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					The Compassionate Friends                                               The Compassionate Friends
  The East Texas Chapter                                                 The East Texas Chapter
      Longview Texas                                                        Longview, Texas
        INVITE YOU                                                           Welcomes You
TO OUR MONTHLY MEETING
MEETING:
     WHEN: EVERY SECOND MONDAY OF THE MONTH
     TIME: 6:30 TIL 8:00 PM
     WHERE: FIRST UNITED METHODIST CHURCH

       We meet the second Monday of Each Month at the First
       United Methodist Church, Whaley Street Entrance,
       second floor follow signs. Please come to let us get to
       know your Child as we share our children. We do not
       know the answers, having survived we would like to help
       any way possible with your healing.
Steering Committee:
       Ruby Ellard          Co-Leader and Communications
       Elgin Lary           Newsletter and Facilitator
       Patty Dempsey        Treasurer
       Ginger Pritchard, Terry Dempsey
Contact Numbers:
       Compassionate Friends 903-757-6112
       Elgin Lary                 903-806-8927

       The Compassionate Friends
       PO Box 518
       Judson, Tx 75660
       e_larysr@hotmail.com

The Compassionate Friends would like to specially thank all those who
volunteered THEIR time and effort into making this tribute to our
children. To the Alpine Church of Christ and all the ways you have
shown your love and compassion, THANKS
                                                                                                                              The Compassionate Friends of East Texas
                             PROGRAM                                                                                                      P.O. Box 518
                                                                                                                                      Judson, Texas 75660
Welcome .................................................................................Ruby Ellard
                                                                                                           Your Name___________________________________________________________
Reading of Credos ..............................................................Harold Collins             Child’s name: _____________________ Relationship: ________________________
                                                                                                           Child’s Birth Date: ____\____\_____ Child’s Anniversary Date: _____\_______\_____
                                                                                                           Address: ___________________________________________________________
Poem: When Tomorrow Starts Without Me.................By: Jan Mortimore                                    City : ______________________State:____________ Zip _____________________
                                                                                                           Home Phone: ____________________ Cell Phone: __________________________
Poem: Mention My Child ............................................By: Beth Johnson                        E-mail:___________________@___________________________________________
                                                                                                               If you would like to have one of the following please check appropriate box
                                                                                                                            and we will get a copy of the appropriate one to you:
Song :Sissy’s Song, Alan Jackson................................ Sung By: Keri Johnson
                                                                                                             o   Copy of the Music CD played throughout the ceremony
Poem: And I will Light a Candle for You...............Read by: Debbie Cline
                                                                                                            o    Copy of the Video that played during the program
Lighting of the Five Candles:
                       Grief .............................................Brenda Upshaw                     o    Copy of the Live Songs that were sang during program
                                                                                                                 Any of the above will be available for order after the ceremony, a five
                       Courage ............................................Linda Collins                         dollar love offering would be appreciated for each item.
                       Memory .................................................Sue Jones
                       Love ....................................................Billie Fabre               Please check any of the following that apply:
                       Hope ............................................Ginger Pritchard
                                                                                                             o   Please continue sending the newsletter.
Poem: We Remember Them: All Participate ...Read by: George Jones                                             o   Please include my child’s name and picture in the newsletter when appropriate
                                                                                                                 dates occur.
                                                                                                                 Please do not send the newsletter.
Song: Isreal Kamakowiwo Ole’-Somewhere Over The Raninbow                                                         I am enclosing a memorial to support The Compassionate Friends in the
                                                 Sung By:JD Powell                                               amount of _______
Poem: Let Their Light Shine ................................Read by: Sylvia Crooks
                                                                                                           (Checks Payable to TCF)In memory of ____________________________
Poem: Candles Flickering ................................Read by: Mary Kay Stone                                      The continuation of this chapter’s work depends on donations. If you have
                                                                                                           not taken the     opportunity to give a donation in memory of your child please consider
Song: We Shall Behold Him...............................Sung By: Jay Thompson                              taking this time to give a gift that will help reach out to other newly bereaved parents.
                                                                                                                      We must have your written permission on file to use your child’s name and/or
                                                          Presented by: Shirley Anderson                   picture in the newsletter and/or at the Candle Lighting. This information is used to
                                                                                                           maintain our Chapter Database. It is confidential and is only utilized for Chapter
Poem: From One Who Knows......................Read By: Martha Thompson                                     activities such as the newsletter. Permission may be withdrawn at any time with your
                                                                                                           written request.
Lighting Candles in Remembrance of our Children...............All Participate                              ______________________________________                        ______/_______/_____
                                                                                                           Signature                                                          Date
Closing:......................................................................................Elgin Lary
                                                                                                                                 The Compassionate Friends of East Texas
           Please join us for Refreshments and Fellowship                                                                                    P.O. Box 518
The Compassionate Friends is a Non-Profit organization that functions
                                                                                                                                           Judson, Tx 75660
entirely on donations. With your donation, we can reach other families
                   suffering from the loss of a child.
                    From One Who Knows
I promise you, my friend, I promise you                                               Our Credo
That you will feel the warmth of spring again,
That you will touch the hands of children                             We need not walk alone. We are The Compassionate
And the lips of lovers                                                Friends. We reach out to each other with love, with
And the tenderness of Christmas again.                                understanding and with hope. The children we mourn
                                                                      have died at all ages and from many different causes,
But here and now my friend, I promise only small consolation;         but our love for our children unites us. Your pain
Some morning you will see beauty in your sorrow,
                                                                      becomes my pain just as your hope becomes my
Comfort in the wealth of love remembered,
Courage in the aching tide of days.                                   hope. We come together from all walks of life, from
                                                                      many different circumstances. We are a unique family
I promise you, my friend, I promise you                               because we represent many races and creeds. We
That you will understand.                                             are young, and we are old. Some of us are far along
                                                                      in our grief, but others still feel a grief so fresh and so
Someday, someday, This pain which taught you
                                                                      intensely painful that we feel helpless and see no
What greatness and devotion One live can hold.
YOUR life, my friend.                                                 hope. Some of us have found our faith to be a source
                                                                      of strength; some of us are struggling to find answers.
                                                                      Some of us are angry, filled with guilt or in a deep
By Sascha Wagner                                                      depression; others radiate inner peace. But whatever
                                                                      pain we bring to this gathering of The Compassionate
We would like to give a special Thank You:                            Friends, it is pain we will share just as we share with
To: Keri Johnson, JD Powell and Jay Thompson for
                                                                      each other our love for the children we lost. We are
comforting us with their beautiful voices in song.                    all seeking and struggling to build a future for
                                                                      ourselves, but we are committed to building that future
   To: Linda Kennedy, Betty Miller, the Kennedy Group, Hozelle        together as we reach out to each other in love and
Group,the Pruitt Group, Celeste, Carolyn and all of those great
members of Alpine Church of Christ, who helped show what this         share the pain as well as the joy, share the anger as
time of year is all truly about. For our third year in a row Brian    well as the peace, share the faith as well as the
Silverthorn has operated our board for audio and video.               doubts and help each other to grieve as well as to
   To: Ruby Ellard, Martha Thompson, Harold Collins, Linda Collins,
                                                                      grow.
Jan Mortimore, Ginger Pritchard, Brenda Upshaw, Billie Fabre, Beth
Johnson, Shirley Anderson, Sylvia Crooks, Debbie Cline,Mary Kay                       We need not walk alone.
Stone and all those behind the scenes to make this work. We                    We are The Compassionate Friends
would like to thank John and Joy Carr for always being behind us
with all of our printing and graphic needs.
          WE HOPE IT HONORED YOUR MEMORY
           When Tomorrow Starts Without Me
                  by David Romano                                                                WE SHALL BEHOLD HIM

