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									                       FIBROMYALGIA SUPPORT
                         By Dale Alsager, D.O., Ph.D. FACOFP

A Patient Information Publication by the Country Doctor Clinic

What is Fibromyalgia (F MS)?

Fibromyalgia is a syndrome of widespread pain (myalgia) and other symptoms,
including problems sleeping (insomnia), fatigue, stiffness, mood disturbance, irritable
bowel, headaches, bladder spasms, memory def icits, visual field defects, occasional
numbness and tingling sensation in extremit ies.

Fibromyalgia is NOT a psychiatric ailment. Nor is it a life t hreatening condition. But it
can be a real nuisance interfering with work, planned commit ments, sleep, and
family relationships. It IS a real and legitimate medical condition that can be
severely debilitating if untreated.

Although we do not know the cause of Fibromyalgia, we do know of major
aggravating factors.    Early aggressive treat ment will maximize an individual’s
function at home, in family, and at work. While Fibromyalgia is not life threatening, it
is chronic and can jeopardize family, marital and employer relationships.

Fibromyalgia is a family condition because its effect and treatment impacts everyone
in the patient’s environment. Strong support from friends, family and employers
makes a big difference in the success of treatment, and maximizes the affected loved
one’s function.

The Diagnosis of FMS

A diagnosis of FMS is not made easily or taken lightly. At Osteopathic Medical
Services, criteria set by the American College of Rheumatology in 1990
(Rheumatologists are doctors who study joint related illnesses) are used to
determine if the patient has the condition or not. Because many other diseases can
mi mic FMS, a definitive diagnosis often requires a minimum of three doctor visits.
During these visits the following steps occur:

1) A comprehensive medical history: During the first visit to Dr. Alsager’s clinic, a
detailed medical history w ill be taken. Has there been a severe trauma, an infection,
a chemical exposure, or other possible incident from which your loved one’s
symptoms seem to have started? Are there other family members with F ibromyalgia
syndrome? What other diseases or ailments does your loved one have that may co-
exist with Fibromyalgia? These are examples of many questions we explore during
the medical history.

2) Screening blood tests: Although fibromyalgia does not have a specific test, it is
important to rule out other conditions, which may masquerade as FMS. These tests
at Osteopathic Medical Services are comprehensive and include a blood chemistry
profile, blood cell analysis, tests for thyroid function, and other rheumatological
conditions such as Rheumatoid Arthritis, Lupus, chronic inf lammation, collagen
vascular diseases, anemia, infections, and others. If there are risk factors for, or
evidence of exposure to, HIV, TB, Hepatitis, Lyme Disease, Microbacteria Fermentins
Inconitas (exposure to Gulf War veterans), or Epstein-Barr virus, these tests may
also be added.

3) A comprehensive physical exam, including a detailed muscular-skeletal alignment
check of the spine, pelvis, sacrum, extremities and cranium is necessary. Detailed
mapping of FMS tender points and differentiation of FMS tender points from
Chapman’s Sympathetic Reflex Points and commonly occurring muscle trigger points,
is essential for an accurate diagnosis of FMS.

The diagnosis can only be made whe n the following clinica l crite ria are
confirme d:

1) Widespread pain (pain that “moves around”) for more than three months.

2) At least 11 out of 18 FMS pain tender points present.

3) Unexplained fatigue for more than three months (with some patients a period of
six months is used by Dr. Alsager).

4) Persistent difficulty with sleeping (insomnia) for a period of more than three

5) An association with other complaints such as irritable bowel, “bra in fog” (memory
difficulties), visual defects, depression, irritable bladder, periodic numbness, tingling
of the extremities (hands, arms, feet), chemical sensitivities, recurrent episodes of
what appear to be sinus infections, headaches, and throat irritation from excess
mucous drainage.

