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									Relationship Evaluation

Everyone dreaded report card day in school and if you are dreading making your own
relationship report card, then you need to buckle down and study! When you rank all of
the aspects of your relationship between you and your spouse, you need to score in the
high nineties to achieve an A+. Consider creating a ‘relationship report card’ with your
spouse and watch the awakening you will both experience. When you try to complete
your relationship report card, it should not turn into a ‘blame game’. It should open the
lines of communication and offer some invaluable insight into your relationship as to
where you need changes and improvements.

When you consider how you want to grade your partner and yourself, it is a good idea to
have some pre-set guidelines as to what each grade means. For example, an ‘A’ might
mean that your partner isn’t perfect, but obviously excelling. It could also mean that your
partner is loving, attentive, enthusiastic and satisfying. A ‘B’ could stand for a partner
who is always trying, better than most and consistently works on improvement. A ‘C’
might mean average or acceptable. ‘C’s’ always indicate plenty of room for
improvement. ‘D’s’ and ‘F’s’ should be reserved for unhappy situations or even hopeless
ones. ‘D’s’ indicate never hopeless while ‘F’s’ require more than just a relationship
evaluation. If you find that you and your spouse have areas with a ‘D’ or an ‘F’, you
need to focus on why you are giving or receiving those grades and commit to some kind
of action in order to change and improve that grade. It might involve a commitment on
both spouses, but if both are willing to work at it the grade is already moving higher.

When you begin working on your relationship report card, it should be graded the same
way your school papers were graded with a number grade (ex. 80%, 50%, 95% and so
on). Grade both your partner and yourself in areas like affection, ability to resolve
conflict, attitude, commitment, communication skills, consideration level, thinking as a
‘couple’, creativity, sensitivity, flexibility, generosity, friendship and gift giving skills.
Once you’ve completed that list, continue to evaluate your honesty levels, listening skills,
household management skills, patience, love making, romance abilities and practice,
playfulness, self-esteem, self-awareness, sense of humor, empathy, tolerance and
spontaneity. If you feel that there are any other areas relevant to your particular
relationship, feel free to add and evaluate at your discretion.

When you and your spouse are grading each other, be sure to both participate in grading.
You can work out your own particulars, but make sure you both have a say in both of
your grades. Compare and talk about your grades and why your partner believes you
deserve a particular grade (this includes the good grades, too!). You’ll be surprised at
how your partner sees your relationship and you’ll have invaluable insight into how he or
she sees your role in the relationship. Just because you may not have earned an A+ in
one area doesn’t mean that you can’t celebrate. Pat yourself (and your partner) on the
back for anything over a ‘B’ and talk about ways you can improve on any ‘C’s’ and
‘D’s’.

								
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