When tomorrow starts without me,             and maybe see your smile.
      and I’m not there to see;        But then I fully realized                                            Verse 1
If the sun should rise and find your         that this could never be.          The sky shall unfold, preparing His entrance;
eyes                                   For emptiness and memories
                                                                                the stars shall applaud Him with thunders of praise.
      all filled with tears for me;          would take the place of me.
I wish so much you wouldn’t cry        And when I thought of worldly things     The sweet light in His eyes shall enhance those awaiting,
      the way you did today,               that I’d miss come tomorrow,         and we shall behold Him, face to face.
While thinking of the many things      I thought of you, and when I did,
      we didn’t get to say.                my heart was filled with sorrow.                                 Chorus
I know how much you love me,           But when I walked through heaven’s
                                                                                We shall behold Him.
      as much as I love you,               gates, I felt so much at home.
And each time you think of me,             When God looked down                 Yes, we shall behold Him,
      I know you’ll miss me, too.          and smiled at me,                    face to face in all of His glory.
But when tomorrow starts without me,       from His great golden throne.        We shall behold Him,.
      please try and understand,       He said, “This is eternity
That an angel came and called my             and all I’ve promised you,
                                                                                Yes, we shall behold Him,
    name and took me by the hand,      Today your life on earth is past,        face to face, our Savior and Lord.
And said my place was ready                  but here it starts anew.”
      in heaven far above,             I promise no tomorrow,
                                                                                                            Verse 2
And that I’d have to leave behind            but today will always last,
      all those I dearly love.         And since each day’s the same day,       The angels shall sound the shout of His coming,
But as I turned to walk away,                there’s no longing for the past.   the sleeping shall rise from their slumbering place.
      a tear fell from my eye,         But you have been so faithful,
                                                                                And those who remain shall be changed in a moment,
For all my life I’d always thought           so trusting and so true,
      I didn’t want to die.            Though there were times                  and we shall behold Him then face to face.
I had so much to live for                    you did some things
      and so much yet to do,                 you knew you shouldn’t do.                                     Chorus
It seemed almost impossible            But you have been forgiven,
      that I am leaving you.                 and now at last your free.
I thought of all the yesterdays,       So won’t you take my hand
      the good ones and the bad,             and share my life with me?"
I thougth of all the love we shared    So when tomorrow starts without me,
      and all the fun we had.                don’t think we’re far apart,
If I could relive yesterday,           For everytime you think of me,
      I thought, just for a while,           I’m right here in your heart.
I’d say good-bye and kiss you
                                                    Josh (JT) Upshaw Adam Allison, David Ayers, Danny Joe Barhum, Justin Broad,
Candles Flickering                                  Jordan Barnes, Buce Barton, Keith Beall, McKensey Blalock, Lindsay Brasher-
                                                          Bonette, Ginger Brodie, Stephanie Brooking, Joe (JD) Brumble,Jason
                                                       Buckingham, Trevor Burling, Tommy Cain, Chris Carpenter, Corey Carpenter,
I imagine our children looking down                   Jason Collins, Kayla Cooke, Matthew Crooks, Ryan Dempsey, Cateche Tatum
From the edges of heaven above                       Dyke, Nikki Donald, HayleeDriskell, Laurie Ellard-Bates, Matthew Elswick, Joe
Peeking at us lighting candles tonight              Fabre. Jef Fuller II, Bryant Gaddy, Brien Keith Hester , Lance Hill, John Holland
In honor of them with love                              Jr., Trenton Houghton, Jared Huffman, Martin (Marty) Jones, Ples (Junior)
                                                        Kropp, James Lee Lary II,        Amee Lovell, Benjamin McLemore IV, Kasey
They’re watching the candles flicker with light       Moraw, Kyle Mayfield, Jonathan Metoyer, Colin Mize, Lance C. Moore, Jesse
                                                       James Morgan, Nicole Patino, Jackson Peel,Dillon Perry, Norman Powell Jr.,
Glowing with love and affection                             Adam Pritchard, Scott Rawlinson, Tyson Reagan, Jaicey Robberson,
And the deep longing we all feel                                                          Mention
                                                                      Our Friend and TCF Member Jim Robberson,
To honor our precious children                                                            My Child
                                                     Justin Roeber, Terri Schoolfield, Colby Smith, Jena Stapp, Amanda Stone, Jay
                                                     Thompson, Josh (JT) Upshaw, Trevor Vale, Johnny Villasenora, CLpc Micheal
The warmth of the candlelighting across the globe                          Go ahead and Warden my child,
                                                      (Blake) Wafford, Rob Ward,Phillip RaymentionJr, Chad Wells, Charles Wilson,
Represents a worldwide motion                                                  Wooten, who died you know.
                                                       Steve Wilson, DereckThe oneJosh (JT) Upshaw Adam Allison, David Ayers,
