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  and Mario Sikora       A publication of the International Enneagram Association
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                                                   By Mary Bast

                                                   You've no doubt heard the epigram first made public in January 1849
                                                   by Jean-Baptiste Alphonse Karr, founder and editor of           :


                                                   Usually translated as "the more things change, the more they stay the
                                                   same,"                   refers to what happens when we attempt to
                                                   resolve problems within the paradigm in which they were created. What
                                                   does this mean in everyday terms? To borrow again from the French:


                                                  Translation: "You can't make an omelette without breaking eggs." I'm
                        tempted to leave you with these powerful metaphors. However, I'll illustrate how
                        became the code phrase for a married couple to interrupt an interaction pattern that was
                        frustrating to both of them—to “break the eggs" they'd both been hatching and create a new
                        "omelette."

                        This had been their pattern: When the Ennea-type Nine husband perceived the Ennea-type
                        Eight wife as "interrupting" in conversation, he would shut down and "pout" (according to his
                        wife). The wife, annoyed that he would blame her instead of speaking up for himself, kept
                        talking while pulling back emotionally. He saw her withdrawing emotionally, wanted to have
                        peace between them, so bypassed his feeling of being ignored and tried to draw physically
                        closer. She felt "schizophrenic”—“He’s critical and wants to get closer? Doesn't compute!"

                        In the past, the pattern had been the opportunity for each to give "feedback" to the other, not
                        realizing that his telling her she interrupted, and her telling him he should just speak up, fed the
                                         pattern so that it kept occurring over and over.

                        When they looked at their interaction systemically and saw how both of them kept it going the
                        way it always had (                         ), they stepped back, let go of blame, and agreed
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                                   that whoever saw the pattern occurring would simply say, "                     " To more
                                   fully understand the                    dynamic described above, we know that Nines
                                   (the husband’s Enneagram style), tend to go along with others' ideas, yet feel
   Cincinnati, OH, USA             unspoken resentment when they stifle their own agenda. They will find it especially
                                   difficult to let go of a perceived slight when they believe that what they have to say is
                                   of no importance to the other. At the same time, Nines are “peacemakers” and want
                                   to be reassured that even their unexpressed annoyance has not created a disruption.
        Sao Paulo, Brazil          Thus this Nine husband wanted to snuggle up to his wife, who, being very aware of
                                   his “pouting,” didn’t feel so inclined.
                         )
                                   Enneagram Eights (the wife’s Enneagram style), in
                                   contrast, typically have plenty of ideas but often
   Philadelphia, PA, USA           succumb temporarily to their enthusiasms and/or
                                   forget to include a Nine partner. An Eight/Nine
                                   couple might be drawn together initially because of
                                   their mutual comfort with the Eight's providing
                                   structure, then both begin to feel some pain from
                                   that same dynamic. That’s what had happened
    Boulder, CO, USA               with the                  couple.

                                   What’s fascinating about this couple is that
                                   we did not spend time exploring their
   Birmingham, AL, USA             Enneagram styles so they could
                                   understand            they were having
                                   difficulty. Instead I asked questions to
    -                              help them look closely at what each of
                                   them did and said, so they could see how
                                   they were unwittingly feeding the pattern. This
                                   works the same way as interrupting a personal
 Baden-Baden, Germany
                                   pattern. You look carefully at           the pattern operates, then find a way to playfully
                             (5)   interrupt it, so it loses its “juice.” I used the French phrase
                                                   as a way to explain how systemic patterns work and asked them to come
                                   up with a playful name for the pattern they were examining. Because both partners
  Napa Valley, CA, USA             are fluent in French, they adopted that very phrase.

                                   In the last chapter of our book “Out of the Box: Coaching with the Enneagram,”
                                   Clarence Thomson and I wrote about how presuppositions work, and readers of the
Los Condes, Santiago, Chile        book won’t be surprised that I told this couple they might find themselves changing
                                   spontaneously without even engaging the pattern. That’s exactly what happened. It
                                   has been more than two months and both report to me that the pattern has not
                                   occurred since the three of us talked.
         Madrid, Spain
                                   Systemic coaching can be very powerful, encouraging individuals and couples to look
 To Submit and article for         at their patterns as dynamic systems that can be changed -- quite easily in some
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                                                                       organizational structure, the responsibility for the annual
                                                                       conference is being passed from our IEA Global
                                                                       organization to the Affiliates. The 2011 conference will be
                                                                       organized by IEA USA for IEA Global. In 2012 IEA USA will
                  The IEA Board of Directors met in San                again run the conference and in 2013 the IEA Spain
                  Francisco, California to prepare for the             Affiliate will host the Global Conference in Spain. We are
                  2010 IEA Global Conference and to                    laying down the structure that will allow us to support any
                  solidify the infrastructure that will continue       affiliate that desires to hold the Global conference. This
                  to move us closer to truly living up to our          annual Global Conference will continue to be augmented
name—the                    Enneagram Association.                     by the growing number of regional conferences being
                                                                       conducted by the affiliates.
Maria Jose Munita, Chile; Isabel Salama, Spain; CJ
Fitzsimons, Germany; Mario Sikora, Philadelphia, PA, USA;              The Accreditation Committee, Co-Chaired by Mario Sikora
Daniela Hauptmann, Napa Valley, California, USA; Gayle                 and Gayle Scott, is working diligently to complete and
Scott, Boulder, Colorado, USA; Gail Barber, Birmingham,                standardize the infrastructure that will continue to make
Alabama, USA and I met for four days to carry on the work              accreditation easier for our members and schools around
of our organization. We were supported by Sandy                        the globe. Five schools are already accredited. IEA Spain
Hatmaker, the IEA’s Administrator, and Bart Wendell our                just accredited 23 individuals from their Affiliate association.
meeting facilitator and past IEA VP. The meeting was                   We continue to be committed to expanding the
extremely productive                                                                                         accreditation program
and we developed                                                                                             as a way to
great connections and                                                                                        demonstrate and
synergy with one                                                                                             promote excellence in
another!                                                                                                     enneagram standards.

I want to report to you,                                                                                      The Information
our members, the                                                                                              Technology team,
issues that we                                                                                                headed up by CJ
addressed and the                                                                                             Fitzsimons and
outcome of our                                                                                                Advisory Board
meeting.                                                                                                      member Darryl
                                                                                                              Hadfield, continues to
The 2010 Global                                                                                               work on making the
Conference committee,                                                                                         IEA Website more
Co-Chaired by Gayle                                                                                           informative and user-
Scott and me, is excited                                                                                      friendly. The team is
to report that the Palace                                                                                     working diligently on a
hotel is a magnificent                                                                                        test site that will bring
place to gather,                                                                                              us into the information
experience, and learn.                                                 age. By August of this year we will have technology that
The hotel is located in the heart of downtown San                      supports the membership, the affiliates, and the
Francisco, as our members have requested, and it is both               administrative office and allows us to communicate with
majestic and comfortable. With administrative and                      each other effortlessly. I hope that you are all enjoying the
marketing assistance from Sandy Hatmaker, Valerie Atkins,              Podcasts that are available on the website and through
and others, the conference registration numbers are                    iTunes. Look for a new one around the 15th of each month.
climbing, and we are planning for the largest conference
attendance in quite some time. We are committed to                     Mario Sikora and Gayle Scott Co-chair the Publications
providing some Spanish-English and English-Spanish                     Committee and are the editors of the                         .
presentation translations, and Melanie Moeller and Yamilca             The IEA’s                      , a professional peer-reviewed
Rodriquez are on board to support us with this effort.                 journal now entering its third year, has been a huge success
                                                                       under the leadership of Bea Chestnut and we continue to be
As we move into our new Global and Affiliates
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                                                                                                                    IEA


