M.i.s.s.ing Angels A publication of the M.i.s.s. Foundation: a non-profit organization A Sanctuary for Bereaved Families - for over twelve years March/April 2011 Volume 15, Issue 2 A Mother’s Gift - From Grief to Giving By Alicia Munoz - Sammy & Gabriel’s mama ♥ Inside this issue: ♥ A Mothers Gift Continued 2 On April 25th, 2008, I went in for a AGAST Peer Contacts 3 "routine" ultrasound. I was pregnant with Samuel & Gabriel, identical twin T.E.A.R. Study 3 boys. It was exciting to finally be joining the community of the "mommy Raising AZ Kids Feature 4 world" and I always made it a point to treat each doctor appointment as a Congressional Update 4 mini celebration of my new mommy Empty Strollers Walk 5 hood. For Tyler 6 I started my morning early, so I could prepare for my 18-week photo session Our Journey 6 (ultrasound) with the boys. The morning was spent in song, smiles, AZ Support Groups 7 and an excitement knowing I would Raising AZ Kids Responses 8-9 see Sam & Gabe. mommy basking in the glory of a twin Birthdays Remembered 10-11 It was always surreal watching the belly. After spending over the usual boys during the ultrasound. They each amount of the time on the ultrasound Donations 12 had their own distinct personality. table, I realized not much had been Gabriel was the more outgoing baby. said during the appointment. Normal Kids Korner 13 He was a mover and seemed to enjoy ultrasounds took maybe half an hour Remembering our Children 14 the spotlight when it was on him. to get measurements for both of the Samuel on the other hand was quieter, kids. An hour was not normal, nor was Missing Ingredients 16 still not wanting the attention of the this particular appointment. camera. It was hard to get a face shot Recent Losses 16 in, as he often would hide behind his Knowing something wasn’t right; I little fists. I always found it interesting called my mom & dad to come to the Announcements 16 to see their personalities developing so doctor’s office. I explained I thought Mailbox 17 early. something was wrong with the boys because of how long the ultrasound International Contacts 17 The ultrasound started out routine, was taking. nothing out of the ordinary. Gabriel Chapters & Mentors 18-19 was active and Samuel was calm, continued on page 2 “It is the nature of love and of death to touch every person See Page 5 for in a totally unique way. Comfort comes from knowing that information on Empty people have made the same journey. And solace comes from Strollers, Empty Shoes understanding how others have learned to sing again.” Fundraiser ~ Helen Steiner Rice ♥ continued from front page A Mother’s Gift - From Grief to Giving By Alicia Munoz - Sammy & Gabriel’s mama The three hours we spent waiting to blonde, turning to a golden shade of see the doctor were filled with fear, red-orange before the close of day 1 hope, uncertainty, and anticipation. In after his arrival. He had smoky blue- our third hour at the doctor’s office, grey eyes and a perfect nose. The very my mom, dad, husband and I sat in a first moment I touched him, I knew my room with the doctor listening to the purpose in the world. I was a mother, words I never imagined I’d hear, "your the greatest gift I could have ever been babies are very sick and could die given. very soon." I had heard of a condition during my pregnancy called Twin-to- I spent my day in Samuel’s NICU Twin Transfusion Syndrome (TTTS), room, sneaking peaks of him under his happening only in identical twins. We covered isolette bed. We shared quiet slumbers; talked knew the boys were identical by week 12, but I didn’t of trips to the beach we would take during the summer, pay much attention to something I knew they "wouldn’t sang songs to fill the quiet of the morning, and prayed get." We were told Gabriel was near heart failure due for God to give us another day together. I cherished to the amount of blood he was receiving from a shared the times the nurses would lift the cover of his bed so I placenta, and Samuel was severely anemic due to the could kiss his face and caress his golden hair. The kisses lack of blood he was receiving. The doctor gave us our I gave my son were always followed by the words, "I options: termination of the pregnancy, compassionate love you son, and you are a whole lot of goodness." care and delivery, or fetal laser surgery. There was no place I would rather be. Three days later I was on a plane to Hollywood to meet On July 2nd, 2008, 17 days after his arrival, Samuel with the only surgeon on the West coast who would be died in my arms at 1:21 a.m. The hopes and dreams I performing fetal laser surgery, in hopes of reversing had for my two sons were suddenly a distant memory. the Twin-to-Twin Transfusion Syndrome. During the meeting with the surgeon, we were given the details of Today is March 4th, 2011. The boys are nearing their the surgery and the truth of their condition. Gabriel was 3rd birthday and I have been walking this journey for suffering from heart failure due to the amount of fluid almost three years. On June 3rd, 2010, I became part of build up and excess amount of blood getting pumped a new family, the MISS family. During my first MISS to his heart and Samuel was "shrink wrapped", for meeting, I shared with my new family the story of my lack of a better term, in his sac due to the lack of fluid Samuel & Gabriel. I could hardly take a breath to make surrounding him and severely anemic from blood loss. it through my first meeting. In the room, that warm The predicted outcome of the surgery was unknown. Thursday night, my MISSters held my hand and took the breaths I could no longer take on my own. On the morning of April 29th, during fetal laser surgery, Gabriel lost his fight with TTTS. My sweet baby boy One of the missions of MISS is to provide ongoing to was still. Samuel was left to finish the fight alone. support to bereaved families. The support MISS has given me opened a new world for me, a place of safety, For nine weeks, I prepared myself to deliver a baby I love, and comfort. Without MISS my days would still knew would never take a breath, feel the warmth of the be long, dark, and alone. Through the people I’ve met sun, or know the feel of my arms. I prepared myself to through MISS, I’ve received support, friendship, and bury one son and see his face in the eyes of another. an understanding of the bereaved community. It is my mission to give back and provide support for bereaved On June 15th, 2008, Samuel made his way into the families and bring awareness to those who are unaware world, 14 weeks too soon. He weighed 1lb. 3oz. and of the bereaved community in need. was the smallest baby in the NICU. His hair was MISSing Angels Newsletter 2 March/April 2011 A.G.A.S.T. Grandparent New Jersey Traumatic Experiences Pat Taylor Peer Contacts email@example.com and Resiliency Study Arizona Dorothy “Dotty” Conaty T.E.A.R. Study Launch Phase II! Sandra Graben, firstname.lastname@example.org Call for open participants bereaved email@example.com parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, New York siblings, & friends who have experienced Robin/Ed Kennedy, Phoenix Patricia Fife the death of a child family member! firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com 602-547-1244 516-223-3280 A team of researchers from Arizona State University, University of Nebraska- Pam DeGraff, Phoenix Ohio Lincoln, and Austin College are firstname.lastname@example.org Mary Ellen Lewis exploring the experiences of those aged 602-291-5336 email@example.com 18 and older who have experienced the death of a child. The second wave of California Pennsylvania the study will explore the experiences Carole Guttila Beryle Greenwald firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com of those who have experienced the deaths of other significant people such as Florida Joan Higgs partners, parents, siblings, grandchildren, Leslie Doepke firstname.lastname@example.org and others. email@example.com 717-891-9443 813-757-0788 H, 813-716-6326 C The purpose of this study is to determine Washington the individual, familial, and societal Georgia Michelle LeFave effects of significant loss and to improve Kathy Heard Michelle_LeFave@hotmail.com standards of care to the bereaved and a firstname.lastname@example.org model of compassionate caregiving and West Virginia intervention that fosters resiliency at Hawaii Sandy Hoffman every level. Marcia Brinkley email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org 304-292-0238 You can now participate in the T.E.A.R. 808-965-6299 Study by visiting: tearstudy.org Wisconsin Illinois Pat DeCabooter If you have questions about this study, Eileen Murray email@example.com please contact Dr. Joanne Cacciatore firstname.lastname@example.org at 602-574-1000 or email at Joanne. 630-986-1431 Wymoning Cacciatore@asu.edu. Vicky Demshar Nora Maddox email@example.com The research team would like to firstname.lastname@example.org 307-634-4615 acknowledge volunteer forum 630-363-1302 c 630-326-9334 h moderators with the MISS Foundation, Kansas bereaved parents, who provided Ted & Susan Bredehoft invaluable feedback and aid in the email@example.com development of the research tool for this study. John & Cheryl Cox firstname.lastname@example.org Maine Clarissa Thibodeau, Maine email@example.com Nevada Denna Atkinson firstname.lastname@example.org 702-875-1027 Volume 15, Issue 2 www.missfoundation.org 3 Congressional Stillbirth and SUID Newsletter Update President Obama’s Budget vs. U.S. House Budget could The U.S. House of Representative’s budget proposal leave opposite outcomes for unexplained stillbirth, SUID would cut $1 billion from the NIH. The Senate budget has (sudden unexplained infant death), and SUDC (sudden not been publicly released but is estimated at $32 billion unexplained death in childhood) Research worth of cuts across the board. The specific budget cuts, such as to the NIH, are still unknown. President Obama’s recent budget proposal spares the National Institute of Health (NIH) appropriations research “One of the most positive outcomes over the budget fights and even goes as far to publicly promote further NIH is that President Obama was the first U.S. Senator to research. The National Institute of Child Health and introduce the Stillbirth Research and Awareness Act. So Development Agency (NICHD) where this funding MISS members have, at least, one of the branches in our originates is an agency within the NIH. The NICHD began corner,” states Dr. Cacciatore. stillbirth research six years ago at the urging of activists and organizations including the MISS Foundation. Now The Stillbirth Research and Awareness Act will be re- the NICHD wants to continue its research with further introduced again this session appropriations. Further stillbirth, SUID, and SUDC research will depend on which appropriations package is Rep. Peter King (R-NY) and Sen. Frank Lautenberg (D- passed. NJ) will re-introduce each of their versions of the Stillbirth Research and Awareness Act. Both offices reported to the MISS Foundation that legislation will, most likely, be introduced within the next two MISS Foundation’s MISSing Angels Bill Legislation months. Both offices are looking for as much bi-partisan co-sponsorship What is the MISSing Angels Bill? The MISSing Angels Bill is a piece of legislation that allows for the issuance of a prior to its official introduction to “Certificate of Birth resulting in Stillbirth (CBRS)” by a state’s vital records office show its strength in both houses. for any stillborn infant. MISS members are encouraged to personally contact their U.S. House Why is the MISSing Angels Bill necessary? of Representative and U.S. Senators Every state in the U.S. already issues a death certificate for all stillbirths. Additionally, each state has a final disposition mandate for stillbirths. Many parents to encourage their co-sponsorship of want to have their child’s birth certificate in addition to their death certificate. each bill. Unfortunately, without legislative change, most states are unable to accomodate the parents’ wishes. The Stillbirth Research and Awareness Act mandates hospital protocol to How can I get a MISSing Angels Bill passed in my state? maintain accurate data regarding Some states have already followed Arizona’s lead in issuing the CBRS. If your state has not passed this legislation and you’d like to champion for it, please find stillbirth. The bill directs the NICHD out how by visiting: www.missingangelsbill.org. to appropriate stillbirth and SUID research and methods to properly help grieving parents handle such a Miss Foundation's A beautiful gift representing the eternal love be- tween Mother and Child. This exclusive pendant is devastating loss. The bills do not ask for further appropriations from taxpayers Sacred Hearts Logo Pendant custom made of sterling silver and hangs on your but directs the NICHD to use its existing choice of a 20" or 24" chain. Now available with or without a birthstone. Orders for the Sacred Hearts appropriations to address stillbirth research Pendant can be placed on-line in our store at www. and assistance to grieving parents. missfoundation.org. Be sure to indicate your options (i.e. birthstone month, chain size). For more information how to help, e-mail Pricing: Pendant w/20" chain $60 MISS Congressional Liaison Richard May Add birthstone add $12 at Rmayaustin@ATT.net. Please stay tuned With 24" chain add $5 for further updates. MISSing Angels Newsletter 4 March/April 2011 Empty Strollers, Empty Shoes: We walk for them. Each day around the world, parents walk their com/missfoundation. After you register, you can build babies, safely nestled in their strollers, around parks, your own page, just like walkers who will be at the event. neighborhoods, schools, and even zoos. Each day around You can set your fundraising goal and make a team, just the world, parents hear the steps of their children come like everyone else. Then, on Walk day, your child’s name, through