back to safety .
Whatever Winton had done, his records and photos were locked in a
trunk and placed in his attic . Even his wife was not aware what her
                                                                                                           Gary A. Charendoff B.Sc., D.D.S.
husband had accomplished .
When the war ended, Martin became an interpreter for the Allies
in the war trials being held in the U .S . His brother became a U .S .
citizen and lived in Detroit . In 1988, Winton’s wife found the trunk
in the attic and saw the contents . She questioned him until he                                 Bayview Village Shopping Mall
confessed what he had done . A newscaster arranged for Nicholas                 2901 Bayview Avenue, Suite 219, Willowdale, Ontario M2K 1E6
Winton to appear in her audience filled studio to tell his story . She                      Tel: 416-224-1777 • Fax: 416-224-1792
asked, if he knew what had happened to the children he had saved .
He answered, he did not .The newscaster asked those in the audience
if any of them knew where any of Winton’s children might be . Almost
everyone in the room stood up .

Over time, the British government became aware of what Winton
had done . Winton was knighted and his story was revealed to the
world . When asked why he kept what he had done a secret, his
answer was, “I didn’t keep what I did a secret – I just didn’t talk
about it .”

I have learned from my writing experiences that among us walk
‘Quiet Giants’; men and women who ask for nothing but are willing to
give everything . There are no buildings in their names and no rooms
that honour them and yet, their presence has made a difference – a
huge difference . In a non-fiction book which I helped to write, the
principal remarks, “As I looked around the crowded room, I realized
that there are many forms of success . I was surrounded by a sea
of faces I had grown up with, lived with, worked with and shared
my life experiences with . My greatest success was in that room,
for what greater success could anyone ever hope to accomplish in
their lifetime than to be surrounded by family and friends and be
recognized as a good person?”

On May 6th as Beth Emeth was honouring Sir Nicholas Winton,
                                                                                             All personnel currently residing in Toronto
Martin Maxwell was in Holland as part of the celebration of the 65th
Anniversary of the liberation of Holland by Canadian troops . He was
selected to represent the Canadians who fought in Holland . He gave
testimonial as a survivor of the Holocaust, as a Canadian and as a
person, like Sir Nicholas Winton for making a difference .

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                                                  Arie Raif
                              A diplomat with a distinguished Government service record .

•	 	 onsul	of	Israel	to	Canada	1976-1981,	Trade	                                           Israeli Defence Forces; Military service completed with
   Mission Delegation .                                                                    distinction .
•	 	 onsul	General	(Hon)	of	Botswana	to	Canada	from	
                                                                                           Took active part in the Six Day War, the War of Attrition
   1988-2008 .
                                                                                           and the Yom Kippur War .
•	 	 resident:	The	Peres	Center	for	Peace-Canada.
                                                                                           Holds a degree in Education, studied Political Science
•	 	 resident,	Canadian	Friends	of	Meir	Hospital	and	
                                                                                           and History .
   Medical Centre – Israel
•	 	 ice	President:	AMOS	–	Air	Marshall	Operational	
   V                                                                                       In 1974 won the nomination of the Independent Liberal
   System .                                                                                Party of Israel to be a candidate for the Israeli Parliament
                                                                                           – Knesset .
•	 	 resident	and	CEO:	The	Westminster	Group	Inc.
                                                                           Married to Daliah Raif . Has 3 children and 4 grandchildren .
A Canadian corporation assisting governments and private sector in
developing infrastructure projects in various parts of the world .

  Psst!              Want a verbal roller
  coaster ride? Read The Dead Don’t
  Weep by Alvin Abram. From the low of
  bantering detectives, it rises to the heights
  of a who dunnit with the background of
  Toronto and beyond, as you have never
  seen it in print before.
                      Clinton Green, Toronto

                                                                                                 Get involved
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                          E-mail: bubbameinsa@yahoo.com
    Alvin Abram               Web Site: alvinabram.ca

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                                             2010 Annual Charity

                   Golf ay
                     D                        Tuesday, July 13, 2010
                                            Lionhead Golf & Country Club
                                          8225 Mississauga Road, Brampton

                                   Lunch 11:00 a.m. / Driving Range / Practice
                              Shotgun Start 1:00 p.m. / Kosher Lunch / Dinner Snacks
                                     Soft Spikes and Golf Attire MANDATORY

