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P age |1 FAMILY ADVOCACY PROGRAM Volume 4 Issue 1 Oct/Nov/Dec 2008 By Paula Tracy, Family Advocacy Outreach Manager Based on the book The 7 Secrets of Effective Fathers by Ken R. Canfield, Tyndale House Publishers, 2001. Well first off, it’s pretty obvious wasn’t supposed to change strongest predictor of the child’s that I’m not a dad. But that diapers, soothe hurt feelings, or success or failure with school doesn’t mean I don’t have a clue dry tears. But times have and friends. I’m certainly not about what dads, and only dads, changed, and now we do things saying that fathers are more have the capability to contribute differently! Studies show that important, or better parents to the nurturing and upbringing kids with dads’ active in their than mothers, they’re just a of their children. Over the years care are more likely to become different type of parent. And I have interacted with countless empathetic, compassionate kids benefit from having both of families—those in which fathers adults. Dads who interact them—active, interested, warm, were active and involved, others warmly with their children and loving, as they develop and in which the children had create offspring who are more evolve into increasingly virtually no contact with their likely to have healthy adult functional and independent male parent. And it is clear that social relationships. And, the human beings. dad’s involvement isn’t just “nice father’s relationship with the According to Dr. Ken Canfield, to have”--it’s crucial. Social child, not the mother’s, is the President of the National Center scientists used to believe that the for Fathering, there are seven mother-child relationship was “secrets” that truly effective the central one, while that of the Inside this Issue fathers know and practice. Let’s father-child was peripheral. The take a look at what they are: supporting actor role, if you will. Secrets of Effective Fathers 1 1. Commitment. Commitment When I was growing up my FAN M ail 4 comes in two forms—dedication father filled his supporting role and constraint. Dedication quite well; he was the provider M agic? M iracle? No, it’s 6 commitment is that rush of a Reflex! and the occasional disciplinarian emotion when you look at your (for the really major Desperately Seeking Susan 7 newborn baby, vowing “I’ll infractions!). He drove off to always be there for you”. some mysterious place called Constraint commitment is the “Jen”-erally Speaking 9 “the office” each morning, more obligatory type, the “of returned home that evening to a Kids Korner 10 course I’ll change your diaper; cooked dinner, watched Walter it’s not like you can change it Cronkite, then read the paper. yourself!” Factor in the That was what society (and my commitment required of day mother) expected him to do. He in/day out, year in/year out P age |2 parenting, and you’ve got the movie, book, or music? Do you providing that effective dads’ will idea. A father who willingly know how to tell if she’s had a always do: responding to family dedicates himself to this while bad day? Do you ever spend crises, and making sure that proudly proclaiming to anyone time with your kids on their turf, their children have adequate within earshot that “Yes, these are MY children!” provides those at their level? It can offer up a food, shelter, and healthcare. kids a very deep sense of whole new perspective on your Loving Their Mother. The belonging, safety, and home. kid’s life. main benefit to kids whose Perhaps it makes not being Consistency. When it comes to parents have a strong marital picked for the team at recess just being an effective dad, interaction is that of security. a little bit easier to take. consistency is comprised of The parents are the leaders of regularity and predictability. the household, and even the Quite simply, your kids know littlest kids are pros at reading what to expect when they see “cues”. Mom and dad seem and talk to you. You aren’t going relaxed and happy? The kids to punish them today for a will know and respond behavior that you found accordingly. Unspoken tension amusing yesterday. Your in the air? Expect some acting expectations of them are clear, out. Don’t be afraid to and your parental role is also demonstrate your affection for clearly defined. You are in your wife in front of the kids— control of your own behavior, it’s good for them to see (within Knowing Your Child. This moods, and morality—in other reason, of course!). Even in a starts with a basic understanding words—a 24/7 role model. You divorce situation, a lot can be of child development—what’s keep your word. Last