the door at the end of their school day. Each day date of birth and angel date will be written on a beautiful around the world, parents experience their children’s feet paper footprint. Another MISS Family will carry your returning home for family gatherings and holidays. beloved’s footprint in their honor during the main Walk event – and at the end of walk, at Lakeside Ramada, all of But, tragically, not all children get to ride in their strollers, the footprints will be carefully collected and planted in the return home at the end of the school day, or spend holidays MISS Foundation’s FOOTPRINT GARDEN. with family. The Empty Strollers-Empty Shoes Walk is an international memorial walk to remember all the mothers, fathers, and families- and their beloved children - and to honor those relationships on the most sacred of days for families; Mother’s Day. Because death is not bigger than a family’s love, and because even in their absence, they continue to walk with us, as we walk for them. In the Phoenix area, our MISS chapters will be gathering at the Phoenix Zoo on Mothers Day, Sunday, May 8, 2011 to Walk For Them. Full info & registration for Phoenix event, visit: www.FirstGiving.com/ MISSFoundation Do you live too far away to participate in the Pheonix Zoo walk on Mother’s Day? Do you want to participate in the Empty Strollers, Empty Shoes Walk, but don’t know how?? ANNOUNCING: Footprint Registration - $10 For those families who want to participate but who cannot be at the Pheonix Zoo event, you can now register for the Walk with a Footprint Registration at http://www.firstgiving. Volume 15, Issue 2 www.missfoundation.org 5 me all the time, “All these girls and wept tears of joy. That scene became For Tyler no boys?” Sometimes I can answer; a part of me that day- I never forgot by Courtney Holt Norman sometimes I just smile and nod, it. I think now that I was supposed to smile and nod. see it. So I would know. Know that Today is your 9th birthday. Today you’re OK. Know that I will be OK. will be the 9th time we have You have a piece of my heart with Know that Jesus loves me and one celebrated your birthday without you you. It will never be the same as long sweet, sweet day he will place you in here. The 9th time we will write our as I am here. That hole hurts so much my arms. notes to you on balloons and release worse around this day, the day you them in the sky. The 1000th time I were born. The day I held you in my I love you, Tyler. Happy 9th will return home from your grave, arms and had to let you go. I didn’t birthday, my precious baby boy. devastated that you are not here with want to; I wanted to hold you just me. a tiny bit longer and then a tiny bit more. I MISS you SO much!! We all do. Your Daddy, you were supposed to Once, when I was about 12 years be his little buddy. The only other old, I saw a play at church. There male in this house full of females. was one scene in the play that always And your sisters, they miss you, stuck with me. It was a mother who too. They always include you in the had just got to Heaven and as she’s pictures they make or the stories entering Heaven’s gates, Jesus is they tell. You were supposed to be there with her smiling baby in his here, but you’re not. People say to arms. The mother ran to them and Our Journey By Michele Newton Save the Date! Branden, my dear son, you are missed every day. Nine years from where we started to where we are today. Tears and sadness often mixed with plenty of laughter and joy. This journey has not always been easy. I was determined not to be stalled in self-pity. But instead hoping to make you proud. Giving your life meaning is one of my priorities. I know this journey has an ending and that it will lead me to you. I don’t stand at your grave looking for you. Nor do I ever wonder where you are. You are waiting just on the other side We have already started planning the of this grief path. Hanging out in my heart. 2012 conference. In response to our 2010 Today I can say, I am content, comfortable, safe, happy and conference attendee feedback, we are loved as I move closer to seeing you. You and I are the same sending a survey to see which weekend what we were for each other we still are. Death can never take that away. you would prefer to attend the 2012 MISS Foundation Conference. Please visit: This is our journey where you will be remembered as a young man who touched others as we work together to help quiet sad http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/ burdened hearts. Sadly, so many parents are just starting out P9NK9Q7 on their grief journey. We can only pray that we provide them to complete the survey (**note the $69 with hope. room rate in early September vs $99 room As life moves on, I move on with it. Learning that my rate in late September/early October). successes or failures are just a stepping stone to being with you again. I’m not in a hurry; there is so much love here: Bethany Please check the MISS website for and Caleb, Breanne and Valerie, family and special friends. more updated information as it becomes But until then, hoping with a little stroke of luck I can be available. blessed to meet you some nights in a dream. With love on this your 24th birthday, missing you always, We look forward to seeing you at the 2012 Mom Conference! MISSing Angels Newsletter 6 March/April 2011 Arizona Support Groups Phoenix area Support Groups Scottsdale Christian Grief Support Phoenix, North West Valley 1st Wednesday of the month: 7-8:30 p.m. 3rd Thursday of the month: 6:45 p.m. La Casa De Cristo Church Peace Lutheran Church 6300 E. Bell Rd. room 208 Fellowship Hall (NW side of campus, 2nd floor) 18265 N. 89th Ave, Peoria, AZ Childcare available w/ reservation 1 week in advance Contact: Michele Newton 623-329-2970 or Contact: Amy MacDonald 623-434-3283 Michele@missfoundation.org Amy.email@example.com or Janeen Kokodynski 480-415-0613 North Phoenix/Anthem/Carefree - Bereaved parent firstname.lastname@example.org and grandparent support group 1st Thursday of every month: 7:00 p.m. Phoenix - AGAST Grandparents Support Meeting 2525 W. Carefree Highway Call for more details Bldg 7 Suite 148 @ the Center for Loss and Trauma Contact: Robin or Ed Kennedy 602-799-6481 Contact: Dr. Joanne Cacciatore 623-979-1000 email@example.com or firstname.lastname@example.org or Co-Facilitator Pam DeGaff 602-291-5996 Dr. Melissa Delgado email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org Phoenix- Native American Support Meeting KISS – Kids In Sympathy and Support Bereaved MISS Foundation Co-Facilitators Judy Yazzie Haines Children’s Group and Shannon LaRance, MSW are offering a culturally 3rd Thursday of the month: 6:45 p.m. sensitive and respectful grief support group once or Peace Lutheran Church twice a month to Native American parents and families Fellowship Hall whose children have died. 18265 N. 89th Avenue, Peoria, AZ Contact: Shannon LaRance 602-405-2261 or Support for children 5 years and older Judy Yazzie Haines 480-362-5718 