Positive Guidance and Discipline “OK, here are your options: jump and discover the joy of flight, or don’t jump and I kick your butt out of the tree. Positive Guidance •Consistency Suggestions: is the key to guidance. It •Discipline should be helps children relevant to the misbehavior feel secure. •Attention is a powerful •Children may rebel reinforcer to guide when parents punish children: they often rather than discipline misbehave for attention •Respond to aggressive behavior in non- aggressive ways •Positive Modeling: is a very effective way •Children feel safe and secure to teach children when they have Limits. These desired behavior help a child gain self-control More Positive Guidance •Give reasons along with Suggestions: rules to help them learn why. •Follow through with your •Use routines to help children requests. Do not make know what to expect and how threats. to manage their behavior. •Treat children as responsible •Focus on their adults. Children become what good behavior. you believe they are. •The purpose of discipline is to learn self-control NOT obedience. This is the ultimate goal of positive guidance. Make sure the message of LOVE always gets through: warmth humor Types of Guidance Techniques 1. Natural and Logical Consequences • Logical Consequences: should • Natural Consequences: occur be relevant to the misbehavior without interference, child can see the result of their • Imposed by the caregiver to choices make the punishment fit the crime. • Cannot be used if the • Short in duration, not consequence will cause harm imposed in anger, provide to self, others or property, or opportunities for children to too far in the future. learn from their behavior • Example: If Billy leaves his • Example: If Sally spills the bike out, it will get stolen. paint, she must clean up the mess that is made 2. Positive Statements •Clearly states what is expected, then help them get started •When guiding children, phrase all requests in a positive manner •When giving directions talk to children on their eye level •Example: say, “Let‟s walk to the blocks,” rather than, “Don‟t run to the blocks” •Let‟s practice……. DON’T – PLEASE DO Negative statement Positive Statement • Don’t sit on the counter • Please sit on the chair • Don’t you ever clean • Please keep your room your room clean. • Don’t hit your brother • ________________ • Don’t run • ________________ • Don’t go in the road • ________________ • Don’t yell at me • ________________ • Don’t put your dish in • ________________ the sink 3. Redirection •Children can be easily distracted. Get him to focus on something else. •Substitute acceptable activities for unacceptable ones. •Example: If he is angry at the block area, lead him to a different area of the room and introduce a different activity 4. Reverse Attention •Ignoring the negative, reinforcing the positive •When a child‟s behavior is inappropriate, focus on a child who is displaying the appropriate behavior and make a positive comment •If the first child changes his behavior, he should be immediately reinforced with a positive statement. 5. Limited Choices •Do not give him an unlimited choice unless he can really have what is chosen. •Give “Either – Or” and “When-Then” choices •Only give choices that are available. •Example: “Do you want juice or water for a drink?” rather than, „What would you like to drink?” •Use a place where there are 6. Time Out no distractions or positive reinforcers •When a child has disobeyed a rule, she will be sent to a predetermined place to distance herself from the problem and gain composure. •The time spent in time out relates to the child‟s age. •Should be a last option, limited use. Be a Good Role Model • Remember that children imitate you. – Don’t expect them to be different than what you are. If swearing is not OK for them to do, then you shouldn’t swear. – Be polite and courteous and treat them with respect. – Treat them as responsible people. Children become what they are told they are. STATE Assignment #8: • Read the 3 child rearing problems or case studies involving a child/children and their parents, a group of children, or a group of children and an adult(s). • Suggest a positive guidance technique to be used to solve them.