Child and Family Welfare Society BETHLEHEM THE INSIDE SCOOP! I S S U E 2 J A N U A R Y / F E B R U A R Y 2 0 1 1 Welfare at Work! INSIDE SCOOP FROM THE GM’s DESK! Since 1926 FOOD FOR THOUGHT! New beginnings are always their homework every after- volunteers as it has been identi- Do all the good you can, By exciting. The year 2011 is a noon. fied that many people with dis- all the means you can, In all culmination of a lot of medi- abilities are being grossly ne- the places you can, To everyone you can! um term planning since The building of the new glected, abused and totally ANCIENT ADVICE 2009. This year, structure Child and Youth Care Centre locked away from society by will be added to these plans. at Fouriesburg will start their so called caregivers. The- ******************************** shortly (many thanks to the se people are completely vul- Even if you are on the right We have already appointed a National Lottery Distribution nerable. We have also em- track, you will get run over if full time cook at the Child Fund). Over and above this, ployed two gentlemen who you just sit there! and Youth Care Centre in a vegetable garden will also have been trained as wheelchair WILL ROGERS Bethlehem. Each of the be started at the same venue mechanics. This service is be- boys residing at this centre within the next two months. ing managed at our offices in INSIDE THIS received two sets of school 34 Grey Street. Members of ISSUE: uniforms and the kitchen Our services to people with the public are being encouraged was upgraded. Even more disabilities (physical and to donate old wheel chairs exciting is the appointment mental) is gaining momen- which will be repaired and giv- Experience the of a qualified educator who tum. Two home based car- en to the needy free of charge. Journey from assists the children with ers have been appointed as To the personnel and manage- 2 1985…..2011 ment, my sincere thanks for BELIEVE IT OR NOT! 2010 and I pray for an even 2010 CTM better 2011! Bethlehem 3/ Did you know……………… With wonderful staff who Talent— Bethlehem was founded by were working hard to care 4 Everything you the Voortrekkers in the for the children, families and did NOT know! 1840‟s and in 1864 it was the old age of Bethlehem. named “Beit Coping with Lechem” (Bethlehem) which Bethlehem Child and Family 5 is Hebrew for „House of Welfare remained ahead of Worry! Bread”. the pack due to so many The Shape We years experience in caring 6 for our community! The Are In! organisation has been whole- DEON ERWEE 2011 heartedly involved with Success Stories 6 change and growth in Bethle- hem and has, over the years, become the silent hand that 2011 Challenge 7 tries to carry a hurting com- Only 62 years later after the munity. Be Part of the naming of our town Bethle- Bethlehem Child and Family 7 hem, our organisation, Beth- Solution! Welfare plans to be in our lehem Child and Family wonderful town for many Welfare was established in more years, through the Our Memories! 8 1926! Our organisation has grace of God! been in existence for 85 years! 34 Grey Street / PO Box 708 BELIEVE IT OR NOT! BETHLEHEM, 9700 Bethlehem has a rich history of Tel: 058—303 4701 Many of us were not even Fax: 058—303 3486 which we are proud to be part of ! close to existence when this email@example.com organisation started out. PAGE 2 BETHLEHEM CHILD AND FAMILY WELFARE SINCE 1926! EXPERIENCE THE JOURNEY FROM 1985………………...2011 I cannot believe that it was van Niekerk was em- we should never forget on the 31.09.1985 that I ployed as the Senior So- that our clients and their was interviewed for a post cial Worker at the organi- needs whether emotional at Bethlehem Child and sation. He was extremely or social comes first. Family Welfare. My ap- strict but very loved. The pointment began on the organisation started to I continue to sing the cho- 03.10.1985. I was 35 grow rather rapidly and rus that says “when I re- Me. Julia Siyaya years of age. My current that meant employment of member what the Lord has age can now be figured new staff. In the same done, I will never turn out! year, 2002, Mr Deon Er- back anymore.” When I wee was employed as the started working at Bethle- There was a total of 4 la- Manager. He came with hem Child and Family dies in the organization's the desire to have respon- Welfare we were only 4 employ and 2 of them sible people working at and today, we are close to were Social Workers the organisation. He al- 30. How greatly we have namely; Mrs Alma ways said and continues to all been Blessed. Taaljard and Madelaine say that he is not a police- Blane. We could boast of man and he wants employ- My heart sometimes pains a very efficient and hard ees who are able and will- as so few people know or working Management ing to work on their own. appreciate how hard the Committee led by Mrs. Obviously, each and eve- staff at Bethlehem Child Adelè van Niekerk, who ryone who became em- and Family Welfare work was a wonderful leader ployed at Bethlehem Child and the ongoing sacrifices and a large group of will- and Family