Contact: Robin or Ed Kennedy 602-799-6481 email@example.com Far West Valley Pam DeGaff 602-291-5996 Contact: Wendy Peters firstname.lastname@example.org 623-853-9170 or 623-297-2186 email@example.com Grupo de Ayuda en Espanol Second Monday of each month @ 6:30 P.M. Tempe - East Valley Support Group for Child Loss Sacred Heart Parish 1st Thursday of the month: 6:30 p.m. 1421 S. 12th St., Phoenix, AZ 85034 Day Spring United Methodist Church (12th St. south of Buckeye) 1365 E. Eliot Rd Room #110 Por Favor llame a Roberto Sanchez para mas Contact: Michele Newton 623-329-2970 informacion: 602-518-2262 firstname.lastname@example.org or email@example.com Joe Spadafino 602-618-8786 firstname.lastname@example.org Volume 15, Issue 2 www.missfoundation.org 7 Responses to article on MISS in Raising AZ Kids Magazine, January 2011 Karen, Losing one of my children has been my greatest would have. Had I though, I would never have Your article, “Finding Purpose in Grief” fear in life…and, as you say, the articles will become who I am today; adopted a child after highlighting the MISS Foundation, couldn’t not be easy to read…yet I believe we all have raising two children or been able to say if God have come at a more poignant time. On Dec. something to learn from these parents and their came to me today and said I could have my old 11, my dear friend delivered a 7 pound angel journeys through grief. I hope I will learn to life back I would respond that while I would daughter who was born just over a week shy live my life more fully, with even more love most definitely take my son back, I would not of her due date. For reasons unknown, her and gratitude for all of the people I am fortunate want my old life. I would want to keep all the heartbeat suddenly stopped in utero. The grief enough to have in it. lessons I have learned through the ultimate my friend and her family are experiencing right grief journey a parent can experience and the now is indescribable. When I got the news, I Sincerely, amazing people I have met along this journey, felt completely helpless and poured through Margo S. O’Neill including Joanne. online articles trying to find something, anything I could do to help the situation. Dear RAK, Thank you for a great article on a tender I was at a complete loss, and I shed many I just wanted to write a quick note of thanks for subject. tears and started having nightmares about the your article on MISS. My group and the people Beckie A. Miller, Chapter-Leader situation because I am currently 5 months from the online forums were a vital to me pregnant. Thank you for spotlighting the MISS making it through my daughter’s death. Nobody Dear RAK, Foundation here in Phoenix. I’ve passed along wants to talk about a child dying, and I really I am a MISS Facilitator in the state of WA and your article to my grieving friend and they are hope that your words will both help out grieving I just read your article entitled Finding Purpose attending an upcoming support group meeting. parents who don’t know where to turn, and also in Grief. Thank you writing about this issue educate those who haven’t been through it to and what MISS is doing to help families who Stephanie Jarnagan better support those who have. There can be a have experienced the loss of a child at any age world of difference between good intentions and from any reason. Karen, good results. Thank you, thank you, thank you for finding The loss of a child (at ANY age) is so Joanne and show casing MISS Foundation. I Again, thank you, Deanna, mom to three overwhelming and it’s even more complicated was a student of Joanne’s in one of her first daughters, two I hug and one I miss by the fact that many people don’t get it or grief and trauma classes in 2005. The class understand. This ends up leaving the bereaved changed my life. I have not lost a child, but Dear RAK, so lonely, distraught and feeling completely view the loss of a child differently then I ever Great article about Joanne Cacciatore, whom fragile. Physical problems arise, anxiety grows could imagine because of Joanne. I now have I know personally from the MISS Foundation. to unmanageable levels and you are barely able clients I work with that are grieving the loss I run an organization to provide support, to take on the most basic tasks of everyday life. of a child, and I am fortunate that I have had a advocacy, awareness, prevention and education As more articles like this one are written and window into their pain to understand that the for the parents of a murdered child and other end up in the hands of everyone (not just those pain will shift but never go away. family members who have lost a loved one to who have experienced a loss) we may have a murder. It is a harsh reality that is compounded more understanding and compassionate world I hope the articles help grieving parents see further by the violent way they died, society’s in which to grieve. there is help, and help others understand how belief we get over it in a short time, when in to help. truth we never get over, but can get on with it if I will be sharing the article with many others we work hard and the intrusion, frustration and – and again – thank you for writing about such As an adoptive mom I have lost many often unfairness of the judicial process if there an important issue! nameless/faceless children over the past 7 is even an arrest. years in our waiting for phone calls from CPS. In their memory, Nothing compared to a death of a child, but Like Joanne, at one point, in my grief from Sara (Micah, Liam AND Isabelle’s (06/29- a loss non-the-less. Joanne and her strength losing my son to murder (robbed and shot to 06/30 2004) mama) she provided me as her student helped me and death at age 18 in 1991)I learned and chose that my husband persevere. I am thankful to say a way to live with my life-long pain would be in Dear Mary Ann, that this past fall we were placed with two service to others enduring the same thing. Our I am a parent in Austin TX whose infant additional children and their adoptions will be chapter has grown since I began leading it in daughter was stillborn almost four years ago. I finalized early in 2011, adding to our one other 1993 to more than 1400 families locally. I went wanted to thank you for your very meaningful adopted daughter which now completed our from being a stay-at-home mom, providing and well-written story on the MISS Foundation family. day care in my home, to take on all the many and Dr. Joanne Cacciatore. A special thanks challenges facing a growing organization to your publication for making it the cover Keep the authentic articles coming. of our reality: more meetings, fundraising, story and for giving this under-reported topic Noelle Landay, LMSW grant writing, teaching and learning from the the prominence it deserves. Without the professionals we deal with and so much more. continuous support of Dr. Cacciatore and the Karen, I also began writing as a way to heal, educate MISS Foundation, I am