but not gained by consistently respecting normal, and what’s not. All kids least, every time you walk out of your ex-wife, never undermining go through general that door, they believe you will her to the kids, and trying to developmental phases that result be coming back, that you aren’t continue to work together in the in mastery of new skills (rolling going to just abandon them. kids’ best interests. Remember, over, speech development, potty That is a tremendous comfort for no matter what happened within training, starting school, a child. the parental relationship, this is learning to drive!), which then Protecting and Providing. about being an effective father. lead to yet more skills to refine. Back in the pioneer days, dads Active Listening. Forget the Have an idea of what your child sure juggled a lot of action, old adage we grew up with. is experiencing developmentally didn’t they? Their days were Children need to be seen and by reading books, asking packed with the grueling work of heard. When they are questions when you talk to other hunting enough food to keep little chatterboxes it’s so easy to parents, and for older kids, reach their families alive through want to block them out, back into your memory to rough winters, keeping constant especially when we have a zillion remember what you were like at watch for hostile adversaries, things on our minds and we have that age. Which leads to the chopping wood, constructing already heard their story a dozen next part: know your child as an adequate shelter, and tending times. Try to remember that individual. What are her likes? any livestock. These days, you are the center of his world; Dislikes? What are the names of fathers’ jobs are hopefully less you are like a super hero to him. his closest friends? Who does demanding, but there are two Your attention and approval is she admire? What’s his favorite main types of protecting and the ultimate. As kids mature P age |3 and start coming to you with children and allow them to “pick problems, resist the urge to solve your brain”. Be the kind of Recipe Corner them! I know, I know—it would father you can be proud of. Onion Sausage Squares all be so much easier. But kids, especially girls, usually don’t Staff News 1lb Ground pork sausage want to be told what to do, they 1 large onion just want you to listen. Active Departures 2 cups Bisquick listening means facing your ¾ cup milk Capt Robert Greiman ~ Capt Greiman child, turning off the television, 2 eggs was the Family Advocacy Officer for ¼ tsp salt maintaining good eye contact. the past eighteen months and has now ¼ tsp paprika Try to settle yourself at the same moved to the triangle. He was a GREAT 1 ½ cups sour cream level as your child. Lean toward asset to the team and will be truly her, and pay attention to missed! Cook sausage and onions nonverbal—they are a wealth of till done. Drain. information. Give lots of SSgt Anita Garcia ~ SSgt Garcia has Combine Bisquick, 1 egg nonverbal feedback by nodding, been with Family Advocacy for the past and milk – mix well. raising your eyebrows, using Spread in greased 13/9/2 seven months. She received facial expressions. And inch baking dish/pan. Top unexpected orders to become a Mental with sausage and onion. remember, the goal is to Health Technician Instructor at understand, not solve. Sheppard AFB. She is recently married, Combine sour cream, salt Spiritual Equipping. This has a son, loves to watch Disney movies, and 1 egg – mix well and “secret” doesn’t necessarily have and is looking forward to her new spread over sausage. anything to do with attending a adventure as an instructor! Sprinkle with Paprika specific church, unless you want (optional) and bake in preheated 350 degree oven it to. More importantly, it has to Arrivals do with you coming to terms for 30 minutes…. 1st Lt Kara Wisniewski ~ Lt Wisniewski with the kind of moral role is taking Capt Greiman’s place as the model you want to be for your Family Advocacy Officer. She comes to kids, taking an honest personal us from Pittsburgh, PA. Her experience Family Advocacy Staff inventory (this is a tough one!), ranges from working with adults with 1 Lt Kara Wisniewski, LCSW, BCD and getting yourself to the point developmental disabilities and mental Family Advocacy Officer where you are spiritually illnesses as well as with children on the SSgt Anita Garcia-McClintock NCOIC equipped to lead your children autism spectrum. She is a diehard in their own spiritual journey. Steelers fan, loves Italian food, and has SrA Ismael Ramirez Mental Health Technician See, if you don’t step up and lead two cats (Max and Macy). Donna Gibson, MSN your