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					                      What Are the Symptoms of Low Self-Esteem?

People with low self-esteem rarely live their life to the full. They distance themselves
from others, and are thus denied their love and support. They rarely, if ever, make full use
of their abilities. Instead, they end up brooding about the injustices of life. Such people
are a loss to themselves, their family and to society. Some of them even take to crime,
alcohol and drugs.

Invariably, people with low self-esteem are uncomfortable with success. They tend to
believe that they don’t deserve success, and they have no clue as to how to savor success.
At the same time, they do not hesitate to blame themselves if things go wrong. They take
sadistic pleasure in telling the world that they knew things would go wrong. This is an
important symptom of low self-esteem, and needs to be treated at the earliest.

People suffering from low self-esteem also have the habit of putting themselves down.
They repeatedly tell themselves that they are not good enough and that they are bound to
fail. Over a period of time this negative self-talk turns into a negative self-belief. More
than that, they try and implant these seeds of negativity in people around them. They also
gravitate towards people who suffer from similar problems. The end result is that they
feed on each other’s negativity, and become much poorer individuals than they initially

A high level of dissatisfaction is another indicator of low self-esteem. There are people
who spend all their time complaining. They neither see a positive thing in others nor in
themselves. This cynicism eats away their self-belief, and erodes their self-confidence. In
contrast, people who value their abilities enjoy high self-esteem.

Also, people with low self-esteem spend most of their time brooding about the past and
worrying about the future. They don’t spend enough time living in the present. As a
result, they don’t enjoy the present, even though it may be full of success. The net result
is that they prevent themselves from enjoying life, and make themselves unhappy. It
finally becomes a vicious cycle that feeds upon itself, and prevents them from breaking
out of their negative mould

Such people are rarely relaxed and at ease. They keep looking for different jobs and lines
of work. The reason why they are always looking for something else to do is that they are
lack self-confidence. They drift from one crisis to another, and blame fate for their woes.
A few of them take to alcohol, drugs, food, sex etc to get a temporary “high”. But this
rarely helps them in the long run. They fail to generate a sustainable feeling of happiness
and contentment.

People with low self-esteem also have problems getting close to others. They are not
comfortable with intimacy and create barriers to prevent people from coming close to
them. They don’t like to open up to people and to reveal their innermost thoughts. They
may be nursing some old bad experience with someone who caused them a lot of pain or
who let them down when they were most vulnerable. By forcing themselves to live in a
world of self-denial they are doing a great damage to themselves. They fail to benefit
from the company of others, and keep entrenching themselves deeper and deeper into
their negative world. They may ultimately reach a stage where they may be declared
beyond salvage.

But this is not good for society. People with low self-esteem must be helped. Their
symptoms must be diagnosed, and help provided if they have to be turned into useful
members of society. This help can be given by family members, friends, teachers or by
trained psychologists.

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