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					Forgiveness and Healing
Hope Springs Europe
English Speaking Prayer Conference
Esther Ho
16-11-2008
1. WHAT IS FORGIVENESS?
  The primary Greek term is “apheimi”: To
   set aside, to let go, give up, yield up.
   Judgement belongs to God; He says: It is
   mine to avenge; I will repay Deut 32:35
a) It is a choice or an act of the will to take
   responsibility for our own reaction at being
   hurt or suffer injustice: dealing with our
   ungodly response.
b) Choosing to release the offender totally
   from any recompense.
c) Obedience to God who commands us to
   forgive. It is the gateway to healing.
d) Releasing the offence into God’s hand
2. Why is Forgiveness Important?
a)   Unforgiveness is a sin
b)   Forgiveness is the Key to most healing
c)   It is often unrecognised
d)   Unforgiveness leads into many other sins
e)   Satan will take advantage of those who bear
     unforgiveness- resentment grows out of unforgiveness,
     and bitterness takes root in your life causing serious
     trouble…..
f)   The Lord may allow tormentors.” Unless we release
     others’ debt, God cannot release us of the bondage, the
     anger, hate, rage or urge for revenge.
g)   It is the character of God to forgive
h)   Jesus demonstrated it at Gethsemane and on the cross.
     Luke 23:34
i)   Jesus not only forgave Peter, but also reinstated him in
     the area in which he failed. Jn.21:15-19
3. WHY IS FORGIVENESS
DIFFICULT?
a)   We want the other person to feel bad that he/she
     has hurt us.
b)   We want revenge and not allow the offender to get
     off easily.
c)   Our failure to recognise that our past hurts from
     unforgiveness cause us to be oversensitive
d)   We confuse wounds and resentment with
     unforgiveness
e)   We confuse forgiveness with pardoning the offender.
     Only God pardons. Micah 7:18, “who is a God like
     you, who pardons sin and forgives the transgression
     of the remnant of his inheritance? You do not stay
     angry forever but delight to show mercy.”
4. WHAT FORGIVENESS IS NOT?

  Forgiveness is not :
a) Pardoning the individual Micah 7:18
b)Forgetting what has happened
c) Declaring the offender innocent
d)Finding someone else to blame.
e) Healing of our wounds
f) Receiving compensation from the
   offender
g) Judging the offender
h)Merely verbalising some words callously
5. WHAT DOES FORGIVENESS
MEAN?
a)   Willingness to acknowledge that we have
     harboured unforgiveness Jer. 17:9,10
b)   Separate the sin from the sinner Jn.8: 1-11
c)   Choosing mercy and not judgement Micah
     6:8
d)   Not waiting until forgiveness is deserved
     Luke 23:24; Acts 7:60
e)   Becoming the initiator of righteousness,
     rather than staying a victim.
f)   Releasing to God any right of revenge.
     Rom 12:17-21
6. WHO NEED FORGIVENESS?
a) All who have offended us
b) God Prov.19:3, “3 A man's own folly ruins his
   life, yet his heart rages against the LORD.
c) Ourselves:
     i.   Our sins and failures of the past that have been
          confessed
     ii. ii. Acknowledge our part in hurting the offender
     iii. iii. For blaming ourselves for what was not our
          fault e.g. the divorce of our parents
     iv. iv. For having received condemnation for what
          has already been forgiven
     v. v. We may need to receive forgiveness for having
          offended others.
7. HOW DO WE RECEIVE FORGIVENESS
WHEN WE HAVE OFFENDED OTHERS?
a) Confess to God and seek God’s
   forgiveness.
b) Ask forgiveness of the person whom we
   offended.
c) In humility accept words of forgiveness
   from others
d) Be ready to repay or restore, if needed.
e) Unforgiveness can be the root of physical
   illness. Either you haven’t forgiven others
   OR
f) Your own sins that haven’t been forgiven
   may affect you. Matt.9:1-8
8. UNFORGIVENESS AND ITS
CONSEQUENCES
a)       Sowing and reaping Gal.6: 7-10
     ◦   Torment
     ◦   Captivity
     ◦   Sickness
     ◦   Broken Relationships
     ◦   Bitter Root Judgement.
     ◦   Curses
b)       We are not designed to live in
         unforgiveness
     ◦ Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a decision and an action.
     ◦ Changed feelings are an outcome of Forgiveness
9. FORGIVENESS CREATES
PROBLEMS
a)   Lies believed as truth lock pain in.
b)   It gives us a distorted image of God,
     accompanied by anger at God.
c)   Not forgiving may give you a feeling of
     being in control
d)   Resentments could be buried in the
     heart
e)   It results in a lack of compassion
10. ACCOMPLISHING FORGIVENESS

   Jesus accomplish forgiveness Heb.9:22
    ◦ without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness
a) Itis the foremost power for the cleansing of the
   heart Heb.12: 24
b) Cleansing 1Jn.1:9
c) ask God for a forgiving heart Psalm.145: 18-19
d) Forgiveness is a choice to obey, not a feeling
e) Personal growth
f) What happens to the debt once forgiveness has
   occurred?
11. FALSE, INAPPROPRIATE AND
INCOMPLETE FORGIVENESS
 to get over with and be done with the pain of the
  abuse/offence is an inappropriate reason to forgive. (i.e. it is
  not forgiving from your heart Matt 18:35)
 Forgiveness cannot be real or helpful if the pain has not been
  defined or discussed
 Inappropriate forgiveness is:
      When forgiveness is used to manipulate God into making the pain go
       away
      Demanding action from God- “I did my part, now you have better do
       something for me” – sets the person up for frustration and anger if the
       desired results do not follow.
      Forgive in order to please someone else.
 Forgiveness cannot be fully appropriated if a person believes
  “ I am bad” or if there is emotional damage that needs
  healing.
 Forgiveness is a process
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