                                                                        Don’t worry about hurting me Buce Barton, Keith Beall,
                                                      Danny Joe Barhum, Justin Broad, Jordan Barnes, further,
Of bereaved parents longing to honor                     McKensey Blalock, Lindsay Brasher-Bonette, Ginger Brodie, Stephanie
                                                                         The depth of my pain doesn’t show.
Our children with love and devotion                    Brooking, Joe (JD) Brumble,Jason Buckingham, Trevor Burling, Tommy Cain,
                                                                          Don’t worry about making me cry,
                                                     Chris Carpenter, Corey Carpenter, Jason Collins, Kayla Cooke, Matthew Crooks,
                                                                                I am already crying inside.
Each tiny flicker of each lit candle                Ryan Dempsey, Cateche Tatum Dyke, Nikki Donald, HayleeDriskell, Laurie Ellard-
                                                                              Help me to heal by releasing
                                                       Bates, Matthew Elswick, Joe Fabre. Jef Fuller II, Bryant Gaddy, Brien Keith
Represents a life we miss so much
Our children gaze down at us with love
                                                                                the Holland Jr., Trenton Houghton, Jared Huffman,
                                                        Hester , Lance Hill, John tears that I try to hide.
                                                                        I’m Ples (Junior) Kropp, James Lee Lary II, Amee Lovell,
                                                      Martin (Marty) Jones,hurting when you just keep silent,
Their families so miss their touch!                                            Pretending she Kyle Mayfield,
                                                          Benjamin McLemore IV, Kasey Moraw,didn’t exist. Jonathan Metoyer,
                                                                            I’d rather Jesse James Morgan, Nicole Patino, Jackson
                                                       Colin Mize, Lance C. Moore, you mention my child,
From Heaven our children see our candles                                  Norman Powell Jr., has Pritchard, Scott
                                                      Peel,Dillon Perry, Knowing that she Adambeen missed. Rawlinson, Tyson
So many fireflies flickering about                                                Reagan, Jaicey Robberson,
                                                                           You asked me how I was doing.
Across the globe the candles glow                                     Our Friend and TCF Member Jim Robberson,
                                                                               I say “pretty Smith, Jena Stapp, Amanda Stone, Jay
                                                     Justin Roeber, Terri Schoolfield, Colby good” or “fine.”
Showing the light that never goes out                                     But healing is something ongoing.
                                                     Thompson, Josh (JT) Upshaw, Trevor Vale, Johnny Villasenora, CLpc Micheal
                                                                                I feel it will take a lifetime.
                                                      (Blake) Wafford, Rob Ward,Phillip Ray Warden Jr, Chad Wells, Charles Wilson,
For the light of our children will never fade           Steve Wilson, Dereck Wooten,Josh (JT) Upshaw Adam Allison, David Ayers,
They live forever in our hearts                       Danny Joe Barhum, Justin Broad, Jordan Barnes, Buce Barton, Keith Beall,
                                                                                    by: Elizabeth Dent
As long as we remember their names and faces             McKensey Blalock, Lindsay Brasher-Bonette, Ginger Brodie, Stephanie
Then we will never truly be apart                      Brooking, Joe (JD) Brumble,Jason Buckingham, Trevor Burling, Tommy Cain,
                                                     Chris Carpenter, Corey Carpenter, Jason Collins, Kayla Cooke, Matthew Crooks,
                                                    Ryan Dempsey, Cateche Tatum Dyke, Nikki Donald, HayleeDriskell, Laurie Ellard-
Tonight we light our candles with love                 Bates, Matthew Elswick, Joe Fabre. Jef Fuller II, Bryant Gaddy, Brien Keith
And remember their lives too-short lived            Hester , Lance Hill, John HollandJr., Trenton Houghton, Jared Huffman, Martin
We honor the beauty, love and joy                          (Marty) Jones, Ples (Junior) Kropp, James Lee Lary II,  Amee Lovell,
That only our children could give.                     Benjamin McLemore IV, Kasey Moraw, Kyle Mayfield, Jonathan Metoyer, Colin
                                                    Mize, Lance C. Moore, Jesse James Morgan, Nicole Patino, Jackson Peel,Dillon
                   By: Tonia Barnes                     Perry, Norman Powell Jr., Adam Pritchard, Scott Rawlinson, Tyson Reagan,
                        Woods                                Jaicey Robberson, Our Friend and TCF Member Jim Robberson,
                                                     Justin Roeber, Terri Schoolfield, Colby Smith, Jena Stapp, Amanda Stone, Jay
                                                     Thompson, Josh (JT) Upshaw, Trevor Vale, Johnny Villasenora, CLpc Micheal
                                                      (Blake) Wafford, Rob Ward,Phillip Ray Warden Jr, Chad Wells, Charles Wilson,
                                                                                 Steve Wilson, Dereck Wooten,
                  Why did she have to go
              So young I just don’t know why
               Things happen half the time
              Without reason without rhyme
               Lovely, sweet young woman
                Daughter, wife and mother
                  Makes no sense to me
                                                                        Let Their Light Shine
                   I just have to believe

