“Lucky are the Baby Boomers — who gave us ‘free love’ and Woodstock — to have a blueprint for how to be sexually fulfilled for the second half of their lives.” Susie Wilson, MS.Ed.
“Brava and bravo to Brick, Lunquist, Sandak and Taverner who have produced a winner with Older, Wiser, Sexually Smarter that could change the course of the history of sex education in the U.S. The team has written a great series of lessons that move us away from our fixation with teen sexuality to the concept that sexuality is indeed also for older adults, particularly those from midlife through old age. As usual with the past manuals written by these extraordinarily knowledgeable educators, supplemented by colleagues in the field, they offer older adults a vision of what lifelong sexual pleasure can truly be, if understood, accepted and mutually enjoyed. Mid and later life sexual health can be enhanced, they posit, with high-quality, honest, and accurate education that offers information, skills, and values exploration. It is my hope that this wonderful product, thoughtfully and sensitively written, will be widely disseminated and used. I hope that medical and clinical professionals, geriatricians, social workers, adult educators, continuing education programs, nursing homes, assisted living and over55 communities, houses of worship, nonprofits, community organizations, and men’s and women’s clubs will integrate it into their programs. If a clean conscience is our only sure reward in life, then these authors can rest easy. They are going to make countless people happier with themselves and others, and help many celebrate the lifelong gift of human sexuality.” Susie Wilson, MS.Ed. Senior Advisor, Answer answer.rutgers.edu/blog
Introducing
Older, Wiser, Sexually Smarter!
“Sex education just blasted through the age barrier with the publication of Older, Wiser, Sexually Smarter! These topnotch sexuality educators have written a comprehensive book that is both sophisticated and fun. From dating decisions to long-term lovers, this information is so solid that people under 50 will want to crash these sex ed lessons. This is a book for educators and learners who want healthy sexuality to last a lifetime and who know that ‘sexy grandmother’ is not an oxymoron!” Sallie Foley, LMSW Author of Sex and Love for Grownups and former columnist for AARP - The Magazine
“Older, Wiser, Sexually Smarter is a wonderful resource with
hundreds of ideas to choose from!" Paul Joannides, Psy.D. Author of Guide to Getting It On “Take an all-star team of sex educators, focus on a population whose sexuality gets almost no attention — older adults — cover every aspect of the subject with insight, gentleness, and a fiercely sex-positive attitude — and Older, Wiser, Sexually Smarter is the wonderful result. It’s a welcome, easy-to-use resource for professionals and lay people alike.” Marty Klein, Ph.D. Author of America’s War on Sex and publisher of Sexual Intelligence “An absolutely essential resource for every sexuality educator, Older, Wiser, Sexually Smarter is the first comprehensive manual of its kind and much needed in the field. The positive approach and easy-to-apply techniques cover all aspects of sexuality, [including] the physical, emotional, familial, social and spiritual. It’s about time such for lessons to serve this population and honor the continued intimate lives of people of this age group, which is so consistent with my favorite advice that ‘you never have to retire from sex.’” Judy Kuriansky, Ph.D. Pioneer sex therapist, radio call-in advice host, and author of many books including The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Tantric Sex
“Older, Wiser, Sexually Smarter offers 30 complete lesson plans for teaching about sexuality and sexual
health in an interactive and fun manner. The topics cover the entire gamut, from basic information to sexual experiences for people with chronic illness to sexual rights in nursing homes. This is a must read for sexuality educators around the world.” Beverly Whipple, Ph.D., RN, FAAN Professor Emerita, Rutgers University and co-author of The Science of Orgasm, The Orgasm Answer Guide, & The G Spot: And Other Discoveries about Human Sexuality
The Lessons
1. Sexuality In Mid & Later Life: 20. Conversations about Sex:
An Introductory Lesson
2. What’s So Funny? Laughing At Ourselves —
Skills to Navigate Challenging & Turbulent Waters
21. Sexual Decisions after 50: What’s Your Opinion? 22. Looking for Love Later in
What Jokes Tell Us about Sex Over 50
3. Sexuality Today: The Changes We’ve Seen 4. Sages through The Ages:
Life
23. Not Only for the Young:
Advice from the Past, Questions for the Present
5. Reflections: Past, Present, & Future 6. Five Generations of Change:
Mix & Match Safer Sex Activities for Older Adults Cyber Exploring Relationships
24. Safer
Looking Backward & Forward
7. People in My Life: Charting a Personal Network 8. Everyone Grows Older:
Sex: Online
Sexuality Issues for People Who Are Gay, Lesbian, or Bisexual
25. From
Problems to Possibilities: Sexuality, Aging, Disabilities, & Chronic Illness Talking with Your Physician about Sex
9. Sexuality…What’s Spirituality Got to Do With It? 10. Get a Second Wind:
26. What’s Up, Doc? 27. Grandparents:
Women & Sexuality at Mid & Later Life
11. Get a Second Wind:
Sexuality Educators Par Excellence
28. Your Parent Can Love Again:
Men & Sexuality at Mid & Later Life
12. Getting in Touch with Your Senses 13. Skin Hunger: Everyone Needs Touch 14. Every Body Deserves Respect:
Encouraging Healthy Sexuality for Widowed Parents Being Sensitive & Sensible about Sexual Expression
29. A Guide for Centers & Caregivers:
Love the Skin You’re In!