children in their spiritual New Parent Support Nurse exploration, somebody else will. SrA Ismael Ramirez ~ SrA Ramirez Susan Pyles, LCSW, BCD And I can guarantee that some comes to us from Mental Health. He is Jennifer Nicholson, LCSW Treatment Managers of those “volunteers” out there from central California and loves to wakeboard and watch movies. He has will not be thinking of your Paula Tracy, LCSW Outreach Manager child’s best interest. So two dogs and one cat. He loves pasta Michelle Orso encourage them to ask questions and is trying get in shape for next Victim Advocate and provide them access to summer’s bikini contest on highway 90. Tracy Myers spiritually motivating books. Program Assistant Discuss your beliefs with your P age |4 Donna Gibson, Family Advocacy Nurse answers your questions in Dear FAN, they can sleep part of the time. Window shades/beach We are planning road trips to If not, then leave after a nap or towel visit our families over the in the morning. Don’t be fooled holidays. The thought of Changes of clothes into thinking they will behave driving 8 hours or more with an differently in the car just Small toys and books infant and an active toddler is because it’s a special occasion making me very stressed and for travel. Consider stopping for Music nervous. What ideas can you breaks if it is a very long trip offer to help make traveling with (10-12 hours). Remember-- Food, snacks, drinks for them less stressful and more toddlers need to move! The baby/toddler and adults enjoyable? longer they are strapped into a car seat the fussier they tend to Sippy cups The Road Runners become. Make sure you factor Cooler in time for unplanned “surprises”. A diaper explosion Wet wipes Dear Road Runners, that requires a complete change So…the families want to see the of clothes, wiping the car seat Plastic bag for trash and new baby and toddler and they down and soothing inconsolable dirty diapers expect you to make the trip! To crying can add an extra 45 Grandmother’s house we go! Bottle warmer minutes. Bring along several There is no doubt that a long changes of clothes for each Duct tape??? road trip with a baby and or child, and don’t forget a change toddler on board takes a for yourself in case things get a Window shades or beach towels considerable amount of little messy. keep the sun out of baby’s eyes planning. But it can be done and help create a darker, more and most of all----it can even be nap inducing atmosphere. Bring FUN! a cooler for drinks and formula, Be proactive in making trip plus a bottle warmer that plugs decisions; make things happen into the cigarette lighter, if instead of simply letting them needed. Bring plenty of snacks happen. Contemplating that are not too messy, situations that can arise by baby/toddler friendly music on asking yourself a few questions Make a checklist of everything tape or CD, books to read to and coming up with a solution you need to make the trip baby, small toys that are new or ahead of time can help make pleasant. simply forgotten favorites, and a your trip happy and successful. Well stocked diaper bag special “lovey”. Consider Does your baby/toddler sleep having one adult ride in the back well in the car? If yes, then Baby blanket seat to keep your baby/toddler consider planning your travel Pillow or head support occupied. If you are nursing a time to coincide with bedtime so baby it is easiest (and safest!) if you simply pull to a rest stop, P age |5 take a break and feed the baby. I have heard of moms who nurse with the infant strapped in the car seat while dad’s going 75 miles an hour. In my opinion, those moms must be contortionists! By Paula Tracy, LCSW Stay flexible. When traveling with babies/toddlers even the October is, among other things, Domestic Violence Awareness best laid plans can be disrupted. Month. It’s easy to get overwhelmed with all of the worthy Try to stay relaxed, accept causes we’re urged to remember, and tempting to just ignore changes, and go with the flow. them altogether. But don’t! Let me explain why. Keep a sense of humor! Babies Before I became a Family Advocacy Outreach Manager I and toddlers can sense when you worked for many years as a clinician (I won’t tell you how are stressed out and it stresses many!). Some time ago, working as a Treatment Manager at them out too! Stop when you need to and avoid trying to push another base, I was referred an amazing young woman. Now, “just a little farther”. A crying we have all met thousands of people in our professional lives. baby in the car can make the Yet there are those who will always stand out—for whatever driver nervous and distracted. reason—they sear