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									DISCOVER YOURSELF
 This workshop is for YOURSELF!


  Notes from a workshop by
   A. W. Sadatullah Khan
          Are you coachable ?

   Are you prepared to train to change
    yourself?
   If you train, you will see results.
   This workshop is not about knowing it, it
    is about LIVING it!
Shifting the paradigms
          True self – False self
Child in you (true self)   Adult (false self)

Natural                    False / Artificial

Spontaneous                Deliberate

Unconditional love         Conditional love

Does not judge you         Judges you
                 The interview

   “Who am I for you ?”
       Permission
       No reaction to comments
       Strengths and weaknesses
                  Listening

   Being in the world of the other person
    without judging or evaluating, but seeing
    things and feeling things the way the
    other person perceives it.
                Yellow glasses

   Looking at another person by pre-judging
    them.
    Do an exercise where you write down the
    yellow glasses you have for :
       Your family members
       Friends
       strangers
             LA – No thing

   Come from no pre-judging background.
   If the background is clear, and you enter
    the present with „nothingness‟ then the
    future is open for endless opportunities.
   Nothing is wrong, thus, anything is
    possible.
               Yes/no                    Right /
                          Judging
                                         wrong
      Past                Evaluating
                          Analysing
                                         Agree /
Should I /Should n‟t I                   disagree

                    Nothing            Infinite
    Past
                                       possibilities
                    Live in the
                    now
             The Chatterbox

   Your inner voice.[Waswassah]
   Your „snake‟ needs to be controlled.
   What do you tell the chatterbox?
    “SHUT UP!”
             LA – No thing

   Come from no pre-judging background.
   If the background is clear, and you enter
    the present with „nothingness‟ then the
    future is open for endless opportunities.
   Nothing is wrong, thus, anything is
    possible.
            Live in the present

   When will I be happy?
   One day, someday, BUT not today.
   Live in the present moment. Do not let
    your past grief or future fears affect the
    present moment.
    Donkey with carrot
     on a stick
           Be „unreasonable‟
   Promise      very good             Promise
    made +       valid excuse     =     kept
                 (LIE)
   Your word is your honour. Be your word. Do
    not make excuses or find reasons to justify
    yourself.
   Be “unreasonable”.
   Rather be “unreasonable” and re-affirm your
    promise.
                   Reality – Story
   What happens, depends on the meaning we attach to the event.
   Something fell from the sky?
   Bottle, musical instrument, a rolling pin, evil, etc.
   Sky is blue for everyone. (Reality)[IS]
   Person X is bad to some and good to others (Story) [OCCURS]


Mother (daughter in                Daughter (mother in
head)                              head)
Lazy                               Nag
Irresponsible                      Boss
rude                               Irritating
                        Hijrah

            Something happens


  Surrender                      Resist it
                                 This is not it!
This is it! Reality
                                 Action / Reaction
No limits / Boundries
 Past – Present – Future




Past    Present     Future
                 Forgiveness


                               P
                       F       A
                   L   A       R
                   O   I       A
                   V   T       D
                   E   H       I
                               S
                               E

STUBBORN DOOR
OF FORGIVENESS
        Action – no action


 BE         DO       HAVE



Being       Action   Result
                   Khalifah

   The moon reflects the sun

          SUN             MOON




   Muslims reflect the attributes of Allah (S)

          ALLAH            MUSLI
                            M
                      Adam (A.S.)
Khalifa            Adam                    Shaitaan
Representative, Do not (approach this      Do (i.e. bow down to
Placed on       tree)                      Adam
Earth.          Accepted                   Refused
                Humble                     Arrogant/Proud –
Allah first put                            I am better
him in heaven      Responsible             Irresponsible
to train him for   Did not blame           Blame
his task.          Accept responsibility   Justify
                   Forgiveness             Revenge
                   Blessed                 Cursed
                   Heaven                  Hell
                  Law of expectation

   Give 100% , expect nothing.
    You are responsible for   As a Muslim:
    your expectation:
    Disappointed              Give 100% and expect
    resentful                 nothing:
                              “To live life without
    anger
                              expectation”
    Frustration
                   Jihad
   Striving in the cause of Allah
   Fighting against your baser self
   To win the peoples hearts . It takes courage
    (Say I‟m sorry)
Yesterday – today – tommorrow


 Alam                    Day of      Heaven
        Earth   Barzak
 e                       Judgement   Or hell
                h
 Arwa
                  PURITY



BODY                MIND                                SOUL




                                                       SALAAH
FOOD   POSITIVE               NEGATIVE
                                                        DHIKR




                  REWARDS                PUNISHMENTS
                                                                POWERHOUSE!
                   1 TO 700                   -1
                Choice – Decision
Choice                              Decision
Free intentional selection made     Selections made based on REASON
after all considerations

I choose because it is my choice.   Pro‟s and con‟s. Reason and not
So I accept it as it is.            you is in charge when you make a
                                    decision.
I accept responsibility             Decide – kill other alternatives
                                    …Cide – to kill
                                    Suicide
                                    Pesticide
                                    Homicide
                                    genocide
 Are you a player or spectator?
Player [in jihad]        Spectator

Active                   Comfortable

Takes risks              Critical

Trying                   Find fault

Learns from experience   I will play someday, but
                         not today
No sharing no transformation
   Sharing is the opposite of preaching. By
    sharing your experiences with others it
    causes a breakthrough in terms of your
    personal transformation.
   No sharing – No transformation!
          Context - Purpose

   We start doing something in the right
    context with a good purpose and
    intention. However along the way we
    may lose sight of the goal and get
    bogged down in the Contents and in so
    doing, lose the purpose.
    You are the umpire of your life

    You are the umpire of your life and you
     are creating your own future.
    If you pass judgment (on yourself) that
     you are stupid, than you are stupid.
    If you pass judgment that you are
     successful, then you are successful.
       The world of possibility
     NEW PARADIGM
                       La - nothingness      No judgements
                                             (meaning or
                                             interpretation)
                       Forgiveness           Hijra – give up
                       Listening             Do not make other
                                             wrong
                       Sharing               Not preaching
Default I / Me
Mode    In the box     Completing the past   Realize and take
        Ego                                  responsibility
         Khasarah      Chatterbox            Shut Up!
         Deception
                       Khalifa               99 names
         Materialism
         Survival      Unreasonableness      No excuses
                       Being your word       Who you are is who

								
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