Welfare each of these staff make ing and very able volun- brought their own ideas, for the benefit of others. teers! special thoughts and There is so many hard- uniqueness to the organi- ships and challenges our I recall our fundraising sation. I was Blessed to community face on a daily activities from selling be part of this growth in basis and without our or- vetkoek and mince to staff and growth in ser- ganisation so many would The opening of our current holding a Miss Child Wel- vices to the community. be lost. This includes, offices at 28 Grey Street, fare competition where babies, children, youth, BETHLEHEM in 1971 most contestants were Mr. Erwee then started a young adults, families and schooling at Voortrekker morning Bible reading and the elderly. High. I imagine that most prayer meeting at the or- of those young ladies who ganisation. Well, it is very I have been witness to so entered the competition hard to explain the Bless- much change in our organ- are now married mothers ings we have received isation and in our commu- and career women with through this morning get- nity. I have learnt that the their own children attend- togethers. Not only for following is inevitable; ing Voortrekker High. the organisation but so too time stops for no-one, we How time seems to fly! for each and every indi- will all get older and there vidual around the table. will be change! In 1999 the street chil- The job being done in the dren‟s project was started. community is not an easy 25 years down the line, I I recall going out to the one therefore the Spiritual am the organisation Secre- dumping grounds to assist care each of the staff tary but as a shared children living on the members receive motivate, joke…. everyone knows I dumps. Today, the chil- encourage and bring us am actually the manager! dren have a Child and closer together no matter I am proud to be part of Youth Care Centre that is the challenges of the day. this organisation and what available to them where it stands for and pray to be The Bethlehem Express they are fed, clothed, cared Mr. Erwee reminds us fit and healthy and work- 1937 for, loved and assisted to daily that the job we are ing here for at least anoth- An article on Bethlehem go back into the schooling doing in our community is er 25 years! Child Welfare system. not for the money but for During 2002, Mr. Dawie our Mighty God therefore Thank you and God Bless! CHILD AND FAMILY WELFARE ISSUE 2 PAGE 3 2010 CTM BETHLEHEM TALENT—WHAT AN EXPERIENCE! A Frank & Funny ensure we would reach was a lot of work. We Rest, was very scarce! Portrayal…... …… ……. every spectrum of our advertised in the local The auditions started the Everything you did community from very media and aggressively very week after the clos- NOT know! young to very old, from all marketed our idea to eve- ing date! races and from all cultural ryone who would listen! and social groups. IT WAS SLOW! We chose our judges very We re-looked, re-analysed, carefully as we wanted the re-strategized! There was most reputable people a R 10 000.00 cash win- doing this very important ning prize, contestants job of judging. It was then should have been queuing It was June / July 2010 decided to ask, Hansie to enter! and it was time to do Jordaan, Casper Knoester something different and a and Mamoesa Mot- Monday hit us like a bus little daring for Bethlehem soeneng. travelling 200km an hour! and even the Eastern Free We were either going to State as a whole. Some- All of who agreed to this sink or swim—we were thing that would make important function! We TERRIFIED! But, not a people talk about it for a do not think for a moment soul would have guessed long time afterwards, they actually knew what the enormous pressure and something that could actu- they had agreed to! fear we were experiencing. ally benefit the community in a different way......but CTM Bethlehem then saw The night was great and what? our vision and decided to We were soon to learn that the judges were perfect in climb on board through people like to wait for the every way however, very These were the thoughts the sponsoring of the first last minute before entering quickly we realised one rolling around in our prizes and the top 10 priz- competitions—as the days major mistake, 6 minutes heads when the idea if the es. We were set to begin flew by and the closing per act was just ludicrous, Talent Show emerged. our new and exciting pro- loomed, we suddenly had what were we thinking? So, perhaps 50 to 100 peo- ject! a tidal wave of entries Between 30 to 40 acts per ple would enter, a few coming in. Oh My night at 6 minutes each would come and watch We started at the schools Word—or, OMW, as the was resulting in a very and we would have the where it was requested we younger generation say. long evening for all in- auditions done and dusted change our dates so as not Were we pleased? Of volved! Note to self: 90 in a day or 2. Thereafter, to disrupt the examination course we were! Were we seconds per act and no we would invite everyone times—our schools