themselves indelibly into our hearts and Oh, and why the duct tape? No, brains. She was one of these people. I learned that she had it’s not for what you think! But born into a family that valued males; she was the youngest of it does have 1001 uses. If you four and the only girl. Throughout her childhood, she was suspect grandma has not child emotionally abused by being told that she had never been proofed, the duct tape works wanted, was unloved, and would never amount to anything great as a cover for electrical worthwhile. She was physically abused by both parents and outlets! frequently by her older brothers, as well. She was sexually Heading home, organize as well abused by her father, grandfather, and brothers. Last, because as you did the trip out. Think her needs were inferior to everyone else’s, she often wore dirty about lessons learned that might and ill-fitting clothes, went without medical care, and didn’t make the trip home even easier. get enough to eat. Sounds like she should have been a mess, Is there something you wish doesn’t it? But this girl possessed an inner strength that was you’d brought but didn’t? unreal; she separated herself from that family by constantly Could you have done anything reminding herself that it was about them, not her. She buried smarter? Did you find yourself herself in her academics so she could spend extra time at or spouse saying, “I wish we school; as a result, she was an above average student. She set would have…”? Now is the time her sights on completing high school, knowing that graduation to make the changes so the road meant freedom. In short—this young woman thought like a to home is pleasant and relaxed! survivor, NOT a victim. Upon graduation she attended a job Also, if you happen to be fair at which an Air Force recruiter spoke with her about traveling by plane, Google a site called “Gentle Baby Care” by joining—explained that she would meet people who would Elizabeth Pantley. It has some remain friends for a lifetime, told her about the Wingman great tips on air travel with kids. philosophy, and that the Air Force becomes like an extended And Military One source has family. It sounded like the stable lifestyle she craved, so she some great ideas for less joined. She finished tech school, and arrived at her first duty stressful travel. Have a good assignment. It wasn’t long before she started dating, and trip and say hello to grandma for falling deeply in love, married after three months. Within six me! Happy travels!! months of the wedding, she was referred to Family Advocacy by the Emergency Room after being treated for severe injuries caused by domestic violence. Continued on page 11 P age |6 By Paula Tracy, LCSW All babies cry. That being According to Dr. Harvey Karp, practice anyone can become a said, how much a baby cries is the UCLA School of Medicine pro in no time. a highly individual pediatrician who wrote The Family Advocacy heartily characteristic. Some placid Happiest Baby on the Block (as recommends Dr. Karp’s book babies don’t ever seem to have well as The Happiest Toddler to expecting and new parents. a lot to fuss about. We’ve all on the Block), calming a crying It can be found at local overheard those enviable infant requires the knowledge bookstores, through his moms and dads who proudly and use of what he calls ―the 5 website, and can often be proclaim they have an infant Ss‖. The ―Ss‖ stand for available for check out at the who rarely makes a peep. This swaddling, side hold, shushing, library. The Outreach baby just reclines in his little swinging, and sucking. He program has several copies bouncer seat, solemnly staring believes that babies actually that can be signed out on loan, at the ceiling as though lost in possess an innate calming as well as some ―white noise‖ thought, like some pint-size reflex, and that the reflex is DVDs that feature fast, philosopher. Other parents activated when these medium, and slower womb describe what almost sounds responses, in the proper sounds (babies love them!), the like a rabid monster from a sequence, are provided to a noise of a hair dryer, and rain scary movie—―his face was seemingly inconsolable baby. falling on a roof. Check one contorted and a deep shade of Some infants will immediately out to see which one your purple, arms and legs calm by being swaddled, newborn prefers! Call 376- thrashing and kicking at us, others will be soothed by 3459 for more information. this bloodcurdling scream that being swaddled, held in a side went on and on‖… Both of ―football hold‖, and loudly these infants are entirely shhhh’d. And then some normal, and every babies will need all five