not sure I would have I have been a faithful reader of your magazine and sing my son’s silenced song. While my made it through this extremely isolating and for years. Having just finished reading your work with POMC is never easy, it is very traumatic time in my life. “behind the ‘zine” article in January’s edition, rewarding. It kept me sane, gave me a purpose I felt compelled to write you and let you know and became my greatest passion. Like Joanne, This article will undoubtedly help so many how much I admire your decision to run a I truly thought I would die from my pain, parents who are going through similar series of articles on parents dealing with grief. and if honest, earlier on sometimes wished I experiences. Thank you very much for your 8 MISSing Angels Newsletter March/April 2011 thoughtful research and coverage on this issue. future bereaved parents. My husband also saying the “wrong” thing or merely out of Not many writers have the guts to approach spoke during lectures on a couple of different the uncomfortable thoughts that the death this subject so I am very grateful that you took occasions for Joanne. I guess, for me, my of a child provokes. I really look forward to the time and energy to write such a significant healing came through helping others. It gave upcoming issues and applaud you in your article. me the opportunity to use my own experiences efforts of educating readers on the support and to encourage others through their pain. When comfort that the MISS Foundation provides Dr. Cacciatore has been a lifeline to so many it came time that I no longer needed the group during the journey that one experiences of us. I am really glad she got some of the very environment, I felt the need to give back. For a following the death of their beloved child. deserved spotlight. couple of years, I provided childcare during the monthly meetings so that other parents would My son’s website is listed below if you would Sincerely, be able to attend. like to get a glimpse of the 11 wonderful years Kelli Montgomery we were blessed to spend with Jason. Without MISS, I can’t say where I would be www.jasonsanchez.virtual-memorials.com Dear RAK, today. Through my experience with MISS, I Thank you so much for publishing this series. learned that there is no right or wrong way to Keep up the great work! I apologize in advance for the random order grieve. I was free to grieve in my own way, DonitaMcGlasson of this email; my excitement makes it difficult without feeling any pressure from society to to organize my thoughts. I am a bereaved ‘get over it’. We are doing fine now. Charis is Hi Mary Ann, parent, and was introduced to the MISS remembered in our home, and our 4 year old I just wanted to take the time to thank you from Foundation by the RTS coordinator at Banner son speaks of someday meeting his sister in the bottom of my heart for running the article Thunderbird Medical Center after delivering heaven. We also have a baby, and I’m sure he about MISS Foundation and Dr. Cacciatore. my stillborn daughter on May 28, 2005. We will soon be talking about his sister too. Loss on this level is experienced by too many named our daughter Charis. It took me a couple families and many of these families never of months to get up the courage to attend a Sincerely Yours, really get the proper help needed to regain life. support meeting, but what a blessing it was Mrs. Lori Wainwright, In memory of Charis So often parents without proper peer support once I finally got there. Although many of my try to stuff the feelings believing they don’t friends and family tried to be supportive of Hi, have a right to grieve as they feel they need. our feelings, they just fell short. Furthermore, I just wanted to take a moment to let you Hopefully, by you running this article, someone after time, they quit calling and coming over. all know how excited I was to learn that the in need of support will find us. Through MISS’s various monthly meetings and MISS Foundation was featured in Raising the website, I was able to receive much needed Arizona Kids. The MISS Foundation, and Dr. Thanks again, support. The difference here is that nobody Cacciatore in particular, have been a catalyst Trevor Van Huizen was expecting me to feel better, or to move in helping my family heal following the Father of Diego Van Huizen on. I was allowed to feel my pain and talk unexpected death of my son Jason in 2008. May 12 2008-May 13 2008 about my feelings without making anybody Jason was 11 when he died of an “intercerebral www.diegosplace.virtual-memorials.com feel uncomfortable. Additionally, I was on a hemorrhage of unknown etiology.” My quest to meet other people who also had lost husband and I have 4 other children at home Having a child die hasn’t made me strong; children, and could empathize with me as well and MISS has been a huge support to all of us. living after losing a child has. as encourage me. I just wanted somebody to Great article in RAK. I have it on my desk say, “I’ve been through this, and you’re going Jason’s death completely changed the way I at work, and am so thankful for my time with to be okay.” I found that through MISS. viewed life and motivated me to do something MISS every time I work with a grieving parent. to honor his memory. I wanted to help others As I was reading this article, I kept thinking, experiencing the trauma of child loss and I Krista Long "Yes, yes! That’s exactly how I felt!" I decided to leave the world of finance (13 years laughed to myself when I read the comment in the banking industry and a graduate degree about walking around the piles of reference in management) and enroll as a full-time material in Joanne’s office. It took me back student. I am currently a graduate student at to an evening that my husband and I spent ASU in the MSW and CTB programs (masters interviewing with Joanne. in social work and certificate in trauma and bereavement) and also attend Phoenix Institute Initially, my hope was to spend every moment of Herbal Medicine and Acupuncture to work of my life finding ways to memorialize on my masters degree in acupuncture. I plan Charis’s brief life in my womb. I was very to serve the community as a bereavement fortunate to build a relationship with the specialist incorporating talk therapy and RTS coordinator at Thunderbird, which alternative medicine, specifically acupuncture resulted in me speaking to nurses at several as a healing modality. The support of the training seminars. During my hospital stay, MISS Foundation and Dr. Cacciatore has been I was crushed and confused by the treatment instrumental in my educational decision. I I received from the medical staff. Most of truly believe if it wasn’t for the path that Dr. them were afraid to look at me, while what I Cacciatore paved, I might not be headed the needed was for them to show me they cared. direction I am today. My therapy was to later have an opportunity to look at these nurses, and tell them what I am really happy to see that