                       Prizes / Raffles / On-Course Competitions
                   Make your own foursome or register individually – $180 all inclusive

                             All proceeds will go to the
                           B’nai Brith Alzheimer’s Home
           Herb and Robert Stein       and        Sandy Burns                              Marvin Katz
        Plaza Kia of Toronto-Thornhill         Uniglobe Plus Travel                   KRG Insurance Brokers
                                    donating a                                              donating a
                                2011 Sorento Kia                                           10.000 prize
                               for a HOLE-IN-ONE                                        for a HOLE-IN-ON

                                                   Make cheque payable to:
                     B’nai Brith Canada * c/o Irv Pludwinski * 8 Newbury Lane, Toronto, Ontario M3H 1H5

    Irv Pludwinski / 416-633-2109 / spludwinski@rogers.com – Ian Regenstreif / 416-418-9686 / iamian33@rogers.com
         Ernie Gross / 416-785-8686 / bnsdelivery.com – Larry Rose / 905-882-0800 / larry.rose@canadianlinen.com

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        To All Members And Friends
                 Of L.M.O.L.
Kosher Food Banks
If you bring at least 3 cans of non-                                               Within our community there are Jewish
perishable food items to the GENERAL                                               people who have financial difficulties in
MEETING in September, Marilyn Abram                                                these hard times. All food banks depend
will give to each family one of the signed limited lithos            on cash and food donations from individuals and
shown below FREE. Value of each litho when released                  groups such as B’nai Brith. We, as Jews, have a moral
was $35.00 a piece. Help us help those in need.                      responsibility to help brethren who are going through
                                                                     hard times. After all, if we don’t help our community
                                                                     – who will?

  Norman Burns                                                                Mazel Tov
                         associated with
Breckles Insurance Brokers Ltd.                                                      It is with great pleasure that I report that
               Office:      416-292-2020 ext. 218
               Home:        416-493-4800                                                  ZVI WAINSTEIM
                 Fax:       416-493-9680
 A complete line of insurAnce including                                                       was honoured by
  Home, Auto, life And Business, rrif                                                Beth Emeth Bais Yehuda Synagogue

                                                                                            Co-volunteer of the Year

          Sandy Burns                                                                         with Rosalie Shadlyn

              Senior Travel Consultant                                                                    “Volunteering gives me the
                         associated with                                                                  opportunity to be close to the
                                                                                                          community I love . As gabbai,
          Uniglobe Plus Travel                                                                            I met some of the most
         Home Office:       416-493-4800                                                                  wonderful people I know . This
                Fax:        416-493-9680
                                                                                                          has enriched my life .”
              Email:        sandy@uniglobeplus.com
   speciAlizing in cruises, tour/pAckAge
       HolidAys And Business trAvel

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                                       by Eric Eisen
                                       Brotherhood Chairman

Speedy recovery wishes to:                                             Greetings:
Get well wishes to Helene Herman, wife of Ted Herman                   Norman Burns transferred to our Lodge
Get well wishes to Sheila Stepak, wife of Bernie Stepak                Gloria Dadoun on becoming a member
Speedy recovery to Marilyn Abram
                                                                       Mazel Tov:
Speedy recovery to Steve Midanik
                                                                       Michael and Barbara Lerech and family on the birth of their
Get well to Ben Libman                                                 granddaughter, Anna Leah, (Chana Leah) Kogan, daughter of Yigal
Speedy recovery to Moishe Grossinger                                   Kogan and Deborah Lerech
Speedy recovery to Dennis Tolson
Get well to Ralph Gan
                                                                          The Brotherhood Report is only as accurate as
Speedy recovery to Harold Risman
                                                                          the information we receive.
Speedy recovery to Faye Zweig, wife of Bobby Zweig
                                                                           Eric Eisen 905-417-5797 • eric.eisen@sympatico.ca

                                         July / August
                             I wish to thank those who have sent in the QUESTIONNAIRE .
              The Observer committee welcomes the dates of anniversaries and birthdays to our newsletter
                                            Mazel Tov to those listed below