steps. temperament in between is In his book he writes that normal, as well. The good many parents, exhausted and news is that if you are one of discouraged by their well- those parents who have been meant but fruitless attempts blessed (yes, blessed!) with to soothe their babies, were one of the more, uh, astounded when he calmly Never, EVER demanding babies, there are picked up their sweaty, red- shake a baby!! some tried and true faced angel and successfully techniques that have demonstrated the ―Ss‖ to consistently quieted even the them. Some believed it to be most enraged customer. just short of miraculous. But he insists that with a little P age |7 Desperately Seeking Susan they also face some may be enough of a change Tips to help children emotional challenges during to refocus on the positive. celebrate holidays when a the holidays. Fortunately, parent is deployed. with a little planning the 3. Celebrate with the adults in their lives can deployed person. Even if It seems like the whole ensure a holiday season full your loved one is thousands country begins to celebrate of cheer, warmth, and of miles away, he or she can the holidays as soon as the cherished memories. still help you celebrate. Send weather cools down. a care package with a special Everywhere you look there 1. Honor traditions. It is treat; mail a scrapbook after will start to be reminders of important to determine what the holidays; or ask the the upcoming season: stores holiday traditions you cannot deployed person to send you will begin decorating with do without. Even if children a homemade ornament or tinsel and garland, strands of aren’t old enough to help decoration. lights will soon be hanging make the decisions, it is good from houses and streetlights, to have them present during 4. Remember what the advertisements for pictures this discussion. Don't holidays are about. with Santa will be posted, the underestimate importance of Regardless of which holidays smell of cinnamon and cloves continuity and the your family celebrates, this at the grocery store will be predictability of traditions. time of year is about overwhelming, and then the However, if there are kindness, caring, love, and holiday shopping frenzy will traditions that your family peace. It is important to focus begin. It is nearly impossible could do without, consider on the things you are grateful to not notice all of the holiday skipping them for the year. for. Teaching children to be hustle and bustle, but when selfless and to appreciate the someone you love is absent, 2. Start new traditions. joy in their lives despite the those constant reminders can Honoring traditions is hardships is one of the best often be painful. important, but there's nothing gifts you can give them. wrong with starting new ones. Military children with a Mix things up a little bit. 5. Have fun! Some families deployed parent are Again, it is a good idea to decide to have a few laughs particularly susceptible to involve kids in these during the holiday season to feelings of sadness during decisions. Spending the ease the tension. One the holidays. There’s no holidays in a different military family had a picture doubt military kids can be location, having a potluck of their deployed dad blown resilient and resourceful, but instead of a sit-down dinner, up to life size and laminated. or even camping out on the They proceeded to include living room floor one night him in all of the holiday events. He was in the family P age |8 holiday photo and even had a 8. Don’t be alone. Military new military family, donating place set for him at the dinner families near or on an toys, visiting a nursing home, table. Another family decided installation have the benefit or simply vowing to genuinely to save their big holiday of having their “military wish everyone you see a celebration until dad got family” nearby, but those that happy holiday season, this home in July. It was a bit live far from a base often feel focus on helping others is not hard to find a Christmas tree isolated.. The presence of only good for you but a great in the summer so they used a extended family can be model for your children, and ficus tree instead. comforting as well. can help bring families closer Regardless of whom you feel together. 