In order to have a good and successful relationship one needs to know what the key factors are. Relationships could be with your significant other as well as with your family and friends, work colleagues and even yourself.CommunicationCommunication is the life-blood of any relationship. This is what you need if you wish to create and maintain great relationships. Talking is good but one needs to know how to communicate effectively. Raking over the past or continually talking about the faults of others is directing your attention and focus the wrong way.ListeningWe have 2 ears and 1 mouth for a reason. A key issue that people often site during relationship difficulties is that their partner doesn't listen to them. In that situation it can feel like the other person doesn't care about how the other is feeling because they can't be bothered to take the time out to listen to them.In order to be a better listener one has to pay attention and focus on the other person:-Internally repeat what the other person is saying, that way you can focus on what you have heard. The mind learns through repetition. Summarise what you think you have heard to avoid any misunderstandings and incorrect interpretations. Summarising lets the other person know that you have been listening to them and have taken in what they have said and if you haven't, they can correct you if you didn't get the meaning of what they were trying to tell you. Let go of the need to have your response or answer ready - be spontaneous, listen and speak from the heart.Clean Up Your PastYour past relationships or mistakes do not need to determine what you can create in the future. Many of us pick up unconscious relationship patterns based on our past experiences.You need to ask yourself what do you believe about relationships. If you believe that they are hard work and will never last then maybe it's time to clean up your past beliefs because if you don't your negative thoughts about relationships will turn them into a reality and influence your life and the choices you make.Sometimes if we focus on the mistakes of the past and what you don't want from a relationship that is ultimately what you end up getting as you inadvertently are drawing yourself to all the negative aspects of relationships.Always remember that relationships should add to you NOT fill a void.