How to Heal From
Breaking up is often harder for the person that is being broken up with. While the person
that is conducting the breakup is busy thinking about what they are going to eat for dinner,
the person that is being broken up with is thinking about how they are going to survive
the emotional devastation. The good news is - healing from a breakup is absolutely
possible. Millions of people do it each week.
Things you'll need:
Don't beat yourself up - Many people verbally abuse themselves with a
barrage of negative and assaulting thoughts. This is unhealthy, because
what you think about, you become. A break-up can break your spirit if you
let it. Keep the thought system positive and refute any assaulting thoughts
Move on - Hanging around the ex's home or job uninvited is considered
stalking in most states. The worst thing that a person can do is refuse to
accept the breakup and attempt to hang on to a person that doesn't want to
be with them anymore. By pursuing someone who doesn't want to be with
you, you are only hurting yourself!
Out with the old - If there are things that are constantly reminding you of the
person who broke up with you get rid of it. Reflecting on past relationships
is like pouring salt into a wound that is attempting to heal. Let go of the
memorabilia that could be infringing on your healing.
Tips & Warnings
Get out - A breakup is a great opportunity to reconnect with friends, families,
and acquaintances that were probably neglected over the course of your
relationship. It is also a time to mingle and meet new people. Just remember
that hearts are normally fragile and vulnerable after a breakup and rushing into
a new relationship too soon is a bad idea.
Be patient - The pain probably won't go away in a day. If it does go away in a
day, than you probably didn't really love that person to begin with. Healing
takes time, and is not something that can be rushed. Be good to yourself and
patient with your heart, and eventually the broken heart will mend itself.