How to Prepare for
Inevitably most of our relationships we are in will result in a breakup. We all hope to find
that one person someday who will fulfill our every need but until that happens we will
date and break up with a few a long the way. Here are some tips to help you have a
successful breakup with minimal drama attached to it.
Before breaking up with someone you need to make sure that breaking up
is truly what you want to do. Once you initiate the final conversation you are
likely to be met with some resistance from the other party. Nobody wants to
hear that they are being dumped. Everyone is taught to toot their own horn
and fight rejection. It's in our beings; it's who we are. If you know that you
do not want to be with this person then you need to be ready to stick to your
guns and not give in to their cries for a second chance.
Be ready to defend yourself but know when to walk away. Unless you plan
on doing a clean break, without an explanation you will need to be able to
explain why you are ending the relationship. As horrible as it feels to tell
someone why you do not want to be with them any longer this person
usually does deserve some explanation. You need to be ready with
examples and reasons as to why you feel the way you do. With that being
said, if the situation becomes confrontational or difficult for you to handle do
not feel like you owe them a solid explanation. People fall in and out of love
for various reasons, sometimes the spark just isn't there. Do not get caught
up trying to make them understand why you feel the relationship is over.
They may not ever understand.
Finally, define what type of relationship you will have after the breakup.
Determine before having the final conversation if you are willing and able to
still be friends without feeling obligated to be more. If you do not want to
have any further communication with your significant other you should be
straightforward with that as well. Not being able to communicate how you
see the relationship changing, or ending, can lead to confusion and
frustration for both parties. Honesty is usually the best policy and your
former love deserves to know. Break ups are always difficult but keep these
tips in mind during your next one and you will be sure to have a plan of
action and a better result for both parties involved.