are scared? Of course we longer. to gala dinner to enjoy the important to us and so we were! finals and choose the win- decided to change the ner—how easy............. dates. What that meant Remembering of course was our audition dates had that we are also an NPO to be done prior to the trying to raise funds........... exams and the finals with Well, it was anything but the gala dinner after the easy! We partnered with schools closed! No prob- Sonskyn Dienssentrum to lem, we wanted to please everyone involved! We also learned very Obviously, it goes without quickly that „closing date‟ saying that there will al- We started by distributing also means very little and ways be problems with an hundreds of entry forms, since we needed the event of this size. The to schools and the commu- funds—we had to give a booking of halls became a nity including the sur- little grace. The entries huge issue and trying to rounding areas such as closed on the Friday and find an available hall on Qwa Qwa, Fouriesburg, over the weekend we had short notice was a tearful Reitz, etc. This in itself to work long hours to plan experience! and book the auditions. Cont. Page 4 PAGE 4 However, after many phoning each and every We were so exhausted and phone calls and major act to give them the new yet, the next evening we crises control, we were venue details. Phew, that had strength to go on! We able to find a solution to was a close disaster! this problem—with the assistance of the Well, we cannot deny that Dihlabeng Municipality. the the experience was When we went to Qwa nothing short of Qwa to audition, what a spectacular and amazing! major crises! The „hall‟ we had booked, (no, we had not gone to look prior), was in fact a Seeing people get together from completely different walks of life supporting and encouraging one an- other was something in- credible to witness—and we were part of this in- classroom without a stage credible change! (obviously) and no working plugs for the sound and lighting and there was no way 300 must admit that after the contestants would fit in a semi finals on the Satur- room hardly big enough day night (yes, a full week for 25 and it was pouring of auditions every single with rain! Did we laugh? night and Saturday the NO! We prayed really hard as all the contestants whole day), we did not would be arriving in an even see the light of day hour to a completely This was a different and on the Sunday morning unsuitable venue with the exciting change in our and in my personal case, I organisers on the verge of town and people were never even saw Monday, I a nervous breakdown! We excited and positive! The was so tired! got back into our combi and raced into town in the But, BRAVO to everyone pouring rain with no idea involved, whether a judge, as to what we were going a contestant, involved in to do! Luckily, one of the sound and lighting, video local High Schools in Qwa or administration, whether Qwa was still open and the Headmaster still available. staff or volunteers or a “Yes”, he said to our pleas judges were in awe and sponsor—BRAVO to you of using his hall (for a even though the nights all! hiring price, of course) were ridiculously long and and this was followed by tiring, they were back the next evening, ready to enjoy another group of talent! Even though each of them have jobs and had to put in a full days work! WOW! What an experi- Staff showing their joy ence! at the end of auditions! CHILD AND FAMILY WELFARE ISSUE 2 PAGE 5 COPING WITH WORRY! Well, it is a New Year with Traumatic and unexpected THEIR CHEST MIGHT get onto the soccer team new challenges and new events; MAKE THEM FEEL or another team where he stresses, especially for our Illness. BETTER! can show off his skills. children! Give him the optimism to Some signs of a worried Be supportive, show that go on. Is Your Child A Worrier? child: you understand. Hear You would think that child- Your child does not want to what he has to say before Make a difference. Glob- hood should be a stress-free visit friends; offering reassuring com- al problems can give your time. Kids do not have to He / She becomes with- ments so that he knows his child cause for concern. worry about paying bills, drawn and uncommunica- problems are not being Things they hear on the passing driving tests or tive; dismissed as trivial. news or from others at working out how to get four Bad tempered; school. These things may kids to activities at four Tense and constantly nerv- Help your child to find a touch your child more different destinations! ous; solution. If you can help than you would expect. Loses interest in things he / your child to deal with You could help by talk- Now, take yourself back to she used to enjoy; problems constructively ing about the ways your your childhood. Did you Displays physical reactions and finds ways to over- child could make a differ- look forward to your first to stress: nail biting, head- come their challenging ence. LOOK FOR trip to the dentist? Could aches, tummy aches, etc. situations they will worry WAYS THAT