    Anniversaries                                                           Birthdays
        July 10, 1973       – Schura and Karny Vorona                                       July 1        – Harry Lieberman
                                                                                            July 1        – Ian Regenstreif
                                                                                            July 13       – Joseph Brown
        August 3, 1969      – Eric and Helen Eisen
                                                                                            July 16       – Andy Reti
        August 15, 1971     – Michael and Barbara Lerech
        August 16, 1966     – Martin and Eleanor Maxwell                                    August 6      – Dr . Irving Pisarek
        August 16, 1964     – Dr . Sheldon and Ruth Rose                                    August 19     – Arnold Partnoy
        August 19, 1956     – Marvin and Lillian Goldman                                    August 21     – Les Mitelman
        August 23, 1978     – Sharon and Paul Haberman                                      August 26     – Eric Eisen
                                                                                            August 28     – Morris Dadoun
                                                                                            August 28     – Joseph Lambert

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                                   Can Love Heal?
Mary and her husband Jim                                                       If I die, Lucky will be abandoned, Mary thought . He won’t understand
had a dog named ‘Lucky .’                                                      that I didn’t want to leave him! The thought made her sadder than
Lucky was a real character .                                                   thinking of her own death .The double mastectomy was harder on Mary
Whenever Mary and Jim                                                          than her doctors had anticipated and Mary was hospitalized for over
had company come for a                                                         two weeks . Jim took Lucky for his evening walk faithfully, but the little
weekend visit they would                                                       dog just drooped, whining and miserable .
warn their friends to not
leave their luggage open                                                       Finally the day came for Mary to leave the hospital . When she arrived
because Lucky would                                                            home, Mary was so exhausted she couldn’t even make it up the steps
help himself to whatever                                                       to her bedroom . Jim made his wife comfortable on the couch and left
struck his fancy . Inevitably,                                                 her to nap . Lucky stood watching Mary but he didn’t come to her when
someone would forget and                                                       she called . It made Mary sad but sleep soon overcame her and she
something would come up missing .                                              dozed .

Mary or Jim would go to Lucky’s toy box in the basement and there the          When Mary woke for a second she couldn’t understand what was
treasure would be, amid all of Lucky’s other favorite toys . Lucky always      wrong . She couldn’t move her head and her body felt heavy and hot .
stashed his finds in his toy box and he was very particular that his toys      But panic soon gave way to laughter when Mary realized the problem .
stay in the box .                                                              She was covered, literally blanketed, with every treasure Lucky owned!
                                                                                                  While she had slept, the sorrowing dog had made
It happened that Mary found out she had                                                           trip after trip to the basement bringing his beloved
breast cancer . Something told her she was                                                        mistress all his favorite things in life .
going to die of this disease – in fact; she
was just sure it was fatal . She scheduled the                                                     He had covered her with his love .
double mastectomy, fear riding her shoulders .
The night before she was to go to the hospital                                                     Mary forgot about dying . Instead she and Lucky
she cuddled with Lucky . A thought struck her                                                      began living again, walking further and further
– what would happen to Lucky? Although the                                                         together every day . It’s been 12 years now and Mary
three-year-old dog liked Jim, he was Mary’s                                                        is still cancer-free . Lucky, he still steals treasures
dog through and through .                                                                          and stashes them in his toy box but Mary remains
                                                                                                   his greatest treasure .

           Live every day to the fullest. And never forget
           – the people who make a difference in our lives
            are not the ones with the most credentials, the
              most money, or the most awards. They are the ones
                                that care for us.

                                                              The Observer, July/August 2010                                                          11
                                            by Ralph Gan

It has been two years since I stood on the podium giving you my                   T
                                                                               •	 	 aking	Kadima	to	Rogers	Centre	for	a	baseball	game	sponsored	
speech as your incoming President . Today I will be making my final               by B’nai Brith Canada;
speech as your outgoing President .                                               S
                                                                               •	 	 unnybrook	Sabbath	Service	for	the	Veterans.

