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									                                 Peak Performance with EFT

Part I - Treating Perfectionism
Hi Everyone,
In this installment Steve explores the subtle need for perfectionism that often lurks behind the
scenes and causes procrastination. As he tells it....
"There are always more reasons not to go ahead. There are always more obstacles to be
overcome - the biggest of which are internal barriers to high achievement. And this is where
EFT can help us to achieve peak performance. EFT can help us sort out what is really at the
bottom of our inaction, procrastination, and self-sabotage - barriers that most peak performers
have encountered at some point in their career."
Hugs, Gary



Peak performance!!
It sounds jazzy and exciting. But for those who have a commitment to peak performance it
often represents a series of daily disciplines, an endless process of coming up against massive
frustrations, and ongoing questioning and doubting, punctuated by periods of intense focus
and inspiration.
Mostly, the difference that makes the difference is that peak performers persist in going for
their high goals despite these moments of doubt. They manage to keep themselves going
despite the internal and external objections to their continuation on the path. They manage to
stay committed to their goals even when all the outside evidence (and even some of their
inner voices) suggests it would be better for them to just quit.
If you want to be a true peak performer, you'd better prepare for the kind of massive doubt
and frustration that would cause 999 out of 1000 people to give up - and justifiably resign
from the task.
There are always more reasons not to go ahead. There are always more obstacles to be
overcome - the biggest of which are internal barriers to high achievement. And this is where
EFT can help us to achieve peak performance. EFT can help us sort out what is really at the
bottom of our inaction, procrastination, and self-sabotage - barriers that most peak performers
have encountered at some point in their career. Often it is just fear. I say, "just fear", but fear,
as Emerson stated, defeats more people than any other single thing in the world.
What about the fear that you have taken the wrong path? What about the fear that you might
waste a large part of your life building a castle in the sky? What about the fear that you will
come up short? These must all be addressed and treated or they will continue to get in the
way of your performance. But as important as they are, they are usually nowhere near as
powerful as that nagging sense of doubt in your own ability, your own worthiness, and your
own goodness. The nagging thought, "I'm not good enough". Or "I'm not good enough yet".
The idea that something more is needed to make us be what we need to be. That once we
become perfect then we can proceed. So far, I haven't met one person on the peak
performance path without some challenges with self-doubt and the need to be perfect.
But for most truly worthwhile goals we need to proceed before we achieve perfection because
waiting for perfection before commencing will mean we stay permanently inactive. This is
where EFT can help. Begin by doing some rounds of tapping on "Even though I'm not perfect
yet…". Then continue by tapping on whatever it is you feel you lack, or whatever it is you feel
you need to have or do before you can take some real steps forward towards your ultimate
goals.




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What is stopping you is bound to be your negative associations towards one or all of the
following:
1. Having the success
2. The process involved in getting it, and/or
3. Your own (perceived lack of) ability or deservingness to achieve it
In other words, you associate pain to having it or to what it would take to have it, or you
believe that YOU are the problem. These are all good places to start your tapping routine and I
have previously given some suggestions for tapping on these negative associations in my EFT
post on Manifesting The Life Of Your Dreams With EFT. Today I'd like to offer a couple of ideas
for treating the perfectionism trap since this is a very common barrier that stops many of us
from taking action.
Here are just a few ideas for tapping statements to begin with:
"Even though I'm not good enough to ..." (Describe your goal, or what you think you need to
be doing that you aren't doing)
"Even though I need more ...(training, confidence, intelligence...) before I can..."
"Even though I don't know exactly how I will go about it..." (This is a big one, as with most
really big goals we don't know when we set them exactly how we will achieve them, yet we will
never find out how to achieve them unless we decide to go for the goal before we really know
the "How?")
Then step up the intensity a little with an exaggeration of your problem pattern, viz:
"Even though I am not going to take action until I have a perfect plan which is flawless in
every way ..."
"Even though I expect nothing less than perfection and until I can do it perfectly I refuse to
take any action..."
Exaggeration is an excellent tool for blasting through your belief barriers and revealing the
specific fears that are driving them. Fear of failure is quite common but so too is fear of
success. Once you know what your particular fears are you can treat them directly.
The reality for most of us however is that we have both fear of failure AND fear of success, we
have parts of us that want to go out in the world and be heard and parts of us that want to
stay home and watch TV. Churchill called this "Internal Civil War." The resolution of these
opposites is in my opinion one of the greatest challenges we all face and in my next post I'll
explore some ideas for making peace with the warring sides.



Part 2 - Handling irreconcilable differences
My last post explored the issue of perfectionism. As it turns out being a non-perfectionist may
actually be the key to success. I remember a great author, who had written over 475 books,
said that the secret to his success was that he never regretted what he'd written or worried
over it. He was a true non-perfectionist.
Is it possible to accept yourself totally as you are whilst continuing to strive to improve? Is it
possible to accept the efforts you make right now (which are less than perfect) whilst you
continue to strive to achieve new standards of excellence? Is it possible to be totally happy
with where you are now AND continue to work to make things better? Is it possible to be a
true success when one part of you wants to make a major difference in the world and one part
of you wants to stay home and have a comfortable life?
I believe it is in the conflict between seemingly irreconcilable differences such as these where
our greatest success may be found.




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An example of a conflict of my own of this nature was my intense fear of losing my family
connection if I became too successful and was away too much. On the other side - and there is
always another side, an opposite polarity - was the fear of living a life without meaning or
significance. I have been tapping for some time now on both sides of this polarity and am
finding that doing so can bring about incredible transformational shifts. Paradoxically, rather
than one side winning over the other, you end up finding an empowering alternative far
beyond that of compromise and either-or alternatives.
Robert Johnson describes this process in his book "Owning Your Own Shadow" which I highly
recommend to serious tappers and aspiring peak performers. When you allow both sides of the
conflict to have value and dignity you provide the means for your own personal transformation
and you break out of the double bind of "either-or" to a new reality of "yes, and".
How do you do this using EFT?
Bring both sides (the conflicting ideas, or opposite points of view) into the light of your
awareness and do tapping on both, allowing each to provide its message. Also do some
tapping on accepting yourself even though you have this conflict. And even though you want
this (for each side).
For example, in my case I tapped on accepting myself even though I had a need to be there
for my family, and even though I feared losing my family, as well as accepting myself even
though I felt a need to make a major difference in the world and even though I feared
achieving little with my life and living a life of insignificance.
Strange as it seems, once I accepted both of these needs within myself I find myself moving to
a place of peace where both could be allowed to coexist. This is far beyond compromise, which
is the land of never being satisfied, of always feeling torn and guilty no matter what you are
doing.
Now such bad feelings only come when I allow one side to dominate and refuse to listen to the
message each provides. It's a state of balance and peace that I'm seeking to achieve in other
areas of my life, and one that Dr David Lake and I are exploring with the participants in our
workshops. A major key to the success of the process apart from acceptance of both sides is
self-acceptance - See my previous posts on this topic for an introduction to the work I have
been doing here, as much of what I have written there is relevant to this discussion.
I'll say more about the process of "tapping on opposites" in future posts, but for now consider
the parts of you that are in opposition and tap on accepting the fact that both sides exist as a
preliminary step towards considering that each side has something important to say. Tap on
each side and allow it to fully express its viewpoint then do the same for the other side. Allow
each side to be transformed as it comes into the light of your awareness then moves through
this to new realisations and new perspectives.
Following the initial challenge of accepting your negative and dark parts, I'm certain you'll find
this a powerful process that can provide you with a clarity of purpose like you've never before
experienced.
Steve Wells
EFT Contributing Editor



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