Keeping u p with ADD Accept—don’t reject Company not for gain July-August 2008 Tel: (011) 888-7655 93/03639/08 Greetings Fax: 086-604-7124 from the E-mail: email@example.com Office hours: Attention Deficit PO Box 3704 Weekday mornings www. adhasa.co.sa 09h00 to 13h00 & Hyperactivity Randburg Support Group of If you do not wish to receive this ADHASA National Office 2125 Delta Park School, Blairgowrie Southern Africa please send an e-mail with “unsubscribe” in the subject. Phone: (011) 888-7655 ADHASA Helping the community Making Life Easier for ADD Moms with ADD Kids by Allyson Koekhoven for nearly 19 years! It is difficult enough being a mother, There has been much information about but how much more difficult is it for ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder with or the mother of children with ADD if without Hyperactivity) and the focus has This article targets been on children affected by it. Little people with she has ADD herself? The number one rule is to ‘lighten up’. attention has been given to adults with ADHD and ADD. Many children with the disorder the information have one or more parents or could help other grandparents who had the disorder in people too. childhood, and still suffer many of the Please make symptoms in their adulthood. this newsletter available to anyone Many adults – some even unaware that who could use it. they have ADD - have developed coping strategies to get them through the day. Some write detailed checklists (or use INSIDE THIS ‘Reminder’ functions on cell phones and ISSUE: Often the biggest struggle for an PCs and laptops) which ADD mother with ADD children is an serve to prompt the internal one. Societal expectations errant memory. Others Making Life Easier for ADD have been deeply ingrained in many follow strict and daunting Moms with ADD Kids ........ 1 women, and mothers place severe routines to ensure demands upon themselves. compliance with societal ADHD SEMINAR Breaking out of a mould that doesn’t demands for order. Feedback ......................... 3 fit can take time and effort. ADHASA has provided a Working with a support system for all parents (with or therapist who without ADD). It has been a lifeline when Volunteers Needed really under- demands of daily life become too hard for to help in the office, stands issues desperate moms to bear alone. ADHASA even just one related to ADD has drawn on its nearly twenty years of may help shed experience and contact with other morning a week, international ADD support groups to the impossible please! expectations that an ADD Phone Sandy on mother has of (011) 793-2079 herself. when you can help. This edition of “Keeping up with ADD” kindly put together for us by Lorí Lea; Executive, Life, Family & ADD Coach 082-787-0262 ~ www.MindFocus.co.sa PAGE 2 provide the best information for Time-outs are essential Relax and make it a magical all. In this issue we have some when you have ADD and are journey for you and your family. tips to help mums with ADD to raising children. But it’s not cope more effectively with their easy to find time for these ADHD SEMINAR Feedback own ADD and that of their breaks because they require children: planning. Making time-outs part The 15th annual ADHASA seminar was of your routine eliminates most once again held at Wits University’s Partners may feel anger and of the planning and juggling that Sturrock Park Hall on 13 and 14 resentment about an ill-kept might otherwise take place. An September. house or badly behaved children example would be to enlist the so it’s important for mothers to help of your partner to take the Interestingly, this year’s conference enlist their partner’s support. kids out and away from the harked back to the conferences of the house for a couple of hours on mid 90’s of ADHASA conferences when the weekend. Another solution the number of professionals (teachers could be arranging for a regular and therapists) far outweighed the babysitter a few times a month. number of parents attending. Last year’s Invest in a good book on conference boasted approximately 60% behaviour management parents while this year’s delegates (120 techniques for children with over the two days) comprised 22% ADD. (Check out the books in parents. It would seem that perhaps the the ADHASA shop at Delta Park inflation rate has affected the If the husband or partner does School.) Parents of non-ADD not have ADD himself, then it’s a attendance rate as well. children often judge parents of good idea for the children’s ADD kids as being too mother to be open and honest permissive. They usually blame A mixture of topics aimed at both the about how ADD affects her. the laissez-faire attitude of professionals and the parents were Create an ADD-friendly parents with these challenging presented by both well-known, long- environment in the home by children. Parents of children standing presenters such as Prof van approaching the family’s ADD with ADD know that their der Merwe (ADHASA Chairman) Jane with acceptance and good children don’t respond to the Jarvis, Terry Wilke, Anita Decaires- humour. usual management and limits in Wagner, Mary Hyam and Elaine Reassess killer schedules for the same way that others do. Harcombe; coupled with some new both moms and children. This Manage the destabilizing faces like Dr Gill Lloyd, Francoise helps everyone make it through effect of hormonal fluctuations. Harrison, Renae Basson, Gail van Zyl, the childhood and teenage years It is not commonly known that Dr Johan Erasmus and Paula Barnard. moms with ADD often have more severe PMS or Subjects covered included the role of menopausal symptoms that essential fatty acids, medical women without ADD. assessments and diagnosis, auditory Look for positive experiences to processing, nutrition, environmental share with your children. influences, time management with Mothers need to stop blaming children and classroom management. themselves for not meeting the demands of two of life’s most A DVD has ‘ADD-unfriendly jobs’ that of been produced with their sanity intact. If the housewife and mother. Be which will soon pressure gets to be too much, aware of what is necessary and be available for look for ways of reducing what has to be accomplished, purchase. commitments. however find ways of Even if you Moms need someone who expressing yourself and were unable to will give them unconditional and interacting with your children. attend, you can non-judgmental help, even it it’s still gain from the experience. We also just to offload some have CDs for sale which features the aggravations. A good support speaker notes. Please contact our system outside the home is vital office to place orders for either of these for when the pressure cooker syndrome takes hold of family on 011-888-7655, or members. e- order: firstname.lastname@example.org.