I want to thank our Executive for working extremely well together              Other projects were:
as a team . I also wish to thank the following individuals for a job              L
                                                                               •	 	 MOL’s	donation	of	a	new	projector	to	B’nai	Brith;
well done: Vice Presidents Moishe Grossinger, Dennis Tolson and                   D
                                                                               •	 	 onation	of	Southern	Israel	Emergency	Fund;
Alvin Abram; Larry Baine for handling the financial side of things                T
                                                                               •	 	 he	Observer	was	always	sent	on	a	timely	basis	and	as	a	result	  	
and Stan Beder as Treasurer; Ron Rotman for handling the position                 received good responses from our members;
of Corresponding Secretary, Trustees Jeff Levy, Max Berg, Marilyn                 B
                                                                               •	 	 ro.	Eric	Eisen,	our	Brotherhood	Chairman,	has	worked	diligently	
Abram, Shoshana El Harar, Marty Richman; Warden Zvi Wainsteim                     drafting our new Constitution which has been a pain-staking
and Irv Pisarek as Chaplin . And last but not least I want to thank               process;
Dora Goldberg for her assistance and help throughout my tenure as                 T
                                                                               •	 	 o	all	the	Trustees	on	the	Executive	that	have	assisted	the	Lodge	
President .                                                                       in a number of ways;
                                                                               •	 	 o	Bro.	Stan	Beder	and	Dr.	Sheldon	Rose	for	chairing	the	sale	of	
I take pride in that our meetings were well attended and of our                   Entertainment Books and the Dinner Draw;
handling of the Lodge’s finances and I am also pleased to report that             6
                                                                               •	 	 0th	Anniversary	Reunion	of	the	Lodge;
our expenditures have not exceeded our budget for the year .                      D
                                                                               •	 	 onated	money	to	the	B’nai	Brith	Haiti	Relief	Fund.

The following are some of the events that were held during my                  These are some of the highlights during my tenure as President . On
tenure as President . They are:                                                behalf of the Lodge, I wish to thank all of these individuals for doing
•	 	 ran	Saltzman	speaking	on	her	career	with	the	RCMP	and	identity	           a remarkable job .
•	 	 en	Schwartz	speaking	on	the	history	of	aviation	in	Canada	and	            It is unfortunate that the Lodge has not been able to acquire new
   tour of the Canadian Air & Space Museum;                                    active members before my tenure is up and during my tenure . It is
•	 	 ara	Gabriel	speaking	on	Training	of	Israeli	Guide	Dogs;                   imperative that the Lodge continue to find ways of bringing new
•	 	 our	of	the	Dead	Sea	Scrolls	at	the	ROM;                                   active members to ensure the Lodge’s survival in the years to come .
•	 	 itch	Smolkin	concert;                                                     We need to seek and find new members willing to undertake the
•	 	 aigie	Libman	for	her	talk	and	video	presentation	on	her	trip	to	          chairmanships and executive positions .
•	 	 oyson	 James,	 Reporter	 with	 the	Toronto	 Star	 speaking	 on	 city	     We do not wish LMOL to sink into oblivion because of this . Our
   politics;                                                                   existence rests on it . LMOL will continue to exist if new blood is
                                                                               injected into it .
Our C .V .S . Committee under the Chairmenship of Dennis Tolson and
Moshe Grossinger has worked effectively as well as the Yom Hashoah             I wish our new executive the best of luck in their future
Program recently held . Some of our C .V .S . programs were:                   endeavours .
•	 	 isit	to	Chudleigh’s	Apple	Farm	with	Kadima;
•	 	 he	R.I.D.E.	program;                                                      Wishing you all a very Healthy and enjoyable summer!
•	 	 anukkah	Candle	Lighting;
•	 	 unnybrook	Bingo;

12                                                            The Observer, July/August 2010
The Observer, July/August 2010   13

 The Harvey Adelman Award                                                                                  The Dave Title Award
      Man of the Year  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  . Eric Eisen        Humanitarian Service  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  . Max Berg

 The Dr. Irving Pisarek Award                                                                              The Schura Vorona Award
      Lifetime Achievement  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .Alvin Abram                     Fundraising  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  . Sheldon Rose, Jacques Altaras

 The Hy Wasserman Award                                                                                    The Lou Shumak Award
      Dedication to the Lodge  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  . Stan Beder                     For C .V .S . Activities .  .Moishe Grossinger, Dennis Tolson

      We can’t solve problems by using the same kind                                                            I don’t want to become immortal through my work.
       of thinking we used when we created them.                                                                   I want to become immortal through not dying.
                                                                   Albert Einstein                                                                                                Woody Allen

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We Won! First Prize!
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                                                                   Marc h 2009 |

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                                                                                                                                                                                           December 2008 | Volume 60 Issue 6


