How to handle the Digital Breakup by bettysampson


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									How to handle the Digital Breakup
Information Technology in the 21st century, Social Media, and the Digital Revolution has immersed itself wholeheartedly into the dating world.
Millions of people have an association with Facebook, Twitter, Myspace, Tumblr, LinkedIn, and various other social networking sites.

Most couples are Internet-savvy, participate in social networking sites, and have the ability to communicate with each other 24/7. So what
happens after a breakup? How do you handle an impending breakup over the Internet.

You're following each other on Twitter, and have a number of mutual cyber friends that are part of one another's network. Deleting your ex-mate
from your page won't stop you from seeing his image because he's on associates pages, blogs, and other social media sites.

So how do you handle the Digital Breakup? This article will give you the do's and don'ts regarding the online split, and tips to make it as painless
as possible.

      o                  1
                  If you did not meet your mate online do not follow her on Twitter. Unless you are married (happily married), or in a long-term
                  relationship, 5 years or longer, it is not a good idea to follow one another on Twitter. It's also not a good idea for fledgling
                  couples to befriend each other on Facebook. You can get away with being "friends" on Myspace, but not on Twitter and
                  Facebook primarily because of the constant updates.
                  If you and your mate actually met online that makes it a little more difficult because you're more than likely already a part of
                  each others network.

      o                  2
                  As the breakup approaches, change your main picture to a generic icon. Doing so, gets him adjusted to not seeing your face.
                  If he questions the move, just make up some excuse about being tired of the image and that you're ready to make a change.
                  Technically, you're not lying because you are about to "make a change."

      o                  3
                  It's never a good idea to break up with someone via email. However, if emailing has been a major part of your conversations,
                  then you can broach the subject in an email with the dreaded, "we need to talk." You can make that the subject of the email
                  and the body should list the available times you can meet, or speak by phone. If you are the recipient of a "Dear John" email,
                  handle it with as much class as you're capable of. It's important to understand that this type of email is usually a permanent
                  one. Do not take the low road by sending vicious responses or attempt to vilify your ex by making disparaging remarks on her
                  If you find that you are dealing with someone who is emotionally unstable, make sure you CC others in your emails, and BCC
                  some mutual online acquaintances. The BCC (Blind Carbon Copy) is for individuals that may appear on both your "friends
                  list." Making others aware of what's going on lessens the chance of potential backlash from your ex-mate. These people
                  become your cyber witnesses and can be of great value if you are harassed in any form or fashion.

      o                  4
                  Change your passwords if your ex-mate has access to any of your online accounts. If your breakup was an uncomfortable one
                  it would be wise to refrain from posting to social networking sites for awhile. Stay off the network, or "hide yourself" for 3 to 6
                  months. This helps to assist with the finality of the situation. If you continue with your online messaging, emails, tweets, etc.,
                  and constantly trying to see what's on her "wall," you're not over her. Leave her be, take your dignity to the next level, and
                  move on with your life.

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