        She flew up to Heaven on the wings of angels        There’s an empty space in our lives tonight.
   By the clouds and stars and passed where no one sees   And there’s nothing known that can make it right
    And she walks with Jesus and her loved ones waiting    We so miss these children who brought us joy-
               And I know she’s smiling saying            Each most precious girl, each most precious boy.
                     Don’t worry ‘bout me
                                                           How our grief engulfs us and will not let us go!
Sissy’s Song    Loved ones she left behind
                                                              It holds fast because of the love we know.
Alan Jackson      Just trying to survive
                 And understand the why                         And our minds aid hearts forever seek-
                  Feeling so lost inside                   if we just could see them and hear them speak!
                Anger shot straight at God
                 Then asking for His love                  In our memories they always seem quite near.
                   Empty with disbelief                     Let those memories bring just a bit of cheer
                 Just hoping that maybe                     We must look, each one, with a grateful heart
                                                             That within our lives each child had a part.
        She flew up to Heaven on the wings of angels
   By the clouds and stars and passed where no one sees
    And she walks with Jesus and her loved ones waiting           As we gather here to memorialize
               And I know she’s smiling saying             These dear children far from our ear and eyes,
                     Don’t worry ‘bout me                    Let us each come forward, a candle light,
                                                             for the empty space in our hearts tonight!
                  It’s hard to say goodbye                                author unknown
                   Her picture in my mind
             Will always be of times I’ll cherish
                    And I won’t cry ‘cause