                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         the                                                                                                May 2009 | Volum
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                          Nomination Mee2009-2010
                                       for                                    tee
                                                  Executive Commit
                        Help select your
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          The Executive
                       2009                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    of
              March 1,                                                                                                                     Date: January 18, 2009                                                                                                             Leonard
      Sunday,                                                                                                                                                     at 7:30 p.m.                                                                                                         May
                    15 Hove Street,
                                    LMOL Auditorium
                                           0 p.m.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               Ontario Lo zel
                        Deli Dinner at 6:3                                                                                                Location: 15 Hove Street                                                                                                                       dge
                            Meeting to follow                                                                                                                 L.M.O.L. Auditorium                                                                                               wou            ld like to take this
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  to wish its mem ortunity
                                           will be served
                           A kosher dinner
                                                                                                                                                   Following the meeting, Professor Stephen Katz
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        A Healthy
                                   at NO CHARGE                                                                                                  from the Department of Sociology, Trent University                                                                                               Passover
                                                  welcome!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 A Good Se
                          Spouse s and guests are                                                                                                                  will speak on                                                                                                                     der

                                                ant                                                                                    “Images of Ageing - Positive and Negative”                                                                                                              and

                               eaker: Frank Dim
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           Good He
             Special Guest Sp Vice President
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             Throughout the worl
                                                                                                                                                        Refreshments will be served                                                          same seder, pray d at this time, Jews in every coun
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             ing the same pray                        try
                           utive     Exec
                                                        da                                                                                                 Guests are welcome!                                                                                                    ers and hoping for are reading from the
                                       B’nai Brith Cana                                                                                                                                                                                          The words may be
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       peace in their lifeti
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            me .
                                                    In Gaza and Mo                                                                                     Cost is $5.00 per person                                                                                      slightly different,
                         Topic: The War                                           2009
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                but the prayer for       the size of the book
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     peace is universa        may vary
                                                      by February 24,                                                                             Please contact Ralph Gan                                                                                                                              l
                                    to reserve a spot                                                                                                                                                                                           When you eat a piec
                   Please register                    h Gan                                                                                        no later than January 15                                                                                         e of matzah, you
                                     contact Bro Ralp                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   make
                                           or Email: rgan@pr
                                                              imus.ca                                                                                     to reserve a spot:                                                                                             that you are a Jew a covenant with yourself
                             905-731-9849                                                                                                 905-731-9849 or rgan@primus.ca

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  MAY YOUR GRA

               Leonar d May
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   NEVER HAVE TO

                                                                                                                                         Leonard Mayzel
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              FEEL THE SOR
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          ROW OF WAR
                                                                                      Can ada, Dist rict
                                                                  #18 00 B’na i Brith
                                                  Onta rio Lodg e                                                                                                  Ontario Lodge #1800 B’nai Brith Canada, District 22

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             Leonar d May
                                       January                                                                                                                 March                                                                                                                               Onta rio Lodg e
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   #18 00 B’na i Brith
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                                     to Start
                          It's Time        !                                                                                             General Meeting
                           All O ver Again
                                                                                                                                                                                                             Evening C
                              C.V.S. is what

                                    Dennis Tolson
                                                    made this Lodge

                                                       ion that Dennis
                                    There isn’t a posit and he thrives on his participatio

                                                                        hasn’t been invol
                                                                                           ved . He is

                                    no stranger to C .V .S nt is a mitzvah . The smiles from
                                                                                              n . He
                                                                                                 him .
                                                                                                                                                September 13, 2009
                                                                                                                                                            6:30 p.m.
                                                                                                                                                AIR and SPACE MUSEUM
                                                                                                                                                            Downsview Park
                                                                                                                                     A tour of the facilities will be a part of the Meeting                  9     9   oncert
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           SUNDAY, NOVE
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       MBER 15, 2009
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               7:30 p.m.
                                    says just being prese than enough compensation . Join                                                                   Don’t be late!
                                     who he helps is
                                                      more                                                                                                                                                                                  It will be a great
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               evening of enterta
                                                                                                                                                                     Guest Speaker:                                                                                                                                inment .

