The Stages of Grief
Five Stages of Grief and Stress
Grief During grief, it is common to have many
conflicting feelings. Sorrow, anger,
1. Denial and Isolation loneliness, sadness, shame, anxiety, and
At first, a person will deny the loss guilt often accompany serious losses.
has taken place, and may withdraw Having so many strong feelings can be
from usual social contacts. This stage very stressful. Yet, denying the feelings
may last for brief or extended and failing to work through the five
periods. stages of grief is harder on the body and
mind than going through them. When
people suggest “looking on the bright
2. Anger side,” or other ways of cutting off
The grieving person may then be difficult feelings, the grieving person
furious at the person who inflicted the may feel pressured to hide or deny these
hurt (even if he/she is dead), or at the emotions. Then it will take longer for
At some point in our lives, world for letting it happen. He/she healing to take place.
each of us faces the loss of may be angry with him/herself for
someone or something dear “letting the event take place,” even if,
to us. The grief that follows realistically, nothing could have
such a loss can seem un- prevented it.
bearable, but grief is actually Recovering From
a healing process. Grief is
the emotional suffering we
3. Bargaining Grief
Now the grieving person may make People are often unprepared for grief,
feel after a loss of some kind.
bargains with God, asking, “If I do since tragedy strikes so suddenly. It
The death of a loved one, a
this, will you take away the loss?” helps to have a close circle of family
serious medical condition,
even intense disappointment
can cause grief. Sometimes 4. Depression
The person feels numb, although It also helps to deal with the pain of loss
people get stuck in one of the
anger and sadness may remain if one always practices good self care
first four stages. Their lives
underneath. habits: eating a balanced diet, drinking
can be painful until they
enough non-alcoholic fluids, and getting
move to the fifth stage –
enough rest and exercise. These help
acceptance. Dr. Elis abeth 5. Acceptance one through the loss until acceptance
Kubler-Ross, an expert on After the anger, sadness and can be reached. To speak with a
grief, has named five stages mourning have diminished, the counselor, call your Employee
of grief people go through person can accept the reality of the Assistance Program.
following a serious loss. loss.