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The Power of Kid's Toys on Kid's Behavior


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									Kid 鈥檚 toys aren 鈥檛 just for fun. They actually make wonderful rewards that you
can use to get your child to behave. Toys are tools you can use to encourage good
behavior, teach manners and even stop phone interruptions. The power of kid 鈥檚
toys is absolutely amazing when you start using them as leverage for positive
  How Kid 鈥檚 Toys can Encourage Overall Good Behavior
  Get three of anything. It can be three pennies, three rocks, three small toys etc... Put
the three items in a drawer. Get a plastic cup and put your child 鈥檚 name on it. If
you catch your child doing something really nice during the day like using good
manners, doing chores, being nice to a sibling or more then pull out one of the three
items and place it in your child 鈥檚 cup.
  Tell your child that he earned 1 point for his good behavior and compliment him on a
job well done! Let him know that if he earns 3 points that day that you will play with
him and his favorite toy at the end of the day. Now if 3 points are too easy, you might
want to push it up to 5 or more, depending on your child. When play time arrives,
count up the points and if he 鈥檚 earned the right number let him go and get his
favorite toy of the day and play with him for at least 30 minutes. You 鈥檒 l find that
doing this will improve your child 鈥檚 behavior very quickly and once he learns that
you 鈥檒 l play 鈥渉 is way 鈥?for 30 minutes he 鈥檒 l be very determined to earn
those points every day!
  Using Kid 鈥檚 Toys to Teach Manners
  If your child has a favorite doll or stuffed animal then you 鈥檙 e in luck. His special
pal can be used to teach him good manners. The first step is to write down all the
manners you wish to teach your child. Do you want to teach him table manners and
help him learn to say please and thank you often? Do you want him to know how to
address adults like Mrs. Smith instead of using first names? Do you want to teach him
how to say hello and goodbye on the phone and in person? What you teach your child
is up to you, but it 鈥檚 a good idea to write a list and practice often till it sinks in.
  Next, start with table manners and have your child bring his favorite doll to the table
at meal time. Ask him how his doll should be sitting and have him place his doll in the
appropriate sitting position. Then ask your child to do as doll does. Ask your child
what dolly should do if he has a mouth full of food, but wants to talk. Use his doll as
an example for every table manner you want to teach your child. You can even have
him place a napkin on dolly 鈥檚 lap. You could have your child roll play his 鈥渋
nside 鈥?voice talking through his doll and even talk about how dolly could use his
manners at a restaurant.
  After dinner, head to the family room and sit your child and doll on the couch. Ask
your child to have his dolly use the words please and thank you correctly. Roll play
with the doll. Encourage your child to have fun with the roll plays to really 鈥渟 how
off 鈥?his knowledge of good manners. Let him add lib and make things up and ask
him to have dolly show you all the good manners that he has. This can be very fun, as
well as, quite educational and effective at teaching manners.
  Using Kid 鈥檚 Toys to Stop Phone Interruptions
  All parents have been on an important phone call and had their child yell, 鈥淢
ommy!鈥?over and over again. This is annoying for mom and annoying to the caller,
but it can be prevented by simply creating a phone call kid 鈥檚 toy box. First step is
to get a box. You can choose a pretty basket or plastic bin depending on where you
want to keep the container. Get a box that 鈥檚 big enough to fit 2 or 3 kid 鈥檚 toys.
Then you 鈥檒 l want to choose some toys to put in it. I 鈥檇 recommend choosing
toys that encourage long-time play such as: blocks, pretend play toys, puzzles or
anything else that will keep your child 鈥檚 attention.
  Discuss, with your child, the importance of letting you have a quiet phone call. Let
him know that he now has a special 鈥減 hone toy box 鈥?that can only be opened
when you 鈥檙 e on a phone call. Show him the box and the special toys inside. Tell
him that every time you 鈥檙 e on the phone he can play with those toys. Let him
know that if he 鈥檚 really good you 鈥檒 l let him choose some new toys every 2, 4
or 6 months (depending on what you decide and your budget) that he can put in his
phone toy box.
  If he's quiet while you're on the phone then he can keep playing with his special toys
until the call is over. If he interrupts, then the toys go back up on the shelf
immediately. If he needs to tell you something 鈥渋 mportant 鈥?you can practice
teaching him how to interrupt the nice way. Have him walk over to you and place his
hand on your arm or knee and wait till you excuse yourself from the call. Teach him
not make noise as he approaches.
  As you start using toys as rewards you 鈥檒 l discover how much fun it can be to
teach your child good behavior without having to use negative consequences. This
process is a win/win for you and your child because everyone gets what they want in
the end!

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