                                                                                                                                                                     SARA GABRIEL                                                                               Tenor Mitch Sm
                                                                                                                                                                     Israel Guide Dog Center for the Blind
                                                                                                                                                                                                                will be coming to
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    entertain us . For
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         those that don’t
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          know him . He was
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              the Artistic Direct
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    He has travelled                              or of Ashkenaz Festiva
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      all over the world .                              l and much more .
                                                                                                                                                                     Mission: To improve the quality of life of                                             Songs from Broad
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               way, from Pop and
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            This will be a perfor                   from Yiddish
                                                                                                                                                                     blind people by providing them with higher                                                                   mance worthy of
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   any concert
                                                                                                                                                                     levels of mobility, safety, independence and
                                                             Moishe Grossin
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     Nina Shaplinsky
                                                            loves putting a smile                                                                                                                                                                                                              will be his accom
                                         bottle washer . He                  his first                                                                               Refreshments will be served                                                                                                                 panist, world renow
                   He is cook and chief with his handicap: English is not                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           n pianist .
                    people’s faces . Even s eloquently of doing a mitzvah .      him .                                                                               Guests are welcomed                                                                                                            DON’T MISS THIS
                      language, he speak is better medicine than a pill . Join                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 EVENT
                                                                                                                                                                     Cost: $10.00 per person                                                                                                              The B’nai Brith House
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                                                                             help other   s whose needs
                                             rush of being   involved. Let’s                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Refreshments will
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        be served
                        Feel the adrenalin                             e great!                                                                                      Please contact:
                                                    YOU made this Lodg
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          $10 .00 per person
      Join them both.                                                                                 same!
                                                                                 ut YOU, it’s not the                                                                RALPH GAN
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                                         take part in at least                                                                                                       905-731-9848 or                                                                                                                       To reserve call:

                            Leonar d May Leonard Mayzel
                    COME on out and                                                                                                                                  E-mail: rgan@primus .ca                                                                                                                RALPH GAN
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                Entertainment Book 2011
As a result of the exceptional efforts of a group of dedicated Lodge
members, each year we are able to sell a significant number of The
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needed funds to carry out the many worthwhile community activities
of the Lodge .

These sales are generated through the use of e-mail and personal
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purchase their copy of the Entertainment Book from LMOL .
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                                      Dr. ROSALIE SHADLYN, Guest Speaker
                                             This evening will be devoted to ways and means