Raising Arizona I had needed as a patient. My prayer is that Kids is breaking the silence about child loss. my contribution during this training helped Too often, no one speaks about it for fear of Volume 15, Issue 2 www.missfoundation.org 9 Peace Remembering our March & April Children... Caden Lee Vatne Hope Vasquez Lujan Gregory Arvallo Jr. Inspiration Caleb Lee Janowitz Humberto Paulo Caloca Lyndsay Dane Alm Cameron Shane Gray Ian Patrick Moore Madeleine May Campbell Raines Nickerson Ikaika Noah Ilac Madison Elaine McInerney Carina Loren Kurtz Israel Bird Madison Marie Macomber Casey James Overacker Jacklynn Elizabeth Stecker Malak Dhaouadi Cassandra Nicole Stone Jackson Alan Grader Marek Kostewa Strength Catherine Dacosh Jacob Alan Boatwright Maria Valentina March Celeste E. Marie Detillier Jacob Eloe Graham Mario David DeMarco Aaron Allen O’Rourke Chance Michael Harris Jacob Sullivan Marissa Grace Miller Aaron Jeffrey Ahlman Chaney Brooke Almon Jaden Chase Brown Mary Palmer Aaron Wayne Lindsey Chaney Warner Combs Jaime Ryan Block Matthew Beatty Abigayle V. Cunningham Charles Gregory III James Nicholas Volk Matthew Hernandez Awakening Adam James Hewlett Charles Smith Jaquan Dawayne Carter Matthew Thomas Bryan Adisyn Rain Hathaway Christepher Lee Spivey Jr. Jasmine Gonzalez Max Alexander Dingus Aerolynn Rose Lentz Christepher Lee Spivey Sr. Jason Everett Booden Max Joseph Sholly Aidan Williams Burke (Cho-Cho) Jenna Ann Rumsey Michael Floyd Christian Ryan Juarez Jennalee Rose Ambuehl Michelle Elizabeth Dickerson Faith Aiden Gibbs Ajani Marcello Laniyan Christina E Hunt Jesse Verde Michelle Joy Pourier Alexander Culbertson Christopher J. Mellinger-Kirk Jessica Lynne Musgrove Mikaila Underwood Alexander Swartz Christopher Potempa Joel Ramos Morgan E. Renee Blissett Alexander Zeiser Christopher Travis Seal John Henry Farwell Morgan Shay Gould Alexandra Sainz Clayton Alex Haynes Jonathan Dale Miller Murphy Andrew Nichols Friendship Alexis Jade Redd Cody Lee Rudolph Jordan Joseph Miller Nicholas Scott Gulbransen Wisdom Alfonso Jesus Baez Connor Lane Higgins Josef Damien Moeschl Nicholas Verde Allison Rose Kuczmarski Dakota Jones Joseph Funk Nicolas Baloh Alyssa Marie Furman Daniel Fritea Joshua Keith Sexton Nolan Fairway LaVelle Alyssa Marie Monahan Daniel Jacob Dexter Joshua Tyler Elfenbein Olivia Monique Swope Alyssa Nicole Rayl Daniel Mark Spadafino Josua Dominic Nolan Paige Suter Amanda Joy Marottek David A. Stratton-Ebert Julia Catherine Derr Parker Brooke Daigle Amberlee Elizabeth Brown David Larry Thoe Juliann Paige Alcorn Parker Cho Freeman Americo Sedillo III Devon Weidauer Juliette Olivia Wright Rachel Nicole Sharpe Hope Remembrance Angel Alexis Lopez Dominic Fulton Miller Julious Alecz Grantham Rachel Taylor Barberian Angel Baby Anguiano Dominic James Marzitello Justin Paul Gardner Randy James Greene Anthony Cameron Gay Donald Ray Ambler, III Kaiden Noah Brown Rebecca Woolery Arianna Rose Watkins Emma Irene Smith Kaitlynn Tayler Pettus Reese Alexander Wyrick Ariel Baldridge-Hall Eric Robert Contreras Jr. Kate Ellen Penswick Robert Benjamin Imhoff Ashley Crouch Erick Mendoza Katherine Wilhite Condne Ryan Andrew Pence Audree Jett Seeley Erik Andrew Weiss Kathryn Mary Cook Ryan Emerson Rafferty Erik Rocha, Jr. Kaylee Dawn Burch Sabrina Mills Love Austen Wayne Curry Autumn Michelle Cantor Esai E. Michael Jacquez Keegan Mitchell Fehlinger Sagan K. 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Blakemore-Brock Caden Christopher Mathes Hogan Blake Crawshaw Louis Bertram Copps Thomas Jason Williams Hope Katherine Crawshaw Lucas Darley Dutton MISSing Angels Newsletter 10 March/April 2011 Thomas Wesley Jackson Carey David Niesen Hunter Isabella Johnson Michael Ryan Dautriel Tiffany J. Peterson/Cohen Carlie Lynn Brooks Hunter Michael Johnson Monica Ann Hudsen Tommy Montgomery Carsten Cole Buckley Isabel Villagomez Nathan Marimon Compassion Trinity Elizabeth Rauen Catherine Ann Sanford James Aaron DeLaCruz Nathan McGuire Carney Perspective Tyler John Vorce Celest Letteau Stallings James Allan Zablocki Nicholas Hush Tyler Scott Norman Celia Dorothy Furman Jared Evan Dahlke Nicholas Lee Guthrie-Nelkie Vanessa Jane Tait-Raymond Chance Thomas Dubell Jason Michael Sanchez Nussima Strauss Virginia Paige Fehlinger Chandler Lee Vatne Jason Sanchez Olivia Tatianna Sicilian Wayne VanSickle, Jr. Cheyenne Elizabeth Kirts Jennifer Ruth Higgins Paige Danyell Bronson Weston Ladd Shields Cheyenne Lee Compton Jennifer Susan Loomis Paige Madigan Renton William Cho Freeman Chloe Melisa O’Gwynn Jesper T. DeWitt Golden Paul M. David Arrowood Willie Clarence Calvin III Christopher James Vazoulas Jessica Dang Penelope April Carrey Willow Elyse Williams Christopher Jason Newman Jessica Nicole French Peyton Ann Murphy Zachary Jordan Didawick Christopher Matteson Johnathan Edwards Piper M. Van Middendorp Zachery Taylor Fossum Christopher M. Bartlett Jordan Lexie Teafatiller Rebecca Gaitan Remembrance Love Zander Aiden Mora Ciara Shalay Noueihed Joshua Matthew Pastorius Reilly M. Rodgers-Ward Cody Bohn Joshua Richmond River Dougherty April Courtney Eileen Sanders Josiah Lee Poarch Robert Bodie Thrasher Abbi Grace Kontra Craig Lovell Josie Simone Pruneti Robert Brian Simpson Abel Correa Damerio Smith Juliet Mariah Kathleen Roy Bernard Davis Alaia Caitlyn Carter Damian Michael Kimmel Kennedy Ryan Michael Sweeny Alesia Dawn Carder Daniel Patrick Wilhelm Juliette Heavenlea Raquel Ryan Robert Torres Hope Alexandria Jaiden Wick Dawson Thomas Dubrul Ryan Zachary Byron Alexandria Jewell Havens Derek John Sneed Justin Allen Dodson Samantha Roberts Alexandria Marie Krueger Destinee A. Nycole Taylor Kai Asunta Madison Sweeny Sara Elizabeth Hulme Aline Bethann Destinee J. Armida Medina Kami Beznoska Sara Marie Greenwood Amber Pearson-Gibson Devin Phillip Izydorczak Kasey Bryan Rushton Scott Robert Keen Andrew Jay Vanderschaaf Devon Justice Hinman- Kayla Marie Jankowski Sean Patrick Noonan Andrew Joseph Waden Shackleford Kelsey Nicole Mills Sebastian Maximiliano Arias Andrew Travis Sparkes Wisdom Friendship Diana Joelle Kissman Kenneth Scott Whiting Sebella Leanna Paz Angel Alexis Lopez Dianna Christine Bowden Kimberly Deanne Orta Shaelagh Francis Kirvan Angelina Jean Cooper Dillon Pierzchalski Kody Stevens Rye Shafin Mohammed Ismail Angelina Marie Sabella Dillon Thomas Chen Kyler Joshua Paez Shalom Abel Garcia Aniyah Camille Lovelace Dixie Alexandra Lindsey Kyra Lin Jones Sienna Rae Spiegel Anne Elise Bacon Dylan T. Mellinger-Kirk Lauren Grace Sausville Sloan Elizabeth Holand Arianna Souza-Dotson Eban James Medina Sarten Leandra Michelle Garcia Spencer Christian Engstrom Ashley McKenzie Woodard Eian James Albin Leslie-Ann Willow Schlomer Spencer Engstrom Ashley Taylor Tipton Elizabeth Margaret Wolff Lily Victoria Harris Stanley B. Hayden Arrowood Faith Azaleah Maestes Awakening Eloara Sky Aldana Logan L.Marie Brakhahn Stephanie Gayosso Azuncion Guzman Jr. Emily Skye Kleber Lucas Marshall Prueh Steven Ryan Christie Baby Boy Begay Emma Nicole Fratila