                                                                      The IEA podcast is continuing with
dedicated to publishing it yearly. It has just recently been          monthly postings of interviews with
picked up by two agencies that deliver it to libraries                thought leaders from across the
worldwide. Many thanks to Merri Monks for her efforts in              Enneagram community. Episodes are
making this happen!                                                   available on iTunes and can be found
                                                                      by searching on “International
In addition to all of these wonderful accomplishments we              Enneagram Association.” The series
are also working to transition the IEA-USA to a fully                 began in March 2009 with an
functioning Affiliate, while at the same time maintaining the         interview with then-IEA president
fiduciary responsibilities needed to run the IEA Global               Uranio Paes and current president Dr.
organization. Our goal is to have this completely                     Deborah Ooten. Subsequent episodes
accomplished by 2012.                                                 include wide-ranging conversations
                                                                      with Jerry Wagner, Russ Hudson, David Burke, Tom
We currently have 13 international Affiliates, and two more           Condon, Michael Goldberg, Ginger Lapid-Bogda and
in the process. The Affiliate committee is headed by Mario            Helen Palmer.
Sikora, Maria José Munita and Isabel Salama. They are
setting the standards and communicating with all of the               On our most recent episode, Dr. David Daniels discusses
Affiliates around the globe in an effort to provide them and          the recently revised and updated edition of his book, “The
their members with community and support.                             Essential Enneagram.” Upcoming interviews will include
                                                                      Patrick O’Leary and Katherine Chernick Fauvre and David
CJ Fitzsimons has developed a plan that will create greater           Fauvre.
value for all of our members and we will be rolling that out
soon. Daniela Hauptmann has already launched the 2nd                  The podcast is part of the IEA’s efforts to fulfill its mission of
annual World Enneagram Day (WED) for May 29th of this                 providing a worldwide hub for the sharing of all
year, and we invite all of you to become involved in this             developments in the theory and ethical application of the
social outreach component of our organization. You can                Enneagram. The IEA podcast is an opportunity to
find more information on the event and tips for how to                experience a diversity of perspectives from leading teachers
structure your day on our website:                                    in the field in their own words without leaving your home.
www.internationalenneagram.org.
                                                                      Plans for 2010 include interviews with more leading
It has been a whirlwind year and we are less than a month             teachers, round-table discussions of a variety of topics, and
into it! I am very pleased to be a part of this board and we          more interviews with teachers from outside the US. If you
are in service to you all! Our goal is to continue to raise our       have any suggestions for people you would like to hear
level of consciousness and to serve.                                  interviewed, please send them to
                                                                      Mario.sikora@internationalenneagram.org.
I will look forward to seeing you in San Francisco!

Deborah Ooten
President, IEA Global




                Deb Ooten and Gayle Scott, conference co-chairs introduce this year’s conference direct from the Palace
                Hotel in San Francisco: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7p4iyPIoYLI



                Isabel Salama presents the conference in Spanish: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gqi4JOnxNKg

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By Dave Hall                                                                  It can remove itself quickly to a safer place. (The
                                                                              “flight” response.)
In the last issue of this magazine, several students of the                   It can somehow manipulate the way it appears so
Enneagram, myself included, weighed in with possible can-                     that the source of threat no longer perceives it as
didates for the core emotion of the Heart Center. In my re-                   something to harm. (The “freeze” response.)
sponse, I also suggested a more general criterion for
indentifying the core emotion of       given center. My sug-          The short-hand terms       ,      , and        need to be
gestion was that we should be looking for a certain kind of           unpacked a bit – they were obviously chosen partly for rea-
             emotion – a feeling-state that would tend to kick-       sons of rhyme and alliteration – but they are the seed-re-
start our ego-personalities into action in a certain Center-          sponses, I am suggesting, for the core emotions of
and Type-specific way.                                                (Body/Instinctive Center),     (Head Center), and
                                                                      (Heart Center). How we get from fight/flight/ freeze to
In this article, I want to propose an evolutionary history for        anger/fear/shame is the evolutionary part of this story.
three such motivating emotions. I will address some of the
ways that my understanding of this history differs from that          At the level of the
of Jack Killen and David Daniels, who have likewise pro-              brain, the three arousal re-
posed an evolutionary model to explain the core emotions.             sponses manifest in fairly
(I will admit to feeling some trepidation about this. I had the       simple behaviors:
good fortune to discuss some of these ideas briefly with Da-
vid at a workshop he led in Minnesota a couple of years                       A lizard (for example)
ago, and I am acutely aware that both he and Jack Killen                      can attack a perceived
have studied evolutionary biology more intensively than I.                    threat – or telegraph
But I also have a deep faith in the capacity of the Ennea-                    its intention to attack by baring its teeth, hissing,
gram symbol itself to help us perceive the structural under-                  and inflating some part of its body – in a classic
pinnings of personality.)                                                            response.
                                                                              It can scurry under a nearby rock – an obvious
In his                      article (2009), Killen aligns the                 response.
“fight/flight/freeze” arousal responses with Fear and the                     It can become immobile – essentially               an
Head Center (p. 45). I want to explore how this tri-partite                   inanimate object – or it may use some kind of cam-
response cluster functioned in an evolutionary perspective                    ouflage, in either case
long before animals had developed anything like what we                       to keep it from harm. These behaviors are lumped
now think of as the Head Center – or the Heart Center for                     together under the term
that matter – and how it may have formed the template out
of which the more complex emotions of the three Centers               As simple and as survival-based as these behaviors are,
later developed. Essentially, I am suggesting that the three          however, we can see in them the crude prototypes of the
core emotions developed out of biological arousal re-                 human emotions and preoccupations of the three Centers:
sponses related to survival. We can see how these arousal
responses originate in the reptilian brain, how they become                   If I perceive you as a threat to what I consider my
more complex with the advent of the mammalian brain,                          physical boundaries or integrity, I may respond by
and how they become yet more complex – and in some                            mobilizing my life-force energy in a way that keeps
ways maladaptive – with the advent of the neo-cortex and                      you at bay or somehow renders you less of a threat.
the human brain. A provocative question arises from this                      This is the evolutionary underpinning of what we call
perspective: in human beings, just what kind of “survival”                             in the Body/Instinctive Center.
do these emotions seek to ensure?                                             If I feel unsafe or insecure in my environment, I can
                                                                              use my intelligence to come up with alternative
My premise is that when an organism detects a threat in the                   places or structures where I will feel safer and more
environment, it has three fundamental response options:                       supported. This is the evolutionary underpinning of
                                                                              what we call        in the Head Center.
        It can respond with a display of strength, size, and                  If I feel like I am seen in a problematic way by
        ferocity, seeking to overcome or intimidate the                       someone in my environment, I concentrate on how I
        source of the threat. (The “fight” response.)                         appear – manipulating my appearance in subtle
                                                                              ways – to ensure my well-being. This is the evolu-
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        tionary underpinning of what we call       in the              In a short article like this, I can only touch briefly upon this
        Heart Center: an abiding preoccupation with how I              very complex subject, but even a quick look at the type de-
        am seen by others.                                             scriptors from different Levels of the Riso-Hudson Core
                                                                       Dynamics1 model can be illustrative.
With the advent of the        or                brain, a devel-
opment that enables a full-blown Social Instinct to emerge,            Here are three examples, one from each Center:
the forms of behavior related to the arousal responses be-
come more complex, especially as regards the            and                     At Level 5, in the middle of the Average range, Type
       behaviors. In animal species that live in herds or                       Eight is noted to be “sparring” and “territorial.”
packs, we see social roles developing in relation to these                      Down in the Unhealthy range, at Level 7, Eights can
responses. The alpha male in a wolf pack, by definition, is                     become “violent” and “rage-aholic.” The resonance
always going to display the       response. As a corollary,                     with the       response is explicit.
the other males in the pack exhibit a range of submissive                       At Level 5, Type Three is described as
behaviors, signaling by their               that they are not                   “chameleonic.” At Level 7, the Three is described as
challenging the alpha male. These behaviors, such as hold-                      an “imposter.” These terms clearly resonate with the
ing the tail low or between the legs, or rolling over to expose                 defensive responses of                       .
the belly, can be added to the expanding repertoire of                          At Level 5, Type Six is described as “evasive” and
       responses that work by manipulating how the animal                       “pulling back.” At Level 7, the Six is described as
is seen by others.                                                              “hiding out.” Here the terms evoke the classic
                                                                                response.
Furthermore, the more complex mammalian social forma-
tions encourage a range of important new behaviors and                 If we look honestly at the levels of health at which most of us
responses that are designed to care for and protect the                operate most of the time, we can see that much of our core
young. Here is where I would evolutionarily align the                  emotional reactivity continues to function as a largely out-
Panic/Distress response that Killen and Daniels discuss – not          moded and maladaptive survival response – and that the
with the Heart Center but with the Social Instinct. Killen, in         entity that is trying to survive at this point in our evolution is
fact, refers to Panic as a “social” emotion, and notes that the        not our organism but rather our ego-structured personality.
Panic/Distress system is “quintessentially mammalian,” ap-
pearing only with the advent of the limbic brain (p. 42, 46).          But we have also evolved to the point where we are capable
                                                                       of transforming the expression of these core emotional ener-
Now, what do these survival-based arousal responses look               gies. When, as a Six, I am present enough to my experience
like when they become the human emotions of             ,    ,         in the moment to act from a healthier Level, I feel the core
and          ? Who – or what – is trying to survive when these         emotion of       more as an             and a        ,a
emotions kick in? Are the core emotions mostly adaptive, or                  and        of mind – though still with the organismic
are they mostly       adaptive, in terms of human life and             feeling of arousal behind my sternum that I usually associate
possibility? Finally, does locating the genesis of the core            with fear – and I sense that this emotional energy can help
emotions in these age-old biological arousal responses                 me to             the ego-structures that in my less conscious
mean that they are           the most recent form of these             moments I am generally trying to preserve and protect.
primitive mechanisms, or have we as humans evolved to the
point where we are able to form wholly new relationships to            I would be interested to hear if Body Center and Heart Cen-
these emotional energies?                                              ter types have a similar experience around their core emo-
                                                                       tions. My sense is that the Instinctive/Body-Center energy of
To meaningfully address these questions, we need to bring                      , at healthier levels, is very close to the pure energy
in a new dimension of emotional experience that is, as far             and potency of the                      itself, and that what we call
as we know, unique to human beings: the vast psycho-spiri-                       in the Heart Center is an energy that enables
tual continuum describing the levels of health and develop-                  ,               , and a                         .
ment in the human personality. For along with the greater
capacities for self-awareness and understanding that came              Toward the end of his very rich and thought-provoking arti-
with the advent of the more complex human brain came                   cle, Killen introduces some questions about how the three
also a greater range of expression, running from                       emotional systems he has addressed might interact with the
and             manifestations of these capacities down to re-         other basic biological systems formulated by Jaak Panksepp.
markably               and               manifestations. I think       (The full list is Fear, Rage, Panic, Care, Seeking, Play, and
this is particularly and poignantly true of the primary emo-           Lust.)
tions.