                                 WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 6, 2010, 7:30 p.m.
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                                         Due to limited room 18             ATTENDEES ONLY
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Dateline: August 31, 1939                                                             “I know but it can’t be avoided . When I first walked into his office,
                                                                                   he hugged me . We hadn’t seen each other for more then a month . We
Janusz cursed Hitler . It was all too apparent that Germany was prepared           celebrated with a glass of brandy, which my father kept for special
to invade Poland . Janusz knew the Polish government expected England              occasions . He couldn’t stop smiling as he gazed at me in my uniform,
and France to produce a last-minute miracle, but too much depended                 and I saw the pride in his eyes . If my feelings for you were not so strong,
on hope and not enough on self-initiative .                                        I think I would have backed down and left without saying a word  .  .  .
   Since promising to meet Rachel, he had received new orders to be                but I finally told him . I cannot describe the change that went over him
at the local headquarters before one in the morning . If that wasn’t a             as I told him of my love for you . He insisted I talk to Father Leszkiewicz,
sign of imminent disaster, nothing was . He glanced furtively at the front         our parish priest, before I made any final decisions . I’ve known Father
door . Rachel had sounded desperate when he’d talked to her on the                 Leszkiewicz all my life, watched his kindness as he administered more
telephone this afternoon . He sensed she would be the bearer of more               than faith to his parishioners . I’ve gone to him when I couldn’t find
bad news .                                                                         answers to problems that disturbed me . Always he was someone I
   He heard a soft tap on the door . He shot a quick glance towards the            could talk to . Whatever advice he gave me, whether I accepted it or
bedroom door to make sure it was closed before opening the front door,             not, I knew he was sincere . I came to his office because my father had
his expression composed to hide his anxiety .                                      asked me to, but I did not intend to relent .
   She hesitantly entered . Janusz had anticipated a kiss, but Rachel                 When I lived in Germany, I saw things there that I never realized
breezed passed him . Janusz locked the door . He crossed to the couch              before . I never knew that I, too, lived in a ghetto, a ghetto of Catholics .
and sat on the arm as he watched her, waiting to hear words he didn’t              A ghetto of people who thought alike, prayed alike, even walked alike .
want to hear . “It’s not good at home, is it?” he finally asked .                  We were copies of one another . In Germany, there was a mixture of
   Rachel stopped and looked at him, then shook her head . She                     nationalities, of religious preferences and, in some cases, of colour .
lowered herself into a tub chair, smoothed her ankle-length full skirt,            University students from around the globe came to study, and brought
then placed her hands on her lap, her fingers fidgeting as she avoided             the world closer together . I saw how different this was from my world
looking at Janusz .                                                                and wondered why I never saw it before .
   “Do you want to talk about it?” Janusz got to his feet .                           “I sat in Father Leszkiewicz’s office . It was an ugly room in the church
   “No, stay there, please!” Rachel said, motioning with her hands for             rectory with dark wood panelling on the walls, pictures of the Catholic
him to sit .                                                                       hierarchy hanging in the room, and behind the Father’s huge oak desk
   Confused, Janusz lowered himself back onto the arm . “You want to               a large cross with the saviour, Jesus Christ, staring down at the chair
tell me you can’t see me any more because of your father?” he said .               in which he had sat . The room was not designed for comfort, but for
   Tears appeared in Rachel’s eyes . “Janusz, there are so many                    intimidation . When I told Father Leszkiewicz why I was there, I saw the
obstacles .”                                                                       hurt in his eyes and heard the pain in his voice as he tried to persuade
   “I understand . I believe we can overcome the obstacles .” He was               me from my course . I had challenged him .”
having difficulty keeping his voice steady .                                          “Does the Church not understand love?” I asked .
   “We come from different faiths, Janusz . You don’t realize how big the             Father Leszkiewicz spoke with reserved calm . “Yes, but not romantic
obstacles are,” she whispered .                                                    love . It can’t be trusted, and there is no way you can be assured
   “But I do . They are the same for me as they are for you . When I               it will last . Once you enter into this unholy alliance, you break the
returned to Warsaw, I decided to tell my father about you .” for the               commitment you made at baptism, which you consciously re-affirmed
first time their eyes met . Janusz exhaled a long breath . “My father is a         in the sacrament of confirmation . ‘You have been sealed and therefore
generous and fair person . We’ve always had a good relationship . And              you belong to Christ and you have a commitment to spread the Faith
yet, when I left his office last week, I knew the bond we’d had was                and build up the Church .’ Are you building up the Church when you
broken  .  .  .” His voice trailed off . There was a tortured look on his face     marry someone who is not a Catholic? Is commitment something that
as he grasped for words . “You see he expected his only son to marry a             is on today, off tomorrow and on again later because your feelings
Catholic as your father expected you to marry someone Jewish . He has              change? You made the commitment . It is you who wants to break that
unshakeable faith in the church and what it represents .Your father from           trust . It is not me that you must ask for understanding, it is Him .”
what you’ve told me is just as committed to his faith . The last thing I              “You’re asking me to deny my feelings?”
wanted to do was hurt him or my family, but Rachel  .  .  . Rachel, if I was          “No, I’m asking you to realize what you are asking . Life does not
to have any kind of a future with you, they had to know of you .” The              end because of a tragedy . Your life will not be over because you are
words rushed from his lips, his voice raising in tone .                            confronted with an unhappy choice . Another will enter your life,
   “Janusz, we are causing so much pain .”                                         someone of our faith, and remove that pain you are feeling now .”
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   “The Church is too rigid .”                                                      sighed . “So you see, I know how you’re feeling . I was afraid too . I think
