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					Positive Guidance
      and
   Discipline
“OK, here are your options:
jump and discover the joy
of flight, or don’t jump and I
kick your butt out of the tree.
        Positive Guidance                             •Consistency
        Suggestions:                                  is the key to
                                                      guidance. It
 •Discipline should be                                helps children
 relevant to the misbehavior                          feel secure.
                                   •Attention is a powerful
  •Children may rebel              reinforcer to guide
  when parents punish              children: they often
  rather than discipline           misbehave for attention
•Respond to aggressive behavior in non-
aggressive ways                               •Positive Modeling: is
                                              a very effective way
    •Children feel safe and secure            to teach children
    when they have Limits. These              desired behavior
    help a child gain self-control
  More Positive Guidance
                •Give reasons along with
  Suggestions: rules to help them learn why.
•Follow through with your    •Use routines to help children
requests. Do not make        know what to expect and how
threats.                     to manage their behavior.

•Treat children as responsible             •Focus on their
adults. Children become what               good behavior.
you believe they are.
                         •The purpose of discipline is to
                         learn self-control NOT
                         obedience. This is the ultimate
                         goal of positive guidance.
 Make sure the message of LOVE
      always gets through:
warmth                    humor
Types of Guidance
   Techniques
            1. Natural and Logical
                 Consequences
• Logical Consequences: should     • Natural Consequences: occur
  be relevant to the misbehavior     without interference, child
                                     can see the result of their
• Imposed by the caregiver to        choices
  make the punishment fit the
  crime.                           • Cannot be used if the
• Short in duration, not             consequence will cause harm
  imposed in anger, provide          to self, others or property, or
  opportunities for children to      too far in the future.
  learn from their behavior
                                   • Example: If Billy leaves his
• Example: If Sally spills the       bike out, it will get stolen.
  paint, she must clean up the
  mess that is made
2. Positive Statements
             •Clearly states what is expected,
             then help them get started
              •When guiding children,
              phrase all requests in a
              positive manner
              •When giving directions
              talk to children on their eye
              level
             •Example: say, “Let‟s walk to
             the blocks,” rather than,
             “Don‟t run to the blocks”
             •Let‟s practice…….
       DON’T – PLEASE DO
   Negative statement         Positive Statement
• Don’t sit on the counter   • Please sit on the chair
• Don’t you ever clean       • Please keep your room
  your room                    clean.
• Don’t hit your brother     • ________________
• Don’t run                  • ________________
• Don’t go in the road       • ________________
• Don’t yell at me           • ________________
• Don’t put your dish in     • ________________
  the sink
3. Redirection
           •Children can be easily
           distracted. Get him to focus on
           something else.
           •Substitute acceptable
           activities for unacceptable
           ones.
           •Example: If he is angry at
           the block area, lead him to
           a different area of the
           room and introduce a
           different activity
4. Reverse Attention
              •Ignoring the negative,
              reinforcing the positive
               •When a child‟s behavior is
               inappropriate, focus on a
               child who is displaying the
               appropriate behavior and
               make a positive comment
              •If the first child
              changes his behavior, he
              should be immediately
              reinforced with a
              positive statement.
5. Limited Choices
             •Do not give him an
             unlimited choice unless he
             can really have what is
             chosen.
            •Give “Either – Or” and
            “When-Then” choices
             •Only give choices that are
             available.
             •Example: “Do you want
             juice or water for a drink?”
             rather than, „What would you
             like to drink?”
                •Use a place where there are
6. Time Out     no distractions or positive
                reinforcers

              •When a child has
              disobeyed a rule, she will be
              sent to a predetermined
              place to distance herself
              from the problem and gain
              composure.

              •The time spent in time out
              relates to the child‟s age.
              •Should be a last option,
              limited use.
       Be a Good Role Model
• Remember that children imitate you.
  – Don’t expect them to be different than what
    you are. If swearing is not OK for them to do,
    then you shouldn’t swear.
  – Be polite and courteous and treat them with
    respect.
  – Treat them as responsible people.
  Children become what they are told they are.
     STATE Assignment #8:
• Read the 3 child rearing problems or case
  studies involving a child/children and their
  parents, a group of children, or a group of
  children and an adult(s).
• Suggest a positive guidance technique to be
  used to solve them.

				
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