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By Jorge Mendoza, President, IEA Mexico                               Rafael Ruiz and Myriam Luna, balancing their passionate
Under this attractive slogan—The                                      styles, presented case studies of the "Enneagram in the
                                  —the 2nd National                   Enterprise", specifically in the evaluation of human talents
Enneagram Encounter was held November 21, 2009 at the                 and in a “live session” of coaching. Geru Aparicio brilliantly
University Humanitas of Mexico City. It was a highly                  spoke to us about "Defense Mechanisms” where, through "in
anticipated event for those of us who have experienced and            the flesh" dynamics, the participants could experience these
make use of the powerful tool of the Enneagram.                       mechanisms.

Leading this second encounter with                                                            Pilar Ramírez and Efraín Pichardo
the support of an enormous staff                                                              helped us to see, feel, and believe
of volunteers, Andrea Vargas,                                                                 the possibility to begin, to build, to
Rafael Ruiz, and I proudly                                                                    maintain, and to grow our couples’
represented the International                                                                 relationships; showing what each
Enneagram Association in Mexico.                                                              enneatype needs and discovering
                                                                                              how we can take advantage of our
The objective of the meeting was to                                                           enneatype wings and how to move
make the essence of the                                                                       along the different movements that
Enneagram more widely known,                                                                  can be made through the
and we had a variety of speakers                                                              Enneagram symbol. In short, the
representing prestigious and                                                                  seed of an entire vital topic for the
internationally known schools such                                                            wellbeing of all people.
as Claudio Naranjo’s, Palmer-Daniels’, and Riso-Hudson’s.
This diversity was a source of great satisfaction for the             Closing on a high note, Andrea Vargas and Mónica Tinoco
audience.                                                             conducted a panel of Enneagram Types. Nine people
                                                                      formed a panel and the questions were focused on the
The Second Encounter opening and welcome session was                  enneatype passions, and how they show up in relationship
carried out by our IEA Mexico’s Directive Committee in the            with others. Andrea and Monica’s exact questions allowed
presence of more than 60 attendees. It began with a talk I            the panelists to express themselves from the soul, without
gave on “Three Brains” and a talk by Adelaida Capdevielle             hiding anything, to share from the most painful place and
on “The Historical Roots of the Enneagram."                           maybe the more plentiful resources of power that we all
                                                                      have for well-being. This exercise allowed each one of our
Later, the proudly Mexican writer Andrea Vargas captured              guests to observe themselves in the look, language, and
us with the topic: “            ”, in which she explores and          body of the nine personalities represented in the panel.
transmits, with her exciting style, the nine enneatypes. In the
other room, Mónica Tinoco illustrated for us, through a               The Second Encounter gave us the opportunity to aspire to
pleasant story, how the Enneagram can help us to "                    an event next year that will offer the best from us to people
understand the rising of conflict" and to improve our                 on their way to personal transformation, growth, and
relationships.                                                        wellbeing through the fascinating and powerful tool of the
                                                                      Enneagram.
Eduardo Rosas, through the workshop: "Spirituality in Daily           Keep on with us!
Life Through the Enneagram", invited us to meditate about
the importance of not looking to any person as a number,              Jorge Mendoza
but as a being that is much more than the enneatype that              www.eneagramamexico.com
characterizes him or her. "Enneagram and Psychotherapy"               eneagrama@eneagramamexico.com
was the talk presented by Adela Márquez. She shared with
the audience, based on her clearly deep experience, how
the Enneagram can be a very powerful technique in
psychotherapy.

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 Ask Dr. J.
Q


A       Dear Perplexed,

         You raise some very timely issues about how to parent your little Enneagramers and when to teach them about the
         Ones and the Twos (I leave the subject of the Birds and the Bees to other experts.) Not surprisingly, there are
different points of view among Enneagram authors. Richard Rohr is of the mind that it takes till early adulthood for the
personality to be established and then is the time to see what one has wrought. Also it takes time to get to Piaget’s stage of
formal operations where one has attained more sophisticated hypothetical reasoning and self-reflective abilities. This
would be somewhere in the Reign of Terror known as adolescence. This might argue holding off instructing children on the
art and science of personality type till they’re better prepared to understand it.

