How to Live Through a Breakup
If lately you have been feeling sad, angry, ugly, hate to see other couples and you f ind yourself comparing who you are to ot her people, let me
tell y ou that you are not the only one who feels this way. There are lots of people who feel the same way you do. I know that you may feel like
you don't care what others feel but how Y OU feel instead. Getting over a breakup takes time and it takes whatever time Y OU ne ed. Hopefully
the f ollowing steps will help you in time to heal.
Accept the pain and remember that it is normal to feel the pain. It is going to be an emotional rollercoaster but it is a nec essary
component to healing. When you are in denial of the pain you feel, you actually slow down the process of healing.
Understand why you f eel the pain. It is not just the breakup that hurts, there is always other factors that make that pain so
strong. For instance, when one of the guys that I dated broke it off with me, after analyzing why I was so hurt, I realized that I
was so hurt not only because I had f eelings for him but because I was in love with the idea of being in a relationship. I felt that
he yanked that away from me. Understanding this, though, helped me to little by little let go of him and start f ocusing more on
me and what hurts me the most. I used this as an example because a lot of times we feel a sense of loss or grief not just
because of the person that we lost but because of all it meant and this is very important to understand.
Start doing things that you enjoy, that relaxes you or that you are good at doing. If at any point in your life y ou stopped doing
things that y ou love, now is the time to do it. This is not only mentally distracting but there is something emotionally and
spiritually healing about doing things that we enjoy and love. Without realizing it, little by little your self -esteem goes up and
you think less about the person.
Talk to someone you really trust and that you know sincerely cares about y ou. Tell someone about the pain. If you don't have
any one but f eel a need to talk about the pain, get a counselor. Talking about it is also part of the healing process and
someone else that either sincerely cares about you or an outsider, like a counselor, can give you a perspectiv e that you may
not have and that y ou might not have thought of that can help you heal f aster.
Hang out with y our friends. Don't be physically alone. Go out to dinner with them, go to the movies, do something f un with
them. Distract yourself and little by little you will feel better about yourself.
Just like we need to take care of our mental and emotional self, we need to take care of ourselves physically as well. Some
people when they are sad they tend to either ov er-eat or not eat much at all. If you know that when you are sad you tend to
ov er-eat, find another outlet f or your sadness. Exercise is a great outlet since it releases endorphins which makes us feel
happy. Also, put the best outfit that you have in your closet. Even if you don't feel like it, when you look good on the outside, it
slowly makes you f eel good in the inside.
Tips & Warnings
Recognizing that you feel hurt, accepting it and understanding the reasons behind the hurt, besi des the fac t that the person broke up with
you, is the first step to getti ng over a breakup. Not recognizing your hurt can quic kly lead you to depressi on without you even realizing it.
Take car e of yourself emotionally, mentall y, s pirituall y and physicall y. D o things that make you happy and surround yourself by people you
This process takes ti me. Sometimes lots of time but remember that it is ok and you will feel better.