Lucette Letteau Stallings Tabitha Roberts Baby Boy Richards Esperanza Alexandra Matta Mackenzie Grothe Tanner Cole Fugate Baby Steger Esperanza Ochoa Madison America Sherwood Taylor Alisha Dushion Baby Taylor Evelyn Elizabeth Pate Madison Leigh Young Tehuitzin Enrique Strength Benjamin Gamblin Ezra Charles Reinders Makalie Jane Herzog Teresa Wesley Hough Benjamin Joseph Carter Fabian E. Herrera-Lopez Malcolm Sharratt Thomas Mcphee Billy Espinoza Clark Frankie T Hunt Malea Lynea Whitfield Timothy W. Nicholas Streit Billy Walker Gabriel Angel Quiros Matthew Gallardo Trevor Aidan James Webb Blaine Marie Nelson Gabriel Raul De Lao Matthew James Bobrowitz Trey Alexander Tucker-Leal Inspiration Blake Whitehead Giavanna Grace Ferrucci Matthew J. Fredrick Gnage Tristan Blakely Thorne Brandon Jacobs Gillian Grace Peterson Max Colbath Tucker Brooks Baer Brandon Russell Rice Grant Cooper Gartner Maxwell Joel Munsen Tyler Jay (T. J.) Olive Brandon William Jacobs Guanqi Cao Maya Renee Adcock Tyler Jay Olive Brendan C. Giovanni Cothern Gunnar Dougherty Mele Rose Tooa Vincent P. Fetsis Brian Clavecillas Madrigal Haiden Blake Pearson Melissa Godoy William McConnell Peace Brianna Conroy Hannah Kathleen Bayer Melody Joy Munsen Zackery Woods Cailee Nicole Wynne Hannah Roer Michael Church Nordhagen Zacory Jude O’Connor Caleb Wainwright Heather Lynn Fitzpatrick Michael Manna Callie Drew Castleman Hunter Garen Michael R. Artman Due to space limitations, we are printing only birth/birth-death dates in the remembering section. We will continue to make every effort to print your child’s full name. Thank you for understanding. Volume 15, Issue 2 www.missfoundation.org 11 Memorial Donations In Loving Memory of... Meagan Matur McKenna Jodell Fox American Express Employee Who died December 16, 2010 By Anonymous Donor Giving Program By Marlene Matur Anonymous Employee Wheeler Wood Soos Cassidy February 27, 2004 Albertson’s This gift is made in memory of By Selena Shelley A New Leaf Cassidy’s Great-Grandparents Child Crisis Center Ben and Bess Zimmerli for all the Grace Elizabeth Yelanich love and joy they showed their 11/29/2002 Sarah Workman Events children, grandchildren and great By Joseph Yelanich grandchildren. They are MISSed Target and remembered Stena Jacobs By Todd and Caprice Bass By Fern Decker Safeway Richard Spielman Alex Kean and his mom Diamondbacks Baseball By Anonymous Donor Melanie Fox Desert Botanical Gardens March 9, 2008 Milos William Hardy By Eric Dodge AZ Rattlers 1/26/2009 By Kimberly Hooper Oliver Smith Jewelers General Donations Ava and Teddy Woods Eminess Inc. October 2010 Coleman Dahm & Associates By Katie Dickson Bobroff Hesse Martone & Doetzel Kimberly Davis Benjamin James Hesler Anonymous Donor Reminder! March 2 Your tax-deductible By Kathy Mara Christ Center Wesleyan Church donations can be sent to: Sedona, AZ MISS Foundation Beryl Davis In memory of an extraordinary P.O. Box 5333 Temple Solel person and a dear friend. Beryl’s Paradise Valley, AZ Peoria, AZ 85385 memory will forever be a blessing. By Mari Chernow Bristol-Myers Squibb Company You can also make your donation on-line by visiting Ginny Jontes Blake Cash Jeff Bell www.missfoundation.org and his amazing mother, Tony Cuchiara Katie Dean Cristina Archibeque February 18, 2000 By Carrie Patterson Gallagher & Kennedy Stephen Dember Low & Johnson By Anonymous Donor Arizona Public Service Elizabeth Hayes Loncki Valley of the Sun United Way By Anonymous Donor MISSing Angels Newsletter 12 March/April 2011 "The most honest, truth-telling in this world is done by children." Oliver Wendall Holmes Then I came across a scholarship that was designed My Story on the participant finding a way to help out his/her community. I seized the opportunity and immediately by Corey Grothe, junior in High School He is spearheading a fundraising walk in Iowa went to finding different ways to help MISS. I am trying to raise awareness and I was seven years old when I money for the MISS Foundation, lost by baby sister, Nora. I was so they can continue to help confused and didn’t understand grieving families, just as they what had happened. It was helped us. devastating to watch my mom not being able to stop crying, When a family loses a child, it and my dad with that blank look doesn’t just affect them. It effects of shock on his face. We needed their whole community, it is my help. Most of our extended goal to show those families they family just wanted us to get over are not alone. There are other it and “move on.” But my mom families and experienced people couldn’t so they stopped talking who can help them. to us. I am organizing a walk not only Then my mom found the MISS for those families, but for their foundation. They helped my friends, too. People who haven’t family learn how to grieve and lost a child don’t know how to grieve and become had people our own age talk with us. They helped silent when the family asks for help. I want to show tremendously and to this day, I haven’t forgotten them a way to get information and to get a voice so about them. they can help the grieving family through their pain. Volume 15, Issue 2 www.missfoundation.org 13 Remembering... Amanda Faith Olson Alyssa Marie Furman Alexander Michael Swartz Amanda Truxell April Louise Widener Brendan Wyborn Braden Jason Freiwald Chadwick Brandon Boettcher Cody Alan Oldham William File Carey David Chance Thomas Niesen Dubell Cameron Shane Gray Carina Kurtz Christopher Matteson Courtney Sanders Cheyenne Lee Compton Christepher Lee Spivey Jr. Dakota Jones Daniel Fritea Elizabeth Renee Stewart Daniel Mark Danielle Marie Hansen Spadafino Esai Edward-Michael Francis Baldoz Gunnar & River Daugherty Hayley Noel Zanetta Jacquez MISSing Angels Newsletter 14 March/April 2011 ...Our Children's Birthdays Jenna Ann Jason Michael Sanchez Jakob Detwiler Rumsey Jillian Joshua Keith Sexton Julieete Olivia Joey Anthony Masaniai Wright Joseph Moeschl Kaylee Dawn Burch Kimberly Deanne Orta Kody Stevens Rye Jon Dukes Kalinda Marie Hicks Madison Elaine McInerney Lili Claire Resnick Mary Palmer Melody Joy Munsen Megan Wondra Maxwell Joel Munsen Rachel Hage Sammy Seaney Mikaila Marie Underwood Shane Clause Tara Ellen Young Sarah Elizabeth Wintz Teighlor Janae Brock Taylor McClure Zachery Taylor Fossum Zane Allen White Volume 15, Issue 2 www.missfoundation.org 15 MISSing Ingredients Cookbook Announcements! A re-member-ing cookbook is now officially released and available through the MISS site at www.missfoundation.org. Thank you to the MISS Retail copies are $20 + shipping. We are so excited to see this Foundation Board of Directors, book come to print and honored to tell you that funds raised Past and Present from sales of this book benefit the MISS Foundation. On behalf of all of the families that the MISS NEW OPTION AVAILABLE: Please note that any trained Foundation serves, I would like to formally MISS volunteer who has access to the Training Materials page acknowledge and thank our outgoing board of directors: Cindi