Is Your Personality Causing You Stress?
It may sound hard to believe, but experts say that your personality can actually cause
you stress. To a certain extent, your personality might have been determined at birth.
However, there are certain characteristics that you might have developed over the years
that are now contributing to your stress level. While one cannot change his or her
personality overnight, it is certainly possible to change certain habits that may now be
causing you stress.
To begin with, you should ask yourself if you have low self-esteem. Do you feel as
if you are inferior to other people? Do you constantly berate yourself for your faults? Do
you consider yourself to be the sum total of your mistakes? There is evidence to suggest
that low self-esteem can lead to stressful situations. The problem is that you may be
putting stress on yourself unnecessarily. Therefore, what you need to do is to begin to
enhance your self-esteem. This begins by ending the “negative talk” that goes on inside
your head. Instead of focusing on your weaknesses, form a list of your strengths. You
might also want to list all of your major accomplishments. You might be amazed to
discover just how much you have achieved. Whenever you feel the urge to downgrade
yourself, think of your attributes. This should serve to end the litany of your failures
which you may be repeating to yourself.
Stress can also be the result of being overburdened. Do you take on too much? Are
you dealing with too much responsibility? While there are certain responsibilities at
home, at work, and at school that we must carry, at times we may be overextending
ourselves. List your major responsibilities and see if there is a way for you to whittle
down the list. You might be surprised to learn just how much you have taken on. With a
little bit of planning, you might be able to shift some of your responsibilities to other
members of your household or to your co-workers. Be sure to talk with your mate and
your boss if your stress level seems out of control. Together, you can work on strategies
to reduce the amount of stress you feel.
Let’s face it. Some of us are control freaks. We feel as if we need to control every
detail within our line of sight. If you fall into this category, you may be experiencing
stress because of your controlling nature. You may also find that this weakness is
negatively impacting your personal life, causing you to feel additional stress in your
relationships. In order to combat this tendency, try practicing the old adage, “Let Go and
let God (or your Higher Power). Recognize that there are certain things that are simply
beyond your control. The sooner you recognize this, the better off you’ll be, and the less
stress you will feel.
Another prime cause of stress is fear, especially fear of the unknown. You may be
fearful of making mistakes or of being judged harshly. In order to counteract this, you
must recognize that everyone commits errors—even major league baseball players! You
must also learn to forgive yourself for your faults—otherwise, you will be putting
yourself under a tremendous amount of stress. Follow the motto: Do your best and let
nature take care of the rest. Try not to agonize over every little thing. In addition, learn
to get over the guilt of not being perfect. Otherwise, your stress level is likely to
consistently hit the roof.
You have to realize that recognizing your faults is half the battle. Once you know
what personal foibles you need to work on, you’ll be in a better position to reduce your
stress. Realize that it took you a long time to develop such personality flaws, so it might
take some time to eliminate them. In other words, don’t expect to radically change your
personality in a week. However, with the proper amount of diligence, you can alter
those aspects of your personality that are causing you grief. Once you eliminate these
flaws, you should feel more energetic, less stressed, and better able to take on the world.
And you may just find your blood pressure decreasing as well.