15. A “Touchy” Subject:
30. For the Whole World: A Vision of Sexual Rights
Masturbation in Mid & Later Life
16. It’s History! 25,000 Years of Sexual Aids 17. “Good Sex”: What Makes It So? 18. Talk about Sex 19. Intimately Speaking
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“Finally, a comprehensive sex-ed program for adults! Older, Wiser, Sexually Smarter respectfully acknowledges and encourages older adults’ sexual interest, curiosity, desire, and ability while building sexual health knowledge and relationship skills. I love this manual’s flexibility: the lessons build on each other perfectly, but each lesson is also useful as a stand-alone workshop, allowing me to tailor programs to each group’s needs.” Melanie J. Davis, M.Ed. Sexuality education consultant, Honest Exchange LLC
“The largest gap in community sex education is programs for adults in mid and later life. This void has now been filled by Older, Wiser, Sexually Smarter. The most impressive components of this manual are its honoring of diversity in terms of sexual orientation, and its welcoming approach to single people, traditional married couples, and those in nonconventional relationships. The best resource available for sex education after 40!” Barry McCarthy, Ph.D. Author of Discovering Your Couple Sexual Style and Men’s Sexual Health “This book will make you wise about love, sex, and growing older. Use it as a skillful guide through the mysteries of body, mind, heart, and spirit as a reminder that it’s never too late for pleasure. Eyeopening exercises take you beyond the ‘good-girlsdon’t’ and ‘real-men-score’ messages that limit too many of us. The authors are seasoned educators who approach a serious subject with vitality, fun, and the understanding that sexual expression is unique for everyone. Older, Wiser, Sexually Smarter should be required reading for all educators, and just plain people of all ages.” Gina Ogden, Ph.D., LMFT Author of The Heart and Soul of Sex and The Return of Desire “If you are a sex educator working with later-life seniors, you’ll not want to offer another workshop without Older, Wiser, Sexually Smarter. This manual offers 30 sex ed lessons for modern older adults ranging from the traditional to the brave, and offers current, accurate, and non-judgmental information in a fun and informal manner. This should be on every savvy senior’s bucket list!” Pega Ren, Ed.D. Clinical sexologist and sex and aging instructor www.smartsextalk.com
“Older, Wiser, Sexually Smarter is a witty and
comprehensive guide to teaching sexuality education to older audiences. It is chockfull of engaging ideas that are sure to delight and provoke serious self-reflection. I especially like the features that allow older learners to review social and sexual changes over the years, and see how those changes may have influenced their current attitudes and beliefs. Job well done!” Linda L. Hendrixson, Ph.D. Assistant Professor of Human Sexuality and Health Education, Retired, East Stroudsburg University “The new Older, Wiser, Sexually Smarter has been worth waiting for. It abounds with entertaining and enlightening sex education lessons on virtually every topic and issue worth considering, from sexual touch to sexual toys. But more than that: it’s actually fun to read. We can’t avoid getting older; we might as well get wiser and sexually smarter in the process!” Sandra Leiblum, Ph.D. Author of Principles and Practice of Sex Therapy and Getting the Sex You Want: A Woman’s Guide to Becoming Proud, Passionate, and Pleased in Bed “I was struck by the comprehensive content, sensitivity, and inclusive tone. It will surely be an important asset to the field.” Lis Maurer, M.S. Founding Coordinator, The Center for LGBT Education, Outreach & Services, Ithaca College “With so much emphasis on sex education for youth, Older, Wiser, Sexually Smarter is a gift for those who work with adults of all ages. These lessons can enrich the lives of adults and allow them to critique and reexamine traditional cultural messages about sexuality and aging.” Konnie McCaffree, Ph.D., ASCE, CFLE International consultant in sexuality education and President, Society for the Study of Sexuality
“Older, Wiser, Sexually Smarter is thoughtful,
respectful, inclusive, professional, and utilizes the wisest precepts of adult learning. A MUST for those who work with older adults (like me!).” Robert Selverstone, Ph.D., psychologist