   “No . The Church sees us beyond the grave and it must be taken into              with time and given the chance, my parents will come to love you .”
account in the major decisions of our lives . Faith is a healer . You want             “Oh, Janusz, can you ignore your church?”
to ignore your Faith and its teachings . That is not possible .”                       “For you? Yes .”
   “The father of the girl I love thinks as you do, he exclaimed . Both                “We will be outcasts . Belonging nowhere .”
of you seem so sure of yourselves . Are you saying that both of you are                “We will have each other .”
right? But why am I wrong?”                                                            Rachel stood . “Janusz . What we’re doing will only cause pain to us
   “The Jewish faith is fine as far as it goes, but it is incomplete .Yes, they     and to our families .”
believe in the one true God, the God of Abraham, as do we but their                    “Our pain will never go away . Theirs, time could lessen . Without you,
faith is incomplete without Jesus Christ . They do not know this and that           I have no life .”
is why they are so adamant about what they do believe . We believe all                 Their gaze remained locked . When Rachel spoke again, her voice
that they believe and more .You must go forward with Jesus Christ .That             was very soft . “Janusz, when I came here I had already decided what I
is why you cannot do what you desire . You think your heart will break .            wanted to do . Now especially, after what you’ve said .” She dropped her
Not true . It will be your soul that will be damned .”                              gaze and stared at her hands . “I need you to do something for me .”
   “If I accept your argument, my heart will be damned for the rest                    “Anything .”
of my living life and if I reject my heart, my soul will be damned for                 Rachel smiled and took a deep breath . “Janusz  .  .  . I want you to
eternity . You offer no alternatives .”                                             make love to me tonight? I want that you should know that I love you .”
   “Yes, there is an alternative . She can become a Catholic .You can start         She closed her eyes as the words left her lips .
a Catholic family . You, your wife, your children will all be Catholic .”              Janusz was stunned . Rachel’s eyes remained closed, as if she were
   “I can’t ask that of her .”                                                      afraid to see his reaction to her words .
   “If she is unwilling to convert, we need an assurance that your                     “Are you sure you understand what you’re asking?”
children will be baptized and brought up as Catholic . If your children                “Of course!” Rachel’s eyes opened wide . “We’re not children, Janusz .”
are baptized, their eternal salvation is assured, at least until such time          Rachel’s voice broke and tears formed in her eyes . “I love you more
that they attain the use of reason . If they are not baptized and they die          than I thought was possible, and you love me . You’re going to war .
before attaining the use of reason, they go to Limbo for all eternity . She         People die in wars . Can you guarantee you will return? And what will I
has to agree to this and she must sign a statement to that effect . Then            have of you if you don’t? Words, a touch, an unfulfilled promise?” She
we can ask the Bishop’s permission . He will grant you a dispensation .             shook her head . “I need more . You are my only love . What I’m asking
It is not a happy solution, but it is an alternative . However, you will be         is to be loved by the man I love, the man who loves me .” She moved
married in the sacristy, not in the Church .”                                       close and put her arms around him . “Hold me, Janusz . Make love to me .
   “Why not in the Church?”                                                         Make me a part of you .”
   “Because you are putting your faith in danger, as well as that of                   “Listen, my darling .” Janusz gently pushed her back and held her at
your innocent children . Your eternal salvation is at stake . God does              arm’s length . “I must leave at midnight . Let’s wait until I return .You will
not condemn those outside the Church who know nothing about faith                   see – I will come back .You don’t have to prove you love me . I know you
and baptism, but He will not be so understanding of those who once                  do, as I love you .”
received baptism either leaves the Church or does not live up to their                 “You don’t understand, Janusz . I ask this not to prove, but to satisfy
obligations . You must realize the risk you are assuming .”                         my love . I don’t know if I have the courage to tell my father how I feel,
   “It is a risk I’ll have to take . I cannot impose what you require on            but I have the strength to want your love .”
someone who has asked nothing of me but my love .”                                     “We’ll find a way when I return .”
   Janusz closed his eyes briefly . “I was taught that God was merciful . I            “And  .  .  . and if you don’t return –”
begged Father Leszkiewicz for understanding . But he condemned my                      “No, Rachel . Don’t think like that . I will return . You –”
motives as selfish . I left knowing that if we married, I would be damned              She put a finger to his lips to silence him . “If you don’t return, I want
in the eyes of the church and would create a rift in my family that may             to have at least the memory of our lovemaking  .  .  . I want to remember
never heal . He looked up and met Rachel’s gaze . “My parents were                  you if that be the case with lasting memories and I know if we make
silent when I told them I hadn’t changed my mind . I saw the look                   love, you will give me those memories .This is not for desire, Janusz, this
of surprise on my sister’s face . My mother asked if I was prepared to              is for me to cherish forever .”
give up everything for you . I told her I was . Then she did something                 Janusz pulled Rachel to him and kissed her hard . He felt her arms
surprising . She came over and gave me a kiss . ‘I hope you don’t regret            around his neck as his lips gently caressed her cheeks, her temples and
what you are doing,’ she said . ‘I expect you’ll live in Lodz .’ I said yes .”      her neck . Her body trembled, but he made no attempt to go beyond the
   Rachel stared at him . “And your father?”                                        kiss .
   “My father  .  .  . well, he wouldn’t even look at me . Your father is like      ------
my father – a hard person to change . But maybe with time  .  .  .” He              From An Eye For An Eye written by Alvin Abram, winner of the International BookAdz
                                                                                    Award in 2005 for the best independent novel written in Canada and the U .S . by a
                                                                                    self-published author .
                                                                   The Observer, July/August 2010                                                                 19

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