What Are The Pros And Cons Of Surrogacy?
By Delwyn Lounsbury
The pros and cons of surrogacy are related to the question, is surrogacy ethical? For
couples plagued by infertility the benefits of surrogacy represent the best chance to bring
their dreams to life and in many instances carry on their own bloodline. Much has been
said about the pros and cons of surrogacy since it first became a viable option.
Thousands of infertile people (14 percent of the population) along with those interested in
same sex parenting which is estimated to be another 10 per cent of the population view it
as the answer to a prayer.
Unfortunately, infertility is an extremely common condition affecting one out of seven
people. Striking many men and women and preventing them from successfully
conceiving and carrying a child of their own. There are many different methods available
for the treatment of infertility, each fraught with possible complications. For many
infertile intended parents opting for surrogacy and finding a surrogate mother is by far the
most attractive solution. Probably one of the biggest benefits of surrogacy is that it can
enable them to produce their own biological child, with the use of their own egg and
sperm and thereby carry on their bloodline. The deep-seated urge along with medical
advances in having progeny has caused society to shift toward
pro in the pros and cons of surrogacy debate.
In fact, this is one of the biggest positive arguments in the pros and cons of surrogacy
debate. Rather than having to rely on the donation of eggs or sperm, the intended parents
can often use their own. Many couples prefer this possibility to any other and so they are
willing to shoulder everything from the heavy cost of egg donation IVF surrogacy to the
inherent risk for the woman becoming a surrogate mother.
However, when done right commercial surrogacy can be worth the struggle. There are
many qualified egg donor and surrogacy agencies that can match up an infertile couple
with a woman willing to become surrogate mother to their child. This helps to ease their
heartache of infertility. Gestational surrogacy agencies will carefully screen many
potential applicants in finding a surrogate mother for you. We make sure that woman
wanting to become a surrogate mother is physically and emotionally prepared to undergo
the process and will also offer guidance and a written agreement for all to sign leaving no
loose ends. Other facts about surrogacy in the pros and cons of surrogacy discussion is
that on the positive side we have a team consisting of an attorney versed in laws on
surrogacy, along with a psychologist and an up to date fertility clinic that all word
together to weaken the argument against surrogacy.
We are a California gestational surrogacy agency. There are no laws on banning or
against surrogacy here. California probably has the best and safest court acceptance
since a 1993 court case (Johnson v. Calvert) was decided if favor of the parents getting
all rights to the child. A subsequent case in 1998, Buzzzanca v. Buzzanca, gave court
acceptance to gestational surrogacy where the actual egg from the surrogacy mother and
a anonymous sperm donor were used. These types of surrogacy have no genetic link to
either of the intended parents. Commercial surrogacy is absolutely not allowed in
Michigan, New York, Washington State and Washington DC. Some 25 other states
allow only married couples or don't allow a surrogate fee. Please contact us and we will
have the best surrogate mother information and contacts in your area of your state.
Commercial surrogacy in Canada was prohibited with the passage in 2004 of the Assisted
Human Reproduction Act. Altruistic surrogacy or free surrogacy is still allowed (just pay
Even though the act carries a fine of $500,000 plus up to 10 years in jail it has not
eliminated paid surrogacy by infertile couples. It has only driven the practice
underground. The need to have progeny and to carry on ones family name and bloodline
is deep seated in our genes. Prohibitions always make criminals out of a country's
citizens. In the case of Canada the government is discriminating against it's infertile
citizens (which studies say is 14% of the population), it's new same sex married couples
that want to do same sex parenting and women who would like to be paid for becoming a
surrogate mother to earn some extra money for their family in these tough economic
times. Then add to those the husbands and the rest of the family of the women willing to
become a surrogate mother. This puts the prohibition problem potential perhaps closer to
20% of the population north of the boarder. Some reports are even projecting infertility
rates to do to 33% due to obesity and increases in sexually transmitted diseases. See link
below: 'Infertility time bomb' warning. Of course not anywhere close to that many
people want or could afford a surrogate born child. You can see how many Canadians
could feel disenfranchised and upset with their legislators. See copy of full act below.
