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					Fear stops success. Everyone has their fears. Although, most of these fears are either
caused by people's imagination, or are harmless. But how can you tell if the danger is
real, and most importantly, how to get over being afraid of it?

A. Beginning with small things

This is good for fear that can seem overwhelming at first. For instance the strong feeling
– it can almost feel like a flight or fight-response – just before doing public speaking or
asking someone out for a date. If you’re for instance nervous socially you might not feel
able to ask people out on dates right away. The fear of being rejected and that others
might think less of you if you get turned down can make many of us feel unable to ask
the question.

A solution is to take small steps instead. For example:

   1) Just saying hi to people.
   2) Starting to talk more to people online via forums and Instant Messaging.
   3) Trying to be more involved in conversations to exercise your conversation-
      muscles.

So, identify your fear. Then make a plan with some smaller steps you can take to
gradually lessen your discomfort.

B. Positive motivation

Getting to the stage where you really feel that you need to stop waiting – or need stop
reading one personal development book after another – and take action can take some
time. One way to get moving is to replace some of your negative thoughts – that creates
negative feelings – with clear, positive reasons to get going.

C. Looking failures and rejections with new glasses

 We may fear failure when starting on a new career-path. And rejection from friends,
family and the people around us if we fail. Or we might be afraid of being rejected when
asking someone out.

However the definition of failure we are brought up with in society might not be the best
and most useful to have. If you look at the most successful people you quickly notice
that they have a different response to failure than the more common one.

They have an abundance-mentality. They know that if their first business-venture fails it
feels like crap for a while but it’s ok in the long run. They learn from it and then they try
again.
D. Being in the present tense

What this means is to keep yourself steadily in the now. Not letting your thoughts and
emotions run away to the future or the past. That doesn’t mean that you don’t make
plans, of course. You might think about asking someone out. You make plans on when
to do it or perhaps what to say.

But being in the now means to not getting your mind stuck in a kind of psychological
and emotional headspace that is placed in the past or future.

				
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