William Callahan (1992) addressed his book and counselor’s manual to adolescents and young adults – roughly the high
school years. He thought that was a good time to help young people reflect on who they are.

On the other hand, Elizabeth Wagele (1998) and Janet Levine (2003) in their respective books about parenting encourage
us to recognize early on our nine parenting styles and the nine types of children. However, I don’t recall either saying
whether or when we should reveal our observations to our children. I believe their intent is more on raising parents’
awareness of type rather than formally instructing children about their type.

Borrowing Tom Condon’s metaphor about wearing our harness (personality) loosely, maybe we could also wear our typing
loosely. We can share our observations: “Try this on for size;” as opposed to forcing our interpretations: “This is a perfect
fit for you;” or “You’ll grow into this.” It’s the same balance we need to use with adults: “See if this description or template
fits your experience” vs. forcing someone’s experience into a preset mold. Little children want to please their parents (well,
some do) so they’ll go along with their parents’ interpretation. That’s why it’s easy to “lead the witness” in court if the
witness is young.

Most therapists are advised to offer their interpretations or suggestions tentatively (Dr. Phil to the contrary.) “Could it be?”
vs. “This is the way it is.” Let the client taste, savor, and chew over what you offer them lest they swallow it whole. The
latter is called introjection , which leads to psychic indigestion. So you would want to invite the child on an Enneagram
journey rather than laying an Enneagram trip on them. Give them a taste of the Enneagram and see if they like it. If not,
offer it to them later when their tastes have matured. It may take awhile to develop a taste for asparagus or Scotch.

I like your question about whether we should move the child toward their security point, towards the style preceding them
on the Enneagram circuit. From a Rogerian point of view, I’d say it’s best to affirm, acknowledge, and validate the child’s
experience -- their whole experience -- so they in turn can validate and be comfortable with their whole self. Loving the
child conditionally leads to parts of the self being left out. The parts that are left out are those aspects of ourselves that
were not accepted, appreciated, allowed, supported, or “held” when we were children. Often these were characteristics
associated with our “heart” or “security” point, the type moving backward along the inner flow.
Sandra Maitri (2000) writes concisely and poignantly about our “soul child” or the “child within.” I’ll paraphrase and quote
what she says:
  Within every Nine is a young person that wants to be seen, wants to shine, and wants to be the center of attention. There
is a little show off underneath that plain persona.
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 Ask Dr. J.continued
  Behind the efficient and composed veneer of a Three lies a very frightened child who is shy, timid, self-doubting, and
insecure.
  Within every      is a lazy little person who just wants to be comfortable and entertained. This inner indolence is the heart of
the Six’s fear.
  Inside the moralistic, righteous, and upstanding stance of a One is a young child who cares nothing about being good or
doing the right thing. He only wants to play and have a good time and take in all of the wonderful things life has to offer.
  Within every seemingly magnanimous and happy-go-lucky Seven is a very miserly, withholding, and withdrawing soul child
who wants to hide from life and connect with it from a distance.
  Inside of every self-enclosed, withdrawn, and quiet Five lives a little soul child who dreams of getting even and of devouring
endless pints of ice cream. This soul child delights in getting down and dirty, slogging it out with the other kids, and lustfully
immersing himself in life.
  Within the tough and no-nonsense Eight who delights in testing her grit and that of others, dominating and controlling life,
and triumphing over any adversity lies a needy, clingy, and lonely little soul child who is desperate to be loved and held.
  Behind the loving, giving, and helpful outer façade of a Two lies a competitive, jealous, and spiteful little soul child.
  Within the dramatic, intense, and emotional façade of a Four is a bossy and pushy soul child who is intent on all the other
little kids’ behaving properly. This soul child is a Goody Two-shoes, prim and proper, and critical of all those who don’t
follow the rules.

When the manifestation of our soul child is not accepted, according to Maitri, we form our personality around this part of us
to defend against it. When these parts of us are welcomed into the family (of origin and our inner family), they transform
back into aspects of Essence which they originally were, but which became distorted. Because they weren’t allowed to be
expressed, they came out awkwardly and primitively.

So, FINALLY, getting back to your question, I would say as parents we are called to recognize and affirm the soul child in
our child when she appears. It’s not so much encouraging and leading the child in this direction as welcoming this part of
the child into the family when he inevitably shows up. If we react negatively to this quality in the child, then we need to
notice our own discomfort, wonder where it comes from, and stretch our own boundaries to include and hold all these
dimensions of our child. We might even get in touch with sealed off parts of ourselves. Our little gurus might have
something to teach us.

When we are open to the appearance of this soul child, then these marvelous transformations can occur. Again, I
paraphrase Sandra Maitri’s descriptions.
  The exhibitionist tendencies of the Nine’s soul child will transform into a sincere recognition of his or her personhood.
Reclaiming herself as personally valuable and lovable, the Nine will realize herself as a personal embodiment of Being.
  The fearfulness of the Three’s soul child will transform into an inner confidence, support, and ease and become the inner
calm and effortlessness of true Will.
  The inertia and indolence of the Six’s soul child will transform into the loving kindness of Being, a sense of being held in
the embrace of the Divine.
  The indulgent pleasure seeking of the One’s soul child will transform into joy in the creation, the handiwork and
manifestation of Being.
  The geeky, nebbish, and bookish qualities of the Seven’s soul child will transmute into true and embodied knowing, into
true Consciousness.
  The little bully and bigot of the Five’s soul child will transform into the vibrancy, aliveness, strength, and courage of
embodied and engaged Energy.
  The needy, insecure, and vulnerable part of the Eight’s soul child will relax into, melt, and merge with her essential nature
which is true Love.
  The negativity, pettiness, and self-centeredness of the Two’s soul child will transform into genuine self care, connecting him
with the spark of the Divine within.
  The self-righteous, resentful little soul child of the Four will transform into the purity, luminosity, and brilliancy of her
Essence, the shining sense of inner completeness, perfection, and elegance.
It would appear that as parents we not only have the opportunity to foster our children’s growth but also the honor of
inviting the Divine into our homes.