YOUR not sleep with excitement less as they get older. CHILD CAN MAKE A the day before starting a How can you help? Avoid the temptation to POSITIVE DIFFER- new school? Find out what is on his / her jump right in and solve the ENCE. mind. Talk to your child in problem for them. Be a good role model. All children suffer from a way that helps him to How you handle your anxiety at some times and describe his concerns. Ask Keep problems in perspec- problems can affect how some are more sensitive to specific questions like, “Are tive. Kids tend to worry your child handles his. change than others. Com- you scared, angry, or up- about things that have al- Be positive and show mon causes are: set?” Be enthusiastic about ready happened. Maybe how an optimistic attitude Difficulties at school or the positive things and stay Johnny did not make it can help overcome obsta- change of school; calm as he describes the onto the soccer team. Re- cles. Peer pressure; parts that bother him / her. assure him that there will Family problems; JUST GETTING IT OFF be other opportunities to (from the: The Pre-School and Primary School Guide, Winter 2010) THE SHAPE WE ARE IN! By Boineelo Kgoronyane—Northern Cape High School, Kimberley Mother earth. We want everything on a Moving onto the core of There is no time to speak The refuge and silver plate due to the the problem: the power about the health facilities, fortress of bil- “Apartheid” era where we house of the body, the poor service delivery, our lions of people, think the world owes us heart, reason being that economy and many other the provider of something. The sooner we directly or indirectly the factors. life for millions of animals realize the world owes us reasons mentioned are and the shelter for thou- nothing, the better for eve- caused by the rising epi- This is the shape of our sands of insects. It‟s the ryone. demic taking many lives: earth: the human body. shape equivalent to that of a HIV/Aids. The Govern- So the next time you look human body. The two hands represent ment is trying to reduce at yourself in the mirror, poverty and a lack of educa- the numbers by giving free think of what you, as an The head, being the first tion as they work hand in ARV‟s, encouraging more individual are doing to and the most important part hand with each other. Due people to know their status change this picture of that would represent the to the lack of education, and by providing free con- doom for our earth to a crime rate. Why? Well, as poverty is rising but, it is doms. picture that is perfect for our crime rate has success- understandable as 40% is generations to come. fully ranked us one of the the passing rate. On to the legs, which rep- countries highest crime resent teenage pregnancies Boineelo Kgoronyane rates in the world. The Government is actually and legal abortions. Teen- Northern Cape That‟s why. telling us not to aim high age pregnancies are a ma- and that we must be satis- jor problem in our country Moving onto the neck fied with second hand work and the social grants be- which represents the unem- but, they are the first to cry ing offered are not really ployment rate as most of about how the country helping to solve the prob- the crimes committed are needs more educated peo- lem, let alone the legal due to the lack of jobs. ple. abortions. SUCCESS STORIES! Success to some is passing is that of offering children finally able to locate this delivered him safely into a grade at school or, com- living on the streets of young man‟s Grandmother the waiting arms of his pleting a year at universi- Bethlehem an alterna- in KZN! She was over- Mother and his Granny! ty, or completing a long tive—being cared for at joyed and so excited about awaited degree, or passing the Tshepong ya Rona her Grandson being found A very successful and a driving test, or reaching Shelter—the Outreach after such a long time— heartwarming family reu- a difficult target, or mak- coordinator came across a she had feared the worst! nification! ing an annual budget, or, young 17 year old boy or, or…….all of which are who required this assis- They had tried for 7 years highly commendable and tance. to locate this child with no important in one‟s life! success. He was brought to the The question is, what does shelter and was offered It was such an experience an organisation such as assistance by the staff. for all the staff involved Bethlehem Child and After a while, it became that the organization's Family Welfare consider apparent that this young Social Workers quickly as success? It is with this man had, in fact, become arranged for the boy to be in mind that the following lost as a young child (10 returned to his family in amazing story is being years of age) and was KZN, close to Durban. shared with you…………. unable to find his way home. The involved staff of 2010 resulted in 9 boys As one of the services Bethlehem Child and who were living on the being offered by Bethle- After much hard work and Family Welfare personally streets being reunified hem Child and Family