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					             I, Am Me
I, “Actually” Make My Own Experience

A group based upon the work of Virginia
 Satir’s Self-Esteem Resource Tools.
 Using a skills and art therapy approach
children(teens) learn how to enhance their
   ability to more fully participate in life.
    Designed by Regina Ragan Taggart, LCSW
Self-Esteem Resource Tools

We are born with the inner resources for
developing self-esteem. As therapists, teachers
and practitioners, we can help children (and
teens)learn how to utilize their inner resources
for coping with the changes and stressors in
their lives. Utilizing these resources promotes
positive self-esteem, which helps children and
teens navigate the turbulent and exciting years
of youth.
                                    I Am Me
In all the world, there is no one else exactly like Me
Everything that comes out of Me is authentically Me
Because I alone chose it - I own everything about Me -my body, my feelings, my
Mouth, my voice, all my actions,Whether they be to others or to myself - I own
My fantasies,my dreams, my hopes, my fears - I own all my triumphs and
Successes, all my failures and mistakes because I own all of Me,
I can become intimately acquainted with Me - by so doing I can love Me and be
Friendly with Me in all my parts - I know there are aspects about myself that
Puzzle Me, and other aspects that I do not know - but as long as I am Friendly
And loving to myself, I can courageously
And hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles-And for ways to find out more
About Me - However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I
Think and feel at a given moment in time is Authentically Me - If later some parts
Of how I looked, sounded, thought and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can
Discard that which is Unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for
That which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do I have the tools
To survive, to be close to others, to be productive, to make sense and order
Out of the world, therefore I can engineer me.
I AM ME and
                                          Virginia Satir, 1975.
                     Virginia Satir, Self Esteem , Celestial Arts: California, 1975.
                I, Actually
          Make My Own Experience

In this group, participants learn how to use theri inner
resources of Self-Esteem to:
Find direction for goals by using the Wishing Wand
Reduce Fear by using the Courage Stick
Make Choices using the Yes - No Medallion
Solve Problems with the Detective Hat
Recognize and Cope with Feelings from the Heart
Develop Curiosity by using the Golden Key
Listen to their Inner Voice by using the Wisdom Box
     I, Actually Make My Own

       Length of the group and
       format for each session:
     The group meets for 8 weeks
Each session is 75-minutes and includes
 Introduction of a Self-Esteem Tool
Self-Esteem skill building using reflection
      Making Self-Esteem Tool
                        Satir’s Self-Esteem
                        Resource Tool Kit

   Detective Hat
     Analysis                     Wishing Wand
                              Desires and Aspirations    Courage Stick
                                                          Risk Taking

  Wisdom BoxCompassion ad Feelings
Inner Truth and                                           Golden Key
   Guidance                     Yes-No Medallion        New Possibilities
                               Boundary Definition
    Outline Of Each Session

10 Minutes: Introduction of Tool
20 Minutes: Tool Reflections
30 Minutes: Self-Esteem Art
15 Minutes: Debrief
          Wisdom Box
      Session 1 Introduce Tool

  “…I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do
          I have the tools to survive,
         to be close to others, to be
       productive, to make sense and
            order out of the world,
     of people and things outside of me
I own Me, and therefore I can engineer Me
      I am Me and I AM OKAY…”
                                      Virginia Satir, 1975
             Wisdom Box
         Session 1 Introduce Tool

I am wise.
I have my own thoughts and ideas.
This is the small voice inside of us that
provides guidance. It’s a deep knowing of
what fits and doesn’t fit for you in a
  Wisdom Box Reflections Session 1

If you could help someone else, what
would you do?
When have you been creative?
If you could be invisible for an hour, what would
you do?
If you could do something for the land and
oceans, what would you do?
Making a Wisdom Box Session
You will need: card board or paper boxes (9 inches x
9 inches), stickers, colorful markers, 7 different colors of paper
     (3 x 5 inches).
1. Ask participants to think about their inner voice. Give them
     4-5 minutes and encourage them to be mindful of breathing
     during this process.
2. Give them a box. Have them choose stickers and markers
     to write or draw words of wisdom on the box.
3. Have them select 7 cards to put inside of their box. These
     will be used in the last session to make self-esteem resource
   Wishing Wand
 Session 2 Introduce Tool

       my fantasies
“… I own

    My dreams
    My hopes…”
              Virginia Satir, 1975
             Wishing Wand
         Session 2 Introduce Tool

This does not represent a magic wand.
The wishing wand represents your ability to
become familiar with hopes (goals).
Asking about hopes will help children
understand what he/she wants and
help him/her take action towards a goal.
 Wishing Wand Reflections Session 2

Think of one wish for your present life.
Think one wish wish for your future life.
What steps can you take to make these wishes
Who are the adults with whom you can talk
about these wishes?
     Making a Wishing Wand Session 2

You will need: craft wire, scissors, different colors of beads, ribbon,
charms with words such as dream, inspire, create, hope and wish
1.    Explain that exploring wishes helps identify plans for achieving
      wishes. This is another way to make plans for goals.
2.    Ask them to identify a wish from their reflections. Give them five
      minutes to think about this wish and write down any other thoughts
      about steps to make this happen.
3.     Ask them to make a wishing bracelet or bookmark.
4.    Give them wire and ask them to choose beads, charms and ribbons to
      represent this wish.
5.    Ask them to string the beads, charms and ribbon on the wire to make
      the bracelet or bookmark.
6.    Invite them to share their bookmark or bracelet with the group.
            Courage Stick
          Session 3 Introduce Tool
                “… I know there are parts
                about me that puzzle me,
        and other parts that I do not know.
But as long and I am friendly and loving to myself I
   can courageously and hopefully look for the
          to the puzzles and for ways to
              learn more about me. …”
                                              Virginia Satir,
         Courage Stick
     Session 3 Introduce Tool