Callahan, William.                                                            . Chicago, Loyola University Press, 1992.
Levine, Janet.                          . Hoboken: Wiley & Sons 2003.
Maitri, Sandra.                                   . New York: Tarcher/Putnam, 2000.
Wagele Elizabeth                        . San Francisco: HarperSanFrancisco, 1998.
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The Essential Rationale for Shame
as the Core Emotion of the Heart Center
By Katy Taylor                                                     ignoring our anger (9); and sublimating or channeling
                                                                   anger (1).
I’ve been following with great interest the different
explorations of the core emotion of the Heart Center in the                            teaches us how Being knows through us.
last two issues of this publication. Thanks, Bea, for inviting     When we are awake, our knowing is direct, clear, insightful,
this discussion among Enneagram teachers. Shame is the             vast, spacious, illumined, receptive, silent, and still. This is
core emotion of the Heart Center in the Riso-Hudson                the capacity of Presence in the mind—the openness and
teachings , and it arises inevitably when we consider the          receptivity of Quiet Mind.
core emotions as a direct result of the loss of connection to
Essence as experienced in each Center.                             When we feel disconnected from Quiet Mind, from free-
                                                                   flowing Knowing, fear arises, and the personality jumps in
The three Centers are not only associated with what David          quickly to try to figure out how to know, what to believe,
Daniels refers to in his response article as “aversive             which way to go, what will be safe, where to find guidance,
emotions,” but even more importantly, they show us the             what to trust. If this fear is allowed to flow freely, it will
ways that Being, our True Nature, manifests in us—through          pass, but when the personality grabs on to it, the familiar
the belly/body, heart, and head. When Being flows                  ego responses of the Head Center types dominate the show:
unobstructed through all three Centers, the aversive or core       withdrawing into the mind to master fear (5); being
emotions may arise as natural responses, but they do not           alternately driven or paralyzed by fear (6); and seeking
drive the type. It is when this flow                                                           stimulation and satisfaction in the
is distorted or blocked in some                                                                world to avoid the fear (7).
way that they arise and motivate
the ego personality to take                                                                                        , Being sees
action. As Riso and Hudson write                                                             itself in the mirror of the Human
in                                                                                           Being, feeling and experiencing
             : “Each of these                                                                through us. The Sufis say that the
Triads [Centers] represents a                                                                heart is the “taster of Truth”—we
range of Essential capacities or                                                             know our True Identity as Being
functions that have become                                                                   through our hearts and
blocked or distorted. The                                                                    experience it as sweet, loving,
personality then tries to fill in the                                                        delicate, precious,
gaps where our Essence has                                                                   impressionable, deep, intimate,
been blocked...” (p.58)                                                                      and beautiful. This is our capacity
                                                                   to be Present in our hearts, tasting the Truth of who we
                   shows us how Being lives in and animates        really are.
our bodies. This is related to how our spiritual and
biological life-force energy flows through us—how                  Feeling cut off from the flow of our True Identity, we do not
balanced, centered, strong, engaged, grounded, alive, vital,       know who we are. Perhaps I was wrong and I am nothing—
aligned, full of integrity, inhabiting the body we are. It is      perhaps I have no love, no preciousness, no identity. So my
about our capacity to be Present, here, in this body, in this      ego personality seeks ways to get back to these qualities by
moment.                                                            trying to feel and appear loving and caring (2), precious
                                                                   and valuable (3), or deep and unique (4). But in so doing, I
When this spiritual and biological life-force energy is            am creating a mask, a false image. Shame arises as the
obstructed, when we feel cut off from it, the personality tries    primal shame of my soul, knowing that this image is not the
to recreate that connection by concocting a sense of MY life,      True Self, even as I try to create the image in a “wrong-turn”
MY body, MY energy, MY autonomy, creating boundaries               attempt to return to what I know is my True Nature. Just as
along with the arising of anger. When it is flowing freely,        anger and fear, even shame can arise and dissolve, but
anger dissipates again naturally; however, when the flow is        when the ego is driven by it, the Heart Center distortions
blocked or distorted, we see the typical ego reactions of the      have taken over.
three Body Center types: overemphasizing anger (8);
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                                    When I heard that
                                    Elizabeth Wagele and
                                    Ingrid Stabb were
                                    bringing out a book on
                                    using the Enneagram to            Each chapter on a type opens with a brief description of the
                                    help you find the right           Type, followed by a longer section on typical strengths that
                                    career, my heart sank a           these people might bring to the job. For example, the Six or
                                    little: I’ve come across          Questioner might bring: being exact, skepticism, loyalty,
                                    many teachers who                 problem solving, protectiveness, wit. What they might need
                                    suggest Threes and Eights         on the job is: certainty, fighting for a cause, intellectual and
                                    make the best leaders,            physical stimulation, physical security, and reassurance.
                                    Sevens are the creatives,         These strengths are not necessarily unique to each type. For
                                    Fives the researchers, and        example, Ones and Eights share the strength of logical
                                    so on. So, when I                 thinking; the Seven and Nine share the ability to synthesize
                                    received my review copy,          information. The next section discusses things to watch out
my heart stayed a little sunk: The book carries the subtitle,         for, with suggestions of concrete topics to work on. For the
“How to Find the Perfect Job for Your Personality”. However,          Questioner, typical issues revolve around: anxiety, authority
having read the book, it’s clear that the subtitle comes from         issues, doubt, testiness and vacillation.
the editor, not the authors.
                                                                      The next part of the chapter focuses on the Wagele-Stabb
The book was launched on December 29, so I took                       Career Finder, an instrument tailored to each type. It
advantage of being at the IEA’s January board meeting in              comprises six steps, the final two of which are in Chapter
San Francisco to meet with Wagele over coffee in Berkeley             Ten: identify your strengths, list your favorite careers,
and talk about some of the questions the book raised in my            practical considerations, situations that work for you, your
mind. Hence, this article is a mixture of review and                  general job necessities, and putting it all together. As I was
background information.                                               pondering how to review the book, I decided to test the
                                                                      instrument myself. About 11 years ago, I changed career
                          is aimed at people who are                  from manager of research in a multinational corporation to
considering how to improve their current career choice                being a leadership sculptor and coach. I conducted a
(either by making the current path more satisfactory, or by           thought experiment, putting myself back in the summer of
identifying a new path). The focus is on career; the                  1998, and used the instrument from that perspective.
Enneagram is ever-present, hovering discreetly in the
background.                                                           The book’s authors recommend that one take the first
                                                                      couple of steps quickly. Wagele underlined to me the
The book is not aimed at Enneagram professionals who                  importance of people being able to identify their personal
want to deepen their understanding of the Enneagram.                  strengths: “If you take the tests quickly, it increases the
Although, having said that, the chapter on Nines helped me            chances that you’ll come up with something that’s bigger
to understand why I, as a Nine or Peace Seeker, am so                 than how you might usually view yourself or what others tell
productive when I’m working on a train. The Wagele-Stabb              you about yourself.”
Career Finder, the heart of the book, can also be a helpful
instrument for coaches helping people with their career               The first step in the instrument is to evaluate yourself on five
choices.                                                              strengths and then order them in preference. The Peace
                                                                      Seeker’s strengths are Capacity to Repeat, Empathy,
The layout of the book is pretty straightforward: the                 Mediating, Synthesizing Information, and Teamwork. In
Introduction overviews the book, gives a brief introduction to        comparison, for example, the Eight’s or Asserter’s strengths
the Enneagram and contains a quick test to help readers               are: Competitiveness, Leadership, Logical Thinking,
identify their Enneagram Type. Chapters One through Nine              Protectiveness, and Self-Reliance. Wagele and Stabb
focus on each Type in turn. Chapter Ten looks at some                 identified the strengths for each type by interviewing lots of
fundamental ideas for people of each Type to consider in              people over the past few years.
their work situation. In the final chapter, the authors take
the reader through the steps involved in crafting a strong            My worry about the book being overly prescriptive about
résumé, applying for a position, interviewing, and handling           career choice was alleviated the first time I saw how many
the subsequent negotiations.
                                                                                                               continued on page 12
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careers (about 170 for each type!) were listed in the table           couple of other careers, just to make sure the numbers don’t
for the second step: List Your Favorite Careers. For many             always come out high – they don’t!
careers, they moved beyond the stereotypic question, “What
makes a good doctor (or lawyer or manager)?” and                      The fifth step involves evaluating a range of factors that
identified different type-specific strengths, to be able to           impact job enjoyment. Five of them are those on the Job Fit
answer, “What makes a good One (or Two or …) doctor? “                worksheet; the others are: compensation, hours and
                                                                      benefits, location, advancement, and culture. Once you
For each career in the table the authors indicate the                 have your ten, you rank them from most to least important. I
importance of a particular strength for performing this job           did this twice: once from the 1998 perspective, when I
well. They recommend that you take your two top strengths             made my career change, and once from today’s
and scan the table quickly, looking for those careers where           perspective. I’ve experienced quite a shift in the last eleven
your strengths are also required, and then notice for which           years: So, even if you never seriously consider changing
careers you feel a particular spark of excitement. They               career, just revisit this list and notice which of your priorities
suggest picking no more than four. I boiled it down to six in         have changed. It might contribute to a happier and more
my thought experiment, two of which had been my careers               productive work environment for you.
(mathematician, manager of a research department) before
I made the major change to coaching, which was                        The final portion of the book shows – through a few case
fortunately also on my list.                                          studies – how you can craft your résumé to fit a particular
                                                                      job opening and identify how to leverage your strengths in
The third step is also quick: just check which of the careers         this. For me it is the least satisfying part of the book. While it
meet your general needs for pay and security. To help you             contains good tips and suggestions, especially on how to
in this step, some of the careers are identified as being in a        craft a résumé, I got the impression while reading it that the
future growth area for jobs, carrying high pay, offering a            authors were rushing through the subject because of a page
large number of present openings or being recession-proof.            limitation from the publisher. The chapter would benefit
                                                                      from more space, maybe even enough to be considered as
Then you move on to the Job Fit worksheet. The idea is to             “The Career Within You, Part 2”. For example, the section
compare under five categories, tailored to each type, three           on negotiating a package is five pages long and could – if
jobs you have held or are considering. The Peace Seeker’s             all the nuances of how type impacts negotiations – easily
categories are: how                are the principles, how            reach fifty.
             is my workspace, how       is the management,
how              are the work hours, and how                is        Notwithstanding the breathlessness of Chapter Eleven, the
the environment. My old careers scored as highly as my                book is a valuable support for those seeking a career
current career (22 points out a possible 25), which was a             (change). And Wagele’s cartoons are – as always – a
nice confirmation of my career trajectory. I also tested a            delight and underline the book’s message. Finishing the
                                                                      book, my heart has raised again.