6. Document the event. Get closest too, it is okay to ask out the video recorder, for support. Military children cope with so camera, and journal. Even much: new schools, changing when our loved ones don't 9. Talk. Let your family know neighborhoods, friends who get to be there to see that it's okay to talk about move, and deployed parents. everything, they certainly feelings. Putting on a brave A holiday full of laughter, wish they could be. It is face for the sake of the shared and newly created important to get the kids children usually backfires. memories, and quality family involved in this process. Not Often, honest conversation is time is a truly deserved gift. only will they have fun; it will the only thing necessary to lift shift their focus and allow spirits. Children need to know them to process the holidays that a caring adult is there to from a different perspective. listen when they have Simon Says… Even if it is as simple as something to share or ask. sitting near a fire sipping hot It's essential that adults cocoa and sharing memories, model positive both the children and the communication. If the kids deployed person will know you are sad, too -- but Cats are appreciate the record of the still able to be hopeful and smarter than event. As years pass those happy -- they will feel much dogs. You can't get eight cats preserved memories will be better. A family pizza night to pull a sled treasured. where everyone shares through snow memories and feelings would 7. Take care of yourself. If be a great way to begin you are taking care of the celebrating the holidays. children during the Look at pictures of past deployment, it is imperative holidays or pass a journal that you take care of yourself, around to share memories to too. Children are amazingly be sent to the deployed perceptive, and no matter person. how carefully you try to mask any gloomy feelings, they will 10. Spread the cheer. While know something is wrong. we often feel we have Make sure you talk about enough on our hands just your feelings, share your taking care of ourselves, sadness, spend time with reaching out and helping friends, and do things for someone else can really yourself. It's important to give change a person’s children the gift of a safe, perspective, including a predictable, and happy home. child’s. Whether it's helping a P age |9 “Jen”-erally Speaking… By Jennifer Nicholson, FATM “Come on! All of positive or negative influence desperately want to be liked and us are cutting Algebra on each other. Unfortunately, to fit in. Sometimes the idea today. Who wants to take the most common type of peer that “everyone is doing it” may that quiz, anyway? Let’s go pressure is of the negative influence some kids to leave get lunch instead.” “Come persuasion. How you handle their better judgment and on”, urges the coolest kid in peer pressure depends a lot on common sense at the door. your class. “You’re not a how you feel about yourself. So, how will you deal with peer goody two shoes, are you?” There are some risk factors and pressure? It’s tough to be the personality traits that could only one who says “no” to peer What do you do? Do you do make you more prone to falling pressure, but you can do it. Pay what’s right and go to Algebra into the “peer pressure trap”. attention to your own feelings class, quiz and all? Or, do you Those risk factors include: and beliefs about situations and give in and cut class with your Low Self Esteem circumstances when making a “friends”? If you are a Lack of confidence decision. It is very important to teenager, then this scenario is know where you stand on key Uncertainty about one’s probably all too familiar. issues such as drugs and place within the peer alcohol, sex, and school. Be Making decisions can be challenging, especially if you group confident in your beliefs and do are faced with choosing No personal interests not be afraid to stand up for between what you know is outside of the peer group them. Make sure your peers right, versus going along with Feeling isolated from know where you stand on key the crowd. People your age-- issues. Basically, head them off peers and/or family your classmates--are referred to at the pass. If they know what as your peers. When they try to Poor academic your position is on drugs and influence your decisions, or performance alcohol, and that you are pressure you to make a certain Fear of one’s peers passionate about it, they are less choice, it’s called “peer Lack of strong ties to likely to pressure you toward a pressure”. situation that you have vocally friends Peer pressure is not confined to spoken out against previously. teenagers, either. Believe it or Feeling that friends not, adults can experience peer could turn on you pressure as well. It’s important Close bond with a bully that you know how to handle (Beating Peer Pressure, situations when faced with Hardcastle, M.) pressure from your peers. It’s only natural to listen and learn Simply put, some kids give into from others. Peers can have a peer pressure