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					Children exposed to family                                    Growing stronger together                                                                                        Mark your
violence may:                                                                                                                                          Hey everybody,          Calendars
                                                               “To the world you might be one person, but to one person                            there’s a lot of hot dogs
                                                                                                                                                       to devour here!
                                                              you might be the world.” --Unknown
                                                                                                                                                       Chantal Hunter
•   experience increased emotional and behavioral                                                                                                        is the cook.          Need some unique
    difficulties                                              The holiday season is an opportunity for reflection. It is a
                                                              time to think about our families, and our blessings. It is a
                                                                                                                                                                               Christmas gifts?
•   develop traumatic stress reactions (sleep disturbances,   time to be thankful for all that we have.
    intensified startle reactions, constant worry about                                                                                                                        Next in WINGS Speaker series:
    possible danger)                                          To all our donors and volunteers; for all the time, effort                                                       Who:        Dag Goering & Maria Coffey
                                                              and money you have donated to Wings, thank you – please
•   be at increased risk of experiencing physical injury or                                                                                                                    What:       Vietnam – Off the Beaten Track
                                                              know you do make a difference in the life of a person.
    childhood abuse                                                                                                                                                            When:       Tuesday Feb 1, 2005
                                                              On behalf of the Special Events Committee – may you                                                                          7-9 PM Doors open 6:15
•   experience strong ambivalence toward their violent        have a peaceful holiday season.                                  Karen has the
                                                                                                                                                                                           Go to
    parent due to the coexistence of feelings of affection                                                                   Cheetos, Jane has
    and feelings of resentment and disappointment
                                                                                                                                the licorice.                                  Where:      Provincial Museum
                                                              Betty Hillier,                                                 Where are the kids?
                                                              Special Events Chairperson                                                                                       How much? $25.00
•   model and learn attitudes and behaviors when intimate                                                                                                                      Call Linda 426-4985 or
    partner abuse occurs                                                                                                                                             
•   become desensitized to aggressive behavior which can
    lead to aggression becoming the ‘norm’                                                                                                                                     Entertainment Coupon Books for sale. $40
                                                                                     Statistics                                                                                Call Linda 426-4985
•   live in constant fear for their lives                                                                                            Presently WINGS has
                                                                      From April 1, 1987 to October 31, 2004                        20 families: 20 women &                    2005 Mother’s Day Tea and Silent Auction
•   they often develop a unique set of emotional needs
    because the perpetrating parent is unsafe and the                 WINGS has accommodated 628 families                                 45 children.                         Sat May 7, 2005 Call Linda 426-4985 or
    battered parent may be emotionally unavailable due to            including: 628 women with 1444 children                                                         
    their own trauma
                                                                             for a total of 2072 persons
                                                                                                                                                                               Kinettes Spring Fling Event – watch our
•   they suffer cumulative losses when they must leave
    their home to seek safety                                                                                                                                                  website for details
                                                                                                                               We have a range of children from
                                                                                                                               newborns to teens. If you would
                                                                                                                                                                               Great Human Race.
                                                                                                                               like to donate a gift for one of                Can you support WINGS by walking or
                                                                                                                               our family members , it would be                running in the Great Human Race. Sign up
                                                                                                                               helpful to have these on or                     some sponsors now. It is a refreshing way to
                                                                                                                               before December 12th.                           get some exercise and support WINGS. Sat
                                                                                                                                                                               May 7, 2005. Contact Linda at 426-4985 or
                                                                                                                               Our elves are very busy from          
                                                                                                                               December 15th onward.
                                                                                                                               Wrapped gifts before December
                                                                                                                                                                                ___ Please update your mail list ___
                                                                                                                               16th.                                                     We moved. Our new address is
                                                                                                                                                                                          WINGS of Providence Society
                                                                                                                                                                                               P. O. Box 32141
                                                                                                                                           HO HO HO!                                       Edmonton, AB. T6K 4C2

                                                                                                                                       MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!                               Our phone and fax remain the same
                                                                                                                                                                                            (780) 426-4985, 424-3625
From the Director’s Desk,
November is Family Violence Prevention Month.                  will assist families with advocacy, program referrals,                                                                                                          Best Gingersnap Recipe
                                                               practical support and liaison with community service
As this month quickly draws to an end and we get ready for     providers.
