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     Relationships are a sequence of occurrences. Each relationship can help an individual learn something that he can take into consideration in
     future relationships. That doesn't mean that ending a relationship will be any easier after being involved in multiple breakups. There are certain
     stages that are common after a relationship ends.



1.         Low Self Esteem and Vulnerability
           o           The first two stages of a breakup actually can be viewed as one combined stage. These are having a sense of low self
                 esteem and being vulnerable. When you first break up with someone it's not unusual to feel as if it's all your fault and you could
                 have been able to do something to make the relationship work. At the same time you are looking for assurance that you are still
                 appealing to the opposite sex. At this stage you must be careful or you might jump into a relationship you usually would not consider,
                 as you may just be looking for someone to make you feel like you are attractive.


2.         Denial
           o           If you don't jump into a new relationship right away, or if even if you do it can be hard to let a relationship go completely. This
                 is known as the stage of denial. You might try to remain in contact with your former significant other and by staying close feel that
                 you can patch the relationship up again. Sometimes it takes complete separation, including the ending of a friendship, to remove
                 any feelings that the relationship can still be saved and put back together.


3.         Bitterness
           o            At some point it will become evident that the relationship cannot be patched back together. You will stop blaming yourself for
                 the relationship failing and start to blame the other party. This can result in extreme anger expressed towards that person. You
                 might return anything you've ever received from your former significant other at this time, or you might participate in actions
                 intended to inflect emotional harm on that individual.


4.         Taking Time Out from Relationships
           o            If you have not jumped into a new relationship by this stage of the breakup, you might start questioning the value of romantic
                 relationships. You will start wanting to concentrate on yourself as an individual and doing things that you enjoy and that will improve
                 your self-esteem. At this point you start to shy away from relationships, as they take away the time that you can spend on yourself.


5.         Socialization
           o            Eventually time starts to help reduce the pain that you are feeling from the breakup. You will start socializing again with
                 friends and concentrating on yourself a little bit less. At this time you might not be actively looking for a relationship, but you are not
                 adverse to entering one either. If someone comes along that catches your interest, you will start dating either in groups or as a
                 couple as you start to establish new romantic relationships.


6.         Falling In Love Again
           o            The final stage of a breakup is developing a new, strong romantic relationship. The person that you started dating in the
                 socialization stage and you will become closer and start to fall in love. Your fears and insecurities that developed as a result of your
                 previous breakup will start to disappear. It is important to learn from your previous breakup though to help limit the chance of
                 repeating past situations that resulted in the breakup that started this process.

				
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Description: Breakups are tough and sometimes inevitable. Regardless of whether you are the one being dumped or the one doing the dumping, breaking up is difficult. But how you handle a breakup says a lot about you. It is important to handle a breakup gracefully. If you handle it properly, you will be able to get over the breakup quickly and will also preserve any relationships associated with it.