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- Bibekananda Patra



It's no secret that it takes two to create and maintain a healthy relationship.
Although I would agree with this statement, I also know there is a lot one person can
do to change the dynamics of any relationship. And since none of us have the power
to change another person, it only makes sense that the best place to start in our
relationships is with ourselves.

At our local Super Walmart, there is a gentleman there by the name of George.
George stands at the front door and enthusiastically greets everyone who walks into
Walmart. He smiles at the guests and with a jubilant tone, he asks people how
they're doing. When he's not talking to someone, he is singing and enjoying life
wholeheartedly. George has the ability to change me and my mood, simply by being
who he is. By honoring what is important to him - joy - he brings out the best in his
Walmart relationships.

Our lives are touched by many relationships. While most of us define a relationship
as existing between two people, there are other types of relationships as well. The
one component of your relationships that remains constant, however, is you. So as
we explore the relationships in your life, I want to invite you to ask yourself these
important questions as it relates to each of these precious relationships.

Who are you in this relationship?

Who do you want to be in this relationship?

What important values do you want to define this relationship?

What needs are being met or not being met in this relationship?

Is respect practiced in this relationship?

Does this relationship give you positive energy? Or does it drain you?

In what ways do you nurture this relationship?

What changes need to occur in this relationship?

Relationship with God
God is your Rock. He is your foundation. He is the Source for an unending supply of
love, peace, patience and wisdom. Since God is the Master Creator, He is the central
point from which all other relationships are formed.

Relationship with Self

Without love and respect for yourself, it is difficult to love and respect others. An
authentic relationship with you is critical to creating honest and open relationships
with others. The relationship with self must be nurtured frequently so you can be
emotionally and physically available to your other important relationships.

Relationship with Spouse

Although this relationship may or may not exist in your family, if it does, it is the link
that ties your family together. This link must be strong enough to withstand the
challenges of raising your children and building a healthy family.

Relationship with Children

These relationships are the reason we call ourselves mom. We have been entrusted
by God to be their soul provider and protector. Our children depend on us for
guidance, teaching, and most importantly, love.

Relationship with Parents and Siblings

These relationships were our primary relationships in life. It is where we practiced
how to be in relationship with other people. Depending on what we learned in our
early years, we may or may not want to model these relationships. Healing these
first relationships significantly affects the health of our relationships today.

Relationship with Friends

Our friends, depending on who we choose, have the ability to be a great support for
us. Friends meet significant emotional needs for women, and remind us that fun,
sharing and bonding is important for our overall well being.

Relationship with Boss, Coworkers and Clients

These relationships, if we work, take up a tremendous amount of our waking hours.
Much of what we experience at work is brought home to our loved ones. Our working
relationships can inspire us or drain us, so it's important that we choose these
relationships wisely.

Relationship with Time and Money

Although time and money are not human beings, they are precious commodities in
our life. How we choose to spend our time affects every relationship in our lives. Our
relationship with money holds energy in our lives. We have the ability to attract or
repel money depending on how we treat it.
In each of these and other significant relationships, you are a vital contributor. Who
you are in each of these relationships can make or break the quality that you
experience. So be yourself and align you relationships with your values. Make the
time to nurture your relationships because, in the end, relationships are all that
really matter.

Meeting someone so attractive, so beautiful. Your heart beats like the rhythm at the
races and your knees become Jell-O.

We all know this feeling of falling in love and seeing the amazing beauty in another.
Couples fall in love blissfully and fall out of it with such heartache. Love does not
have to be so difficult and as we all have grown to learn, you get out of something
what you put into it. But there is a thin line to keep an eye on here. Our minds have
grown to make us believe that we are "not complete"; "unfulfilled" or "unloved", until
we meet the love of our life. This was the mind talking (also known as the Ego), not
our soul.

Your soul knows that you are complete, an extraordinary being, a creations of God. A
creations of God being a creation of love. Innately, inside of you, you are pure love
and our Ego is here to challenge that. Only when you love like God loves, you will
experience the fulfilled life that we call "heaven". God loves all equally, no-one is
more special than any other. Which brings us to the "Special Relationship".

When two people catch a glimpse of each other's beauty, we often get a feeling that
the relationship will fulfill our emptiness and we clutch onto the other person. Initially
you might have extraordinary times, but the core on which such relationships are
built, is simply your "thought" that you are not complete and that you NEED another
to complete you. It is for this reason that when such relationships change form
(traditionally known as ending the relationship), that lots of pain is experienced.
Release your partner and all people in your life every moment. This is one of the
principles to fulfilling relationships.

When you wish the other person their freedom and have faith that the relationship
will serve both of you, for your spiritual growth, beautiful things come to fruition. Set
them free every moment of the day and have the knowing that the purpose of the
relationship is to create opportunities for you to "show up" and be the most glorious,
most amazing person you know you are. This includes forgiving, not judging,
showing compassion and loving unconditionally.

Relationships have nothing to do with the other person. Knowing this puts you in a
powerful place where you have control over how you feel and who you are going to
be in the relationship. Initially there will be bliss and lots of joy, followed by
opportunities to work on your soul. I once read that you ask for God to send you the
perfect partner, but instead he sends you something much better - someone slightly
less than what you expected. See the relationship as a sacred space where you can
grow. Your soul knows that you will slowly re-member your magnificence and uses
romantic relationships to show us that.