the Christmas Season I wanted to highlight some of the         The Wings team is growing to meet the needs of the                                                                                                                           3/4 cup margarine
initiatives in the area of family violence prevention.         families we work with. I would like to welcome Connie                                                                                                                           1 cup sugar
                                                               Benjamin new support worker, Amanda McBey new child                                                                                                                          1/4 cup molasses
This November Wings has been very excited to be                support worker, Bertha Mc Laughlin accounting technician                                                                                                                           1 egg
participating in a public awareness campaign about the         and Laura Holm youth worker. Even though Wings does                                                                                                                       2 cups all-purpose flour
effects of family violence. The nature of the campaign is to   not have funding for the youth worker position the Wings                                                                                                                     1/4 teaspoon salt
utilize the highly effective medium of public service          board and management are committed to seeking funding                                                                                                                    2 teaspoons baking soda
advertisements in movie theaters, television, newspapers       for this position; services for the children and youth living                                                                                                              1 teaspoon cinnamon
and postcards to reach out to many Edmontonians. The           at Wings is seen as a top priority.                                                                                                                                      1 teaspoon ground cloves
campaign is intended to educate the public in a meaningful                                                                                                                                                                                  1 teaspoon ginger
way about the importance of shelters in our community. A       Another theme for Family Violence Prevention Month                              Look what we made today!
special thanks to Trevor Wiltzen of the Livia Stoyke           developed by The Alberta Council of Women’s Shelters is                                                                                                     Cream margarine and sugar together in large
Foundation, Edmonton Women’s Shelter, A Safe Place,            “Hands Are Not For Hitting” which was a theme used in                                                                                                       bowl. Add molasses and egg; beat well. In a
Laurana Shelter and Alberta Council of Women’s Shelters        Wings child care, children/youth groups and women’s                                                                                                             smaller bowl, mix together flour and dry
for working collaboratively on this project.                   groups. Please read some of their work which is included in                                                                                                   ingredients. Add to butter mixture and mix
                                                               this newsletter.                                                                                                                                             thoroughly. Roll into small balls and dip into
The Alberta Council of Women’s Shelters of which Wings                                                                                                                                                                       additional granulated sugar or leave plain.
is a member launched this year’s campaign with “It’s Your      The staff at Wings has the first Christmas planning meeting                                                                                                 Place two inches apart on baking sheet. Bake
Business”. The hope is to encourage the community as a         this week to assist twenty families living at Wings have a                                                                                                                  at 375 F oven for
whole to come together and take responsibility for those       safe and meaningful Christmas. Also included are families                                                                                                          10-12 minutes. Makes 6-7 dozen
                                                                                                                                                                                                                              PS- if you like them chewy, make sure to
who need help. In 2003-2004 there was 5,529 women and          that have moved out of Wings during the year. Dates have
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       undercook them slightly!
5,558 children who accessed emergency shelter services         been set for Christmas parties. Thanks to Connie and Sheila
across Alberta. Sadly 3,835 women and 3006 children            and friends for once again hosting our resident and ex-
were unable to access shelters because they were full.
Second Stage shelters accommodated 197 women and 338
                                                               resident party. The calls are starting to come in for gift lists
                                                               and what the family’s needs are this year. As you start your
children, but 322 women and 657 children were turned           own planning, shopping and Christmas baking I ask you to
away. As you can see there is much work to be done in the      consider those less fortunate to have a safe and meaningful
area of family violence prevention.                            Christmas. No gift is too large or small and you will never
                                                               know the difference you make in the lives of the women                                B O A R D                                O F               D I R E C T O R S
At Wings we are grateful to once again offer our follow-up/    and children at Wings. Let’s give them some HOPE that
Outreach program through the support of the Edmonton           life will get better with a lot of hard work you can get over
Housing Trust Fund who have provided 19 months of              those hurdles.
funding for this position. On behalf of the Third Stage
Committee I would like to congratulate Chantal Hunter          TOGETHER WE CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE!
who will be changing hats from support worker to follow-       Please call us and ask how you can help.