The Essential Rationale for Shame of the Heart Center continued
In summary, while the suggestions from other teachers all             follow-up article in this issue about their biological
relate to the Heart Center emotions in one way or another, I          underpinnings. We see how Essence and biology come
fully agree with the Riso-Hudson teaching that shame is the           together to understand our type manifestations through our
most meaningful, rich, and comprehensive choice for the               various Levels of Health.
core emotion of the Heart Center. Not only does it clearly
connect with the Heart Center issues of “being seen,” but it          When we are more in touch with the Essential Qualities of
is consistent with the ego compensation for the felt loss of          the Centers, the core emotions arise and become distorted
Being as it is experienced in all three Centers. To the extent        less frequently, as we have more of our ground in Being
that I am identified with the ego self, I risk the feeling of         (Instinctive Center), are more aware of Who we are (Heart
shame, because part of me knows that this ego                         Center), and trust more deeply that the Knowing needed to
identification / personality is not who I really am.                  live on this earth will arise as needed (Head Center). As
                                                                      Rumi says, “You are the truth from foot to brow. What else
Understanding the relationship between the core emotions              would you like to know?”
and the Essential Qualities of the Centers corresponds not
only to what my teaching partner Dave Hall articulated
about the motivating power of the core emotions in his
response article in the last issue, but also aligns with his
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13
                       In early November 2009, fifty
                       eight people converged at “The                  With this information, we ventured into more specifics of the
                       Barn,” the headquarters of The                  Psychic Structures and the operation of the Superego. First
                       Enneagram Institute, in Stone                   we learned the basic diagram of the psychic structures, the
                       Ridge, New York to attend the                   sum of which is the ego self. The elements include:
                                                     led by                     The sense of self/sense of other;
                       Don Riso and Russ Hudson. The
                       Psychic Structures, originally                          The conscious, sub-conscious, and unconscious
                       developed by Riso and further                           mind;
                       developed with Hudson, presents
                       a powerful visual map of the inner                      The Superego proper and its mechanisms.
workings of each enneagram type.
                                                                       The Superego is the machine that drives our behaviour and
                                                                       each type has a specific Superego message that must be
The attendees were as diverse a group as the rich tapestry
                                                                       satisfied. The Superego plays a wicked game, giving us a
of the Psychic Structures that we would learn over the next
                                                                       credit when its demands are satisfied and extracting a debit
two and half days. We had travelled from all corners of the
                                                                       when they aren’t. The Superego is always keeping score.
globe: Australia, Canada, Denmark, England, France,
                                                                       The further we drop down the Levels of Development from
Germany, India, Italy, Trinidad, the United States, and
                                                                       the healthy to average,and unhealthy ranges of functioning,
Switzerland, representing an eclectic range of backgrounds
                                                                       the more debits we acquire and the harder it is to move
from all walks of life. We were parents, retirees, social
                                                                       back up into the healthier range.
workers, real estate agents, coaches, writers, counsellors,
spiritual directors, business consultants, doctors,                    Having set the scene to provide a solid grounding for us to
psychologists, psychiatrists, clergy, trainers, business               explore our own experience with the Superego, Hudson and
owners, and investment bankers.                                        Riso finished the first evening with an exploration of the
                                                                       initiating energy of Type Eight. With great compassion and
Riso and Hudson opened the workshop with a meditation                  kindness we were reminded of the essence of Eight—
and discussion on the benefits of studying and                         strength, robustness, and the immediacy of the sense of
understanding the Inner Critic/Superego to provide a                   aliveness, as well as the resultant negative ego
pathway to having more being, freedom, and joy in our                  compensation when the Eight feels disconnected from its
lives -- “a way of stripping off what is there to find out what        essence. The specific Superego message of Eight is “You
is true.” We learned that the Superego is the main internal            are good or okay if you are strong and in control of the
mechanism by which we shut down and forget ourselves.                  situation.” While this seems reasonable, in every Superego
                                                                       message there is always a “catch” in the logic.
Riso and Hudson illuminated the role of the Superego as
the regulator of our ego structures -- the apparatus that              Each type looks outside itself (to others) to satisfy the
keeps us in familiar, habitual territory as a way of                   Superego message. The healthy Eight finds healthy ways of
remaining “safe.” As children the Superego kept us safe by             feeling strong and in control and thus starts accumulating
internalising what our parents, society, and perhaps                   Superego credits. Conversely when the Eight moves down
religion expected of us. Our Superego doesn’t realize that             the Levels and has less control of the “other,” the unsatisfied
we have become adults, and continues to try to protect us              Superego increasingly makes debits. This spiraling down the
as if we were still children. Whenever we start to grow and            Levels results in the many emotional and behavioural
move beyond its authority, our Superego is activated,                  reactions we see in lower-level Eights.
keeping us distant from organic consciousness, which is the
real basis of our wisdom and intelligence.                             A central element to understanding the psychic structures is
                                                                       the concept of three different types of Ego Boundaries. The
We can experience the active Superego as a contraction in              Eight (along with the Three and Seven) has a closed Ego
our bodies, a hardness in our hearts, or an inner voice in             Boundary that armors and defends itself against undesirable
our minds—as well as in many other subtle ways. All of                 external influences and subconscious messages. Throughout
these Superego reactions cause our ego to contract into its            the workshop we were given the opportunity to explore how
familiar personality pattern, with the result that we lose the         each type’s energy manifests in us by engaging in a variety
ability to be present—as experienced in the quiet of our               of exercises. We ended the evening by listening to a
minds, the love in our hearts, and the realness of our
bodies.                                                                                                       continued on page 15
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hauntingly ethereal piece of music that touched our hearts            The many gifts we received over the course of the workshop
with the real power of the essence of Eight and reminded us            included personal insights, enhanced awareness of others
that the healthy Eight grows by moving to the healthy Two.            and of ourselves, and a new technical way of
                                                                      conceptualizing the types.
Over the next two days, as we explored the Psychic Structure
of each of the remaining types, we came to understand the             As the course came to conclusion, we spoke amongst
basis for many of the phrases that have become popular in             ourselves about the impact it had on us. Some spoke about
reference to the types—such as the “inner sanctum” of Type            using the knowledge gained to be kinder to themselves and
Nine, the “inner committee” of Type Six, the “inner                   others; to better manage relationships and difficult
tinkertoy” of Type Five, and the “fantasy self” of Type Four.         situations; to be more present and authentic as Enneagram
We also came to a deeper understanding of the True                    teachers, coaches, spouses, or parents. A psychiatrist was
Essence of the types—the sweet connectedness of Type Two,             moved to say that she had encountered deep, new
the radiant glory of Being of Type Three, the freedom and             knowledge that she would use when treating her patients,
joy of Type Seven, the sense of sacredness of Type One,               and expected improved patient outcomes as a result.
and so forth.
                                                                      As we finished, I surveyed my fellow seekers. The
The vivid graphic diagrams of the Psychic Structures                  unanimous conclusion was that we had found what we had
combined with the powerful word pictures, provided a                  sought and were greatly satisfied. Our high expectations
window into the interior of each type, allowing us to deeply          had been exceeded and we were deeply grateful to have
experience its essence, beauty, and challenges. Throughout            received Riso and Hudson’s simple yet profound Enneagram
the weekend there were many exercises. Working in dyads               teaching. All us felt that we could unreservedly
and triads, we were able to reflect on, feel into, and sense          recommended the workshop to others. Given the richness
the presence of each type in each of us. We concluded                 and new “language” of the Psychic Structures model, some
each type with a reminder of its Essential Qualities, followed        of us were already contemplating taking it again.
by a piece of music that perfectly captured the essence of
the type and the truth of the teaching.