Fibromyalgia syndrome can often co-exist, or be confused, with other conditions,
which need to be diagnosed and treated separately. These conditions include :
Raynaud’s Disease (coldness of the hands and f ingers), allergie s, anxiety disorders,
panic attacks, depression, headaches, irritable bowel, stomachaches, constipation,
stomach cramps, bladder infections, mitral valve prolapse, infectious mononucleosis
(Epstein-Barr virus), angina, vertigo, multiple sclerosis, temporal mandibular joint
dysfunction, jaw click, bruxism (teeth grinding at night), adrenal gland disorders,
thyroid disorders, major muscular skeletal misalignments, arthritis, gout, and

The Treatment Plan

Once a diagnosis has been established, Dr. Alsager works aggressively with patients
to develop a comprehensive treat ment plan. While a cure is yet to be discovered, Dr.
Alsager’s patients experience significant symptomatic relief with treatment. It is
important that the patient be encouraged and assisted by their support network to
have regular clinic visits, particularly in the early stages of treatment until conditions
stabilize. A significant number of Dr. Alsager’s FMS patients no longer meet the
criteria for FMS after one year of treat ment. Fatigue, pain, and lack of sleep are the
primary symptoms in fibromyalgia that lead to dysfunction at home and work. We
work very hard to get these symptoms under control as quickly as possible.
Twe lve reasons for Fatigue in Fibromyalgia

1) Lack of consistent adequate sleep (insomnia).

2) Low ATP (a chemical that delivers energy to cells) levels in muscle tissues .

3) Autonomic nervous system dysfunction (contributes to excess secretion of
mucous, chronic sinus drainage to throat, memory def icits, and urinary system

4) “Brain drain”, or “brain fog” (neurotransmitter imbalance caused by chronic stress
and biochemical dysfunction).

5) Constant pain.

6) Depression.

7) Hormonal problems (caused by dysfunction of key glands in the body) .

8) Poor use of oxygen by body tissue.

9) Smooth muscle dysfunction in blood vessels which results in poor blood flow to
muscle beds, contributing to build-up of prostaglandin resulting in muscle pain and

10) Constant muscle movement —a natural pain avoidance behavior.

11) Depletion of B12 and folic acid levels at the cellular level.

12) Co-existing viral infections such as Epstein Barr (Infectious Mononucleosis) .

Reminders for FMS Significant Others and Family Supporte rs

1) You are not responsible for your loved one’s fibromyalgia.

2) You can’t cure the fibromyalgia.

3) You do not cause, nor are you responsible for flare ups-ups.

4) FMS is not a punishment for you or your loved one.

5) You can help heal f ibromyalgia and significantly increase the function of your
loved one, by following a few simple steps.
Here’s how you can help

1) Watch for signs of pain and be sensitive to your loved one’s needs .

2) Listen to complaints and be understanding.

3) Remember that the pain, fatigue, and discomfort are real and there is a
physiological basis for your loved one’s suffering.

4) Check with your loved one regarding sensitivity to colognes, lotions, hair spray,
and other chemicals. Many FMS patients develop sensitivities to these fragrant
chemicals and quietly suffer.

5) Learn your signif icant partner’s body, explore with massage. Offer to massage as
often as you can. Stick with very light techniques and avoid the FMS tender point
regions. Direct pressure on these is often very uncomfort able, can refer pain to
adjacent regions, and may result in increased pain.

6) Help maintain a pain log. Note what aggravates the pain, and what relieves the
pain. Note what time it is worse and what time it is better. Such a log is very helpf ul
in establishing trends useful in managing the symptoms and optimizing function.

7) Accompany your loved one to Dr. Alsager’s clinic whenever possible. Attend
seminars, courses, support group meetings and learn as much as you can about

8) Explore alternative treatment strategies and do not hesitate to ask Dr. Alsager
about alternative treat ments. Osteopathic Medical Services has conducted clinical
trials on numerous treat ments for FMS. Dr. Alsager and his staff are relentlessly
researching new ideas and treat ment strategies.

9) “Connect” with your partner. Assure her/him that she/he is not alone —reassure,
reassure, reassure.

10) Help manage stress: Emotional stress makes FMS much worse. Prioritize lifestyle
goals and responsibilities to allow a shift of responsibilities away from the affected

Do not say:

1) “It’s not all that bad”                  4) “I know what you’re going through”

2) “You have to learn to live with it”      5) “You look fine”

3) “I’ve hurt like that before”             6) “There’s nothing w rong”

                                            7) “Maybe you shouldn’t have done that”

11) Shift from high gear to low gear. Plan to do less and enjoy more. Do not take on
new responsibilities without thoroughly exploring them w ith your partner. Provide
time in your schedule daily to assist your partner.
12) Learn what activities relax and relieve symptoms and schedule them daily.

13) Re-define relationships. Put family needs first. Work, money, education, travel,
and others are secondary.

