How to Win Back the One You Love By Natalie Arton | Love | Rating:
It is completely normal to make mistakes, feel jealous and have outbursts of temper. We are humans, not robots and therefore can’t push an "off" button and stop being angry or irritated. However, when we first meet an attractive person we try to show all of our good sides, by being gentle, funny and caring. But as soon as we win his/her love, we consider a goal accomplished and for the most part let the romance fade. Gradually we may start to reveal our weaknesses and try to control the person that we have relationship with, thinking that he/she is our "property". This is the main reason why most relationships end with a breakup. If you found yourself in such situation, but still want to win back the one you love, don’t despair! Your situation is not completely hopeless, even if your ex started to date someone else. To win back your ex boyfriend/girlfriend you have to re-establish friendly relationships with him/her. It is a lot easier now, when it used to be some twenty years ago. You can start a conversation by sending your ex an email, dropping hints that you are sorry and that you understand why he/she broke up with you. Don’t whine or beg your ex to forgive you. It makes you look weak and depressed and all you can get by acting this way is pity. You want to become his/her trustful friend, that your ex can always rely on and share his worries or problems at work. But at the same time you want to get your ex’s interest back by being a little mysterious. Make the person that you want to win back, think that he/she hasn’t learned everything about you. Under no circumstances sit at home, sulk with your lonely life and feel sorry for yourself. You have to keep yourself busy, by going out with your friends, signing up for a foreign language course, jogging in the morning or doing some volunteer work. First of all it won’t give you time for depression, second, you will have interesting stories to tell to your former boyfriend/girlfriend and let him/her know that you are taking a conscious action to improve yourself and moving on with your life. After you have a feeling that your ex wouldn’t mind to go out with you, invite him/her to watch a movie or have a cup of coffee. Plan this day in advance. What does the person that you love enjoy doing? If he/she likes horror movies, book two tickets beforehand. If it is bowling, make reservation for the bowling alley. Let your date have fun, by keeping the conversation light, reminding him/her some funny moments that two of you have shared, complimenting on your ex’s sense of humor or appearance and listening attentively to what he/she tells you. If your beloved wants to meet you again, consider it 90% of the success.
After that all you have to do is keep moving in the same direction and try not to screw it up! Source: http://www.healthguidance.org/authors/534/Natalie-Arton
Vocabulary List: 1. Sulk-v. feel sorry of yourself
She was sulk because she lost her boyfriend.
2. Humor-n.- comedy Her sense of humor was very attractive. 3. Attentively- adv. Carefully We attentively remove the cover because the bacteria may contaminate the product.
Comprehension Questions: 1. What is the main reason why most relationships end with a breakup? 2. If you want to start up or renew a relationship what is the authors first step as stated in the article. 3. According to writer, what percentage of success if your ex love want to date you again? Discussion Questions: 1. What do you feel about the authors steps of getting your ex love back? 2. If you are in the same situation, what are your steps of getting your ex love back? 3. Do you think the author procedure will work or not? Why or why not?