up/outreach. The women residing at Wings have expressed
a need for support as they transition back into the            Seasons Greetings, Patricia Garrett, Executive Director
community to independent living. The transitional support                                                                           Adelle Prather, Sister Germaine Chalifoux,             Jim Cregan, Alan Knowles, Dr. Robert Bear,                Patricia Garrett, Marta Burns,
                                                                                                                                  Sister Estela Andaya, Alice Keylor, Bill Godfrey               Leslie Beard, Harold Kingston                      Sharon Harding, Adelle Prather

                                                                                                                                                                          BOARD OF DIRECTORS                       STAFF
                                                                                                                                                                          Marta Burns, President                   Patricia Garrett, Executive Director      Dionicio Barrales, Security/Reception
                                                                                                                                                                          James Cregan, Vice-President             Linda Churchill, Resource Manager         Roger Malenfant, Maintenance
                                                                                                                                                                          Sr. Germaine Chalifoux, Secretary        Karen Kingdom, Program Coordinator        Christie Rehill, Security/Reception
                                                                                                                                                                          Adelle Prather, Treasurer                Chantal Hunter, Follow-up Worker          Susan Sweetman, Security/Reception
                                                                                                                                                                          Elizabeth Hillier                        Jessica Plamondon, Facility Coordinator   Isabelle Boisvert, Security/Reception
                                                                                                                                                                          Harold M. Kingston                       Kate Tilley, Support Worker
                                                                                                                                     WINGS of Providence Society          Dr. Robert Bear                          Connie Benjamin, Support Worker
                                                                                                                                     PO Box 32141                         Alice Keylor                             Laura Holm,, Youth Worker
                                                                                                                                     Edmonton, AB T6K 4C2                 Sr. Estela Andaya                        Jane Kooistra, Childcare Supervisor
                                                                                                                                     Phone (780) 426-4985                 Ray Taillefer                            Kristi St. Cyr,, Childcare/Reception
                                                                                                                                     Fax (780) 424-3625                   Alan Knowles                             Sharon Harding, Accounting
                                                    .                                                                                 Leslie Beard                             Bertha McLaughlin, Accounting
                                                                                                                                     BN 119300549-RR0001                  Bill Godfrey                             Amanda McBey, Childcare
Child Care Chatter                                            Health Update at Wings                                        Women in need growing
As I reflect on the past few months, I am again reminded
of the tremendous changes that take place in the lives of
                                                              What a busy summer it has been here at Wings. We’ve said
                                                                                                                            stronger …                                                       Wish List/Dream List
                                                              goodbye to mosquitoes and heat stroke and on to new                                                                            2005 Calendars
the little ones who live at WINGS. With both preschool                                                                      I left my husband in May of 2004 and went into a shelter
children and school-aged children playing side by side, our   challenges this fall and winter.                              because he was abusive to me and my children. I was told         Turkeys & Hams
Child Care was filled with a flurry of activity this past                                                                   that I could only stay for 21 days but because of my             Turkey Pans/Roasting pans
summer. It was wonderful to have such an awesome              This summer we held our first ever immunization clinic, a                                                                      New toys for Christmas gifts
                                                                                                                            circumstances I was allowed to stay longer. The shelter told
playground to spend our many summer mornings playing          collaboration between VON and Millwoods Public Health                                                                          Wrapping paper/tags/bows/tape
                                                                                                                            me that they were not going to put me out on the street
in!                                                           Centre. Over 83% of our resident families received                                                                             Christmas tree decorations
                                                                                                                            without a place to live. I stayed in the first shelter for 2
                                                              immunizations as they were previously delayed or never                                                                         Oranges/apples/juice
                                                                                                                            months and then was advised by the police that if I found        Non-perishable food
    Child Care had a beautiful celebration for                started.                                                      another place to live I should move there. I had already sent
Thanksgiving, sharing a snack of apple and pumpkin pie                                                                                                                                       Pillows, Pillows, Pillows
                                                                                                                            in an application to go to WINGS and did a phone                 Single sized mattress covers
with our pre-school children and all our Moms. Little         Recently, the hours that VON provides service has been        interview. So I phoned around to shelters in Edmonton and
children deserve to have a home where they can feel safe                                                                                                                                     Single sheet sets/comforters
                                                              doubled. This is due to the expanded number in clients        found one that had a room available for me, so I took the        Pots and Pans with lids
and secure and we are thankful that there is such a place
                                                              since WINGS relocated and the increasing acuity of health     very next bus to Edmonton.                                       Crock pots (21)
for them here at WINGS.