14) Plan special getaways and holidays. Remember to do the “little things” that
create and re-create positive moments, memories, and enhance emotional support
for you and your loved one.


FMS is not a fatal disease, but it can be a threat to your happiness and relationship if
you allow it. Recognize it is scary facing a chronic illness alone. You have an
opportunity to be a strong supporter and help your partner face this illness together.

FMS supporte rs have a common bond—they all love a pe rson with FMS.

What type of supporters are t here:

Fibromyalgia supporters can be categorized.

1) The Invisible Supporter: This type of supporter takes a selfish approach and sees
fibromyalgia as “someone else ’s problem”. They are invisible. They are not there
when needed. They do not assist with the shopping. They have “something else
more important to do”. They immerse themselves in their work, other relationships,
and become not involved. Invisible supporters are also likely not reading this

2) The Disassociated Supporter: This is the person who knows something is wrong
but tends to diminish or deny the problem. They believe it will just go away in time.
They find it very difficult to deal with any new challenge. They use denial of FMS as a
coping mechanism. Disassociated supporters are looking for a quick cure so things
will be like the “good old days”.

3) The Impatient Supporter: This supporter recognizes that there is a problem and
even tries to understand the problem, but the expectations are unrealistic. This
supporter is often disappointed with treatments and outcomes when they fail to cure.
When things are going well the impatient supporter is happy, but during the bad
times, when fibromya lgia “flares”, there is a lot of frustration, negative thinking, and
lack of support. The impatient supporter often expects the person with FMS to
always be a

4) The Over-Easer Supporter: This supporter is easy to please and tries very hard to
help the loved one. The skills are there but the confidence needs more work. The
over-eager supporter has difficulty appreciating and enjoying good times because of
worries, fears, and insecurities about possible upcoming bad times. This type of
supporter has a lot of potential that needs development.

5) The Encouraging Supporter: This type of supporter encourages the best possible
performance from the person w ith fibromyalgia. This supporter puts all the positives
together, works hard, studies fibromyalgia, and recruits new strategies. The
encouraging supporter sometimes criticizes, however tries to be in control, which
includes always trying to improve on something or make it better. This type of
supporter does not fully accept fibromyalgia because there is always t hat
uncontrolled element, its chronicity, that can’t be controlled in spite of the
encouraging supporter’s best efforts.

6) The Accepting Supporter: This type of supporter is a genuine teammate and is an
ideal partner. The teammate is secure and accepts the fibromyalgia for what it is.
Teammates play the game together to “win”. The accepting supporter is very open to
communication on how to improve. The supporter and the fibromyalgia person
complement each other. The good is accepted with the bad and this supporter offsets
the bad days by providing the needed help.

Can you identify the category into which you fit? Can you do better? Even if you are
already an “accepting supporter” you can always be a better teammate. Continue to
explore and improve.

Hints for Fibromyalgia Supporte rs

1) Learn to identify bad days early and have a positive plan of action ready.

2) Help evaluate treatments and help learn what works best and what does not.

3) Reserve and schedule quality time for each other.

4) Help accept and define limitations on daily activities and work demands to avoid

5) Re-assure your affected loved one often.

6) Be f lexible and ready to make alternative plans, particularly when flares occur
unexpectedly. Be accepting of these days and avoid bitterness and disappoint ment
whenever possible.

7) Learn when to intervene, and when to ask for help from Dr. Alsager.

Rules for FMS supporte rs

1) Love unconditionally.

2) Accept fibromyalgia as part of your partner.

3) Make a commit ment to understand how f ibromyalgia affects both of you and learn
to adapt.

4) Keep a sense of humor. Remember to have fun and enjoy each other in spite of

5) Be grateful and appreciate your partner for what she/he is able to do.

6) Enjoy each other w hether there is a flare-up or a stable baseline. Modify activities
to meet the circumstances.
7) Concentrate on the commit ment to be together and love each other in spite of the
fibromyalgia. Reinforce this commit ment with your partner and reassure , reassure,

8) Remember—family first.

9) When times are tough and day is done, the greatest thing you can do is to turn to
your partner and say, “I love you—and your Fibromyalgia”.

Furthe r information and refe rence books he lpful to fibromyalgia patients
and the ir loved ones can be obtained through Dr. Alsage r’s Country Doctor

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