because they P a g e | 10 Peers respect you when you Making other people feel bad you’ve made a bad choice in have confidence in yourself is never a good way to fit in. the past. Bad choices do not and your convictions. Always Flatly refuse to participate in define who you are. You can plan ahead. If you think you such behavior. Stand up for always make a different choice are going to be faced with what is right, be a leader, and in the future. Some people pressure to engage in inspire others to follow your may not like it when you go questionable activities, get lead. Finally, if all of the “against the group”. But doing ready! Prepare a “mental above doesn’t help minimize the right thing is very script” to protect yourself the effects of peer pressure and rewarding and empowering. against the pressure and stick you are finding it difficult to Remember, peer pressure loses to it. This can aide you in cope with the situation, talk to its power if you refuse to be appearing confident in someone you trust, such as intimidated. For more yourself, even if you are your parents, teacher, school information on coping with nervous. Lastly, never counselor, or other trusted peer pressure, call Family participate in bullying. adult. Don’t feel guilty if Advocacy at 376-3459. Who Would Have Ever Thought? Samsung has announced findings mom and dad are doing a fair or (51% ) of parents who text with of a survey foc used on family good job at texting. their teens agree that t hey texting habits. The survey communicate more often with revealed that text messaging has their kids now than they did RELATI ONS HIP, MEET TEXT broadened the lines of before they began text messaging communication for many parents and that text messaging has and teens, with over half of those As parents join the world of actually improved their reporting it has actually improved texting, the survey suggests that relationship. their relationship. more parent-teen communication is being conducted by text. Nearly “Finding a way to communicate seven in ten (68%) American TEENS TEACH TEXT with teenagers can be difficult for parents communicate with their many parents,” said Bill Ogle, kids by text message. Nearly six Chief Marketing Officer for Teens are text messaging far in ten (56%) teens, ages 13 – 19, Samsung Telecommunic ations more than their parents; however, report that they communicate America. “What this survey shows the survey suggests that teens more oft en wit h their parents is that communicating with teens are als o passing their text know- since they began text messaging. the same way they communicate how on to mom and dad. On with each other, by text average, teens send 455 text THE VERDICT: TEX TING IS messaging, may be a great way messages each month and IMPROVING RELATIONS HIPS for some parents to improve the receive 467 – that’s roughly 15 lines of communication. And with text messages sent and 16 Not only are more and more more than a billion text messages messages received each day. On parents and teens communicating now being sent each day, I think average, parents send 84 text through text, but for many, text we will see this new trend in messages each month and messaging has actually played a parent-teen communication receive 96. Almost six in ten role in improving their continue to grow.” (57%*) moms and dads who text, say their kids have helped them relationship. More t han half (53% ) become better texters. And teens of teens that text message think Safety Tip: NEVER text and drive!! are taking notice. When it comes their relationship with their to their parents’ skills, nearly parents has improved because of seven in ten (66%) t eens believe text messaging. More than half P a g e | 11 And The Winners ARE… The holidays are soon to Traveler, Evenflo Big Kid Go when it’s used as a be upon us. And given Confidence, Safety Angel backless booster. the cost and hassles of Ride Ryte, Cosco/Dorel Five “good bets” were: flying, travel by car is the Alpha Omega, highbacks Combi likely mode of Cosco/Dorel (Eddie Kobuck, Graco transportation for my Bauer) Summit, Cosco TurboBooster and Safety family this year. Even Highback Booster, Angel Ride Ryte, and though my own children Dorel/Safety 1st (Eddie combinations Recaro are well past the ages of Bauer) Prospect, Evenflo Young Sport and Safety diapers and car seats, I Chase Comfort Touch, 1st /Dorel Apex 65, when now have grandchildren Evenflo Generations, used as highbacks. who do a fair amount of Graco CarGo Zephyr, and Remember, the traveling with me. So I Safety 1st /Dorel Intera. government recommends was quite interested to The IIHS cautioned car seats for children