research, the staff were took the child to KZN and with their families! THE 2011 BETHLEHEM BUSINESS CHALLENGE! It is a NEW YEAR! A this challenge and decide Corporate Membership Material Needs in the form of cloth- ing, stationery, etc. year for new ideas, new that your funds would go Certificate. Child and Youth Care Centres business structures, new the extra mile through and Services: So, why support Bethle- Tshepong ya Rona Shelter— clients, new business asso- your support of Bethlehem hem Child and Family specializing in children living on the ciates and definitely Child and Family Welfare, streets and orphaned and vulnerable Welfare at all? NEW CHALLENGES! the organisation will, in children; Fouriesburg Drop in Centre— turn, give your business The organisation has been specializing in orphaned and vulnera- So, this year, Bethlehem ongoing exposure for your in existence for 85 years. ble children; GirlChild Program—specializing in Child and Family Welfare monthly payments. Services include: young and adolescent girls. have decided to „take the Comprehensive and Social Holiday Programs—for all children Services: under the care and protection of bull by it‟s horns‟ and Your business logo will be Emotional and social support; Bethlehem Child and Family Welfare challenge Bethlehem represented on all market- Crises management; and in foster care. Businesses to assist Beth- ing material including the Child protection (abuse and neglect); VEP Shelter: Marriage counseling; Shelter for those who are victims of lehem Child and Family Newsletter (you will re- Foster care; domestic violence and /or crime Welfare for 2011 on- ceive advertising space on Protection of women and children in Psychosocial support abusive situations; Legal assistance wards—the question the back of every Newslet- Custody support; Protection is……..HOW? ter). You will be men- Application of drug and alcohol Substance Abuse Prevention rehabilitation; tioned in media releases Care for victims of violence including and Awareness The answer is: relative to sponsors and rape; Outreach R 1 000.00 (one thousand donations. You will re- Care for children living in the streets; Foster Groups School placements and support; rand only) per month. ceive ongoing updates on Identity and grant applications; Memory Work the organization's services, Care for those who are terminally ill; Debriefing for HBC Parental training; The organisation requires projects and programs. Support to families with uncontrolla- Services to Disabled Persons: a minimum of 20 + strong You will receive invites to ble children; Services to those with physical and Court appearances; mental disabilities; businesses to take this all special events that Skills development; Home Base Care; challenge and assist us in Bethlehem Child and Referrals; Social Care; Networking; Awareness; reaching our goals for the Family Welfare host. You Advocacy; Student orientation; year and years to come. will receive an 18A Tax Education Protection; Transport; Exempt Certificate, a BEE Poverty Alleviation: Hiring of and Giving of, necessary Food Parcels and Feeding Programs; Should you stand up to Certificate and an Annual equipment. BE PART OF THE SOLUTION TO A HURTING COMMUNITY! WE NEED YOUR HELP! I am only one, but I am one. I cannot do Assistance from YOU will go a involved but would like to everything, but I can do something. I will long way in helping others. We contribute, we will respect your not let what I cannot do interfere with would appreciate any donations in choice. what I can do. the form of clothing, food, toys, Edward Everett Hale blankets, etc. Please feel free to contact Jolene Of course, financial assistance on 058—3034701 and we will be We do NOT live in a perfect world and will also go a long way in ensuring happy to forward our membership organisations such as Bethlehem Child and our services will increase to reach form and / or our donation form for Family Welfare need to exist to ease the many more who are in need completion and you can post it pain in society. including those with disabilities. back to us or, deliver it to our offices or, contact us and we will Qualified, trained and experienced staff are Another possability is to become a collect it from you. Your used to assist men, women, boys, girls and member of our organisation for assistance is greatly appreciated. babies to obtain better lives regardless of only R 50.00 per month. We will race, finances, education, or even social forward a membership certificate, Money donations can be paid into the status. keep you updated of our events and following organisation account: programs, forward quartely But, to make people believe in themselves Nedbank newsletters, etc. Your R 50.00 a and to become independant again, one has Phambili—Account Name month will greatly assist our to assist them to get through their current 1101098813—Account Number organisation and should you circumstances without judgement. 110133—Branch Code choose not to become personally 85 YEARS AND STILL GOING STRONG! OUR MEMORY ALBUM!