                                                              needs in our population.                                                                                                       Kitchen utensils and cutlery
    Child Care was transformed into a pumpkin patch for                                                                     I had just been diagnosed with pneumonia before I headed         Good Knife sets for Collective kitchen
Halloween. Everyone participated - dressing up for our        A big thank you goes out to all who have donated to the       to Edmonton. I got into Edmonton late at night because the       Measuring Spoons and Cups
Halloween Party. Pumpkins were carved and masks were          shelter. The generous offerings of health and beauty          bus had broken down on the way to Edmonton. I woke up            BINGO VOLUNTEER Workers
decorated and all enjoyed the Halloween cupcakes and          products, medical supplies and equipment, clothing, toys,     at 6am in the morning and felt sick. I went to the hospital      VOLUNTEERS with Trucks to help move furniture for
treats. It is very touching to see our families play and      and household products are always appreciated. The need       while the shelter looked after my children. I was then           our families
laugh together, having so much fun!                                                                                         diagnosed with meningitis and would have to stay in the          Toiletries – shampoo, soap, toothpaste, toothbrushes
                                                              for diapers and infant formula continue to escalate. As
                                                                                                                            hospital for a while. My Aunt and Uncle went and picked          Small Baskets [Gift Baskets (toiletries) for new families]
                                                              well, with flu season around the corner, our clients always
   And now our attention is turned to Christmas. The                                                                        up my kids and looked after them until I got out of the          Childcare Snacks
                                                              require basic care products. Limited finances,                                                                                 Baby Clothes/diapers
snow is already here and we are anticipating our Christmas    transportation, and resources make any donation a valued
                                                                                                                            hospital. I was really thankful that they came even if I
celebrations. Christmas is such a magical time for                                                                          didn’t know them very well.                                      Volunteer to assist with Food hamper pick up
                                                              contribution.                                                                                                                  Baby Formula, bottles
preschoolers. The children love to make their Christmas
crafts and help to decorate the room. We are looking                                                                        When I got out of the hospital the shelter had set up another    Children’s Winter boots
forward to all the festivities that go along with the         Wishing all a happy and healthy autumn season,                interview with WINGS for me. I explained that why I
                                                                                                                                                                                             Gift Certificates for Safeway/Sobeys
Christmas season.                                                                                                                                                                            Bus Tickets
                                                                                                                            wanted to go to WINGS was because it was an intense
                                                              Sara Berger RN, BScN                                                                                                           Undies and socks
                                                                                                                            program with group 4 days a week and a counseling session
    Thank you to all of you who support us in so many         WINGS People in Crisis Nurse, Victorian Order of Nurses                                                                        Children’s toys
                                                                                                                            once a week. I was accepted to WINGS and have been               Christmas gifts for teens
ways. Our families and staff are grateful for your caring,                                                                  residing here for about 4 months now. WINGS has been
generous hearts. Kristi, Amanda and myself (Child Care                                                                                                                                       Wall mirrors, Pictures, wall hangings**
                                                                                                                            there for my ups and downs, my tears and laughter. I never       **Help us outfit a new apartment into a cozy home
staff) wish all of you a very Blessed Christmas Season.                                                                     would of thought that there was this kind of support and
                                                                                                                            education system set up for single moms in abusive                          No more family violence
Jane Kooistra                                                              2004 - 2005                                      relationships if I hadn’t went to WINGS. The battle of
Child Care Supervisor
                                                                      Parkway Village Bingo                                 realizing what the abuse has done to me and my children
                                                                                                                            and how to prevent it from happening again, has been a
                                                                        WINGS Schedule                                      rough one that I am still fighting, but the staff at WINGS are
                                                                              8170 - 50 Street, Edmonton
                                                                                                                            making the battle go smoother.
                                                                  Fri., Dec. 3/04          afternoon         11:00 am
                                                                                                                            We have had outings to the splash park, zoo, a picnic and
                                                                  Fri., Jan. 14/05         afternoon         11:00 am
                                                                                                                            turkey and all the extras for Thanksgiving. All of this has
                                                                  Mon., Feb. 14/05         evening/late       5:00 pm       made some of the days and holidays go by easier. The
                                                                  Fri., Apr. 8/05          afternoon         11:00 am       donations from the community have been great. The
                                                                                                                            clothing, books, toys and housewares have really helped
                                                                  Tue., May 17/05          evening/late       5:00 pm       make life a little easier as well.
                                                                  Wed., Aug. 3/05          afternoon         11:00 am
                                                                                                                            With Christmas just right around the corner I know it will
                                                                          Call Terry Makarowski 450-3810                    be the best Christmas that I have had in a long time because
                                                                                                                            my children and myself will be safe and well taken care of
                                                                   or                     at WINGS. Thank you to the shelters, WINGS and the
                                                                           Call Linda Churchill 426-4985                    community for making my journey and many others easier
                                                                                                                            for years to come.                                                        Kristi & Ja
                                                                                                                                                                         ne (th
                                                                                                                                                                                                          too much e pumpkin) are
         Kate Tilley says “Are you ladies ready to cook?                                                                                                                                                             fun! Hallo         having
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                ween 20
                     Start your ovens please!”                                                                              Anonymous                                                                                                   04
It’s Christmas… more or less!
Lately there was a group of friends discussing Christmas. Everyone had an idea as to
how Christmas should change. It should be more spiritual! It should be less
materialistic! I want more toys and bigger toys! I want less people and business. I
want more parties! The conversation made me think of Christmas at Wings and reflect
on what needs to happen, more or less.

Certainly it would be good if there was less violence. Less anger and less depression.