Sometimes it takes courage to ask others
   for what you need.
It also takes courage to tell someone what
   you hope for.
Courage Reflections Session 3

When have you felt strong?
When have you felt secure about yourself?
When have you felt shy?
When have you felt brave?
Who can you talk to when you are afraid?
         Making a Courage Stick
               Session 3

You will need: wooden sticks 3-4 inches in diameter and 12
inches long, ribbon, yarn, beads, charms and wire.
1. Ask participants to think about courage
2. Have them choose a time when they felt
3. Ask to think about a situation in their life
     where they could use courage.
4. Give them supplies to decorate a
     courage stick to represent this situation.
          Detective Hat
        Session 4 Introduce Tool

“…I can see, hear, feel, think, say and do
       I have the tools to survive,
         To be close to others,
           To be productive,
     And to make sense and order
    Out of the world, of people and
        Things outside of me…”       Virginia Satir, 1975
             Detective Hat
         Session 4 Introduce Tool

Often events in my life create problems.
Problem solving involves thinking about
different parts of the event.
The Detective Hat is a tool that I
can use to help me think about different parts
of this event. After I’ve identified the different
parts of the event, I can find solutions to
the problem.
Detective Hat Reflections Session 4

Imagine that you are a detective –
Think of something that you would like to
investigate in your family. Who does this involve?
Choose actors from the group to play the roles.
Tell the actors about the situation and about
the roles they are going to play.
Begin the role play!
Debrief the role play by asking role players
what it was like for them and what new learnings
they have.
           Making a Detective Hat
                       Session 4
You will need: hats, fabric paint, glue and glitter

1.   Using the role play and reflections, explain that
     there are different ways to solve puzzles.
2.   Ask them to identify words or phrases that explain
     how they approach puzzles.
3.   Ask them to paint words or pictures on their
     “Detective Hat.”
4.   Invite them to share their hats with each other.
          Golden Key
      Session 5 Introduce Tool

     “…I own all my triumphs and
successes, all my failures and mistakes
 because I own all of Me, I can become
   intimately acquainted with Me…”
                                 Virginia Satir, 1975
       Golden Key Session 5
          Introduce Tool

The Golden Key is a way to explore new
possibilities. This is a Key to staying
curious about ourselves and other people
around us such as peers, friends, peers,
family and teachers.
Golden Key Reflections Session 5

If you could be a super hero what special power
would you have?
Name one thing you’d like to do that
you’ve never told anyone?
Think of something new that you’d like to do
to your in your life?
What new idea do want to share with your
             Making your Golden Key
                   Session 5

You will need: 8 x 10 sheets of paper, markers, three small keys
for each participant and key rings.
1. Have participants draw a story map of their present and
      future life with doors along the journey.
2.    From this map, ask them to identify three steps along the way
      where they would use Golden Keys to open doors.
3.    Ask them to imagine what they might find behind each door.
4.    Ask them to choose three keys to represent the doors they’d
      like to open from the story.
5.    Have them place their keys on the ring.
6.    Ask them to share with the group.
        Yes - No Medallion
          Introduce Tool Session 6

This resource helps create healthy
boundaries and make choices based upon
our truth. It gives us strength to verbalize
a true“Yes”and a true “No.” This tool is
critical for children when they are
confronted with peer pressure.
         Yes - No Medallion
      Introduce Tool Session 6
   “…If later some parts of how I looked,
               sounded, thought
    and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can
        discard that which is unfitting,
keep the rest, and invent something new For
           that which I discarded…”
                                     Virginia Satir, 1975
   Yes - No Medallion Reflections
            Session 6
Think of a situation in your life where you
have to make choices:
  With a friend
  With a family member
  With a teacher or project at school
Describe the situation and find three choices.
Which of the three choices best fits for you?
     Making Yes - No Medallions
             Session 6
You will need: 6-9 wooden coins for each
participant, markers and a bag for the coins.
1. Ask participants to think of the choices
    identified during the reflection.
2. As they think of these choices, have them
    design the coins with yes on one side and no
    on the other.
3. Place the coins in the bags.
          Introduce Tool Session 7

“… I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes,
my fears. I own all my triumphs and
successes,all my failures and
mistakes. Because I own all of Me I can
become intimately acquainted with Me. By
doing so I can love me and be friendly with
Me in all parts…”         Virginia Satir, 1975
       Introduce Tool Session 7

The heart represents our feelings about
self and others. The heart helps with
identifying, coping with and talking about
feelings. As feelings become intense, our
ability to think diminishes which makes
coping stressful. Feelings that can be
talked about are less likely to be acted
            Heart Reflections
                   Session 7

When have you felt loved?
When have you felt happy?
When have you felt worried?
When have you been thankful?
When have you felt sad?
When have you felt encouraged?
What parts of yourself do you love?
         Heart Collage/Painting
                       Session 7

You will need: 8 in x 10 in canvas panel, acrylic paint and
1. Ask participants think about what it feels like to be
   loved and to love others.
2. Have them paint a collage of these feelings.
   Encourage creativity! The collage can be words,
   pictures, colors.
3. Ask participants to share their collages with the
Self-Esteem Resource Cards
                      Session 8

You will need: a set of set of self-esteem cards, pencils
   and markers.
• Give participants a set of self esteem resource
2. Ask them to think about ways to use their resources
   in their life and write about this on the back of the
3. Have them place cards inside of their wisdom box.
4. Ask participants to share their cards and to tell the
   group one way they plan to use each tool.
         “I, Actually”

Special Thanks:
Jean McLendon, LMFT, LCSW
Deb Schlenger, LCSW
Virginia Satir (1916-1988)
         Regina Ragan Taggart, LCSW

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