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					Have you ever found yourself reacting in a negative way to a certain comment, a
particular person, or a particular situation? It could be seeing a look on someone 鈥檚
face, or hearing an angry tone in someone 鈥檚 voice, or seeing a crowd of people
that trigger 鈥檚 you to react in the same habitual way before you realise.
  Everyone has habits, both good and bad. When you can recognise the habits that
disempower you and hold you back from achieving success, then you are in a better
position to do something about them, to change them and therefore change your life.
Unfortunately some people just accept their habits as being part of them - 鈥渢 hat 鈥
檚 how I am 鈥? you may have heard some say.
  Yes, we are hardwired a certain way, and the good news is that we can change our
  Change can be challenging, especially if they do not have a strong enough 鈥榳 hy
鈥?- they are not fully aware of what the bad habit is costing them, or what they can
gain from changing the habit.
  What kind of hidden habits am I talking about? Mood changes in response to certain
triggers eg shrinking into one 鈥檚 shell when faced with conflict; getting angry
when someone stands up to you; getting upset with any piece of feedback, etc.
Everything might be going wonderful in your day and then there is a trigger and you
can 鈥檛 help but follow the same script that you have for years.
  People laugh when a hypnotist gets people to do crazy things in response to a word
or sound - but this is going on every day in your life! It is automatic and you do it
without thinking. Arrive home end of the day and you reach straight for a beer or turn
on the television.
  Have you identified what habits you have that are limiting you or holding you back?
That 鈥檚 the first step. Be aware of what you want to change.
  How do you change? Visualise yourself doing something different. Rehearse it over
and over so that when you next encounter the trigger your new response is
programmed in. You will want to rehearse it completely associated into the scene, so
it is like you are there seeing it through your own eyes. You can also do some
rehearsal watching yourself in the picture responding in the new ideal way.
  Working with a coach who uses hypnosis and neuro-linguistic programming (NLP)
techniques can speed up this process, but if you are committed to changing and
visualise enough, you should be able to manage it yourself.
  Some habits may be more firmly ingrained, and there may be a part of you that want
to keep the bad habit. Usually there is some benefit to these bad habits - otherwise
you wouldn 鈥檛 do them. For example, hitting the snooze button when the alarm
goes off gives you extra sleep, even though it stops you from getting up and going for
a walk or stretch. If you need extra sleep, then go to bed 15 minutes early, so that you
have no excuses to get up. There are some great techniques to work with 鈥榩 arts
鈥?that sabotage you, but for a start, find out what the part wants for you, and find a
better way to achieve that. I may have simplified this, but at least it gives you
something to do on your own, if you don 鈥檛 want to seek out a coach.
  Lastly, if you are going to make changes, just work on one habit as a time. We don
鈥檛 want to scare your inner mind and set up any kind of resistance. If you can
make a small change today, what would it be. A little bit every day, can make a big
difference over a year. Are you ready to change your life?

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