We see that so often by being told my our loved ones how amazing we are, just to
remind us of our soul's natural state - perfection. Perfection does not mean you will
not experience heartache, sadness or some of the less pleasing experiences, but it
does mean that you are wonderful as you are and need not change a thing. Play fully
- every moment of the way. Open your heart and love without bounds. When you
open your heart completely and love another without conditions, people see the
perfect person you are and get a glimpse of the God within you. Do not be afraid of
rejection of any kind, because remember rejection does not mean anything is
"wrong" with you, it is just a choice the other soul makes on it's journey. You are
complete and perfect by design and need not chance a thing about you to be loved -
just love others and you will experience love.

This lesson places lots of emphasis on judgment. When we find someone and label
the relationship as "Special", so easily we place expectations on that person: "Will he
call by 6?" or "Will she like what I got her?". We place too much emphasis on the
"form" of the relationship and less on the "content".

A holy relationship is intimate, has authenticity, and allows freedom for the souls to
grow. You need not be in a Romantic Relationship in order to experience intimacy.
Your best friend allows you to cry when you wish to do so and he/she does not judge
you for being sad. Consider being that to your Romantic Partner, allowing them the
freedom to be anyway and know they are loved, irrespective of what space they are
in on that day. Are your needs met? You have no "needs" for you have it all. You are
whole and complete, filled with pure love. Consider that you have no lack and by
doing so, you have no needs. You might have some things you wish to experience,
but experiencing them could be with anyone, not only your Romantic Partner. Our
generation has separated ourselves from God. "Separated from God" does not mean
we are ignoring the entity called "God", but instead, it means we have removed
ourselves from the "knowing" that we are all love. That we are all connected, all
beings, all elements and all that exists are one energy source called "God",
experienced as LOVE.

We can regain that consciousness by loving every being, every element and all
opportunities that crosses our path - equally.

Meeting someone so attractive, so beautiful. Your heart beats like the rhythm at the
races and your knees become Jell-O.

We all know this feeling of falling in love and seeing the amazing beauty in another.
Couples fall in love blissfully and fall out of it with such heartache. Love does not
have to be so difficult and as we all have grown to learn, you get out of something
what you put into it. But there is a thin line to keep an eye on here. Our minds have
grown to make us believe that we are "not complete"; "unfulfilled" or "unloved", until
we meet the love of our life. This was the mind talking (also known as the Ego), not
our soul.

Your soul knows that you are complete, an extraordinary being, a creations of God. A
creations of God being a creation of love. Innately, inside of you, you are pure love
and our Ego is here to challenge that. Only when you love like God loves, you will
experience the fulfilled life that we call "heaven". God loves all equally, no-one is
more special than any other. Which brings us to the "Special Relationship".

When two people catch a glimpse of each other's beauty, we often get a feeling that
the relationship will fulfil our emptiness and we clutch onto the other person. Initially
you might have extraordinary times, but the core on which such relationships are
built, is simply your "thought" that you are not complete and that you NEED another
to complete you. It is for this reason that when such relationships change form
(traditionally known as ending the relationship), that lots of pain is experienced.
Release your partner and all people in your life every moment. This is one of the
principles to fulfilling relationships.

When you wish the other person their freedom and have faith that the relationship
will serve both of you, for your spiritual growth, beautiful things come to fruition. Set
them free every moment of the day and have the knowing that the purpose of the
relationship is to create opportunities for you to "show up" and be the most glorious,
most amazing person you know you are. This includes forgiving, not judging,
showing compassion and loving unconditionally.

Relationships have nothing to do with the other person. Knowing this puts you in a
powerful place where you have control over how you feel and who you are going to
be in the relationship. Initially there will be bliss and lots of joy, followed by
opportunities to work on your soul. I once read that you ask for God to send you the
perfect partner, but instead he sends you something much better - someone slightly
less than what you expected. See the relationship as a sacred space where you can
grow. Your soul knows that you will slowly re-member your magnificence and uses
romantic relationships to show us that.

We see that so often by being told my our loved ones how amazing we are, just to
remind us of our soul's natural state - perfection. Perfection does not mean you will
not experience heartache, sadness or some of the less pleasing experiences, but it
does mean that you are wonderful as you are and need not change a thing. Play fully
- every moment of the way. Open your heart and love without bounds. When you
open your heart completely and love another without conditions, people see the
perfect person you are and get a glimpse of the God within you. Do not be afraid of
rejection of any kind, because remember rejection does not mean anything is
"wrong" with you, it is just a choice the other soul makes on it's journey. You are
complete and perfect by design and need not chance a thing about you to be loved -
just love others and you will experience love.

This lesson places lots of emphasis on judgment. When we find someone and label
the relationship as "Special", so easily we place expectations on that person: "Will he
call by 6?" or "Will she like what I got her?". We place too much emphasis on the
"form" of the relationship and less on the "content".

A holy relationship is intimate, has authenticity, and allows freedom for the souls to
grow. You need not be in a Romantic Relationship in order to experience intimacy.
Your best friend allows you to cry when you wish to do so and he/she does not judge
you for being sad. Consider being that to your Romantic Partner, allowing them the
freedom to be anyway and know they are loved, irrespective of what space they are
in on that day. Are your needs met? You have no "needs" for you have it all. You are
whole and complete, filled with pure love. Consider that you have no lack and by
doing so, you have no needs. You might have some things you wish to experience,
but experiencing them could be with anyone, not only your Romantic Partner. Our
generation has separated ourselves from God. "Separated from God" does not mean
we are ignoring the entity called "God", but instead, it means we have removed
ourselves from the "knowing" that we are all love. That we are all connected, all
beings, all elements and all that exists are one energy source called "God",
experienced as LOVE.

				
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Description: It's no secret that it takes two to create and maintain a healthy relationship. Although I would agree with this statement, I also know there is a lot one person can do to change the dynamics of any relationship. And since none of us have the power to change another person, it only makes sense that the best place to start in our relationships is with ourselves.