9 flirting mistakes to avoid

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					9 Flirting Don'ts
  Flirting is a universal activity that can help break the ice and lead to new friendships
and romantic relationships. It can also just be a fun way to meet new people or add a
little excitement to your day. It isn't limited to clubs and parties; flirting can be a
useful skill in everyday life, whether you're browsing your local bookstore or sipping
some Starbucks on your lunch break. This page presents an overview of some of the
ways you can flirt.
  Flirting is a part of every day life for many people. But how do you know when
someone's flirting with you? How do you make it clear that you are interested in them?
Using tips on how to flirt can allow you to successfully flirt without making yourself
look like a fool.
  Don't take it too seriously
  Remember that most flirting is all in good fun and just a way to meet new people.
Most folks you flirt with you'll never even talk to again. Let's face it—that may be a
good thing for some of those situations.
  Don't act like a stalker
  Surprisingly, people don't enjoy being creeped out. Things such as staring ominously,
humorless flirtatious remarks, and saying you want to have children with someone
after first meeting them are usually quick turn-offs. If the object of your menacing
attention actually responds positively, you might be a bit weirded out yourself.
  Don't flirt in inappropriate places
  Flirt at your own risk in the workplace. If you do decide to attempt this, keep it
G-rated unless you enjoy a good sexual harassment lawsuit.8 Use your best judgment
as to whether a situation is conducive to flirting or not. It is generally frowned upon to
flirt at a funeral, for example. Use some common sense.
  Don't be arrogant
  Confidence + humor can be a magical combination when it comes to flirting. Even a
little bit of cocky humor can go a long way. But misjudge the balance and you'll come
across as arrogant. Although you want the other person to get to know you a little,
don't talk about yourself too much. If you catch yourself doing this, start asking them
questions about the other person instead. Arrogance is neither funny nor flirty. It's
really just irritating.
  Don't be too forward
  Don't lose sight of the fact that you've just met this person. If you try to gently segue
a compliment about the person's sense of style into a comment that they would
probably enjoy meeting your parents before you get engaged, you're likely to see that
smile fade into a look of horror. Although this applies mostly to the fellas, girls should
know that coming off as desperate or overly aggressive can be just as unattractive to
the male species.
  Don't talk about your ex.
  The last thing anyone wants to hear about is what your ex was like. They don't care.
Leave your exes out of it!
  Don't be rude.
  Most flirting is done in public places, so inevitably others may try to join in on the
chatting. Even if you're truly "in the zone" while flirting with someone, don't
purposely exclude or shut someone out of the conversation. Acting rude won't impress
  Don't overstay your welcome
  Some quality conversations can last for a half hour. Some of them can last 10
minutes. If you hit a lull, it's time to decide if it's been going well enough to ask for
some contact information, or if it's about time you moved on. If they begin talking to
someone else and ignoring you, you can pretty much consider your conversation over.
  Don't keep trying with someone who just isn't interested
  Sometimes you just need to cut your losses. If they're playing hard to get when you
first meet them, they're probably not playing at all. 9 It's really not worth your time to
go after someone who doesn't appreciate your advances. Try not to test the line
between persistence and restraining order.
  Don't flirt with someone you shouldn't be flirting with
  Other people's significant others should be considered off limits. Seems obvious,
right? Sure, sometimes you won't know if they're in a relationship. But as soon as you
establish that they have a boyfriend/girlfriend, you'll probably want to knock it off or
risk being knocked out. This goes double for husbands and wives. If their
boyfriend/girlfriend comes up in conversation, don't be rude and immediately storm
off in frustration. Either keep flirting in friend-mode or politely excuse yourself at an
appropriate time. Flirting with your boss or any professional superior is not the best
idea, no matter how much you want that raise.

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