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A Typical Filipino Family by anamaulida

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									For a typical Filipina lady, family comes first and this is something you
have to instill in your system to better understand her and her culture.
This factor could contribute to the success or failure of your
relationship or marriage.The family is considered as the basic unit of
society in the Philippines and for a Filipina, faithfulness to her family
take first priority. You may not believe that there are cases when a
choice has to be made, the Filipina lady will choose her parents or
family over you. (they have a saying you can get another husband but
there's only one set of parents for her).When the children are still
small, the parents do all they can to meet hardships and sacrifice to
give them a better future. Thus, when the children are all grown up and
are working, they are committed to their parents and they have one
desire, and that is to work and make the life of their parents easier.
The children are hesitant to leave home even when they are married and
have kids of their own.Frequently they would build an extension wing to
the original house and the grandmother is once again taking care of kids
- this time her grand children. They eat meals together, or in cases
where families cook separately, they still knock on each other's door and
share their meals. Mealtimes, especially dinner is very rarely a formal
setting. In fact, it s a pleasant get-together for the whole family as
they swap stories about the day's events.In a typical Filipino family,
the women are brought up with the tradition that when they marry, their
husbands will take care of them and they will stay as housewives and take
care of the family and the children. Times are changing though as more
women found independence and satisfaction in working and earning their
own money.Filipino families have high regard for integrity, dignity,
honor. They show high respect for the their parents and the elderly.
Children do not call their parents by their first names like western
countries because for them, this shows lack of respect. Fathers are
commonly called Daddy, Papa, Tatang, and Tatay while mothers are called
Mommy, Mama, Nanang and Nanay.Probably nine out of 10 Filipinos would not
think of sending their aged parents or even grandparents to any
institution to be cared for by strangers. You must know that you have
more fingers in your hands than there are homes for the aged in the
Philippines.The moment you say the heavily loaded words "I do" in front
of the judge or the priest, you must understand that you are not marrying
only the "perfect Filipina bride" for you but you are taking a whole
package for life. Do not be surprised that right after your wedding you
have earned yourself 2,000 new relatives whom you do not know. Strange
children will kiss your hand and call you uncle, while adults may shake
your hand or pat your arm and welcome you into the family.One final piece
of advice: Do not ever promise marriage to a lady if you are not serious.
Filipina ladies do not play around and if you abandon her after taking
liberties with her, the family loyalty takes over. Consider yourself
lucky if you can go home and your mother can still recognize you, not
after brothers, parents, uncles, cousins, neighbors (and those 2,000 new
relatives you were about to acquire) runs to your girlfriend's "rescue".
Blood is thicker than water, after all.

								
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