Nanetti, Linda Schmidt, will now find a new option available under the Finances & Dana Southworth, Roberto Sanchez and Dr. Fundraising section of that page!! You and your local groups Guillermo Gutierrez. As is customary with can get copies of the cookbook at a discounted rate to resell nonprofit organizations, board terms expire, locally. Please check out that section of the Materials page. some board members remain and some new board members join the fold. As of January 31, 2011 MISS has transitioned to a new Board of Directors. This new board, is truly a “working board” as we meet monthly to develop and evolve the strategic plan and vision for the MISS Foundation. I’m proud to introduce the 2011 MISS Foundation Board of Directors: Dr. Joanne Cacciatore: President Tony Cuchiara: Vice President Rob Dalager: Treasurer Ginny Jontes: Secretary and Events Chairperson Cristina Archibeque: Board Member Bettina Nava: Board Member Jeff Bell: Board Member Advisory Board Member: Dean Martin In the coming days, weeks and months we will be asking for your comments, opinions, suggestions as we work together to care for To the families of these children, families facing the death of a child. our sympathies for your recent loss... I invite you to contact me with your ideas: email@example.com or call 480-861-7511. Natasha Varela In their memory, Kathy Sandler, MSW Grant Snair Executive Director MISS Foundation MISSing Angels Newsletter 16 March/April 2011 Letters From The MISS Mailbox... Joanne, We, five bereaved I met you at the conference When a child mothers, here in Lithu- dies in Arizona in 2006. I am sure you will ania now are preparing new website not remember me but I was so thrilled to for grieving parents “Parents of An- attend that five day gathering and took away gels” and we are searching for useful a lot to use in Regina Saskatchewan where information. I work. Your work influence me a great International Contacts: deal. I have implemented the slide show I looked up your website and found to honour the memory of our babies at our Ann Howell some articles, which would be inter- Annual Memorial Gathering. The province Montreal, Canada ested for many parents in our country. of Saskatchewan now has the availability of firstname.lastname@example.org a Still birth Certificate and with the major My question is: can we translate renovations of the new unit we included a some of your articles (or parts of the DeeDee Epstein Memento room, a place to work with articles) or use quota- Montreal, Canada our deceased babied and still tions from some of your email@example.com born to collect memories for articles and put them 514-489-4121 the parents. on our new website with the link to your Cathie Shipton Our Perinatal Loss Committee website and the name of London, England has worked very hard and this the author? We would firstname.lastname@example.org weekend received an excellence also note that articles are 07932 812931 award for recognition of the hard prepared according to your work. I am passing on the newspaper article website. Carla just as an FYI. You touched me with your Mexico City, Mexico compassion and talent. I work hard to give This information would be really email@example.com our community a fraction of what you have useful for the grieving parents here in 5255-5579 1327 given the world. I thought you needed to Lithuania. hear how very appreciative I am to have Marion Elichalt-Roesink met you and even relaxed by the pool with I’m looking forward from hearing France you and Vanessa Gorman! from you. firstname.lastname@example.org 0033-0559285551 or 0559287121 Joanne, you are a special person and Egle while our paths crossing may have been a small event in your busy life you left huge Bianca Brad Dear Dr. Cacciatore, memories with me. While my appreciation Bucharest, Romania Hello. I am 37 years old and I live in is coming years after, you truly are with me Prattville, Alabama. My son, Luke, email@example.com every day, influencing my practice and care died on June 1, 2010. He was 39 for these patients. I also expose my student weeks and 1 day. He weighed 9 lbs. 2 Salut Torne nurses to Perinatal loss as ambassadors oz. and was 20 inches long. So, I am Barcelona, Spain when they go forward in the work place to still new to all of this... grieving. firstname.lastname@example.org say and do the correct things. In my teach- ing presentation I have a picture of you and I am writing to share my interest in Tere Bone I , to show them how special my meeting learning more about the MISSing Madrid, Span you and attending the conference was. Angels Bill. I have teamed up with another mom and we have become Gilda ArrúaRiveros Thank you for being you! fast friends and support for each other. Paraguay We have a shared interest in getting email@example.com Sincerely, Danita Lang R.N. ( and bereaved the legislation going in the state of 595-981-291-333 mother of Baby Kayla April 8-12, 1983 died Alabama. of congenital anomalies) Sinead Williamson Danita Lang R.N. B.Sc.N. 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Julie Bebawy Volume 15, Issue 2 www.missfoundation.org 17 MISS Foundation Chapters & Mentors Facilitators & Support Groups Sari Edber, Los Angeles, CA Jaimie Beamer, Attica, OH Kelli Rivera, Peoria, AZ email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com 310-770-0626 419-426-5406 or 419-681-3707 602-332-4904 Jami Bachrad, Los Angeles, CA Terri Latham, Cincinnati, OH Linda Williamson, Phoenix,AZ firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com linda.will firstname.lastname@example.org Marlowe Lichtenfeld, Los Angeles, CA Matthew Latham, Cincinnati, OH Melissa Delgado, Phoenix, AZ email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com Kim Lotz, Merced, CA Jill Estfon , Tullahoma, TN Berdette Carrasco, Phoenix,AZ firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org 209-617-3440 931-205-3864 Gennie Contreras, Phoenix,AZ Kim St. Laurent, SoCA, CA Jennifer Soos, San Antonio, TX email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com 714-585-5679 210-487-0367 602-999-0226 Corinne O’Flynn, Parker , CO Nicole Visser, San Antonio, TX Michele Newton, Glendale, AZ firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org 303-378-4300 210-682-9915 623-329-2970 Jennifer Mayes, Parker, CO Ginny Shutt, Salt Lake City, UT Stephanie Holmes, Scottsdale, AZ email@example.com 801-524-8200 or 801-964-9466 firstname.lastname@example.org (303) 842-7106 (480) 286-8776 Roberta Quirk Amanda Seeley, Denver, CO Washington, DC Gloria Rice, Scottsdale, AZ email@example.com RobertaMQuirk@gmail.com firstname.lastname@example.org 303-660-4165 703-728-8446 480-483-3254 SuzAnneCortright, Denver, CO Katie Inlow, Washington, DC Wendy Peters, Buckeye, AZ email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org Arizonabratt2@msn.com (303) 842-7106 623-853-9170 Karla Helbert, Richmond/Montpelier, VA Stephanie Riskey, Eagle, CO email@example.com Laura R. 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