        She flew up to Heaven on the wings of angels
   By the clouds and stars and passed where no one sees
    And she walks with jesus and her loved ones waiting
               And I know she’s smiling saying                               My Wish
                     Don’t worry ‘bout me                               This Holiday Season
                     Don’t worry ‘bout me                                   Calm Days
                     Don`t worry ‘bout me                                 Smooth Nights
                                                                           Never Forget
   Israel Kamakowiwo Ole - Over The Rainbow
OK this one’s for Gabby
Ooooo oooooo ohoohohoo Ooooo ohooohoo oooohoo
Ooooo ohoohooo oohoooo Oohooo oohoooho ooooho
Ooooo oooooo oooooo Ooooo oooooo oooooo
Somewhere over the rainbow
Way up high
And the dreams that you dreamed of
Once in a lullaby ii ii iii
Somewhere over the rainbow
Blue birds fly                                                     And I Will Light a Candle for You
And the dreams that you dreamed of
Dreams really do come true ooh ooooh
Someday I’ll wish upon a star                                                    And I will Light a Candle for you
Wake up where the clouds are far behind me ee ee eeh                              To shatter all the darkness
Where trouble melts like lemon drops                                             and bless the times we knew,
High above the chimney tops thats where you’ll find me oh
Somewhere over the rainbow bluebirds fly
                                                                      Like a beacon in the night, the flame will burn bright
And the dream that you dare to,why, oh why can’t I? i iiii                         And guide us on our way
                                                                               Oh tonight I light a candle for you.
Well I see trees of green and
Red roses too,                                                     The Seasons come and go and I’m weary for the change
I’ll watch them bloom for me and you
And I think to myself                                                I keep on moving on but you know it’s not the same.
What a wonderful world                                          And when I’m walking all alone, do you hear me call your name?
                                                                       Do you hear me sing the songs we used to sing?
Well I see skies of blue and I see clouds of white
And the brightness of day
I like the dark and I think to myself
                                                                       You filled my life with wonder, touched me with surprise
What a wonderful world                                                Always saw that something special deep within your eyes
                                                                                    And through the good times
The colors of the rainbow so pretty in the sky                                and the bad we carried on with pride.
Are also on the faces of people passing by                                       I hold onto the life and love we knew.
I see friends shaking hands
Saying, "How do you do?"
They’re really saying, I...I love you                                          And I Will Light a Candle for you
I hear babies cry and I watch them grow,                           To shatter all the darkness and bless the times we knew,
They’ll learn much more                                              Like a beacon in the night, the flame will burn bright
Than we’ll know
And I think to myself
                                                                                       And guide us on our way.
What a wonderful world (w)oohoorld                                                  Oh tonight I light a candle for you.