Some of our families are so anxious about providing for their children and not having
all of their old Christmas ornaments. It would definitely be good if there was less                                                                                                      Women in need growing stronger
anxiety and fear. We could do with less flashbacks of horrendous moments from the
past and less shame over being on income assistance. The children could do with less                                                                                                                                                                           Christmas 2004
memories of Christmases past that ended in fighting and hurting and things being

Yes, our families need more at Christmas. They need to know this year there will be
                                                                                                                                            It’s that time of year
more safety and security. They have more supports in the community, more friends and more people who care. They need more
donations and people willing to invest in their children and their futures. They need more fun and more joy and hope. They need             It is hard to believe it is November and I am already                     having a need for places like WINGS, but, in the
more love and a sense that all is well. We need more men and women who believe that family violence must be stopped and who
make it their business to step in and do whatever they can to help. We need more faith that all our true heart’s desires are indeed
                                                                                                                                            writing our year end greetings! It is a time to reflect                   shorter term, our dreams include making WINGS a
possible.                                                                                                                                   on the past, on the present and on the future. Time                       leader in the community in assisting women and their
                                                                                                                                            has flown by. We remain in awe of our                                     children who are fleeing violence and allowing us to
Our families also need enough. Enough trees, decorations and gifts. Enough special activities and enough food. Enough baking                accomplishments. We are able to look back in                              do so in a financially secure and supportive
and treats. Enough Christmas music and special events in the community. Enough thoughtfulness so they feel remembered and
cared for. Enough busyness and enough rest and relaxation. We need enough staff and enough programs. Enough groups and
                                                                                                                                            wonder at what we were able to do together. We have                       environment. This type of dream is only attainable
enough counseling. It is not that they need more of everything but rather that people have enough.                                          celebrated our first anniversary in our new premises                      one day at a time and with the continued support of
                                                                                                                                            and we are well into Year 2. But our joy over the last                    our community. But we will get there.
I am very grateful for both the more and the less. The recipe for a beautiful Christmas seems to be in having more or less and              year is tempered by the loss of one of our great
being grateful for enough. Merry Christmas!
                                                                                                                                            supporters – Laurette Braconnier’s passing left a hole                    In the shorter term, we are looking forward to the
                                                                                                      Karen Kingdom - Program Coordinator   in our community that cannot be replaced. We                              Holiday Season with anticipation, and the requisite
                                                                                                                                            continue to miss her. But we know she is proud of                         amount of stress! We know that we can count on
                                              Hon. Claudette Bradshaw retired.                                                              what we have achieved.                                                    your support through this season to give our mom’s
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      and their children a truly memorable season. The
                                                                                                                                            Given the successes of our past, our focus for the                        stress just seems to be part of the process!
                                                     In her honour, here are                                                                present has changed. We are no longer in the “get it
                                                                                                                                            built” phase but are squarely within the “sustaining it”                  On a personal note I want to thank Pat, Linda and the
                                                     some of the thank you
                                                                                                                                            phase. It is clear that this phase has a lot less glamour                 entire WINGS staff for another fantastic year.
                                                      letters written from                                                                  and is a lot more work! We must address the reality                       WINGS would not be WINGS without them.
                                                       women at WINGS.                                                                      that having a building with 8 more women and their                        Likewise, the Board and the many other volunteers
                                                       Minister Bradshaw                                                                    children takes many more resources, time and energy.                      are WINGS. The hours you put in show in the
                                                       was responsible for                                                                  We need to focus on sustaining our support, our                           wonderful program and facility we have.
                                                        assisting with some                                                                 funding and our programs. We are fortunate that we                        Finally, I want to thank each of our supporters – in
                                                        funding for our new                                                                 have such great staff, volunteers and supporters who                      whatever way you are able to support us - - we are
                                                        facility.                                                                           all continue to contribute and make “sustaining it”                       fortunate to have you within our community.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      All the best for the Holidays!
                                                                                                                                            Abraham Lincoln once said: “The best thing about the                      Marta Burns, President
                                                                                                                                            future is that it only comes one day at a time.” At
                                                                                                                                            least one day at a time is manageable! Of course, we                      No one has ever become poor by giving”
                                                                                                                                            have our dreams for the future that includes no longer                    …..Anne Frank

                                            WINGS of Providence, PO Box 32141, Edmonton, AB T6K 4C2                                                                                    WINGS of Providence, PO Box 32141, Edmonton, AB T6K 4C2
           Phone: (780) 426-4985 • Fax: (780) 424-3625 • • • BN 119300549-RR0001                  Phone: (780) 426-4985 • Fax: (780) 424-3625 • • • BN 119300549-RR0001