1Don Riso mapped the Ego Boundaries and how they correlate to the Hornevian Groups—Types 3, 7 & 8 having closed
boundaries, Types 4, 5 & 9 having open boundaries, and Types 1, 2 & 6 having flexible boundaries.




This is a heterogeneous list, made up of what sound like              There is a danger of emotional and instinctual issues being
emotions, drives, and behaviors. I think the most basic an-           jumbled together when the Instincts are demoted to mere
swer might be that we are looking at interactions between             “subtypes” of the nine personality types. This is one of the
Center/Type on one hand and Instinct on the other. The                reasons why Riso and Hudson always treat the Instincts as a
Panic-Care dyad (with the possible addition of Play) looks to         separate, autonomous realm that intersects with – but is
me like the Social Instinct, and Lust (with the possible addi-        never completely subsumed by – the Centers and the Types.
tion of Seeking) looks a lot like the Sexual/Attraction In-           The different ways that the Instincts are understood and
stinct.                                                               taught by different Enneagram teachers might, in fact, be a
                                                                      fruitful subject for a future conversation in these same pag-
It may prove that the structural precision of the Enneagram           es.
holds the key to sorting out these seven categories in a dif-
ferent and clearer way. It may be the case that what Killen
and Daniels call Panic/Distress contains elements of
the Social Instinct      the core emotion of        , which
similarly entails reactions around lack of connection, mir-
roring, and attunement in our environment.


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By Alfonso Colodrón                                                  4.                        . En esta etapa, dejé de hablar de
                                                                     ello, de hacer tests, pero continué elaborando mis hipótesis
                                                                     de trabajo cada vez que llegaba alguien nuevo a la
                                                                     consulta o me presentan a alguna persona. Empecé a
                                                                     encontrarme con dudas y sorpresas. Me habían tipificado
                                                                     mal. Perdón, me había dejado tipificar erróneamente. Yo
                                                                     quería pertenecer a una “tribu” y los parecidos con el
                                                                     primer tipo y subtipo que me atribuyeron parecían
                                                                     concordar. Descubrí años después que se debía a una
                                                                     depresión latente que alteraba el mapa del
                                                                     comportamiento y del prematuro“diagnóstico”.

                                                                     5.                           . Había empezado a escribir un
                                                                     libro, pero no me valía la estructura ni los puntos de
                                                                     partida. Seguí leyendo todo lo que caía en mis manos.
                                                                     Participé en foros. Me abrí a nuevas hipótesis y escuelas.
                                                                     Surgían cada vez más matices y dificultades de tipificación.
                                                                     Me introduje en otros mapas como la “astrología
                                                                     psicológica”, el “diseño humano” o el “Mat21”. En mis
Quisiera que esta comunicación fuera una llave para abrir            talleres transpersonales comprobaba hipótesis, las hacía y
vacíos. Vacíos de creencias y prejuicios, de hábitos y               rehacía en función de la realidad y no de lo aprendido.
rutinas. Vacíos fértiles que nos lleven a romper fronteras, a
ampliar horizontes. Sobre todo, porque va dirigida a                 6.                           : Elaboré nuevas hipótesis.
expertos, profesionales y practicantes del eneagrama.                Puse en cuestión afirmaciones y formas de entender y
                                                                     aplicar el eneagrama aceptadas poco menos que como
                                                                     dogmas. El libro se alargaba, engordaba, lo aplazaba.