There is much to be said when it comes to the pros and cons of surrogacy for the benefits
of surrogacy as an infertility treatment. It not only allows couples to use their own sperm
and eggs but also can ease the conception process of women who have difficulty
producing eggs or have lost their uterus to cancer. It ends up infertility is 1/3 the man’s
problem and 1/3 the woman's and 1/3 both in combination. With new techniques such as
IVF, in vitro fertilization, the success ratio has increased greatly.
Because commercial surrogacy agencies work hard to women interested in becoming a
surrogate mother with the right intended parents, it can be easier for parents to be
involved in every step of the surrogate pregnancy. This helps you feel more connected
and in control. Surrogate mothers relationship with the child and parents after birth
varies. When they do stay in contact it is known as open surrogacy. Closed surrogacy
means no contact and most egg donor women and sperm donation men elect to go this
way. Surrogacy statistics about the pros and cons of surrogacy show that less than one
percent of the time there are surrogacy issues with the surrogate mother.
Another option is for the intended parents to try finding a surrogate mother on their own
with surrogate wanted ads. Often, a friend or family member will offer free surrogacy
and serve as a surrogate (altruistic surrogacy), which can in itself, be a tremendous
bonding experience. What about surrogate healthcare provider insurance, contracts,
attorney and psychological tests? Who pays what? Commercial surrogacy agencies
handle all that and more.
The March 10, 2005 cover of People Magazine has Joan Lunden (17 years co-host of
Good Moring America TV show), with mother surrogate, Deborah Bolig, who is carried
twins for Lunden and her new husband, Jeff Koningsberg. Jeff is 10 years younger than
Joan. Koningsberg provided the sperm but we don't know where the egg came from.
They had a boy and a girl. Bolig already had had 3 children of her own and was paid
$22,000. After doing surrogate mother research on the Internet, Joan and Jeff chose a
California gestational surrogacy agency. "The choice of venue was deliberate: unlike
most states, California favors the intended parents should a custody dispute arise," the
article went on to say. See link below to Joan Lunden's blog - The Gift of Life
Becoming a surrogate mother is actually a caring and giving thing-most surrogates will
say. It is the most extraordinary gift a woman can give and it can allow for strong
emotional bonds to form, making the intended parents feel less alone in their infertility
struggles. There is usually surrogate fee of between $10,000 and $25,000 to the woman
willing to become a surrogate mother. Many consider this part of the cost of surrogacy
as tax exempt due to the "pain and suffering" and/or "pre-birth child support" aspect.
There are minor cost of surrogate mother like surrogacy support group meetings and
maternity clothes. Military wives age 18 to 35 with at least one child get best
compensation for surrogacy due mainly to the fact that their insurance still covers most of
the birthing (but not of egg donation IVF surrogacy related costs and procedures).
It is very important for some to retain the ability to bring their own biological children
into the world despite the difficulties. If this is you, the case of pros and cons of
surrogacy is undeniable in favor of surrogacy. And with the proper guidance and medical
team, electing for surrogacy can be the single most important decision you will ever
make...and by far the most rewarding. While adoption is cheaper, you just have too many
unknowns. You "get what you pay for". Sometimes it's the long term cost of an adopted
child that can be with you for the rest of your life. Your biologic bloodline and family
name is not carried forward into the future. You have no control over the origin of your
precious child. Control requires investment. See: http://www.surrogacy-surrogate-
Can anything equal the joy of a new baby: When it comes to easing the heartbreak of
infertility the benefits of surrogacy allow you to experience the miracle of having a child
of your own. Medical advances have continued for surrogacy technology and today they
present a very real and promising alternative. Your job now is finding a surrogate
mother. With our commercial agency and team on board you can create your child and
change your world. Surrogacy statistics continue to bring hope in the pros and cons of
surrogacy debate. "And the winner is" - happiness and joy in their new baby to many.
That's why to have a surrogate mother.
PS "Don't forget to have kids"
Please contact us about referral to service providers in your state or the state next to you
if your state has surrogacy issues
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