YOU CAN STOP BULLYING

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					 YOU CAN STOP
   BULLYING
          Presented by
   Family Voices of Tennessee
Adapted from U.S. Dept of Health and Human Services
      Just 15 Minutes
• Undivided attention can make
  difference.
• Promotes healthy child development.
• Prevents youth and school-based
  violence.
• They DO look up to you!
• Other adults can step in.
      What is Bullying?
• Direct – seen and felt.
• Indirect – deliberate exclusion, name
  calling, rumors, etc.
  – Sometimes hard to identify and solve.
• Boys
• Girls
   Imbalance of Power
• Bullying is defined by a power
  imbalance between the bully and the
  target (victim)
• Power = size, strength, verbal skills,
  popularity, or gender.
    The Effects of Bullying
•   Increased absenteeism/drop out rate
•   Less safe, less satisfied
•   Can lead to child abuse/spouse abuse
•   Criminal activity
•   Victims can grow socially insecure,
    anxious, low self-esteem, depression,
    possible suicide.
  Conversation Starters
• What does "bullying" mean to you?
• Do you ever feel lonely at school or
  left out of activities? How does that
  make you feel?
• Who do you sit with, what do you do,
  and what do you talk about?
      Other Questions
• Have you ever been scared to go to
  school because you were afraid of
  being bullied?
• What ways have you tried to change
  it?
• Have kids ever bullied you by hitting
  or pushing you, or other things like
  that?
    Is Your Child Being
         Bullied?
• Seems unwilling or afraid to go to
  school.
• Seems depressed or downhearted.
• Chooses illogical routes to school.
• Loss of interest in school.
• Poor appetite, stomach aches.
• Stealing money.
           High Risk
• Children with special health care
  needs are at higher risk to be victims
  of bully’s AND higher risk to bully
  others.
• Children with obesity or weight
  issues are often bullied by their
  peers.
    What Can You Do?
• Parents and Schools should take
  bullying seriously, investigate the
  facts and work together to find a
  healthy solution.
• Parents need to speak to the school
  immediately.
  How to Help Your Child
• Let them know it’s not their fault.
• Discuss ways of responding to the bully.
• Tell your child not to react, but to walk
  away and get help if pursued.
• Tell a trusted adult.
• File criminal charges for assault or
  injuries.
             Don’t
• Don’t tell your child to solve the
  bullying themselves.
• Don’t tell them to fight the bully.
• Don’t blame either the victim or the
  bully-investigate and consider all the
  facts.
    Warning Signs of a Bully
• Seeks to dominate others.
• Poor winner and poor loser.
• Is excited by conflicts between others.
• Pattern of impulsive and chronic hitting,
  intimidating and aggressive behaviors.
• Lacks empathy towards others.
      What You Can Do
• If you think your child may be bullying, act
  quickly.
  – Let them know this is not acceptable.
  – Help your child learn alternative ways with
    dealing with anger and frustration.
  – Help them understand the impact on their
    victims.
  – Seek professional help if behavior continues.
     Don’t be a Victim
• Help your child learn good social
  skills and a healthy self-confidence.
• Teach your child to speak out for his
  or her rights.
• Teach them to seek help if bullied.
       Don’t be a Bully
• Model non-violent behavior.
• Let your child know violence will not
  be tolerated.
• Seek help from mental health/school
  counselors to stop aggressive
  behaviors.
      You are the Key
• Remember to talk with your children.
• Only 15 minutes CAN make a
  difference.
• Remind them you are there to talk or
  listen.
• Be a good role model, they are always
  watching.
            Resources
•   www.samhsa.gov
•   www.pacerkidsagainstbullying.org
•   School councilor
•   STAR program