1.            . Las primeras veces que oí hablar de                  7.                      : Es mi momento actual. Empezar
eneagrama, me produjo rechazo. Entre gestaltistas de la              desde los cimientos. No dar por sentada ninguna hipótesis,
“Escuela Oeste” parecía un         Quienes no hubieran               ninguna afirmación, ningún método de trabajo. Verificar.
realizado los grupos SAT de Claudio Naranjo parecían                 No repetir axiomas simplemente por el prestigio o la
pertenecer a un planeta inferior. Para mí, eran ellos los            antigüedad de quien lo afirma. En este sentido me
marcianos, hablando en jerigonza marciana.                           considero un “aficionado”, alguien que “cultiva un arte sin
                                                                     vivir de ello”, “alguien que tiene afecto por”, en lugar de
2.              . Un eneagramista avanzado nos dijo un día           ser un “experto”, un “perito”. De ser perito en algo, me
cenando en mi casa a mi mujer y a mí, refiriéndose a mi              gustaría, como el poeta Miguel Hernández, ser un “perito
hija, recién llegada de China con tres años: “¿Sabéis que            en lunas”.
tenéis una hija “dos sexual”. En aquel momento, casi me
pareció un insulto. Me entró el gusanillo de la curiosidad y         Ludwig von Bertalanffy dejó bien establecido que cualquier
empecé a leer; al cabo de unos meses, quedé asombrado                sistema existe dentro de otro mayor. Y que cualquier
de lo exacto del “diagnóstico”.                                      sistema forzosamente ha de ser abierto. Es consecuencia de
                                                                     otro anterior y está sometido a un proceso nunca cerrado
3.                . Esa misma noche, me invitó a hacer un            de cambio. Algo tan simple parece ser olvidado por
curso de una semana, “el protoanálisis”, y me convertí               algunos profesionales del eneagrama que lo convierten en
desde el tercer día en un neófito entusiasta; una especie de         un mapa cerrado. Cerrado a lo que procede de otras
predicador laico de un instrumento capaz de revolucionar el          escuelas, de otras experiencias. En ocasiones por
conocimiento de sí. A partir de entonces, completé tres años         desconocimiento y falta de profundización. A veces, y esto
más de SAT con Claudio Naranjo. Comencé a coleccionar                es más grave, por filias y fobias. Decepciones y rencillas
tests de comprobación a todos los familiares y conocidos             personales. Somos humanos. Entonces, un sistema abierto
que se prestaban a ello. Igualmente pasé varios años                 se convierte en            doctrina con dogmas y leyes
intentando tipificar –sin decírselo- a todos mis consultantes        inmutables. Y cuando aparece el dogma y la doctrina
terapéuticos (prefiero no llamarles pacientes ni clientes).          proliferan las iglesias y los cismas. La verdad de los que
Escribí artículos de divulgación, supervisados y aprobados           saben contra la verdad de los que se equivocan.
por “la autoridad competente”.
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                                                                    corta a la madera, critica, aborta los proyectos,
                        .                                           descalifica… También todos los elementos
                                                                    sistémicos y las posiciones ocupadas en la familia
1. Ningún mapa es su territorio. Ningún mapa es el                  de origen (orden de jerarquía en el caso de varios
   mejor ni el único para llegar a un lugar.                        hermanos –Alfred Adler- , posición inconsciente
                                                                    ocupando la posición de algún antepasado, etc).
2. El eneagrama es un mapa de una enorme riqueza,
   pero es un mapa abierto, y como tal, abierto                 8. Quedarse sólo en un método o escuela es tan
   siempre a nuevas ampliaciones, correcciones,                    peligroso como utilizar exclusivamente un método
   perspectivas, aportaciones y horizontes.                        terapéutico con independencia de las circunstancias
                                                                   del consultante. Hay escuelas que no hablan del
3. Desde una perspectiva transpersonal y espiritual,               ala, ni de los reflejos, por ejemplo. En cierta
                   –con minúscula- es decir no eres                ocasión, sólo pude identificar a un consultante,
   realmente ningún eneatipo, porque no eres tu                    después de dos años de terapia, el día que
   carácter ni tu personalidad. Eres ESO, con                      identifiqué su ala; su pasión dominante era de E6,
   mayúscula, la esencia, el Ser que todos somos. El               subtipo social, con ala 7. Cuando estaba deprimido
   Cristal. Ese único Sabor. Esa única Vibración. Esa              parecía E5 y en momentos de autoafirmación y
   única Luz. Muy a pesar de que Tom Condon, muy                   euforia E2.
   acertado en su crítica general sobre las dificultades
   de tipificación y la forma de cada rasgo de                  9. Investigar el niño interior. A veces coincide la
   autoengañarse, niegue sin ningún fundamento                     “salida sana” con lo que se fue en la tierna
   científico que el eneagrama tenga algún                         infancia. (Sandra Maitri, Lila Caffery… ). Ejemplo,
   significado espiritual y lo reduzca a un simple                 E8 que fue reprimido en su infancia y “se convierte”
   “sistema de diagnóstico” (sic). (2)                             en E5. E5 reprimido en su infancia que “se
                                                                   convierte” en E7.
4. Si descendemos a las caras o colores del cristal con
   que nos identificamos, propongo hablar siempre               10. Duda: ¿es la pasión dominante para toda la vida?
   de tener visión del mundo y comportamientos de                   No me reconozco en mi infancia ni en mi
   E1, E2, E3, etc, pero nunca de ser un UNO, un                    adolescencia con el eneatipo personal que trabajo
   DOS, un TRES….                                                   en estos momentos. Tal vez haya que añadir que
                                                                    una cosa es la estructura y otra la fase. Y las fases
5. Hacer más hincapié en la transculturalidad. ¿Cómo                –que algunos limitan a sólo dos posibles flechas,
   podría identificarse de igual modo a alguien de                  pueden durar varias décadas-. Por otro lado, ¿es
   visión y comportamiento E5, por ejemplo, si es                   posible que nos muramos con la misma estructura
   italiano o japonés, brasileño o noruego?                         caracterial, el mismo eneatipo, por mucho que uno
                                                                    “se trabaje”? La filosofía de Krishnamurti se adecúa
6. Nunca hacer generalizaciones: Cuando se                          mucho al E6, lo mismo que sus jaquecas y su tumor
   identifican países, matizar. A EEUU se le atribuye el            cerebral causamte de su muerte. La filosofía de la
   E3 –cultura de la apariencia, el envoltorio y la                 Rajshnesh (Osho) y toda su biografía, desde el
   consecución del éxito- pero nos estaríamos                       mismo título “Vislumbres de una infancia dorada”,
   refiriendo a los USA urbanos del siglo XX y XXI.                 nos hablan mucho del E7.
   ¿No sería más bien E6 contrafóbico el
   comportamiento del Medio Oeste y de los siglos de            11. Nunca afirmar de personajes públicos un rasgo
   conquista del Lejano Oeste. A España, por                        tajante. Hellen Palmer califica de E4 a Orson Wells
   ejemplo, se le ha atribuido el E4 y el E8, pero ¿no              –cuando tenía actitudes más bien de E8-, lo mismo
   sería distinto para Galicia, Cataluña, el País vasco             que a Allan Watts, cuyos libros y vida nos acercan
   y Andalucía? Inglaterra, según Alejandra Godoy                   más al E7. Sería mejor hablar de actitudes en
   sería E5, pero la Inglaterra victoriana tiene muchas             ciertas acciones en ciertos momentos, Sólo
   características de ira reprimida estilo E1.                      conocemos trozos de biografías y generalmente nos
                                                                    enfocamos en aquello que queremos demostrar.
7. Para conocerse y conocer a los demás, introducir
   otros mapas como el diseño humano ya referido                12. Las “salidas” y los intentos de “mejorarse” pueden
   (manifestador, generador, proyector y reflector) o               ser igualmente neuróticas. Un siete se deprime a
   por ejemplo, los elementos chinos: tierra, agua,                 veces adoptando la “avaricia” del E5, en lugar de ir
   fuego, metal y madera. Conozco parejas metal-                    a la sobriedad. Un E1 se cree “curado” siendo
   madera con permanentes conflictos con                            informal e incumpliendo sus compromisos, llegando
   independencia de su eneatipo: el metal siempre                                                 continued on page 18
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    tarde a las citas, etc, hasta parecer la caricatura de
    un E7. Un E2 puede jugar a ser humilde y, en el
    autoengaño de falsa humildad, aferrarse al orgullo
    más sutil de seguir sintiéndose especial y
    “trascendido”.

13. Tal vez sería mejor aceptar la “idea santa (A.H
    Almaas), la misión de cada uno en su propio                       14. Recordar que un cristal no es completo sin sus
    eneatipo -perfección, voluntad, armonía, origen,                     nueve caras y sus 27 cortes. Es como el arrecife no
    omnisciencia, fuerza, sabiduría, verdad, amor-                       es completo sin el caballito de mar, la estrella de
    para trascender la neurosis de la identificación, sin                mar y el pulpo. Sin el pez payaso y el tiburón.
    dejar por ello de ver las trampas del gran
    mecanismo de defensa-jaula llamado carácter.                      15. Al final: el Sutra del Diamante: todo lo que no es
    Porque, en caso contrario, puede ocurrir lo que                       el ser es el ego, y el ego es como una estrella
    afirma Jerry Wagner en una charla                                     fugaz, como una burbuja en un torrente, como una
    inédita: “                                                            llama al viento, como la escarcha bajo el sol, como
                                                                          un destello de luz o un sueño fugaz.




                                                                  Alfonso Colodrón
                                                                  Terapeuta gestáltico
                                                                  Consultor transpersonal www.alfonsocolodron.net




                                   The International Enneagram Association (IEA) invites its members and
                                   affiliated groups to participate in the celebration of the second annual World
                                   Enneagram Day on May 29, 2010. In the spirit of the Enneagram system, an
                                   ancient and valuable tool for increasing awareness on an individual and
                                   collective level, World Enneagram Day is a day devoted to the promotion of
                                   higher consciousness, world peace, and global unity.

                                   This day will help to spread awareness of the work that we, as a community,
all love, and facilitate positive change in our lives and the lives of others around the world.

We encourage you to plan an event in support of this special day. You could organize a community event,
offer a free Enneagram workshop, meditate together, or share Enneagram insights with others. It is our
intention and hope that there will be thousands of people worldwide participating, meditating, and learning
together.

For information, music, a helpful checklist for organizing your event, and suggested meditations designed for
this day, Click Here to visit the IEA’s web site.


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