Sometimes parents need to involve emoltionally with kids

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					Parents may not be fully aware of what is happening to their children's
and their everyday activities. After coming home from work, parents
usually do some household chores and prepare themselves for dinner, while
their kids do their homework after arriving from school. Conversations
would usually begin at dinner time, asking them questions about how their
day at school was. Kids may share their quirky experiences to their
parents, but teenagers would seldom do the same.

Adolescents would rather keep the details to themselves, and just share
random events from their school. Many parents may be unaware but high
school life may be found by their children to be quite a challenge. Peer
acceptance is critical for most teenagers. In campus, they have
opportunities to build new friendships. For some teens, school is also
about facing up to the difficulties of bullying. Other students from
school or even their so called “friends” could tease and bully them by
saying negative things about them in front of many people. Sadly, this
scenario is considered as normal for people their age. At this stage,
your children may be emotionally sensitive and choose to remain secretive
about the issues and situations that they face in school.

In case one of your children is having difficulty sharing stories,
opening up, or is showing symptoms of depression --- that child may be
having problems with self-esteem. It is not uncommon for teenagers to
experience a form of inferiority complex since the adolescent years are
really about establishing self-identity and building their own sense of
self-worth. They may also have feelings of resentment, alienation, and
unhappiness. These are only some of the reasons why children hesistate
to share their experiences to their parents and other adults.

For parents who think that their children might be suffering from an
inferiority complex, it is best to see and know the signs that your child
may be experiencing. Your child knows what they are capable of, as well
as their shortcomings. Bullying tends to point such negativity into the
young adult, and perceives any form of criticism as a personal attack.
Feeling bad about themselves, they usually have trouble feeling good with
anyone else. They look hard for possible flaws and shortcomings of other
people to try to convince themselves that they are not so bad after all.
Response to flattery can come in two ways: desperate in fishing for
compliments, while others may refuse to listen to anything positive since
it would be in contrast with their own feelings. Another sign is how they
project their weaknesses unto others in order to lessen the pain of
feeling inferior. If blaming is carried to the extreme, they might think
that others are actively seeking to ruin them. People who feel inferior
likes to win games, but tend to avoid such situations because deep down,
they believe they cannot win. They have beliefs that they themselves are
not as interesting as others, and would think that other people would
feel the same way about them. These are the most common signs of having
inferiority complex, and parents should really take the time to help
their children deal with it. Guiding children and teenagers in terms of
their emotional and psychological growth is critical to the quality of
their life.

In order to overcome such inferiority complex, these young adults should
develop a strong sense of determination to change their present
mentality. Initially, they would require a little initiative, be daring
and should give up their inhibition. Parents should remind them that they
do not need to be afraid of any body. Try to develop their positive
thinking and make them express their views, in case they do not like
anything. Always remember that everyone is unique in this world, and
individuality is best in leading a good and happy life.

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