Someday I’ll wish upon a star,
Wake up where the clouds are far behind me
Where trouble melts like lemon drops
High above the chimney top that’s where you’ll find me
Oh, Somewhere over the rainbow way up high
And the dream that you dare to, why, oh why can’t I? I hiii ?
Ooooo oooooo oooooo Ooooo oooooo oooooo
Ooooo oooooo oooooo Ooooo oooooo oooooo
Ooooo oooooo oooooo Ooooo oooooo oooooo
               Lighting of the Five Candles

  As we light these five candles in honor of our loved ones:

We light one for our Grief; One for our Courage; One for our
Memories; One for our Love, and One for our Hope
                              Grief
             This first candle represents our Grief.
               The pain of losing you is intense.
        It reminds us of the depth of our love for you.

                        Courage
        This second candle represents our Courage.
                  To confront our sorrow.
                  To comfort each other.
                   To change our lives.

                            Memory
         This third candle we light in your Memory.
                  For the times we laughed.
                     The times we cried.
         The times we were angry with each other.                                      WE REMEMBER THEM
                   The silly things you did.                   Leader:   In the rising of the sun and its going down…
            The caring and joy you gave to us.                 All:       We Remember Them
                                                               Leader:   In the blowing of the wind and in the chill of winter…
                                                               All:       We Remember Them
                             Love
                                                               Leader:   In the opening of buds and in the warmth of summer…
          This fourth candle we light for our Love.
                                                               All:       We Remember Them
    We light this candle that your light will always shine.    Leader:   In the rustling of leaves and in the beauty of autumn…
     As we enter this holiday season and share this            All:       We Remember Them
                    night of remembrance                       Leader:   In the beginning of the year and when it ends…
                 With our family and friends.                  All:       We Remember Them
                            Hope                               Leader:   When we are weary and in need of strength…
                                                               All:       We Remember Them
          This fifth candle we light for our Hope.
                                                               Leader:   When we are lost and sick of heart…
          That our children will live on through us
                                                               All:       We Remember Them
             Never to be erased from memory.                   Leader:   When we have joys we yearn to share…
       That their lives make a difference in the world.        All:       We Remember Them
                  That they are proud of us,                   Leader:So long as we live, they too shall live, for they are now a part of us.
             And that we will be together again.               All:       We Remember Them

				
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