up read a recent article in parents to not interpret to 40 pounds and booster the local paper that the findings to mean that seats for kids over 40 focused on an Insurance these seats are not pounds until they are 8 Institute for Highway effective, however. years old or 4 feet 9 Safety (IIHS) and The IIHS determined the inches tall. Booster seats University of Michigan following seats to be are most typically used by Transportation Research “best bets”: Combi children between the ages Institute safety test of Kobuk, Fisher-Price Safe of 4 and 8. ALL children some very well known Voyage (with plastic should ride in the back booster seats. clip), Graco seat until age 13. And The safety assessment TurboBooster, Britax last, any booster seat is determined 13 seats that Monarch, Britax better than none at all. don’t put children in the Parkway, Fisher-Price Always take the time to best position to be Safe Voyage (highback), buckle up your kids, no protected in the event of a LaRoche Bros. Teddy matter how short the crash. These are: Bear, Recaro Young drive. Compass B505, Compass Style, Volvo booster B510, Cosco/Dorel cushion and Safeguard Domestic Violence ~ continued from page 5 Now, here is the part I want you to remember: she told me that when her new husband first started to hit her, it wasn’t obvious. A bruise on her arm, or a small bump on the head. But over time, when no one challenged his behavior, he became bolder. He began to tell her no one cared, that no one would ever believe her if she told them. She started going to work with visible bruising, swelling—clear indicators of suspicious injury—and not a single person approached her to offer support, ask her what had happened, see if they could help in any way, express concern. I don’t believe for an instant it was because no one cared. Instead, I believe it more likely that no one knew quite what to say. And because it was ignored, all the cruel messages this young woman heard while growing up, all the taunts her husband was using to keep her quiet, were inadvertently, and sadly, reinforced. So please—speak up. Offer support. Reach out to those who are hurting. The Wingman philosophy is a lifestyle, so live it! Let’s take care of each other! It takes a tremendous amount of courage to come forward and admit that our home isn’t safe, that someone we love is treating us badly. Let’s make it as easy as possible for our community members to do this. P a g e | 12 Upcoming Classes: 18 Oct Because We Have Daughters ~ the perfect opportunity for dads to get to know their daughters. This class has an emphasis on strengthening the father/daughter relationship, boosting communication skills and addresses the challenges that girls face around safety and self-esteem. 4 Nov Anger Management ~ a four week session that will help you learn to identify personal causes of anger, gain insight into the thought process of anger, learn different techniques on how to manage anger, and allow you to discuss with peers experiences in a therapeutic setting 7 Nov DAD’s 101: A Class For Dads, By Dads Registration required. Please call Paula Tracy at 376-3459. 11 Dec Baby Boot Camp ~ Covers common concerns of new parents such as: colic/safety, immunizations, feeding issues, developmental milestones, infant CPR and more.. Where: Keesler Medical Center Basement Floor Room BF400 from 11:00 – 1:00. Contact Capt Romeatrius Moss at 376-5375 to register! Registration required. Please call Paula Tracy at 376-3459. (For All Ages) Fun filled evening for a worthy cause! Featuring Kites for Kids! * Poster Board * Pencil * Hole Punch * Circle Patterns LOOKING AHEAD * Photo * Scissors * Glue * Ribbon (Optional) * Gold metallic spray paint *Uncooked Pasta (a variety of fun shapes) How to make it: In our next i ssue… 1. Draw a circle on the poster boar d about 4" in diameter (use a tin can, butter tub lid, etc. for a pattern). The Stress of Tax Time 2. Draw a smaller circle in the mi ddle of the first one - make it a size MySpace, FaceBook, & (opening) t hat will fit your photo. Cyber Safety 3. Cut out bot h circles to make a wreat h shape. 4. Use a hole puncher to make a hole for hanging. SMART Moves Come 5. Glue on various pasta shapes (shells and bows work beautifully) to make to Keesler a pattern on the wreat h. 6. Let dry overnight. What’s “Emo”? 7. Spray paint the ornament with gold metallic paint. 8. Let dry completely. 9. Add your name and date to the back of the picture. 10. Glue or tape the photo onto t he back of the ornament so that it will show in the center of the wreat h. 11. Attach a decorative ribbon if desired.
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